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At every stage of life, our relationships and families present us with both joys and challenges. Learning to manage stress, to understand our own emotions and behaviors, and to communicate effectively can help strengthen our own emotional health.

She is ShanvikaPrawin


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father means so many things. An understanding heart, a source of strength and of support right from the very start. A constant readiness to help in a kind and thoughtful way, with encouragement and forgiveness no matter what comes your way. A Father means so many things

ShanvikaPrawin, you are a princess in my heart, and I care for you so much.I love the fondness in you eyes and your tender little touch. A father loves a daughter is like no other love on earth. From the day that I first meet you nothing can compare your worth.

I looked at you when you were born and knew then straight away that I would be altogether a different person from that day. You bring to me a heart of joy and memories so great and a powerful sense of fatherhood that no one can debate.

Whom should I thank?
God or my destiny,
For the gift of lovely daughter in my life,
You are an angel for me now,
I don’t think without you,
You are the beat of my heart,
You have been special right from the start,
You are the sun that shines,
You are light of the moon,
You are so kind,
You are my beautiful daughter,
You are one of a kind!
With you in my life,
Everything is so perfect and right,
You are my life my sweet little daughter,
There is no one like you,
No one another!
Thanks for coming in my life!

In today’s world, fathers have become more influential and inspiring on a daughter’s upbringing. Daughters are sweet and playful by nature; hence, they need someone that will guide them along the way, and fathers one of the best persons to keep them on track. Though there are times when the father’s role in a daughter’s life is often overlooked as they tend not be as communicative and insightful as the mothers, these strong men are very potent and kind. 

Having a fatherly figure makes file more tolerable and comfortable. A positive father and daughter bond creates a win-win situation to both fathers and daughters. For the daughters, it can help them develop into a strong, positive and mature woman. Fathers seemingly builds their daughter’s self-esteem and self-image, as well as their views on men. A father may not be the perfect model, but he is good enough in his daughter’s eyes. And from then, seeing a daughter turn into a mature women with good values and right skill, fathers become very grateful of the whole fatherhood process.

My Daughter means the world to me a big wide world for her to see. She grows a little more each day and I’ll be here always, to guide her way. She blooms and grows like a flower. Little by little, hour by hour.One day I’ll look and she’ll be grown and start a life out on her own. But for the time, she’s with me now, so I can teach and show here how.

All fathers are not fortunate enough to spend time with their kids and show their love. Unfortunately I am one among them.

A daughter may outgrow your lap, but she will never outgrow your heart.

Father – Daughter’s inspiration, Son’s aspiration

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Mother: The Living GOD


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared.  She is the person who brought us into the world irrespective of our gender is the mother. Mother, the goddess of eternal love, not only give us birth but also feed us, raise us to become adult, teaches us to become a good human being and many other. She plays the role of teacher, guide, role model, friend and a lot of other roles.

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A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. when we get hurt, the first person which we remember is always the mother. Sometimes harsh, sometimes funny, always loving, always caring is the mother. The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.

“Mother” is such a simple word,

But to me there’s meaning seldom heard.
For everything I am today,
My mother’s love showed me the way.
I’ll love my mother all my days,
For enriching my life in many ways.
She set me straight and then set me free,
And that’s what the word “mother” means to me.
Thanks for being a wonderful mother, Mom!

‘Mother’ is a very best creation by god. It is said, “as god cannot be in many places at a time, he created mother in place of god who will satisfy all our needs and bless us always with all her love irrespective of our mischievous behaviour.” I feel this is correct. And I feel great to be a child of my great mother.

My mom is great and she does many things to my family. Of course every mom is very good and will do anything for their children. My mom is the one who is very lovable, friendly, caring and cannot stop using such adjectives to describe her nature. My mom is my best friend in the world. I can proudly tell that my mom is a special person, who will forgive me for all my mistakes and will guide me with her everlasting smile on her lips. She helps every one whom ever she can and in whatever the way she can.

Mothers make great sacrifices while raising their children. She gives away her sleep so that her child sleep comfortably. Mothers give away their time to teach their kids different ethics, manners which will help them stand high in society. They sacrifice their bodies to give them birth. When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.

We are very lucky to have this precious gift which God has bestowed on us. Think of the people who lost their mother while birth or the orphan children who had never seen their mothers. We should not take our mothers for granted. We will get to know her importance only after we lost her. We should respect her and treat her like a god. We should let her know that we love her by helping her and ease off her pressure. A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. Sometimes, mothers say and do things that seem like they don’t want their kids but when you look more closely, you realize that they’re doing those kids a favor. They’re just trying to give them a better life.

For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom’s presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. In the end, I would like to say that love her, respect her and care for her in the way she did to you, you won’t able to find the same unconditional love anywhere in the universe.

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DARE TO BE YOU


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

Dare to be you

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can – At all times, Dare to be!”

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By.. ― Steve Maraboli

 

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Break free before time runs out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

Recently, I met one of friend who lives in States. During the discussion, I learnt both of her sons got killed in a bike accident. From then, I am thinking about those boys who have gone on so young, and all of the people I’ve loved who didn’t make it as far as I have, made me realise one thing.

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They had dreams. They had goals. They had ambitions. And they no longer have the chance to pursue them. They quite literally have run out of time.

But I haven’t. Not yet. And if I don’t pursue my dreams and ambitions with every tiny bit of my soul, it’s like I’m slapping them in the face.

I’m still here. I’m not done. I’ve got things to do. And quite frankly, I”m not doing them. Break free before time runs out, from all that is holding you back, from all that stopping you to be ‘U’.

“Our only limitations are those we set up in our own mind”. Napoleon Hill

What seems to be impossible for you might be easier than you think!

“I wonder how many times people give up just before the breakthrough”.

It is not over until you say it is over!

Most people don’t need help as much as they need to believe on themselves & go after what they want.

No matter where you are at now in your life, or what challenges you may have, there is always a way out and there is a solution.

The famous Zen master Shunryu Suzuki once said, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” By this he meant that if we view ourselves as the experts of our business who know how everything should be done, we are limiting ourselves to very few opportunities.

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When the world is in crisis, many things change, and many opportunities arise. But to see these opportunities, we must let go of our expert-attitude and look at the new reality with a beginner’s mind. We must wake up every day with fresh eyes and truly discern what is different than yesterday.

Every problem has its solution; it is born with it. If you want a different result, make different choice. We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. Facing reality can be hard because our brains are wired to be emotionally attached to how things used to be. The past seems known and secure, while an unknown future can make us anxious.

As we know, many of us are attached to our past successes and want to have them back. Because of this emotional attachment, we are at risk of walking in the same direction even if the world has taken a sharp turn the other way. Positive people also have negative thoughts but they just made up their mind to enjoy life. They focus on the possibilities not the problem. They always “align with love and tap into abundance”.

Now is your chance to reimagine the future and the possibilities. It all starts in the mind, in your mind. So look inside, and then leap.

If there is one thing I want you to understand…it’s this.

And I know I’m not the only one stuck in this rut. This is what happens in life when we get complacent. When we let things get easy. “Lost Time is Never Found again” You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

 

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Parental guide during Covid-19 lockdown


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

The coronavirus outbreak is affecting people across World in different ways. For parents of school-going kids across the countries, the experience has been overwhelming and exhausting. As a parent I can observe and feel that the Parenting is turning to be harder by uncertainty, stress and economic hardship. Parents and children are living with increased stress, media hype and fear, all challenging our capacity for tolerance and long-term thinking.

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The coronavirus pandemic has left a lot of parents panicking about how on earth to make sure their children keep safe and keep learning during lockdown. As schools are closed in various countries around the world, keeping kids engaged at home has become a major concern now. I also learnt that For many, the economic impact of the crisis increases parenting stress, abuse, and violence against children,”

While everyone is fighting the war against coronavirus, you can turn this into an opportunity to make your children learn new skills. Here are few ways to engage your kids at home during the Covid-19 lockdown.

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During this lockdown phase, there are going to be interesting, diverse scenarios taking place in homes at the moment. Don’t get frazzled, because teachers don’t lose it – they are quite calm. And just remember that your children are transitioning as well. We need to use lots of negotiation and give and take. crl5azqxeaagy2r

Every parent is concerned because we’re taking up a new role here, which we’ve never had to do before. But it’s not going to be permanent. There’s no quick fix, and you’re not a failure, because this is brand new to us all. The positive thing is, we’re going to get to know our children more.

Talk to your children

First, explain clearly to children why we are all forced to be indoors and the importance of adhering to this restriction. Once they understand the reasoning, you will be surprised at how much more willing they will be to comply.

