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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Words of a Bleeding  ❤ ….

People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

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It´s Insane to play with people Emotions


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

If you’re in a relationship or dating someone or exploring a relationship where someone is toying or playing with your emotions, leaving you feeling miserable most or worse, all of the time, you need to leave ASAP. No one should have that much control over your emotions. You should never give someone that kind of power where they can take away your good and positive energy and happiness. And that’s exactly what they’ll be doing, that is, if you let them. WhatsApp Image 2019-11-09 at 9.19.37 PM

Some people will be wishy-washy, uncertain, confused, ambivalent, emotionally unavailable, or simply, they might just be a total jerk or a player. But what you need to do is recognize it when a person acts like they don’t know what they want, or if and when they change their mind every other day, or even every two minutes for that matter. We need to become aware of the types of people who we surround ourselves with in our lives. People who have these types of issues are not people who anyone should be associating with, but especially, on a romantic level, and even moreso, when we want something stable, long term, meaningful, and with future potential.

Think about it! Imagine going to sleep on a happy, peaceful, and loving note with your partner, where you feel so in love and as if you and your honey are better than ever, and BOOM! First second you open your eyes in the morning and look down at your cell phone and you have a long-a** text message saying how your partner loves you somuch, but has doubts and thinks that it’s better to end things for this or that reason. But wait, two days later, the cycle repeats, and they want you back, apologize and regret leaving, making excuses for why they’d left, and the instability goes on and on in this type of toxic pattern for—as long as you let it.

Many people will make promises to you, but never keep them. But when you’re in a relationship with someone who does this, and even moreso, when they do it quite often, it will not only drive you nuts, not to mention provoke you if you’re the sensitive type, but it will steal your inner peace, and make you feel miserable from all of the in and out, on and off, wishy-washy, back and forth instability. EVERYONE who wants to be in an exclusive relationship wants that relationship to be stable. No one gets into a relationship and feels good when they go through break up after break up, and all of the time.

Ukh! Breaking up with someone is hard enough, right? But when someone breaks up, makes up, and repeats that unstable pattern so often, you’ll never know what to expect. When someone is so unpredictable and wishy-washy, but you choose to stay with them regardless and perhaps because you love them, you’re basically causing your own misery by staying. My best advice would be to leave. A person who is so unstable that they break up or continuously go back and forth with how they feel or what they want with you, or if they make promises or give you their word, but never follow through, you should move on, and find someone who therapists will kill me for saying is “normal.”

You have to recognize when someone brings out the worst in you, and take it as a BIG sign that you should leave, because they’re obviously not the right match for you. You shouldn’t be sweeping red flags under the rug, and you shouldn’t give someone chance after chance to change and improve themselves or to just once—keep their word, when they keep letting you down.

Not everyone deserves multiple chances. I mean, O.K., if you’re married, you should be willing to fight for things to work and with all of your power, but in a relationship, when you see that you’re completely a mess and unhappy more often than not, and when you see that a person thrives on creating drama and is just making you feel miserable on a daily basis, LEAVE for goodness sake! I mean, come on! Relationships are all about seeing if you’ll be good enough together so that you can take things to the next level.

So when you see that someone is not only making you unhappy a lot of the time, but that they’re completely unstable and that’s one of the main things that’s provoking your unhappiness, you should start thinking with your head instead of your heart. You see, despite how much someone might love or even think that they love you, when a person really loves you, they won’t cause you so much pain and discomfort. And especially when they see how much they’re hurting you all of the time by their words and actions.

Now, when it comes to someone stringing their partner along, I’m basically referring to when someone tells their partner certain things, makes promises, but never follows through with them. I’m referring to when your partner lets you down a lot and convinces you that things will be different soon, and that they will change and improve, and that they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you by their side and make you feel happy, but nothing changes.

People who string their partner along are usually some of the most selfish types of people, because they end up hurting someone who they claim to, or possibly even do really love. But the problem is, that when someone keeps stringing their partner along, many times, they’re wasting their time, hurting them, and at times, even keeping them from finding someone else who will not only be stable, but who will be a better match for them. This is especially bad if the person stringing their partner along, is doing so when they already know they they ultimately won’t be with their partner in the future, yet they’re simply too attached or too afraid of letting their partner go for whatever reason. I mean, talk about selfish!

