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FAILURE is SUCCESS if we learn from it


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me. 

Many people have an overwhelming fear of failure. This usually stems from societal programming that tells us how negative and even shameful failure is.

However, the reality is that failure is a necessary part of life. It is just one step of thousands you will take. It is unreasonable to expect to complete each task in life perfectly on the first attempt.

Successful People are not Afraid of Failure. Successful people don’t define failure as the opposite of success; they define failure as the opposite of trying.

Failure simply means that you have made mistakes, and you can learn from these mistakes to improve your future efforts. It is not the end of the process. Truly great leaders understand the importance of mistakes and failure, and they are comfortable with the concept of failure. In fact, there are four primary reasons why you should embrace failure if you want to be a great leader.

Successful people know that nothing ever goes exactly as planned. And no matter how hard you work, sooner or later you must face the reality that you failed. You tried to do something and weren’t successful. You didn’t get the result you wanted.

You don’t clear every interview you give.

You don’t close every sale.

You don’t win every game.

You aren’t going to hit a home run every time you’re up to bat.

You don’t always get what you want.

FAILURE is OK. It’s part of life. It should be expected.

The bigger question is: What do you do next? What do you do after you’ve failed?

As Frank Sinatra sang: “You pick yourself up and get back in the race. That’s life …”

You don’t feel sorry for yourself. You don’t mope around. You pick

yourself up and do it again and again and again until you get it right!

Failure is as much a part of life as success. Losing is as much a part of life as winning. The most important thing to think about is how can you ensure that you won’t fail in the same way a second time.

Remember: You just can’t fail the last time you try.

Life is a series of trial-and-error experiences. We are taught something by a teacher, and then we try to do it ourselves. The first time we do it we probably don’t get the results we want. So we try again, and again, and again. With practice we get better.

Then we push ourselves as we try to do something that’s a little bit more difficult. As we succeed, our expectations increase, and so does the satisfaction that comes from the feeling of a job well done.

So we set our sights a bit higher-to improve our results as compared to what we’ve done before and in relation to the results of those with whom we are competing-and we try again. We continue to push ourselves to new heights.

When we succeed, we once again raise the bar. And when we don’t, we go back to work to improve our skills and talents, and try again.

That is why I feel that the subjects of success and failure are so intertwined: because it is through failure that we grow and develop as individuals. We learn through our failures. Failures show us our flaws, our imperfections, the areas in which we need improvement.

In order to achieve your goals, to fulfill your desires, to make your dreams come true, you’re going to have to work. It is hard work that makes you better at what you do, and failing from time to time is just a part of life.

Learn From Your Failures. When you experience failure, take some time to reflect upon what happened. Pull out a pad of paper and start writing down the answers to these questions:

*Why did this happen?

*What could I have done differently?

*How can I do it better next time?

*What changes should I make in my strategies?

*What can I do to improve my planning and preparation?

Study these answers. Analyze them. Then go out and do it better the next time.

Remember: If you’re not experiencing failure, you’re not working hard enough.

Great leaders are not shamed by failure, and they do not attempt to mask their failures. Instead, they learn lessons, determine what went wrong and make a solid effort to get back on track with a corrected course and updated business plan.

Credit: Jeffrey Mayer’s SucceedingInBusiness.com Newsletter

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Success is no Accident


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me. 

“Success is no accident. It is hard work, Perseverance, Learning, Studying, Sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.”– Pelé

Life is not an accident. The choices that we make determine our success. We can either choose self-defeat and self-pity or self-motivation and self-encouragement. Success in life may look different for every individual, but the definition of success is same.

Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. It is not defined by wealth but by contentment. Success depends on hard work, sustained toil, determination and perseverance. It is not a question of luck. Remember that success is not the key to happiness but happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. Our best successes  are often accompanied by  our greatest disappointments.

One can attribute success to so many things around. Things like families, friends, education, work, skills, and talents could all be part of your success. Apart from them, certain core variables constitute the right success equation.

Among them, the first and foremost variable is ‘doing things that you love’. When you do things that you love, you find every positive outcome as a success even if it’s little. There’s no obstacle for you, but only challenges and opportunities.

Many of us are not willing to try but want to enjoy the fruits of success without any hard work, sacrifice or struggle. Life has its own struggles. These struggles  motivate us to move forward. Adversity always presents opportunities for introspection. To succeed in life and achieve results, you must master three mighty forces—Desire, Belief and Expectation. Many a time, when we are confronted with a problem, we analyse and get stuck up with it rather than finding a solution to it. Sometimes from the remains or wreckage, we find a hidden opportunity. Our response to our struggles decides how we move forward.

An interesting infographic showcasing the growth timeline of one of the most interesting CEOs of the decade, Sundar Pichai. Seen here is his growth from being a product manager to becoming the CEO of Alphabet Inc.

Failing is a part of life which teaches us many things. Without failing, success is almost impossible. We need to learn how to bounce back from failures. The work of J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter series was rejected by 12 publishers before going on to fame and fortune. You may stumble, people will doubt you and you need to build yourselves from the stones thrown at you. We need to have a positive attitude. Achievement is not just about the happy, shiny things—it is also about withstanding tough times and challenging situations. Resilience demonstrated under pressure is perhaps the darker side of achievement, but is in many ways just as important as the more obvious markers of success.

Nick Vujicic was born with no arms and legs, but that did not stop him from being successful. Today he is a motivational speaker and continues to inspire and touch the lives of many. It is the choices that we make that lead to success. When life gives lemons, make lemonade out of them. We need to access risks and laugh at life.

By Doing What you LIKE, your focus and hard work falls in line automatically. Constant learning and improvisations will become a part of you.

Above all, it will never seem like hard work for you. The process and journey will be enjoyable. Despite the good and bad, your perseverance will shield you against all the odds.

Success needs some sacrifices from you. It takes at least a little. Success will ask you to sacrifice your comfort zone.

Working towards your dreams and goals can make you sleepless and stay awake without a count. Sometimes, success needs you to work at the cost of all the fun things you thought you could do.

The list goes on. But there is no success at the cost of families, friendships, and other good things in life. I like to remind you here.

You will never become successful as long as you continue to blame someone or something else for your lack of success. If you are going to be a winner, you have to acknowledge the truth—it is you who took the actions, thought the thoughts, created the feelings, and made the choices that got you to where you now are. It was you! The person with the negative attitude sees limitations. The person with the positive attitude sees possibilities. “Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success”

Finally, do what you like. Do it with the best of your efforts. Success wraps you eventually.

References: https://learnfromblogs.com/ https://www.competitionreview.in/

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Today this father is not a beggar, he is a KING


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

There are uncountable relationships in a person’s life throughout they live. The most precious one is that of a father and a daughter, its the most affectionate and sweet relationship one can ever experience. A father is a girl’s first love in the male character and this bond is really very special to each and every one. 

Did you wake up staring at your wardrobe, thinking you don’t have enough clothes or that you need to go shopping? And for many of us, it’s pretty simple: Get in the car, drive to the nearest mall and buy whatever you wish for.

There are millions who don’t have the same means and yet they make things happen out of sheer determination.

Case in point: MD. Kawsar Hossain, who begs for a living, saved up every rupee for two years to buy his daughter a new dress.

After an accident resulted in the amputation of his right hand, Hossain had no other means to support his family and so he started begging. The day he walked into the store to buy a dress with loose change, the shopkeeper yelled at him. His daughter burst into tears, but that did not deter his spirit.

After two years, he bought his daughter a pretty yellow dress of her dreams. This heartbreaking picture taken by photographer GMB Akash has gone viral and you cannot get through the post without shedding a tear.

Read the full post below:

Yesterday, I was able to buy a new dress for my daughter after two years. While I handed sixty pieces of five taka note to the seller, he yelled at me for asking if I am a beggar. My daughter held my hand and cried to leave the shop by saying that she did not want to buy any dress.

I swept off her tears with one hand. Yes, I am a beggar. Ten years ago I had never thought in my nightmares that I have to live by begging from people. The night coach fell from the bridge and unbelievably I was alive. I was alive by becoming a disable. My youngest son often asked me where had I left my other hand. And my daughter Sumaiya feed me every day by saying she knows how difficult it is to do all work with one hand.

After two years my daughter is wearing a new dress, that’s why today I brought her with me to play for some time. Maybe I will not be able to earn anything today, but I wanted to roam around with my little girl. I secretly borrowed this mobile phone from my neighbour without informing my wife. My daughter has no picture and I want to make this day memorable for her. When one day I will have a phone I will take a lot of pictures of my children. I want to keep good memories. It’s very difficult to send my children to school, but I am educating them all. Sometimes they cannot attend the exam because giving exam fees is not always possible by me. On those days they feel very sad then I tell them, sometimes we can miss exams because the biggest exam is life which we are giving every day.

Now I will go for begging. I will place my daughter in a signal where she will wait for me. I will look at her from distant while begging. I feel shame while she looks at me when I lend my one hand to others. But she never leaves me alone. Because there are big cars, she thinks accident can happen again, these cars could run on me and I would die. Whenever I managed to get some money I return to home by holding my daughter’s hand. We do bazaar on our way and my daughter always carry that bag. During rain we love to get wet and talk about our dreams. In someday I do not get any money, on those days we return to home silently. On those days I feel like to die but at night when my children fall in sleep by holding me I feel being alive is not a bad thing. Only bad is when my daughter waits for me in the signal by keeping her head down. When I cannot look at her eye while begging. But today is different. Because today my daughter is very happy. Today this father is not a beggar. Today this father is a king and here is his princess.

Being a father is no easy job! He is the one who gave his girl the strength to fight with the patriarchal society and live life on her own terms. The bond between daughter and father is genuinely filled with warmth and pure love.

Fathers play a big role in their daughters’ self-esteem, self-worth and body image. A strong father-daughter bond also plays a heavy role in her ability to express her feelings, her emotions, and her thoughts.

credit: https://corporate-soldiers.com, GMB Akash (photographer)

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Re-onboarding new parent employees is vital to organisation’s growth


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Returning from maternity or parental leave can be an incredibly stressful time for your employee, so you need to help make the transition as easy as possible for them. They have probably got a lot of mixed emotions about coming back, and it is likely that this will be the first time they have been away from their child for any extended period of time.

While they might be excited about returning to work, they will probably also be a little nervous. A lot of things can change in a business over six-months to a year, and this article aims to provides some tips to help with their return.


Prioritising new parents in your workplace is a form of equity. Any organisation that commits to that value should dedicate resources to bringing parents up to speed when rejoining the workforce.

Most companies fall somewhere in between, but there are a variety of things you can do in addition to your policy to make new and even experienced mothers feel comfortable and welcome them back after their maternity leave or leave of absence

Returning to work after a lengthy absence on maternity leave can be a daunting experience, so the employer should take steps to ensure that the employee’s reintroduction is as smooth as possible. Every Employer has to ensure an employee’s smooth reintroduction to the workplace after maternity leave.

Now the big question is, How can we achieve that smooth reintroduction. ? How can employers manage employees returning from maternity leave to make sure they feel fully welcomed back to work ?

Here are some suggestions to support an employee returning from maternity leave.

  • Remember that maintaining contact with an employee on maternity leave can help them to stay in touch with the workplace and ease their return to work.
  • Check that you have notified the employee of the date that their maternity leave will end and consider sending them a courtesy letter to remind them of their expected date of return from maternity leave.
  • Send out a Welcome back letter and do onboarding and take feedback after a week.
  • Make sure that the employee’s workstation is ready for their return from maternity leave and that they have the materials necessary to do their job.
  • Make the time for a coffee with your returning employees, preferably OUT of the office. Maybe invite the broader team to say hello. Allow them to share their experiences as new parents and ask them to show you baby photos!
  • Encourage mental well-being and Allow flexible working options.
  • Bear in mind that returning to work after a long period of absence on maternity leave can be a daunting experience for an employee.
  • AVOID inviting your returning employees to large meetings for the first two weeks until they’ve had a chance to settle back in. During that time they would have gained more context and could confidently attend and actively participate.
  • Consider what changes need to be made to the employee’s workload if they are returning to work from maternity leave on reduced hours and what arrangements need to be made if they are going to be working with a jobshare partner.
  • Arrange meetings to update the employee and discuss any training needs or necessary support for them to get back up to speed with the job. Ensure that an employee who has returned to work from maternity leave is not treated less favourably because they have been out of the workplace for some time.
  • Carry out a risk assessment if an employee has returned to work from maternity leave within six months of the birth or is still breastfeeding.
  • Provide suitable facilities for a breastfeeding employee to rest, and remember that it is good practice to provide a clean, private room, access to a fridge and time off to express milk.
  • Ensuring that the logistics are in place for the employee to begin work on their return, for example that their workstation is ready and that they have the appropriate systems access and passwords.

Showing empathy and understanding during this difficult time will make a big impact. If the pandemic taught us anything, I believe it was to find compassion for each other’s full lives — at work or at home, which are now not as separated as they once were.


If you are a manager and have read so far- kudos to you. All that’s left now is to put the wheels in motion and change the statistics
If you are a parent who’s reading this and are finding it relatable- share this around. You too can change the statistics.

If you want your business to be more human, you have to invest in your humans.

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Work Making You Anxious? Thinking Of Quitting?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

We all join jobs to earn a good salary which is required for good living. But the pace we are working and living today causes stress. We all know our capability but when the workplace expects to deliver beyond our capability then stress at work occurs. Stress affects a lot of people, and can influence your health. And also we come across colleagues with Anxiety and Depression in team.

Stress and anxiety may seem similar, but they’re not the same. The difference? Stress is a response to daily pressures or a threatening situation, while anxiety is a reaction to the stress. Anxiety, which has no clear cause, tends to last longer and be more difficult to treat. Anxiety can make you feel like a failure and it may make you feel stupid and feel stressed out.

Are you alone getting stressed out in the workplaceHave you ever checked with your friends, how they are feeling in their job? Ask any of your friends, you will get the common answer that “We are all stressed at work”?

Whoever is working, they are feeling the pressure of work-related stress, irrespective of age, experience, gender, and position. Only the level of stress varies from person to person. It’s impossible to get a completely stress-free work environment today.

In today’s work environment, office politics is very common. People are pulling each other’s legs to show-off and make them significant. Frictions happen between employees and it never goes away.

You would have heard that “there is no married relationship without some fights”. In the same way, “there can be no office without politics”.

In earlier days once we leave the office and go home, work did not follow us. But now we have an option to be fully connected to our work, 24 hours a day. It’s your choice to allow it or not.

People who struggle with anxiety often find themselves struggling with low self-esteem. They may have poor confidence in themselves or think they are worthless.Feeling worthless often involves a sense of hopelessness and insignificance. Such feelings are often a common symptom of depression, but can also arise due to things such as low self-esteem, neglect, abuse, trauma, or difficult situations that pose a threat to a person’s sense of self.

A small amount of anxiety helps your body to perform at its best.  An adrenaline kick starts you every morning and keeps you alert throughout the day. However, too much of this stress hormone can exhaust you. Everybody has bad days at work. But if you dread waking up every Monday through Friday, or you regularly find yourself sitting at your desk on the verge of tears, you probably have a more serious problem on your hands. Feeling worthless can create significant distress and make it difficult to function normally in daily life.

Workplace issues does not stay at work. It creeps into every part of a persons life and can change their whole perception of themselves. It can destroy the self worth of even the most confident people – especially if the workplace does not have the right support systems.

1. Your Skills Are Being Underutilized. Management doesn’t acknowledge that you have more to offer than what you’ve been contributing for a significant amount of time. Perhaps you’ve been passed over for promotion – or your repeated attempts to take on more challenging assignments have failed.

Just be cautious – you should still perform to the best of your ability so that you will have those all-important references for the future.

2. You’re Not Following Your Passion. If you’re not doing what you love, you will never tap your true potential. It will just continue to be “a job,” and eventually each day will seem more of a grind. If you’ve tried re-inventing yourself at the company with a lateral move – or changing your job description to no avail – then it’s time to go back to the roots of what you love. First, however, brush up on your skills to ensure that they are current and marketable.

3. The Boss Keeps Behaving Badly. If you’ve tried everything under the sun to “Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant” boss or co-worker; talked to your boss; your boss’s boss; Human Resources; and your work life is simply unbearable, then it’s time to visit your favorite job board. Just make sure you’re not going from the frying pan into the fire. Through job interviews and other sources, become a sleuth: try to determine how your prospective new boss and employer operates, the culture and management style.

4. The Company is Tanking. The firm has managed to stay afloat during several downsizings, management changes and reorganizations. But if the company consolidates anymore, they could collapse. Recently you heard another department is closing or about another mass exodus. There’s no need to go down with this ship. Put on your life preserver and get in the water.

5. You’re Not Being Fairly Compensated. Downsizing has moved your team into double time, but certainly no where near double compensation. You’ve been made to feel lucky to receive a paycheck. The company might even be performing well, but that is not reflected in your salary or other rewards. You can’t even get an evaluation or your evaluation is not consistent with your true work performance. Perhaps clients have given you excellent feedback, but that is not reflected in your compensation. It may be time to think green (as in more money) or make like a tree and…article continues after advertisement

6. Your Values and the Company’s Are a Mismatch. You feel that there are ethical or moral differences in how the company and you believe the firm should operate; cultural differences; work ethic clashes, and so on. Perhaps its latest product is bad for the environment for example, and you are an avid environmentalist. Whatever the issue, you’re morally misaligned with your employer, and it’s an uncomfortable workplace setting.

7. You Aren’t Being Heard. You can’t seem to: get time with the “powers that be”; get approvals; or get acknowledgment for great work; and over time, projects are no longer coming your way. There may be a changing of the guard at the top; you’re being edged out of projects; or the entire position seems at risk for political or other reasons. Essentially you are being ignored out of a job.

8. The Job is Making You Sick. Instead of jumping out of bed first thing raring to go to work, you feel immobile. You think of ten reasons why you should call in sick because you are sick. Stress, fear or lack of enthusiasm can drain your energy and hurt your performance, creating a lose-lose proposition. When work starts affecting your health…physical, mental, or both, consider taking time off. While you conduct your job search, immediately find healthy ways to reduce stress levels.

9. You’re Surrounded by Egregious Behavior. If you’re the victim of bullying, sexual harassment or other egregious behavior, you should certainly keep an eye out for other positions, regardless of what corrective measures you’re taking. Always consult an employment attorney on such issues. But remember that you should never feel uncomfortable in a job, and that may occur in the long run even if you “win the current battle.” Health does comes first.

10. You Feel You Have More to Contribute Elsewhere. You are in a personal growth mode while your position is stagnant. You’ve been thinking in directions that seem miles apart from the work you’re currently doing. You spend your time imagining what your life would be like “if only.” When you know you have more to offer the world, don’t second-guess yourself – get ready for change.

If you’re facing one or more of these red flags, make sure you’re prepared. Know how to leave gracefully and without burning your bridges. You don’t want to be exposed to unflattering tweets or poor references in this world of instant communication.

“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you—it’s something inherent.” ~Danielle Koepke

If you need a change but feel stuck and are unsure of what to do, you’re not alone. The fear of letting go of a steady paycheck, a predictable routine, and the people and surroundings you have grown accustomed to—warts and all—can be a paralyzing feeling.

