Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….
The article was written by Sravani….
I work in a reputed organization as a Software Engineer. All these years I met different people of different mindsets, but for the first time I felt quiet irritated with the people around me in My Work Environment.
Everyone has annoying co-workers. Dealing with co-workers who are annoying is part of the job, so everyone needs to know how to effectively deal with them. Dealing with annoying co-workers also helps in dealing with other difficult people in daily life, so learning strategies to deal with annoying co-workers can assist in personal interactions as well.
The most Annoying traits that I found in the people around me.
I have looked at some traits that I dislike in other people and hopefully am teaching my friends to avoid. I think if people could rid themselves of the following traits the World might be a better place.
Un-Invited-(Meaning =Persons who tries to indulge in the personal matters of others, persons who interfere unnecessarily). Simply we can say, these kinds of people are the worst humans on the planet. Personally few of my office mates tries to interfere in others personal matters. At that time I feel like slapping on their face, but due to few reasons I can’t do that. I don’t understand what people get , if they interfere in others matters. How can they be such shameless, senseless & manners-less bloody creatures.
“If we are rude and get a reputation for it we will continue to be rude” It’s the human tendency.
Conceited – (Meaning = Holding a high opinion of yourself) Much like arrogance and just as annoying. It great to have a good opinion of yourself but when it is displayed to others in a manner as to make others feel small it can be very unpleasant.
Condescending – (Meaning = showing or implying a usually patronizing descent from dignity or superiority).This is another trait which rile me. Of course this is open to interpretation in many cases. On a few occasions I have asked people if they are meaning to sound condescending and often they are embarrassed and explain that it was not their intention,so it can be a tricky one.
Show-off-(Meaning =means to boast, to act big, to demonstrate a skill or knowledge excessively & who wants themselves 2 b noticed by everyone). Side to my cabin there is a person who tries to show-off. I got fed up with his unrealistic words, actions, thoughts. He behaves as if he knows everything, but not at all.
Arrogant– (Meaning = unpleasantly proud and behaving as if you are more important than, or know more than, other people). We’ve all come across people like this. When I think of the arrogant people I have met it seems to be mainly men that display this trait. I have also noticed that it seems to be a class trait i.e. people who are in the ‘upper class’ be arrogant with the ‘lower classes’
Sneaky-(Meaning =To behave in a cowardly or servile manner, to act in a stealthy and cowardly manner; to behave with meanness and servility; to crouch). Sneaky person who walks quietly behind you in your cubicle to grab a sneak at your work, hoping to find an idea he can steal?
What about a person who tries to use the use the machine of the co-workers in their absence?What about the person who in every conversation points out the inefficiency of others or the process as if we don’t already know?
Bragging-(Meaning =an instance of boastful talk,speaking of yourself in superlatives). Bragging was agreed by all to be a very annoying characteristic. Some believed that bragging seemed to be the only reason these people ever achieved anything – so they could brag about it afterwards. Bragging about one’s children was also frowned upon, not only was it unpleasant to experience but it was thought to have a negative effect on the children who were bragged about.
Rudeness – (Meaning = not polite; offensive or embarrassing) When I think of people who are rude I tend to think of some experienced dealing with fresher’s in the organization. Many feel that they know lot and everything. They ill treat others. I don’t understand what they think of others, after all they were placed just before us that’s it, nothing more.
Needy-(Meaning =People who use the other people to satisfy their needs).Everyone has an occasion when they will need the help of friends or family. However, when that becomes a constant occurrence, it becomes extremely annoying to everyone around. Needy people tend to drain the life and most often the money out of friends, relatives and coworkers.
Eventually, relationships will be ruined because others can no longer support the needy person — either emotionally or financially.
Domineering – (Meaning = inclined to rule arbitrarily or despotically; overbearing; tyrannical:
domineering parents. People who try to control others are not a good trait at all. Again this can often be seen in the office. They advice others on everything, as if they are perfect at everything.
The Fun-Sucker: These people are the worst. When you make a sarcastic remark, even if everyone else in the room is cracking up, the Fun-Sucker just stares at you as if you’re the stupidest person in the history of the planet. Fun-Suckers are basically sore losers who want the attention for themselves at all times, and no matter how genius or hilarious your comment may be, they won’t crack so much as a grin. They’re selfish, tend to be music snobs, and have been known to enjoy granola bars. Watch out.
Dishonesty – (Meaning = not honest) The trait that I abhor the most in people! Everybody lies whether it be a white lie or a big ‘honestly I didn’t kill him’ lie. However when someone lies constantly it is very irritating and annoying especially after you have pointed out that you know they are lying and they continue with it. If you are honest all the time it will lead to people trusting you more and valuing your opinion more.
The Hypocrite: Hypocrites are almost worse than liars: they’re not only lying to you, they’re lying to themselves. They gossip about their best friends and then freak out when they hear someone else do the same; they preach against cheating on tests, but are always looking over your shoulder in Calculus.
Hypocrites are in a permanent stage of denial, and somebody needs to slap them with a dead squirrel. Just don’t kill the squirrel yourself, because that would be creepy and gross.
Temperamental – (Meaning = describes someone whose mood tends to change very suddenly) Sorry ladies, but I have found the most temperamental people tend to be female, especially if you’ve ever worked in an office.
Unreliable – (Meaning = cannot be relied or depended upon) another trait that can extremely annoying. Again we’ve all come across people like this at work, at school, at university, in fact every area of life. We also know, very quickly, not to rely on that person for anything.
If you recognize yourself in the list above? If you do it is easy to rid yourself of these traits. The main trick is to recognize it when it happens. As soon as you recognize you can change you. For the next few days be aware of how you interact with people around you, listen to your language, be aware of what you do when you are listening, and be aware of what you do when you are talking.
Co-workers have the ability to make a work environment pleasant or horrible. Annoying co-workers aren’t just a nuisance; they can make a work environment miserable. Dealing with an annoying co-worker every day leads to an increase in stress, which can lead to numerous health problems, including high blood pressure and frequent headaches.
Make sure to establish boundaries early on. If someone sitting and chatting with you, involving in personal matters, making fun in unrelenting matters, for extended periods is bothersome, find an excuse to get him/her out. Take a bathroom break; explain that time constraints exist, ask him not to disturb you or ask him to shut his mouth. In cases of brown-nosing or other public annoyances, sometimes it’s just necessary to avoid these people when possible. Getting along with everyone is not possible, but civility is always necessary. If the annoyance turns into a problem that affects productivity or job satisfaction, talk to a manager to determine which options are available to remedy the situation.
Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.