Parents should talk openly to children about their behaviour because communication was critical at this time. During this phase parents had all the time in world to get to know their children a little bit more. It was the perfect opportunity to have regular discussions with them.

Set up a Daily routine

91tmCTsTBtL._AC_SX569_It starts with a routine, not only for kids but also for us parents. Creating a schedule with a daily routine can be an effective way to tackle anxiety. This would make the kids feel at ease, safer and more relaxed.

The important thing here is to create a plan with some room for flexibility. Set up a schedule for waking up, eating, and learning activities and fun things to do. This will help you as well as the kids to feel normalcy while also maintaining discipline.

Let them start painting!

You can plan and conduct any painting challenge with innovative painting ideas. Each day, you can make them give painting one hour of their time and simply experiment with whatever idea they get for the day.It can be anything from a fruit, a memory, a place or abstract designs with paint.

Painting is a very natural form of expression and it can be meditative too as it soothes their mind and keeps it calm. So, let you kids go ahead and explore this creative language!

Engage them in doing exercises and practicing yoga

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Exercising improves strength, flexibility, agility, and mobility and most importantly it can help build your kids immunity during this Coronavirus pandemic.

Practice meditation and pranayama to destress your life and relax their soul. This will also inculcate a lot of energy and boost their stamina.

Let them chat to friends

It’s really important for the children to communicate with their friends. Parents can set up Zoom talks, skype calls with their children’s friends. Not every day, but during the week, there should be some way they’re connected with somebody else that’s not you, and not another adult.

Plan virtual fun activities with their peers

Plan fun activities over video call with their peers to give them time to socialise. Making study groups can be a great way to make your kids socialise and will decrease the feeling of isolation.

Create an activity plan with parents of their peers so that they can do some activities together over video calls for example, quizzes, karaoke, singing competitions, story telling, DIY activities .

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Support them to Grow plants at home

This lockdown time can be utilized in growing plants in your garden. Make your kids grow as many plants as they can. Encourage them them in gardening by making them grow tulsi and aloe vera which emit oxygen.

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As the world is deprived of clean air, they will work wonders when they grow into trees in a few decades even if you may not be there to see them. If you grow 5 to 10 oxygen-emitting plants, you will add to the pre-existing resources.

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Give them a push to Make Creative stuff

Engage the kids in creative activities of all kinds. Stock up on craft supplies (instead of toilet paper!). Make paintings, knit a scarf, start a daily sketchbook journal, create a stash of cute pop-up cards, sew a baby quilt, make a scrapbook.

Teach them how to bake cookies and bread and how to make simple dinners such as homemade mac ‘n cheese, vegetable soup, and pasta sauce. Build an awesome cardboard box fort, tree fort, or set up an indoor tent. Redecorate a bedroom.

Try and limit screen time

Lots of parents have contacted us to say they’re worried about children sitting in front of the computer for five hours a day.

Parents will be strongly tempted to stick their kids in front of screens for multiple hours a day, just to get their own work done, but this isn’t healthy, nor is it fair to kids who deserve more of an active role from their parents, especially if they’re missing school. I think it’s reasonable to let them have a half-hour a day . Whatever screen time rules you set should be made clear up front, so that the temptation for kids to ask is eliminated right away. (And if they keep asking, they lose the privilege of watching altogether.)

Let them watch Inspirational movies and educational TV series

There is a long list of TV series that will educate your kids on various topics. The National Geographic documentaries are a way fun way to learn. Let your kid pick the genre of their choice and go watch them online. There are many online learning portals and youtube channels for kids.

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If you have access to a Netflix connection or Amazon Prime, there are a vast number of documentaries and docu-series you can watch on a variety of genres.If you want to watch the top movies, just check out the IMDB top 50 list and check which ones you haven’t watched. If you are lucky, you can find them online or you can always download.

Get their hands deep in experiments

Give your kids some time to focus on fun activities like DIY science experiments, craft, drawing, watching documentaries and educational videos.Try to not be too hard on them (remember, they are having a hard time). Save your interventions for when you really need them! reading-for-meaning

Let them Lose in good books

Book reading is always a best habit. These are certain books that people of all ages can enjoy here are a few engaging books your kid should be able to find interesting .  You can find books online for free to make this Coronavirus lockdown time a fun experience for their lazing around with an engrossing book.

Share the responsibility

We need to jointly plan and give them that sense of responsibility. It’s quite powerful for them to take control of what they’d like to do. And if that’s being in their room drawing, then give them that time, make them exhausted from doing that, because they will get bored very soon.

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And when they want to do other things, that’s where, as a parent, you’ve already got all these resources and ideas ready to go.

Encourage them to Learn a new language

Learning a language is a fun experience but it does need dedication. A language learned will give anyone an edge over others. It will add weight to their profile and will help them in career as well.

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That will also open new avenues of education and jobs in the future.Check out the various online courses and mobile apps available to easily learn new languages. Make them attend the online classes and appear for the test to get an online certificate for their new language skill! This will not let them get bored while everything is locked down.

Learn about future goals & understand your role

Its wonderful opportunity for every parent to understand their kinds needs and learn about their life goals. If they do not have any yet, its time where you explain them what is goal and why they are important in life. Make them read books, magazines, online websites on career planning and life goals and plan your targets in life.

Ask your child to list down what they want to be 10 years from now and let them start working on their goals during the Covid-19 lockdown.Study journals and books that will take them closer to their dreams and start working on them. This practice can become the most fruitful practice during the Coronavirus lockdown period.

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Last, but not the least, share your stories

All of us like posting our pictures and stories on our social media accounts. So, tell us how you spent your day when everything is locked down. Share with us on the mail or on our Facebook pageLately, people have been playing with Instagram challenges, posting stories, and asking questions Covid-19. Write about how you made a quarantine time period productive.You can also start your own blog about what you are doing during the Coronavirus lockdown and post there every day along with interesting photos of what you are doing around the house.

School, colleges shutdown is also a chance to make better relationships with our children and teenagers. One-on-One time…makes children feel loved and secure, and shows them that they are important.

Children are quite observant about what it is going on in their surrounding environment. Regardless of age, every kid is aware that the lifestyle has currently taken a pause and can sense that the adults around them are at unease. So communication becomes the utmost necessity wherein talking with your children in a calm, simple and factual way enables you to control the narrative, providing essential information without promoting distress.

Placing boundaries on media exposure is a good preventative action. Try to think of yourself as their mentor and step up! Do reach out to your friends and family in time of need. Remember, this will pass.

A crisis often brings out the best in you and you discover qualities that you never knew existed within. 

A time of crisis is not just a time of anxiety and worry. It gives a chance, an opportunity, to choose well or to choose badly.

Any deep crisis is an opportunity to make your life extraordinary in some way.

Any kind of crisis can be good. It wakes you up.

As for any of us in crisis, hope is the one thing that’s everything. 

Trust me, we together beat this crisis. Stay at Home, Stay Safe.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

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Reality of Today´s World


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Well its a proven fact as we go up in some ways we definitely are going down in other its the very fundamental law of our own existence. As the humanity is excelling in various fields such as medical science ,communication and artificial intelligence we generally forget to see our roots or reason of our own very existence.

We, so called HUMANS are greedy, angry, creepy, violent, perverted, jealous, and conceited. We lie, we cheat, we steal, we betray, we corrupt and we act like we can get away with it.

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We live in a world, where monsters are respected And humans are discriminated

We live in a world, where  fools are rulers And genius is a struggle

We live in a world, where everyone speaks about rules, But no one follows it

We live in a world, where we speak about Feminism, But donno how to treat Women

We live in a world, where everyone wants fresh air, But No one wants to plant a tree..!!

We live in a world, where People are judged But never supported.

We live in a strange world, where Liars are trusted And truthful is defamed.

We live in a world, People love for selfish gain But not for other to make them proud

Strange is the world we live in, We are human with lost humanity.

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We live in selfish,greed,inequality,hiding the truth(although not lying),comparison among themselves,lack of selflessness,following mindset,lack of patience,lack of true love and peace,feminism(mostly anti-masculine) and most important LACK OF TRUST.

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We all are living in fake world driven by others thinking or i can say we all are showing our fake reality which is not govern by ourself but by others thought of perfection. When we look our society we see people discriminating each other on basis of religion ,caste, sex even we are educated. Our politics also get affected by religions , even in this modern world we have this type of society.

I hope with the growing human race in various fields we should also consider our basic characteristic and the reason of our existence and try to spread peace,love and harmony as much as we can and never compare anyone with anyone and respect and admire everyone’s uniqueness.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

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Journey from Nowhere to NOW HERE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I feel so fortunate and happy  to say that, all I am today is by adding a little space in my life to “ I am NOWHERE” to make “I am NOW HERE”. Along with my parents, I made myself as a footpath to make me reach what I am Today.  When I started facing the world of opportunities with obstacles, I am very well aware that being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. A hungry stomach during my childhood, empty pocket during my school/college days, painful treatment from trusted ones and broken heart in every phase of my life taught the great life lessons and turned me into the person who i should actually be i.e. what I am Today..

