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Parental guide during Covid-19 lockdown


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

The coronavirus outbreak is affecting people across World in different ways. For parents of school-going kids across the countries, the experience has been overwhelming and exhausting. As a parent I can observe and feel that the Parenting is turning to be harder by uncertainty, stress and economic hardship. Parents and children are living with increased stress, media hype and fear, all challenging our capacity for tolerance and long-term thinking.

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The coronavirus pandemic has left a lot of parents panicking about how on earth to make sure their children keep safe and keep learning during lockdown. As schools are closed in various countries around the world, keeping kids engaged at home has become a major concern now. I also learnt that For many, the economic impact of the crisis increases parenting stress, abuse, and violence against children,”

While everyone is fighting the war against coronavirus, you can turn this into an opportunity to make your children learn new skills. Here are few ways to engage your kids at home during the Covid-19 lockdown.

Do not miss this phase of Life

During this lockdown phase, there are going to be interesting, diverse scenarios taking place in homes at the moment. Don’t get frazzled, because teachers don’t lose it – they are quite calm. And just remember that your children are transitioning as well. We need to use lots of negotiation and give and take. crl5azqxeaagy2r

Every parent is concerned because we’re taking up a new role here, which we’ve never had to do before. But it’s not going to be permanent. There’s no quick fix, and you’re not a failure, because this is brand new to us all. The positive thing is, we’re going to get to know our children more.

Talk to your children

First, explain clearly to children why we are all forced to be indoors and the importance of adhering to this restriction. Once they understand the reasoning, you will be surprised at how much more willing they will be to comply.

Parents should talk openly to children about their behaviour because communication was critical at this time. During this phase parents had all the time in world to get to know their children a little bit more. It was the perfect opportunity to have regular discussions with them.

Set up a Daily routine

91tmCTsTBtL._AC_SX569_It starts with a routine, not only for kids but also for us parents. Creating a schedule with a daily routine can be an effective way to tackle anxiety. This would make the kids feel at ease, safer and more relaxed.

The important thing here is to create a plan with some room for flexibility. Set up a schedule for waking up, eating, and learning activities and fun things to do. This will help you as well as the kids to feel normalcy while also maintaining discipline.

Let them start painting!

You can plan and conduct any painting challenge with innovative painting ideas. Each day, you can make them give painting one hour of their time and simply experiment with whatever idea they get for the day.It can be anything from a fruit, a memory, a place or abstract designs with paint.

Painting is a very natural form of expression and it can be meditative too as it soothes their mind and keeps it calm. So, let you kids go ahead and explore this creative language!

Engage them in doing exercises and practicing yoga

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Exercising improves strength, flexibility, agility, and mobility and most importantly it can help build your kids immunity during this Coronavirus pandemic.

Practice meditation and pranayama to destress your life and relax their soul. This will also inculcate a lot of energy and boost their stamina.

Let them chat to friends

It’s really important for the children to communicate with their friends. Parents can set up Zoom talks, skype calls with their children’s friends. Not every day, but during the week, there should be some way they’re connected with somebody else that’s not you, and not another adult.

Plan virtual fun activities with their peers

Plan fun activities over video call with their peers to give them time to socialise. Making study groups can be a great way to make your kids socialise and will decrease the feeling of isolation.

Create an activity plan with parents of their peers so that they can do some activities together over video calls for example, quizzes, karaoke, singing competitions, story telling, DIY activities .

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Support them to Grow plants at home

This lockdown time can be utilized in growing plants in your garden. Make your kids grow as many plants as they can. Encourage them them in gardening by making them grow tulsi and aloe vera which emit oxygen.

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As the world is deprived of clean air, they will work wonders when they grow into trees in a few decades even if you may not be there to see them. If you grow 5 to 10 oxygen-emitting plants, you will add to the pre-existing resources.

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Give them a push to Make Creative stuff

Engage the kids in creative activities of all kinds. Stock up on craft supplies (instead of toilet paper!). Make paintings, knit a scarf, start a daily sketchbook journal, create a stash of cute pop-up cards, sew a baby quilt, make a scrapbook.

Teach them how to bake cookies and bread and how to make simple dinners such as homemade mac ‘n cheese, vegetable soup, and pasta sauce. Build an awesome cardboard box fort, tree fort, or set up an indoor tent. Redecorate a bedroom.

Try and limit screen time

Lots of parents have contacted us to say they’re worried about children sitting in front of the computer for five hours a day.

Parents will be strongly tempted to stick their kids in front of screens for multiple hours a day, just to get their own work done, but this isn’t healthy, nor is it fair to kids who deserve more of an active role from their parents, especially if they’re missing school. I think it’s reasonable to let them have a half-hour a day . Whatever screen time rules you set should be made clear up front, so that the temptation for kids to ask is eliminated right away. (And if they keep asking, they lose the privilege of watching altogether.)

Let them watch Inspirational movies and educational TV series

There is a long list of TV series that will educate your kids on various topics. The National Geographic documentaries are a way fun way to learn. Let your kid pick the genre of their choice and go watch them online. There are many online learning portals and youtube channels for kids.

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If you have access to a Netflix connection or Amazon Prime, there are a vast number of documentaries and docu-series you can watch on a variety of genres.If you want to watch the top movies, just check out the IMDB top 50 list and check which ones you haven’t watched. If you are lucky, you can find them online or you can always download.

Get their hands deep in experiments

Give your kids some time to focus on fun activities like DIY science experiments, craft, drawing, watching documentaries and educational videos.Try to not be too hard on them (remember, they are having a hard time). Save your interventions for when you really need them! reading-for-meaning

Let them Lose in good books

Book reading is always a best habit. These are certain books that people of all ages can enjoy here are a few engaging books your kid should be able to find interesting .  You can find books online for free to make this Coronavirus lockdown time a fun experience for their lazing around with an engrossing book.

Share the responsibility

We need to jointly plan and give them that sense of responsibility. It’s quite powerful for them to take control of what they’d like to do. And if that’s being in their room drawing, then give them that time, make them exhausted from doing that, because they will get bored very soon.

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And when they want to do other things, that’s where, as a parent, you’ve already got all these resources and ideas ready to go.

Encourage them to Learn a new language

Learning a language is a fun experience but it does need dedication. A language learned will give anyone an edge over others. It will add weight to their profile and will help them in career as well.

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That will also open new avenues of education and jobs in the future.Check out the various online courses and mobile apps available to easily learn new languages. Make them attend the online classes and appear for the test to get an online certificate for their new language skill! This will not let them get bored while everything is locked down.

Learn about future goals & understand your role

Its wonderful opportunity for every parent to understand their kinds needs and learn about their life goals. If they do not have any yet, its time where you explain them what is goal and why they are important in life. Make them read books, magazines, online websites on career planning and life goals and plan your targets in life.

Ask your child to list down what they want to be 10 years from now and let them start working on their goals during the Covid-19 lockdown.Study journals and books that will take them closer to their dreams and start working on them. This practice can become the most fruitful practice during the Coronavirus lockdown period.

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Last, but not the least, share your stories

All of us like posting our pictures and stories on our social media accounts. So, tell us how you spent your day when everything is locked down. Share with us on the mail or on our Facebook pageLately, people have been playing with Instagram challenges, posting stories, and asking questions Covid-19. Write about how you made a quarantine time period productive.You can also start your own blog about what you are doing during the Coronavirus lockdown and post there every day along with interesting photos of what you are doing around the house.

School, colleges shutdown is also a chance to make better relationships with our children and teenagers. One-on-One time…makes children feel loved and secure, and shows them that they are important.

Children are quite observant about what it is going on in their surrounding environment. Regardless of age, every kid is aware that the lifestyle has currently taken a pause and can sense that the adults around them are at unease. So communication becomes the utmost necessity wherein talking with your children in a calm, simple and factual way enables you to control the narrative, providing essential information without promoting distress.

Placing boundaries on media exposure is a good preventative action. Try to think of yourself as their mentor and step up! Do reach out to your friends and family in time of need. Remember, this will pass.

A crisis often brings out the best in you and you discover qualities that you never knew existed within. 

A time of crisis is not just a time of anxiety and worry. It gives a chance, an opportunity, to choose well or to choose badly.

Any deep crisis is an opportunity to make your life extraordinary in some way.

Any kind of crisis can be good. It wakes you up.

As for any of us in crisis, hope is the one thing that’s everything. 

Trust me, we together beat this crisis. Stay at Home, Stay Safe.

 

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Posted by on March 10, 2020 in Experiences of Life., Family & Relationship, Life & It's Importance, Work Place

 

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Resignation is not a CRIME


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Employee Resignation, we know it is inevitable in any organization. Sooner or later, even the best employer has employees resign. The reasons are endless for what causes an employee resignation. But, each employee resignation poses the employer with the same series of questions. Unexpected resignations present big challenges for leaders, managers especially those unaccustomed to dealing with them. It’s probably a frustration you haven’t had for a whileand if you’re a relatively new manager, you might not have ever experienced this before.

