Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
Have you ever worked for someone that made your life a living hell ?
I definitely would never wish for any one of you to be in a situation where your horrible boss is intolerable. But if you are in such a situation, then this article will definitely help you.
You can’t choose your boss, but you can choose how you react to a bad one. After having so many bosses, I can tell you there will be a boss at one point who will make your life miserable.
Bad bosses are everywhere. About 50% of employees are said to quit their jobs because of a bad boss. Everyone, at some point in their career, has had a boss from hell. The person that crushes your spirit on a daily basis and makes, going to work, one of the things you hate most.
Quitting is hard
People stay in jobs with bosses they don’t like for a multitude of reasons. Some of the most common reasons I’ve heard during my 16 years of organizational consulting and coaching include:
– I don’t have the energy to look for a new job.
– I love the job I am doing
– I love the vision of company
– Things might get better.
– I really like my job/colleagues/commute.
– I need the salary. I can’t afford to take a pay cut.
– There aren’t any other jobs that would be better.
– I don’t want to lose the benefits.
– I ’ve invested too much to start over in a new organization.
– This job pays too well to leave.
– I don’t have the skills to get a different job.
It happens to the best of us — we start a new job only to find that our boss is not ideal. They might be a micromanager, a visionary that lacks the ability to get the job done, a boss who likes to take all the credit for their team’s good work, a poor communicator, a non-communicator, an absentee boss … the list goes on.
Characteristics of a Horrible Boss:
- A Blame-Shifter
- Angry and treat others wrong
- Takes away your freedom of choice
- Arrogance with their ostentatious personality
- Controlling Delegator
- Driven by emotion not on confidence
- Favoritism towards certain employees
- Indecisive in nature
- Micromanage their employees
- No Long term Vision
- Demoralize you and your self-worth
- Resist Change in the workplace
- Stubborn and think they’re right
- Use fear as a form of management
- Throttle your growth
- They come in late, but expect you to arrive early and leave late
If you’re working for someone that fits any or all of the above, it may be time to run for the hills. Your future is at stake.
Two rules for success when you have a bad boss:
Rule #1: Your boss’s boss won’t correct the situation. This is true if your bad boss has longevity and he was hired by his current boss. When these two things are true, don’t expect things to change. Adopt other strategies to improve your life.
Rule #2: Bring your best self to work. Be pleasant, helpful, productive, kind, positive, and energetic. Adopt positive behaviors because it’s who you are.
Never let a bad boss make you a bad employee.
I gave a frustrated coaching client this feedback. “Your best self comes out when you talk about work, projects, and vision. But when you talk about your bad boss, your worst self comes out.”
“Which self do you want others to see?”
If you want to keep top talent, make sure that your bad boss habits don’t get in the way of productivity and growth! Bad Bosses are a common occurrence in any workplace, but there are ways for you to help them become better managers and leaders.
What rules might you suggest for people who have a bad boss?
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