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on IMG_20191103_061339 bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) to Quality Control Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. Its true. I never feel shy to say where I started and where are my roots are. By considering my current position or traits or appearance, many assume that I am from a High end family, who´s born with Silver spoon. Which is not correct. In each step of my Life I faced obstacles, hurdles, ill-treatments from society for being born in low class, caste family, but I let nothing to distract me from reaching my goals.

It started my journey like others from a very poor rural set up ,having no support or idealism to follow. It started like a lonely leaf in the whirl pool. I am born in a below middle class family with only moral values not money.  As a very small child I don’t remember too much other than ethics, moral, values taught by my parents and the painful childhood experienced in various forms. The things that I do remember were seen through a child’s eyes that has made me the person that I am today and I will always have those memory’s with me until my last breath on this earth.

My parents are not educated, they are able to teach me only moral values to live proper life, with which i started my life’s journey. Due to economical situation of family, my parents requested my sisters to give-up their dream of becoming Engineer, Doctor to see me and my brother as Software Engineers. Seen many highs and lows. Faced many failures enjoyed many success. In my small journey learned few but important things. Most of them are taught by parents, teachers/faculty, my girlfriends, brother, family of friends.

Today, I proudly say, I have forgotten my struggles in life to exist but could not forget the pleasure in coming out with flying colors from all sufferings. With successful Computers Graduation and Post-graduation as a topper at college, University levels, I could impart my knowledge, experience and expertise to thousands of students, employees across countries inform of Guest Lectures, Trainings and through my writings in form of books, articles and websites. Most of my students are now established in various countries. But most surprising and happiest fact is that they acknowledge my contribution in their carrier even today .

I believe in these lines..

“If you learn from your experiences, you are an intelligent, if you learn from experiences of others you are a Genius”
“It doesn’t whom you choose as a role-model in life, but before you leave this world, you should become a role-model even to a person”
“I am not sure if I am going to be with you till my last breath, but for sure my words & moments you spent with me are going to be with you till your last breath”
“Its better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees”

I have had my own share of highs and lows.I am thankful for what I have. I can´t say that I have always been very mature about the way I have handled the highs and lows. I have had my bouts of arrogance when I flew high and then bouts of low morale when things went badly. Life however did teach me that nothing ever lasts…not the good times, and definitely not the bad. I have therefore learnt to take things as they come and never to give-up irrespective obstacles in the journey. This has been my biggest learning.

I think what makes my life exciting are not the right things but the mistakes.. Things that I should not have done, things that I should have done in better way. I have learnt from my mistakes no matter how I clichéd it sounds.. I have made mistakes but they played their part in making me what I am today. I am happy to be me. I do not wish to live anyone else’s life. I will keep on learning from my life. But at the age of late 30´s, I think I am a grown up person and ready to commit more mistakes in the coming future.. 😉 of course the new ones as per this generation..

Here are few lines to People, Who…

Who looks at the world from a different perspective.
Who still believes in his or her dreams.
Who see life as living thing and life worth living.
Who do not settle for low.

For everyone who strives for change.
For everyone who doesn’t accept the way things work today.
For everyone who don’t accept the status quo.
This is for the ones who challenge the challenges.

This is for the ones who break down existing barriers.
For the ones make the impossible possible.
For the ones most people would call crazy.
This is for people just like you and me…

Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches.
When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.

Giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, when your life appears to be falling apart, but it is hardest and worst thing you can do to sit in the rubble of your shattered dreams. You need to not see your current failures and hardships as your final destination, because they are not!  The easiest and best thing for you to do is to take several deep breaths and take steps to keep moving on. One step at a time is the only way to move through and put some space between where you are and where you belong!

Perhaps you have been longing to arrive at your destination, reach your goals and declare yourself “Now Here,” only to suffer a mighty setback and feel like you have actually arrived at “nowhere!” There is hope! You need to keep moving forward, keep pressing on toward the goal, keeping your eyes focused and having faith that you are loved more than you can possibly imagine. By taping into that love, you will find the strength and hope to continue through the difficulties.

Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
It doesn’t matter where did you start..
or how old or how young you are.
or how much or how little money you have.
or what your current job is or where you work.
or how big or small your mortgage is.
or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle.
or in which country you live.
The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

Life sure has opened it’s cards one by one. It takes great courage and perseverance to sail through the roughest of the tides. It would have been a great journey but there have been moments when you question your own capabilities. Never loose faith and hope.

If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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✿✿✿ Indians help Germany to Celebrate Bathukamma ✿✿✿


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Prawin…

Every Indian heart feels so proud to say I am INDIAN. We can find Indians at every part of world. Indians living outside India celebrates every Indian festival and make it as best opportunity to unite with other Indians living in that states or country, irrespective of religion, caste, financial status etc. I really feel so excited and happy to see people gathering for events on occasion of festivals. WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM(1)

Each fall — September, October and November in the United Kingdom, Germany, United States — Hundreds of German, Americans celebrate one of Hinduism’s most important festivals, Batukamma, Diwali,  or the Festival of Lights. Like every-other year this year German woman joined to celebrate the India Batukamma festival. This year more than 200 families joined in Germany and they played and danced for over nine hours. There is overwhelming participation from Indian woman and Indian students.

Importance of the environment was known to all but there is a small negligence towards it. There are some people who are really working for protection of the environment and bringing awareness, in South India people of Telangana state and some of AndhraPradesh celebrates a Floral Festival to remember the importance and treating the Nature as the goddess with a hope that ‘protection of environment is protecting our selves’, in Telugu the festival is called as ‘Bathukamma’ which mean ‘Live Forever’, they pray to the goddess (Environment) to live forever with the people.

Floral Festival (Bathukamma) is recognized as the Telangana’s (a newly emerged state in India) major festival and the government is also promoting the festival and its importance all over the world. It is a festival of environment hence, the state also making awareness to protect the environment. Telugu people who are staying in different countries like Germany, United States, United Kingdom, Dubai, Singapore etc., are also celebrating the festival and expanding the culture to the World

Various organizations working for revival and sustenance of Indian culture and festivals in different parts of the world irrespective of religion are competing with each other to celebrate the festival inviting Public figures, Ministers and politicians of various parties and also adding glamour to it ensuring the participation of film and television stars.

WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM2019 Bathukamma Sambaralu, organized by the Telangana/Telugu Association of Germany (TAG) recently helped many families to unite and created a wonderful family environment. Similar programs were organized at Dallas, Houston, Washington DC, Raleigh in North Carolina, Los Angeles, Dubai, Sydney, Melbourne and other places across world. All these places saw droves of young and middle-aged women, decked up traditionally arriving with their flamboyant flower stacks that embodied Goddess MahaGowri, who is revered as life-giver and symbolise the womanhood going by Telangana folklore.

It has become a part of our life here and the effort is to revive, retain and pass on our culture to the next generation,” said Dr. Malthi Rao (Director of TTC, Indian Embassy). “Earlier, individual groups used to celebrate but now its on a bigger platform and the enthusiasm is unbelievable,” she said

Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld (Grüne Partei MLA, Neukölln), conveyed his wishes to all the Indian families living across all states in Germany.

Families that fail to participate in such events don’t forget to celebrate at nearby lakes in small groups singing Bathukamma songs, they learnt as children back home. “I haven’t missed the festival since the last six years. I make Bathukamma at home and immerse it in the nearby lake along with a few friends,” says a proud Telangana Woman, a resident of Munich in Germany.

TAG volunteers, Raghu Chaliganti, Jairam Naidu, Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy etc who are active in Germany Telugu Forum have been organizing the events to celebrate Indian festivals and they says people participation , interest is immense and the numbers have been swelling every year.

Finally I would like to convey my sincere thanks to all the Indian, German families who joined here for making Bathukamma celebrations and for making its as such a wonderful & memorable event. This amazing response will definitely boost us to organize more and more cultural events for our Indian community. 

Very special thanks to our Honorable Guests Dr. Malthi Rao, Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld  a million thanks to all the TAG volunteers, Raghu Ch, Mr. Jairam Naidu & Mr. Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy (Ganesh Temple President and Vice-President) for their support like every year.

We request you to share your thoughts/impression in the below comments without hesitation to us either personally or on our FB page. Looking forward to meeting you all very soon again!

