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A bad boss can make your life miserable


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Have you ever worked for someone that made your life a living hell ?

I definitely would never wish for any one of you to be in a situation where your horrible boss is intolerable. But if you are in such a situation, then this article will definitely help you.

You can’t choose your boss, but you can choose how you react to a bad one. After having so many bosses, I can tell you there will be a boss at one point who will make your life miserable.

Bad bosses are everywhere. About 50% of employees are said to quit their jobs because of a bad boss. Everyone, at some point in their career, has had a boss from hell. The person that crushes your spirit on a daily basis and makes, going to work, one of the things you hate most.

Quitting is hard

People stay in jobs with bosses they don’t like for a multitude of reasons. Some of the most common reasons I’ve heard during my 16 years of organizational consulting and coaching include:

– I don’t have the energy to look for a new job.

– I love the job I am doing

– I love the vision of company

– Things might get better.

– I really like my job/colleagues/commute.

– I need the salary. I can’t afford to take a pay cut.

– There aren’t any other jobs that would be better.

– I don’t want to lose the benefits.

– I ’ve invested too much to start over in a new organization.

– This job pays too well to leave.

– I don’t have the skills to get a different job.

It happens to the best of us — we start a new job only to find that our boss is not ideal. They might be a micromanager, a visionary that lacks the ability to get the job done, a boss who likes to take all the credit for their team’s good work, a poor communicator, a non-communicator, an absentee boss … the list goes on.

Characteristics of a Horrible Boss:

  • A Blame-Shifter
  • Angry and treat others wrong
  • Takes away your freedom of choice
  • Arrogance with their ostentatious personality
  • Controlling Delegator
  • Driven by emotion not on confidence
  • Favoritism towards certain employees
  • Indecisive in nature
  • Micromanage their employees
  • No Long term Vision
  • Demoralize you and your self-worth
  • Resist Change in the workplace
  • Stubborn and think they’re right
  • Use fear as a form of management
  • Throttle your growth
  • They come in late, but expect you to arrive early and leave late

If you’re working for someone that fits any or all of the above, it may be time to run for the hills. Your future is at stake.

Two rules for success when you have a bad boss:

Rule #1: Your boss’s boss won’t correct the situation. This is true if your bad boss has longevity and he was hired by his current boss. When these two things are true, don’t expect things to change. Adopt other strategies to improve your life.

Rule #2: Bring your best self to work. Be pleasant, helpful, productive, kind, positive, and energetic. Adopt positive behaviors because it’s who you are.

Never let a bad boss make you a bad employee.

I gave a frustrated coaching client this feedback. “Your best self comes out when you talk about work, projects, and vision. But when you talk about your bad boss, your worst self comes out.”

“Which self do you want others to see?”

If you want to keep top talent, make sure that your bad boss habits don’t get in the way of productivity and growth! Bad Bosses are a common occurrence in any workplace, but there are ways for you to help them become better managers and leaders.

What rules might you suggest for people who have a bad boss?

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Re-onboarding new parent employees is vital to organisation’s growth


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Returning from maternity or parental leave can be an incredibly stressful time for your employee, so you need to help make the transition as easy as possible for them. They have probably got a lot of mixed emotions about coming back, and it is likely that this will be the first time they have been away from their child for any extended period of time.

While they might be excited about returning to work, they will probably also be a little nervous. A lot of things can change in a business over six-months to a year, and this article aims to provides some tips to help with their return.


Prioritising new parents in your workplace is a form of equity. Any organisation that commits to that value should dedicate resources to bringing parents up to speed when rejoining the workforce.

Most companies fall somewhere in between, but there are a variety of things you can do in addition to your policy to make new and even experienced mothers feel comfortable and welcome them back after their maternity leave or leave of absence

Returning to work after a lengthy absence on maternity leave can be a daunting experience, so the employer should take steps to ensure that the employee’s reintroduction is as smooth as possible. Every Employer has to ensure an employee’s smooth reintroduction to the workplace after maternity leave.

Now the big question is, How can we achieve that smooth reintroduction. ? How can employers manage employees returning from maternity leave to make sure they feel fully welcomed back to work ?

Here are some suggestions to support an employee returning from maternity leave.

  • Remember that maintaining contact with an employee on maternity leave can help them to stay in touch with the workplace and ease their return to work.
  • Check that you have notified the employee of the date that their maternity leave will end and consider sending them a courtesy letter to remind them of their expected date of return from maternity leave.
  • Send out a Welcome back letter and do onboarding and take feedback after a week.
  • Make sure that the employee’s workstation is ready for their return from maternity leave and that they have the materials necessary to do their job.
  • Make the time for a coffee with your returning employees, preferably OUT of the office. Maybe invite the broader team to say hello. Allow them to share their experiences as new parents and ask them to show you baby photos!
  • Encourage mental well-being and Allow flexible working options.
  • Bear in mind that returning to work after a long period of absence on maternity leave can be a daunting experience for an employee.
  • AVOID inviting your returning employees to large meetings for the first two weeks until they’ve had a chance to settle back in. During that time they would have gained more context and could confidently attend and actively participate.
  • Consider what changes need to be made to the employee’s workload if they are returning to work from maternity leave on reduced hours and what arrangements need to be made if they are going to be working with a jobshare partner.
  • Arrange meetings to update the employee and discuss any training needs or necessary support for them to get back up to speed with the job. Ensure that an employee who has returned to work from maternity leave is not treated less favourably because they have been out of the workplace for some time.
  • Carry out a risk assessment if an employee has returned to work from maternity leave within six months of the birth or is still breastfeeding.
  • Provide suitable facilities for a breastfeeding employee to rest, and remember that it is good practice to provide a clean, private room, access to a fridge and time off to express milk.
  • Ensuring that the logistics are in place for the employee to begin work on their return, for example that their workstation is ready and that they have the appropriate systems access and passwords.

Showing empathy and understanding during this difficult time will make a big impact. If the pandemic taught us anything, I believe it was to find compassion for each other’s full lives — at work or at home, which are now not as separated as they once were.


If you are a manager and have read so far- kudos to you. All that’s left now is to put the wheels in motion and change the statistics
If you are a parent who’s reading this and are finding it relatable- share this around. You too can change the statistics.

If you want your business to be more human, you have to invest in your humans.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this or any other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share them with your family, friends, and followers!

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