When someone strings you along, they usually do so like I said, for selfish reasons. But one of those selfish reasons is because they want everything to be their way. They usually aren’t willing to compromise or make changes, other than changes to what they might’ve originally said that they wanted or even in regards to what you both might’ve agreed to early on when dating. What’s really unfortunate though, is when a person strings their partner along when they’re older, and especially when their partner wants to settle down and have children, knowing ahead of time that the person is likely not going to be the person who they will be with in their future, but they want to be with them anyway, despite their age, and despite the other person’s circumstances.

Many people want what they want and simply don’t care who they might hurt along the way, as long as they get it. Having said that, not everyone’s motives are initially bad, and not everyone knows right away they they won’t end up with someone. I mean after all, how could anyone know how they’ll feel until they get to know someone on a deeper level. However, when a person directly tells you their concerns early on, yet you avoid or ignore them, thinking, “I can do it! (arrogantly or maybe even selfishly based on lust or thinking with anything but your head) or thinking that somehow you’ll make things work, despite the obvious challenges that maybe your partner had even voiced to you as concerns, you’ll be at fault for wasting their time.

You see, despite having pure and good intentions, it’s not always enough. Having pure intentions isn’t enough, when you don’t follow through with your word. And dreaming of having what you want and going after it when you ultimately know that it’s wrong or that someone isn’t the right match for you, yet you go after it anyway, is completely selfish and wrong. This is when listening to your instinct can be helpful. As well as using your logic and heart when exploring relationships.

When two people explore a relationship together, there shouldn’t have to be so much drama, confusion, instability, or back and forth. When you see that things aren’t working out early on or when you don’t feel that you can keep your word or follow through with what you initially thought or said that you would, you need to ends things with the other person sooner, rather than later. You see, holding off ending things when you have major doubts, is just plain selfish, because you’re holding back the other person from their “real” match.

Remember, it’s never nice to play with people’s emotions, to mislead them, or to be selfish and not think before you do things. Don’t lead people on. If you know that someone isn’t the right match for you, don’t waste their time by dating them and giving them hope. Giving false hope to someone or stringing them along for the ride, knowing that you can’t or won’t ultimately stick around is cruel. Think of the possible consequences of your actions and be careful not to hurt others by being selfish.

You should never waste someone’s time by stringing them along for your selfish reasons. Be a good person, and let someone know when you have doubts early on, and preferably before you get too close (attached or intimate), so that they don’t end up feeling used or that they were taken advantage of. Be selfless, not selfish, and even if you love someone but know that you ultimately won’t end up with them for whatever reasons, you shouldn’t waste their time. Love them enough to let them go… ……..By… Vishal

Finally one suggestion, People play with our feelings because we let them play,people usually play with feelings of those persons who are emotionally weak,they know even if they will hurt that person.he/she can’t do anything other than crying or making excuses but on the other side they don’t even try to play with feelings of mentally strong person because they know even if they will do it will not affect him/her so always act strong,no matter what so is going in your life,it will always help you

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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Journey from Nowhere to NOW HERE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I feel so fortunate and happy  to say that, all I am today is by adding a little space in my life to “ I am NOWHERE” to make “I am NOW HERE”. Along with my parents, I made myself as a footpath to make me reach what I am Today.  When I started facing the world of opportunities with obstacles, I am very well aware that being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. A hungry stomach during my childhood, empty pocket during my school/college days, painful treatment from trusted ones and broken heart in every phase of my life taught the great life lessons and turned me into the person who i should actually be i.e. what I am Today..

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on IMG_20191103_061339 bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) to Quality Control Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. Its true. I never feel shy to say where I started and where are my roots are. By considering my current position or traits or appearance, many assume that I am from a High end family, who´s born with Silver spoon. Which is not correct. In each step of my Life I faced obstacles, hurdles, ill-treatments from society for being born in low class, caste family, but I let nothing to distract me from reaching my goals.

It started my journey like others from a very poor rural set up ,having no support or idealism to follow. It started like a lonely leaf in the whirl pool. I am born in a below middle class family with only moral values not money.  As a very small child I don’t remember too much other than ethics, moral, values taught by my parents and the painful childhood experienced in various forms. The things that I do remember were seen through a child’s eyes that has made me the person that I am today and I will always have those memory’s with me until my last breath on this earth.