Once again thank you all and wish you all a Happy Bathukamma and upcoming Dussehra, Diwali, Christmas and so on. Wish you to celebrate everyday and moment of life making other Indians proud.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
 

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Marriage isn’t a love affair. It isn’t even a honeymoon. It’s a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they’ve worked at anything in their lives before. If it’s a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it goes on getting better. I’ve seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I’ve seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it’s never one person’s fault. It’s the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn’t a cure, it’s a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the Enddivorce-is-not-the-end

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status.

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

2b2ab942cd8dda95fb9bfb43d3fe8bec7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

 

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!”
Words by Shipra Jain…..

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Dads aren’t moms, it’s exactly why daughters need them


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father, none of us can assume life without this role. It’s truly disappointing whenever some says or sees fathers as just money earning machine or a person who is there in family to control or regulate kids . Till last decade World considered fathers were often those who were left in charge of providing the family, while mothers were considered the primary and only caretakers…However, it is good to know that nowadays, fatherhood has a completely different meaning. Because parenting is not only a mother’s responsibility. Good parenting means having equal roles and responsibilities when it comes to raising your children.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM (1)A lot has changed for fathers over the past few generations. In today’s world Fathers  are much more informed and involved with their children, taking an active part in the nurturing of their children, from feeding — whether expressed breast milk or formula — to changing diapers, soothing, clothing, bathing, reading to, and helping their baby go to sleep.

Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. They create us, introduce us to this world and everything in it, raise us, help us overcome our fears, have an active role in shaping our personality and creating our own world from scratch. However, regardless of the fact that both mom and dad are an essential part of a child’s development, there is one special bond I think you’ll all agree that plays a big role in a kid’s life. From the moment little girls are born, fathers play a key role in the psychological development of their daughters. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters’ lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are.

That’s the indestructible, everlasting, powerful bond between fathers and daughters. A father serves as the guide for a little girl to blossom into a strong and courageous young woman

When it comes to raising girls, moms often get most of the pressure and the credit. Whether regarding menstrual issues, boy problems, or makeup tips, mom is usually the first person girls turn to. I see too many men buy into the idea of ‘that’s a girl’s issue’ or ‘only a woman can understand another woman’ and avoid talking to their daughters about sex, dating, or other ‘girly’ topics.

I think it would be hard to overstate the value of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have more confidence, high self-esteem, and believe they can achieve their goals.⠀

Mothers, don’t me wrong. You undoubtedly have the strongest and most unique connection with your children. But there is something special about the daughter-father bond that affects the lives of their daughters in a truly intriguing and life-changing way.

A father is the first male figure in a girl’s life.

He is the true source of her values & morals.

He is the safe shelter that she goes to.

He is the pillar of her strength.

Her first love.

While moms cuddle us and teach us to be gentler, fathers encourage us to be strong. To never stop being curious, even though we make mistakes. To never give up no matter how afraid we are. To always push our limits. The mother is the one who avoids risks, and the father is the one who encourages us to always try and learn from our mistakes.

It’s no doubt. The family plays a big role in preparing us for all future relationships.  Daughters get to know how to get along with their husbands, friends, boyfriends and other people in their life after getting along with father and brother.WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM

So, naturally, problematic relationships with men, depressive symptoms or low levels of self-esteem are often the residue of a father’s desertion.  When children grow up with a feeling of closeness with their fathers in the period of adolescence, they are more likely to develop a healthy and satisfying adult marital relationship.

A healthy relationship with the father prevents a daughter from being afraid of establishing an intimate relationship in her future life. For any girl, love with her father is always the first experience of love and introduces her to what male love is all about. If there is a positive love experience with her father in her early years, she is going to do much better and vice versa.  As compared to mothers,  fathers generally have more impact on how daughters relate to men. That is exactly why a positive father-daughter relationship has a big impact on a daughter’s interpersonal problems and interactions.

Here are some ideas for creating a loving and secure relationship with your daughter.

Begin the Day She Is Born: To create a positive relationship with your daughter, start on the day she is born. Get involved in her life from the very beginning by taking an active role in caring for your baby girl. The more time you spend with her early on, the easier it will be to continue building the relationship later.

Be Involved: The hallmark of every great father-daughter relationship is a father who is actively interested and involved in his daughter’s life. Being involved is about more than asking about her day. Instead, it means finding out what she is interested in or excited about and sharing in it with her.

Teach Her New Things: It is wonderful when you teach your daughter to ride a bike, throw a softball, to read, or even to do chores. But often the best things you can teach her are the things society might consider “guy things.” Skills like checking the oil in a car, putting bait on a fishing hook, building a computer program, using a hammer and nails, or even hitting a cricket ball will serve your daughter well.

Love Her Unconditionally: Every young girl needs to know that she is loved even when she messes up. When she makes poor choices be careful not to ridicule, shame, or demean her. Instead, help her learn and grow. Use these situations as opportunities to teach her something. Just be calm, patient, and loving in the process.

Plan Fun Time: Every father-daughter relationship should include daddy-daughter dates. These moments together don’t have to be anything elaborate. Simply checking out the latest toys at the toy store, going out for ice cream, or attending the library’s storytime are great options for daddy-daughter dates.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.57.55 PMBe Her Confidant: Many girls love to talk. They also tend to be more vocal than boys growing up. You can build your relationship with your daughter by listening more and allowing her to confide in you. Pay attention to what she says when you are together. Listen to what she is thinking about, dreaming of, and wishing for in her life.

Validate Her Often: Modern culture and the media often give young girls the wrong messages. For instance, it is common for girls to believe that they need to be a certain weight, wear the right makeup, and dress a certain way to be beautiful. But, you can diminish those messages by validating the way your daughter looks. When you tell her she is beautiful, you are emphasizing that she is perfect just the way she is. You also can emphasize the importance of being beautiful inside too.

Write Notes and Letters: Just about every little girl loves cards, notes, and letters. Take the time to write your daughter regular notes and letters expressing your feelings. Let her know how you feel about her, and tell her how proud you are of her.

Be a Great Example of Manhood: The way you treat other women makes a big difference in how your daughter will see men later in her life. Be respectful, kind, generous, and loving toward her and her mother, as well as the other female friends and relatives in your lives. Simple courtesy and kindness will go a long way in helping her know what to expect of the men in her life.

A father should create a safe and protective environment for his daughter not only physically but also emotionally.  A father’s behavior should encourage his daughters to never feel afraid to share their feelings.

The understanding between a father and his daughter is unbeatable. They are inseparable and feel quite restless when they aren’t around each other. A daughter brings out the best father in a man while that best father is busy raising a wonderful girl. Cheers to all the father-daughter duos. 🙂

In the end, it is no doubt that we are the product of those who raise us.

Daughter May Outgrow your lap but not HEART of a Father.

 

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Guide to make Sex Life Beautiful


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When it comes to sex, you might be wondering if there are tips and tricks guys want to share, but don’t. Frankly, there is no is no standard such list of tips. Everyone is different, and what works for one guy might not work for another. Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.

There’s a common belief that most Men want to have more sex, but is this really the case? Does only Men want Sex. ? Its not true. Its not limited to Gender. Even Woman look  for good Sex. Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different from their male partners.

Most men’s minds tend readily to say “yes” to sex. Whereas most women’s minds tend to say “maybe,” or “that depends.” For Men it’s an instant Maggie noodle, whereas for woman lot of things come into play.

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“Women need a reason to have sex. Men need a reason to have sex, too.  But for most men, the reason can be as simple as your partner taking off their shirt, coming out from shower etc. In Simple terms,Men just need a place to have Sex.

It reminds me of one of my friend who said: “It’s not fair, my husband is always up for it, he gets aroused, gets an erection and he is ready go. It never was a problem for me in our first years together but now with our busy lives and two young children I don’t look forward to it any more. I really love him but we keep arguing about it all the time, which really puts me off sex. Can you please suggest me what to do?”

It’s important for couples not to blame each other for different levels of sexual interest. This desire discrepancy, as it is often called, does not generally reflect a lack of love but can lead to questioning sexual compatibility as a couple. The main problem is that the person who wants sex more almost always feels rejected by their partner. They may take it personally and begin to wonder if they are still attractive, not desired any more, or maybe their partner has a lover.

Most couples argue about the frequency of sex; one person wants sex three times a week and the partner is content with once a week or fortnight. However, the partner with the lower sex drive controls the frequency of sex — if she or he doesn’t want it, it generally doesn’t happen. This is usually not due to being vindictive or needing power and control, it’s just that why would anyone want to have sex when they are not in the mood?

Here are some tips for Men and Women who wanna have health Sexual bond.

What do woman and men crave in bed, but are too shy to ask? Here are some ideas of what women, man want during sex. Its like a detailed Step-by-step guide to make your nights memorable with your partner. Make some of these ideas your own—then forward to the guys in your circle.

