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Mother: The Living GOD


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared.  She is the person who brought us into the world irrespective of our gender is the mother. Mother, the goddess of eternal love, not only give us birth but also feed us, raise us to become adult, teaches us to become a good human being and many other. She plays the role of teacher, guide, role model, friend and a lot of other roles.

Mama-and-Baby

A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. when we get hurt, the first person which we remember is always the mother. Sometimes harsh, sometimes funny, always loving, always caring is the mother. The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.

“Mother” is such a simple word,

But to me there’s meaning seldom heard.
For everything I am today,
My mother’s love showed me the way.
I’ll love my mother all my days,
For enriching my life in many ways.
She set me straight and then set me free,
And that’s what the word “mother” means to me.
Thanks for being a wonderful mother, Mom!

‘Mother’ is a very best creation by god. It is said, “as god cannot be in many places at a time, he created mother in place of god who will satisfy all our needs and bless us always with all her love irrespective of our mischievous behaviour.” I feel this is correct. And I feel great to be a child of my great mother.

My mom is great and she does many things to my family. Of course every mom is very good and will do anything for their children. My mom is the one who is very lovable, friendly, caring and cannot stop using such adjectives to describe her nature. My mom is my best friend in the world. I can proudly tell that my mom is a special person, who will forgive me for all my mistakes and will guide me with her everlasting smile on her lips. She helps every one whom ever she can and in whatever the way she can.

Mothers make great sacrifices while raising their children. She gives away her sleep so that her child sleep comfortably. Mothers give away their time to teach their kids different ethics, manners which will help them stand high in society. They sacrifice their bodies to give them birth. When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.

We are very lucky to have this precious gift which God has bestowed on us. Think of the people who lost their mother while birth or the orphan children who had never seen their mothers. We should not take our mothers for granted. We will get to know her importance only after we lost her. We should respect her and treat her like a god. We should let her know that we love her by helping her and ease off her pressure. A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. Sometimes, mothers say and do things that seem like they don’t want their kids but when you look more closely, you realize that they’re doing those kids a favor. They’re just trying to give them a better life.

For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom’s presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. In the end, I would like to say that love her, respect her and care for her in the way she did to you, you won’t able to find the same unconditional love anywhere in the universe.

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Enhance your Communication with Mother


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared. Before its late, let the woman in your life know how much they mean to you by showering them with love, kind words. Aunts, sisters, grandmothers and daughters deserve special appreciation for all that they do.

It is Dedicated to every Daughter/Son of a mom — Mothers of babies, mothers of grown children, mothers who lost their babies before they were born, mothers who are yet to be, single mothers, married mothers. Enjoy the precious gift.

I am writing this article with the experiences of me, experiences of people around me & content that is collected across the globe.

Like all the Daughters/Sons, I love my mom very much, but I failed to express it. Due to small misunderstandings, arguments to some extent I missed my mom’s love. After self realization I got back to mom with love for love.

Mother-daughter relationships are complex and diverse.There also are ups and downs, no matter how positive (or prickly) the relationship

Whatever your relationship with your mother or daughter, you can always make improvements. Here’s how to enhance your communication and connection and cut down on clashes.

 

Don’t wait to make first Move:

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. Doing so inevitably leaves relationships stuck. “Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.”

Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. “In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels,” . “What happens as a result is they don’t communicate.” Or they communicate harshly, in ways they’d never “dare speak to everyone else,” which causes hurt feelings that “don’t go away so easily,” .Instead of harshly dismissing your mom (or ignoring her calls), communicate what works best, such as: “If you want to talk on the phone, the best time is in the morning. But if you want to reach me during the day [with something] more urgent, just text me.” 

Change yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. But you aren’t chained to their actions; you can change your own reactions and responses. Interestingly, this can still alter your relationship. Think of it as a dance, . When one person changes their steps, the dance inevitably changes.

Be an active listener.

Active listening is “reflecting back what the other person is saying,” instead of assuming you already know, . When you reflect back what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.

Also, listen “to the feelings underlying the message,” which is often the real message, . If “mom says, ‘you’re acting like a doormat,’ the daughter hears that as being horribly critical [and that she’s not good enough], but what the mom is really saying is, ‘I feel so protective of you because you’re not protecting yourself.’”

Repair damage quickly.

“One of the key principles in sustaining healthy and satisfying marriages is to repair damage quickly,” . Healthy couples don’t avoid conflict. They realize conflict is inevitable and they deal with it head on. This applies to mother and daughter relationships, too.

Not resolving conflict can have surprising consequences. “If you don’t deal with your mom by resolving conflict, you’re going to carry those same patterns into your future relationships,” whether that’s with your friends, partner or boss, .

Learn to forgive.

Forgiveness is “an individual act. It differs from reconciliation, which takes both people and isn’t always possible. Forgiving someone isn’t saying that what happened is OK. It’s not condoning, pardoning or minimizing the impact.

“I suggest all daughters you have to forgive your mom in order to be healthy.” “The power of forgiveness is really for the person who forgives.”

“The better you can forgive, the better you can repair damage quickly,”

Don’t bring in third parties.

It’s common for mothers and daughters to bring someone else into their conflict. A daughter might involve dad because mom is driving her crazy. Mom might involve another child because she feels like she can’t talk to her daughter. Either way, talk directly to the person.

Finally, ask yourself if you’re OK with your relationship and your actions.

Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. When her kids were young, I found myself setting up this unrealistic belief during their nightly reading time.

Stick to the present.

Moms and daughters tend to have “an old argument that runs like a broken record in the background,” . It becomes their default disagreement. Instead, avoid “bring[ing] up old gripes from the past,” and try to focus on the present.

