Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
Many people have an overwhelming fear of failure. This usually stems from societal programming that tells us how negative and even shameful failure is.
However, the reality is that failure is a necessary part of life. It is just one step of thousands you will take. It is unreasonable to expect to complete each task in life perfectly on the first attempt.
Successful People are not Afraid of Failure. Successful people don’t define failure as the opposite of success; they define failure as the opposite of trying.
Failure simply means that you have made mistakes, and you can learn from these mistakes to improve your future efforts. It is not the end of the process. Truly great leaders understand the importance of mistakes and failure, and they are comfortable with the concept of failure. In fact, there are four primary reasons why you should embrace failure if you want to be a great leader.
Successful people know that nothing ever goes exactly as planned. And no matter how hard you work, sooner or later you must face the reality that you failed. You tried to do something and weren’t successful. You didn’t get the result you wanted.
You don’t clear every interview you give.
You don’t close every sale.
You don’t win every game.
You aren’t going to hit a home run every time you’re up to bat.
You don’t always get what you want.
FAILURE is OK. It’s part of life. It should be expected.
The bigger question is: What do you do next? What do you do after you’ve failed?
As Frank Sinatra sang: “You pick yourself up and get back in the race. That’s life …”
You don’t feel sorry for yourself. You don’t mope around. You pick
yourself up and do it again and again and again until you get it right!
Failure is as much a part of life as success. Losing is as much a part of life as winning. The most important thing to think about is how can you ensure that you won’t fail in the same way a second time.
Remember: You just can’t fail the last time you try.
Life is a series of trial-and-error experiences. We are taught something by a teacher, and then we try to do it ourselves. The first time we do it we probably don’t get the results we want. So we try again, and again, and again. With practice we get better.
Then we push ourselves as we try to do something that’s a little bit more difficult. As we succeed, our expectations increase, and so does the satisfaction that comes from the feeling of a job well done.
So we set our sights a bit higher-to improve our results as compared to what we’ve done before and in relation to the results of those with whom we are competing-and we try again. We continue to push ourselves to new heights.
When we succeed, we once again raise the bar. And when we don’t, we go back to work to improve our skills and talents, and try again.
That is why I feel that the subjects of success and failure are so intertwined: because it is through failure that we grow and develop as individuals. We learn through our failures. Failures show us our flaws, our imperfections, the areas in which we need improvement.
In order to achieve your goals, to fulfill your desires, to make your dreams come true, you’re going to have to work. It is hard work that makes you better at what you do, and failing from time to time is just a part of life.
Learn From Your Failures. When you experience failure, take some time to reflect upon what happened. Pull out a pad of paper and start writing down the answers to these questions:
*Why did this happen?
*What could I have done differently?
*How can I do it better next time?
*What changes should I make in my strategies?
*What can I do to improve my planning and preparation?
Study these answers. Analyze them. Then go out and do it better the next time.
Remember: If you’re not experiencing failure, you’re not working hard enough.
Great leaders are not shamed by failure, and they do not attempt to mask their failures. Instead, they learn lessons, determine what went wrong and make a solid effort to get back on track with a corrected course and updated business plan.
Credit: Jeffrey Mayer’s SucceedingInBusiness.com Newsletter
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