Find out if the person wants to have sex: This is the most important part about a good sexual experience. If one of the partners is not ‘in the mood’ or does not want to have sex it can lead to the entire process turning sour. Not to mention the fact that it can leave you or your partner with a sense of being violated or used. So, find out if he/she wants to have sex. Some common indicators you should look out for is if the person seems keen on being with you physically, touches you or increases his/her proximity to you.

39159b6b575d2f0e58c92b5bbc85005dGive yourself time. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing; working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Maintain physical affection. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

Be prepared: Sex is a wonderful thing. It’s pleasurable and makes you feel happy. It also has a number of other health benefits like helping you burn calories and beating depression. It’s no wonder that we are the only species that has sex for pleasure and not solely procreation. But with all that fun come problems like unwanted pregnancies, STDs and emotional setbacks. So being prepared is your best option. If you are planning to have a one-night stand or are taking the first step towards a committed relationship remember that you should have your mind in sync with what your body wants.

Choose the location and set the mood: Sex is an intimate act, at least it should be. So pick a spot where both of you will be uninhibited, especially if it’s your first time. Pick a place that is private and has a comfortable place to have sex in. A good soft bed with mood lighting always helps the cause (unless you plan to tread on an experimental path). So splurge a little bit. Remember pleasure does come at a cost.

Approach the person gently and do not seem too desperate: Coming on too strongly or being pushy about having sex is one of the biggest turn offs. So don’t seem desperate (even if you are dying to be with the person), allow the other person some space to express their feelings as well. You should definitely show that you are interested in getting physically intimate but back off if you feel the other person is not reciprocating. Sex should be a choice so let them choose.

Kiss and caress: The first step towards physical intimacy is kissing. Most women love to kiss and a passionate kiss can definitely put her in the mood for some more. Moreover being close, kissing, touching and caressing your partner helps stimulate their erogenous zones which will lead to more pleasurable sex. It also leads to a stronger sense of closeness and safety – two emotions that help a person perform better in bed.  So touch him/her, kiss and make your partner wanted. This is also another way to help quell the person’s body image issues (if they have any), making them more comfortable in your presence.porls7yry8

Have a lot of foreplay: This is where you can either choose to remove your clothes or have your partner undress you. Another way to go about it is to remove one piece of clothing at a time, making the entire process a mystery. When it comes to foreplay, most people think that sex is only penetrative. But the act does include foreplay. Foreplay, as the name suggests is what you do before you have sex. It includes fondling, kissing, stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones and oral sex as well. Make sure you get enough of this in. It is often the most enjoyable part of the whole sexual experience because the two of you can experiment with a number of methods. Tip for men: Women can orgasm multiple times. So pleasure your woman, she will definitely be in the mood for some more and thank you for it in more ways than one. Tip for women: Most men love to be touched as well, so make him feel good. Touch him, kiss him and feel his entire body. Don’t hold back and don’t be the only one hogging all the pleasure.

Pick the right moment: The right moment to have penetrative sex is usually felt and is often mutual. Pick the moment when your partner really wants to move on to the next step. In some cases asking if the other person is ready or if he/she wants more is a good way to know when it’s time. Once you know that he/she is ready, take it to the next level.

Insertion: This is the most hyped part about sex and is often believed to be the only thing that happens during it. But there’s nothing further from the truth. In this step the penis is inserted into the vagina. Tip for men: The vagina is an elastic organ present just below the woman’s vulva (external lips of her genitals). If you are having protective sex, make sure you wear a condom before you insert your penis into her vagina. A number of men get the position wrong and tend to ‘look around’ with their penis (try to penetrate without knowing where the vagina is) this can be painful for the woman. So a good way to find the vagina without being embarrassed is to ask your partner to help you.

Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help overcome problems. For example, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.

Use lubrication. Often, the vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex—a problem that can snowball into flagging libido and growing relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.

img_0867Love making: Once the initial penetration is complete, you can choose to have sex however you both are comfortable. Men, make sure you thrust (your penis into her vagina) in rhythmic motions and do it from the hip; this will ensure your woman gets the maximum pleasure. Moving your entire body is counterproductive. Most importantly listen to your partner and your body. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and make sure you take your partner’s pleasure into consideration and make her happy too. Tip for women: Be proactive in bed. Move when your man moves. Thrusting can be pleasurable and even more so when you both are doing it in sync and together. Tell your man what you do and don’t like. Also, make sure you pleasure him as well.

Last few moments: Once you both have climaxed or the sex is about to get over, you both will most probably be in a state of elation. Allow yourselves to be in that state for as long as you need to be. Remember this is the phase where you can choose to hold each other or simply be next to each other. Don’t rush things; let your body come back to its normal state. Rushed sex can be exciting sometimes but if it is done on a regular basis it can leave you feeling a bit incomplete. Tip for men: Most women like to be held or cuddled at this point. Indulge her. After all she has been a partner in your sexual romp. Tip for women: If you liked the experience, tell your partner that. There is nothing like an ego boost after a good time between the sheets.

Winding up: The post coital part can be lovely in some cases and awkward in others. So try to make your partner comfortable. Give him/her a t-shirt to wear, flirt a little and tell him/her how good the experience was. Smile and share a laugh together. This could be the best time to make a good friend or a partner for life. So use the opportunity. After you’ll are done, make sure you’ll wash up. Women, wash your vaginal opening and vulva and men should wash their penis once they remove the condom. Lastly, make sure you dispose of the condom properly. Do not flush it down the toilet. Throw it in a dustbin wrapped in paper or tissue instead.

Don’t give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

But we have to keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It’s not only about who has the stronger sex drive; men and women just respond differently and at different times. Women base their desire for sex more on connection, intimacy and emotion; they also need more time to physically get ready for sex.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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A daughter may outgrow your lap, but not your heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a KING, not because i have a kingdom, but as I have a Daughter who is PRINCESS of my World. Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.

From my childhood I spent most of my life in the arms of many wonderful women, but for first time, I hold a little angel (ShanvikaPr@win) close to my HEART and she proudly calls me Prawin. When she says ‘Daddy I need you!’ I wonder if she has any idea that I need her billion times more. Having a daughter makes me see things in a different way. This is my only girl. So I don’t care what it takes to protect her. You can call it what you want to call it. As long as you treat her the same way I treat her, like my princess, I don’t mind.

Shanvika, hours I spend with you in a day may be limited, but my thoughts for PicsArt_08-18-05.35.48you are  unlimited and my love is unconditional. You make me very proud to be your Father. I know that our relationship is not completely perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real. I love you, sweetheart. With every day that passes, you only grow more beautiful in my eyes. I admire your heart of gold. I love you very much! I Adore your Smile, I Cherish your Hugs, I Admire your Heart, But Most of All I Love that you are My Daughter. Never forget that I Love you till my last breath. Life is filled with hard times and good times. Learn from everything you can. Be the woman I know you can be.

The bond a father and daughter share is special and irreplaceable. To every father, his Daughter is a gift from heaven who is like sunshine to a day. She fills fathers heart with pleasure, a joy to always treasure! Not only does a girl’s relationship with her father shape her childhood experience, but it will also influence how she interacts with men in her adult years. If a father is absent or erratic in his behavior, this sets his daughter up for feelings of low self-esteem and trouble with trusting men in general. All parents should appreciate the importance of understanding the father’s role in his daughter’s life, as his presence (or absence) will play a role in her self-image and well-being for decades to come. Daughters can bring so much meaning to your life and make you the happiest you have ever been. Below are some of the traits every father should possess.

Teach your Daughter That She Is Worthy of a Respectful Partner: A father who treats his daughter – and his daughter’s mother – with respect is sending a clear message that women deserve good treatment from the men in their lives. This can make all the difference when his daughter begins dating. If she is used to positive support and kind behavior, she is less likely to tolerate it from abusive dates and partners.

IMG_20190818_182623Make Time for your Daughter, No Matter How Busy you are: One of the most important things a father can do is simply show that he is willing to be around. He should make the effort to attend special events at his daughter’s school, engage her in conversation, and take an interest in all areas of her life. This will build her self-esteem and let her know that she is a worthwhile individual.

Remind Your Daughter That She Is Beautiful Inside and Out: There is nothing wrong with telling your daughter that she is pretty, but remember to tell her how much you value her intellectual abilities and character. This will prevent her from relying on her looks to carry her through life and from placing too much value on what others think of her face and body.