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As our team members grow in their careers, they may branch out beyond what is available to them in their current role or company. Sometimes, what they are looking for next isn’t something we can offer.  I agree, It’s a dreadful moment when a well-liked member of your team tenders their resignation. You experience a cocktail of emotions ranging from fear about how the rest of the team will react.

As with most difficult situations as a manager, how you handle the resignation will affect more than just you. When someone shares news of their resignation, here’s how to handle it with grace and support so they leave with a great lasting impression of you and the organization.

Be supportive: Congratulate them on their new gig and new opportunity. They’ve worked hard to reach this point. Even if you wish they were staying, honor that they’ve accomplished something great in their career, with you by their side. Now it’s time to let the bird fly.

Collaborate and communicate: You can’t control how others react to the news, but you can control how it gets communicated. Be honest and open when communicating the departure to other stakeholders and team. Explain the circumstance in plain language and assure them “you are working hard to find a suitable replacement and doing your best to make the transition as smooth as possible,”.

Thank them for their efforts: Remember all the things they’ve contributed to your company. Highlight the qualities you admire in them. Thank them for their time on your team, and if it’s true, let them know you’ve enjoyed working with them.

Be curious: Now that you have made clear that you are supportive and grateful, it’s safe to get curious about what they’re excited about taking on next. This is also a good time to ask for input on what wasn’t working well in their current role. Many departing employees are reluctant to share any negative feedback on their way out for fear of burning bridges. If that’s the case, look for what drew them to their new role, so you can assess whether that’s something you could have offered but failed to, or not.

Gauge their interest in staying: Sometimes an employee is dissatisfied but not actually ready to leave. They may want to stay but fear the opportunities they are looking for don’t exist on your team. Other times they are hoping for a salary increase and see a job offer as a negotiation tactic. Make sure you understand if they truly want to leave, or if there’s room to explore changes in team, role, or pay that might change their mind. Are they open to staying? Is there more pay or a different opportunity within the team that might meet their’s and your needs? A change in geography? If they’re open to it, continue the conversation.

Transfer knowledge: Now you have some difficult decisions to make about how to divvy up responsibilities while you’re short-staffed. Acknowledge that your team will have a “workload problem” for a time and that people are likely to  “feel overburdened,” but also use the departure as an opportunity to “talk to employees about their careers and opportunities for growth,” . During the exiting employee’s notice period, set up an “extensive shadowing mechanism” so that those taking over his responsibilities can absorb what they need to.

Make a hiring plan: It highly recommended to coordinate with HR to formally list a job opening as soon as possible. This helps people on your team understand that this is temporary,”. Ask employees for input on what skills, experience and qualities they would like to find in the new hire. Perhaps they know people — inside or outside the company — who would be a good fit. Or an internal promotion might be in order, and this could be a chance for someone to expand and grow into the role. It also recommended reconsidering your team configuration. “Ideally you should operate at some level of overcapacity so that when you lose an employee, you don’t need to panic. This little bit of redundancy doesn’t need to cost you more — think about whether you could hire two part-time people instead of one fulltime person.

Remain available to them for the remainder of their time at the company: Don’t cancel one-on-one meetings just because they’re leaving. You want to remain supportive for as long as they are part of your team. This is a sign of respect and the right thing to do. In our increasingly networked professional circles, it’s also the smart thing to do. You never know: they could be your boss someday.

Honor their ultimate decision: Whether they renege on the offer they’d taken or stay committed to leaving the company, honor their decision and assume it’s the right path for them. If they’re going, plan a farewell gathering to thank this person for their hard work.

Don’t be hard on yourself: Remember that when someone leaves, it doesn’t always mean we’ve done a bad job (though definitely poke into what’s causing their departure). Sometimes it can mean we’ve done a great job in preparing them for what’s next, and they’re ready for bigger and better opportunities thanks to you that may not be available to them in your current company. If their needs could have been met on your team, take this as a learning opportunity. Think about how you can better support your existing team and how you’ll set the next person in this role up for success. And then, it’s time to move on.

Have a party: On the employee’s last day, it’s important to gather your team to “thank the person who’s leaving and wish them well,” . It doesn’t have to be a big party; it could be coffee and donuts in the conference room. But the act of celebration is key. After all, “it’s not only about the person who is leaving. It’s also about the people who are staying,” You are rewarding the people for whom it’s going to be a difficult few weeks.” Failing to acknowledge an employee’s departure and his or her contributions sends a bad message to your team. It’s important to humanize the work relationship.

Sample, Thank you note “MunnaPrawin is leaving us to pursue new opportunities at @ *$&/ company. His last day in our Organization is Feb 14. Please join me in wishing Mary tremendous success in his future endeavors. Please join us to wish Prawin success in his new employment and to say good-bye.”

Principles to Remember:

Do´s

  • Immediately develop a hiring plan to replace the employee
  • Frame the resignation as an opportunity for remaining team members to take on new responsibilities and learn new things
  • Publicly acknowledge the employee’s departure and his contributions to the team

Dont´s

  • Take the resignation personally; instead, retain your relationship with the employee by engaging in a friendly conversation about future plans
  • Try to counter-offer unless it’s absolutely necessary — you’ll have more success if you wait a year and then try to recruit them back
  • Be blindsided again. Make an effort to talk to your team about their professional interests and needs

Support Your Employees, No Matter Where They Are

In the end, remember that the business of losing an employee is more than just, well, business. No matter the circumstances, make sure you both leave on good terms. Wish her well in her new position, offer to be a reference in the future, and encourage her to keep in touch. Even if her performance wasn’t the greatest during those last two weeks, there’s no need to burn that bridge—you never know when you’ll cross paths again in the future.

Losing an employee (especially a great one) is tough—but as a manager, you’ll have to face it sooner or later. So, it’s best to be prepared with a plan of action—and, of course, a heartfelt card and farewell cake can always help ease the pain, too.

Why is it that when someone resigns they are treated like an enemy? Life is too short. Be happy for others and happiness will always surround you. Agree?

When an employee resigns:
1) Thank them for all their contributions.
2) Treat them with respect.
3) Wish them the best.

No matter how educated, talented, which position you hold, rich or cool you believe you are, how you treat others tells all. Integrity is everything.

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Posted by on January 22, 2020 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Potluck Lunch helps in Team Building


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In any organisation, team work can make all the difference between success and failure. That’s because collaborative teams excel at dividing responsibilities and working towards the same goal. Realising this, most teams are focusing on team building exercises that can bring teams closer.

Maintaining a healthy work culture, one that keeps the entire team motivated and enthused, can be a tough task. You see your employees going through their everyday tasks in a routine, and on the surface, everything might look happy and gay, but you never know when monotony can kick in and leave the entire system uninspired.

Just a small activity is enough to see the change in the overall enthusiasm and energy of the office. It can also be a great way for newbies to feel comfortable and at ease with the rest of the team.

Recently we had a team Potluck lunch organised by my lovely team ladies. Special thanks to my loving Vijaya Ragi & Team for handling everything in a smooth way. It is well planned and organised.

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If you want your team to feel energised at all times, to enjoy what they’re doing and love working for you – and for this, you cannot lay enough emphasis on the need for recreational activities. While some offices go for activity outings, we actually have a simpler and cheaper alternative that can be just as rewarding. The other simple yet effective team building activity is a potluck. It can be organised  by anyone without costing a penny to the company.

But what exactly is it and how does it help in building teams?

What Is an Office Potluck?

In simple terms, a potluck is an occasion when attendees bring food to be shared with everyone. Whether it has a theme or not, is completely up to the team members.

The main idea is to add some fun to the workplace and encourage employees to connect with one another over food.

How to Organise  an Office Potluck

The best thing about a potluck is that you don’t need a big reason to organise  it. It could be an occasion to celebrate a holiday or just the first day at work after a long holiday.

You simply need an organiser  to send out the emails and coordinate with everyone involved.

Sometimes the organiser  may allocate responsibilities to the team members. For example, you may ask two employees to take care of the dessert and two others to bring some appetisers . Or you may choose to let the employees decide among themselves.

Office Potluck for Team Building

Do you sense a growing lack of communication between two team members? A potluck lunch can be of great help.

Get those two employees to plan the potluck. Ask them to coordinate the menu and come up with two dishes that everyone can enjoy.

The objective here is to get them to communicate with each other and find a simple solution. You may or may not oversee how they do this, but the end result can help them connect with each other.

At a later point, you may even speak to the two employees separately to get an idea how they felt about the whole exercise.

A potluck is also a great occasion to bring a close-knit team closer. As many small businesses have fewer employees working for them, a potluck lunch can give them a reason to discuss things beyond work. Often such discussions may reveal hidden talents and opportunities for business growth.

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and enjoy some good food.

Below are some glimpses of my teams Potluck events.

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In conclusion, I would like to point out one very important fact. This is the deciding force. More convincing than any research paper or analysis. This is the real, ultimate deal-breaker: Your office is going to be flooded with yummy home-made FOOD for one whole day! Do you still need another reason?

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Journey with my Team


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I miss my team. I miss the inside jokes, the feelings of communal accomplishment, the team dinners, even the endless drama… I miss it all. I loved complaining about the workouts, the politics, and the bad apples (every team had them). I loved the friendships that were established in the every step of journey..

