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Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Trust is an important factor in any relationship. Without trust no relation will survive. Building trust in a relationship can be difficult. People think they know how to, but sometimes it doesn’t work with some people. Building trust is a very important part of a relationship, and without it, relationships can be very stressful.

Trust is the bedrock for building a strong relationship. Trust means that you have placed your confidence and faith in your partner, and that you expect honesty, integrity, loyalty, and respect to be at the center of your relationship. You also expect your partner to keep promises and confidences, and to stay with you when the going gets tough.

An important ingredient in any romantic relationship is the establishment of trust. The presence of trust is a key indicator in the health of a relationship as well as the level of intimacy between partners. Trust is the key to any relationship because without it you cannot have the confidence to share your feelings, memories, emotions, and yourself with someone else.

Trust must not be immediately assumed, or given. Trust must be earned. If you are struggling with the issue of trust in your relationship below are some tips to help you develop greater trust with your partner.

Be honest

Honesty is the best policy. A relationship blossoms if both partners are honest towards each other. Being honest makes the other person trust you. Dishonesty can be harmful for any relationship. It is true that you will take time to build the trust but it is not worth to lose trust with one mistake. What is the use of being in a relationship if you cannot devote to it sincerely?
Never lie

‘Please do not lie to your partner, unless you are absolutely sure your partner will never find out the truth,’ the well known quote will make you think. Being truthful is like climbing the first step of the ladder called ‘trust’. A lie is hard to find out but once it is out in the open, the relationship will suffer. Telling your spouse that you are in a meeting when you are actually in the bar with friends is like betraying the trust. Even the smallest lie can devastate a relationship.
Keep your promises

If you have given a word to your girlfriend that you will meet her on the weekend, keep your word. If you have promised your husband that you will accompany him to his friend’s party, do not step back. Keeping your promises will make your partner believe in you. Your dear one will trust you for the rest of his or her life.
Show that you care

Faith will go deeper and deeper if you really care for the other person. Do you regularly ask your wife whether she had her lunch properly at her work place? How often do you plan a romantic date for your girlfriend? Care can be exhibited through words, emotions and gestures. Trust is a greater emotion than love. If trust is there love will follow.

 Protect Against Intruders

Set limits on how close you become with outsiders to the relationship. Boundaries guard against infidelity and deep emotional connections that tear away at the intimacy between the couple. This is where honesty, faithfulness and love come in to under-gird and protect the relationship. Guard against flattery from others. In order to keep your marriage safe from intruders you need to come up with a strong plan of action to ensure the security of your relationship!

Be responsible

Relationship is a sweet responsibility. A trustworthy partner is always responsible for his or her behavior. Be responsible for your actions. If your relationship is not sailing smooth, it is your responsibility to do something about it. Talk to each other and face the adversities together. Your romantic life will be awesome if you have faith in each other. Being responsible is an important aspect of developing trust.

Conflict Resolution

Finally, make it a point to work together to resolve conflicts and problem areas to foster growth and a mature, deep and committed relationship that will endure. If you are both invested in making it work, you both have work to do. Working together is incredibly important!

If you want to build trust in your relationship you need to ask and seek answers. If your partner begins to act differently then seek out the reason behind it. Talk to your partner about it instead of hiding behind them. Ask your partner to talk to you about these things, because when they don’t, you feel as though they are hiding something and can make you feel uneasy.

Trust is like the cement of your foundation. If it starts to crack or crumble, the whole building will be unstable. Your whole relationship will be unstable. So, be worthy of trust yourself, seek for trust and you will find that your relationship is stronger and better.

Learning to trust and building trust are two sides of the same coin. Someone has said, ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.’ You have chosen your partner as your soul mate as you have faith in him or her. Let your sweetheart know how much you trust and how much you care. Keep the spark of love alive forever.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Pr@win..

All that I am today, is because of You.I am so grateful and blessed for having special Father like you.I appreciate you a lot. Take care always and God bless.Wish you a good health and pleasant..

Father you have…

The strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need.

There was nothing more to add, All the qualities combined is YOU! The Masterpiece! My FATHER

Your arms are my shelter, Assuring me that it will be better.

Your hand in my comfort, Lifting me up when I fall short.