Inspire your Daughter to Reach Her Goals: A father should encourage his daughter to follow her dreams and show her that he believes she has what it takes to succeed. Girls habitually look to both parents for guidance and support, so fathers must make the effort to inspire their daughters whenever possible

Enjoy Activities Together: Healthy activities such as walking, biking and swimming are a great way of building memories and teaching your daughter that exercise is an important habit. Keeping fit will help her maintain a good body image, which will be a real asset as she develops into a teenager.

Be Consistently Loving but Firm : Daughters who do not receive affection and approval from their fathers are likely to seek it elsewhere as teenagers and adults, and this may lead to an unhealthy dependency on men. Fathers can prevent this happening by telling their daughters how special and loved they are, whilst maintaining appropriate levels of discipline and upholding firm boundaries.

Always Treat your wife Well, Even If you Are Not Together: If a daughter witnesses her father treating her mother poorly, she will receive negative or mixed messages about how men and women relate to one another. Even if you are not with her mother, always take the high road and act in a civil manner.

Take your daughter on Special Trips and Outings: Let your daughter feel special by  IMG_20190818_182553making the time to take her out on a regular basis. A simple trip to the park with a picnic is enough to show her that you care enough to make her a priority. Take the opportunity to show her how men should treat women – with respect and dignity. Engage her in conversation and talk to her as an equal.

Model a Respectful Attitude Towards Women : A good father does not make sexist jokes or speak disrespectfully about women. He has the intelligence to realize that his daughter’s self-image will suffer if he does so, and knows that it is important to uphold the idea that women are of equal value to men

Know When to Ask for Forgiveness: No father can be perfect all the time. When you mess up, explain how you plan to do better next time and tell her that you are sorry. For example, if you accidentally miss her piano recital, plan an outing to make it up to her. Ask for her forgiveness and learn from your mistakes.

I request every father, kindly treat you Daughter the way you want her future partner to treat her. The way you interact with your daughter is what she becomes used to when relating to a man. Treat her with respect, dignity, caring, and affection and she will expect to be treated that way by a mate.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person. In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, good Son, a good grandson, a good husband, a good brother, good friend, a good colleague and a good fellow human just being connected to every of my well-wishers  as much as possible.

Today is my little angel ShanvikaPr@win birthday. Kindly bless her and wish her to have a wonderful life. 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Journey with my Team


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I miss my team. I miss the inside jokes, the feelings of communal accomplishment, the team dinners, even the endless drama… I miss it all. I loved complaining about the workouts, the politics, and the bad apples (every team had them). I loved the friendships that were established in the every step of journey..

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I miss confiding in my teammates everything on my mind and heart, and miss them being such a huge part of both.

I cannot imagine achieving new goals without you, lads! You made this company reach new milestones with all your hard work! Big thanks to all of you. Congratulations to you for all the hard works and positive thinking. You took the meaning of teamwork to a whole new level. Appreciate your good work! I don’t think it would have been possible to achieve the goal without each and every one of your efforts! You guys deserve a treat!

I’m lucky to be part of a team who help to make me look good, and they deserve as much of the credit for my success as I do for the hard work we have all put in on the training ground. I am so blessed to have worked with such an amazing team of individuals, who care so much for each individual they come in contact with. Each wonderfully happy moment and every single heartbreaking moment has its place here.

My team saw the best of me. They worked so hard, accomplished big dreams part of me. The leader by actions part of me. The motivated, determined me. The healthy and strong me. They saw the shinny gold me.

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My team celebrated with me. They jumped and danced and squealed because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged, high-fived and scarfed down an extra large victory Blizzard together.

My team commiserated with me. They cried and apologized because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged. We ugly-cried.

My team saw the worst of me. The couldn’t keep up, failing part of me. The excuse making, finger pointing, complaining part of me. The depressed, discouraged me. The broken and weak me. They saw the darkest shadows of me.

My team saw every part of me. Even the parts very few others have ever seen. My team, my teammates, my people; they never walked away.

My team never gave up on me. They pulled me up. Pushed me forward. Even when I preferred sitting down.

My team let me be courageous. I was free to dream. Free to try. Free to fall and do it all over again.

My team kept me accountable. Kept me humble. Kept me driven to something bigger than myself.

I miss my team.

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For all those years, I did all I could for the betterment of the team. For a united goal. For a prize awarded to “us.” Through it all; the elation and desperation, the fatigue and failure, the praise and adoration, my team was working for me. Helping me. Loving me. Shaping me.

But I am forever thankful they let me be me. Forever thankful they are MY team. Always. Thank you for not only your good work but also for all the support you have given each other throughout the project, that’s what makes the team stronger! Thank you for all your effort!

But from the bottom of my heart I want my guys to know that are wonderful .Love you guys and my prayers are with y’all!! 🐶🐱🐾❤

I miss my team. I miss my teammates. I miss my people. I miss those moments.

Every second, every minute, and every hour spent with my team was the time of my life.

 

 

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ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !


ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !
టెన్షన్లు.. ఒత్తిళ్లు… డబ్బు సంపాదన…అతిగా ఆలోచనలు లేకుండా…80573564_2523240627774267_4107180927703056384_n.jpg
ఉన్నంతలో కుటుంబమంతా కలసి… ఆనందంగా గడిపిన .
�ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!  

ఆదివారం ఆటలాడుతూ… అన్నాన్ని మరచిన
�ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

మినరల్ వాటర్ గోల లేకుండా…కుళాయి దగ్గర, బోరింగుల దగ్గర, బావుల దగ్గర… నీళ్లు తాగిన…
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వందలకొద్దీ చానెళ్లు లేకున్నా…ఉన్న ఒక్క దూరదర్శన్ లో
శుక్రవారం చిత్రలహరి… ఆదివారం సినిమా కోసం వారమంతా… ఎదురు చూసిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

సెలవుల్లో అమ్మమ్మ.. నానమ్మల ఊళ్లకు వెళ్లి…ఇంటికి రావాలనే ఆలోచన లేని…
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ఏసీ కార్లు లేకున్నా ఎర్రబస్సుల్లో…కిటికీ పక్క సీట్లో నుండి ప్రకృతిని ఆస్వాదించిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్…!

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మొబైల్ డేటా గురించి ఆలోచించకుండా..బర్త్ డే డేట్ గురించి మాత్రమే ఆలోచిస్తూ.చాక్లెట్లు పంచిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

మటన్ బిర్యానీ.. చికిన్ బిర్యానీ లేకున్నా…ఎండాకాలం వచ్చిందంటే మామిడి కాయ పచ్చడితో…
అందరం కలసి కడుపునిండా అన్నం తిన్న…
� ఆరోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు జేబు నిండా కార్డులున్నా… పరుసు నిండా డబ్బులున్నా…కొట్టుకు పంపితే …మిగిలిన చిల్లర కాజేసిన
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సెల్లు నిండా గేములున్నా…బ్యాట్ మార్చుకుంటూ ఒకే బ్యాట్ తో క్రికెట్టాడిన..
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ఇప్పుడు బీరువా నిండా ప్యాంట్లున్నా… రెండు నిక్కర్లతో బడికెళ్లిన…
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ఇప్పుడు బేకరీల్లో కూల్ కేకులు తింటున్నా… .ఐదు పైసల ఆశా చాక్లెట్ తిన్న…
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్…!

చిన్న చిన్న మాటలకే దూరం పెంచుకుంటున్న ఈ రోజుల్లో..
పిల్లలం కొట్టుకున్నా పెద్దలంతా కలసివుండే
# రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు ఇంటినిండా తినుబండారాలున్నా…నాన్న కొనుక్కొచ్చే …చిరుతిళ్ళ కోసం ఎదురు చూసిన..
#ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు రకరకాల ఐస్ క్రీమ్ లు చల్లగా నోట్లో నానుతున్నా…అమ్మ చీరకొంగు పైసలతో పుల్ల ఐసు కొనితిన్న…
#ఆ రోజులు ఎంతో బాగున్నాయ్..!

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పొద్దుపోయేదాకా చేలో పని చేసుకొచ్చి…ఎలాంటి చీకూచింత లేకుండా.. ఎండాకాలంలో ఆకాశంలోని చందమామను చూస్తూ నిదురించిన..
#ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

*ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబాల ఊసే లేకుండా పోయింది*
అమ్మ, నాన్న,…. అక్క బావ…చెల్లి మర్ది….అన్న వదిన…. తమ్ముడు మర్దలు…. మేనత్త మేనమామ.
పిన్ని బాబాయ్….. పెద్దమ్మ పెదనాన్న…. తాతయ్య అమ్మమ్మ…. తాతయ్య నానమ్మ…..
ఒదిన, మరదలు….బావ బామ్మర్ధి…..ఇంకా…. ముత్తాత తాతమ్మ….
ఇలా వరుసలు ఉన్నాయని…. ఉంటాయన్న సంగతే మరిచారు నేటి తరం….

