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Resignation is not a CRIME


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Employee Resignation, we know it is inevitable in any organization. Sooner or later, even the best employer has employees resign. The reasons are endless for what causes an employee resignation. But, each employee resignation poses the employer with the same series of questions. Unexpected resignations present big challenges for leaders, managers especially those unaccustomed to dealing with them. It’s probably a frustration you haven’t had for a whileand if you’re a relatively new manager, you might not have ever experienced this before.

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As our team members grow in their careers, they may branch out beyond what is available to them in their current role or company. Sometimes, what they are looking for next isn’t something we can offer.  I agree, It’s a dreadful moment when a well-liked member of your team tenders their resignation. You experience a cocktail of emotions ranging from fear about how the rest of the team will react.

As with most difficult situations as a manager, how you handle the resignation will affect more than just you. When someone shares news of their resignation, here’s how to handle it with grace and support so they leave with a great lasting impression of you and the organization.

Be supportive: Congratulate them on their new gig and new opportunity. They’ve worked hard to reach this point. Even if you wish they were staying, honor that they’ve accomplished something great in their career, with you by their side. Now it’s time to let the bird fly.

Collaborate and communicate: You can’t control how others react to the news, but you can control how it gets communicated. Be honest and open when communicating the departure to other stakeholders and team. Explain the circumstance in plain language and assure them “you are working hard to find a suitable replacement and doing your best to make the transition as smooth as possible,”.

Thank them for their efforts: Remember all the things they’ve contributed to your company. Highlight the qualities you admire in them. Thank them for their time on your team, and if it’s true, let them know you’ve enjoyed working with them.

Be curious: Now that you have made clear that you are supportive and grateful, it’s safe to get curious about what they’re excited about taking on next. This is also a good time to ask for input on what wasn’t working well in their current role. Many departing employees are reluctant to share any negative feedback on their way out for fear of burning bridges. If that’s the case, look for what drew them to their new role, so you can assess whether that’s something you could have offered but failed to, or not.

Gauge their interest in staying: Sometimes an employee is dissatisfied but not actually ready to leave. They may want to stay but fear the opportunities they are looking for don’t exist on your team. Other times they are hoping for a salary increase and see a job offer as a negotiation tactic. Make sure you understand if they truly want to leave, or if there’s room to explore changes in team, role, or pay that might change their mind. Are they open to staying? Is there more pay or a different opportunity within the team that might meet their’s and your needs? A change in geography? If they’re open to it, continue the conversation.

Transfer knowledge: Now you have some difficult decisions to make about how to divvy up responsibilities while you’re short-staffed. Acknowledge that your team will have a “workload problem” for a time and that people are likely to  “feel overburdened,” but also use the departure as an opportunity to “talk to employees about their careers and opportunities for growth,” . During the exiting employee’s notice period, set up an “extensive shadowing mechanism” so that those taking over his responsibilities can absorb what they need to.

Make a hiring plan: It highly recommended to coordinate with HR to formally list a job opening as soon as possible. This helps people on your team understand that this is temporary,”. Ask employees for input on what skills, experience and qualities they would like to find in the new hire. Perhaps they know people — inside or outside the company — who would be a good fit. Or an internal promotion might be in order, and this could be a chance for someone to expand and grow into the role. It also recommended reconsidering your team configuration. “Ideally you should operate at some level of overcapacity so that when you lose an employee, you don’t need to panic. This little bit of redundancy doesn’t need to cost you more — think about whether you could hire two part-time people instead of one fulltime person.

Remain available to them for the remainder of their time at the company: Don’t cancel one-on-one meetings just because they’re leaving. You want to remain supportive for as long as they are part of your team. This is a sign of respect and the right thing to do. In our increasingly networked professional circles, it’s also the smart thing to do. You never know: they could be your boss someday.

Honor their ultimate decision: Whether they renege on the offer they’d taken or stay committed to leaving the company, honor their decision and assume it’s the right path for them. If they’re going, plan a farewell gathering to thank this person for their hard work.