Your voice make me strong, Teaching me what’s right and wrong.

Your smile says it all, Father I love you more then all.

DAD I take this opportunity to say Thanks for what you have made my life to be from the word go to this time.

Father,… Walk alongside me, daddy and hold my little hand.
I have so many things to learn that I don’t yet understand.

Teach me things to keep me safe from dangers every day.
Show me how to do my best at home, at school, at play at office and in life.

Every child needs a gentle hand to guide them as they grow.
So walk alongside me, daddy -We have a long way to go.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

By ShruthaKeerthi…

People ask me.. “Why social service! you are so young! You should be having fun!?” the truth is..With you as my father, I will strive till the end of my life to be at least half of the person you are! I am blessed to have u DAD, u are my hero, teacher, guide, strength & weakness. You are everything!

 HaPpiE faThErS daY DaDdy  LOve U daDdy 

Parenting is a 24-hour-a-day job with no salary, no raises, no promotions and very few vacations.   

A true father is always there.

He is there to spill tears of happiness when his eyes fall upon his infant daughter.

He is there with arms to catch her when she takes her first steps or stumbles.

He is there to teach her at the youngest age, even though she might not understand half of it.

He is there to help her color inside the lines, make her grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup, and tie her shoes.

He is there to hug her and kiss her on her first days of school, and to walk her in if need be.

He is there to teach her and tease her and laugh with her. He is always there to embarrass her, but that’s part of life.

He is there to tell her to go ask her mother, when her mother told her to ask him.

He is there to lecture her, prepare her for the monster called high school.

He is there to put up with her teenage moods and her co-ed relationships. He is there to approve, disapprove, accept and forgive.

He is there to give her a big bundle of flowers when she graduates, to smile when her name is called and feel proud.

He is there to embrace her and kiss her before she goes to live and learn a thousand miles away.

He is there to see her become a workingwoman, to walk her down the aisle (or not, if her independence and stubbornness prevail after all).

He is there to watch her grow as the lines on his face grow.

He is there to welcome her home, always, and let her hug him and smell the smell she remembers from childhood, the warm, protecting, comforting smell of dad.

But most of all, he is always there to love her. And she is always there to love him back.

“Dad, I love you, love you the most. Never leave me alone.”

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

My Heart Never knows loneliness until you went away.

Nobody knows that i still wake up thinking of you
each-day .

I miss your company,
I miss your smile,
I miss walking with you in rain,
I miss your love, care, concern,
I miss the sensation of your touch.
I miss you, pampering me like kid,
I miss visiting temples with you,
I miss the arms that protected me,
I miss the shoulder that takes me to sleep,
I miss the fingers, that wipes out my tears,
I miss the hand that holds me when I am down,
I miss holding you at night,
I miss support of your shoulders when I am tired.
I miss feeling like you want me.
I miss early morning walks in the park by holding your hand,
I miss the kiss which you used to give on my forehead daily,
I miss imagining us a year from now,and how happy we should be.
I miss planning our vacations,
I miss phone calls, text messages,
I miss sweet fights with you,
I miss daydreaming of how nice it will all be.
I miss the idea of you missing me!!!
I miss everything we used to be!
Finally I miss, my Life’s journey with you,

Nobody Understands how much I miss you,

You are defined as my unspoken truth hidden behind my heart…

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As world will be celebrating women’s day on 08th March, I feel that it is my duty to express my gratitude to all women in my life, as a mother, sister, teacher, friend, wife, daughter,  peer…to all known and unknown women’s.

Nature has given women so much power that the law has very wisely given them little. A woman is like a tea bag: you cannot tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water. – Even woman laugh, love, hope, try, hurt, need, fear, cry. And they do the same things too, So they really not that different, me and you.

Women play very important roles in our lives. They are our mothers, our wives, sisters, daughters and friends. Women sacrifice a great deal for the men in their lives and sometimes their little sacrifices go unnoticed or without mention. Even with the great push for equality and affirmative action, women still suffer in this male dominated world. Some Inspiration for women that would help motivates, empower and help women step out of the pattern of self-doubt.

 “Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.”