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I miss confiding in my teammates everything on my mind and heart, and miss them being such a huge part of both.

I cannot imagine achieving new goals without you, lads! You made this company reach new milestones with all your hard work! Big thanks to all of you. Congratulations to you for all the hard works and positive thinking. You took the meaning of teamwork to a whole new level. Appreciate your good work! I don’t think it would have been possible to achieve the goal without each and every one of your efforts! You guys deserve a treat!

I’m lucky to be part of a team who help to make me look good, and they deserve as much of the credit for my success as I do for the hard work we have all put in on the training ground. I am so blessed to have worked with such an amazing team of individuals, who care so much for each individual they come in contact with. Each wonderfully happy moment and every single heartbreaking moment has its place here.

My team saw the best of me. They worked so hard, accomplished big dreams part of me. The leader by actions part of me. The motivated, determined me. The healthy and strong me. They saw the shinny gold me.

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My team celebrated with me. They jumped and danced and squealed because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged, high-fived and scarfed down an extra large victory Blizzard together.

My team commiserated with me. They cried and apologized because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged. We ugly-cried.

My team saw the worst of me. The couldn’t keep up, failing part of me. The excuse making, finger pointing, complaining part of me. The depressed, discouraged me. The broken and weak me. They saw the darkest shadows of me.

My team saw every part of me. Even the parts very few others have ever seen. My team, my teammates, my people; they never walked away.

My team never gave up on me. They pulled me up. Pushed me forward. Even when I preferred sitting down.

My team let me be courageous. I was free to dream. Free to try. Free to fall and do it all over again.

My team kept me accountable. Kept me humble. Kept me driven to something bigger than myself.

I miss my team.

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For all those years, I did all I could for the betterment of the team. For a united goal. For a prize awarded to “us.” Through it all; the elation and desperation, the fatigue and failure, the praise and adoration, my team was working for me. Helping me. Loving me. Shaping me.

But I am forever thankful they let me be me. Forever thankful they are MY team. Always. Thank you for not only your good work but also for all the support you have given each other throughout the project, that’s what makes the team stronger! Thank you for all your effort!

But from the bottom of my heart I want my guys to know that are wonderful .Love you guys and my prayers are with y’all!! 🐶🐱🐾❤

I miss my team. I miss my teammates. I miss my people. I miss those moments.

Every second, every minute, and every hour spent with my team was the time of my life.

 

 

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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Toxic Co-Workers


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by an Annoyed Employee in IT..

You can pick your friends; you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues any more than you can the next assignment to come down from upper management. It’s no surprise, then, that not every colleague is a good one.

The first, and by far the best, kind of co-workers are the nice ones. You know, the ones who are always quick to offer you a hand whenever you need one. They’re friendly, helpful, and normal to your standards. With them, everything’s peachy! You have absolutely no complaints when it comes to the nice co-workers. Heck, they may be the only aspect of the workplace that’s keeping you sane!

The next category is toxic co-workers. They may be disguised as nice co-workers or even weird, annoying, or obnoxious co-workers, but they actually belong in a whole different category. Those co-workers are out to intentionally or unintentionally hurt your career, and you need to avoid them at all costs. 2013_bsl_CopeToxicWorkers_01

Greed, laziness, selfishness and backstabbing behaviors are an all-too-common part of many company cultures. Often, the people who personify these behaviors within organizations step on the colleagues who are just trying to put in an honest day’s work—so they can get ahead or get out of pulling their load—and it’s time to call them out.

The backstabber: Watch out for this one – he might appear to be on your side, but behind your back he will bad mouth you, lie about you and may be out to destroy you. The backstabber tries to make himself look good at your expense – by making you look bad. Pay attention to how you feel around this person and what you hear; seek clarification if you’re getting mixed signals.

The Politician. Promotions based on merit are not what these schmoozers believe in. Instead, they participate in office politics—popping in the boss’s office every five minutes, declaring their indispensable worth. The Politician is consumed with company politics. Her work life becomes a game in which she is constantly trying to “win” the next job, the next promotion, the next project. However, she spends little or no time fulfilling her current responsibilities.

The time sucker: This is someone who doesn’t think about the schedules and time of others. This employee will simply show up at your workstation to ask questions and go on tangents, with no consideration for your time, prior commitments, deadlines, etc.

The gossiper: Keep in mind that those who gossip to you will gossip about you. It doesn’t hurt to listen to what you hear – just don’t participate in the conversation. Often, the industry grapevine is true, but the gossiper tends to exaggerate, so beware. Some people feel they’ll make themselves look better by spreading information, especially about someone else. The good news is that most people catch on to this tactic, but not always before damage is done.

The Taskmaster. Have you ever come across someone at work who spends all of his time worrying about what everyone else is doing, while at the same time complaining that no one else in the company ever does anything and that he is saddled with all the work? This is the Taskmaster. Taskmasters are quick to assign tasks to other people to avoid having to do anything—and yet as soon as a task is completed, somehow the Taskmaster is there to take credit for getting it done. The Taskmaster constantly works to create the perception that he is so busy that he just couldn’t possibly work one more thing into his day.

The credit-robber: There are people who take credit for other people’s ideas in order to shine the light on themselves, no matter whom they steal from to do it. The credit-robber usually steals the spotlight when you least suspect it, and in front of others. Being caught off-guard makes it difficult to know how to respond and, by the time you catch your breath, you’ve lost your moment.

The unsupportive supervisor: This is a tough one: When you don’t have your supervisor on your side, you’re on your own. Many supervisors feel threatened by their staff; some thrive on the power they feel from making others feel small. You must be very careful when the problem is your supervisor – as with any negative scenario, you need to take a step back to evaluate the situation and do everything you can to protect yourself.

For most of us, working in an office can offer a pleasant, exciting, and motivating path to a successful career. However, sometimes we encounter unprofessional, unhappy, and downright hostile colleagues. When there are unhealthy people within your organization, you’re not just fighting the market and your competitors, you’re now fighting internal battles between teams and individuals just to get something done.

You can pick your friends, you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues. It’s all up to us how wisely we react and handle the Toxic Co-workers at work environment.

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Your Team is What & Who You Are


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Leadership is lonely. No matter how big your team, sometimes it’s just you–which means you sometimes need to look inside yourself for motivation and inspiration.

An article by the PraWINS Team……..

There are times in your professional environment when you need to support and fight for your team. As a leader, it’s your job to support your team members, so they can get their respect, protect their rights and get their job done at workplace. Today, I would like to speak about my Lead/Manager more than all he’s loving friend “Mayank Shah” who is so FullSizeRender.jpgInspiring and Motivating with his ideas, behavior, way he foresees the things, moves and Personality. His words brings the change in environment and inspires team. Mayank, is such a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit. All the time he displays courage and goes to bat for the people by sending a message that Teams success and achievement is his priority. He wins both respect and loyalty of the team members. He believes in one thing “When the team succeeds, so do you.”

Here are few traits of Mayank that i would like to share. He’s a Good Person, Lead, Manager who’s respected by everyone in the team and organization.

Empowering. He Inspires, motivates and make the associates feel emboldened and powerful, not diminished and powerless.

Care. He doesn’t care about project alone, but about the people in it and the people impacted by it. He also makes it visible that, he care through his words and actions. Care shouldn’t be a four-letter word in our workplace today — and the best leaders know it.

Supportive. He foster a positive environment that allows team to flourish. He provides constructive feedback to make team energized and deliver better results. He’s so supportive professionally and personally.

Powerful. “Power isn’t control at all–power is strength, and giving that strength to others. A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others that they may have the strength to stand on their own.”

Passion. Whatever it is, he’s so passionate for what he’s doing. He believes in “Live, breathe, eat and sleep your mission.”

Respect. Not playing favorites with people and treating all people — no matter what station in life, what class or what rank in the org chart — the same.

Collaborative. He have a nature to solicit input and feedback from those around him so that everyone feels part of the process.

Communicative. He’s very open to suggestions and ideas. He share the vision or strategy often with those around him.

Fearlessness. He’s not afraid to take risks or make mistakes.  He helps team to learn the mistakes and the outcomes.True leaders make mistakes born from risk.

Confidence. He’s so confident on the things which he know. He’s rock solid in thoughts and the way to implement them. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.

Clarity. The only way you can get confidence is by becoming really, really clear about who you are and what is most important to you. New leaders fail when they try to become all things to all people, or try to do too much out of their area of excellence. Clarity helps you say “yes” to the right things — and “no” to others.

2016-11-21-PHOTO-00000188.jpgYet interestingly, in my work environment, people who don’t own this mindset get promoted into leadership positions every day, and it’s quite possible that you’ve encountered or heard about such types in your career. These are those stereotypical sorts of leaders who care more about winning the political favor of their superiors than the respect of the people they’re assigned to lead. Self-serving and ego centric, these types of leaders quickly offend and fail to earn the trust of their people, making enemies rather than supporters of their teammates. There are many Leads/Managers, who could always throw team to the wolves. But there are a lot of managers out there who seem to think that’s the clever option, the right choice. What do you think? I’ve worked for and with some, and believe me they quickly lose staff.