My parents are not educated, they are able to teach me only moral values to live proper life, with which i started my life’s journey. Due to economical situation of family, my parents requested my sisters to give-up their dream of becoming Engineer, Doctor to see me and my brother as Software Engineers. Seen many highs and lows. Faced many failures enjoyed many success. In my small journey learned few but important things. Most of them are taught by parents, teachers/faculty, my girlfriends, brother, family of friends.

Today, I proudly say, I have forgotten my struggles in life to exist but could not forget the pleasure in coming out with flying colors from all sufferings. With successful Computers Graduation and Post-graduation as a topper at college, University levels, I could impart my knowledge, experience and expertise to thousands of students, employees across countries inform of Guest Lectures, Trainings and through my writings in form of books, articles and websites. Most of my students are now established in various countries. But most surprising and happiest fact is that they acknowledge my contribution in their carrier even today .

I believe in these lines..

“If you learn from your experiences, you are an intelligent, if you learn from experiences of others you are a Genius”
“It doesn’t whom you choose as a role-model in life, but before you leave this world, you should become a role-model even to a person”
“I am not sure if I am going to be with you till my last breath, but for sure my words & moments you spent with me are going to be with you till your last breath”
“Its better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees”

I have had my own share of highs and lows.I am thankful for what I have. I can´t say that I have always been very mature about the way I have handled the highs and lows. I have had my bouts of arrogance when I flew high and then bouts of low morale when things went badly. Life however did teach me that nothing ever lasts…not the good times, and definitely not the bad. I have therefore learnt to take things as they come and never to give-up irrespective obstacles in the journey. This has been my biggest learning.

I think what makes my life exciting are not the right things but the mistakes.. Things that I should not have done, things that I should have done in better way. I have learnt from my mistakes no matter how I clichéd it sounds.. I have made mistakes but they played their part in making me what I am today. I am happy to be me. I do not wish to live anyone else’s life. I will keep on learning from my life. But at the age of late 30´s, I think I am a grown up person and ready to commit more mistakes in the coming future.. 😉 of course the new ones as per this generation..

Here are few lines to People, Who…

Who looks at the world from a different perspective.
Who still believes in his or her dreams.
Who see life as living thing and life worth living.
Who do not settle for low.

For everyone who strives for change.
For everyone who doesn’t accept the way things work today.
For everyone who don’t accept the status quo.
This is for the ones who challenge the challenges.

This is for the ones who break down existing barriers.
For the ones make the impossible possible.
For the ones most people would call crazy.
This is for people just like you and me…

Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches.
When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.

Giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, when your life appears to be falling apart, but it is hardest and worst thing you can do to sit in the rubble of your shattered dreams. You need to not see your current failures and hardships as your final destination, because they are not!  The easiest and best thing for you to do is to take several deep breaths and take steps to keep moving on. One step at a time is the only way to move through and put some space between where you are and where you belong!

Perhaps you have been longing to arrive at your destination, reach your goals and declare yourself “Now Here,” only to suffer a mighty setback and feel like you have actually arrived at “nowhere!” There is hope! You need to keep moving forward, keep pressing on toward the goal, keeping your eyes focused and having faith that you are loved more than you can possibly imagine. By taping into that love, you will find the strength and hope to continue through the difficulties.

Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
It doesn’t matter where did you start..
or how old or how young you are.
or how much or how little money you have.
or what your current job is or where you work.
or how big or small your mortgage is.
or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle.
or in which country you live.
The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

Life sure has opened it’s cards one by one. It takes great courage and perseverance to sail through the roughest of the tides. It would have been a great journey but there have been moments when you question your own capabilities. Never loose faith and hope.