Few things I like in women around me…

1. It is amazing how women are so wonderfully giving and loving. Their love is unconditional and forever. And once 
they forgive, they really forget. They don’t dig out the heavy artillery, even when they have the best opportunities 
to do so.

2. It is lovely how women manage to hear you out for hours. They never pass judgments. Never say you are wrong (even if you have behaved like the worst jerk in the world). And when you ask for their opinion they give it without managing to make you feel a worm. They criticize without wounding.

3. A smile. Now when women smiles, she really smiles. No pretences, She smiles from her heart and speaks with her eyes. It is amazing how many ways women smiles. She has a tender smile, a loving smile, a “what will I do with you” kind a smile. A saucy grin. A smile of gentle indulgence and finally the best of them the complete smile. The smile that says “Whatever you are, however you are, I love you”

4. The way they get all in frenzy, when they want to let you know of their achievements. Their eyes say “I want you to be proud of me” but they will die rather than admit it, After all they only wanted to let you know.

5. “Do-good” attitude – an undeniable part of every woman. They are out to reform everyone. They will give you sermons on all your vices (by the number of ‘vices’ they list you will feel a worse insect than Satan will) and tell you have to reform to be a “better” person. And will be hurt if you don’t wanna change. 

6. A single thing that I love about a woman, it is the perfect mix that makes men goes weak-kneed. The sensuality combined with nurturing, the naughtiness combined with caring, the vivacity coupled with quiet understanding. It is a heady mix and man, it is very intoxicating. 

Therefore, 

Kudos to the Mother who loves others even more
Kudos to the brave lady
Kudos to the business woman
Kudos to the sports woman
Kudos to the politician
Kudos to the women for all her successful and enduring

I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was by Father of beautiful angel…

Peace isn’t a place with no stress, but a place where you take the stress as it comes, in stride, and don’t let it rule you. You let it flow through you, and then smile, and breathe, and give your child a hug.

Parents will always have stress: we not only have to deal with tantrums and scraped knees and refusing to eat anything you cook, but we worry about potential accidents, whether we are ruining our kids, whether our children will find happiness as adults and be able to provide for themselves and find love.

I’ve learned that we can find peace.

There is a Way of the Peaceful Parent, but it isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.

The Way

The Way is only learned by walking it. Here are the steps I recommend:

• Greet your child each morning with a smile, a hug, a loving Good Morning! This is how we would all like to be greeted each day.
• Teach your child to make her own breakfast. This starts for most children at around the age of 3 or 4. Teach them progressively to brush their teeth, bathe themselves, clean up their rooms, put away clothes, wash their dishes, make lunch, wash their own clothes, sweep and clean, etc.
• Teaching these skills takes patience. Kids suck at them at first, so you have to show them about a hundred times, but let them try it, correct them, and let them make mistakes. They will gradually learn independence as you will gradually have less work to do caring for them.
• Older children can help younger children — it’s good for them to learn responsibility, it helps the younger children learn from the older ones, and it takes some of the stress off you.
• Read to them often. It’s a wonderful way to bond, to educate, to explore imaginary worlds.
• Build forts with them. Play hide and seek. Shoot each other with Nerf dart guns. Have tea together. Squeeze lemons and make lemonade. Play, often, as play is the essence of childhood. Don’t try to force them to stop playing.
• When your child asks for your attention, grant it.
• Parents need alone time, though. Set certain traditions so that you’ll have time to work on your own, or have mommy and daddy time in the evening, when your child can do things on her own.
• When your child is upset, put yourself in his shoes. Don’t just judge the behavior (yes, crying and screaming isn’t ideal), but the needs behind the behavior. Does he need a hug, or attention, or maybe he’s just tired?
• Model the behavior you want your child to learn. Don’t yell at the child because he was screaming. Don’t get angry at a child for losing his temper. Don’t get mad at a kid who wants to play video games all the time if you’re always on your laptop. Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
• When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
• Remember that your child is a gift. She won’t be a child for long, and so your time with her is fleeting. Every moment you can spend with her is a miracle, and you should savor it. Enjoy it to the fullest, and be grateful for that moment.
• Let your child share your interests. Bake cookies together. Sew together. Exercise together. Read together. Work on a website together. Write a blog together.
• Know that when you screw up as a parent, everything will be fine. Forgive yourself. Apologize. Learn from that screw up. In other words, model the behavior you’d like your child to learn whenever he screws up.
• Patiently teach your child the boundaries of behavior. There should be boundaries — what’s acceptable and what’s not. It’s not OK to do things that might harm yourself or others. We should treat each other with kindness and respect. Those aren’t things the child learns immediately, so have patience, but set the boundaries. Within those boundaries, allow lots of freedom.
• Give your child some space. Parents too often over-schedule their child’s life, with classes and sports and play dates and music and clubs and the like, but it’s a constant source of stress for both child and parent to keep this schedule going. Let the child go outside and play. Free time is necessary. You don’t always have to be by her side either — she needs alone time just as much as you do.
• Exercise to cope with stress. A run in solitude is a lovely thing. Get a massage now and then.
• It helps tremendously to be a parenting team — one parent can take over when the other gets stressed. When one parent starts to lose his temper, the other should be a calming force.
• Sing and dance together.
• Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
• Kiss your child goodnight. And give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.