Don’t be hard on yourself: Remember that when someone leaves, it doesn’t always mean we’ve done a bad job (though definitely poke into what’s causing their departure). Sometimes it can mean we’ve done a great job in preparing them for what’s next, and they’re ready for bigger and better opportunities thanks to you that may not be available to them in your current company. If their needs could have been met on your team, take this as a learning opportunity. Think about how you can better support your existing team and how you’ll set the next person in this role up for success. And then, it’s time to move on.

Have a party: On the employee’s last day, it’s important to gather your team to “thank the person who’s leaving and wish them well,” . It doesn’t have to be a big party; it could be coffee and donuts in the conference room. But the act of celebration is key. After all, “it’s not only about the person who is leaving. It’s also about the people who are staying,” You are rewarding the people for whom it’s going to be a difficult few weeks.” Failing to acknowledge an employee’s departure and his or her contributions sends a bad message to your team. It’s important to humanize the work relationship.

Sample, Thank you note “MunnaPrawin is leaving us to pursue new opportunities at @ *$&/ company. His last day in our Organization is Feb 14. Please join me in wishing Mary tremendous success in his future endeavors. Please join us to wish Prawin success in his new employment and to say good-bye.”

Principles to Remember:

Do´s

  • Immediately develop a hiring plan to replace the employee
  • Frame the resignation as an opportunity for remaining team members to take on new responsibilities and learn new things
  • Publicly acknowledge the employee’s departure and his contributions to the team

Dont´s

  • Take the resignation personally; instead, retain your relationship with the employee by engaging in a friendly conversation about future plans
  • Try to counter-offer unless it’s absolutely necessary — you’ll have more success if you wait a year and then try to recruit them back
  • Be blindsided again. Make an effort to talk to your team about their professional interests and needs

Support Your Employees, No Matter Where They Are

In the end, remember that the business of losing an employee is more than just, well, business. No matter the circumstances, make sure you both leave on good terms. Wish her well in her new position, offer to be a reference in the future, and encourage her to keep in touch. Even if her performance wasn’t the greatest during those last two weeks, there’s no need to burn that bridge—you never know when you’ll cross paths again in the future.

Losing an employee (especially a great one) is tough—but as a manager, you’ll have to face it sooner or later. So, it’s best to be prepared with a plan of action—and, of course, a heartfelt card and farewell cake can always help ease the pain, too.

Why is it that when someone resigns they are treated like an enemy? Life is too short. Be happy for others and happiness will always surround you. Agree?

When an employee resigns:
1) Thank them for all their contributions.
2) Treat them with respect.
3) Wish them the best.

No matter how educated, talented, which position you hold, rich or cool you believe you are, how you treat others tells all. Integrity is everything.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 
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Posted by on January 22, 2020 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Journey with my Team


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I miss my team. I miss the inside jokes, the feelings of communal accomplishment, the team dinners, even the endless drama… I miss it all. I loved complaining about the workouts, the politics, and the bad apples (every team had them). I loved the friendships that were established in the every step of journey..

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I miss confiding in my teammates everything on my mind and heart, and miss them being such a huge part of both.

I cannot imagine achieving new goals without you, lads! You made this company reach new milestones with all your hard work! Big thanks to all of you. Congratulations to you for all the hard works and positive thinking. You took the meaning of teamwork to a whole new level. Appreciate your good work! I don’t think it would have been possible to achieve the goal without each and every one of your efforts! You guys deserve a treat!

I’m lucky to be part of a team who help to make me look good, and they deserve as much of the credit for my success as I do for the hard work we have all put in on the training ground. I am so blessed to have worked with such an amazing team of individuals, who care so much for each individual they come in contact with. Each wonderfully happy moment and every single heartbreaking moment has its place here.

My team saw the best of me. They worked so hard, accomplished big dreams part of me. The leader by actions part of me. The motivated, determined me. The healthy and strong me. They saw the shinny gold me.