Meanwhile, sometimes leaders don’t fight for their teams because they don’t like conflict or understand how critical the team support is to the company’s ultimate survival and success. Their leadership style may be immature, weak, naive, out-of-touch, disengaged — or any combination thereof. In such cases, there is always hope for growth and improvement, but revolutionary change is undoubtedly required. The problem here is that change of this magnitude can take a long time and in today’s world, few have the patience for that!

The very opposite of these two types of leaders are the disciplined, fearless and balanced ones — and you probably know some of these, too. They’re the ones who have built rock-solid trust with their direct reports and created loyalty and alignment within the culture. When times get tough, everyone knows these courageous, tenacious types have “got their backs.” Team members feel secure and safe.

These leaders, who aren’t afraid of outcomes are ready to fight for rights the team. They have talent, knows the value of team, understand the problems, have skill, grace and a lot of common sense. They know when and how to pick their battles. Instead of fighting each and every issue, they take a disciplined approach in standing up for what’s important and are more likely to win. They’re also calculated and balanced — these great leaders get the facts before they react to potential or current threats and are skilled in presenting their case in a clear, non-emotional and logical manner. They focus on the “Vital Few,” primarily defending whatever is aligned to those critical measures of a company’s goals and controls. Why? Because these types of leaders truly understand that without their team members’ respect and support, neither the team nor its leader can function, much less win.

Your team is what you are and who you are. Without your team and that can be one lone person or tens of people—you are nothing. Without your team you are an empty page waiting to be written or typed. You must support your team, praise it, fight for it, to the death if need be. The brilliant manager—we don’t need to say who that is by now, do we?—generates loyalty and respect by being the team cheerleader—that’s you, that is.

You have to make people on your team see that you are not only their mentor, leader, guardian, and protector but also their champion, their hero, their defender. If anyone tries to hamper the team or their spirit by criticizing them, you will rise to their defense. If anyone tries to take advantage of them, you will rush to protect them. If your team needs you, you should be there all-time. If your team has seen you defend them once, they will know they can trust you to have their best interests at heart. That if something unfair is being imposed on them, you will stand up for them. This also means that if you accept something, they are likely to accept it, too—which makes for a smoother life all around.

Tell us your experiences with leaders who have mettle in them.

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Posted by on November 22, 2016 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Is Your Manager Fit to do JOB?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a Software Engineer working for a Multi national company. I worked for many Organizations in the last 9 years at different roles with many Managers. In my recent project i have a bad experience of working with a very immature manager who complains and img_4022blame employees when something goes wrong. There are few instances where couple of my colleagues were released from Project. Who’s fault is it? Is it their fault for not doing their job well or is it management and the process that failed the employee?

Bad Managers! I’m almost tempted to challenge anyone to find someone that hasn’t had that experience! The truth of the matter is that we all had at least one, perhaps many, if you are not new to the workplace like me. Many managers lack fundamental training in managing people. But, even more importantly, managers lack the values, sensitivity, and awareness needed to interact effectively all day long with people. Skills and techniques are easier to teach, but values, beliefs, and attitudes are much harder to teach – and harder for managers to learn.

If you are a manager and fail to provide the right goals, information, resources, or assistance — don’t complain when employees fail. It’s clearly your fault.

Traits of my Manager: The below listed are the few unacceptable traits that i observed in my Manager. There were many more than the listed one’s.

Screamer Who the ***k you might be, it’s not accepted to YELL at workplace. But, my manager Yells at everyone on the floor without any sort of commonsense. He speak loudly, rudely, one-sidedly to staff. He provide the air time for staff to respond to accusations and comments. They intimidate people and bully staff. He allow few(incapable) employees to bully employees who actually working hard for project.

infographic-horrible-boss.jpgNever Recognizes Talent of Employee One of the most common mistakes my manger make is to neither recognize nor capitalize on the unique differences of each employee. He consciously paint everyone with the same wide brush and all but eliminate any chance for personalities to set themselves apart and bring their individual talents to the team. Most employees who are all treated the same way eventually start feeling unappreciated, misunderstood and overlooked.

Team Politics All time my Manager is surrounded with bunch of Fools, who are professionals in Team Politics.  For some unknown reason he loves their company and listens to their words blindly. He considers they as valuable team assets, but unfortunately everyone knows they were fit for nothing 😉

Poor Communicator. Not giving clear instructions is a prominent trait among bad bosses. My manager can’t speak proper English and can’t even communicate properly in mother tongue. He dares to comment on team members communication and points at the way they were communicating.

Neither Technical nor People Manager  He’s a person who have no technical exposure and he don’t even know to manage the team. He’s purely unfit in both the areas which are more important traits of a manger.

Does Not Have Courage He does not have the courage to deal with a difficult situation despite knowing that it is the right thing to do. My manager is never in a position to take any challenge or stand by the people who’s doing that.

No Positive Feedback It absolutely sucks to go at your daily grind without knowing how your manager feels about your progress. You don’t want to wait until an annual review to know that your manager is unhappy  with you

Tyrant It’s easy to become the tyrant. Write people up, threaten their jobs, and crack the whip! That’s easy. That isn’t accountability. This kind of leadership through fear inspires dd4f4a9b27b7127164383d583ca6237epeople to work hard enough to not get fired. They disengage, and they don’t share their struggles for fear that exposing their mistakes will cost them their jobs.

Terrible Listener. Bad bosses/asses don’t listen, which goes hand in hand with being bad communicators. Worse, he do not even care to listen. Whatever you say, my manager hear what they want to hear and understands what he wants to. In addition, he interrupt constantly, and he’s never fully present during interactions with employees.

Focuses on Weaknesses He dwell on what a resource can’t do instead of what he or she can do. The problem is he never bother to uncover what it is that really motivates an individual, and miss out on opportunities to benefit from innate talent and specific strengths. One of the primary responsibilities of managers is to motivate and develop staff, offer them extensive training on how to better understand human behaviors.

Never Praise or Encourage. He’s there, Quick to criticize and slow to praise: Too many employees of bad bosses report that their managers have not thanked them in years. Given that recognition is the most effective driver of engagement, this is one of the most egregious traits of a bad boss.

Micromanages Most employees are happiest if allowed to have at least some say in determining their own path when it comes to accomplishing objectives. They’ll want a varying amount of oversight from the boss, depending on their specific level of self-confidence and individual desire to take some calculated risks.

 

bad-manager-characteristics.jpgFails to Fit the Right Person to the Right Job Good managers know the personalities of their team members and place each one in a role designed to play into their innate talents and interests. They set them up for success, instead of for failure. But my manager is unable to do that.

Mangers, please note that Not everyone can function in high-stress situations and work as you expect. Not everyone can lead. And not everyone can withstand others’ critiques or nasty remarks.  

When employees resign, the top reason for their resignation is their relationship with their manager. People leave managers, not jobs or employers.

When any organization has quality problems or safety problems, this is clearly  the responsibility of managers. When you’re the boss, you are (like it or not) responsible for everything that happens in your project, whether it’s a small or a big team. Sadly, many mangers think they can get away with blaming their employees when things go wrong. A ‘blame culture’ is common in all different kinds of offices, and can lead to a lack of productivity, wasted time, and hard feelings being created. There are many different reasons that can lead to the development of a blame culture, but all of them are reversible with the use of proper management techniques and some logical thinking.

Is your Manager in your team fit to do the job?

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Posted by on October 23, 2016 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Born to Stand Out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From my Childhood, I’ve been following inspiring leaders, writers and others on the cutting edge of thought leadership, and I’m still awed and amazed at how much there is out in the world to be inspired by.

In my line of work as a Life coach, Soft-Skill trainer, Tech Lead and blogger, I’m fortunate to connect with some awesome and amazing Men and Woman who invest deeply in ideas, thoughts and help their dreams become reality.  Success is an iceberg. When we learn about extremely successful leaders, we tend to see the tip of the iceberg. What we may fail to see is the hard work behind their success. IMG_3999.JPG

I remember being rendered speechless when someone asked me, “Who’s your role model?  Who inspires you?” The sad truth is that, at that time, the answer was “No one.” Today, I would like to speak about a young lady i.e. my friend “Nandita Narayan” who is so Inspiring and Motivating with her Ideas, moves and Personality. Her presence brings the change in environment and inspires many people around. There is something intriguing and compelling about a girl who lights up every room she walks in. Is it her style? No. Is it her long flowing hair? No. Is it her flawless complexion? No. She is quietly confident and has a way of listening and engaging with people. When a group of radiant young women come together, they can inspire hearts, and do remarkable and lovely things. Here are few points i would like to bring that make her stand out.

Fearless
She welcomes the future in all of it’s unknown mystery. Even if she does feel afraid, she does what she has been called to do anyways. Being bold and courageous in the middle of fear has produced great victories throughout history. She always lets her faith be bigger than her fear.

Honest
She knows the liberating and healing power in revealing her struggles and shame. She is honest with those who mistreat her, letting them know that she only tolerates respect, just as she respects them.

