All My Dear Readers,
I am very much thankful to all of you for the tremendous response that you gave, to share your opinion and experiences with your father. It’s an attempt made to come out with an Article, which is nothing but the collection of mails i got from you all. I got hundreds of mails and still I am receiving them. Unfortunately I am unable to publish all the mails that i have got. I expect this kind of support from you all forever. This blog is not individual’s, Anyone can share their expertise & experiences of their life, to the outer world………
This article is dedicated to all the people, who are leading their life in the memories, of their lost ones. Recently i have lost my both the grand parents, who used to pamper me like a kid even at this age. I can’t forget the moment’s that i spent with them. I spent most of my life time with them..
What does father mean? What does your father mean to you? What is his Role in your Life? What attachment you have? How did he shape you? What do fathers mean to our society, our culture, our nation? What would you change about the way we think about fathers?
The word father may mean different things for different people. To some it may bring the picture of love, laughter, respect, power, authority etc. To others it may mean fear, rejection, disappointment and failure.
I don’t get exact words to describe father, he is everything in an individual’s life.
- F-Forever loving
- A-At my side when I need him
- T-Talks and listens to me
- H-Hears my cries & happiness
- E-Easy-going and fun
- R-Risks anything to please our family.
A true father will get down to the level of his children; engaging in “their” world with a heart full of love, care and concern not for what they do, but because they are his own; a gift given to him by almighty. He exercises patience in times of rebellion and yet spurs his children on to become who they are called to be; what they are capable of becoming in their life.
When my Dad was dying, I was with him, I was terrified. I am 8 years kid, I didn’t know how to act, what to say, so I sat in silence. He asked me, “Aren’t you going to give me a hug?” When we hugged, he started to cry. That memory has broken my heart ever since. I don’t have anyone, my mother left me with my father, when I was 5 months old. After my father’s death I was joined in this Orphan School.
“Sanjay ( Medical Representative)
Ten years ago on February 14 th 2002 was one of the worst days of my life. I received a call telling me my father was dying and to come quick. I flew to the hospital, but I failed to see him alive.
” Prasithan ( DJ)
My father who is 67 years old, died suddenly of a heart stoke at the dinner table in 2009. I still remember his last looks, which asked me to save him. At that time i was scared & helpless. By the time I recovered from shock, he left me alone in this world. He left his last breath in my hands. I hug him and cried through out the night, because I know that he is no more.
After all this time it still hurts to talk about it and I have been through a lot of self-medicating and therapy to get on with my life.
“Nirmala (My Mother)
I don’t find any words, which can be used to speak about my father. The only thing I can tell you is father should be like My Father. My age is around 50; I lost my father in the year 2011. Before your father came into my life, my life is my Father. After that your father became a part of my life.
If, I recall the moments that made happy before, now I get cry, because my father is no more.
I was married 28 years back with your father, but till now my father is my driving force. What do I mean is?
To a Women husband is important, more than that father’s love is important.
To whatever heights we move, we are still kids to our parents. Never hurt your parents through your actions, behavior, words, attitude through any means, because they will never tell that you are hurting them.
My father is everything to me, He is my Strength & he is my Weakness. Not only that, He is my best friend, philosopher, guide and more over he is my Role Model. He has got Tons of patience; he never loses his temper on any critical issues. And he is an excellent yoga guru.
The most unforgettable moment in my life is when he told me “Giri I have confidence in you, you can achieve anything in life. I am not worried of your future. “By listening his words, I really felt happy. From childhood he trusted me a lot. I used to feel very comfortable with him.
Due to my job and my responsibilities, I am missing him badly. I make it a point to talk to him, listen to him as long as he wishes to talk. I wish I was with all through.
In my opinion Father is guide to their future journey of his children.I am very much fortunate to have such a father.
“Manjula Devi (House Wife)
Like millions of people, I grew up in a single parent household. I lost my father in the early age of my life. When I was in schooling, I lost him. He is the Hero in my life. The most influential person in my life is probably not even aware of the things he has taught me or of how much he has affected my existence.
