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Pat on back from others, may hold you Back


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Be aware of the pat on the back from others! It might be the one thing that holds you back.

In current weakened society, one of the methods people believe works is to give an instant pat on the back to someone once they do something positive/correct, etc. While this may be an effective method, all you are truly doing is weakening one person’s mind. You are essentially training a person to expect a congratulations/ an attaboy, etc., for every fucking thing they do. But, we are forgetting the very basic principles of being a basic fucking human being. Instead of the pat-on-the-back method, why not try this one? The fucking “supposed to” method!

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It is our job as leaders and teachers to teach people to not always look for the pat on the back rather to build a mindset that we are supposed to do and be our best all the time in every situation. We shouldn’t look for anything from anybody for simply doing our best.

You are supposed to get up early, make your bed and clean your house. You are supposed to work out almost every day. You are supposed to do the best you can in school every day. You are supposed to bring your best effort to work every day.

That pat on the back should only come when you have exceeded what most people consider exceptional work or have gone above and beyond what is expected.

Don’t expect a pat on the back for the shit that a human being is supposed to be doing every day of their lives and that is being the best that he/she can be in every situation in their life. It’s not about you. It’s about your team, the ones you love, and having pride in yourself. It’s not about what others think or feel about you- it’s about how you feel about yourself.

Like I say we(humans) don’t need approval, we know what we are supposed to do and just do it out of love for our family community country and lastly self. As long as I go above and beyond and can look at myself In the mirror and smile, it’s all good, “well done good and faithful servant” is the only praise I seek and I ain’t getting that in this life

Sometimes you just have to pat your own back for all that you do. Well, today is your day! Today recognize your accomplishments, your abilities, your personal greatness and give yourself a pat on the back. You’re not being conceited, you’re not being vain, you’re being proud of who you are and what you do.

Everyday congratulate yourself, thank yourself, check your path correct yourself and give yourself a big pat on the back. We must not forget to pat ourselves on the back for all that we’ve accomplished so far! It’ll fill us with great positivity and energy to move forward in life.

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Proud

Don’t be afraid to wear your pride on your sleeve,. Too often we fear being proud of ourselves for the concern that others will see us as cocky or boastful. But there is nothing wrong with giving ourselves a pat on the back or hearty congratulations when we have accomplished something- big, small, anything! DO not wait for someone to congratulate you. Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds.

Post By David Goggins.

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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STOP GIVING MONEY


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

“Why is sleeping child in the hands of beggars? Have you ever wondered … ”

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Most of the Beggars on the busy streets and subways operate in gangs, and to cash people’s sentiments – they even hire babies and drug them to sleep. It is a fact, it has happened and is happening in few places around the world.

941241_571208322924416_802627689_nYou may think you are helping a mother feed her young ones. If so, think about these issues.

A – Thousands of babies are abducted everyday for the begging “business”.
B – Many babies are mutilated and disabled for life to extract sympathy from onlookers.
C – Almost of all of these babies are drugged and incapacitated while being taken out on “business”.
D – A mother will seldom use her children to get alms from someone else. Most of these babies are “rented” on a daily basis from cartels.
E – Not even a paisa of what you give will reach these hapless babies.

If approached by women carrying a baby and begging for money. Please do not give them money.

These women actually make the babies look pathetic so as to try and appeal to the public’s sympathy, by using such babies. I have heard that when one woman takes rest, the baby is handed over to other women, who continue to walk to streets in the hot sun carrying the baby. Such babies are perhaps rented out from beggar to beggar

What You can Do

Simply giving money to the child beggars and their mothers on streets will not help solve the issues with them. If possible, in such cases buy food for the child and even the women carrying the baby but please do not give cash.  I am not against giving money to beggars and believe that we should all show compassion. I am however, totally against the use of babies being used as a begging tool.

If you really want to help those less fortunate kids, provide them a better solution, like offering shelter of the government or NGO organizations.

STOP giving money to anyone carrying a baby. Put a stop to this begging with baby business. Put an end to kidnapping and child abuse.