Mentorship
She is humble hearted and wise in knowing that she will never know everything there is to know. She has a thirst for learning and growing, so she invites advice and sound counsel from solid mentors.

Self-Discipline
Consistent good habits in her life like getting enough rest, proper nutrition, exercise, spending time in prayer and journaling reflects the commitment to take care of her over-all health. This enables her to care for the people and other priorities in her life more effectively.

Goodness
She is a vessel of joy and kindness, like a healing medicine to the flesh and soul. People are excited when they see her coming and hate to see her go because she always brings life through her words and actions.

Work Ethic
She is not known for laziness; she works diligently. Even when the job seems less than ideal, she always works with a cheerful heart and a constant gratitude for the ability to work and provide. This way, her happiness is not contingent on circumstances alone.

Stands for Justice
She speaks up for those who can not speak for themselves. She defends those who are defenseless and she has a heart for restoring justice.

Wisdom
The words she speaks comes with great responsibility and impact, even to those she does not know are listening. Therefore she is mindful in habitually only speaking words of wisdom and guidance. Therefore, all who encounter her will be blessed because of her. Gossip, slander, idle talk and negativity are strangers to her lips.

Leads by Example
She counsels younger women with a good listening ear, a compassionate heart and a voice of truth. She inspires others to follow her vision through servant leadership and creativity.

Self-Worth
She knows that her value is not defined by the opinions of people, but rather by who she is in the One who made her. When she looks into the mirror, she sees a reflection of God’s own image. There is no rare or glittering jewel or metal that could compare with her worth.

I agree that no Woman or Man who is complete and perfect. What would our character and lives look like if we purposefully applied these attributes? Start with one per day, you could even write yourself reminders in your phone or post-its on your mirror to remind you of the woman/man you can be if you want to be. You were born to stand out.

There are so many people in the world who can serve as your role models and help you make the huge impact in the world that you want to, that I’d say this — if you can’t find someone to inspire you, it’s time for an internal shift to heal the disconnection and isolation you feel, and get yourself back in the game of life.

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My Team is My Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Sweet Team Member.. img_1152

There are lot of reasons why i love my work. One of the important one’s is my TEAM and I
just have an nondetachable bond with them. I am so immensely blessed to have them in my life, and they have made my life better in more ways than they know.We work together, fight together, understand each other, cheer each other up, talk together, help each other, guide each other and we LIVE together. I’ll remember them till my last breath that’s for sure.

I already knew some of the folks, I’d already grown close with them, so they mean a lot to me, yet new friends who came into my life and I got to know them, and they turned out awesome. This has been one great experience and I’ve NEVER wanted any other team and couldn’t wish for a better one because I feel like we stick together, and we have team spirit to stand by each other which is important.

My team is my family, and while there are countless reasons why they will always hold such a special place in my heart. Every’s life is colorful when they enjoy and love the company of others.

We’re a family

photo-0180The amazing bond that we have will never be lost. We are together, in our successes and in our failures. Family is family, no matter what. A great team is so much more than merely people that you play your sport with. A successful team knows each other on a deeper
level. They know each other’s likes, dislikes, fears, strengths and weaknesses; they are also able to accommodate around all of these things. A true team will never be broken. Once a team, always a team

We guide each other

As a team, We walk with each other, through the darkest night and brightest day by holding the hand and and guiding the way. Stones often bar our path, and there are times we fall, but we are always there to help each other. We have a shoulder when someone needs it and have place for everyone in our heart.

We’re always laughing when we’re together

When me and my friends are together, we act like the most mentally retarded people on the planet. Everything’s funnier with my team. You can always count on us to be “that group” of people that’s laughing to the point of tears. There’s always a smile on the face which lightens the workplace. A smile never cost anybody anything and a day seems to go better when you are surrounded by colleagues that smile and are willingly to help you anytime or just to hug you when you are not feeling ok.

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As a team, we love each other and trust everyone in the team. We don’t judge, and our secrets are safe within our team. We can tell each other anything. From our deepest,
darkest secrets . Whatever it is, we’ll listen. My Friends know every embarrassing thing that’s happened to me, and we know every weird thing about others. We never hesitate share  something, because all of us knew that we will take it to our grave.

We know how to listen each other

It sounds like a simple task, but very few people are as attentive my team. They sit with me while I speak, and they follow all my words, and waits until I finish before responding. Sometimes they don’t even need to reply — their concentration is all I need.

We can be ourselves with each other

Like I just said, our team doesn’t judge. In my team all can be what they were. Whether we are dancing around while not fully dressed, sending each other humiliating snapchats or making fun of each other, we are always pushing the boundaries of how close is too close. We wouldn’t have it any other way, though. A team is a group of people who sees the many different versions of you: the weird and hysterical version of you, the crazy version of you, the serious version of you, the lovable version of you—and they still love you to pieces.

20140824131906We pick each other up when we’re down.

If someone is talking shit, everyone will be there on my defense like white on rice. We’re always there to cheer someone up, to get another’s head back in the life’s race, to comfort everyone and we never give up on each other.

We know how to get out of a seriously bad mood

They’ll play that one song, or suggest we watch that one movie, or take me to that one amazing café. They’ll comfort me if I want, or give me space if I want to be alone. Somehow they always know what to do, and I am forever grateful. I don’t know how they do it, but they’re always radiating happy energy, and it never fails to make me feel better.

We celebrate every occasion

Throughout the year, we’ve had lot of celebrations in the office & out of office. Either on birthdays, marriage days every team member has been spoilt with splendid flowers img_20150104_074347-001
followed by either a birthday breakfast, or a lunch. What makes those moments special is not necessarily the presents or the things received but simply the genuine mark of affection and consideration toward everyone.

” Dont Count the Days Make the Days Count ”

You know those little things that make your day shine and are not really connected to you in anyway? Either your colleague’s attitude, the way your work space is organised or random surprises that your colleagues treat you with can make every day at work more and more enjoyable.

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Little things that make people feel happy at work

 2-4You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives.

It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.

Sociable Colleagues

Isn’t everything better when you have nice sociable colleagues to work with? You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives. It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.

Doing tasks that have meaning for me

Let’s say you choose a job just for paying your rent and you’re waiting for a dream job opportunity. But, whatever you’re doing you want to be appreciated for your work. And how can we judge a fish by its climbing skills? We can’t.

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The most important part of your work is feedback. No matter if it’s positive or negative (and then you will know what you have to change) feedback represents a very important instrument for measuring the quality of your work. And a complete feedback that has only the best intentions can transform your day in a very productive and cheerful one.

Smiling co-workers

A smile never cost anybody anything and a day seems to go better when you are surrounded by colleagues that smile and are willingly to help you anytime or just to hug you when you are not feeling ok.

Having a mentor

Not anybody can brag about having a mentor at their job. A mentor is not only a teacher, it is the person that inspires you, the person from whom you want “steal” the knowledge’s of the job or you want to enjoy his “success secrets”.

A good training program

We all feel very motivated do our job the best way we can when we have a very good
training program. Thereby you can receive better feedback  you can work more focused and you can improve your skills when you know you’ll be rewarded.

Brainstorming sessions

The sessions where we put our brains to work to come up with a mountain of ideas in which there is hidden, like a treasure, a brilliant idea for a project are relaxing and exhausting. Even though it seems a paradox a brainstorming session can bring up to the surface all the creativity that we are capable.

Open-minded people around

If all the people around us would be open minded we would all have something to gain.

A unique benefits package

IMG_20150103_131635-001We bet you love free coffee or lunch included or candies on bosses desk or stuff like that included in your unique benefits package. Or maybe you prefer free gym or free parking

The pursuit of happiness is so crucial that we try a lot of motivational strategies to make our employees productive. Happy employees tend to work efficiently and effectively since they emit positive energy, it is for this reason why they have to have proper compensation in order for them to enjoy and love their respective job. If the employee is in the state of being happy, he/she is thrice innovative.

These little things can really make them feel important and they’ll be dedicated to their respective work.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
 

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My Boss is True Leader


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Hi All,

Every time I hear someone complaining about his/her boss. I wonder what that feels like. I have always had great bosses who significantly contributed to my growth.They are all the True Leaders from whom I learned lot.IMG-20151215-WA0002

Most People Criticize Their Boss. But Doesn’t Your Boss Has Any Thing Good In Him? Tomorrow You May Also Become A Boss. What Would You Like Your Juniors To Find About You? A Good Thing Or A Bad Thing! Lets Dig Something Good In Our Boss.

I believe in the following lines….“A good leader inspires people to have confidence in the leader, a great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves”

  • Great bosses inspire their employees to achieve their dreams: by words, by actions, and most important, by example.
  • Memorable bosses expect more–from themselves and from others. Then they show us how to get there. And they bring us along for what turns out to be an unbelievable ride.
  • Good bosses are professional and also openly human. They show sincere excitement when things go well. They show sincere appreciation for hard work and extra effort.

In short, great bosses are people, and they treat their employees like people, too. 