The truth is that there will never be an ideal time to say goodbye to your old job and start over. It is almost impossible to create the perfect conditions you think you need in order to start reaching for your career and personal goals. Here’s an analogy: If you believe that every light at every intersection along your journey must be green before you can set out, you’ll be stuck at home forever. The lights are never all green at the same time. That’s just the way life is. But if you venture out to the first intersection and then to the next and then the next, you’ll eventually get to your destination.

Tips Before You Decide to Quit

  • Before you make a decision to quit your job, make sure that you have actually identified the real problem at work.
  • Ask yourself what goals quitting your job will help you achieve. Will the decision to quit bring you closer to your goals?
  • Don’t overestimate or underestimate your capabilities.
  • Give yourself time to think through your decision to quit your job.
  • Make lists. Think of 10 things you can do instead of quitting your job. Then ask yourself if any of those alternatives would be better suited to your current financial or emotional situation.
  • Use mind maps, pens, papers, post-it notes, and file cards to explore your options. Lay the alternatives out on a big table. Move them around. Organize them according to importance.
  • Give yourself credit for making the best decision you can with the information that is available to you.

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. Judging our emotions is like running into the rainstorm with anger and demanding the sun come out—in other words, a total waste of energy. Instead, use this time wisely. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if it seems far away. Often, it is much closer than you think. Use these reminders and practical ways to shift perspective to create some much-needed breathing room.

“Dreams can come true, but there is a secret. They’re realized through the magic of persistence, determination, commitment, passion, practice, focus and hard work. They happen a step at a time, manifested over years, not weeks.” – Elbert Hubbard

Be kind to yourself. Minimize the chatter of the inner critic. Unplug from the negativity and chaos of the world and make small steps in the right direction. As you do, celebrate tiny progress along the way while remembering you are worthy and you have plenty of proof to show yourself that.

As time passes, you’ll wake up and back in a thriving state. You’ll wonder what took you so long to get over this feeling and be equipped with a new perspective and empathy.

CC: @Lynn Taylor

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Great Teams are made of Great Characteristics


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Over the years, as teams have grown more diverse, dispersed, digital, and dynamic, collaboration has become more complex. But though teams face new challenges, their success still depends on a core set of fundamentals. 

All team dynamics are different. Teams depend on the personalities of the members, as well as the leadership style of managers. However, the ingredients for what makes a successful team are similar across the board. Having mutual respect, common and aligned goals, open communication, and patience can all help make for a successful team.

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”… Aristotle

Much of the work done in many organizations, is done collaboratively by teams. The team is the molecular unit where real production happens, where innovative ideas are conceived and tested, and where employees experience most of their work. But it’s also where interpersonal issues, ill-suited skill sets, and unclear group goals can hinder productivity and cause friction.

To have a great team, there is no surefire recipe for success. A combination of solid leadership, communication, and access to good resources contribute to productive collaboration, but it all comes down to having people who understand each other and work well together. Not every team needs that one superstar player to excel. Having the right mix of trust, ambition, and encouragement among your team members is crucial.

A good team is the foundation for any high-performing business. Superficially, a thriving team looks very much like any other. Here are characteristics to create a great team:

Communication. Arguably the most important component of the group. Effective communication is central to every facet of an organisation. A thriving team has open and honest discussions, sharing their thoughts, ideas and opinions. They engender a meritocracy, ensuring no-one is above anyone else and allowing everyone to feel as though they can contribute freely. Creating this sort of culture is one of the fundamental foundations of a successful team.

Problems that emerge in groups can often be traced back to issues with communication. Poor communication leads to crossed wires which in turn can lead to inefficiencies in performance and even conflict! Effective communication is imperative.

Trust and Respect. Every thriving team relies on a high degree of trust. When you know that your colleagues are reliable and competent, you can trust them to work independently toward the team goal. Knowing each other’s accomplishments and work experience plays a key role in relationship development, the catalyst for a strong team. Before a new team begins work on a project, have them meet for an extended period of time to establish familiarity and to bond. As the teamwork progresses and conflict arises – an unavoidable part of collaboration the team that has respect for each other will be able to move past conflict towards resolution and, ultimately, completion of the goal.

Specialization. Just like a team of athletes working together in different roles to win the game, good teamwork comes from members combining their specialized talents to achieve an end goal or resolution. While one may excel at writing, another may boast superior organizational skills, while another is great at presenting to decision-makers or the art of rhetoric. Figuring out who works best where will come naturally as the team spends time together, but it is important not to suppress individual talents. Allowing each person to make their own unique contributions will lead to less conflict and a superior outcome.

Establishing objective. If the goal of the project, whether small or long-term, isn’t clear from the beginning, many hours will be wasted in frustrating meetings that go nowhere. The very first step should be to describe a clear outline of work and the projected end result. Change is always necessary along the way, and this is where our next tip comes into play. Each individual member is accountable and has responsibility for the team’s overall success.

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Adaptation. Being flexible is a key trait of any team player. Confronting and resolving crises, rushing to meet deadlines, or picking up the slack for an absent or dismissed colleague are all problems that require adaptation. If someone on a team is unable to change gears and refocus, odds are more issues will arise to further complicate the workflow process.

No finger pointing. When a big mistake is made, it is easy for members of a team to find a scapegoat or individual to lay the blame on. This will only lead to distrust and low morale. It is possible that if one person keeps making critical mistakes, they should no longer be a part of the team, but that is not always the case. The entire team should accept the responsibility for the mistake and move forward to correct it and make sure it does not occur again.

Diversity and Heterogeneity: Thriving teams value diversity. They recognise each individual’s strengths and their preferences to assign tasks, and ultimately to boost performance. Each team member is valued for their unique talents and skills. Collectively, a diverse skill set, way of thinking, experiences, idea generation and problem solving helps to create an effective team and enhance results.

Admission of failure when necessary. This tip can go hand in hand with number five. If the desired outcome of a project has setbacks or is predicted to be a complete disaster, it is better to admit failure and start over rather than giving up or presenting a flawed product. A good team will roll with the punches, recognize that each step is essentially an experiment, and stay positive even when facing serious setbacks.

Patience. Working with others requires the most the most difficult trait of all: patience and tolerance. We all strive for it, but few people are truly unflappable. Patience will keep a team motivated and allay conflict.

Delegation of duties. A capable leader will know one of his most important jobs is to delegate responsibility. One or two team leaders should never be saddled with all the grunt work. Instead the workflow should be spread out evenly and each person given a reasonable amount of projects and adequate access to resources.

A natural-born leader. As noted earlier, a team does not need a superstar to excel. But they do need a self-assured, trustworthy, ambitious leader that keeps morale high and knows when to rally the troops. A good leader will listen constructively, act as a mentor, monitor the quantitative and qualitative results, provide consistent feedback, and maintain a good rapport with all team players.

Competitiveness. A healthy dose of competition is fuel for inspiration. When you are working on a team, all your cards are on the table, so it is easy for people to become jealous or possessive of each other’s attributes or contributions. And this motivates others to work harder and develop even better ideas, because it makes people ask themselves, if he came up with this, can I create something even better?

Manage Conflict.This is an essential component to aiding team growth. It is important that when issues arise they are not avoided or ignored. When managed effectively there are a plethora of benefits to be seen including: the quality of decision-making; improved creativity; increased scope of view; increased participation from team members and more effective communication. It is also important for the team leader to differentiate between a culture of challenge/disagreement and blame/criticism. If the environment empowers team members to challenge one another in a constructive and open manner, then the working relationship within the team is likely to be more creative and productive.

Being in the right team is important for one’s future relevance, because, like in the Aristotle quote, the whole can be more powerful than the sum of its parts. Even if you are a freelancer or a tiny team, you work in collaboration with others – be it the same company or with extended teams of partners. These same ideas apply to those situations as well.

All teams, naturally, are different. All teams, too, will be fluid and evolving structures; people come and go (including team leaders); challenges or priorities change; the dynamic constantly adjusts. To that end, creating a thriving successful is something that, as a leader, is never ‘done’ or completed.

Nevertheless, successful, thriving teams do tend to share a range of characteristics and attributes. To cultivate, share and embed these in your team is now your mission.

Collaboration has become more complex, but success still depends on the fundamentals.

I encourage you to think about this. For further reading, check out Google’s page on these results.

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How to Be an Inclusive Leader


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The events of the past 17+ months have made it very clear that organizations and leaders within companies are looking to foster a more inclusive work culture. An inclusive culture is one that accepts, values and views as strength the difference we all bring to the table. Achieving Inclusive culture, isn’t something that can happen overnight, it can happen — by resetting workplace dynamics and implementing inclusive practices with the support of Inclusive leadership.

Building a culture of inclusion isn’t like turning on a light switch. Companies increasingly rely on diverse, multidisciplinary teams that combine the collective capabilities of women and men, people of different cultural heritage, and younger and older workers. But simply throwing a mix of people together doesn’t guarantee high performance; it requires inclusive leadership — leadership that assures that all team members feel they are treated respectfully and fairly, are valued and sense that they belong, and are confident and inspired. 

How inclusion affects your teams

Research from BetterUp shows that 1 in 4 employees don’t feel like they belong. That’s across companies, industries, and demographics. Imagine what it is for underrepresented employees.

When people don’t feel included, the cost is deeply personal. It also hurts the team. They don’t show themselves. They might hold back opposing or counterintuitive ideas and not participate in working sessions for fear of falling further out of the group. They don’t feel comfortable that their ideas and comments will be taken with the same openness and seriousness as anyone else’s. They don’t bring their unique personality, background, and interests into conversation.

They don’t take big risks or achieve big results. They don’t get noticed. They censor themselves. The cost to the team? Employees who feel excluded are 25% less productive on future tasks, have a 50% greater risk of turnover, and are less willing to work hard for the team. 

The feeling of being included comes from all of a person’s interactions, not from policy. Our data shows that the direct manager has the biggest impact. They need to be more deliberate, especially for people who feel demographically dissimilar from others in the organization and experience 27% less psychological safety as a result. 

Only 31% of employees believe their leaders are inclusive. That is, less than a third of employees believe their leaders see, value, and respect them as a whole person. Unwanted attrition, especially among employees from underrepresented groups, is an ongoing problem. Those valuable employees leave, and with them, their potential, as well as the insight about the ways the environment, culture, and leadership aren’t working. 

Most leaders and managers don’t set out intending to exclude others. Yet, in the course of pursuing a goal and relying on sometimes outmoded beliefs about leadership, they fail to get the best out of their teams. Worse, they might not even realize it. 

As you work to become a more inclusive leader, keep these experiences in mind. Not every underrepresented person will have these experiences, of course, but they are common and worth remembering as you work on demonstrating more inclusive behaviors. If individual leaders are inclusive their teams will feel safe and trust them and then they will perform better.

What is Inclusive Leadership?

Inclusive leadership is emerging as a unique and critical capability helping organisations adapt to diverse customers, markets, ideas and talent. An inclusive leader sets the tone and models the behaviors for their team to create an environment where each person feels seen, valued, respected, and able to contribute — in short, where they feel they belong and are included. 

Inclusive leadership is about actively creating an environment in which all members of your team feel empowered to contribute and feel safe to be themselves. While the tactics vary depending on the situation, at a high level, it means demonstrating empathy for team members and customers, advocating for colleagues with less institutional power, increasing your cultural and emotional intelligence, and establishing a culture that values (rather than merely accepts) diverse perspectives.

Diversity is all around us but it is up to leaders to decide whether or not to make full use of the diversity in their organisation. Inclusion is about fostering the structure, culture and mindset in an individual and leader, that enables that person to say, I fit in here, I feel valued, and I can be my true self and do not have to hide parts of my character – and because of this I can contribute to this organisation.

Lots of articles about inclusive leadership list personality traits of inclusive leaders, but that’s not the approach I take here. I believe anyone can (and everyone should) demonstrate inclusive behavior, so I focus on actions that will help develop your inclusive leadership style.

Tips for Becoming a More Inclusive Leader

What can you do to improve your inclusive leadership style? Here are a few places to start:

Reflect

I invite you to start paying attention to your own frame of reference.  Consider how your background affects the way you show up at work. Think about the ways your education, race, gender, age, physical or mental health all come into play. How comfortable are you discussing those things at work? How comfortable are your reports doing the same? 

Build trust

Inclusive leaders trust their people. They are totally committed to ‘we’ before ‘me’. If your people have to trust you as a leader you have to trust them to bring their expertise to work. Fostering trust will enable your people to feel safe and willing to contribute their unique perspectives

Slow Down

In a world where “Move fast, break things” is printed on company walls, it can feel radical to ask someone to slow down. But a few minutes of planning and thought can go a long way. Speed and spontaneity are rarely inclusive—they rely on ingrained habits, not empathy and understanding. Build new, more inclusive habits and you’ll still be able to iterate quickly without asking your underrepresented colleagues to bear the burden. 

Relationship Building

Inclusive leadership cannot be transactional. Inclusive leaders invest time in building real relationships with their team members, peers, and other employees, getting to know what matters to them and what they need to be successful. They know that each employee is a whole person who has more to offer than just the task or output they are delivering today. 

Building relationships goes beyond tolerance or accommodation. Inclusive leaders know the importance of not just being seen, but being understood and appreciated, for their whole self. 

Ask Questions

Don’t be afraid to ask questions: How do you pronounce your name? Am I addressing you the way you’d like to be addressed? How am I doing? Is there anything more you’d like to discuss?  You can’t read your employees’ minds, but you can make the space for discussion to happen.   Tip: Consider anonymous options for collecting feedback, paired with public acknowledgment and commitment to improve—remember, your employees don’t always know if they’ll have backup and may not be willing to share right away.)

Recognition

Inclusion is proactive. Inclusive leaders make an effort to recognize people for their work and support their efforts and growth. That means recognizing specifically and personally the unique contributions of others in ways that are motivating and elevate their sense of personal accomplishment. Individualized recognition and support let employees know that the skills and experiences they’ve contributed and the risks they’ve taken are seen and valued.

Encouraging participation

Inclusion is an invitation, extended day after day. Inclusive leaders use a variety of approaches to seek input and feedback directly from people who might not speak up. and check- in on what people need to be successful. They also stay attuned to obstacles that might get in the way of participation — not just in meetings but in the way work gets done — and look for ways to minimize these obstacles. 

Focus on Culture Add, not Culture Fit 

A diverse team is smarter and does better work. So why focus on whether or not someone also likes craft beer and board games? Reframe the conversation so your hiring plans can look for what new and exciting perspective someone brings to your team. As my own manager Drew Gorton puts it, “If you want better results, surround yourself with people who are meaningfully different from you.” 

Empathy

Creating an inclusive space requires having an appreciation for where others are coming from and what they might be experiencing. Inclusive leaders are warm and encouraging in their interactions, embracing compassion in order to foster deeper connections with others. They make an effort to stay connected to the daily pulse of what is going on for employees and whether they are feeling seen, valued, and respected. When a leader prioritizes empathy and models nonjudgmental behavior, it helps everyone feel more able to share their experiences and state of mind.

Fair

Inclusive leaders treat people equally in terms of opportunity and fairly according to ability. We can only do this if we know our people. Curiosity is a trait of the inclusive leader. One way to check how to be fair is by substitution. Substitute one group for another when you are looking at questions for an interview or the language you are using. 

Social connection

Interactions with other people drive our sense of being included. Inclusive leaders encourage people to recognize each other as humans, not just co-workers or adjoining parts of a process. They create opportunities for people to engage with each other — both in and out of work — to deepen their connections and model the importance of maintaining close personal relationships with supportive people in our lives.

Alignment 

Inclusion means being able to do your best work. Inclusive leaders provide shared vision and clarity to guide others. They set their people up for success and create avenues for contributing to the larger outcome. Inclusive leaders also make space for people to find their own meaning and purpose. When employees know what the organization and team are driving toward and what matters most to the organization’s success, they can better determine how best to contribute. 

Inclusion is not just about diversity. It’s about competitive advantage. And it’s a choice.

Your Role as an Inlusive Leader is Creating Cultures of Belonging Where Everyone Can Thrive.

Remember, Actions Matter 

Your actions as a leader matter. Maybe you’ve never had formal leadership training—many of us haven’t!  Whether or not you intended to end up as a manager, a team lead, or an open-source maintainer, you now hold the power to materially improve the lives of the people around you. It doesn’t matter if you don’t want this power.  As long as you are in a leadership position, it is yours and you can use it for good. 

As leaders we must remember: our teams are watching our behavior to know what is and is not acceptable. If we turn a blind eye to harassment, harassment will flourish. If we turn a blind eye to microaggressions, microaggressions will flourish.  

On the other hand, if we do a good thing, others will follow our example. If we hold ourselves and others accountable, our team will, too. If we take the time to use the right pronouns, or have an inclusive holiday celebration, our team will know it’s okay to do the same. And that’s a magical thing. 

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Africa’s Ancient Trees, Surrounded by a Blanket of Stars



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Beth Moon travels to the ends of the Earth to photograph ancient trees under a breathtaking night sky.

BETH MOON’S images of ancient trees, so stunning in their stature and grandeur, straddle the line between fantasy and reality. For Diamond Nights, she spent many moonless nights in the African bush, making long exposure images of trees shrouded in a blanket of stars and later manipulating the images in her studio.

Vela Baobab in Botswana.

She was inspired by scientific studies that link tree growth to the heavens. The idea was at once romantic and alluring. “The sun is just one star, after all,” Moon says. “That really flipped me backwards.”

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Trees have long been a subject of Moon’s—her book Ancient Trees is a collection of her stunning platinum print images of the largest, oldest, and most storied trees on earth. For Diamond Nights, she decided to embrace digital photography because the images she wanted to make required a pumped up ISO and drawn out exposure time. She originally thought the series would be black and white as well, but found that she couldn’t sacrifice the color.

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The result are images of a sky so brilliant they look as though they’ve been meticulously painted as some childlike, awestruck fantasy of the heavens. The title of each image comes from constellations named by the Greeks and Romans, a nod to the long history of human fascination with these natural wonders.

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I certainly felt small in a very large landscape that seemed to go on forever.

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Moon knew Africa was where she’d find the trees to frame against this celestial backdrop. She spent a month in South Africa, Namibia, and Botswana. “I had my eyes on baobabs and quiver trees,” she says. “They just look like antennas—receptacles of some kind.”

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She worked in total darkness, camped next to these massive trees. Days would pass without Moon seeing anyone other than her guide. “I don’t know if lonely is the right word, but I certainly felt small in a very large landscape that seemed to go on forever,” she says. “I was encouraged to know there are still very remote and very dark places void of light pollution left in the world.”

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Lighting was the trickiest part of her process. Mostly she used a large flashlight to illuminate the trees, bouncing it off whatever was at hand—a large rock nearby or her 10-gallon water tank. She shot exposures up to 30 seconds, and each location proved to have its own challenges she had to work around. Occasional dust storms put shoots on hold—one in Botswana lasted 36 hours and kept Moon tightly zipped inside her tent with her nose in a book.

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Moon has spent many years with trees as her muse. She wants people to pause in their harried lives, and see the wonder in them. “Trees are everywhere,” she says. “We see them every day, so much so that we become so used to them that it’s easy to lose sight of their importance. By choosing these very large and iconic trees as a metaphor I hope to start a larger conversation about our natural world and the way in which we interact with it.”