Travelers are also cautioned to be careful of small children who walk around the streets begging. Some of these children appear to be only five or six years old. There are reports of these children stealing purses and chains etc. and running away in the crowds.

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Posted by on November 14, 2014 in Experiences of Life., Moral Stories

 

Man who Programmed his LIFE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From students of PSNA college..

Prawin, the day I met you during a training program in my college, my first impression is you are so handsome with unique dressing, silver rings, bracelets and earring. You are first crush in my life and to many others in PSNA college 2011 BE batch. When you started the training program, you looked like an Idiot who is speaking so arrogant and have no respect towards girls. By the end of 3 day training event, you looked something special to me and many of my friends. As it is a college with many students who girls,  many of my friends started to admire you for your looks, your attitude, your teaching skills and love you poured on us. After journey with you and by seeing and listening to people about you, I understood I am totally wrong for taking u wrong on day 1. From then, every-time I used to get surprised with your lectures, articles and with your Gutso nature. You are unique in way you speak, behave, give lectures, work, treat others, learn, eat, live your life… I mean  WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.05.26 PMeverything grabbed the attention of people around you. People like you are actually a very rare gem. You might not actually have a bad personality, but it can be so intense that other people often feel the need to give you a wide berth. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should change who you are. You just need to understand that people will often misunderstand you.It could be the energy around you, it could also be a peculiar personality trait that rubs people the wrong way.

Out of my curiosity of attraction or love, I did lot of analysis and found some interesting and hidden points about your personality. For those who possess a deeper personality, you may actually be scaring people off just by being yourself! You are like a Humanoid/ a programmed human. 

Prawin, You possess a deep personality, you are like a diamond in the rough – the honest, reliable, forward-thinking type of person that makes this world a better place. However, not everyone is going to understand how your mind works. There are many people out there who are willing to settle for far less, and your intensity threatens the simplicity of the world that they have created.

You do things with gusto. You believe that you only live once, and therefore, you make an effort to live life to the fullest. Many people don’t do things in the same manner, and they will therefore not get why you do it. But take heart, there will be people who understand your passion, and you can hold on to them.

You Never encourage shallow relationships. You’re not the kind of person who is going to enjoy a one-night stand or a casual fling. If you get into a relationship, you’re all in. You want to connect with someone on a deep level, establishing a meaningful relationship, and anything less is a waste of time in your opinion. As a person with a deep personality, you expect others to give as you give, but you’ll soon be disappointed when you find that many people are only “deep” on the surface” and that it is difficult for people to keep up the ruse over time.

You are incredibly open-minded. Too many people have masked closed-mindedness today with the illusion that they are merely staying true to their morals and beliefs rather than admitting they simply haven’t tried to understand. Instead, you are open to trying to understand new ideas, concepts and ways of living. You may not agree, but you’re always willing to learn more.

IMG_1023You are brutally honest.When it comes down to it, you don’t have time to waste beating around the bush. It’s why people both love and hate you. You don’t bother to sugar coat things, and see your honesty as a positive trait about you. Don’t worry, it is, but many people are not going to like it when you tell it like it is, especially if it’s a hard truth about themselves they don’t want to admit.

You always have a clear picture of what you want. Knowing what you want means you can get to work faster. This means that people will be always in your dust. Your goals are always a top priority which can lead you to say or do things in your quest to achieve success that will make others feel uncomfortable. When you speak your mind you are capable of achieving those goals and that makes people pretty uncomfortable; especially when they are comparing themselves to you and your amazing self. Just be careful not to be too goal focused or you can lose sight of the beauty in the little moments in between.

Your habits are programmed. Schedules and consistency are your friends, creating a solid and predictable foundation upon which you can build your life. You like to know what to expect and how you should prepare for it, and you have no interest in surprises.

You are a solution for problems. If you’re in a difficult situation, you’re not the kind of person who is going to sit around wallowing in the struggle you’ve been handed. Instead, you will instantly get to work trying to find a solution to the problem, working on getting yourself out of there and on to better things.