I have been lucky to have great leaders as my superiors. Not very many IMG-20150405-WA0020could inspire me to dream and achieve beyond my own imagination of capability. Thanks for converting my mistakes into lessons, pressure into productivity and skills into strengths. You really know how to bring out the best in an individual.

My Boss is my  true leader. He inspires me to dream more, Learn more, think more, Do more and become more.

He is like flowing water. Which lies low and yields. He can shape my hardness and water my thirsty fields.

He leads me by example. But he never shows he exists. Though I tend to give upBut he always persists.

My leader always dares me, to own and achieve a vision . Not with unprofessional actions, but with passion and not position.

You make me feel like a million bucks every time you ask me for my opinion on something important or not, although I know that sometimes you do it only to make me feel nice. Thanks for being such a wonderful boss.Thanks for putting pressure on me, being tough on me for my  mistakes that were silly. Sometimes tough love is necessary, which is what I have learnt in my car er’s journey.

IMG-20150919-WA0021Your word’s .. “Treat me like a number and I’ll stay until a better number comes along. Treat me like a person and I’ll stay because, ultimately, that’s what we all really want.” will be with me till my last breath.

It’s honor working with you. Nothing I can say will ever convey the amount of gratitude, I owe to you for showing me how to have the right attitude. Thanks.

Yours Truly! MunnaPrawin

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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You Can’t FIRE Me! I QUIT!!!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Every time I resign to an organization, a little part of me died. I love to work, but I was made to do that. But I grew wiser as the years rolled by. People around me think “What possible reason would he have to do that?” or, “What’s wrong with him?” or even, “He must be leaving for money. The Fool!” or “He is not the best fit, so he was kicked out” etc. But the reason is simple I want to be myself. I know well, it’s not fair to loose myself for something else which is not important as me.

Although talented employees may join a company, evidence suggests that if they depart prematurely it is often their immediate managers they leave, not the organization itself. Mostly, people don’t change jobs solely for money. They almost never resign on a whim or in a fit of anger. They joined your company because they believed it right for them, and they actually want it to be right. Something, at some point, makes it wrong. And if you really take the time to dig into their real reasons for leaving — and you should — you will find that it’s not “the company” they blame. It’s not the location, or the team, or the database or the air-conditioning. It’s the leadership!  IMG_20150411_172500

Few Great employers start making people feel important on day one. They train their managers to understand the power of paying attention to even the smallest of employee contributions — and, yes, simply saying “thanks” often goes a long way.

Having worked in several organizations under different natured Manager’s, I understood supervisors or manager or leaders, are the main reason for employee to quit his job. We can see many managers with good & bad characteristics. Check your Boss falls under which category

Characteristics of a good manager:

  1. Communicates performance expectations clearly to everybody involved
  2. Gives employees access to the resources they require to do their job right
  3. Stands a role model and guides to learn from mistakes
  4. Frees people up to make a difference by focusing on what they do best
  5. Gives freedom to speak and act
  6. Recognizes team members for their contributions and efforts
  7. Makes everybody feel cared about as an individual
  8. Helps people feel like they have a meaningful participation at work
  9. Encourages employees to grow and develop
  10. Gives employees responsibility and trusts them to get on with the task

Characteristics of bad managers:

  1. Has clear favourite’s and doesn’t maintain neutrality
  2. Is slow to make decisions and often makes a U-turn on them
  3. Lacks the emotional intelligence to deal with difficult situations sensitively
  4. Is a bad listener and lacks general people skills
  5. Lack of provision and technical stuff
  6. Greedy towards positions in organization
  7. Insulting/criticizing in front of others
  8. Doles out assignments but personally doesn’t take any on
  9. Is quick to criticize but slow to praise good efforts
  10. Undermines team morale by focusing on personal objectives instead of the team’s
  11. Is reluctant to transfer skills for fear of training a replacement

imagesB83G1I6YThe common reason why Manager behave like this is they feel insecure of themselves. They are afraid of their team members surpassing them or feel threat of their team members.

Problem starts with the job or workplace that was not as expected. Managers hire in such a big hurry that they don’t take the time to give a realistic preview of the job. Many workers have an unrealistic expectation about the job or workplace or in some cases are deliberately misled during the interviewing process. The employee realizes she has to report to a different boss or won’t be advancing to the next position as soon as expected. Of course, most new hires will quit when they discover the undiscussed realities, resulting in costly turnover.

JOB vs PERSON:  There is a mismatch between job and person. Every Manager should know by now that getting the right people on the bus and into the right seats is a prerequisite for business success. Managers wrongly think that training will transform the wrong people into the right people — that they can put in what was left out. Instead of asking a turkey to climb a tree, we need to learn that it’s better to hire a squirrel.

Lots of companies talk about making their managers better coaches, but more than 60 percent of employees — especially younger ones — say they don’t get enough feedback. We know that many managers just give feedback once a year. That too not genuine feedback. Too many managers have never been well coached themselves. Lacking a good role model, they either give no feedback and coaching at all. Most managers fear giving honest feedback, mainly because they haven’t been trained to do it well.

Workers feel devalued and unrecognized. There are many different reasons why workers may feel devalued: inequality of pay for similar work, not being acknowledged for a job well done, being treated with disrespect, having their differences regarded as negative rather than prized, not receiving the right resources, and having to work in an unacceptable physical work environment are a few. The desire to be recognized, praised, and considered important is our deepest craving, yet 80 percent of employees say they feel ignored or taken for granted.

In addition to ambiguity and an undermining mentality, bad managers also unnecessarily waste time on coordinating and correcting the team, instead of concentrating on helping team members grow. “Managers often make the mistake of focusing on controlling employees, micromanaging them and criticising their efforts,”.  ea33c10116e40052e6d203a6a8f85cf6

People who are well managed are likely to overlook their employer’s shortcomings. Those who work under an ineffective manager, however, are less productive, less content and more likely to leave the company. Sadly, if your career is limited by a poisonous and limiting manager-employee relationship and your pleas fall on deaf ears, moving on might well be the only way to deal with that. If you don’t, it could cost you your career.

“Remember the Golden Rule? “Treat people as you would like to be treated.” The best managers break the Golden Rule every day. They would say don’t treat people as you would like to be treated. This presupposes that everyone breathes the same psychological oxygen as you. For example, if you are competitive, everyone must be similarly competitive. If you like to be praised in public, everyone else must, too. Everyone must share your hatred of micromanagement.”

“There should be leader in every manager, not  manager in every leader.”

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
 

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The Art of saying “NO”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel & MunnaPrawin….  

“No” is a simple, two letter word that can save you time, energy and precious resources when you know when and how to use it purposefully at correct time, in a correct way with the right people.

Inability to say “No” can bring a lot of harm. Being assertive is one of the toughest things for many people.  Saying no is indeed a major challenge for most people. I am telling this with my personal experience.

From last 15 years, I said yes to 95% of invites and pleas for help, regardless of how much I already had on my plate. I used to say … I’ll do it. I can help no problem. I am there for you.  Don’t worry..Sure, why not? I used to schedule things back to back to back and I used to drive myself crazy fitting it all in.

I began to feel anxious and tired instead of feeling joy as I approached the weekend. That simply would not do. Re-evaluation was in order.

That is why I am sure everyone mustn’t hesitate to say “No” in appropriate situation.

 We say ‘Yes’ when we really want to say ‘No’. We all do it very often.

Here are few situations:

A corporate person says” It was a party meeting, I couldn’t say no when the delegates forced me to take alcohol and puff the cigar.”

A college going student says “I used bear the physical harassment by my faculty, because I have fear of losing marks.”

A bride says” I was proposed to the one whom I am not interested but I don’t want to trouble my parents.”

A lover says “my girlfriend is need of money but I have no single pie to help her. If I say it may hurt our relationship so somehow I need to sort out this problem.”

A lady says “I get upset over certain topics to discuss but when I am subjected with the people I couldn’t say to excuse me from the discussion.”

An UN-matured girl says “I got into physical relationship with my boyfriend, because I have fear of losing his care, love.”

A person says “I know in long run my ‘yes’ results a failure but I don’t want to hurt then now so I couldn’t say ‘no’.”

An employee says “my boss expects me provide every time the resources which is my hard earned effort and dwindling time. It cause me inconvenience but I fear to say that I can’t provide”

A friend says “I am already full with my important schedules but my friend want to me to join his party .I don’t want to disappoint him. So, I couldn’t say that I cannot attend his party.”
“No” is a word that can save you time, energy and precious resources when you know when and how to use it purposefully. But many people like me have a difficult time saying “no” because they sincerely want to help and don’t want to disappoint others. So they take on more than they can handle, compromising the quality of performance, neglecting their own priorities, and burying themselves under mountains of responsibilities, tasks and activities that will never lead to their ultimate vision. That’s why it’s important to know when to say “no” – so rather than react to other’s demands, you respond based on your values and priorities.

I pride myself on being productive and extremely efficient all these years, maximizing my time. But even I know it’s impossible to do all of those things and say yes to all invites too. I can’t say yes to everything anymore I don’t want to.  I can’t do anything as I done in past. I’d rather just say I’m sorry, I can’t. It’s just that simple.