If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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CPR – It Saves Life of a Person & ❤ of his Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) is an emergency procedure that combines chest compressions often with artificial ventilation in an effort to manually preserve intact brain function until further measures are taken to restore spontaneous blood circulation and breathing in a person who is in cardiac arrest. From School going children to Adults, everyone should have some awareness on CPR.  It not only saves life of person who is dying, but also saves his entire family from loosing the heart of their family

In the present busy and pressure world, everyone is exposed to one or other health issues. The frequent and common thing that we hear now a days is Heart Attack or Cardio Arrest. Its not limited to Humans(Adults, Infants, Kids), we can see even same issues in pets. Its good to know the life Saving Steps in the Event of a Heart Attack or Sudden Cardiac Arrest.

Heart attacks , Cardiac Attacks can strike without warnings. They are becoming what the steps of CPR areincreasingly common across world. The statistics are indeed worrying; 50% of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 50 years of age and a quarter of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 40 years of age, according to the data available with Indian Heart Association.

Also, those living in urban areas are three times more susceptible than the rural population. In the light of such disturbing statistics, one would be better off getting to know some steps which may come in handy in the event of a heart attack.

What is a heart attack?

The heart is a muscle, and like all muscles it requires an oxygen-rich blood supply. This is provided to the heart by coronary arteries. A heart attack occurs when there is a blockage of the coronary arteries. This is often caused by a blood clot. Such a blockage, if not quickly resolved, can cause parts of heart muscle to begin to die. (1-3)

What is a cardiac arrest?

A cardiac arrest is different to a heart attack. In a cardiac arrest the heart actually stops beating; whereas in a heart attack the heart normally continues to beat even though the blood supply to the heart is disrupted.

Symptoms of  heart attack are:

  1. Shortness of breath
  2. Chest pain like pressure, squeezing or fullness
  3. Pain radiating to the shoulder, arms, neck, jaw, back and the stomach which be intermittent or last a few minutes
  4. Cold sweats
  5. Nausea or vomiting
  6. Lightheadedness, dizziness and/or fainting
  7. Anxiety
  8. Feeling restless or panicky
  9. Unexplained fatigue, especially in women and the elderly
  10. Numbness, aching or tingling sensation, usually in the left arm, but may occur in the
    right arm too in some cases
  11. Breathlessness or wheezing or coughing

Symptoms of  Cardiac attack are:

  1. Sudden loss of consciousness/responsiveness
  2. No breathing
  3. No pulse
  4. Chest pain
  5. Shortness of breath
  6. Weakness
  7. Dizziness
  8. Palpitations
  9. Nausea

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STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM ADULT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Push down hard and fast in the middle of the chest, over the breastbone, with one hand on top of the other and fingers interlaced
  • Press down  2-2.4 inches deep and at least 100-120 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose shut and cover the victim’s mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and check to see if the victim’s chest rises
  • If their chest does not rise, give another breath 

Mouth to mouth is optional, but highly recommended for child and infant CPR

Continue 30 Compressions And 2 Breaths Until:

  • The victim begins to breathe
  • An AED is ready to use
  • A trained rescuer arrives
  • You are too exhausted to continue

Special Considerations for Adult CPR:

Depending on the age of the Adult victim, the rescuer may fracture the sternum and/or ribs of the victim when performing CPR

  • In order for CPR to be effective, the rescuer must push down hard, at least 2 inches deep, on the victim’s chest. Although, this pressure may do harm to the victim such as break bones. The decision to give CPR relies on the rescuer, but physicians suggest that the victim would most likely rather live with broken bones than not live at all

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING ADULT

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM CHILD CPR (1YR-8YR):

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • You can use one or two hands: For one-handed compressions, press down hard and fast on the center of the chest using the heel of your hand
  • For two-handed compressions, push down hard and fast on the center of the chest with the heel of one hand and place the other over top
  • Push down about 2 inches deep, giving at least 100 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose closed and cover their mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and look for their chest to rise
  • If the chest doesn’t rise, give another breath

STEPS ON HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING CHILD

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

If child becomes unconscious, perform CPR. Start 30 to 2

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM INFANT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Using two fingers, push down in the center of the chest, just below the nipple line
  • Give 30 chest compressions at the rate of at least 100 per minute
  • Press down approximately 1 1/2 inches deep
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression 
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted into a neutral, or sniffing, position
  • Cover the infant’s mouth and nose with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Give 2 rescue breaths, each 1 second long
  • You should see the infant’s chest rise with each breath