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The majority of these photographs were created during moonless nights, shot with a wide angle lens and ISO of 3200 – 6400. The Milky Way, a ribbon of stars that stretches from horizon to horizon burns brightly in some of the images. Exposures up to 30 seconds allowed enough light to enter the lens without noticeable star movement. Each location required a lot of experimenting. and different lighting techniques. Sometimes a short burst of diffused light from a flashlight was sufficient, or bounced light from multiple flashlights was used for a softer more natural glow.

Updated 5-14-2019, 5:15 pm: This story has been updated to clarify that the photographer manipulated the images after taking them.

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Niksen: The Art of Doing Nothing


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Everyone wants to be happy. It’s a fundamental human right. It’s associated with all sorts of benefits. We, as a society, spend millions trying to figure out what the key to personal happiness is. The Dutch people are some of the happiest in the world. Their secret? They are masters of niksen, or the art of doing nothing. Do not already start juding the statement. COntinue reading to get clear picture about Niksen.

When I visited Netherlands in 2019, for the first time I heard word “Niksen” the Dutch concept of doing nothing, and thought, “Ah yes, I know this practice well. I do it everyday.” During Pandemic, I got chance to do more research about “niksen” and other wellbeing cocnepts like hygge and lagom .

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First there was hygge, the Danish concept being cozy and full of contentment. Pronounced “hoo-gah,” this Danish expression is an attitude towards life that emphasizes finding joy in everyday moments. Rather than drudge through the winter, hygge is about celebrating coziness, warmth and family, as well as practicing mindfulness. This tradition is carried down by generations when family members cuddle up in blankets and warm clothing from head to toe and gather by the fireside and candlelight together to enjoy simple pleasures

Then there was lagom, the Swedish mindset of approaching life with an “everything in moderation” mindset. It means “Not too little. Not too much the right amount, and is a philosophy that aims to balance, in every area and juncture of everyday life. Lagom is the secret that explains a lifestyle based on social awareness, moderation and sustainability. Just right.” This term represents their slower-paced, simple life. In Sweden, they value a healthy work-life balance.  

Now there’s another Northern European trend that’s being embraced as a way to combat our increasingly busy and often stressful lives: niksen. The Dutch concept is as simple as, well, doing nothing.    

Niksen is an increasingly popular Dutch relaxation technique where you relinquish control and just … stop. Niksen is not a form of meditation, nor is it a state of laziness or boredom. It’s not scrolling through social media, or wondering what you’re going to cook for dinner. Rather, to niks is to make a conscious choice. 

What is niksen?

The practice promotes taking conscious time to simply do nothing.

Niksen “literally means to do nothing, to be idle or doing something without any use,“. With niksen, which most closely translates as ‘nothing-ing’ in Dutch, you have to be intentional about doing nothing.Stop doing everything right now. Congratulations, you just did a niksen. It is essentially sanctioned daydreaming.

When most of daily life is consumed by the need to maximize productivity, to make the most of our time, the constant stress of this can be daunting. Hence, taking time to be idle might require some mental adjustment as the results of this cannot be quantified or measured.

Instead, we simply feel lighter, less cluttered mentally, and healthier.

Practicing niksen could be as simple as just hanging around, looking at your surroundings or listening to music — “as long as it’s without purpose,”

Niksen enables us to take a step back from whatever we’re doing to just let everything be as it is without being an active participant in it. Ideally, practicing niksen and allowing your brain to wander “can enhance creativity,” benefits of doing nothing?

Why will making sure you regularly do nothing increase your feelings of happiness? Unproductive time can make us healthier and happier, according to science. When we remain idle with no agenda, we turn on the creativity centers in the brain. People experiencing work stress and burnout at a coaching center in the Netherlands reported decreased feelings of stress and increased happiness when they practiced niksen versus when they didn’t practice it regularly.

“It frees up space we use to ruminate so that all that energy that is utilized to focus on doing something can be freed out. We can get room to be more productive and perhaps do [our work] with a calmer, less judgmental approach.”

It’s not mindfulness; a better definition would be a short period of mindless relaxation. 

Whereas mindfulness is about being present in the moment, niksen is more about carving out time to just be, even letting your mind wander rather than focusing on the details of an action.

Niksen is a time without devices, without a screen, without immediate gratification. You’re just able to be.

Not into meditation or mindfulness? Borrow this technique from the Dutch: doing nothing — but with a purpose. I tried it and it was harder than I thought it would be.

Do not ever feel guilty for doing nothing. Being Busy is often seen as the sign of success and  productivity. Is it possible to be productive all the time? . Absolutely not. Sometimes you want to do something but you feel you don’t have that energy. Then you think that you are lazy or you are not productive. Many  are going through such situations where your energy is low and you want to do some work. The mistake that everyone makes is  to force yourself to do that specific task though you feel that you have low energy to do. The output is more stress and anxiety. 

This practice is perfect for anyone who feels overwhelmed, burnt out, or exhausted, NIKSEN does not tell you to work harder. Instead, it shows you how to take a break from all the busyness while giving you sincere, heartfelt permission to do nothing. For Example

  • AT HOME: Find a comfy nook and sit. No technology or other distractions. 
  • AT WORK: Stare at your computer. Take in the view from your office. Close your eyes.
  • IN PUBLIC: Forget waiting for the bus, enjoy some relaxing niksen time.

I encourage you to loosen your concept of time and productivity and practice this simple exercise. Allowing your brain to rewire from stress by doing nothing is a wellness practice worth implementing. If you are sitting in a cafe, you can indulge in some stress-busting niksen but sipping your coffee and looking out the window. Leave your phone in your pocket, and let your mind wander. It’s not mindfulness; a better definition would be a short period of mindless relaxation. 

If you’re not sure where to begin, “start by staring out a window,“. “You don’t have to stay thinking about what you see, but it can be helpful to have a starting point. Begin by simply looking at a tree and then just let the thoughts go where they will.”

Niksen is just one of many ways you can deal with stress. What matters is that you successfully manage work-related stress and not let it negatively affect your health.

If niksen doesn’t work for you, that’s ok. There’s something out there for everyone, just do what feels right for you!

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Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way


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Life is not a Race to WIN… Life is like a Journey , to ENJOY every moment. We are running through life so fast that we forget not only where we have been but also where we are going.

There is no reward for completing the race my friend. Please run at your own speed and run how you like it.

Don’t try to run other’s race. It is your own race run how you like it.

Stop worrying about the consequences. Live in the present, share the glory of being a part of this race. No amount of gold, silver or money will or can compensate what you will miss if you try to rush things and miss the very essence of running.

Don’t just run for the sake of running because running is important and not the race!!

Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Do not set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Do not let your years slip through your fingers by living in the past, nor in the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.

Do not give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

Do not be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly.

Do not dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose.

Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.

We have born and brought up in society, where we were prepared to compete with others – your fellow mates and friends. 

The seed had planted when you were at school. The pressure of scoring highest marks, the pressure of performing well in sports, the weight of getting admission into a renown college, getting a good job and again getting into an unhealthy competition at the workplace.

Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

When you were in college, you wanted a job.

When you got a job in service-based company, You wanted product-based.

When you got 6 LPA package, you wanted 10 LPA.

When you got 15 LPA, You wanted 30 LPA.

When you got 40 LPA CTC, you wanted 40 LPA Fixed.

When you got 50 LPA fixed, You wanted to build a startup.

When you got successful in that, you wanted early retirement.

When you retired early, you wanted unlimited passive income.

When you got everything you ever wanted, You wanted time to enjoy it.

Hence, time is your most valuable asset and it cannot be equated with your earnings. Enjoy your 20s and 30s by both working hard and playing hard. Feel the satisfaction of hitting milestones. The finish line is not really important.

Achieve your own goals ( Not society’s expectations ). You don’t need to prove anything to anyone but yourself.

Nobody is measuring you, they are busy in their lives. You are the only opponent to yourself in this battle.

Running towards the next fulfillment will never be able to find peace in life. It will only lead us distant away from what we’re hoping to feel.

The only way to win the race of life is to realize that, there is no race.

Winning has to be from within us. We need to find happiness within ourselves. True satisfaction can only be observed from inside.

Life is not a race or competition. It’s a journey. Don’t just run after aiming at the finishing line, rather enjoy the ride.

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Power of your Wasted Efforts


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Probably every person has the same feeling every time they go out into the field, that will they be able to deal with the “fear of rejection”?

We all know that there will always be many more rejections compared to our successes and achievements. However, we grapple with the fear of rejection many times which leads to doubting our own capabilities. In the last 15 years with a career in Quality Assurance, I have acknowledged that along with the fear of rejection.

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) in a village to Qulaity Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. It is all possible, only by accepting Fear of Rejection and understanding The Law of Wasted Efforts

Do you know that lions only succeed in a quarter of their hunting attempts — which means they fail in 75% of their attempts and succeed in only 25% of them.

Despite this small percentage shared by most predators, they don’t despair in their pursuit and hunting attempts.

The main reason for this is not because of hunger as some might think but it is the understanding of the “Law of Wasted Efforts” that has been instinctively built into animals, a law by which nature is governed.

Half of the eggs of fish are eaten… half of the baby bears die before puberty… most of the world’s rain falls in oceans… and most of the seeds of trees are eaten by birds.

Scientists have found that animals, trees, and other forces of nature are more receptive to the law of “wasted efforts”.

Only humans think that the lack of success in a few attempts is failure… but the truth is that: we only fail when we “stop trying”.

Success is not to have a life free of pitfalls and falls… but success is to walk over your mistakes and go beyond every stage where your efforts were wasted, looking forward to the next stage.

Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

I learn from my mistakes or failure and move on & the fact is our expectation towards life to be perfect and in a better way and my way is the biggest reason for our unhappiness. So friends we need to understand the law of impermanence of nature & I keep saying for many people that after each sunny day there has to be dark night and night is also good because you are able to get good sleep, rest well when there is a night. If you want to see a full moon to come again it has to pass through no moon right? and if you want to see the rainbow this summer…is it possible? you have to wait for the rain to come + the sun to shine to see the rainbow.

Again friends, in this imperfection of nature there is perfection. Stop taking your failures to your heart and making it so huge and get hurt deeply & mess the whole life. Believe that it is just the cycle which u need to pass through & that’s part of your life. However, get conscious not to take too much time to bounce back & learn how to decide quickly & it is not uncertain situations but an uncertain mind that often leads to failure. So believe in nature and prepare yourself because even failures cannot be permanent.

I agree 100% this feeling `fear of failure or rejection’ would still bother your subconscious mind. Just see around the journey of life, instances like a mother giving birth; the child growing; when the child starts going to school; getting admission to school; when the student working on his final year; employee of his project deliverables; getting into relationship & every instance there exists a fear.

so I want you to be aware consciously & get ready to get absorbed to deal with the fear of failure or rejection.

BTW, get ready there will always be many more rejections compared to our success and achievements. Let’s grapple with this which leads to self-doubt about our own capability and knock this off to get better. I acknowledge whenever I failed or got rejected for my projects, I appreciate the process I focus on learning and continue with never give up attitude and that’s what `Law of Wasted Efforts’ is all about.

I have to share a few exemplary leaders’ examples here:-

  • Apple will be the top brand when it comes to phones and the then CEO Steve Jobs was once a College dropout, fired from his own company & then succeeded in becoming a CEO of Apple again & he’s known as a master of innovation.
  • I’m sure we have grown up in this childhood story, hearing to Thomas Alva Edison story where his teachers told him he’s too stupid to learn anything and he failed thousand times while inventing the lightbulb and he turned out to be a winner of 22 Academy Awards
  • For all our cricket fans – MS Dhoni, one of the greatest cricketers initially played badminton and football, & he took up the job of a train ticket examiner in the Indian railways as he hails from a lower-middle-class family & today Mahendra Singh Dhoni is the captain of Indian Cricket Team and his records are the best among all Indian captains to date and his leadership style has become learning for aspiring leaders.
  • Coming to politics – Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam, has faced many odds in his path. He started working at an early age by distributing newspapers after school & he had average grades in his schooling. From there on, Dr. Kalam joined thee Aeronautical Development Establishment of Defense Research and Development Organization (DRDO) as a scientist and went on to head the organization as an Indian scientist and he also became the 11th President of India.

There are 100’s of examples around us and look at all successful people around you from Amitabh Bachchan to Albert Einstein, Henry Ford, Walt Disney , Ratan Tata, Dhirubhai Ambani, Narayan Murthy, Sachin Tendulkar and observe all other successful people around you. They have failed multiple times before becoming successful in whatever profession they are in.

BTW, get ready there will always be many more rejections compared to our success and achievements. Let’s grapple with this which leads to self-doubt about our own capability and knock this off to get better. I acknowledge whenever I failed or got rejected for my projects, I appreciate the process I focus on learning and continue with never give up attitude and that’s what `Law of Wasted Efforts’ is all about.

So I finally understood that whether it’s about surviving in nature or hunting as a predator or playing the game or building an IT giant company, this awareness of wasted efforts made these people sharper, better, richer to ultimately succeed in reaching their goals.

To conclude,

You can halt or take rest momentarily but you cannot say QUIT, because success does not come after a few attempts of failure; you need to keep trying, never give up till you succeed, so learn to grow in your life at each stage and go beyond by understanding the Power of your Wasted Efforts.

Also, let’s agree that all of us are vulnerable to faults, we have our own weaknesses, and failures will happen. Don’t shy away from owning your mistake or failure. When it happens believe that that you are wiser today than you were yesterday as you have enhanced your knowledge in this process.

If there is a phrase that summarizes this world, it will simply be: continue all over again.

The universal success secret mantra for Law of Wasted efforts will simply be `Learn from Failure… Take Action… Don’t Quit… Continue! all over again….. until you Succeed!

Refrences: plyinsight, Prajvitha Knowledge, LinkedIn

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Workplace Happiness Matters


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Happiness at work is heavily surveyed and it is proved that an average human spends over 90,000 hours at work over his/her lifetime. People still figure out how to work on feeling happy or coming in terms with your work. Just like everyone, you may be also thinking that happiness should be the primary goal of having a good work-life.

Most people chase success at work, thinking that will make them happy. The truth is that happiness at work will make you successful. How often do you consider quitting your job and feel that you are not getting paid enough for the dedication and service you offer your organization?

Happiness and satisfaction are subjective concepts – while for some of us monetary benefits can be equated with job satisfaction, some might strive for recognition of their hard-work and lose motivation on failing to achieve so. For some people, having a friendly environment at work is an essential requisite for deriving pleasure. No matter what the standards are, being content with our careers is crucial for maintaining the ‘work-life’ balance.

Being happy is the first step to anything that we want to do successfully. Going to the office, mechanically performing all the duties assigned, and coming home to spend the rest of the day with a drink in hand and the TV in front is an ideal picture of an unhappy life.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” ~Dalai Lama

How to work toward happiness at work

So now that we know the essence and benefits of happiness at work, how can we foster, support, and build it?

There’s no single, simple answer to this question. However, in developing our course, we have identified four key pillars of happiness at work: Purpose, Engagement, Resilience, and Kindness—or PERK, as in to PERK up your happiness at work, or make happiness your company’s best PERK.

Studies report multiple ways to strengthen each pillar of PERK on personal, social, and structural levels at work—through individual exercises and activities, the development of key social skills, shifts in leadership style, organization-wide initiatives, or changes to company policy. While this field is young and ideas overlap, we offer PERK as a flexible, integrated framework to help guide thinking about how to increase happiness at work.

A happy worker will reach office on time because he respects his punctuality and will perform all the daily tasks because he enjoys doing it. He will work out of love, not out of compulsion.

1. Happiness Multiplies Success

Happiness at work can spread like fire. Employees who feel pleasure in doing their work form a great example to others who are less motivated.

For example, when a team leader is happy with his position and work, he can influence his team with more positivity and maintain great functionality in the group. Happiness in the workplace is directly correlational to increased productivity and better group performance at work.

2. Happiness Builds Positivity

A troubled mind can be the storehouse of negative contemplations. When we work out of compulsion and don’t feel passionate about the contribution we make to the organization’s success, our mind starts wearing.

We become stressed, lose focus, and indulge self-deprecating thoughts like “I have to quit”, “I cannot take it anymore”, “I am not worth it”, etc. On the contrary, a professional who has strong positive feelings about his job will undoubtedly be more enthusiastic and focus on building himself. Rather than focusing on the problems, he would look into ways of solving it.

3. Happiness Reduces Stress

Annie Mckee, an International Leadership advisor, and writer, in one of her publications in the Harvard Business Review, mentioned that when employees are unhappy, their brain starts to disconnect from the positive emotions, and damages their power of creative thinking and reasoning.

She further said in her article on the link between our thoughts, feelings, and actions. If any of these breaks down, it is sure to hamper the others. If we feel happy in the 8 hours that we spend at work, if somehow we can hit the strings of positivity that will keep us uplifted, it can remarkably improve our responses to stress and redirect our focus to the positive aspects of the work-life.

4. Happiness at Work means a Healthy Life

If we allow the work stress and disappointments to enter into our personal space, there is no way that we can get rid of them.

Successful professionals who can optimize their work are less likely to suffer from hypertension, cardiac arrests, substance abuse, and other stress-related disorders.

When we are happy from inside, we get that power to fight diseases and the will to recover and get back on track.

Remaining physically or mentally sick can bring unprecedented hurdles even at work. We lose the energy to give it our best shot, become less focused on work and more focused on the woes, and consequently, kill our productive soul.

Not just that, happiness at work also makes us less prone to work-related stress and burdens.

5. Happiness at Work Increases Likeability

We all like to stay around people who have a positive attitude and look content with themselves. In a happy state of mind, people are more innovative and inspired. They are willing to improve their existing skills and contributes toward creating a fun and creative performance culture at work.

Finding happiness in work helps in building strong interpersonal relationships at work and encourage people to work together for the common welfare of the organization they are serving. It is the backbone for innovation, loyalty, responsibility, and success.

Happy workers can create a pleasant environment at work that is easy for others to cope in, and the more people get into it, the better the team grows.

Dyfed Loesche, an eminent statistical and data journalist, in one of his publications about countries having the best and the worst work-life balance, mentioned that the Netherlands is one of the happiest countries concerning the work-life balance.

His interactive chart (given below) represents the countries that have great work-life balance, starting with the one that has the happiest working population.

Happiness Workshop Ideas for Employees

  1. Workshop Activities To Build Team Success – Access here
  2. The Work Happiness Workshop – Access here
  3. The Employee Stress Management Online Workshop – Access
  4. Happiness In The Workplace Everyday – Access here
  5. Team Building And Effective Communications Workshop – Access here
  6. Happiness At Work In-depth Workshop by Alexander Kjerulf – Access here
  7. Arrive At Happy Workshop – Access here

Finding happiness is as much about the decisions and actions you take as it is about having good things happen to you. And remember, if you don’t enjoy your life, change it! Doing the same thing today will create the same results tomorrow. Try some of these strategies and put yourself in a position for happiness.

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Comfort zone is graveyard of our Dreams


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

It has always been said that life begins at the end of your comfort zone, so then why are so many of us afraid of stepping outside of it? I will tell you why, because being inside your comfort zone minimises stress and anxiety. This makes it super duper easy to never push the boundaries, because it’s pretty darn comfy inside your little safety bubble, right?