This person has always been in my life, from the day I first opened my eyes to the moment he left our family alone in this worthless world. He is a protector, well wisher, teacher, a guide, and a source of strength and support. He is whom I look up to with loving trust and pride. With a willing hand to lend, he is a helper; an adviser .He showed me the stars and taught me how to reach them. This person means the world to me, so who is this influential person in my life? He is my one and only father.
When my parents came to know I was Hijra, they sent me out of house. At that time one Human God took me into his arms. At that small age I don’t know what to call him, he said “I am your father, I feel happy if you can call me Father”.
All these years no one listened my hearts cry, except my god i.e. My Father. He was truly one in a Hundred million and I’m so lucky to have had him as my Dad. I thought I’d always appreciated him when he was alive but now he’s gone I look back and realize I had no idea how blessed I was to have him around. It would have been Dad’s birthday in a few weeks. I’ll probably cry my eyes out but I want to do something positive to celebrate his life. That’s what Dad would want.
Now I don’t know how to face humans. Really I am so scared of you all. Please give us a chance to live, I want to live. Please………
Spare a thought and a smile to us; we expect nothing more from so called Humans.
“Menon (BE student)
It is true that not every man or husband will be a father and not every husband who has children will be a good father. Many fathers have many children but have failed in the responsibility of fathering them. We have also seen or read about men and husbands who were unable to have children but have been exemplary fathers? Fatherhood is a great gift. It is a precious gift from God who considers godly family and rising of children to be the utmost priority in the world
A fulfilled father is not determined by the number of children he has and how successful they were, a father is fulfilled when he has sacrificed to nurture, instruct and raise his children in a way that brings honor and glory to the giver.
The first and probably the most important purpose for fathers are to build strong and fortified families.
Fathers are called not only to love and lead their wives but also to love their children without partiality and to raise them with care, compassion, courage and common sense.
“The road leading up to success can be bitter, but its result is sweet.” His teachings have made me who I am today. Every moment I think of him. How can someone replace my father, who is everywhere in life and who is life. I lost him in a road accident in the year 2002.
My father is the God father of my life. He is the greatest gift to me and my family. He has shown the approach towards life. I have gained not only knowledge, but have applied his teachings to my life. Because of the example he has set for me, my father has provided the steppingstone I need to achieve my goals so that I can lead a happy and successful life. He gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.
“Chaitankya Kumar( My Student )
Today is my Dad’s birthday prawin. If he was still alive he would have been 56. He passed away almost 2 years ago … and while he was very fortunate to live for as long as he did due to poor health … I still miss him.. I want to see him once. If God exists really, he should show me. I don’t know what I am alive from the day he left me.
I lost my father 4 years back. My father is not an engineer, industrialist, teacher, firefighter, an astronaut or a brain surgeon – he is a farmer-he is a simple man – He is a Great Father. He has left the greatest impact on me. My father is the individual who has influenced me the most and is the greatest gift I have ever received. I am living in his memories and following the footsteps of him.
My dad not only influenced me through his attitude, actions, but also influences me through his words. He has taught me a great deal about life. He shown me the light of life and instills in me lessons that he wished others had instilled in him. I lost him when I am studying Intermediate.
My father is a potter, he is uneducated and unable to speak the languages apart from his mother, yet he has taught me all I needed to know about attitude, determination and hard work by the simple eloquence of his example. I never felt bad of his profession, because he is a professional in his profession. I remember the days that I spent with him playing in the mud, roaming on streets sitting on his shoulders, going to exhibition at nampally. He has a dream to see me in suite. After long struggle I became HR of a reputed Organization, but now he is not here to see my achievement. My present life is because of the sacrifice made by my father in the past.
“Father……. I might have felt much happier, if you might not have left me alone like his….. “
The worst obstacle I had to tackle unexpectedly was the death of my father due to Heart disease. At that time my age was 24. I just completed my Masters then, world became dark. I don’t know what to do, then my father’s words came into my mind “Life is a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into a brilliant gem.” Those words have lot of impact on me. I t has been 40 years back that incident happened. Now I have 1 son & daughters’, and also I am having 3 grand children. Even today I remember the words that I heard from the father. He is a great human, who I ever met in my life.