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My team celebrated with me. They jumped and danced and squealed because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged, high-fived and scarfed down an extra large victory Blizzard together.

My team commiserated with me. They cried and apologized because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged. We ugly-cried.

My team saw the worst of me. The couldn’t keep up, failing part of me. The excuse making, finger pointing, complaining part of me. The depressed, discouraged me. The broken and weak me. They saw the darkest shadows of me.

My team saw every part of me. Even the parts very few others have ever seen. My team, my teammates, my people; they never walked away.

My team never gave up on me. They pulled me up. Pushed me forward. Even when I preferred sitting down.

My team let me be courageous. I was free to dream. Free to try. Free to fall and do it all over again.

My team kept me accountable. Kept me humble. Kept me driven to something bigger than myself.

I miss my team.

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For all those years, I did all I could for the betterment of the team. For a united goal. For a prize awarded to “us.” Through it all; the elation and desperation, the fatigue and failure, the praise and adoration, my team was working for me. Helping me. Loving me. Shaping me.

But I am forever thankful they let me be me. Forever thankful they are MY team. Always. Thank you for not only your good work but also for all the support you have given each other throughout the project, that’s what makes the team stronger! Thank you for all your effort!

But from the bottom of my heart I want my guys to know that are wonderful .Love you guys and my prayers are with y’all!! 🐶🐱🐾❤

I miss my team. I miss my teammates. I miss my people. I miss those moments.

Every second, every minute, and every hour spent with my team was the time of my life.

 

 

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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Toxic Co-Workers


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by an Annoyed Employee in IT..

You can pick your friends; you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues any more than you can the next assignment to come down from upper management. It’s no surprise, then, that not every colleague is a good one.

The first, and by far the best, kind of co-workers are the nice ones. You know, the ones who are always quick to offer you a hand whenever you need one. They’re friendly, helpful, and normal to your standards. With them, everything’s peachy! You have absolutely no complaints when it comes to the nice co-workers. Heck, they may be the only aspect of the workplace that’s keeping you sane!

The next category is toxic co-workers. They may be disguised as nice co-workers or even weird, annoying, or obnoxious co-workers, but they actually belong in a whole different category. Those co-workers are out to intentionally or unintentionally hurt your career, and you need to avoid them at all costs. 2013_bsl_CopeToxicWorkers_01

Greed, laziness, selfishness and backstabbing behaviors are an all-too-common part of many company cultures. Often, the people who personify these behaviors within organizations step on the colleagues who are just trying to put in an honest day’s work—so they can get ahead or get out of pulling their load—and it’s time to call them out.

The backstabber: Watch out for this one – he might appear to be on your side, but behind your back he will bad mouth you, lie about you and may be out to destroy you. The backstabber tries to make himself look good at your expense – by making you look bad. Pay attention to how you feel around this person and what you hear; seek clarification if you’re getting mixed signals.

The Politician. Promotions based on merit are not what these schmoozers believe in. Instead, they participate in office politics—popping in the boss’s office every five minutes, declaring their indispensable worth. The Politician is consumed with company politics. Her work life becomes a game in which she is constantly trying to “win” the next job, the next promotion, the next project. However, she spends little or no time fulfilling her current responsibilities.

The time sucker: This is someone who doesn’t think about the schedules and time of others. This employee will simply show up at your workstation to ask questions and go on tangents, with no consideration for your time, prior commitments, deadlines, etc.

The gossiper: Keep in mind that those who gossip to you will gossip about you. It doesn’t hurt to listen to what you hear – just don’t participate in the conversation. Often, the industry grapevine is true, but the gossiper tends to exaggerate, so beware. Some people feel they’ll make themselves look better by spreading information, especially about someone else. The good news is that most people catch on to this tactic, but not always before damage is done.

