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At every stage of life, our relationships and families present us with both joys and challenges. Learning to manage stress, to understand our own emotions and behaviors, and to communicate effectively can help strengthen our own emotional health.

This Is When You’re Gonna Miss Her Most


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

I never knew, i love her so much, till I met and lost lost her in the journey of my life.

She’s not the type of person you miss when she leaves. In fact, you might not even notice she’s gone initially… because well you thought she’d always be there. She’ll casually go without a goodbye or some grand exit because it was hard for her to give up on you. It was hard for her to walk away and not look back. It was hard for her to accept no matter how hard she tried, you never were going to reciprocate was she both wanted and deserved.

She was around and gave you so much attention so often you took her for granted. You’re still going to think she’s someone you can pick and choose when you want to. What you don’t realize is she made the choice to walk away already. And it broke her heart to do so. But she had to because you left her with no other choice. If you weren’t going to appreciate her presence she’d make you realize what you lost in her absence.

Missing her… It’s going to happen when you least expect it. You’ll see her somewhere and she might not even notice you at first. She’ll be so consumed by the attention of someone else. You’ll look at this person who is making her smile so big and that’s when it’s going to hit how pretty she is when she’s happy. But you never saw that side of her because all you did was disappoint her and let her down and bring out the worst of her.

You never saw how torn up she was about every little thing. But she lost sleep over you. You spent too much time talking about you. Too much time emotionally invested. And when you’re emotionally invested in someone you don’t see how bad they are for you sometimes. 270f02c9985b5d6bcd64c03b3ecfa9c9

Maybe someone will mention her in conversation and ask you how she’s doing because there was a time you knew. There was a time you were very much a part of her life and so involved you could answer on her behalf because you knew about every good day and bad one.

You’ll freeze for a moment and you’ll answer good but the truth is you’re finding out about her life the way everyone else is. Through social media. Instagram posts. FB updates. Snap stories. And you aren’t hearing from her firsthand like you used to.

It’s going to hurt a bit once you realize that.

You’ll go to text her and you’ll realize you don’t even know how to say hello.

You’ll realize there are so many things you want to tell her. And you think back to a time when every conversation she made about you. Even when you ignored her she’d send a double text continuing to try and keep the conversation going. You’ll stare at her name in your phone, looking back at the date of the last time you spoke and you’ll realize how long it’s been. But what’s going to hurt more is that it took you this long to realize she was already gone.

What’s going to hurt is the moment you realize you did nothing to make her want to stay.

You’ll miss the little details of her life even the things she used to complain about.

You’ll miss even the things that used to annoy you about her. How long her texts were, how she’d answer in less than 5 seconds making it so easy. How predictable she was and how you thought she’d always be there. Because no matter what you did or how you treated her it never altered the way she treated you.

You’ll miss having someone who genuinely cared about you. Someone who took time out of their day to ask how you were and wait for an answer. Someone who went out of their way and always made sure they were there. Someone who took the time to learn and understand you. Someone who wanted to know about your past to understand why you were the way you were. Someone who would have gone to the ends of the earth to make you happy and never stopped praising you or building you up even if you were knocking her down.

You’ll miss her late at night when you’re laying there alone and you realize there’s no one to talk to. And it’s not just her you miss it’s the conversations you used to have, how she’d get you to a place no one else could. How she’d get you thinking about things caring about things, believing in things even if it was you yourself. After talking to her she thought you could do anything because that’s how much she believed in you.

You’ll find yourself driving and a song will start playing and you’ll freeze for a moment thinking of her. It’s one of the songs she made you listen to and it’s only now you realize why. It was just another clever way of her saying she cared without spelling it out. You’ll drive past a place and it’s her ghost you’ll see there as flashbacks run through your mind of when you were there together and things were so different.

You’ll think back to a time when you knew she cared even when you didn’t. Moments where she poured her heart out to you and all you did was listen.

And you’ll hate yourself for realizing it too late that you really do care. Maybe you always have. And you probably always will care a little bit. That’s the thing about girls like her, they come into your life just long enough to leave a lasting impression before they take off again. Forever leaving a little bit of an imprint on your heart. She’ll leave and you won’t even be able to be angry at her for it. You’re more so angry at yourself for not realizing what you had when you had it.

You’ll again and she’ll smile and hug you and ask how you are because she doesn’t hold it against you for not caring. But what she doesn’t realize is how you do care. But you let her go on her way not saying anything because even you know, she deserves better and it wasn’t supposed to end this way.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

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You lost her a little more every time


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

It’s the texts you answer at your convenience. It’s the snaps you look at then put down your phone.