You like consistency. Your deep personality requires some maintenance and that means that you don’t like surprises. You expect people to do what they said they would do, and you always deliver on your promises in return. When someone rocks the boat, it can be hard for your emotional thought process to handle, and that means that you need longer to deal with life’s problems. But that’s okay, it also means you get to spend more time working through things that others would just glaze over.

Your life isn’t fear driven. Every human being experiences fear. For some people, it can stop them from living a full life. But you’re different. Fear is just another annoying emotion you’ve chosen to accept and move on from. You understand that you will undoubtedly experience fear when you try something new, but you also know that trying new things is what makes life fun and rewarding. After all, growth only happens when you escape your comfort zone.

You aren’t afraid of intimacy. You never seen feeling uncomfortable in expressing love or your feelings. I still remember you sharing your first kiss incident. You want to share your life with someone who understands you at your deepest core. ThaWhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PM(2)t can be hard .But it doesn’t mean that you will never find it. It’s surprising how many people in today’s society claim to understand the importance of intimacy and then shy away from it completely when the opportunity presents itself.

You are incredibly intense in all that you do.You are too intense for some people. You love life and you love living life to the fullest.You intend on living life to the fullest, experiencing everything available. This causes you to lead your life with a level of intensity that most will fail to understand. The few who understand you will share your passion for finding enjoyment in every moment, those are the people you need to surround yourself with.

You cannot shut your mouth.While this may come across to others like you are  interrogating them, the truth is that you want to get to know them on a deeper and more meaningful level. You aren’t asking for manipulative reasons or to find out information you can use to your benefit later, you genuinely want to understand others better and asking questions is the best way to learn more.

You hate waiting in life. Sure, you understand the importance of friendship and companionship but when it comes down to it, you have places to go and things to accomplish. If someone is going to waste your time or leave you waiting around waiting for them to recognize what you have to offer, you have better things to do. You’ll simply walk away and devote that time and energy into those who are ready.

You are like a human lie detector. When someone is being insincere or dishonest, it’s like a red light goes off in your mind warning you that they are screwing around. As someone who values honest, as we previously discussed, there’s nothing you see as a bigger deal breaker than someone who tells lies. You have no interest in sticking around for those that don’t respect you enough to be transparent with you.

You are careful who you let into your life. You only want to spend time with people who actually add to your life. After all, what good is a friend if they don’t make your life better? Yes, you’re intense when it comes to adhering to these principles, but it’s the best way for you to live a great life.

WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PMYou hate ignorance. You cannot tolerate the feeling of being ignored by your beloved ones. Your critical thinking skills are something you’re immensely proud of. So when people make judgments without knowing the facts, it irks you to your core.

You love learning and expanding your mind. You are book worm not reading books alone, but peoples lives as well. Your deep and complex mind needs new information to feed itself. You love learning new things and expanding your knowledge about the world and the universe.

You don’t need attention. Craving attention because of your looks is something you simply can’t understand. You’d rather live with integrity and keep your complexity and depth about you. That’s why you take the time to get to know someone. You know there’s much more to a person than what appears on the surface. This can be intimidating to some people because you won’t be manipulated by what appears on the outside. You see them for who they truly are.

I watched this video about you. The reason nobody doesn’t understand you is that you try to be the different one and perhaps you don’t want to be understood. There’s nothing wrong with being different, it’s good to be you and unique. If you weren’t different, we’d all be the same and that’s not fun nor worth it. Many people in this world  won’t understand you like me in the first meet, but that isn’t a bad thing, But that doesn’t make you less of who you are.

MunnaPrawin, you are very unique and special to me. You are unique breed of human with so many attractive and inspiring traits. Never change yourself for anyone. Let people leave you, but never leave yourself. Remember your words, If a day comes where, I have to change ME to impress this world, that means I am dead.Remember these words forever and never change. One last thing, you may have heard this word from many, but i wanna say that I love you till my last breath. Yours loving AkshayaAryan.

 

 

 

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