Coming out of your comfort zone is tough in the beginning, chaotic in the middle, and awesome in the end…because in the end, it shows you a whole new world. We always tend to slide into our comfort zones whenever we find a familiar environment. It is time to get out of our comfort area and challenge ourselves to attain new dimensions in life. What can seem like small marginal gains start to stack together to create a rhythm that is unstoppable.

The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy, I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it.

The comfort zone is nothing else but a graveyard for your dreams & ideas.

For some people, the thought of stepping out of their safety bubble is unfathomable, especially if you know for certain that anxious feelings will arise.

Doing everyday normal activities is so familiar that it doesn’t create any apprehension. However, flying solo across the world, jumping out of an airplane, or following your bucket list dream of opening a new business will probably make people a little jittery. Really, why would you want to provoke feeling anxious? Here’s why. Because, every time you do you will grow-each time a little piece of the fear of the unknown is removed and replaced with a little piece of empowerment. And if you continuously do this the size of your fear bubble will get smaller while your comfort bubble gets bigger. With that said, we all need a little extra motivation every now and then to face our fear and step out of our comfort zone bubbles, and these comfort zone quotes will help you do it.

Sometimes it is good to be in uncomfortable situations because it is in finding our way out of such difficulties that we learn valuable lessons. Each time you try something for the first time you will grow-a little piece of the fear of the unknown is removed and replaced with a sense of empowerment. Real change is difficult at the beginning, but gorgeous at the end. Change begins the moment you get the courage and step outside your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone

I will guarantee you that the day you step outside your comfort zone by making success your goal, is the day you discover that adversity, risk, and daring will make life sweeter than you ever imagined.

This is the new year the new you. You can pass through another year, coasting on cruise control. Or you can step out of your comfort zone, trying things you have never done before, and make 2021 as the year that you elevate from where you are & soar high. Make it happen!

It is time to rise above NORMAL!

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A mother’s love is unlike any other


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Mother is not just a word, it is the deep emotion, thought and feeling that no other relation can make.  A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared. No word can define how amazing mothers are. Not only do they hold us in their womb for 9 months, but they are also the first ones to show us the world by introducing us to our dad and our entire family.

The greatness of a mother is the most perfect thing that exists in the life of human beings. A good mother will never be forgotten, we will take her forever in our hearts; that’s why it is so important that we value as she deserves, giving that invaluable person the proper place. Since we are in her womb, we feel her full and delicate protection compared only with the magnanimous love of our creator; therefore, our mother is unique.

While a lot of people say that as parents we shouldn’t be friends with our children, it is something that happens no matter what. If you have a positive relationship with your mother, she will become your best friend whether it’s when you’re young or years later when you’re finally an adult.

My Mother is the one person I know now that I can call in the middle of the night if I truly need her. She loves me unconditionally and I love her unconditionally. I have kept her up at night without realizing it and she has always worried about me in ways other people never will. My mom is a great best friend and I would not trade her for the world. The relationship I have with my mom is easily the most important one in my life and that might sound a bit weird to some but if you have a positive connection with your mom, you know exactly what I am talking about. A mother’s love is unconditional and only grows stronger over a lifetime. 

You will realize just how important she is when she is finally gone and by that time it will be too late so please do your best to understand the relationship you have with the woman who brought you into this world. She is the person who helped to make you who you are right now, she has cared for you through the ups and downs life has placed before her and even when she was struggling she make time to play with you and do her best to bring a smile to your face.

She was there when you went through breakups, she was there when you fell off your bike, and if you ever needed her for anything she would only be just a call away. She wants the best for you and works hard to see that you even now are able to live a good life. If you are struggling she will always come through the help in any way she can and she deserves some acknowledgment.

She is the person who has stood by you when you were treating her badly and made sure you still had all you needed in life. She might not be the same woman she used to be now that you’re older and she’s getting up there in age but she will continue to love you completely until the day she takes her last breath and even into the afterlife. Be sure to bring back the love and care that she gives to you before it’s too late!

A mother’s love impacts us in an incredible way, always guiding and protecting, and it can be felt long after they are gone. A Mother is a gem in everyone’s life. She is the ultimate source of happiness for a child. Her contributions are certainly too great to imagine. Above all, her love is pure and innocent. To find a Mother who does not love is probably an impossible task.

For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom’s presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced; however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love.

Kindly understand your parents and respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth.

I know I am miles away from my mother now. But, I will never forget what my mother sacrificed in her life and it is what have made me special in this world. She never left hopes on me, her belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now, but I never cared you and received you with love.I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.

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She is ShanvikaPrawin


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father means so many things. An understanding heart, a source of strength and of support right from the very start. A constant readiness to help in a kind and thoughtful way, with encouragement and forgiveness no matter what comes your way. A Father means so many things

ShanvikaPrawin, you are a princess in my heart, and I care for you so much.I love the fondness in you eyes and your tender little touch. A father loves a daughter is like no other love on earth. From the day that I first meet you nothing can compare your worth.

I looked at you when you were born and knew then straight away that I would be altogether a different person from that day. You bring to me a heart of joy and memories so great and a powerful sense of fatherhood that no one can debate.

Whom should I thank?
God or my destiny,
For the gift of lovely daughter in my life,
You are an angel for me now,
I don’t think without you,
You are the beat of my heart,
You have been special right from the start,
You are the sun that shines,
You are light of the moon,
You are so kind,
You are my beautiful daughter,
You are one of a kind!
With you in my life,
Everything is so perfect and right,
You are my life my sweet little daughter,
There is no one like you,
No one another!
Thanks for coming in my life!

In today’s world, fathers have become more influential and inspiring on a daughter’s upbringing. Daughters are sweet and playful by nature; hence, they need someone that will guide them along the way, and fathers one of the best persons to keep them on track. Though there are times when the father’s role in a daughter’s life is often overlooked as they tend not be as communicative and insightful as the mothers, these strong men are very potent and kind. 

Having a fatherly figure makes file more tolerable and comfortable. A positive father and daughter bond creates a win-win situation to both fathers and daughters. For the daughters, it can help them develop into a strong, positive and mature woman. Fathers seemingly builds their daughter’s self-esteem and self-image, as well as their views on men. A father may not be the perfect model, but he is good enough in his daughter’s eyes. And from then, seeing a daughter turn into a mature women with good values and right skill, fathers become very grateful of the whole fatherhood process.

My Daughter means the world to me a big wide world for her to see. She grows a little more each day and I’ll be here always, to guide her way. She blooms and grows like a flower. Little by little, hour by hour.One day I’ll look and she’ll be grown and start a life out on her own. But for the time, she’s with me now, so I can teach and show here how.

All fathers are not fortunate enough to spend time with their kids and show their love. Unfortunately I am one among them.

A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart.

Father – Daughter’s inspiration, Son’s aspiration

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Mother: The Living GOD


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared.  She is the person who brought us into the world irrespective of our gender is the mother. Mother, the goddess of eternal love, not only give us birth but also feed us, raise us to become adult, teaches us to become a good human being and many other. She plays the role of teacher, guide, role model, friend and a lot of other roles.

Mama-and-Baby

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. when we get hurt, the first person which we remember is always the mother. Sometimes harsh, sometimes funny, always loving, always caring is the mother. The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.

“Mother” is such a simple word,

But to me there’s meaning seldom heard.
For everything I am today,
My mother’s love showed me the way.
I’ll love my mother all my days,
For enriching my life in many ways.
She set me straight and then set me free,
And that’s what the word “mother” means to me.
Thanks for being a wonderful mother, Mom!

‘Mother’ is a very best creation by god. It is said, “as god cannot be in many places at a time, he created mother in place of god who will satisfy all our needs and bless us always with all her love irrespective of our mischievous behaviour.” I feel this is correct. And I feel great to be a child of my great mother.

My mom is great and she does many things to my family. Of course every mom is very good and will do anything for their children. My mom is the one who is very lovable, friendly, caring and cannot stop using such adjectives to describe her nature. My mom is my best friend in the world. I can proudly tell that my mom is a special person, who will forgive me for all my mistakes and will guide me with her everlasting smile on her lips. She helps every one whom ever she can and in whatever the way she can.

Mothers make great sacrifices while raising their children. She gives away her sleep so that her child sleep comfortably. Mothers give away their time to teach their kids different ethics, manners which will help them stand high in society. They sacrifice their bodies to give them birth. When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.

We are very lucky to have this precious gift which God has bestowed on us. Think of the people who lost their mother while birth or the orphan children who had never seen their mothers. We should not take our mothers for granted. We will get to know her importance only after we lost her. We should respect her and treat her like a god. We should let her know that we love her by helping her and ease off her pressure. A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. Sometimes, mothers say and do things that seem like they don’t want their kids but when you look more closely, you realize that they’re doing those kids a favor. They’re just trying to give them a better life.

For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom’s presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. In the end, I would like to say that love her, respect her and care for her in the way she did to you, you won’t able to find the same unconditional love anywhere in the universe.

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New National Education Policy 2020


Education is an important aspect of our lives, while some of us take it for granted, there are others who crave and struggle to get it. Education is one of the most powerful things in life. It allows us to find the meaning behind everything and helps improve lives in a massive way. Education is important because it broadens our knowledge, and this knowledge then opens our minds to new perspectives, ideas, beliefs, and cultures.

Education is not just about spoon feeding but about inspiring them to think out of the box and foresee a better future. It is all about how to apply it in real life to change the world for a better cause. Irrespective of race, creed, and gender, education makes it possible for people to stand out as equal with all the other persons from different walks of life.  Education enhances our perspective on the world. Enriching our brains with new and valuable information improves our ability to think, analyze, and process the world around us.

The Indian National Education Policy was framed in 1986 and modified in 1992. More than three decades have passed since previous Policy. During this period significant changes have taken place in our country, society economy, and the world at large. The biggest relief for the millions of students and parents in the new national education policy is the announcement to make the board exams of class 10th and 12th easy. Students are always under pressure regarding board exams and depend on coaching to get more marks. But in the future, they can get freedom from it.MunnaPrawinThe Government had initiated the process of formulating a New Education Policy. As a part of this, The Union Cabinet chaired by the Prime Minister has approved the National Education Policy 2020, making way for large scale, transformational reforms in both school and higher education sectors. This is the first education policy of the 21st century and replaces the 34 year old National Policy on Education (NPE), 1986. Built on the foundational pillars of access, equity, quality, affordability and accountability, this policy is aligned to the 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development and aims to transform India into a vibrant knowledge society and global knowledge superpower by making both school and college education more holistic, flexible, multidisciplinary, suited to 21st century needs and aimed at bringing out the unique capabilities of each student.

New Education Policy 2020 HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Early Childhood Care & Education with new curricular and pedagogical structure:
    • With emphasis on Early Childhood Care and Education, the 10+2 structure of school curricula is to be replaced by a 5+3+3+4 curricular structure corresponding to ages 3-8, 8-11, 11-14, and 14-18 years respectively. This will bring the hitherto uncovered age group of 3-6 years under school curriculum, which has been recognized globally as the crucial stage for development of mental faculties of a child.
    • The new system will have 12 years of schooling with three years of anganwadi/ preschooling.
    • NCERT will develop a National Curricular and Pedagogical Framework for Early Childhood Care and Education (NCPFECCE) for children up to the age of 8.
    • ECCE will be delivered through a significantly expanded and strengthened system of institutions including anganwadis and preschools that will have teachers and anganwadi workers trained in the ECCE pedagogy and curriculum.
    • The planning and implementation of ECCE will be carried out jointly by the Ministries of HRD, Women and Child Development (WCD), Health and Family Welfare (HFW), and Tribal Affairs.
  • Ensuring Universal Access at all levels of school education, through following measures:
    • NEP 2020 emphasizes on ensuring universal access to school education at all levels-pre school to secondary.
    • Infrastructure support, innovative education centres to bring back dropouts into the mainstream.
    • Tracking of students and their learning levels, facilitating multiple pathways to learning involving both formal and non-formal education modes.
    • Association of counselors or well-trained social workers with schools.
    • Open learning for class 3, 5 and 8 through NIOS and State Open Schools.
    • Secondary education programs equivalent to Grades 10 and 12, vocational courses, adult literacy and life-enrichment programs.
    • About 2 crore out of school children will be brought back into mainstream under NEP 2020.

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  • Reforms in school curricula and pedagogy: 
    • Students will have increased flexibility and choice of subjects. There will be no rigid separations between arts and sciences, between curricular and extracurricular activities, between vocational and academic streams.
    • Vocational education will start in schools from the 6th grade, and will include internships. A new and comprehensive National Curricular Framework for School Education, NCFSE 2020-21, will be developed by the NCERT.
  • Multilingualism and the power of language:
    • The policy has emphasized mother tongue/ local language/ regional language as the medium of instruction at least till Grade 5, but preferably till Grade 8 and beyond.
    • Sanskrit to be offered at all levels of school and higher education as an option for students, including in the three-language formula. Other classical languages and literature of India also to be available as options.
    • No language will be imposed on any student. Several foreign languages will also be offered at the secondary level. Indian Sign Language (ISL) will be standardized across the country, and national and state curriculum materials developed, for use by students with hearing impairment.
  • Assessment Reforms: 
    • NEP 2020 envisages a shift from summative assessment to regular and formative assessment. All students will take school examinations in Grades 3, 5, and 8 which will be conducted by the appropriate authority.
    • Board exams for Grades 10 and 12 will be continued, but redesigned with holistic development as the aim. A new National Assessment Centre, PARAKH (Performance Assessment, Review, and Analysis of Knowledge for Holistic Development),  will be set up as a standard-setting body.
  • Equitable and Inclusive Education:
    • Special emphasis will be given on Socially and Economically Disadvantaged Groups (SEDGs) which include gender, socio-cultural, and geographical identities and disabilities. This includes setting up of a Gender Inclusion Fund and also Special Education Zones for disadvantaged regions and groups.
    • Children with disabilities will be enabled to fully participate in the regular schooling process from the foundational stage to higher education, with support of educators with cross disability training, resource centres, accommodations, assistive devices, appropriate technology-based tools and other support mechanisms tailored to suit their needs.
    • Every state/ district will be encouraged to establish Bal Bhavans as a special daytime boarding school, to participate in art-related, career-related, and play-related activities. Free school infrastructure can be used as Samajik Chetna Kendras.

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  • Standard setting and accreditation for school education: 
    • NEP 2020 envisages clear, separate systems for policy making, regulation, operations and academic matters. States/UTs will set up an independent State School Standards Authority (SSSA).
    • Transparent public self-disclosure of all the basic regulatory information, as laid down by the SSSA, will be used extensively for public oversight and accountability. The SCERT will develop a School Quality Assessment and Accreditation Framework (SQAAF) through consultations with all stakeholders.
    • Further, schools can be organized into complexes or clusters which will be the basic unit of governance and ensure availability of all resources including infrastructure, academic libraries and a strong professional teacher community.
  • Higher Education:
    • The policy envisages broad based, multi-disciplinary, holistic undergraduate  education with flexible curricula, creative combinations of subjects, integration of vocational education and multiple entry and exit points with appropriate certification.
    • UG education can be of 3 or 4 years with multiple exit options and appropriate certification within this period. For example, Certificate after 1 year, Advanced Diploma after 2 years, Bachelor’s Degree after 3 years and Bachelor’s with Research after 4 years.
    • An academic bank of credit is to be established for digitally storing academic credits earned from different HEIs so that these can be transferred and counted towards the final degree earned.
  • Regulation:
    • Higher Education Commission of India (HECI) will be set up as a single overarching umbrella body for the entire higher education, excluding medical and legal education.
    • HECI to have four independent verticals: National Higher Education Regulatory Council (NHERC) for regulation, General Education Council (GEC ) for standard setting, Higher Education Grants Council (HEGC) for funding, and National Accreditation Council ( NAC) for accreditation.
    • HECI will  function through faceless intervention through technology, and will have powers to penalise HEIs not conforming to norms and standards. Public and private higher education institutions will be governed by the same set of norms for regulation, accreditation and academic standards.
    • The definition of university will allow a spectrum of institutions that range from research-intensive universities to teaching-intensive universities and autonomous degree-granting colleges.
    • Affiliation of colleges is to be phased out in 15 years and a stage-wise mechanism is to be established for granting graded autonomy to colleges. Over a period of time, it is envisaged that every college would develop into either an autonomous degree-granting college, or a constituent college of a university.
  • Teacher Education: 
    • A new and comprehensive National Curriculum Framework for Teacher Education, NCFTE 2021, will be formulated by the NCTE in consultation with NCERT. By 2030, the minimum degree qualification for teaching will be a 4-year integrated B.Ed. degree. Stringent action will be taken against substandard stand-alone Teacher Education Institutions (TEIs).
    • A national mission for mentoring will be established, with a large pool of outstanding senior/ retired faculty, including those with the ability to teach in Indian languages, who would be willing to provide short and long-term mentoring/ professional support to university/ college teachers.
  • Online Education and Digital Education: 
    • A comprehensive set of recommendations for promoting online education consequent to the recent rise in epidemics and pandemics in order to ensure preparedness with alternative modes of quality education whenever and wherever traditional and in-person modes of education are not possible, has been covered.
    • A dedicated unit for the purpose of orchestrating the building of digital infrastructure, digital content and capacity building will be created in the MHRD to look after the e-education needs of both school and higher education.
    • An autonomous body, the National Educational Technology Forum (NETF), will be created to provide a platform for the free exchange of ideas on the use of technology to enhance learning, assessment, planning, administration. Appropriate integration of technology into all levels of education will be done.
  • Promotion of Indian languages
    • To ensure the preservation, growth, and vibrancy of all Indian languages, NEP recommends setting an Indian Institute of Translation and Interpretation (IITI), National Institute (or Institutes) for Pali, Persian and Prakrit, strengthening of Sanskrit and all language departments in HEIs, and use mother tongue/ local language as a medium of instruction in more HEI programmes .

Download New Education Policy 2020  Download NEP 2020 Pdf

References:  MHRD, ManifestIAS, TOI

Education isn’t just about learning maths or science at school. It’s about gaining the knowledge and the skills needed to better ourselves and the world we live in. Now we can hope our education system will be at par with modern countries and future of our children will be bright.

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DARE TO BE YOU


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

Dare to be you

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can – At all times, Dare to be!”

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Break free before time runs out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

Recently, I met one of friend who lives in States. During the discussion, I learnt both of her sons got killed in a bike accident. From then, I am thinking about those boys who have gone on so young, and all of the people I’ve loved who didn’t make it as far as I have, made me realise one thing.

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They had dreams. They had goals. They had ambitions. And they no longer have the chance to pursue them. They quite literally have run out of time.

But I haven’t. Not yet. And if I don’t pursue my dreams and ambitions with every tiny bit of my soul, it’s like I’m slapping them in the face.

I’m still here. I’m not done. I’ve got things to do. And quite frankly, I”m not doing them. Break free before time runs out, from all that is holding you back, from all that stopping you to be ‘U’.

“Our only limitations are those we set up in our own mind”. Napoleon Hill

What seems to be impossible for you might be easier than you think!

“I wonder how many times people give up just before the breakthrough”.

It is not over until you say it is over!

Most people don’t need help as much as they need to believe on themselves & go after what they want.

No matter where you are at now in your life, or what challenges you may have, there is always a way out and there is a solution.

The famous Zen master Shunryu Suzuki once said, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” By this he meant that if we view ourselves as the experts of our business who know how everything should be done, we are limiting ourselves to very few opportunities.