It’s every like when you’re bored because you’re wondering what she’s up to. It’s every canceled plan when something better comes along.

It’s the attention you give that’s the bare minimum. But she takes it. Because at least for that moment, she has your time and attention when she’s always given you all of hers.

It’s every surprise you take for granted. Even though, she thought a lot about it for a while. It’s not caring enough to even consider reciprocating those things.

It’s the favor if you need one, that always goes answered every time. Even though she’d never ask the same. x51k5655.jpg

It’s the nights she wishes would turn into the morning but you have some sort of other agenda, as you say goodbye.

You label her as easy to read. Because the truth is you know if you want her you can have her. And where is the fun in that?

Where is the fun in someone only caring about you?  Where is the fun in honesty? Where is the fun in love when everyone is chasing after questionable likes?

But the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t answer.

You lose her a little more every time you cancel plans.

You lose her a little more every time you choose someone else when the only person she’s ever chosen is you.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t appreciate her.

You lose her a little more every time you take her for granted.

You lose her a little more every time she goes to bed wondering, ‘why aren’t I enough for him?’

But what she doesn’t realize, as these feelings she has for you, blinds her of the truth. She’s more than enough for you. It’s you that isn’t good enough for her.

Because if you were worthy of her, you’d realize her value.

But one day you’ll lose her for good. Because she’s going to get to a point where there’s nothing more she has to offer and she’ll walk away. And it’ll hurt her to do so. Because she looked at you with wide eyes full of faith that depleted over time.

One day she’ll be the one not answering. One day those snaps you send will be ignored and you’ll send another just in case.

It’ll irk the shit out of you, the moment she starts treating you the way you treated her.

You’ll ask her out and she’ll politely decline. You’ll blow up her newsfeed and begin to become more interested in what she is up to but more than that who she’s with.

Because it’s not you that’s making her smile anymore.

You’ll miss the nights when she laid beside you and all she ever wanted to do was talk. The silence will kill you, as you wish for just one more conversation.

You’ll hold onto everything she ever got you and it’ll be a hurtful reminder of the girl who loved you just a little too much.

And maybe you’ll look back and remember there wasn’t mystery to her. But there was an honesty you’ve never known in someone.

She didn’t play games like the others. She’s the type of girl that ruins people in the best way and you’ve become just another victim.

And as you fumble through girl after girl, you’ll find something in them all missing. It’ll be in them you look for her but she will never be found.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 

No TRUST, No US


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Trust is an important factor in any relationship. Without trust no relation will survive. Building trust in a relationship can be difficult. People think they know how to, but sometimes it doesn’t work with some people. Building trust is a very important part of a relationship, and without it, relationships can be very stressful.

Trust is the bedrock for building a strong relationship. Trust means that you have placed your confidence and faith in your partner, and that you expect honesty, integrity, loyalty, and respect to be at the center of your relationship. You also expect your partner to keep promises and confidences, and to stay with you when the going gets tough.

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An important ingredient in any romantic relationship is the establishment of trust. The presence of trust is a key indicator in the health of a relationship as well as the level of intimacy between partners. Trust is the key to any relationship because without it you cannot have the confidence to share your feelings, memories, emotions, and yourself with someone else.

Trust must not be immediately assumed, or given. Trust must be earned. If you are struggling with the issue of trust in your relationship below are some tips to help you develop greater trust with your partner.

Be honest

Honesty is the best policy. A relationship blossoms if both partners are honest towards each other. Being honest makes the other person trust you. Dishonesty can be harmful for any relationship. It is true that you will take time to build the trust but it is not worth to lose trust with one mistake. What is the use of being in a relationship if you cannot devote to it sincerely?
Never lie

‘Please do not lie to your partner, unless you are absolutely sure your partner will never find out the truth,’ the well known quote will make you think. Being truthful is like climbing the first step of the ladder called ‘trust’. A lie is hard to find out but once it is out in the open, the relationship will suffer. Telling your spouse that you are in a meeting when you are actually in the bar with friends is like betraying the trust. Even the smallest lie can devastate a relationship.
Keep your promises

If you have given a word to your girlfriend that you will meet her on the weekend, keep your word. If you have promised your husband that you will accompany him to his friend’s party, do not step back. Keeping your promises will make your partner believe in you. Your dear one will trust you for the rest of his or her life.
Show that you care

Faith will go deeper and deeper if you really care for the other person. Do you regularly ask your wife whether she had her lunch properly at her work place? How often do you plan a romantic date for your girlfriend? Care can be exhibited through words, emotions and gestures. Trust is a greater emotion than love. If trust is there love will follow.