One of the biggest reasons people have a difficult time saying “no” is because they haven’t clarified their own intention; other people’s goals become more important than their own in the absence of a specific vision.

Learning to say “no” to non-essential tasks creates a path to freedom and success. It will clear your schedule of mental clutter so you can harness your life force and focus your attention on the realization of your goals. Having a clear vision and a strong sense of purpose gives you the discernment to know which actions yield the greatest return on investment for your time, energy and resources.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — it can be through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

For most of us, having to say ‘no’ somehow feels like a rejection, so we hate to do it. Instead, too many people just say ‘yes,’ and regret it afterward. So here are some tips that I have accumulated over the years that can help you say the right thing the right way:

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

Maybe you’re like me and you need to cut down on some of the activities you do. Well, here are a few tips on how you can do that:

 

Give yourself time to think. Before responding with an enthusiastic ‘yes’ that you never meant, or a cryptic ‘no’ that will ruin a relationship, ask for time to mull it over. It’s acceptable business practice to say that you need to check your calendar first, or pass the request by other principles before deciding. Commit a date for the final decision.

Make the ‘no’ a function of your constraints. Emphasize that the rejection has more to do with your priorities, budget limitations, and workload, rather than any inherent flaw in their request. In this context, encourage a return discussion as some specific point in the future, or with some specific variation.

Be logical, calm, and concise. Choose your words wisely to avoid conflict and a defensive or emotional reaction, but make sure the answer is clear and understood.

Be firm — not defensive or overly apologetic — and polite. This gives the signal that you       are sympathetic, but will not easily change your mind if pressured.

Explicitly evaluate the pros and cons. First, make sure you understand the full implications of a simple yes or no response. Every ‘no’ answer reduces the likelihood of another opportunity along the same lines, while every ‘yes’ answer increases your workload and the probability of burnout on your long list of critical items.

  Make sure you’re actually saying “no”. Make no mistake about it, no is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When it’s time to say no, you need to avoid phrases like “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” Using limp phrases instead of saying no will often be considered a yes. When it’s time to say no, just say no!

Listen to your gut. Sometimes we say ‘yes’ because we love the excitement of a new idea, when our instinct is telling us that it implies many complex issues that we are not prepared to deal with right now. It’s a fact that our brain often stores relevant information that we might not be able to vocalize right now. Trust your judgment.

Negotiate a return consideration. Often people asking for favors don’t realize or consider the cost, so you shouldn’t hesitate to ask for a reciprocal favor. It may make that person re-think their need for your help, or you may actually get more than you give.

Sandwich the no between two yeses. Sandwiching a no between two yeses ensures that your no will be more palatable. It’s also a great way to explain that to which you are already committed. For example, if your boss asks you to work on the weekend, but you have family commitments you cannot break, explain these commitments to your boss (the first yes), how that prevents you from coming in on the weekend (the no), and finish by confirming your commitment to the company and your work (the final yes) by asking if there are other ways you can contribute that don’t require you to come in that weekend. 

Be prepared to repeat yourself. If you say no and the other party pushes back, the best thing you can do is repeat yourself. This is much easier to do when you recognize beforehand that it is often necessary. In some cases, you may have to repeat yourself more than once. If you offered any explanation with your original response, you can repeat this explanation or just say no again. Don’t back yourself into a corner by trying to explain yourself further.

Lead with positives when saying no. Mute the sting of rejection by rewarding the person for being aggressive and creative, while not directly accepting the contract or proposal. It may even be appropriate to give some reward, such as access to an alternative opportunity, or recognition in front of peers, to encourage the source.

Pick the right time and place. Pick the least stressful time of the day, or a private place where you can talk sincerely, and give full attention to any questions or discussion. Watch your body language and tone to eliminate the guilt and fear that often make the ‘no’ response harder on the sender than the receiver.

Remember that there are only few hours in the day. This means that whatever you choose to take on limits your ability to do other things. So even if you somehow can fit a new commitment into your schedule, if it’s not more important than what you would have to give up doing it, you really don’t have the time in your schedule.

“The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes, to the things where you want to say “NO”. It is very easy to say yes.”

People have learned the art of asking, so you need to learn the art of saying ‘no.’ Rid yourself of the fallacy that you must say ‘yes’ to be viewed as a leader. If the request presents a moral dilemma to you, your code of ethics should allow you to refuse, rather than lie to the other party, or agree to something you can’t deliver. Just say ‘no,’ and smile as you say it.

No is not always negative. It is not a bad or incorrect response. Saying no does not make you a difficult or uncooperative person.  Read that again, out loud. Saying no is more honest than a false yes.

Learn the Art to say “NO”…. 

 

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My Work Experience with my Project Manager.


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

I would like to share working experience with my Project Manager. It’s for the first time in my Life working in a team under a Project Manager. Few months back I was assigned to a project called AIRecruiter which was lead by RajniKumar. He have got handful of experience working on different projects. On the first day i.e. on 04-Apr-2012 when I met him for the first time, I was bit scared to talk to him, because he was very experienced & senior. From my child hood i have habit to call everyone by their name, so i felt bit scared that he may think bad of me.

As the days progressed we started working as a team. Now he is the one with whom I share almost everything. Within the short span of our relationship, I noticed, learned a lot from him. Some of the qualities that inspired me are:

Very Communicative:

I was mainly impressed by the way Rajni communicates & coordinates with the Team members. He has the ability to communicate comfortably with people at all levels of the team & organization about the project. He conveys the message that he want to convey in clear & polite way. Basing on the requirement, he used to engage with different people in different ways in order to convey the message. One may need details while another prefers a brief overview.

Great Team Player:

Working in team is always a fun. Rajni is not only a good team player, he is also a great team coordinator. Whenever any team mate requires help, he used to stretch his hand to help them.

Assertive Nature Person:

         Rajni is very straight forward. If he was not satisfied with our performance, he used to tell openly in a polite way. Always he used to give constructive feedback. If any of our team mates stuck with any issue, he used to guide them. When it comes to work, he never get compromised.

Selection of Resources:

Resources are important in order to complete any task. Rajni first identifies what to be done, later gathers the resources in order to accomplish the task. He interacts with individuals, to know their knowledge and experience, so that to use them in the correct areas for better results. He used to connect and converse with team members on a daily basis. He believe that once we have proper  rapport and trust that is the foundation of any relationship, people will want to collaborate with you to get the project done on time and within budget.

Clear Vision:

    It is one of the assets of Rajni, having a clear Vision. He clearly knows what to do. It is very important that, every Project Manger & the members in the team should have a clear vision.

Cool Under Pressure:

In the present competitive world, projects should be delivered on time, under budget and with no major problems or obstacles to overcome. As everyone knows projects have problems. A leader with a hardy attitude will take these problems in stride. When leaders encounter a stressful event, they consider it interesting, they feel they can influence the outcome and they see it as an opportunity.

Time management is critical

Whenever there is some deliverable, Rajni used to stay in the office work with team. Even when no one is there he used to work till early mornings to complete the task.  As per my knowledge the project which I am working is a ONE man show.

As project managers, time management probably comes naturally. But, what do you do when your resources have been cut, and you’ve got twice as much to do? To really “do more with less,” you’ve got to become more productive. This nature I have seen in my Project Manager.

Strong Decision Maker:

In every project there are few crucial decisions which have to be taken on correct time.

If any decision has to be taken Rajni used to take the team mates opinion, if it’s fine used to implement it. He hasn’t got nature to take his own decisions as he like. Whatever decision he takes he used to present to team if they feel its fine used to implement it.

Decision-making is an integral part of project management. Yes, it is important to get the right people involved and get their opinions; however, you should always make the decision that is best for the project and the organization overall-even if it is not the most popular one. It is totally unrealistic for any project manager to expect one-hundred percent consensus.

Enjoy work:

The main quality that I like in Rajni is the way he see the problem or any task that has to be done. He never show disinterest towards work. This is one of the common qualities in both of us. I like Work N joyinG.

Friendly in Nature:

This single quality is enough to say, why do I admire Rajni? He never behaved like Project Manager with commanding nature. He used to treat everyone equally with friendly nature. What else can any member in a team can expect from their Project Manager.

Motivating Element:

I remember the day when we were given left & right by the client for not giving the Application Demo effectively. Unfortunately that day Rajni was not there. After he returned back, he told “In work environment all these are common; don’t feel bad, if we work together we can generate a Good Application”. What else we require to get charged up. We have Rajni motivating element for all of us, at any point of time.

If I start writing about him, it takes many pages. Simply I can say that In the early days of my professional career I fell into the hands of a Great Project Manager. It’s Honor to work with him.

 

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Posted by on May 28, 2012 in Work Place

 

Life is a lesson


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that i learned by seeing the  people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The lesson for today is…”When you realize that you did a mistake or some one else has done a mistake and it directly or indirectly effects you, correct it or take neccasary actions then and there…Its too late than never…”

If you fail to correct it immediately, when its just a seed, it grows in front of your eyes as a big tree. Its almost like there is no way you can rectify it later rather than bear the pain and humiliation caused by the mistake.