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When the world is in crisis, many things change, and many opportunities arise. But to see these opportunities, we must let go of our expert-attitude and look at the new reality with a beginner’s mind. We must wake up every day with fresh eyes and truly discern what is different than yesterday.

Every problem has its solution; it is born with it. If you want a different result, make different choice. We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. Facing reality can be hard because our brains are wired to be emotionally attached to how things used to be. The past seems known and secure, while an unknown future can make us anxious.

As we know, many of us are attached to our past successes and want to have them back. Because of this emotional attachment, we are at risk of walking in the same direction even if the world has taken a sharp turn the other way. Positive people also have negative thoughts but they just made up their mind to enjoy life. They focus on the possibilities not the problem. They always “align with love and tap into abundance”.

Now is your chance to reimagine the future and the possibilities. It all starts in the mind, in your mind. So look inside, and then leap.

If there is one thing I want you to understand…it’s this.

And I know I’m not the only one stuck in this rut. This is what happens in life when we get complacent. When we let things get easy. “Lost Time is Never Found again” You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

 

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Who am I? I AM a Proud Strong WOMAN


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Life is not an easy journey for every WOMAN. As much as I enjoy being a woman, I don’t think being a woman is easy, not always. There might be times when we hate being  women! No, I’m not talking about the menstrual cramps or pregnancy period or delivery pain. They help bring a beautiful soul into this world, so I believe it’s a gift.

But being a woman is hard — there’s so much for us to do in daily life. I’m talking about these everyday things that make life difficult, just because you’re a woman. There are few constant feelings that come into picture, mostly because we belong to a certain gender. We have stereotypes to break, jobs to excel at, families to care for, lives to lead, friends to hang out with and the world to run. Sometimes we’re so busy making sure everything gets done, we forget to look to the women who have paved the way for all of our awesomeness.

“As a Women should always remember to accept who we are. We are beautiful, talented, valuable human being, so we should learn to love ourself. Of course, there are always exceptions. If you’re a serial killer, if you are person who kept doing mistakes in life then you should probably hold back from being that WOMAN so that you can respect the moral values, obey the law and stay out of prison.”

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In addition to our regular challenges  we have to save ourselves from many MEN, which is more challenging. At school, family, college, office place, neighbourhood, everywhere many woman face physical, mental harassment. It can be calls,  messages on WhatsApp, Insta, Facebook and even on Instagram, the messages that woman gets are so disgusting and disturbing. Such messages don’t fail to leave this strange feeling in you, as soon as you read it. No matter how strong or bold you’re, those messages sure do affect you for a minute there.

“I am proud of the woman I am today, because I went through one hell of a time becoming her. A strong woman loves, forgives, walks away, lets go, tries again, and perseveres… not matter what life at her.” 

“One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go.”

What makes me weak? – My fears.

What keeps me standing?- My faith.

What makes me compassionate?- My selflessness.

What makes me honest?- My integrity.

What sustains my mind?- My quest for knowledge.

What teaches me all lessons?- My mistakes.

What lifts my head high?- My pride, not arrogance.

What if I can’t go on?- Not an option.

What makes me victorious?- My courage to climb.

What makes me competent?- My confidence.

What makes me sensual?- My insatiable essence.

What makes me beautiful?- My everything.

What makes me a woman?- My heart .❤️

Who says I need love ?- I do.

What empowers me?- My spirit.

Who am I? IAM A PROUD STRONG WOMAN!!!

“I’m tough, true, ambitious and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, Okay. I am clothed in strength and dignity, and it makes me laughs without fear of the future.” 

“ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, it empties of its strength. So, women have to shatter all these barriers and overcome these everyday feelings, before they break the glass ceiling and it’s not always a cake walk.”

 

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LIFE @BERLIN resumed after Covid-19 Lockdown


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After almost 2 months of Lockdown due to Covid-19, life at Berlin, Germany slowly got resumed. Happy to see kinds playing in the community parks, able to feel the fresh breeze and so delightful to see the trees colouring  themselves in green after almost 5 months. 

States across Germany are deciding how they will relax lockdown restrictions while trying to control the spread of coronavirus. Here’s what to know about Berlin’s latest regulations.

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One of the best things about the German lockdown is that there’s never been a restriction on leaving the house for some fresh air. The shops in Berlin are finally open again.  I head into the city centre and find myself stuck in a serious traffic jam. When I finally make it, there’s a feeling of euphoria on the streets. 

Face masks are going to be compulsory from on public transport from next week but there’s a shortage of the proper, medical ones, and they can’t be reused anyway, so people are advised to sew their own “everyday masks”.Some are wearing masks but many are not. But most stick to the social distancing guidelines. There are queues to get inside the shops but it’s all good-natured.

When restrictions are relaxed in the Germany, normal life will not return immediately, and the government is expected to introduce new guidelines for an indeterminate period of time.

Here are some of the changes various industries are preparing to put in place

Transport: Transport system in Berlin has introduced boarding on buses via the middle doors only in order to protect drivers. Companies may ask their employees to begin and end work at different times to avoid putting the transport network under pressure during rush hour, or to alternate days working at home.

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Schools and universities: Schools can open in Berlin from April 27th, provided that the hygiene rules are in place. Schools will open gradually and the local authorities are putting together more information on how this will happen safely. School trips will not be allowed. The Berlin Senate is also planning to bring Kita care back in phased stages, with single parents being entitled to care for their children from Monday April 27th.

Offices: When companies reopen their workspaces, managing movement in offices will be key. The majority of companies will have to implement physical distancing, keeping workers and customers more than two metres apart from each other. Wearing face masks in certain indoor workplaces may also be compulsory.  

Retail: Supermarkets, grocers and other essential retailers that have remained open during the lockdown introduced safety measures to keep shoppers and staff apart, including plastic screens at checkouts, limiting the number of shoppers allowed inside, and floor markings to keep shoppers apart. As restrictions are lifted, similar measures are expected to be introduced in other high street stores.

Restaurants and bars closed: Restaurants, pubs, bars, cafes and clubs will remain closed for the time being – in both Berlin as well as in neighbouring state Brandenburg. Hotels are also not allowed to reopen to tourists, in line with Germany-wide recommendations. Commercial excursions and tours are not allowed. Restaurants are able to offer takeaway as is the case currently.

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Hairdressing salons: Hairdressers can reopen from May 4th, in line with Germany-wide recommendations. Strict hygiene measures must be in place. Beauty salons, tattoo studios and similar venues are not allowed to open.

Food and hospitality: All major food chains, Burger King, Mc Donalds , Dominos etc have reopened a limited number of outlets for delivery or takeaway, after introducing safety measures for their employees. Food Stores says it has given its staff masks and gloves and training on maintaining distance from each other.

Museums and libraries: Museums, memorials, non-commercial galleries and similar educational institutions in public and private ownership can reopen from May 4th, provided that hygiene rules are observed. Public libraries may be opened for lending from May 4th, also with safety measures in place.

Sport: Golf could be the first sport to return after the PGA Tour announced plans for four events to take place without spectators from 11 June.  In football, Germany’s top division, the Bundesliga, could resume behind closed doors as early as May after players there returned to training a fortnight ago, but most other leagues remain suspended indefinitely.

BerlinEvents: Events with more than 1,000 people are banned until August 31st, in line with Germany-wide restrictions. Theatres and other performance venues such as operas and concert halls remain closed until July 31st, the end of the season. Large events with more than 5,000 participants will remain prohibited until October 24th. The Berlin Marathon, which last year brought in more than 47,000 participants from around the world, will be cancelled.

Here’s an overview of the draft plan:

  • Initially after the lockdown, some retailers and restaurants could reopen
  • In certain regions, schools could also reopen
  • Major events and private parties are to remain banned for a longer period of time
  • To prevent a renewed rise in coronavirus infections, the paper recommends making it compulsory to wear protective masks in buses, trains, factories and other buildings
  • There would be rapid tracing of infection chains, with infected people having to quarantine at home or in hotels

References: lacal.de, telegram, Brussels Times & Irish Times

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Parental guide during Covid-19 lockdown


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

The coronavirus outbreak is affecting people across World in different ways. For parents of school-going kids across the countries, the experience has been overwhelming and exhausting. As a parent I can observe and feel that the Parenting is turning to be harder by uncertainty, stress and economic hardship. Parents and children are living with increased stress, media hype and fear, all challenging our capacity for tolerance and long-term thinking.

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The coronavirus pandemic has left a lot of parents panicking about how on earth to make sure their children keep safe and keep learning during lockdown. As schools are closed in various countries around the world, keeping kids engaged at home has become a major concern now. I also learnt that For many, the economic impact of the crisis increases parenting stress, abuse, and violence against children,”

While everyone is fighting the war against coronavirus, you can turn this into an opportunity to make your children learn new skills. Here are few ways to engage your kids at home during the Covid-19 lockdown.

Do not miss this phase of Life

During this lockdown phase, there are going to be interesting, diverse scenarios taking place in homes at the moment. Don’t get frazzled, because teachers don’t lose it – they are quite calm. And just remember that your children are transitioning as well. We need to use lots of negotiation and give and take. crl5azqxeaagy2r

Every parent is concerned because we’re taking up a new role here, which we’ve never had to do before. But it’s not going to be permanent. There’s no quick fix, and you’re not a failure, because this is brand new to us all. The positive thing is, we’re going to get to know our children more.

Talk to your children

First, explain clearly to children why we are all forced to be indoors and the importance of adhering to this restriction. Once they understand the reasoning, you will be surprised at how much more willing they will be to comply.

Parents should talk openly to children about their behaviour because communication was critical at this time. During this phase parents had all the time in world to get to know their children a little bit more. It was the perfect opportunity to have regular discussions with them.

Set up a Daily routine

91tmCTsTBtL._AC_SX569_It starts with a routine, not only for kids but also for us parents. Creating a schedule with a daily routine can be an effective way to tackle anxiety. This would make the kids feel at ease, safer and more relaxed.

The important thing here is to create a plan with some room for flexibility. Set up a schedule for waking up, eating, and learning activities and fun things to do. This will help you as well as the kids to feel normalcy while also maintaining discipline.

Let them start painting!

You can plan and conduct any painting challenge with innovative painting ideas. Each day, you can make them give painting one hour of their time and simply experiment with whatever idea they get for the day.It can be anything from a fruit, a memory, a place or abstract designs with paint.

Painting is a very natural form of expression and it can be meditative too as it soothes their mind and keeps it calm. So, let you kids go ahead and explore this creative language!

Engage them in doing exercises and practicing yoga

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Exercising improves strength, flexibility, agility, and mobility and most importantly it can help build your kids immunity during this Coronavirus pandemic.

Practice meditation and pranayama to destress your life and relax their soul. This will also inculcate a lot of energy and boost their stamina.

Let them chat to friends

It’s really important for the children to communicate with their friends. Parents can set up Zoom talks, skype calls with their children’s friends. Not every day, but during the week, there should be some way they’re connected with somebody else that’s not you, and not another adult.

Plan virtual fun activities with their peers

Plan fun activities over video call with their peers to give them time to socialise. Making study groups can be a great way to make your kids socialise and will decrease the feeling of isolation.

Create an activity plan with parents of their peers so that they can do some activities together over video calls for example, quizzes, karaoke, singing competitions, story telling, DIY activities .

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Support them to Grow plants at home

This lockdown time can be utilized in growing plants in your garden. Make your kids grow as many plants as they can. Encourage them them in gardening by making them grow tulsi and aloe vera which emit oxygen.

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As the world is deprived of clean air, they will work wonders when they grow into trees in a few decades even if you may not be there to see them. If you grow 5 to 10 oxygen-emitting plants, you will add to the pre-existing resources.

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Give them a push to Make Creative stuff

Engage the kids in creative activities of all kinds. Stock up on craft supplies (instead of toilet paper!). Make paintings, knit a scarf, start a daily sketchbook journal, create a stash of cute pop-up cards, sew a baby quilt, make a scrapbook.

Teach them how to bake cookies and bread and how to make simple dinners such as homemade mac ‘n cheese, vegetable soup, and pasta sauce. Build an awesome cardboard box fort, tree fort, or set up an indoor tent. Redecorate a bedroom.

Try and limit screen time

Lots of parents have contacted us to say they’re worried about children sitting in front of the computer for five hours a day.

Parents will be strongly tempted to stick their kids in front of screens for multiple hours a day, just to get their own work done, but this isn’t healthy, nor is it fair to kids who deserve more of an active role from their parents, especially if they’re missing school. I think it’s reasonable to let them have a half-hour a day . Whatever screen time rules you set should be made clear up front, so that the temptation for kids to ask is eliminated right away. (And if they keep asking, they lose the privilege of watching altogether.)

Let them watch Inspirational movies and educational TV series

There is a long list of TV series that will educate your kids on various topics. The National Geographic documentaries are a way fun way to learn. Let your kid pick the genre of their choice and go watch them online. There are many online learning portals and youtube channels for kids.

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If you have access to a Netflix connection or Amazon Prime, there are a vast number of documentaries and docu-series you can watch on a variety of genres.If you want to watch the top movies, just check out the IMDB top 50 list and check which ones you haven’t watched. If you are lucky, you can find them online or you can always download.

Get their hands deep in experiments

Give your kids some time to focus on fun activities like DIY science experiments, craft, drawing, watching documentaries and educational videos.Try to not be too hard on them (remember, they are having a hard time). Save your interventions for when you really need them! reading-for-meaning

Let them Lose in good books

Book reading is always a best habit. These are certain books that people of all ages can enjoy here are a few engaging books your kid should be able to find interesting .  You can find books online for free to make this Coronavirus lockdown time a fun experience for their lazing around with an engrossing book.

Share the responsibility

We need to jointly plan and give them that sense of responsibility. It’s quite powerful for them to take control of what they’d like to do. And if that’s being in their room drawing, then give them that time, make them exhausted from doing that, because they will get bored very soon.

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And when they want to do other things, that’s where, as a parent, you’ve already got all these resources and ideas ready to go.

Encourage them to Learn a new language

Learning a language is a fun experience but it does need dedication. A language learned will give anyone an edge over others. It will add weight to their profile and will help them in career as well.

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That will also open new avenues of education and jobs in the future.Check out the various online courses and mobile apps available to easily learn new languages. Make them attend the online classes and appear for the test to get an online certificate for their new language skill! This will not let them get bored while everything is locked down.

Learn about future goals & understand your role

Its wonderful opportunity for every parent to understand their kinds needs and learn about their life goals. If they do not have any yet, its time where you explain them what is goal and why they are important in life. Make them read books, magazines, online websites on career planning and life goals and plan your targets in life.

Ask your child to list down what they want to be 10 years from now and let them start working on their goals during the Covid-19 lockdown.Study journals and books that will take them closer to their dreams and start working on them. This practice can become the most fruitful practice during the Coronavirus lockdown period.

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Last, but not the least, share your stories

All of us like posting our pictures and stories on our social media accounts. So, tell us how you spent your day when everything is locked down. Share with us on the mail or on our Facebook pageLately, people have been playing with Instagram challenges, posting stories, and asking questions Covid-19. Write about how you made a quarantine time period productive.You can also start your own blog about what you are doing during the Coronavirus lockdown and post there every day along with interesting photos of what you are doing around the house.

School, colleges shutdown is also a chance to make better relationships with our children and teenagers. One-on-One time…makes children feel loved and secure, and shows them that they are important.

Children are quite observant about what it is going on in their surrounding environment. Regardless of age, every kid is aware that the lifestyle has currently taken a pause and can sense that the adults around them are at unease. So communication becomes the utmost necessity wherein talking with your children in a calm, simple and factual way enables you to control the narrative, providing essential information without promoting distress.

Placing boundaries on media exposure is a good preventative action. Try to think of yourself as their mentor and step up! Do reach out to your friends and family in time of need. Remember, this will pass.

A crisis often brings out the best in you and you discover qualities that you never knew existed within. 

A time of crisis is not just a time of anxiety and worry. It gives a chance, an opportunity, to choose well or to choose badly.

Any deep crisis is an opportunity to make your life extraordinary in some way.

Any kind of crisis can be good. It wakes you up.

As for any of us in crisis, hope is the one thing that’s everything. 

Trust me, we together beat this crisis. Stay at Home, Stay Safe.

 

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Reality of Today´s World


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Well its a proven fact as we go up in some ways we definitely are going down in other its the very fundamental law of our own existence. As the humanity is excelling in various fields such as medical science ,communication and artificial intelligence we generally forget to see our roots or reason of our own very existence.

We, so called HUMANS are greedy, angry, creepy, violent, perverted, jealous, and conceited. We lie, we cheat, we steal, we betray, we corrupt and we act like we can get away with it.

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We live in a world, where monsters are respected And humans are discriminated

We live in a world, where  fools are rulers And genius is a struggle

We live in a world, where everyone speaks about rules, But no one follows it

We live in a world, where we speak about Feminism, But donno how to treat Women

We live in a world, where everyone wants fresh air, But No one wants to plant a tree..!!

We live in a world, where People are judged But never supported.

We live in a strange world, where Liars are trusted And truthful is defamed.

We live in a world, People love for selfish gain But not for other to make them proud

Strange is the world we live in, We are human with lost humanity.

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We live in selfish,greed,inequality,hiding the truth(although not lying),comparison among themselves,lack of selflessness,following mindset,lack of patience,lack of true love and peace,feminism(mostly anti-masculine) and most important LACK OF TRUST.

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We all are living in fake world driven by others thinking or i can say we all are showing our fake reality which is not govern by ourself but by others thought of perfection. When we look our society we see people discriminating each other on basis of religion ,caste, sex even we are educated. Our politics also get affected by religions , even in this modern world we have this type of society.

I hope with the growing human race in various fields we should also consider our basic characteristic and the reason of our existence and try to spread peace,love and harmony as much as we can and never compare anyone with anyone and respect and admire everyone’s uniqueness.

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Choose SUN to know your personality


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Our beloved shapes and forms can tell a lot about our hidden traits, as relational psychology and drawing psychology testing suggest — pick a sun and see what your choice says about you.

We have prepared for you a little psychological test.

The sun has always had a special place in religion and culture through the history of mankind. In this test we’ll ask you to rest your mind, look at this picture of 8 suns, pick one that seems the most appealing, and find out something new about yourself!

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  1. Your special personality trait is always being positive and always looking for a way to improve yourself. You are not easily discouraged and intent to stand your ground at all times. Your glass is definitely “half full.”

    This approach to life not only makes you resilient, but also makes you a great friend who can support your loved ones in any situation. You are outgoing, but sometimes you keep to yourself to not hurt people. This allows you to sift through the people you are around and leaves you with only a few truly good friends.

  2. There are two really important things for you — personal space and respect from your peers and loved ones. More introvert, than extrovert, you are not distant from other people, but just more reserved.

    You value simple, good traits like honesty and kindness, and you’re always there for your friends. This is why you should also beware of people using you only for their gain. Always trust your sixth sense, because it will lead you out of those types of situations.

  3. You are smart, very curious, and courageous when it comes to new adventures and knowledge. Very honest and transparent, you are openminded and try to keep your judgement unclouded.

    You are a natural-born leader and a guide to others. They rely heavily on your sense of right and wrong and value your educated opinion.