The Taskmaster. Have you ever come across someone at work who spends all of his time worrying about what everyone else is doing, while at the same time complaining that no one else in the company ever does anything and that he is saddled with all the work? This is the Taskmaster. Taskmasters are quick to assign tasks to other people to avoid having to do anything—and yet as soon as a task is completed, somehow the Taskmaster is there to take credit for getting it done. The Taskmaster constantly works to create the perception that he is so busy that he just couldn’t possibly work one more thing into his day.

The credit-robber: There are people who take credit for other people’s ideas in order to shine the light on themselves, no matter whom they steal from to do it. The credit-robber usually steals the spotlight when you least suspect it, and in front of others. Being caught off-guard makes it difficult to know how to respond and, by the time you catch your breath, you’ve lost your moment.

The unsupportive supervisor: This is a tough one: When you don’t have your supervisor on your side, you’re on your own. Many supervisors feel threatened by their staff; some thrive on the power they feel from making others feel small. You must be very careful when the problem is your supervisor – as with any negative scenario, you need to take a step back to evaluate the situation and do everything you can to protect yourself.

For most of us, working in an office can offer a pleasant, exciting, and motivating path to a successful career. However, sometimes we encounter unprofessional, unhappy, and downright hostile colleagues. When there are unhealthy people within your organization, you’re not just fighting the market and your competitors, you’re now fighting internal battles between teams and individuals just to get something done.

You can pick your friends, you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues. It’s all up to us how wisely we react and handle the Toxic Co-workers at work environment.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 
 

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Your Team is What & Who You Are


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Leadership is lonely. No matter how big your team, sometimes it’s just you–which means you sometimes need to look inside yourself for motivation and inspiration.

An article by the PraWINS Team……..

There are times in your professional environment when you need to support and fight for your team. As a leader, it’s your job to support your team members, so they can get their respect, protect their rights and get their job done at workplace. Today, I would like to speak about my Lead/Manager more than all he’s loving friend “Mayank Shah” who is so FullSizeRender.jpgInspiring and Motivating with his ideas, behavior, way he foresees the things, moves and Personality. His words brings the change in environment and inspires team. Mayank, is such a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit. All the time he displays courage and goes to bat for the people by sending a message that Teams success and achievement is his priority. He wins both respect and loyalty of the team members. He believes in one thing “When the team succeeds, so do you.”

Here are few traits of Mayank that i would like to share. He’s a Good Person, Lead, Manager who’s respected by everyone in the team and organization.

Empowering. He Inspires, motivates and make the associates feel emboldened and powerful, not diminished and powerless.

Care. He doesn’t care about project alone, but about the people in it and the people impacted by it. He also makes it visible that, he care through his words and actions. Care shouldn’t be a four-letter word in our workplace today — and the best leaders know it.

Supportive. He foster a positive environment that allows team to flourish. He provides constructive feedback to make team energized and deliver better results. He’s so supportive professionally and personally.

Powerful. “Power isn’t control at all–power is strength, and giving that strength to others. A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others that they may have the strength to stand on their own.”

Passion. Whatever it is, he’s so passionate for what he’s doing. He believes in “Live, breathe, eat and sleep your mission.”

Respect. Not playing favorites with people and treating all people — no matter what station in life, what class or what rank in the org chart — the same.

Collaborative. He have a nature to solicit input and feedback from those around him so that everyone feels part of the process.

Communicative. He’s very open to suggestions and ideas. He share the vision or strategy often with those around him.

Fearlessness. He’s not afraid to take risks or make mistakes.  He helps team to learn the mistakes and the outcomes.True leaders make mistakes born from risk.

Confidence. He’s so confident on the things which he know. He’s rock solid in thoughts and the way to implement them. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.

Clarity. The only way you can get confidence is by becoming really, really clear about who you are and what is most important to you. New leaders fail when they try to become all things to all people, or try to do too much out of their area of excellence. Clarity helps you say “yes” to the right things — and “no” to others.