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 Protect Against Intruders

Set limits on how close you become with outsiders to the relationship. Boundaries guard against infidelity and deep emotional connections that tear away at the intimacy between the couple. This is where honesty, faithfulness and love come in to under-gird and protect the relationship. Guard against flattery from others. In order to keep your marriage safe from intruders you need to come up with a strong plan of action to ensure the security of your relationship!

Be responsible

Relationship is a sweet responsibility. A trustworthy partner is always responsible for his or her behavior. Be responsible for your actions. If your relationship is not sailing smooth, it is your responsibility to do something about it. Talk to each other and face the adversities together. Your romantic life will be awesome if you have faith in each other. Being responsible is an important aspect of developing trust.

Conflict Resolution

Finally, make it a point to work together to resolve conflicts and problem areas to foster growth and a mature, deep and committed relationship that will endure. If you are both invested in making it work, you both have work to do. Working together is incredibly important!

If you want to build trust in your relationship you need to ask and seek answers. If your partner begins to act differently then seek out the reason behind it. Talk to your partner about it instead of hiding behind them. Ask your partner to talk to you about these things, because when they don’t, you feel as though they are hiding something and can make you feel uneasy.

Trust is like the cement of your foundation. If it starts to crack or crumble, the whole building will be unstable. Your whole relationship will be unstable. So, be worthy of trust yourself, seek for trust and you will find that your relationship is stronger and better.

Learning to trust and building trust are two sides of the same coin. Someone has said, ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.’ You have chosen your partner as your soul mate as you have faith in him or her. Let your sweetheart know how much you trust and how much you care. Keep the spark of love alive forever.

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Posted by on December 25, 2014 in Family & Relationship

 

You are the Other heart of My Heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Wife of a Wonderful Husband…

I can remember the first moment that I saw your face. You were looking at me as I am a different species and I was annoyed by your look, yet you seem very familiar to my heart. When you were around me I was very anxious and thought the reason is I don’t like you much. I was in my own mess of love at that time and didn’t believe in love much. Somehow you managed to steal my heart and we began our life journey together six years back.  I cannot express how much I love you and how much our life together means to me.

Since the moment we started our life journey, you have being my Father, my strength, my weakness, my Child, my best friend, and my life. Though we are so different from each other, we both also have a weird, silly side to us that perfectly match. Sometimes I think these differences make us work and happy. S1

You always read me better than I read myself. You lift me up when I am down. You always encourage me and support me on working out my plans. It doesn’t matter to you whether I am fat or skinny, beautiful or ugly, you always admire and respect me. You always think about my happiness and comfort. Sometimes you are a big father to me. Sometimes you irritate me with your advice’s, but I always know that those are true and glad you are alongside me.

I am so sorry for the times when I fell short. You are so forgiving, kind, thoughtful and giving. I really could not ask for more. You are such a hard worker and a determined man.  My prayers for us are to love each other more every day and to happily enjoy a long life together.

Sometimes you annoy the hell out of me. You spend so much time on your computer with headset on and you can’t hear what I am saying. So I have to scream or have to hit you to get your attention. Sometimes you ask so many questions just to irritate me. You don’t talk to me or don’t even look at me when you are angry, and you keep staying like that for hours or even for days. But still I love all those things too.

I know our life is not perfect, yet it is perfect for us, though it’s not a fairy tale. I am glad about the decision I took six years back to be your wife and that’s the best choice I have made in my entire life. Thank you for being my life partner and my life coach. Thank you for accepting me as I am and not trying to change me.
I just want you to know that I love you. You have been such a blessing for me. I’m so happy to be your wife. I want to continue to take care of you with all I have till the end of my life. Life is just so beautiful with you. You are love of my life. Thank you for all that you do for us and thank you for being who you are.

You listen to me. You talk to me. You hold my hand. You smile at me. You are my husband, the love of my life and I will always be thankful for YOU!

I love you more than yesterday and surely less than tomorrow. You are the best thing happened to me in my life. On this wonderful day, I wish more years to be with you and grow old together.!!!!

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Daddy’s Little Girl ✿ ✿ ✿


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Cute Daughter of a Lovely father…

Dear Dad,

I’d like to take a minute or two to express my never-ending gratitude for all that you do.