మమ్మి డాడి….. ఆంటీ అంకుల్
ఇవి రెండు తెలిస్తే చాలు….ప్రపంచమంతా మన బందువులే అనే భావన ఏర్పడింది.

రక్త సంభందం అంటే ఏంటో తెలియని దుస్తితి….

కారణం…..
పుట్టగానే పిల్లలను క్రెచ్చ్ ల్లో వేయడం….లేదా ఆయాలకు అప్పగించడం…

అందాలకు బందీలై తల్లి పాలు కూడా ఇవ్వకపోవడం….
ముడ్డి కడగడం మానుకొని డైపర్స్ వాడడం….ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… లాలనలు….
ఇక్కడినుండే మొదలు….ఇక కాన్వెంట్లు….. రెసిడెన్సు స్కూళ్లు….

వాడికి ఎవడు చుట్టమో… ఎవడు పక్కమో తెలియని పరిస్థితి ….
ఎద్దులా పెరిగి మొద్దులా తయారవడం తప్ప మరేమీలేదు….

ఇంజనీరింగ్ చేయడం…. ఎమ్మెస్ కని విదేశాలకు వెళ్ళడం…..

వాట్సాప్ లో చాటింగ్….ఐ ఎం ఓ లో విజిటింగ్….
స్కైప్ లో వీడియో కాలింగ్….అమేజాన్ ద్వారా షాపింగ్….
నెలకింత అమ్మ నాన్నలకు డబ్బు పంపిస్తే…. వీరికదే ఆనందం….

పెళ్లి ముందురావడం…. అయిపోగానే పెళ్ళాన్ని తీసుకొని పోవడం…..

ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… ఆప్యాయతలు….అయ్యా, అమ్మ సస్తే తప్ప….

కనీసం దాయాదులు పోయినా….దగ్గరోడు సచ్చినా….

దయలేని దుస్థితి ….చూడలేని పరిస్థితి ..ఇంకెక్కడి బందాలు..ఇంకెక్కడి బందుత్వాలు….అందుకే….
కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థ రోజు రోజుకు నశించిపోతుంది….

అందుకే రోజు రోజుకు ఓల్డ్ ఏజ్ హోం ల సంఖ్యలు పెరుగుతూ పోతున్నాయి…..

బాల్యం నుండే మార్పు రావాలి…
బందాలు పెరగాలి….
అమ్మమ్మ, నానమ్మ ల కథలు వినాలి….
తాతయ్య నేర్పే మర్యాదలు నేర్పాలి….
కుటుంబం లో ఉండే ఆనందం తెలపాలి….
అది మనింటినుండే ప్రారంభం కావాలి….

కలసి బోజనం చేసి…. కలసి ముచ్చటించడం నేర్పాలి….ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థను కాపాడి….

మళ్ళీ ప్రపంచానికి మన దేశం వసుదైక కుటుంబం అని చాటి చెబుదాం….🌹

 

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This Is When You’re Gonna Miss Her Most


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

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I never knew, i love her so much, till I met and lost lost her in the journey of my life.

She’s not the type of person you miss when she leaves. In fact, you might not even notice she’s gone initially… because well you thought she’d always be there. She’ll casually go without a goodbye or some grand exit because it was hard for her to give up on you. It was hard for her to walk away and not look back. It was hard for her to accept no matter how hard she tried, you never were going to reciprocate was she both wanted and deserved.

She was around and gave you so much attention so often you took her for granted. You’re still going to think she’s someone you can pick and choose when you want to. What you don’t realize is she made the choice to walk away already. And it broke her heart to do so. But she had to because you left her with no other choice. If you weren’t going to appreciate her presence she’d make you realize what you lost in her absence.

Missing her… It’s going to happen when you least expect it. You’ll see her somewhere and she might not even notice you at first. She’ll be so consumed by the attention of someone else. You’ll look at this person who is making her smile so big and that’s when it’s going to hit how pretty she is when she’s happy. But you never saw that side of her because all you did was disappoint her and let her down and bring out the worst of her.

You never saw how torn up she was about every little thing. But she lost sleep over you. You spent too much time talking about you. Too much time emotionally invested. And when you’re emotionally invested in someone you don’t see how bad they are for you sometimes. 270f02c9985b5d6bcd64c03b3ecfa9c9

Maybe someone will mention her in conversation and ask you how she’s doing because there was a time you knew. There was a time you were very much a part of her life and so involved you could answer on her behalf because you knew about every good day and bad one.

You’ll freeze for a moment and you’ll answer good but the truth is you’re finding out about her life the way everyone else is. Through social media. Instagram posts. FB updates. Snap stories. And you aren’t hearing from her firsthand like you used to.

It’s going to hurt a bit once you realize that.

You’ll go to text her and you’ll realize you don’t even know how to say hello.

You’ll realize there are so many things you want to tell her. And you think back to a time when every conversation she made about you. Even when you ignored her she’d send a double text continuing to try and keep the conversation going. You’ll stare at her name in your phone, looking back at the date of the last time you spoke and you’ll realize how long it’s been. But what’s going to hurt more is that it took you this long to realize she was already gone.

What’s going to hurt is the moment you realize you did nothing to make her want to stay.

You’ll miss the little details of her life even the things she used to complain about.

You’ll miss even the things that used to annoy you about her. How long her texts were, how she’d answer in less than 5 seconds making it so easy. How predictable she was and how you thought she’d always be there. Because no matter what you did or how you treated her it never altered the way she treated you.

You’ll miss having someone who genuinely cared about you. Someone who took time out of their day to ask how you were and wait for an answer. Someone who went out of their way and always made sure they were there. Someone who took the time to learn and understand you. Someone who wanted to know about your past to understand why you were the way you were. Someone who would have gone to the ends of the earth to make you happy and never stopped praising you or building you up even if you were knocking her down.

You’ll miss her late at night when you’re laying there alone and you realize there’s no one to talk to. And it’s not just her you miss it’s the conversations you used to have, how she’d get you to a place no one else could. How she’d get you thinking about things caring about things, believing in things even if it was you yourself. After talking to her she thought you could do anything because that’s how much she believed in you.

You’ll find yourself driving and a song will start playing and you’ll freeze for a moment thinking of her. It’s one of the songs she made you listen to and it’s only now you realize why. It was just another clever way of her saying she cared without spelling it out. You’ll drive past a place and it’s her ghost you’ll see there as flashbacks run through your mind of when you were there together and things were so different.

You’ll think back to a time when you knew she cared even when you didn’t. Moments where she poured her heart out to you and all you did was listen.

And you’ll hate yourself for realizing it too late that you really do care. Maybe you always have. And you probably always will care a little bit. That’s the thing about girls like her, they come into your life just long enough to leave a lasting impression before they take off again. Forever leaving a little bit of an imprint on your heart. She’ll leave and you won’t even be able to be angry at her for it. You’re more so angry at yourself for not realizing what you had when you had it.

You’ll again and she’ll smile and hug you and ask how you are because she doesn’t hold it against you for not caring. But what she doesn’t realize is how you do care. But you let her go on her way not saying anything because even you know, she deserves better and it wasn’t supposed to end this way.

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You lost her a little more every time


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

It’s the texts you answer at your convenience. It’s the snaps you look at then put down your phone.

It’s every like when you’re bored because you’re wondering what she’s up to. It’s every canceled plan when something better comes along.

It’s the attention you give that’s the bare minimum. But she takes it. Because at least for that moment, she has your time and attention when she’s always given you all of hers.

It’s every surprise you take for granted. Even though, she thought a lot about it for a while. It’s not caring enough to even consider reciprocating those things.

It’s the favor if you need one, that always goes answered every time. Even though she’d never ask the same. x51k5655.jpg

It’s the nights she wishes would turn into the morning but you have some sort of other agenda, as you say goodbye.

You label her as easy to read. Because the truth is you know if you want her you can have her. And where is the fun in that?

Where is the fun in someone only caring about you?  Where is the fun in honesty? Where is the fun in love when everyone is chasing after questionable likes?

But the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t answer.

You lose her a little more every time you cancel plans.

You lose her a little more every time you choose someone else when the only person she’s ever chosen is you.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t appreciate her.

You lose her a little more every time you take her for granted.

You lose her a little more every time she goes to bed wondering, ‘why aren’t I enough for him?’

But what she doesn’t realize, as these feelings she has for you, blinds her of the truth. She’s more than enough for you. It’s you that isn’t good enough for her.

Because if you were worthy of her, you’d realize her value.

But one day you’ll lose her for good. Because she’s going to get to a point where there’s nothing more she has to offer and she’ll walk away. And it’ll hurt her to do so. Because she looked at you with wide eyes full of faith that depleted over time.