“NarsinghRao (Auto Rickshaw Driver)
I am not educated, I studied till 7 th class in ZPHS high school. My father is a Daily wage worker. He is a big drinker. Even though he used to take care of my family, provided us with the necessities in life: food, clothing, shelter, and so much more. He sacrificed himself so I can have more than he ever had. He has given me so much, including the most important thing in the world: all of his love.
In the year 2006 he passed away with problem in the lungs. Now I am running this Auto Rickshaw, to drive the wheels of life.
“Sampath (Bank Employee)
Last month I kept leave for 4 days and went to meet my family members in Vijayawada. I don’t know why I spent; I spent total 4 days with my father happily. I came back to Chennai. The last time I saw my dad, I didn’t know it was going to be the last time I saw him. He passed away recently. He is a retired school teacher.
We don’t know when we are going to miss a person, so please make them feel your love every moment.
“Anupama (Nursing Student)
It’s been nearly 3 months since my wonderful Dad passed away. The shock and numbness are wearing off but the pain is still very raw. I knew it would be hard but I didn’t anticipate how strong the feelings of loss and emptiness would be. What I wouldn’t give to see him again! I’ll never stop missing him but I know in time the pain will start to fade. Already I find myself thinking of him in a happier light. Not ill and unhappy as he was at the end but the way he was for most of his life. Happy, positive and always making me laugh.
“Shilpa (Sex Worker)
I don’t know how my father looks like. From childhood I was with my mother. My mother is a sex worker. In my childhood many men used to come to our house, I was sent out to sleep in the corridor. I don’t know, what she used to do inside, but after 18 years I am doing the same. Now I came to know, why father is important in girl’s life. If my father is there, I might not have been in this sex work. Even my father’s age people used to sleep with me for fulfilling their wishes. It’s all my fate. I can’t change my past. I don’t say my mother is bad, but she is not good.
I never got to do many things with my father. He is a truck driver that is only home two days a week. When my brothers were kids, they would go with him on trips when I was old enough; he started driving for a company that wouldn’t allow it because he carried dangerous chemicals. We never went fishing or anything, mostly just helped him do any chores or repairs that needed to be done at the house.
Two years back I lost him In an Road accident.
My father is my protector, an inspiration. He shown me love, made me experience love, taught me to share love. He is the person who I love & respect most. The most Unforgettable moment in my life is the day I stepped the hostel gate biding bye to him the tears rolled down my cheek, the thing surprises is that I was not with my father all my whole childhood but still tears rolled that day.
I can’t expect the life without him. I feel the protective charm with love, confidence in his presence.In my view my father is a great individual, he lead and leading a great life facing hurdles at every aspect in life, never stepped back from his responsibilities at any point of time.
However a father may be as individual, may be drunker, may be irresponsible, may be great person to shower lover, may be strict and aggressive yet he is a protector, guide, inspirational and confidence to children.
I can simply say that, my father made his life as a footpath, to make me to reach my destination.
My Dad died from Paralysis when I was 14 years old. I lost my parent, my hero, and my teacher. That day it-self know I will never be the same . . . as I was before. I see my life as a puzzle – every experience in my life is a piece of unique Life’s puzzle. When combined, they form the entire picture of my life. My Dad took a piece of my puzzle with him, a piece that will never return. I am incomplete without it, without him. We shared memories that nobody else shares, which means he knew me differently than anyone else. When someone you love dies, that part of you dies as well. You can’t re-live that memory with anyone else. Your puzzle may grow, but you can never replace that missing piece. And because of that, I will never be the same again.
Even today, daily I cry for my father, not because he left me alone, because I haven’t joined him in his journey after life. It’s really hard for a girl to face this World without father. I know the struggles that I faced from the society, for not having a father. The worst part of my life is, not able to see my father’s face for the last time when he died.
I will never be the same . . . as someone who hasn’t lost a parent.
People are never gone, as long as we hold them in our hearts; they live on inside of us.
A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced, however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth..
Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.
I’m missing my dad on father’s day.
Happy Father’s Day to all of you who are fathers, grand fathers, great-grand fathers and aspiring fathers.
Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words in the comments below.