2016-11-21-PHOTO-00000188.jpgYet interestingly, in my work environment, people who don’t own this mindset get promoted into leadership positions every day, and it’s quite possible that you’ve encountered or heard about such types in your career. These are those stereotypical sorts of leaders who care more about winning the political favor of their superiors than the respect of the people they’re assigned to lead. Self-serving and ego centric, these types of leaders quickly offend and fail to earn the trust of their people, making enemies rather than supporters of their teammates. There are many Leads/Managers, who could always throw team to the wolves. But there are a lot of managers out there who seem to think that’s the clever option, the right choice. What do you think? I’ve worked for and with some, and believe me they quickly lose staff.

Meanwhile, sometimes leaders don’t fight for their teams because they don’t like conflict or understand how critical the team support is to the company’s ultimate survival and success. Their leadership style may be immature, weak, naive, out-of-touch, disengaged — or any combination thereof. In such cases, there is always hope for growth and improvement, but revolutionary change is undoubtedly required. The problem here is that change of this magnitude can take a long time and in today’s world, few have the patience for that!

The very opposite of these two types of leaders are the disciplined, fearless and balanced ones — and you probably know some of these, too. They’re the ones who have built rock-solid trust with their direct reports and created loyalty and alignment within the culture. When times get tough, everyone knows these courageous, tenacious types have “got their backs.” Team members feel secure and safe.

These leaders, who aren’t afraid of outcomes are ready to fight for rights the team. They have talent, knows the value of team, understand the problems, have skill, grace and a lot of common sense. They know when and how to pick their battles. Instead of fighting each and every issue, they take a disciplined approach in standing up for what’s important and are more likely to win. They’re also calculated and balanced — these great leaders get the facts before they react to potential or current threats and are skilled in presenting their case in a clear, non-emotional and logical manner. They focus on the “Vital Few,” primarily defending whatever is aligned to those critical measures of a company’s goals and controls. Why? Because these types of leaders truly understand that without their team members’ respect and support, neither the team nor its leader can function, much less win.

Your team is what you are and who you are. Without your team and that can be one lone person or tens of people—you are nothing. Without your team you are an empty page waiting to be written or typed. You must support your team, praise it, fight for it, to the death if need be. The brilliant manager—we don’t need to say who that is by now, do we?—generates loyalty and respect by being the team cheerleader—that’s you, that is.

You have to make people on your team see that you are not only their mentor, leader, guardian, and protector but also their champion, their hero, their defender. If anyone tries to hamper the team or their spirit by criticizing them, you will rise to their defense. If anyone tries to take advantage of them, you will rush to protect them. If your team needs you, you should be there all-time. If your team has seen you defend them once, they will know they can trust you to have their best interests at heart. That if something unfair is being imposed on them, you will stand up for them. This also means that if you accept something, they are likely to accept it, too—which makes for a smoother life all around.

Tell us your experiences with leaders who have mettle in them.

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Posted by on November 22, 2016 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Is Your Manager Fit to do JOB?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a Software Engineer working for a Multi national company. I worked for many Organizations in the last 9 years at different roles with many Managers. In my recent project i have a bad experience of working with a very immature manager who complains and img_4022blame employees when something goes wrong. There are few instances where couple of my colleagues were released from Project. Who’s fault is it? Is it their fault for not doing their job well or is it management and the process that failed the employee?

Bad Managers! I’m almost tempted to challenge anyone to find someone that hasn’t had that experience! The truth of the matter is that we all had at least one, perhaps many, if you are not new to the workplace like me. Many managers lack fundamental training in managing people. But, even more importantly, managers lack the values, sensitivity, and awareness needed to interact effectively all day long with people. Skills and techniques are easier to teach, but values, beliefs, and attitudes are much harder to teach – and harder for managers to learn.

If you are a manager and fail to provide the right goals, information, resources, or assistance — don’t complain when employees fail. It’s clearly your fault.

Traits of my Manager: The below listed are the few unacceptable traits that i observed in my Manager. There were many more than the listed one’s.

