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Long Lasting Relationship

07 Jun

I would like to share some of the points, for a  Long Lasting Relationship that I heard from my Grandfather and also I would like to share his relationship with my Grandmother.

In his words….. “Life is bound with relationships. Everyone have their own perception towards relationship. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect each other, can communicate, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities. Most of us would also expect our relationship with our partner to include love, intimacy and sexual expression, commitment, compatibility and companionship.

After being married for more than 45 years I thought I might take a moment to share secret to a successful relationship.

Your Grandmother name is Lakshmi.

It had been a long journey with her, with Ups & Downs. I really enjoyed her company, but till now I haven’t told her how much I Love her. But now, it’s already late.

I give all the credit to her for the success of our relationship. However, it has been a joint effort, with my wife being a major contributor to the results.

The fact is that I am an extremely lucky man who married a woman who demonstrates some incredible qualities that are the necessary ingredients required for any successful relationship.

My wife and I used to pray, enjoy together,share sorrow together, dream together, and respect each other and our differences. We give each other room to grow. We listen. We talk. We date. We laugh. We plan. We look for ways to give, and not just to get. We share intimacy.

From few years, she is suffering from an unknown disease. The day on which, doctors told that she can’t trace me; on that day itself I was dead. She scarified her life to make me and our children happy. She has done everything that she can. Now I retired from my job. I thought I can have a great time with lakshmi, but.  ”

My heart full request to all the Men, no one knows what’s going to happen in the next moment, so please care, love, respect, do want ever you can do make your life partner happy.

There are few things which have to be considered, if you can master these you will be on the path to success in all your relationships.

Respect your Relationship:

The first and the foremost thing is that, you have your Relation with your partner.

Trust

My wife trusts me & I trust her. She is my true friend,  and has followed me into endeavors throughout the years where even angels would have feared to tread. Throughout the years we have failed and we have succeeded in our life’s journey, but we never lost hope on each other.

Share your Feelings:

Until unless we tell even our partner can’t understand few of our feelings. Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else.

Talk to each other:

Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you will be able to communicate well or can read your partner’s mind, or that they can read yours. Communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you. If you have something to bring up, do it gently. Going on the attack rarely gets you what you want. It is also important to listen to each other.

Tell your partner you love them.

A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner.

Everyone is different:

It’s not fair to expect everyone to be as we like. Accept and value differences in others, including your partner. We often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

Show appreciation for your partner.

Building a romantic relationship isn’t just about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up. Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes.

Make “alone time” a priority.

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company.

Small acts of physical intimacy:

In my opinion the littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy. Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on her shoulders, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street, giving her a hug occasionally – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them.

Blindness

I have faults. My wife has faults. Do we concentrate on our human flaws, or do we choose to be blind to some of those things, and rather become attuned to those qualities of the other party that we admire. Both of us have chosen to concentrate on the finer qualities that we portray rather than focusing on those things that annoy us.

Make plans:

Set goals for your relationship and plan for your future. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

Be supportive:

Try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human, there is a chance that we do make mistakes. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

Commitment

When we got married we decided that we will together for life time. The amazing thing is that many people have come in and out of our lives these past forty-five years, and yet our relationship is stronger than ever – and we are more in love with each other than the very first day we met.

Through the years I have seen my co-employees dissolved, friendships wax and wane, but our commitment to each other, through thick and thin, has continued to become stronger as iron does in the furnace.

I remember a day when my lakshmi had her bags packed ready to leave. She had good reason to, but she didn’t. Why? Because she was committed.

Forgiveness

In a relationship if any of the Individual makes a mistake, the other person should forgive and guide them in correct path.

If there is one greater than us who can forgive us, then it is only natural that we should forgive others.

Be sexually considerate:

Be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and to sustain a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

Take nothing for granted.

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work  (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.

Things to remember

  • A good relationship doesn’t just happen – you have to work at it.
  • All couples experience problems and challenges in their relationships.
  • There are many things you can do to help build healthy and happy relationships and prepare for the challenges along the way.
  • Relationships change. You need to be aware of how they are changing and adapt to those changes.
  • If problems become too difficult or complex, consider seeking the help of your family members.

Successful relationships are forever.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
3 Comments

Posted by on June 7, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

3 responses to “Long Lasting Relationship

  1. Sridhar Rao Thota

    June 11, 2012 at 6:59 am

    Standing beside’s life partner either in good or bad situations (this is what a wife usually expects from her husband nothing else) and encouraging her in all manner ,really builds up a true relationship….apart nothing else!! isn’t??

     
    • munnaprawin

      June 11, 2012 at 7:01 am

      What you told is correct,but in the present society how many are with that mind set…..

      MunnaPrawin.

       
  2. nirosha

    February 7, 2013 at 4:16 am

    Hello prawin sir you work for IBM na , please give your mail id to me . i got all more than 72 %. I will sed resume to you your email id If there are any openings for 2012 batch please tell us. Our seniors asked all of us to contact you.

     

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