‘You know the only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children? Those who’ve never had any.’

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Sravanthi….

Hi All,

I would like to share some of my feelings that i thought of sharing with my mom, but I never.

My Mother is the best gift that was given to me by god. Having her is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.

I am so thankful – SO thankful – for my mother, and so fortunate to have the relationship that I have with her.  She is the strongest woman I know.  She loves her children  fiercely.  She is a fortress.  She breathes selflessness.  She is my sounding board.  She is the picture of sacrificial giving.  And she taught me how to do my very favorite thing in the universe:  be a mother.  I couldn’t be more thankful, and to borrow a phrase that she often used in reference to my brother and me:  “I couldn’t have gone to Heaven and picked out a more wonderful mom.”

Let me start off by saying that my mom is great! She is my role model and I can only hope to achieve a fraction of what she has achieved in her lifetime.My mother’s story is AMAZING and I am hoping to one day write a book telling everyone about her unbelievable challenging life’s journey, but for now I am going to ponder my relationship with my mom and how it has changed— for the better.

My mom is a tough cookie. She cares for the family a lot. From childhood I was brought up under single parenthood.I will tell you few incidents that depict my relationship with my mom.  It is a love/tolerate type of relationship. Like any relationship, we have our ups and downs.

My mom struggled a lot to get me to this position.

My mother may not be rich enough to leave me a financial legacy when she go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.

Mom…You have always been a source of inspiration to me when it comes to hard work and not giving up. I have been lazy and sister has been lazy in her own ways, but you never gave up on us to get things done…I always love you for that…

My mother was my first teacher to write and read.

I still remember the days that I spent with her in my child hood.

She used to sit along with us through out night during exams.

She spent many sleepless nights thinking of me and my sister.

In order to feed us, she used to keep herself starving.

From my childhood I was in hostel to pursue my education. Every week she used to come to me, from my village with some special dishes. She used to walk from Bus-stop to my college which is 4 kms In order to save 5 rupees.

My mom used to get new clothes to me & my sister on every occasion, but she never purchased even a single pair.

In order to provide us better education, she sold all her property, jewellery.

She is the first person in this world to become happy, when I was on top; achieved something and when I was blessed.

When I said I am in love with Vamsi, she eacted in a positive way and done our marriage.

In so many ways, my mother have cherished me so much that she cherished her own life.

She used to care me & my sister, as if we were golden treasure.

She always prays for the goodness of our life in this world and what comes after.

She used to spend time to take good care of me. In the middle of the night, where everybody was fall asleep, my mother remains awake to check what i need.

She put her strength all together for me, and being a weak human being in physical, she could still manage to do a lot of hard works for me and family.

Even today if she come to me, she pampers me & my sister a lot.

If there was any argument between me and my sister, she used to take the pain.

Even at this age, i like to sleep with my mom placing my head on her shoulders.

I know I am miles away from my mother now. But, I will never forget what you gave me have made me special in this world. She never left hopes on me, her belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now, but I never cared you and received you with love.I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.

I will hold her hand; I will take care of her till my last breath.

I have decided to keep my mother in my heart with me  and welcome unconditional love and support into my life.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja….