Screamer Who the ***k you might be, it’s not accepted to YELL at workplace. But, my manager Yells at everyone on the floor without any sort of commonsense. He speak loudly, rudely, one-sidedly to staff. He provide the air time for staff to respond to accusations and comments. They intimidate people and bully staff. He allow few(incapable) employees to bully employees who actually working hard for project.

infographic-horrible-boss.jpgNever Recognizes Talent of Employee One of the most common mistakes my manger make is to neither recognize nor capitalize on the unique differences of each employee. He consciously paint everyone with the same wide brush and all but eliminate any chance for personalities to set themselves apart and bring their individual talents to the team. Most employees who are all treated the same way eventually start feeling unappreciated, misunderstood and overlooked.

Team Politics All time my Manager is surrounded with bunch of Fools, who are professionals in Team Politics.  For some unknown reason he loves their company and listens to their words blindly. He considers they as valuable team assets, but unfortunately everyone knows they were fit for nothing 😉

Poor Communicator. Not giving clear instructions is a prominent trait among bad bosses. My manager can’t speak proper English and can’t even communicate properly in mother tongue. He dares to comment on team members communication and points at the way they were communicating.

Neither Technical nor People Manager  He’s a person who have no technical exposure and he don’t even know to manage the team. He’s purely unfit in both the areas which are more important traits of a manger.

Does Not Have Courage He does not have the courage to deal with a difficult situation despite knowing that it is the right thing to do. My manager is never in a position to take any challenge or stand by the people who’s doing that.

No Positive Feedback It absolutely sucks to go at your daily grind without knowing how your manager feels about your progress. You don’t want to wait until an annual review to know that your manager is unhappy  with you

Tyrant It’s easy to become the tyrant. Write people up, threaten their jobs, and crack the whip! That’s easy. That isn’t accountability. This kind of leadership through fear inspires dd4f4a9b27b7127164383d583ca6237epeople to work hard enough to not get fired. They disengage, and they don’t share their struggles for fear that exposing their mistakes will cost them their jobs.

Terrible Listener. Bad bosses/asses don’t listen, which goes hand in hand with being bad communicators. Worse, he do not even care to listen. Whatever you say, my manager hear what they want to hear and understands what he wants to. In addition, he interrupt constantly, and he’s never fully present during interactions with employees.

Focuses on Weaknesses He dwell on what a resource can’t do instead of what he or she can do. The problem is he never bother to uncover what it is that really motivates an individual, and miss out on opportunities to benefit from innate talent and specific strengths. One of the primary responsibilities of managers is to motivate and develop staff, offer them extensive training on how to better understand human behaviors.

Never Praise or Encourage. He’s there, Quick to criticize and slow to praise: Too many employees of bad bosses report that their managers have not thanked them in years. Given that recognition is the most effective driver of engagement, this is one of the most egregious traits of a bad boss.

Micromanages Most employees are happiest if allowed to have at least some say in determining their own path when it comes to accomplishing objectives. They’ll want a varying amount of oversight from the boss, depending on their specific level of self-confidence and individual desire to take some calculated risks.

 

bad-manager-characteristics.jpgFails to Fit the Right Person to the Right Job Good managers know the personalities of their team members and place each one in a role designed to play into their innate talents and interests. They set them up for success, instead of for failure. But my manager is unable to do that.

Mangers, please note that Not everyone can function in high-stress situations and work as you expect. Not everyone can lead. And not everyone can withstand others’ critiques or nasty remarks.  

When employees resign, the top reason for their resignation is their relationship with their manager. People leave managers, not jobs or employers.

When any organization has quality problems or safety problems, this is clearly  the responsibility of managers. When you’re the boss, you are (like it or not) responsible for everything that happens in your project, whether it’s a small or a big team. Sadly, many mangers think they can get away with blaming their employees when things go wrong. A ‘blame culture’ is common in all different kinds of offices, and can lead to a lack of productivity, wasted time, and hard feelings being created. There are many different reasons that can lead to the development of a blame culture, but all of them are reversible with the use of proper management techniques and some logical thinking.