  4. The hallmark of your personality is endless energy and restlessness. You are torn by a hundred ideas at a time. You are always willing to face new challenges and get really hyped at the opportunity to try something new.

    You are beaming with a love for life, which you are trying to live to the fullest. And that’s what makes you a person with great life goals, just be sure to not get distracted.

  5. You have the outstanding ability and willingness to help others with their problems. You love helping people in need and sometimes it may even seem like you have a hero complex — because who else would be better at saving the world than you?

    You are a beam of light and inspiration in the lives of others. You are an intelligent person, but you don’t always share your thoughts with other people.

  6. People who pick out this sun are generally joyful, fun-loving people who enjoy every little detail of life. Every obstacle in your way is just another reason to learn something new.

    You don’t shy away from constructive criticism, and always maintain your cordial and cheerful disposition with others. People perceive you as trustworthy and as a person who has a lot of leadership skills.

  7. You are easily inspired by new goals and you really go the extra mile to take them on — but there are usually way too many. In fact, one lifetime is not enough to fulfill them all. If you want your major dreams come true — you’ll need to figure out which ones are the most important for you.

    Other people see you as someone energetic and persevering, who does not know when to quit. You are a positive influence on others.

  8. Your patience is enviable. You don’t hold grudges and you are not easily offended. As a person, you are incredibly mature, somebody who likes to think things through and avoid mistakes.

    Although love and other feelings are important to you, they tend to take a back seat to your rational mind and intelligence.

    Was this test true to your personality? Be sure to share with us in the comments below.

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Oldest Zoo in Germany


Berlin Zoo, It’s the oldest zoo in Germany – but totally modern. The Zoo Berlin and the Aquarium Berlin are a highlight for all the family. Recently i visited Berlin Zoo and I felt its worth sharing with wide audience. One of the things I love about this zoo is the architecture of the animal houses. Chickens get half timbers, bison get totem poles and giraffes get minarets. Isn’t it cute?

Berlin Zoo is the most biodiverse zoo in the world and at the same time the oldest zoo in Germany, opened in 1844. More than 20,000 animals in over 1,500 forms live in the green oasis in the heart of Berlin.

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Zoos are places where wild animals are kept for public display. The term ‘ZOO’ stands short for zoological park or zoological garden, and can also be named animal park or menagerie.

Zoos contain wide varieties of animals that are native to all parts of the Earth.Zoos are often the sites of sophisticated breeding centers, where endangered species may be protected and studied. Some zoos, like this aquarium in Monterey,

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Zoos are places where you can spend a quality afternoon with your family and friends admiring the beauties and diversities mother nature has given us. On the more technical aspect, a zoo is a facility that houses animals within enclosures, displays them to the public and it’s a place where the animals are bred.

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Zoo parks are fun and entertaining places to spend time at. However, ordinary visitors must start thinking about how humanity affects nature and how can they contribute to saving the planet. The zoos offer a lot of information on the concrete steps to take so that the wonders we see and love in these types of facilities aren’t going to disappear in the wild.

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Aquarium Berlin in the heart of Berlin is one of Europe’s best-known and most notable aquariums. Behind the building’s historic façade awaits an impressive diversity of species that few facilities in the world can rival.  The aquarium was built in 1913 as part of the Zoologischer Garten complex. In addition to fish and other aquatic life, it is home to most of the zoo’s reptiles, amphibians and invertebrates.

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The Aquarium Berlin, which you can also visit separately, has biotopes for sharks, piranhas and coral reef fish.

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The Aquarium not only houses numerous extraordinary fish, it is also home to hundreds of impressive reptiles and insects.

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The terrariums contain insects, amphibians and reptiles. Jellyfish pulse in glass cylinders. The aquarium is home to 13,000 animals. We have separate enclosures for reptiles.

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Among them are seven species of sharks, crocodiles, manatees, naked mole-rats, Nile hippos, aardvarks and extra ordinary fish.

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I walked around and saw sea lions, seals, hippos and penguins while the others went to the aquarium. Each year, millions of visitors of all ages come to Zoo Berlin for a delightful day out – with family, with friends, or alone.  Zoo Berlin is the perfect place to take the kids for a short getaway – any day of the year!

For further details:

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https://www.visitberlin.de/en/zoo-berlin

https://www.zoo-berlin.de/en/tickets

 

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Pat on back from others, may hold you Back


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Be aware of the pat on the back from others! It might be the one thing that holds you back.

In current weakened society, one of the methods people believe works is to give an instant pat on the back to someone once they do something positive/correct, etc. While this may be an effective method, all you are truly doing is weakening one person’s mind. You are essentially training a person to expect a congratulations/ an attaboy, etc., for every fucking thing they do. But, we are forgetting the very basic principles of being a basic fucking human being. Instead of the pat-on-the-back method, why not try this one? The fucking “supposed to” method!

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It is our job as leaders and teachers to teach people to not always look for the pat on the back rather to build a mindset that we are supposed to do and be our best all the time in every situation. We shouldn’t look for anything from anybody for simply doing our best.

You are supposed to get up early, make your bed and clean your house. You are supposed to work out almost every day. You are supposed to do the best you can in school every day. You are supposed to bring your best effort to work every day.

That pat on the back should only come when you have exceeded what most people consider exceptional work or have gone above and beyond what is expected.

Don’t expect a pat on the back for the shit that a human being is supposed to be doing every day of their lives and that is being the best that he/she can be in every situation in their life. It’s not about you. It’s about your team, the ones you love, and having pride in yourself. It’s not about what others think or feel about you- it’s about how you feel about yourself.

Like I say we(humans) don’t need approval, we know what we are supposed to do and just do it out of love for our family community country and lastly self. As long as I go above and beyond and can look at myself In the mirror and smile, it’s all good, “well done good and faithful servant” is the only praise I seek and I ain’t getting that in this life

Sometimes you just have to pat your own back for all that you do. Well, today is your day! Today recognize your accomplishments, your abilities, your personal greatness and give yourself a pat on the back. You’re not being conceited, you’re not being vain, you’re being proud of who you are and what you do.

Everyday congratulate yourself, thank yourself, check your path correct yourself and give yourself a big pat on the back. We must not forget to pat ourselves on the back for all that we’ve accomplished so far! It’ll fill us with great positivity and energy to move forward in life.

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Proud

Don’t be afraid to wear your pride on your sleeve,. Too often we fear being proud of ourselves for the concern that others will see us as cocky or boastful. But there is nothing wrong with giving ourselves a pat on the back or hearty congratulations when we have accomplished something- big, small, anything! DO not wait for someone to congratulate you. Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds.

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There is no Winter Today


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

May this Christmas festive season sparkle and shine, may all of your wishes and dreams come true, and may you feel this happiness all year round. Spending money on someone is nice, but spending time with them is nicer. The Christmas gifts will one day lose their luster – the memories of loved ones never will.

There is no winter today. But the warmth of summer in every heart.

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But the snow flakes of happiness

But the snowflakes of blessings

are shining in every corner, under the colorful festive lights .

There is no winter today

But the warmth of summer in every heart

But the warmth of Holy Spirit in every soul

But the warmth of friendship, family meeting, and reunion in every life

There is no winter today

On this sacred day of Lord Jesus’s birth

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is no winter today

But warmth of summer in every joyful loving heart

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is winter, but warmth of Summer in every heart

There is no coldness in any heart

But full of warmth love and kindness for every mankind .

……..Merry Christmas. ❤️🎄❄️❤️

By… Tapas Das

 

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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

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People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

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MAN Behind Million Smiles


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Dr RS Praveen Kumar is an IPS officer, who is very well known as a tough COP. More than that, he is a passionate leader who dedicated his life to bring change in millions of lives. In his new avatar, as a secretary of the Telangana Social Welfare Residential Educational Institutions Society (TSWREIS), which runs residential schools for Scheduled Caste, Scheduled Tribe and underprivileged children. Dr Kumar wanted to do something for the underprivileged was quite clear even when he was in uniform.

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Dr Kumar has bitter childhood. He came from a very poor family in a backward caste. His mother was a coolie who was rescued and given an education. She went on to become a teacher. His father too was a teacher. Education changed things for the family.learnt the value of education early in life from his parents. He studied veterinary science before being inspired to take the civil services examination and join the Indian Police Service (IPS) in 1995.

He was a decorated IPS officer and he had done a Masters in Public Administration under the Mason Programme at the Kennedy School in Harvard University when he opted to be Secretary of the schools.

The TSWREIS is an institution which runs residential schools for students from marginalised  communities. Until a few years ago, the society was known to perform poorly, but Dr Kumar has been credited as the man who turned it all around. When he took over as secretary, the  department was dreary and there seemed to be no life. Schools lacked facilities and teachers were not motivated enough. Dr Kumar changed all that within six months.

Dr Kumar started a movement  SWAROES, based on the ideologies of Jyothi Rao Phule and Dr. B R Ambedkar. Where SWAEROES stands for Social Welfare Aeroes (Greek for sky) it means that sky is the limit and there is no reverse gear or no looking back or no slowing down. It consists of alumni of the Society, who seek to empower those who come from similar backgrounds, with the help of ten commandments unique to the movement.

The TSWREIS runs 268 residential educational institutions, which provide free food, education and residential facilities to thousands of underprivileged children every year. Funded and operated by the Telangana government, it caters to students from primary level to the undergraduate level. The society has many accomplishments to its name. Dr Kumar is much loved and admired. He is a source of positive energy. He cuts an inspirational figure for children at the schools.

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A few students have really stood out like stars. Dr Kumar says he wants to give confidence to all students. Apart from the visible difficulties, like socio-economic issues, it is the lack of role models within the community which makes parents dither when sending their children, especially daughters, to schools. Parents are unaware that success can be achieved because those who are worthy of being emulated do not stay in the villages, Dr Kumar said.

Among his wards are Malavath Poorna, a 13-year-old who became the youngest girl to scale the Everest, Anand Kumar the first Dalit to scale the world’s tallest mountain. Under Dr Kumar’s leadership, sons and daughters of ordinary workers including daily wage earners and others got admission into premier institutions.

In the last five years, 48 students secured IIT seats, 133 joined NITs, 81 entered MBBS courses. Another 62 got entry into Azim Premji University, 12 in Delhi University, 31 in various Central universities, four in the Indian Navy School, and 11 in the Tata Institute of Social Sciences.

Dr Kumar proved that Service comes with sacrifice and one should be ready to take up challenges and this is definitely one of the best opportunities to make India as informed, inclusive, and invincible nation in the world.

Many say that Dr Kumar is the wind beneath the wings of students at Telangana’s social welfare hostels. He is the guiding force, opening endless doors for students from underprivileged sections and leading them to a limitless sense of being. They are given confidence to deal with life. 

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It´s Insane to play with people Emotions


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

If you’re in a relationship or dating someone or exploring a relationship where someone is toying or playing with your emotions, leaving you feeling miserable most or worse, all of the time, you need to leave ASAP. No one should have that much control over your emotions. You should never give someone that kind of power where they can take away your good and positive energy and happiness. And that’s exactly what they’ll be doing, that is, if you let them. WhatsApp Image 2019-11-09 at 9.19.37 PM

Some people will be wishy-washy, uncertain, confused, ambivalent, emotionally unavailable, or simply, they might just be a total jerk or a player. But what you need to do is recognize it when a person acts like they don’t know what they want, or if and when they change their mind every other day, or even every two minutes for that matter. We need to become aware of the types of people who we surround ourselves with in our lives. People who have these types of issues are not people who anyone should be associating with, but especially, on a romantic level, and even moreso, when we want something stable, long term, meaningful, and with future potential.

Think about it! Imagine going to sleep on a happy, peaceful, and loving note with your partner, where you feel so in love and as if you and your honey are better than ever, and BOOM! First second you open your eyes in the morning and look down at your cell phone and you have a long-a** text message saying how your partner loves you somuch, but has doubts and thinks that it’s better to end things for this or that reason. But wait, two days later, the cycle repeats, and they want you back, apologize and regret leaving, making excuses for why they’d left, and the instability goes on and on in this type of toxic pattern for—as long as you let it.

Many people will make promises to you, but never keep them. But when you’re in a relationship with someone who does this, and even moreso, when they do it quite often, it will not only drive you nuts, not to mention provoke you if you’re the sensitive type, but it will steal your inner peace, and make you feel miserable from all of the in and out, on and off, wishy-washy, back and forth instability. EVERYONE who wants to be in an exclusive relationship wants that relationship to be stable. No one gets into a relationship and feels good when they go through break up after break up, and all of the time.

Ukh! Breaking up with someone is hard enough, right? But when someone breaks up, makes up, and repeats that unstable pattern so often, you’ll never know what to expect. When someone is so unpredictable and wishy-washy, but you choose to stay with them regardless and perhaps because you love them, you’re basically causing your own misery by staying. My best advice would be to leave. A person who is so unstable that they break up or continuously go back and forth with how they feel or what they want with you, or if they make promises or give you their word, but never follow through, you should move on, and find someone who therapists will kill me for saying is “normal.”

You have to recognize when someone brings out the worst in you, and take it as a BIG sign that you should leave, because they’re obviously not the right match for you. You shouldn’t be sweeping red flags under the rug, and you shouldn’t give someone chance after chance to change and improve themselves or to just once—keep their word, when they keep letting you down.

Not everyone deserves multiple chances. I mean, O.K., if you’re married, you should be willing to fight for things to work and with all of your power, but in a relationship, when you see that you’re completely a mess and unhappy more often than not, and when you see that a person thrives on creating drama and is just making you feel miserable on a daily basis, LEAVE for goodness sake! I mean, come on! Relationships are all about seeing if you’ll be good enough together so that you can take things to the next level.

So when you see that someone is not only making you unhappy a lot of the time, but that they’re completely unstable and that’s one of the main things that’s provoking your unhappiness, you should start thinking with your head instead of your heart. You see, despite how much someone might love or even think that they love you, when a person really loves you, they won’t cause you so much pain and discomfort. And especially when they see how much they’re hurting you all of the time by their words and actions.

Now, when it comes to someone stringing their partner along, I’m basically referring to when someone tells their partner certain things, makes promises, but never follows through with them. I’m referring to when your partner lets you down a lot and convinces you that things will be different soon, and that they will change and improve, and that they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you by their side and make you feel happy, but nothing changes.

People who string their partner along are usually some of the most selfish types of people, because they end up hurting someone who they claim to, or possibly even do really love. But the problem is, that when someone keeps stringing their partner along, many times, they’re wasting their time, hurting them, and at times, even keeping them from finding someone else who will not only be stable, but who will be a better match for them. This is especially bad if the person stringing their partner along, is doing so when they already know they they ultimately won’t be with their partner in the future, yet they’re simply too attached or too afraid of letting their partner go for whatever reason. I mean, talk about selfish!

When someone strings you along, they usually do so like I said, for selfish reasons. But one of those selfish reasons is because they want everything to be their way. They usually aren’t willing to compromise or make changes, other than changes to what they might’ve originally said that they wanted or even in regards to what you both might’ve agreed to early on when dating. What’s really unfortunate though, is when a person strings their partner along when they’re older, and especially when their partner wants to settle down and have children, knowing ahead of time that the person is likely not going to be the person who they will be with in their future, but they want to be with them anyway, despite their age, and despite the other person’s circumstances.

Many people want what they want and simply don’t care who they might hurt along the way, as long as they get it. Having said that, not everyone’s motives are initially bad, and not everyone knows right away they they won’t end up with someone. I mean after all, how could anyone know how they’ll feel until they get to know someone on a deeper level. However, when a person directly tells you their concerns early on, yet you avoid or ignore them, thinking, “I can do it! (arrogantly or maybe even selfishly based on lust or thinking with anything but your head) or thinking that somehow you’ll make things work, despite the obvious challenges that maybe your partner had even voiced to you as concerns, you’ll be at fault for wasting their time.

You see, despite having pure and good intentions, it’s not always enough. Having pure intentions isn’t enough, when you don’t follow through with your word. And dreaming of having what you want and going after it when you ultimately know that it’s wrong or that someone isn’t the right match for you, yet you go after it anyway, is completely selfish and wrong. This is when listening to your instinct can be helpful. As well as using your logic and heart when exploring relationships.

When two people explore a relationship together, there shouldn’t have to be so much drama, confusion, instability, or back and forth. When you see that things aren’t working out early on or when you don’t feel that you can keep your word or follow through with what you initially thought or said that you would, you need to ends things with the other person sooner, rather than later. You see, holding off ending things when you have major doubts, is just plain selfish, because you’re holding back the other person from their “real” match.

Remember, it’s never nice to play with people’s emotions, to mislead them, or to be selfish and not think before you do things. Don’t lead people on. If you know that someone isn’t the right match for you, don’t waste their time by dating them and giving them hope. Giving false hope to someone or stringing them along for the ride, knowing that you can’t or won’t ultimately stick around is cruel. Think of the possible consequences of your actions and be careful not to hurt others by being selfish.

You should never waste someone’s time by stringing them along for your selfish reasons. Be a good person, and let someone know when you have doubts early on, and preferably before you get too close (attached or intimate), so that they don’t end up feeling used or that they were taken advantage of. Be selfless, not selfish, and even if you love someone but know that you ultimately won’t end up with them for whatever reasons, you shouldn’t waste their time. Love them enough to let them go… ……..By… Vishal

Finally one suggestion, People play with our feelings because we let them play,people usually play with feelings of those persons who are emotionally weak,they know even if they will hurt that person.he/she can’t do anything other than crying or making excuses but on the other side they don’t even try to play with feelings of mentally strong person because they know even if they will do it will not affect him/her so always act strong,no matter what so is going in your life,it will always help you

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Journey from Nowhere to NOW HERE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I feel so fortunate and happy  to say that, all I am today is by adding a little space in my life to “ I am NOWHERE” to make “I am NOW HERE”. Along with my parents, I made myself as a footpath to make me reach what I am Today.  When I started facing the world of opportunities with obstacles, I am very well aware that being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. A hungry stomach during my childhood, empty pocket during my school/college days, painful treatment from trusted ones and broken heart in every phase of my life taught the great life lessons and turned me into the person who i should actually be i.e. what I am Today..

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on IMG_20191103_061339 bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) to Quality Control Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. Its true. I never feel shy to say where I started and where are my roots are. By considering my current position or traits or appearance, many assume that I am from a High end family, who´s born with Silver spoon. Which is not correct. In each step of my Life I faced obstacles, hurdles, ill-treatments from society for being born in low class, caste family, but I let nothing to distract me from reaching my goals.

I started my journey like others from a very poor rural set up ,having no support or idealism to follow. It started like a lonely leaf in the whirl pool. I am born in a below middle class family with only moral values not money.  As a very small child I don’t remember too much other than ethics, moral, values taught by my parents and the painful childhood experienced in various forms. The things that I do remember were seen through a child’s eyes that has made me the person that I am today and I will always have those memory’s with me until my last breath on this earth.

My parents are not educated, they are able to teach me only moral values to live proper life, with which i started my life’s journey. Due to economical situation of family, my parents requested my sisters to give-up their dream of becoming Engineer, Doctor to see me and my brother as Software Engineers. Seen many highs and lows. Faced many failures enjoyed many success. In my small journey learned few but important things. Most of them are taught by parents, teachers/faculty, my girlfriends, brother, family of friends.