**A baby’s lungs are much smaller than an adult’s, so it takes much less than a full breath to fill them

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING INFANT:

** The infant cannot cough, cry or breathe**

  1. Give 5 Back Blows
  • Place the infant in one hand with their face facing down
  • Give 5 firm back blows with the heel of one hand between the infant’s shoulder blades

2.Give 5 Chest Thrusts

  • Turn the infant over so their face is upwards in one arm with the same hand cupping their head
  • Place two or three fingers in the center of the infant’s chest just below the nipples and press down onto the breastbone, about 1 1/2 inches deep – 5 Compressions

**Be sure to support the infant’s head and neck with one hand and arm, and keep the head lower than the chest** 

Continue Sets of 5 Back Blows And 5 Chest Thrusts Until:

  • The object is forced out
  • The infant can cough, cry or breathe
  • The infant becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) , if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM PET CPR:

  1. Check For Breathing And a Pulse
  • Using your middle and index fingers, check your pet’s pulse below its wrist, inner thigh, below the ankle, or where the left elbow touches the chest
  • Check pulse below wrists, inner thight, ankle or where left elbow touches chest
  1. Look For Other Warning Signs
  • The gums and lips will appear gray in color
  • The pupils will be dilated
  1. If No Pulse, Start CPR
  • Lay your pet on its right side, with its heart facing upwards
  • Place your hands over the ribs where its elbows touches the chest
  • Begin chest compressions

**DO NOT give compressions if the animal has a pulse

  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: press down ½ – 1 inch
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: press down 1 – 1 ½ inches
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: press down 1 ½ – 2 inches
  1. Rescue Breaths
  • If your pet is not breathing, give rescue breaths
  • Cats and small dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose and mouth, and blow until you see chest rise
  • Medium to large dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose, blow until you see chest rise
  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: give 10 compressions per breath

Continue Compressions And Breaths Until:

  • Your pet starts to breathe or has a pulse

**Check its pulse after 1 minute when first starting CPR, and then after every few minutes

The above steps are easy to remember and one must have the presence of mind to perform it when the need arises. Doing so may help save a person’s life.

 

References.. Various Health sites, reliable web pages

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Posted by on October 11, 2019 in Life & It's Importance

 

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✿✿✿ Indians help Germany to Celebrate Bathukamma ✿✿✿


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Prawin…

Every Indian heart feels so proud to say I am INDIAN. We can find Indians at every part of world. Indians living outside India celebrates every Indian festival and make it as best opportunity to unite with other Indians living in that states or country, irrespective of religion, caste, financial status etc. I really feel so excited and happy to see people gathering for events on occasion of festivals. WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM(1)

Each fall — September, October and November in the United Kingdom, Germany, United States — Hundreds of German, Americans celebrate one of Hinduism’s most important festivals, Batukamma, Diwali,  or the Festival of Lights. Like every-other year this year German woman joined to celebrate the India Batukamma festival. This year more than 200 families joined in Germany and they played and danced for over nine hours. There is overwhelming participation from Indian woman and Indian students.

Importance of the environment was known to all but there is a small negligence towards it. There are some people who are really working for protection of the environment and bringing awareness, in South India people of Telangana state and some of AndhraPradesh celebrates a Floral Festival to remember the importance and treating the Nature as the goddess with a hope that ‘protection of environment is protecting our selves’, in Telugu the festival is called as ‘Bathukamma’ which mean ‘Live Forever’, they pray to the goddess (Environment) to live forever with the people.

Floral Festival (Bathukamma) is recognized as the Telangana’s (a newly emerged state in India) major festival and the government is also promoting the festival and its importance all over the world. It is a festival of environment hence, the state also making awareness to protect the environment. Telugu people who are staying in different countries like Germany, United States, United Kingdom, Dubai, Singapore etc., are also celebrating the festival and expanding the culture to the World

Various organizations working for revival and sustenance of Indian culture and festivals in different parts of the world irrespective of religion are competing with each other to celebrate the festival inviting Public figures, Ministers and politicians of various parties and also adding glamour to it ensuring the participation of film and television stars.

WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM2019 Bathukamma Sambaralu, organized by the Telangana/Telugu Association of Germany (TAG) recently helped many families to unite and created a wonderful family environment. Similar programs were organized at Dallas, Houston, Washington DC, Raleigh in North Carolina, Los Angeles, Dubai, Sydney, Melbourne and other places across world. All these places saw droves of young and middle-aged women, decked up traditionally arriving with their flamboyant flower stacks that embodied Goddess MahaGowri, who is revered as life-giver and symbolise the womanhood going by Telangana folklore.

It has become a part of our life here and the effort is to revive, retain and pass on our culture to the next generation,” said Dr. Malthi Rao (Director of TTC, Indian Embassy). “Earlier, individual groups used to celebrate but now its on a bigger platform and the enthusiasm is unbelievable,” she said

Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld (Grüne Partei MLA, Neukölln), conveyed his wishes to all the Indian families living across all states in Germany.

Families that fail to participate in such events don’t forget to celebrate at nearby lakes in small groups singing Bathukamma songs, they learnt as children back home. “I haven’t missed the festival since the last six years. I make Bathukamma at home and immerse it in the nearby lake along with a few friends,” says a proud Telangana Woman, a resident of Munich in Germany.

TAG volunteers, Raghu Chaliganti, Jairam Naidu, Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy etc who are active in Germany Telugu Forum have been organizing the events to celebrate Indian festivals and they says people participation , interest is immense and the numbers have been swelling every year.

Finally I would like to convey my sincere thanks to all the Indian, German families who joined here for making Bathukamma celebrations and for making its as such a wonderful & memorable event. This amazing response will definitely boost us to organize more and more cultural events for our Indian community. 

Very special thanks to our Honorable Guests Dr. Malthi Rao, Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld  a million thanks to all the TAG volunteers, Raghu Ch, Mr. Jairam Naidu & Mr. Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy (Ganesh Temple President and Vice-President) for their support like every year.

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Once again thank you all and wish you all a Happy Bathukamma and upcoming Dussehra, Diwali, Christmas and so on. Wish you to celebrate everyday and moment of life making other Indians proud.

 

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Words by Shipra Jain…..

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status. divorce-isnt-such-a-tragedy-a-tragedys-staying-in-an-5123019

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!

 

 

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Unspoken truth hidden behind my Heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In Life we meet many people who leave their own impressions and memories. Every person have their own importance and everyone holds a piece of our lives puzzle. Even if a person leaves us, we can never be full. When you experience loss, people say you’ll move through the 5 stages of grief….Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. ….. Unfortunately I cycle through all of them all every day.

My Love, Though my words will never find you, I hope that you knew I was thinking of you yesterday, today, tomorrow and everyday to come….. and that I was wishing you every happiness. Love you Always, The girl who loved me and walked with me.

My Heart never knows loneliness until you left me. World never knows that i still wake up thinking of you  each-day .
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I miss your company,
I miss your smile,
I miss walking with you in rain,
I miss your love, care, concern,
I miss the sensation of your touch.
I miss you, pampering me like kid,
I miss visiting temples with you,
I miss the arms that protected me,
I miss the shoulder that takes me to sleep,
I miss the fingers, that wipes out my tears,
I miss the hand that holds me when I am down,
I miss holding you at night,
I miss support of your shoulders when I am tired.
I miss feeling like you want me.
I miss early morning walks in the park by holding your hand,
I miss the kiss which you used to give on my forehead daily,
I miss imagining us a year from now,and how happy we should be.
I miss planning our vacations,
I miss phone calls, text messages,
I miss sweet fights  and arguments with you,
I miss daydreaming of how nice it will all be.
I miss the idea of you missing me!!!
I miss everything we used to be!
Finally I miss, my Life’s journey with you,
Nobody Understands how much I miss you,

I Miss You

You are defined as my unspoken truth hidden behind my heart…

The sad part is, that I will probably end up loving you without you for much longer than I loved you when I knew you. Some people might find that strange.
But the truth of it is that the amount of love you feel for someone and the impact they have on you as a person, is in no way relative to the amount of time you have known them.

I will always hold a candle for you – even until it burns my fingers, hand.
And when the light has long since gone …. I will be there in the darkness holding what remains, quite simply because I cannot let go what i experienced and what memories you left with me.

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Posted by on September 1, 2019 in Technical

 
 
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