Is your Manager in your team fit to do the job?

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Posted by on October 23, 2016 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Born to Stand Out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From my Childhood, I’ve been following inspiring leaders, writers and others on the cutting edge of thought leadership, and I’m still awed and amazed at how much there is out in the world to be inspired by.

In my line of work as a Life coach, Soft-Skill trainer, Tech Lead and blogger, I’m fortunate to connect with some awesome and amazing Men and Woman who invest deeply in ideas, thoughts and help their dreams become reality.  Success is an iceberg. When we learn about extremely successful leaders, we tend to see the tip of the iceberg. What we may fail to see is the hard work behind their success. IMG_3999.JPG

I remember being rendered speechless when someone asked me, “Who’s your role model?  Who inspires you?” The sad truth is that, at that time, the answer was “No one.” Today, I would like to speak about a young lady i.e. my friend “Nandita Narayan” who is so Inspiring and Motivating with her Ideas, moves and Personality. Her presence brings the change in environment and inspires many people around. There is something intriguing and compelling about a girl who lights up every room she walks in. Is it her style? No. Is it her long flowing hair? No. Is it her flawless complexion? No. She is quietly confident and has a way of listening and engaging with people. When a group of radiant young women come together, they can inspire hearts, and do remarkable and lovely things. Here are few points i would like to bring that make her stand out.

Fearless
She welcomes the future in all of it’s unknown mystery. Even if she does feel afraid, she does what she has been called to do anyways. Being bold and courageous in the middle of fear has produced great victories throughout history. She always lets her faith be bigger than her fear.

Honest
She knows the liberating and healing power in revealing her struggles and shame. She is honest with those who mistreat her, letting them know that she only tolerates respect, just as she respects them.

Mentorship
She is humble hearted and wise in knowing that she will never know everything there is to know. She has a thirst for learning and growing, so she invites advice and sound counsel from solid mentors.

Self-Discipline
Consistent good habits in her life like getting enough rest, proper nutrition, exercise, spending time in prayer and journaling reflects the commitment to take care of her over-all health. This enables her to care for the people and other priorities in her life more effectively.

Goodness
She is a vessel of joy and kindness, like a healing medicine to the flesh and soul. People are excited when they see her coming and hate to see her go because she always brings life through her words and actions.

Work Ethic
She is not known for laziness; she works diligently. Even when the job seems less than ideal, she always works with a cheerful heart and a constant gratitude for the ability to work and provide. This way, her happiness is not contingent on circumstances alone.

Stands for Justice
She speaks up for those who can not speak for themselves. She defends those who are defenseless and she has a heart for restoring justice.

Wisdom
The words she speaks comes with great responsibility and impact, even to those she does not know are listening. Therefore she is mindful in habitually only speaking words of wisdom and guidance. Therefore, all who encounter her will be blessed because of her. Gossip, slander, idle talk and negativity are strangers to her lips.

Leads by Example
She counsels younger women with a good listening ear, a compassionate heart and a voice of truth. She inspires others to follow her vision through servant leadership and creativity.

Self-Worth
She knows that her value is not defined by the opinions of people, but rather by who she is in the One who made her. When she looks into the mirror, she sees a reflection of God’s own image. There is no rare or glittering jewel or metal that could compare with her worth.

I agree that no Woman or Man who is complete and perfect. What would our character and lives look like if we purposefully applied these attributes? Start with one per day, you could even write yourself reminders in your phone or post-its on your mirror to remind you of the woman/man you can be if you want to be. You were born to stand out.

There are so many people in the world who can serve as your role models and help you make the huge impact in the world that you want to, that I’d say this — if you can’t find someone to inspire you, it’s time for an internal shift to heal the disconnection and isolation you feel, and get yourself back in the game of life.

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