Balance individuality and closeness.

It can be challenging for daughters to build their own identities. Sometimes daughters think that in order to become their own person, they must cut off from their moms, . Or, quite the opposite, they’re so fused that they’re unable to make decisions without her input, . Both are clearly problematic.

But daughters can find their voices and identities within the relationship. We learn how to deal with conflict and negative emotions through our families, . “You don’t grow and develop and become your own person void of relationships.”

Put yourself in her shoes.

If you’re a daughter, think of your mom as a woman with her “own wounds and hurts,” who was born and raised in a different generation with different values and difficult family relationships and issues.

If mom really wants to hang out, instead of saying “Stop asking me, you know I’m busy,” say, “I know how much you want to meet with me, and I wish I could but I can’t do it this week; can we do it next week?”

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..

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A Mother’s Sacrifice


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Munna….

 

Mothers are the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.
It is said that behind every successful man there is a woman. That may not necessarily be true; however it is true that behind every confident child there is an encouraging mother. Day after day in our impressionable years our mothers either build us up, or tear us down. A child who has a mother who is set on encouraging her/him is a child that starts off with an advantage. Our mothers may not be rich enough to leave us a financial legacy when they go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.
Mom…You have always been a source of inspiration to me when it comes to hard work and not giving up. I have been lazy and dad has been lazy in his own ways, but you never gave up on us to get things done…I always love you for that…
 They are the one who stay when we get hurt, when we are down, when we are sad, when we are harmed.
They were the first person in this world to become happy, when we are on top; we are triumphant, when we achieved something and when we are blessed.
In there so many ways, mothers have cherished their children so much that they even cherished more than their lives.
They cared for us as if we are a golden treasure that they need to protect us from harmful humans and incidents.
They always pray for the goodness of our life in this world and what comes after.
 They spent time to take good care of us. In the middle of the night, where everybody was fall asleep, our mothers remain awake to check what we need
. They often had a sleepless night to feed us, check our diapers and sometimes we defecated in their very lap. They sang a song to us.
She put her strength all together for us, and being a weak human being in physical, she could still manage to do a lot of hard works for their children.
They were our first teacher to write and read.
 
 Who could be better than them to take care of us, care for us, pray for us and be there for us? There are so many people who never accompanied their mother had a very sad experience.
They were so much jealous to the people who are still living under the caring of their mother. Nobody cared for them with real care.
These were just among from the few sacrifices of our mother. You cannot count every deed they made to let us live better. Before birth, their body was in pain to carry us in their wombs for about 9 months.

They vomited their foods, they suffered headaches, they felt something strange and weakness of their body every morning. But because they are a mother, they paid no complain against these.

They were pretty much excited to see us, to give birth to us. They even talk to us even they could not see us, just massaging their wombs. The wished for the best for us, they hoped for the excellence of our life.
They are doing all these sacrifices wholeheartedly without waiting for something in return. This is priceless care, a blessed care and a gift to us.
If there is someone that we owe our life to, it is our mother.
We could not give her back her sacrifices but we could make her happy.
We should not treat her bad, disobey her will and defy her. Aside from materials, we need to show them our love to them every day. We do not have a right to say bad things about them and hurt them.
Mother you were so kind to me, cared for me, suckled me, I wish I could make you happier each day. I will always love you and pray that I could be more like you.
I still remember the day(s)…
  •      When you would leave me off at School and wave me off bye and return home to finish off all your work at home. And, yet promptly come back to school even in the mid day sun or cold rain carrying my lunch box with a king like lunch. I still remember no other kid enjoyed this privilege; it was just me. Those days made me understand the value of commitment, love and care.
  • When you would get me ready for the school outing with friends and get me packed with Chapatti. Dad would help you make for me on those special days. I understood that even small things in life mattered a lot.
  •    When you found me having a rubber of my friend which I carried home willingly, got so angry thinking I had stole it from him – you made me return it back to him the next day with a sorry. That day I understood the value of morals.
  •  When you would come to collect the report card and mark sheets from Springfield at the times when dad was busy on Parents Teachers day meet – though you knew I was an average performer you had a smile on your face as if I was the best among everyone in the class. That day I understood the value of motivation.
  • When you always protected me and did not give up on me when others boasted about their sons/daughters in the friends and relatives circle. Those days made me understand that no matter what keeping up the respect of your son played its role in building him to a better person in the future.
  • When you always yelled at me and scolded me for not doing some things or not helping you on house hold errands – I understood the value of perfection and getting things done immediately.
  • When you took me to temple, and socialized with people on the way – I understood the value of networking and socializing not just with humans but also with god .
  •  When I get back home tired with a lot of cribbing about school and office, there was always something surprisingly delicious waiting for me which made me forget all negativity – I understood you knew me in and out.
  •   When you gave me all the comforts at home in the weekends – I felt so pampered like a small kid.
  •  When you always considered me one step ahead of everyone in the family – I understood I am special to you as always.
  • When I missed you and dad so much when I came to Hyderabad – I understood my world was around you both.
  • When you saved penny by penny out of household expenses, and when they turned out to a big sum – I understood saving is an integral part of every one’s life.
All this while, all  these things has partly made me what I am now. I am proud to say that I learned all these from you. I know I am miles away from you now, but  Whenever I think of you, Mother, Whatever the time or the place, I picture a moment of childhood and a smile spreads over my face.
I feel myself being encouraged in all I am trying to do. I remember the pride you expressed whenever i do a little good. To you I was never a loser. I know I am miles away from you now. But, I will never forget what you are giving me and you have made me special in your own ways. I am what I am because of you and dad. You never left hopes on me, your belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now. I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life.I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.
Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.
 

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