Today, I proudly say, I have forgotten my struggles in life to exist but could not forget the pleasure in coming out with flying colors from all sufferings. With successful Computers Graduation and Post-graduation as a topper at college, University levels, I could impart my knowledge, experience and expertise to thousands of students, employees across countries inform of Guest Lectures, Trainings and through my writings in form of books, articles and websites. Most of my students are now established in various countries. But most surprising and happiest fact is that they acknowledge my contribution in their carrier even today .

I believe in these lines..

“If you learn from your experiences, you are an intelligent, if you learn from experiences of others you are a Genius”
“It doesn’t matter whom you choose as a role-model in life, but before you leave this world, you should become a role-model even to a person”
“I am not sure if I am going to be with you till my last breath, but for sure my words & moments you spent with me are going to be with you till your last breath”
“Its better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees”

I have had my own share of highs and lows.I am thankful for what I have. I can´t say that I have always been very mature about the way I have handled the highs and lows. I have had my bouts of arrogance when I flew high and then bouts of low morale when things went badly. Life however did teach me that nothing ever lasts…not the good times, and definitely not the bad. I have therefore learnt to take things as they come and never to give-up irrespective obstacles in the journey. This has been my biggest learning.

I think what makes my life exciting are not the right things but the mistakes.. Things that I should not have done, things that I should have done in better way. I have learnt from my mistakes no matter how I clichéd it sounds.. I have made mistakes but they played their part in making me what I am today. I am happy to be me. I do not wish to live anyone else’s life. I will keep on learning from my life. But at the age of late 30´s, I think I am a grown up person and ready to commit more mistakes in the coming future.. 😉 of course the new ones as per this generation..

Here are few lines to People, Who…

Who looks at the world from a different perspective.
Who still believes in his or her dreams.
Who see life as living thing and life worth living.
Who do not settle for low.

For everyone who strives for change.
For everyone who doesn’t accept the way things work today.
For everyone who don’t accept the status quo.
This is for the ones who challenge the challenges.

This is for the ones who break down existing barriers.
For the ones make the impossible possible.
For the ones most people would call crazy.
This is for people just like you and me…

Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches.
When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.

Giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, when your life appears to be falling apart, but it is hardest and worst thing you can do to sit in the rubble of your shattered dreams. You need to not see your current failures and hardships as your final destination, because they are not!  The easiest and best thing for you to do is to take several deep breaths and take steps to keep moving on. One step at a time is the only way to move through and put some space between where you are and where you belong!

Perhaps you have been longing to arrive at your destination, reach your goals and declare yourself “Now Here,” only to suffer a mighty setback and feel like you have actually arrived at “nowhere!” There is hope! You need to keep moving forward, keep pressing on toward the goal, keeping your eyes focused and having faith that you are loved more than you can possibly imagine. By taping into that love, you will find the strength and hope to continue through the difficulties.

Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
It doesn’t matter where did you start..
or how old or how young you are.
or how much or how little money you have.
or what your current job is or where you work.
or how big or small your mortgage is.
or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle.
or in which country you live.
The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

Life sure has opened it’s cards one by one. It takes great courage and perseverance to sail through the roughest of the tides. It would have been a great journey but there have been moments when you question your own capabilities. Never loose faith and hope.

If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.

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CPR – It Saves Life of a Person & ❤ of his Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) is an emergency procedure that combines chest compressions often with artificial ventilation in an effort to manually preserve intact brain function until further measures are taken to restore spontaneous blood circulation and breathing in a person who is in cardiac arrest. From School going children to Adults, everyone should have some awareness on CPR.  It not only saves life of person who is dying, but also saves his entire family from loosing the heart of their family

In the present busy and pressure world, everyone is exposed to one or other health issues. The frequent and common thing that we hear now a days is Heart Attack or Cardio Arrest. Its not limited to Humans(Adults, Infants, Kids), we can see even same issues in pets. Its good to know the life Saving Steps in the Event of a Heart Attack or Sudden Cardiac Arrest.

Heart attacks , Cardiac Attacks can strike without warnings. They are becoming what the steps of CPR areincreasingly common across world. The statistics are indeed worrying; 50% of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 50 years of age and a quarter of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 40 years of age, according to the data available with Indian Heart Association.

Also, those living in urban areas are three times more susceptible than the rural population. In the light of such disturbing statistics, one would be better off getting to know some steps which may come in handy in the event of a heart attack.

What is a heart attack?

The heart is a muscle, and like all muscles it requires an oxygen-rich blood supply. This is provided to the heart by coronary arteries. A heart attack occurs when there is a blockage of the coronary arteries. This is often caused by a blood clot. Such a blockage, if not quickly resolved, can cause parts of heart muscle to begin to die. (1-3)

What is a cardiac arrest?

A cardiac arrest is different to a heart attack. In a cardiac arrest the heart actually stops beating; whereas in a heart attack the heart normally continues to beat even though the blood supply to the heart is disrupted.

Symptoms of  heart attack are:

  1. Shortness of breath
  2. Chest pain like pressure, squeezing or fullness
  3. Pain radiating to the shoulder, arms, neck, jaw, back and the stomach which be intermittent or last a few minutes
  4. Cold sweats
  5. Nausea or vomiting
  6. Lightheadedness, dizziness and/or fainting
  7. Anxiety
  8. Feeling restless or panicky
  9. Unexplained fatigue, especially in women and the elderly
  10. Numbness, aching or tingling sensation, usually in the left arm, but may occur in the
    right arm too in some cases
  11. Breathlessness or wheezing or coughing

Symptoms of  Cardiac attack are:

  1. Sudden loss of consciousness/responsiveness
  2. No breathing
  3. No pulse
  4. Chest pain
  5. Shortness of breath
  6. Weakness
  7. Dizziness
  8. Palpitations
  9. Nausea

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STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM ADULT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Push down hard and fast in the middle of the chest, over the breastbone, with one hand on top of the other and fingers interlaced
  • Press down  2-2.4 inches deep and at least 100-120 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose shut and cover the victim’s mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and check to see if the victim’s chest rises
  • If their chest does not rise, give another breath 

Mouth to mouth is optional, but highly recommended for child and infant CPR

Continue 30 Compressions And 2 Breaths Until:

  • The victim begins to breathe
  • An AED is ready to use
  • A trained rescuer arrives
  • You are too exhausted to continue

Special Considerations for Adult CPR:

Depending on the age of the Adult victim, the rescuer may fracture the sternum and/or ribs of the victim when performing CPR

  • In order for CPR to be effective, the rescuer must push down hard, at least 2 inches deep, on the victim’s chest. Although, this pressure may do harm to the victim such as break bones. The decision to give CPR relies on the rescuer, but physicians suggest that the victim would most likely rather live with broken bones than not live at all

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING ADULT

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM CHILD CPR (1YR-8YR):

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • You can use one or two hands: For one-handed compressions, press down hard and fast on the center of the chest using the heel of your hand
  • For two-handed compressions, push down hard and fast on the center of the chest with the heel of one hand and place the other over top
  • Push down about 2 inches deep, giving at least 100 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose closed and cover their mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and look for their chest to rise
  • If the chest doesn’t rise, give another breath

STEPS ON HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING CHILD

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

If child becomes unconscious, perform CPR. Start 30 to 2

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM INFANT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Using two fingers, push down in the center of the chest, just below the nipple line
  • Give 30 chest compressions at the rate of at least 100 per minute
  • Press down approximately 1 1/2 inches deep
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression 
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted into a neutral, or sniffing, position
  • Cover the infant’s mouth and nose with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Give 2 rescue breaths, each 1 second long
  • You should see the infant’s chest rise with each breath

**A baby’s lungs are much smaller than an adult’s, so it takes much less than a full breath to fill them

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING INFANT:

** The infant cannot cough, cry or breathe**

  1. Give 5 Back Blows
  • Place the infant in one hand with their face facing down
  • Give 5 firm back blows with the heel of one hand between the infant’s shoulder blades

2.Give 5 Chest Thrusts

  • Turn the infant over so their face is upwards in one arm with the same hand cupping their head
  • Place two or three fingers in the center of the infant’s chest just below the nipples and press down onto the breastbone, about 1 1/2 inches deep – 5 Compressions

**Be sure to support the infant’s head and neck with one hand and arm, and keep the head lower than the chest** 

Continue Sets of 5 Back Blows And 5 Chest Thrusts Until:

  • The object is forced out
  • The infant can cough, cry or breathe
  • The infant becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) , if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM PET CPR:

  1. Check For Breathing And a Pulse
  • Using your middle and index fingers, check your pet’s pulse below its wrist, inner thigh, below the ankle, or where the left elbow touches the chest
  • Check pulse below wrists, inner thight, ankle or where left elbow touches chest
  1. Look For Other Warning Signs
  • The gums and lips will appear gray in color
  • The pupils will be dilated
  1. If No Pulse, Start CPR
  • Lay your pet on its right side, with its heart facing upwards
  • Place your hands over the ribs where its elbows touches the chest
  • Begin chest compressions

**DO NOT give compressions if the animal has a pulse

  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: press down ½ – 1 inch
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: press down 1 – 1 ½ inches
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: press down 1 ½ – 2 inches
  1. Rescue Breaths
  • If your pet is not breathing, give rescue breaths
  • Cats and small dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose and mouth, and blow until you see chest rise
  • Medium to large dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose, blow until you see chest rise
  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: give 10 compressions per breath

Continue Compressions And Breaths Until:

  • Your pet starts to breathe or has a pulse

**Check its pulse after 1 minute when first starting CPR, and then after every few minutes

The above steps are easy to remember and one must have the presence of mind to perform it when the need arises. Doing so may help save a person’s life.

 

References.. Various Health sites, reliable web pages

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Marriage isn’t a love affair. It isn’t even a honeymoon. It’s a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they’ve worked at anything in their lives before. If it’s a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it goes on getting better. I’ve seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I’ve seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it’s never one person’s fault. It’s the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn’t a cure, it’s a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the Enddivorce-is-not-the-end

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status.

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

2b2ab942cd8dda95fb9bfb43d3fe8bec7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

 

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!”
Words by Shipra Jain…..

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Ignoring is Killing a Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
 

Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but never know when the last chance may be. I honestly think one of the biggest mistakes people make is to take people for granted in their LIFE. Parents not always going to be around to help you understand things you can’t understand yourself and they are not going to be around you to constantly correcting your mistakes, protecting you and to guide you. Remember that people who love you unconditionally are so precious! Never miss such persons in life. Many of us take people for granted, like it’s just a given for them to always be there with us. People constantly say that we need to treat life for what it is , precious, because we don’t know when it’s going to end… but same goes with PEOPLE who love and live for us.WhatsApp Image 2019-08-26 at 9.31.58 PM

People are precious. Without those around us where would we be, the people around us make us. People are precious. Without each other we wouldn’t be anything. We should stop using each other and cheating each other for personal growth and benefits. The only beneficial thing in life is helping each other, taking care of each other, showing each other that together we can truly make a difference. Separate we are ordinary but together we are extraordinary.

Every time you take the person for granted, you are teaching them to live without you and you offering your place to others in their LIFE.

Don’t ever take anyone for granted because before you know it, you’ll only have so much time left with them. You’ll be hit with the sudden realization that everything about them that you’ve been taking for granted for as long as you remember will not be there anymore, nor will that person either. Your relationship with this person will slip away from you faster than you know it and you’ll regret every last thing you didn’t do, and every little thing you did do to them.

When a person give, it does not come with strings. They does not keep track of what you owe them. When they give, they choose to do so without ulterior motives. They give because their love and care is genuine. They give because they know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When they give it’s because they get it. It’s because they know the value in what they have in their heart and they refuse to let the world stop them from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate their sincerity. They won’t switch, they won’t get angry, and they won’t be spiteful. They’ll just get smart and they’ll change your role in my life. Because when they give, they give portion of their life to you. But when they are done, there’s no looking back.

Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted

 In your LIFE if you have someone who ultimately loves and cares about you, PLEASE do not take that person for granted. It’s very hard to get people who really love us without any expectations. It doesn’t matter what your relation with that person is and also it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with that person or not. Right now, we are living in a world where it’s hard to find someone who will be love you, Live for you, hold your in tough situations and who is ready to give himself for you. So to have someone who will love and support you no matter what is a blessing.  Because no matter how strong we say we are, we still need someone to stick by our side. So please, just don’t ever take anyone for granted, and just appreciate and be grateful for every single breathing soul you have in your life.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.
 

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Failure is Proof that You haven’t Finished YET


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by…. Prawin

No KING ruled a Kingdom forever and no Mountaineer who reached the peak of MOUNT EVEREST Stayed there forever. Even our History proves that, the people who reach  unscaled heights are bound to get low in their personal as well as professional lives. Success is not property of anyone or its is not for only few people in world. Success is never permanent, and failure is never final. People may fail in academics, love, profession, relationships, fulfilling their dreams. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren’t where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

World evaluate people by what they finish, not by what they. The reason most people do not go far in life is they procrastinate procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried. Do not sit back and take what comes, go after what you want. The door of opportunity will not open unless you push. The choice of given up or going on is a defining moment in your life. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless you decide not to rise again. The world will always give you the opportunity to quit, but only the world would call quitting an opportunity. One of the most powerful success principles ever preached is Never, Never, Never give up.. IMG_20190817_221529.jpg

At very early age of my life, I realized that every single person have battles in their life. No matter what that is and how big or small it is. At the end of the day, you’re your own hero. When you’re feeling low, don’t look for somebody’s hands, lift yourself up and be your inspiration, guide, motivator and number one supporter. Every day we need to give ourselves a pat on the back. Not for achieving something or when something goes well. But we need it when no one is there but only you. Remember, life is not puppy dogs and rainbows. It gets stormy and dark sometimes. And it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to feel everything at the same time. It’s okay to commit mistakes and mess up on something. Remember, you will always have another chance to make things right.

My greatest glory wasn’t that I never failed. It was that I rose every time I did fall. That’s why this quote means so much to me. If I turn back and see my life, I still can see images of kid from a village going to every house to sell MILK (which is our family’s source of income) as milk vendor. From that stage, I fought every battle that my life put before me. I failed many times in my life’s journey, i did many mistakes, i was insulted by people around and each time I failed, I learnt a lesson. I never gave up and made use of every opportunity and grabbed each of them. After such a struggle, I came to a stage where I am today (The head of Quality Assurance wing for a Software Firm In London, UK. ). Only God and Myself know how many times I fell down and rose every time I fell . I never realized the validity of failure until I realized they had guided me to where I am today. If it wasn’t for that pain, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I wouldn’t be sharing all of this with you.

Today we face so many threats from the world we live in. But the biggest fear comes from within… the fear to fall. Even the most non-technical analysis tells us that the main reason behind this fear is not the fall itself but being witnessed by the whole world while we fall. Many of us work day in  and day out out to top the list of the performers in our chosen fields, and try to make ourselves conform up to the standards the world expects from us.  There are many others who do not care about the world though, but are still working relentlessly to achieve their set goals. The thought of any fall in the way to success for both gives them jitters since it seems to have a potential of eventually culminating in a failure.

I well know, it is never easy to wake up and face the same demons that you left the night before. But is it not the end of the world. You must keep going and push forward. The success awaits those who believe that SUCCESS IS NOT PERMANENT, THE SAME WAY AS FAILURE IS NOT  FINAL. So every time we fall, instead of brooding  over the fall and wasting our precious time, we should rather get up and get moving as soon as possible with full faith in our capabilities and full hope for our success at last.

IMG_20190817_194631.jpgThe fact that you have failed is proof that you are not finished. Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. It is not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it”.  Your success will be measured by your willingness to keep on trying. Have the courage to rise each time you fall, you can either stand up and be counted or lie down and be counted out. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down.

Life is a never ending battle between you and the uncontrollable forces that try to fail you. Life is all about rising up in spite of the ache. It’s about picking yourself after a crashing defeat. No matter what you feel, you have to get up because what remains in your life is still worth fighting for. It is your responsibility not to give up because it is only you who decide for your life. Stay on course. Stay brave and be a warrior. There’s always hope. Again, there’s always hope. When you are persistent, it is proof you have not been defeated, life holds no greater wealth than that of steadfast commitment. It cannot be robbed from you, only you can lose it by your will. People do not fail, they just quit too soon.

So please do yourself a favor, never give up. You fight through the stress. You fight the anxiety. You fight through the pain. You through the insults. You fight all the negative circumstances in your life. You fight through the demons that are beating you down to your knees. Life is full of golden opportunities, every person has a lot that they can do, so start with what you can do; do not stop because of what you cannot do. Great opportunities will come as you make the most of small ones.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 

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Dads aren’t moms, it’s exactly why daughters need them


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father, none of us can assume life without this role. It’s truly disappointing whenever some says or sees fathers as just money earning machine or a person who is there in family to control or regulate kids . Till last decade World considered fathers were often those who were left in charge of providing the family, while mothers were considered the primary and only caretakers…However, it is good to know that nowadays, fatherhood has a completely different meaning. Because parenting is not only a mother’s responsibility. Good parenting means having equal roles and responsibilities when it comes to raising your children.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM (1)A lot has changed for fathers over the past few generations. In today’s world Fathers  are much more informed and involved with their children, taking an active part in the nurturing of their children, from feeding — whether expressed breast milk or formula — to changing diapers, soothing, clothing, bathing, reading to, and helping their baby go to sleep.

Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. They create us, introduce us to this world and everything in it, raise us, help us overcome our fears, have an active role in shaping our personality and creating our own world from scratch. However, regardless of the fact that both mom and dad are an essential part of a child’s development, there is one special bond I think you’ll all agree that plays a big role in a kid’s life. From the moment little girls are born, fathers play a key role in the psychological development of their daughters. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters’ lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are.

That’s the indestructible, everlasting, powerful bond between fathers and daughters. A father serves as the guide for a little girl to blossom into a strong and courageous young woman

When it comes to raising girls, moms often get most of the pressure and the credit. Whether regarding menstrual issues, boy problems, or makeup tips, mom is usually the first person girls turn to. I see too many men buy into the idea of ‘that’s a girl’s issue’ or ‘only a woman can understand another woman’ and avoid talking to their daughters about sex, dating, or other ‘girly’ topics.

I think it would be hard to overstate the value of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have more confidence, high self-esteem, and believe they can achieve their goals.⠀

Mothers, don’t me wrong. You undoubtedly have the strongest and most unique connection with your children. But there is something special about the daughter-father bond that affects the lives of their daughters in a truly intriguing and life-changing way.

A father is the first male figure in a girl’s life.

He is the true source of her values & morals.

He is the safe shelter that she goes to.

He is the pillar of her strength.

Her first love.

While moms cuddle us and teach us to be gentler, fathers encourage us to be strong. To never stop being curious, even though we make mistakes. To never give up no matter how afraid we are. To always push our limits. The mother is the one who avoids risks, and the father is the one who encourages us to always try and learn from our mistakes.

It’s no doubt. The family plays a big role in preparing us for all future relationships.  Daughters get to know how to get along with their husbands, friends, boyfriends and other people in their life after getting along with father and brother.WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM

So, naturally, problematic relationships with men, depressive symptoms or low levels of self-esteem are often the residue of a father’s desertion.  When children grow up with a feeling of closeness with their fathers in the period of adolescence, they are more likely to develop a healthy and satisfying adult marital relationship.