Some mistakes are small…some of them are fatal, they make marks in your life in such a way you can never forget it forever.

Be wise..!!

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on May 25, 2012 in Work Place

 

How to Avoid Being a Workaholic


Working too much is likely to decrease your productivity, leave you creatively drained, and negatively affect relationships with friends and family. Don’t get me wrong, pursuing your passion is a beautiful gift and there is nothing wrong with working hard on projects you love. However, it’s essential to take breaks. Whether you’re working from home or in an office environment it’s essential to nourish your creative spirit.

Workholism is not strength, but it’s a weakness which ruins our life. We hear stories of people who “burn the mid-night oil” at the office, or about individuals who never take vacations. Working a lot doesn’t mean you deserve a gold star.

Below are a few creative ways to avoid becoming a workaholic.

Know what you want to do & what you are doing.  It’s very much important to know what you want to do & what you are doing. Many people do lot of work by taking lot of pain & struggle, but at the end they will end up somewhere away from their goal.

Every individual need Self Introspection. You are the best person to judge yourself. If you don’t know where you are going, you will end up somewhere.

At the end of each day spend few minutes, to recall the things that you done on that particular day. Every day we have to learn new thing which is useful.

Set clear boundaries.

Make sure your working hours are consistent. For instance, if you work from 9 am to 6 pm make sure you leave the office by 6. Don’t stay late.

Constantly question your goals and life purpose.

It’s important to continually reevaluate your goals, life purpose and behaviors. For example if you constantly stay late at the office, sacrifice personal relationships because of work, or check your email obsessively, ask yourself:

  • Why am I doing this?
  • What is the end goal?
  • Are my behaviors healthy?

Get enough sleep! Staying up late to work on a project and then getting up at 5 am to go into the office is not a good strategy. Lack of creativity, diminished morale and irritability are a few traits of people who go without sleep. Work smarter, not harder.

Spend time in nature. Spending time in nature is a great way reduce stress, disconnect from everyday worries and incoming work messages. Set aside time in your daily life to go outside. For instance, take a half hour walk everyday and be mindful of your surroundings. There is no need to rush. Take your time, try to understand your instinctual feelings and observe the natural beauty in your neighborhood.

Find a hobby. Cultivate a hobby; preferably something that doesn’t relate to your day job. Start by brainstorming your interests. For example, you can start running, walking, knitting, reading novels, or writing. A hobby should be something that brings you joy; something you can lose yourself in and find your flow.

Listen to your body. If you are working too much you will start feeling tired, cranky and apathetic. All of these symptoms are a sign that you need to slow down. It’s essential to listen to your body. When you listen to your body, you’ll know when you’re sick or just need some extra rest.

Unplug from the internet. Getting work done doesn’t require an internet connection. It’s amazing what can happen when you step out from behind the computer screen or your mobile device. Most of my killer ideas come to me when I’m taking a shower, on a walk, cooking a meal, and “not working.”Everyone is creative and ideas can come to you at odd moments. Just because you have an idea doesn’t mean you have to implement it right away. Keep a journal with you at all times so that you can capture your idea and enjoy your down time.

Make time for friends, family and your partner.If you’re working too much, you’re probably sacrificing time with friends, family and your life partner. Doing work you love is extremely important, but so are the people who love you. Consider how you spend your time and what is truly important in life. When you are with your family, friends and life partner, really be there. Make an effort to be present. For instance, if you’re having a conversation with a friend listens to what they are saying. Be engaged and ask questions.

Eat real food. A side effect of working too much is eating out more and not eating real food. Real food includes fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Before you head out to the office, take time the night before or early in the morning to prepare a healthy breakfast and lunch.

Most importantly, don’t eat while you’re working. Savor your food and enjoy every bite. Studies have shown that if you eat food quickly, you’re more likely to over eat and gain weight.

Reach out to others with a good work-life balance. If you think you’re a workaholic, reach out to others. Connect with friends, family, and consider therapy as an option. If you think this is negatively impacting your life, do something about the problem. We only get one life. So live it well and take care of yourself.

 
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Posted by on April 9, 2012 in Work Place

 

Managing Stress


 

 

In our Day- to-day life we,  many times hear about the word called “Stress”. What is Stress?

Stress is a feeling that’s created when we react to particular events. It’s the body’s way of rising to a challenge and preparing to meet a tough situation with focus, strength, stamina, and heightened alertness. We all have stress sometimes.

The events that provoke stress are called stressors, and they cover a whole range of situations — everything from outright physical danger to making a class presentation or taking a semester’s worth of your toughest subject. For some people, it happens before having to speak in public. For other people, it might be before a first date. What causes stress for you may not be stressful for someone else. Sometimes stress is helpful – it can encourage you to meet a deadline or get things done. But long-term stress can increase the risk of diseases like depression, heart disease and a variety of other problems.

I don’t believe that a stress-free life is possible. Stress is a response to challenges in life, and a life without challenges is too boring to contemplate. However, I do believe that most of the stress in our lives is unnecessary, and that it can be eliminated by taking some simple (and some not-so-simple) steps. It can’t be accomplished overnight — I’ve been eliminating stressors in my life for awhile now, and I’m still not done. But I think it’s a worthwhile goal.

But these sources of stress can be eliminated with a little thought. Here’s how:

Self Introspection is needed. It is nothing but the self-examination of one’s thoughts, feelings, approach etc. You can identify your strengths & weaknesses. Try to overcome your weakness or avoid such situations, because they are the main cause for stress.

 

Simplify life. Simplify your life i.e. Simplify your tasks, your routines, your commitments, your life-style, your information intake, your relationships, the mass of stuff going on in your life … and have less stress as a result. 

 

Identify stressors. It is the most important step of all. Take 10 minutes to think about what stress you out during the day. What weekly occurrences stress you out? What people, activities, things cause stress in your life? Make a Top 10 list, and see which of them can be eliminated, and start to weed them out.

 

Slow down. Life is not a race, to compete with others. Instead of rushing through life, learn to take things slow . Enjoy each & every part of your life. Enjoy your work, your food, enjoy the people around you, and enjoy nature. This step alone can save tons of stress.

 

Be grateful. Life is a Valuable gift. Learn to be grateful for what you have, for the people in your life. With this sort of outlook on life, stress will go down and happiness will go up. Develop an attitude of gratitude is a way of thinking positive, eliminating negative thinking from your life, and thereby reducing stress. That’s a winning formula.

Procrastination. We have lot of time to work on our tasks. Don’t postpone the things & doesn’t allow stuff to pile up will stress us out. Find ways to take care of stuff now and keep your inbox and desk clear.

Multitasking. Multitasking is a good idea, it might seem productive, but in actuality it slows us down from actually focusing on a task and completing it — and it stresses us out in the meantime. Learn to do single task.

Avoid doing Unnecessary Tasks. It’s good to avoid unnecessary tasks from doing. They will definitely stress you out. Learn to simplify the tasks to few essential things, and you will enjoy the process much more.

Eliminate energy drains. Certain things in our life just cause us to be more exhausted than others, with less value. Identify them, and cut them out. You’ll have much more energy and much less stress. Happiness ensues.

Avoid difficult people. Difficult people are from nowhere, they are among us. You know who they are? If you take a minute to think about it, you can identify all the people in your life — bosses, coworkers, customers, friends, family, etc. — who make your life more difficult. Just cut them out of your life.

 

Avoid being Late. Being late always stresses us out. Learn the habit of being early, and this stress disappears. Make a conscious effort to start getting ready earlier, and to leave earlier. This also makes driving less stressful. Time yourself to see how long it actually takes to get ready, or to do any task and from next time plan accordingly.

 

Don’t be Workaholic. Workholism is not strength, but it’s a weakness which ruins our life.Once you leave your office, leave everything there itself. Spend some time with your loved ones. One should know how to balance the Professional & Personal life.

Learn to let go. Learn to let go, and accept the way that other people do things, and accept what happens in different situations. The only things you can control is yourself — work on that before you consider trying to control the world. Also learn to separate yourself from tasks and to delegate them. Learning to let go of our need to control others and the situations around us is a major step towards eliminating stress.

Eat healthy. This goes hand-in-hand with exercise as a stress prevention method, of course. Become healthier and a major source of stress will disappear.

 

Take mini-breaks during work. It’s important to take mini-breaks during your work day. Stop what you’re doing, massage your shoulders and neck and head and hands and arms, get up and stretch, walk around, drink some water. Go outside and appreciate the fresh air and the beautiful sky. Talk to someone you like. Life doesn’t have to be all about productivity. You should also avoid using online activity too much as your de-stressing activity — get away from the computer to relax.

 

Exercise. This is common advice for stress relief, and that’s because it works … but it’s also a stress prevention method. Exercising helps relieve the stress buildup, it gives you some quiet time to contemplate and relax, and just as importantly, it makes you more fit. A fitter person is better equipped to handle stress. Another important factor: being unhealthy can be a major stressor (especially once you have to go to the hospital), and exercise can help prevent that.

By careful editing of your life, and changing certain habits, you may eliminate which are important, necessary & good to you.

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on December 15, 2011 in Work Place

 
 
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