One day she’ll be the one not answering. One day those snaps you send will be ignored and you’ll send another just in case.

It’ll irk the shit out of you, the moment she starts treating you the way you treated her.

You’ll ask her out and she’ll politely decline. You’ll blow up her newsfeed and begin to become more interested in what she is up to but more than that who she’s with.

Because it’s not you that’s making her smile anymore.

You’ll miss the nights when she laid beside you and all she ever wanted to do was talk. The silence will kill you, as you wish for just one more conversation.

You’ll hold onto everything she ever got you and it’ll be a hurtful reminder of the girl who loved you just a little too much.

And maybe you’ll look back and remember there wasn’t mystery to her. But there was an honesty you’ve never known in someone.

She didn’t play games like the others. She’s the type of girl that ruins people in the best way and you’ve become just another victim.

And as you fumble through girl after girl, you’ll find something in them all missing. It’ll be in them you look for her but she will never be found.

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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I was born to be a Farmer


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

The below words are taken from a painting I have seen in an art gallery in Montgomery, Alabama. They are heart touching.

I was born to be a Farmer. It is what I know …and what I love. Up before the crack of dawn with a morning ritual that includes a strong cup of Joe, a quick glance at the weather and always a check on the market,because….I was born to be a Farmer.

Its overlooking the beauty..of earth and smell of freshly tilled soil.entrusted to the vastness of what we call a field. Its watching and waiting to see all of those millions of little seeds start to sprout through the ground in rows as straight as a ruler,bringing great satisfaction,because…….I was born to be a Farmer.  download

Its having great faith..as the storm comes in knowing that the green,tender plants could be wiped out in a matter of seconds or when the rain simply doesn’t come and watching the plants wither until at the last minute of almost losing hope,a rain cloud comes.And the sky opens right at that moment with just enough to get little relief and renewed faith,because……I was born to be a Farmer.

Its keeping up.. with technology,realizing that it’s a sure necessity.but always looking back with the fondest of memories and great admiration of how dad and grandpa did the things because..I was born to be a Farmer.

Its a partnership…a working partnership with the good lord almighty.without him,it couldn’t be done.It’s is His divine guidance that gets me through each season from planting to the harvest.Through the storms and the drought, the highs and the lows.some say it’s a gamble,but to me it’s a way of life,because..I was born to be a Farmer.

I believe in the farmer, I believe in farm life, I believe in the inspiration of the open country.

I am proud to be a farmer, and I will try earnestly to be worthy of the name.

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No TRUST, No US


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Trust is an important factor in any relationship. Without trust no relation will survive. Building trust in a relationship can be difficult. People think they know how to, but sometimes it doesn’t work with some people. Building trust is a very important part of a relationship, and without it, relationships can be very stressful.

Trust is the bedrock for building a strong relationship. Trust means that you have placed your confidence and faith in your partner, and that you expect honesty, integrity, loyalty, and respect to be at the center of your relationship. You also expect your partner to keep promises and confidences, and to stay with you when the going gets tough.

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An important ingredient in any romantic relationship is the establishment of trust. The presence of trust is a key indicator in the health of a relationship as well as the level of intimacy between partners. Trust is the key to any relationship because without it you cannot have the confidence to share your feelings, memories, emotions, and yourself with someone else.

Trust must not be immediately assumed, or given. Trust must be earned. If you are struggling with the issue of trust in your relationship below are some tips to help you develop greater trust with your partner.

Be honest

Honesty is the best policy. A relationship blossoms if both partners are honest towards each other. Being honest makes the other person trust you. Dishonesty can be harmful for any relationship. It is true that you will take time to build the trust but it is not worth to lose trust with one mistake. What is the use of being in a relationship if you cannot devote to it sincerely?
Never lie

‘Please do not lie to your partner, unless you are absolutely sure your partner will never find out the truth,’ the well known quote will make you think. Being truthful is like climbing the first step of the ladder called ‘trust’. A lie is hard to find out but once it is out in the open, the relationship will suffer. Telling your spouse that you are in a meeting when you are actually in the bar with friends is like betraying the trust. Even the smallest lie can devastate a relationship.
Keep your promises

If you have given a word to your girlfriend that you will meet her on the weekend, keep your word. If you have promised your husband that you will accompany him to his friend’s party, do not step back. Keeping your promises will make your partner believe in you. Your dear one will trust you for the rest of his or her life.
Show that you care

Faith will go deeper and deeper if you really care for the other person. Do you regularly ask your wife whether she had her lunch properly at her work place? How often do you plan a romantic date for your girlfriend? Care can be exhibited through words, emotions and gestures. Trust is a greater emotion than love. If trust is there love will follow.

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 Protect Against Intruders

Set limits on how close you become with outsiders to the relationship. Boundaries guard against infidelity and deep emotional connections that tear away at the intimacy between the couple. This is where honesty, faithfulness and love come in to under-gird and protect the relationship. Guard against flattery from others. In order to keep your marriage safe from intruders you need to come up with a strong plan of action to ensure the security of your relationship!

Be responsible

Relationship is a sweet responsibility. A trustworthy partner is always responsible for his or her behavior. Be responsible for your actions. If your relationship is not sailing smooth, it is your responsibility to do something about it. Talk to each other and face the adversities together. Your romantic life will be awesome if you have faith in each other. Being responsible is an important aspect of developing trust.

Conflict Resolution

Finally, make it a point to work together to resolve conflicts and problem areas to foster growth and a mature, deep and committed relationship that will endure. If you are both invested in making it work, you both have work to do. Working together is incredibly important!

If you want to build trust in your relationship you need to ask and seek answers. If your partner begins to act differently then seek out the reason behind it. Talk to your partner about it instead of hiding behind them. Ask your partner to talk to you about these things, because when they don’t, you feel as though they are hiding something and can make you feel uneasy.

Trust is like the cement of your foundation. If it starts to crack or crumble, the whole building will be unstable. Your whole relationship will be unstable. So, be worthy of trust yourself, seek for trust and you will find that your relationship is stronger and better.

Learning to trust and building trust are two sides of the same coin. Someone has said, ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.’ You have chosen your partner as your soul mate as you have faith in him or her. Let your sweetheart know how much you trust and how much you care. Keep the spark of love alive forever.

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Posted by on December 25, 2014 in Family & Relationship

 

You are the Other heart of My Heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Wife of a Wonderful Husband…

I can remember the first moment that I saw your face. You were looking at me as I am a different species and I was annoyed by your look, yet you seem very familiar to my heart. When you were around me I was very anxious and thought the reason is I don’t like you much. I was in my own mess of love at that time and didn’t believe in love much. Somehow you managed to steal my heart and we began our life journey together six years back.  I cannot express how much I love you and how much our life together means to me.

Since the moment we started our life journey, you have being my Father, my strength, my weakness, my Child, my best friend, and my life. Though we are so different from each other, we both also have a weird, silly side to us that perfectly match. Sometimes I think these differences make us work and happy. S1

You always read me better than I read myself. You lift me up when I am down. You always encourage me and support me on working out my plans. It doesn’t matter to you whether I am fat or skinny, beautiful or ugly, you always admire and respect me. You always think about my happiness and comfort. Sometimes you are a big father to me. Sometimes you irritate me with your advice’s, but I always know that those are true and glad you are alongside me.

I am so sorry for the times when I fell short. You are so forgiving, kind, thoughtful and giving. I really could not ask for more. You are such a hard worker and a determined man.  My prayers for us are to love each other more every day and to happily enjoy a long life together.

Sometimes you annoy the hell out of me. You spend so much time on your computer with headset on and you can’t hear what I am saying. So I have to scream or have to hit you to get your attention. Sometimes you ask so many questions just to irritate me. You don’t talk to me or don’t even look at me when you are angry, and you keep staying like that for hours or even for days. But still I love all those things too.

I know our life is not perfect, yet it is perfect for us, though it’s not a fairy tale. I am glad about the decision I took six years back to be your wife and that’s the best choice I have made in my entire life. Thank you for being my life partner and my life coach. Thank you for accepting me as I am and not trying to change me.
I just want you to know that I love you. You have been such a blessing for me. I’m so happy to be your wife. I want to continue to take care of you with all I have till the end of my life. Life is just so beautiful with you. You are love of my life. Thank you for all that you do for us and thank you for being who you are.

You listen to me. You talk to me. You hold my hand. You smile at me. You are my husband, the love of my life and I will always be thankful for YOU!

I love you more than yesterday and surely less than tomorrow. You are the best thing happened to me in my life. On this wonderful day, I wish more years to be with you and grow old together.!!!!

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
 
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