A healthy relationship with the father prevents a daughter from being afraid of establishing an intimate relationship in her future life. For any girl, love with her father is always the first experience of love and introduces her to what male love is all about. If there is a positive love experience with her father in her early years, she is going to do much better and vice versa.  As compared to mothers,  fathers generally have more impact on how daughters relate to men. That is exactly why a positive father-daughter relationship has a big impact on a daughter’s interpersonal problems and interactions.

Here are some ideas for creating a loving and secure relationship with your daughter.

Begin the Day She Is Born: To create a positive relationship with your daughter, start on the day she is born. Get involved in her life from the very beginning by taking an active role in caring for your baby girl. The more time you spend with her early on, the easier it will be to continue building the relationship later.

Be Involved: The hallmark of every great father-daughter relationship is a father who is actively interested and involved in his daughter’s life. Being involved is about more than asking about her day. Instead, it means finding out what she is interested in or excited about and sharing in it with her.

Teach Her New Things: It is wonderful when you teach your daughter to ride a bike, throw a softball, to read, or even to do chores. But often the best things you can teach her are the things society might consider “guy things.” Skills like checking the oil in a car, putting bait on a fishing hook, building a computer program, using a hammer and nails, or even hitting a cricket ball will serve your daughter well.

Love Her Unconditionally: Every young girl needs to know that she is loved even when she messes up. When she makes poor choices be careful not to ridicule, shame, or demean her. Instead, help her learn and grow. Use these situations as opportunities to teach her something. Just be calm, patient, and loving in the process.

Plan Fun Time: Every father-daughter relationship should include daddy-daughter dates. These moments together don’t have to be anything elaborate. Simply checking out the latest toys at the toy store, going out for ice cream, or attending the library’s storytime are great options for daddy-daughter dates.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.57.55 PMBe Her Confidant: Many girls love to talk. They also tend to be more vocal than boys growing up. You can build your relationship with your daughter by listening more and allowing her to confide in you. Pay attention to what she says when you are together. Listen to what she is thinking about, dreaming of, and wishing for in her life.

Validate Her Often: Modern culture and the media often give young girls the wrong messages. For instance, it is common for girls to believe that they need to be a certain weight, wear the right makeup, and dress a certain way to be beautiful. But, you can diminish those messages by validating the way your daughter looks. When you tell her she is beautiful, you are emphasizing that she is perfect just the way she is. You also can emphasize the importance of being beautiful inside too.

Write Notes and Letters: Just about every little girl loves cards, notes, and letters. Take the time to write your daughter regular notes and letters expressing your feelings. Let her know how you feel about her, and tell her how proud you are of her.

Be a Great Example of Manhood: The way you treat other women makes a big difference in how your daughter will see men later in her life. Be respectful, kind, generous, and loving toward her and her mother, as well as the other female friends and relatives in your lives. Simple courtesy and kindness will go a long way in helping her know what to expect of the men in her life.

A father should create a safe and protective environment for his daughter not only physically but also emotionally.  A father’s behavior should encourage his daughters to never feel afraid to share their feelings.

The understanding between a father and his daughter is unbeatable. They are inseparable and feel quite restless when they aren’t around each other. A daughter brings out the best father in a man while that best father is busy raising a wonderful girl. Cheers to all the father-daughter duos. 🙂

In the end, it is no doubt that we are the product of those who raise us.

Daughter May Outgrow your lap but not HEART of a Father.

 

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Guide to make Sex Life Beautiful


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When it comes to sex, you might be wondering if there are tips and tricks guys want to share, but don’t. Frankly, there is no is no standard such list of tips. Everyone is different, and what works for one guy might not work for another. Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.

There’s a common belief that most Men want to have more sex, but is this really the case? Does only Men want Sex. ? Its not true. Its not limited to Gender. Even Woman look  for good Sex. Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different from their male partners.

Most men’s minds tend readily to say “yes” to sex. Whereas most women’s minds tend to say “maybe,” or “that depends.” For Men it’s an instant Maggie noodle, whereas for woman lot of things come into play.

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“Women need a reason to have sex. Men need a reason to have sex, too.  But for most men, the reason can be as simple as your partner taking off their shirt, coming out from shower etc. In Simple terms,Men just need a place to have Sex.

It reminds me of one of my friend who said: “It’s not fair, my husband is always up for it, he gets aroused, gets an erection and he is ready go. It never was a problem for me in our first years together but now with our busy lives and two young children I don’t look forward to it any more. I really love him but we keep arguing about it all the time, which really puts me off sex. Can you please suggest me what to do?”

It’s important for couples not to blame each other for different levels of sexual interest. This desire discrepancy, as it is often called, does not generally reflect a lack of love but can lead to questioning sexual compatibility as a couple. The main problem is that the person who wants sex more almost always feels rejected by their partner. They may take it personally and begin to wonder if they are still attractive, not desired any more, or maybe their partner has a lover.

Most couples argue about the frequency of sex; one person wants sex three times a week and the partner is content with once a week or fortnight. However, the partner with the lower sex drive controls the frequency of sex — if she or he doesn’t want it, it generally doesn’t happen. This is usually not due to being vindictive or needing power and control, it’s just that why would anyone want to have sex when they are not in the mood?

Here are some tips for Men and Women who wanna have health Sexual bond.

What do woman and men crave in bed, but are too shy to ask? Here are some ideas of what women, man want during sex. Its like a detailed Step-by-step guide to make your nights memorable with your partner. Make some of these ideas your own—then forward to the guys in your circle.

Find out if the person wants to have sex: This is the most important part about a good sexual experience. If one of the partners is not ‘in the mood’ or does not want to have sex it can lead to the entire process turning sour. Not to mention the fact that it can leave you or your partner with a sense of being violated or used. So, find out if he/she wants to have sex. Some common indicators you should look out for is if the person seems keen on being with you physically, touches you or increases his/her proximity to you.

39159b6b575d2f0e58c92b5bbc85005dGive yourself time. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing; working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Maintain physical affection. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

Be prepared: Sex is a wonderful thing. It’s pleasurable and makes you feel happy. It also has a number of other health benefits like helping you burn calories and beating depression. It’s no wonder that we are the only species that has sex for pleasure and not solely procreation. But with all that fun come problems like unwanted pregnancies, STDs and emotional setbacks. So being prepared is your best option. If you are planning to have a one-night stand or are taking the first step towards a committed relationship remember that you should have your mind in sync with what your body wants.

Choose the location and set the mood: Sex is an intimate act, at least it should be. So pick a spot where both of you will be uninhibited, especially if it’s your first time. Pick a place that is private and has a comfortable place to have sex in. A good soft bed with mood lighting always helps the cause (unless you plan to tread on an experimental path). So splurge a little bit. Remember pleasure does come at a cost.

Approach the person gently and do not seem too desperate: Coming on too strongly or being pushy about having sex is one of the biggest turn offs. So don’t seem desperate (even if you are dying to be with the person), allow the other person some space to express their feelings as well. You should definitely show that you are interested in getting physically intimate but back off if you feel the other person is not reciprocating. Sex should be a choice so let them choose.

Kiss and caress: The first step towards physical intimacy is kissing. Most women love to kiss and a passionate kiss can definitely put her in the mood for some more. Moreover being close, kissing, touching and caressing your partner helps stimulate their erogenous zones which will lead to more pleasurable sex. It also leads to a stronger sense of closeness and safety – two emotions that help a person perform better in bed.  So touch him/her, kiss and make your partner wanted. This is also another way to help quell the person’s body image issues (if they have any), making them more comfortable in your presence.porls7yry8

Have a lot of foreplay: This is where you can either choose to remove your clothes or have your partner undress you. Another way to go about it is to remove one piece of clothing at a time, making the entire process a mystery. When it comes to foreplay, most people think that sex is only penetrative. But the act does include foreplay. Foreplay, as the name suggests is what you do before you have sex. It includes fondling, kissing, stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones and oral sex as well. Make sure you get enough of this in. It is often the most enjoyable part of the whole sexual experience because the two of you can experiment with a number of methods. Tip for men: Women can orgasm multiple times. So pleasure your woman, she will definitely be in the mood for some more and thank you for it in more ways than one. Tip for women: Most men love to be touched as well, so make him feel good. Touch him, kiss him and feel his entire body. Don’t hold back and don’t be the only one hogging all the pleasure.

Pick the right moment: The right moment to have penetrative sex is usually felt and is often mutual. Pick the moment when your partner really wants to move on to the next step. In some cases asking if the other person is ready or if he/she wants more is a good way to know when it’s time. Once you know that he/she is ready, take it to the next level.

Insertion: This is the most hyped part about sex and is often believed to be the only thing that happens during it. But there’s nothing further from the truth. In this step the penis is inserted into the vagina. Tip for men: The vagina is an elastic organ present just below the woman’s vulva (external lips of her genitals). If you are having protective sex, make sure you wear a condom before you insert your penis into her vagina. A number of men get the position wrong and tend to ‘look around’ with their penis (try to penetrate without knowing where the vagina is) this can be painful for the woman. So a good way to find the vagina without being embarrassed is to ask your partner to help you.

Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help overcome problems. For example, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.

Use lubrication. Often, the vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex—a problem that can snowball into flagging libido and growing relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.

img_0867Love making: Once the initial penetration is complete, you can choose to have sex however you both are comfortable. Men, make sure you thrust (your penis into her vagina) in rhythmic motions and do it from the hip; this will ensure your woman gets the maximum pleasure. Moving your entire body is counterproductive. Most importantly listen to your partner and your body. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and make sure you take your partner’s pleasure into consideration and make her happy too. Tip for women: Be proactive in bed. Move when your man moves. Thrusting can be pleasurable and even more so when you both are doing it in sync and together. Tell your man what you do and don’t like. Also, make sure you pleasure him as well.

Last few moments: Once you both have climaxed or the sex is about to get over, you both will most probably be in a state of elation. Allow yourselves to be in that state for as long as you need to be. Remember this is the phase where you can choose to hold each other or simply be next to each other. Don’t rush things; let your body come back to its normal state. Rushed sex can be exciting sometimes but if it is done on a regular basis it can leave you feeling a bit incomplete. Tip for men: Most women like to be held or cuddled at this point. Indulge her. After all she has been a partner in your sexual romp. Tip for women: If you liked the experience, tell your partner that. There is nothing like an ego boost after a good time between the sheets.

Winding up: The post coital part can be lovely in some cases and awkward in others. So try to make your partner comfortable. Give him/her a t-shirt to wear, flirt a little and tell him/her how good the experience was. Smile and share a laugh together. This could be the best time to make a good friend or a partner for life. So use the opportunity. After you’ll are done, make sure you’ll wash up. Women, wash your vaginal opening and vulva and men should wash their penis once they remove the condom. Lastly, make sure you dispose of the condom properly. Do not flush it down the toilet. Throw it in a dustbin wrapped in paper or tissue instead.

Don’t give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

But we have to keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It’s not only about who has the stronger sex drive; men and women just respond differently and at different times. Women base their desire for sex more on connection, intimacy and emotion; they also need more time to physically get ready for sex.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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Request to Parents & Parents-to-be


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Every Child’s Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today! Child Abuse Main Image

Any for of Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.

As parents you would always want your kids to grow up as loving, kind, happy and successful individuals. You want them to love and to be loved by all. In the process you teach them many things which are good for their life and future.

In the similar way, make sure to consider below points and teach you Children at early age. You must remind your kids from time and again that you would always be by their side when required and help them when required. Ask your kid to maintain a positive frame of mind, so that she can easily overcome hurdles that she comes across in her life.

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

child-abuse-750x5385. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child..

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

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These are just few, but important life lessons that you should teach your kid. You have some more to add on this? Share with us if u have some more life lessons to teach kids by mentioning them in the comment section below.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”. And if possible forward to all friends who have children’s

 

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A daughter may outgrow your lap, but not your heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a KING, not because i have a kingdom, but as I have a Daughter who is PRINCESS of my World. Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.

From my childhood I spent most of my life in the arms of many wonderful women, but for first time, I hold a little angel (ShanvikaPr@win) close to my HEART and she proudly calls me Prawin. When she says ‘Daddy I need you!’ I wonder if she has any idea that I need her billion times more. Having a daughter makes me see things in a different way. This is my only girl. So I don’t care what it takes to protect her. You can call it what you want to call it. As long as you treat her the same way I treat her, like my princess, I don’t mind.

Shanvika, hours I spend with you in a day may be limited, but my thoughts for PicsArt_08-18-05.35.48you are  unlimited and my love is unconditional. You make me very proud to be your Father. I know that our relationship is not completely perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real. I love you, sweetheart. With every day that passes, you only grow more beautiful in my eyes. I admire your heart of gold. I love you very much! I Adore your Smile, I Cherish your Hugs, I Admire your Heart, But Most of All I Love that you are My Daughter. Never forget that I Love you till my last breath. Life is filled with hard times and good times. Learn from everything you can. Be the woman I know you can be.

The bond a father and daughter share is special and irreplaceable. To every father, his Daughter is a gift from heaven who is like sunshine to a day. She fills fathers heart with pleasure, a joy to always treasure! Not only does a girl’s relationship with her father shape her childhood experience, but it will also influence how she interacts with men in her adult years. If a father is absent or erratic in his behavior, this sets his daughter up for feelings of low self-esteem and trouble with trusting men in general. All parents should appreciate the importance of understanding the father’s role in his daughter’s life, as his presence (or absence) will play a role in her self-image and well-being for decades to come. Daughters can bring so much meaning to your life and make you the happiest you have ever been. Below are some of the traits every father should possess.

Teach your Daughter That She Is Worthy of a Respectful Partner: A father who treats his daughter – and his daughter’s mother – with respect is sending a clear message that women deserve good treatment from the men in their lives. This can make all the difference when his daughter begins dating. If she is used to positive support and kind behavior, she is less likely to tolerate it from abusive dates and partners.

IMG_20190818_182623Make Time for your Daughter, No Matter How Busy you are: One of the most important things a father can do is simply show that he is willing to be around. He should make the effort to attend special events at his daughter’s school, engage her in conversation, and take an interest in all areas of her life. This will build her self-esteem and let her know that she is a worthwhile individual.

Remind Your Daughter That She Is Beautiful Inside and Out: There is nothing wrong with telling your daughter that she is pretty, but remember to tell her how much you value her intellectual abilities and character. This will prevent her from relying on her looks to carry her through life and from placing too much value on what others think of her face and body.

Inspire your Daughter to Reach Her Goals: A father should encourage his daughter to follow her dreams and show her that he believes she has what it takes to succeed. Girls habitually look to both parents for guidance and support, so fathers must make the effort to inspire their daughters whenever possible

Enjoy Activities Together: Healthy activities such as walking, biking and swimming are a great way of building memories and teaching your daughter that exercise is an important habit. Keeping fit will help her maintain a good body image, which will be a real asset as she develops into a teenager.

Be Consistently Loving but Firm : Daughters who do not receive affection and approval from their fathers are likely to seek it elsewhere as teenagers and adults, and this may lead to an unhealthy dependency on men. Fathers can prevent this happening by telling their daughters how special and loved they are, whilst maintaining appropriate levels of discipline and upholding firm boundaries.

Always Treat your wife Well, Even If you Are Not Together: If a daughter witnesses her father treating her mother poorly, she will receive negative or mixed messages about how men and women relate to one another. Even if you are not with her mother, always take the high road and act in a civil manner.

Take your daughter on Special Trips and Outings: Let your daughter feel special by  IMG_20190818_182553making the time to take her out on a regular basis. A simple trip to the park with a picnic is enough to show her that you care enough to make her a priority. Take the opportunity to show her how men should treat women – with respect and dignity. Engage her in conversation and talk to her as an equal.

Model a Respectful Attitude Towards Women : A good father does not make sexist jokes or speak disrespectfully about women. He has the intelligence to realize that his daughter’s self-image will suffer if he does so, and knows that it is important to uphold the idea that women are of equal value to men

Know When to Ask for Forgiveness: No father can be perfect all the time. When you mess up, explain how you plan to do better next time and tell her that you are sorry. For example, if you accidentally miss her piano recital, plan an outing to make it up to her. Ask for her forgiveness and learn from your mistakes.

I request every father, kindly treat you Daughter the way you want her future partner to treat her. The way you interact with your daughter is what she becomes used to when relating to a man. Treat her with respect, dignity, caring, and affection and she will expect to be treated that way by a mate.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person. In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, good Son, a good grandson, a good husband, a good brother, good friend, a good colleague and a good fellow human just being connected to every of my well-wishers  as much as possible.

Today is my little angel ShanvikaPr@win birthday. Kindly bless her and wish her to have a wonderful life. 

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Potluck Lunch helps in Team Building


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In any organisation, team work can make all the difference between success and failure. That’s because collaborative teams excel at dividing responsibilities and working towards the same goal. Realising this, most teams are focusing on team building exercises that can bring teams closer.

Maintaining a healthy work culture, one that keeps the entire team motivated and enthused, can be a tough task. You see your employees going through their everyday tasks in a routine, and on the surface, everything might look happy and gay, but you never know when monotony can kick in and leave the entire system uninspired.

Just a small activity is enough to see the change in the overall enthusiasm and energy of the office. It can also be a great way for newbies to feel comfortable and at ease with the rest of the team.

Recently we had a team Potluck lunch organised by my lovely team ladies. Special thanks to my loving Vijaya Ragi & Team for handling everything in a smooth way. It is well planned and organised.

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If you want your team to feel energised at all times, to enjoy what they’re doing and love working for you – and for this, you cannot lay enough emphasis on the need for recreational activities. While some offices go for activity outings, we actually have a simpler and cheaper alternative that can be just as rewarding. The other simple yet effective team building activity is a potluck. It can be organised  by anyone without costing a penny to the company.

But what exactly is it and how does it help in building teams?

What Is an Office Potluck?

In simple terms, a potluck is an occasion when attendees bring food to be shared with everyone. Whether it has a theme or not, is completely up to the team members.

The main idea is to add some fun to the workplace and encourage employees to connect with one another over food.

How to Organise  an Office Potluck

The best thing about a potluck is that you don’t need a big reason to organise  it. It could be an occasion to celebrate a holiday or just the first day at work after a long holiday.

You simply need an organiser  to send out the emails and coordinate with everyone involved.

Sometimes the organiser  may allocate responsibilities to the team members. For example, you may ask two employees to take care of the dessert and two others to bring some appetisers . Or you may choose to let the employees decide among themselves.

Office Potluck for Team Building

Do you sense a growing lack of communication between two team members? A potluck lunch can be of great help.

Get those two employees to plan the potluck. Ask them to coordinate the menu and come up with two dishes that everyone can enjoy.

The objective here is to get them to communicate with each other and find a simple solution. You may or may not oversee how they do this, but the end result can help them connect with each other.

At a later point, you may even speak to the two employees separately to get an idea how they felt about the whole exercise.

A potluck is also a great occasion to bring a close-knit team closer. As many small businesses have fewer employees working for them, a potluck lunch can give them a reason to discuss things beyond work. Often such discussions may reveal hidden talents and opportunities for business growth.

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and enjoy some good food.

Below are some glimpses of my teams Potluck events.

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In conclusion, I would like to point out one very important fact. This is the deciding force. More convincing than any research paper or analysis. This is the real, ultimate deal-breaker: Your office is going to be flooded with yummy home-made FOOD for one whole day! Do you still need another reason?

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