                                      Mother is the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.

Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.

It was 5.30 pm. I was on the terrace enjoying the sunset. It was a pleasant evening.As usual I was enjoying the wind on my face. My mobile rang. I checked the number, it was my father.

With smile on my face and with anxiety I attended the call, He asked me to start to my home place immediately.

When I reached my home I was informed that my mother was suffering with health problem and she was admitted in hospital.

I was confused because I was never before exposed to such situations.

I regained my senses and my speech after a while.

We know that our time on earth is finite. Still, it is one of the most painful experiences in life.

Doctor predicted “she took all her way and finally she is well.”

I took my confidence and I tried to care her taking all my chance to serve her. But every time I tried to care for her by feeding her or cleaning her, she pushed me away softly.

I realized she did not want me to take care of her.

Because like many other grandparents and mothers do, she gave all her love for granted so she didn’t want me to take care of her.

The way I sat beside her she realized I can take care of her.Somewhere e in her confused mind there is a moment of understanding then she gave me the opportunity to serve her.

I remembered

“The days I spent with my parents were the best days in my childhood. I demanded love and attention from them and I always got it.”

When I moved ahead busy with my goals, career and life….., she used to call me at least  once a week. She used to note my wellness and health. But, I hadn’t called her even once.

I realized how much of their love we had taken for granted.

My mother spent 50 years of her life. “She” a wife and a mother of three children defended the world for her children.

When everything was lost there she fought and she lived with a hope that her children would defend her.

It is said that behind every successful person there is a woman. That may not necessarily be true; however it is true that behind every confident child there is an encouraging mother. Day after day in our impressionable years our mothers either build us up, or tear us down. A child who has a mother who is set on encouraging her/him is a child that starts off with an advantage. Our mothers may not be rich enough to leave us a financial legacy when they go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.

Her smile-her rejection, her laugh-her anger, her presence and I looking after her are deeply overwhelming.

That moment I realized the unspoken words.

It is incredible how much comfort can be found in little things.

We live each moment just heartbeats away from our beloved people so please ensure that on any given day we say the things that we would most want the important people in our lives to know.”

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced; however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth.

There is no greater gift that you could leave behind than to have left “no words unspoken.”

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja….

PRAWIN you are one of the great thing, that happened to me in my life. I am placing the words that I thought about you in your presence and in your absence..

It’s really an honor to me, to work with you and be a part your life’s journey.

Do we choose relations in our lives?

I didn’t choose my parents, my brothers, my sisters they happened to be in my life. Many relations happened in my life, the same way you happened. But you made a difference by how best you happened. I trust and love my parents because my blood. I trust, love and respect you though you are not my blood.

What have you given me that make me respect u so much…..?

Although like every human I want to love and be loved, I fear both. But u made me realize “trust makes you never feel afraid of being used, being misunderstood or being hurt but just makes feel free to give oneself fully to beloved one.

I watch you when you are in front of me, “I perceive how selfless you are, how open you are, how close you are to others and how sweet behind the harsh words”.

I perceive how you love all young and elders not just to be nice but because you see they have something to value.

I perceive how you balance happiness, sadness and humility.

I wonder how you overlook the praises when everyone around shower on you.

I feel warm by your presence and your words.

I feel accepted whenever I’m near you, even though I’m far from your way of perceptions, principles and values.

At times you give hope to laugh away darkness. At times you make smile and sometimes cry.

At times you’ll be a reason to make a step for glory.

You are neither world famous but been world to all who invited you into their lives

“I have never met someone like you who has so much pride and respect for yourself and your loved ones”.

One can never know what may come in life but I feel u never give up your faith. The reason is you make yourself a stick to guide where you want to go.

I one among your memories,

“Why it happened? How it happened? Where does it go?

Not that it mattered. Because” knowing, you love us all for we are beings, i.e humans. Can I name this relation?”Just by word love.

The respect, trust and love growing for you each day. Where do I get the words from, when you impact to make clear ambitions, goals and make life more beautiful?

I am making no expectations from you.

I am not waiting for anything in return. All I want is you live with health and happiness forever…..

You are really good in the way you are, please lead the life as per your expectations. I need not suggest or advice you, because you are PRAWIN.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.