Dad You are my guide, friend, teacher, well wisher, teacher, opponent, strength, weakness. You are everything to me. I’d like to hold your hand till my last breath.

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Being a father is no easy task. A father makes a huge impact on his daughter’s life. He is the first man she says “I love you” to, and the first man to really show her what love is.

To be honest, I can’t remember a time when you weren’t there for me — not only as a father, but as a best friend. As a child, you were my favorite playmate.

From teaching me how to walk or throw a ball, you’ve showed me ways to stand on my own two feet. A dad’s job is not only to protect his little girl, but also to show her how to defend herself when, one day, he is not around.

As much as I want to thank you, I also want to apologize. Raising a teenage girl might be one of the biggest challenges a father goes through. Speaking from my own experience, I’m sorry for any grey hairs I’ve caused you in the past.

Even though we don’t always understand each other, you’re one of the biggest influences in my life.

A father is the one who guides his daughter through life.

Whether it was a school play, sporting event, graduation or any defining moment in my life, you’ve always been one of my biggest fans. Wherever I end up, I hope I make you proud.

Thank you for offering your shoulder to cry during hard times. You comforted me without even saying anything; you put your arm around me and opened your ears to all of my jumbled words and tears. Thank you for patience.

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Thank you for being exactly who you are to my mother, so that I can know in the inner strings of my heart that love exists and that I will find it for myself. Even in my own life when I lost hope, you showed me that love is the strongest force in the universe. Thank you for teaching me to never let go once I find it, and fight for it when I need to.

Every little girl grows up looking up to her dad, but I’ve never stopped. I know there’s no such thing as a perfect dad, but you come pretty close.

I can’t write any more. The tears are falling and the ink is fading. I haven’t really been myself lately​

Thank you for believing, for hoping, for smiling, for laughing, for teaching, for loving, for supporting, for showing, and for praying. In short, thank you for everything. 

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I’m So Sorry My Love


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article was written by Nikila…

My dear Aryan(name was changed),

I hope you forgive me and, please, read this letter till the end. I just want to say I`m sorry; all I want is to tell you that I made a big mistake when I decided to break up with you and this mistake has made me hurt and cry too much. I get emotional at least 5 times a day and struggle daily to not contact you.

The past three years held some of the greatest moments of my life and it was all because of you. Somewhere along the line I stopped realizing how amazing you were and took you for granted. I cheated and even though I realized I was wrong and ended it I still lied to you. It hurts so much knowing that this pain I’m feeling is coming directly from my actions.  i_miss_u__source.jpg_480_480_0_64000_0_1_0

I know I did wrong, but believe me when I say that I made a mistake, I was confused and unsure of want I wanted. The moment we broke up I realized, in truth, that you are the only who can make me happy…

Please don`t take my apologies as yet another selfish attitude, and as if I`m only thinking about myself; if you`re noble enough to forgive me you`ll find out that I can really make you very happy too!

I know you must be upset and I can perfectly understand why. I`m aware of the extent of my mistake and I`ve even tried to put myself in your shoes. I understand the sad and uneasy situation that I`ve put you through just because of a slip up but mostly because of my childishness and insecurity. But I trust you have a big heart and soul. And I honestly wish you could give me another chance, one last chance to make your feel happy and very much loved.

Please, reply quickly, by letter or by phone!

A kiss filled with love and my most sincere apologies

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Dad hold My Hand forever


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Pr@win..

All that I am today, is because of You.I am so grateful and blessed for having special Father like you.I appreciate you a lot. Take care always and God bless.Wish you a good health and pleasant..

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The strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need.

There was nothing more to add, All the qualities combined is YOU! The Masterpiece! My FATHER

Your arms are my shelter, Assuring me that it will be better.

Your hand in my comfort, Lifting me up when I fall short.

Your voice make me strong, Teaching me what’s right and wrong.

Your smile says it all, Father I love you more then all.

DAD I take this opportunity to say Thanks for what you have made my life to be from the word go to this time.

Father,… Walk alongside me, daddy and hold my little hand.
I have so many things to learn that I don’t yet understand.

Teach me things to keep me safe from dangers every day.
Show me how to do my best at home, at school, at play at office and in life.

Every child needs a gentle hand to guide them as they grow.
So walk alongside me, daddy -We have a long way to go.

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Posted by on June 15, 2014 in Family & Relationship

 
 
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