Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Aryan….

Imagine being rejected by society since birth and being denied access to certain human rights because of your birth status in the community. In this article I am not pointing any person, or any group. Just I am explaining the pain that I faced in my life.

It’s the Life’s story of a person who is still treated on the status of his birth..

26 years ago……when I was 9 years old…I had a friend called Shastri.  Shastri, I and few more friends used to play every day in our street.

One day as usually after our play I, Shastri and my friends went to his house.Sastri brought me water while I was sitting in front of his grandmother. As I was drinking water, his mother asked me “my son, what is your name?”

I said “I am Aryan”

Then she asked “which community you belong to?”

What does your father do?

Till then none asked me that question, I thought for a while to make my words and said “I am from Backward Caste.”

She became serious hearing me…She shouted bluntly at shastri and forced him to not touch the glass.

All my friends were staring at me. At that moment I felt like a thief caught while robbing. Everyone there was watching me so.

While she was screaming at shastri “he was unclean, with a filthiness that had affected his family. Clean the house” I moved from there silently.

That day I understood I was born at the bottom of Hinduism’s complex social ladder.

      All these years many asked me the same question i.e. “Which community you belong to?”

I came from a poor family. When my mother asked for Fee concession to join me in school, school Principal asked “Which community you belong to?”

In the school I was made to sit in the Last rows, the reason is “I am from Backward Caste”.

Even my friends used to ask me frequently “Which community you belong to?”

Even the girl, who proposed me her love, left me because “I am from Backward Caste”.

In the college which I studied my Head of Department ask me “Which community you belong to?” in order to allow me for the Campus Recruitment Drive in the college.

You may believe it or not in even in one of my Job Interviews, Interviewer asked me “Which community you belong to?”

On the first day of my office, my colleague asked “Which community you belong to?”

I faced the same question from many individuals in every phase and turn of my life…

 Years later, i.e. today people call me something else.

Life is good for me, sitting in my office with good clothes, good food, good life style; it is like I am high-caste.

In the past few years I felt Caste and caste traditions lost its grip with economic growth as well as with globalization.

Recently I went to one of my colleague’s house, when we all were taking tea and chatting, suddenly her mother asked me “which community you belong to?”

I said….“I am from Backward Caste”.

Her smile vanished slowly. She said “I’ll get snacks” and moved from there.

Then I realized My Guess was Wrong…..nothing changed……

Days passed into years, years passed into decades but Hinduism’s complex social ladder still exists as a barrier in society

In caste tradition there has been no change.

I am well settled, having great family, I haven’t got any bad habits, I am well Educated, Into Great profession, I am greeted with respect on the streets. But I am from Backward Caste…

I wish to see my future generation, where none poses the question i.e. “Which Community you belong to?”

There is no universal system of caste throughout India.

The castes in AndhraPradesh can be divided into two distinct categories.  Brahmin, Komati, Reddy, Kamma, Velama, Kapu, Nayudu, Relli, Mala, Madiga, Yeraka, Yanadi etc., castes are based on their tribal, cultural and religious differences, while the castes like Chakali (washerman), Kummari (potter), Kammari (smith), Kamsali (goldsmith), Mangali (barber) etc are based on their duties.

With a few exceptions like the Brahmin caste, all these castes are uniquely localized in AndhraPradesh.  Each caste has a deity and distinct social formalities. The interaction between various castes is difficult because of these religious, cultural and tribal considerations.

Today, all the castes (tribes) in AndhraPradesh are categorized into four groups, viz., Forward Communities (FC), Backward Communities (BC), Scheduled Castes (SC), and Scheduled Tribes (ST).

What Do we Get?

I would like mention few funny, senseless & useless actions that many perform in their day-to-day life with casteism roots in their mind.

By appending community name with individuals name What Do we Get?

What Do we Get? by celebrating Film Actors birthday or Movie Release who belong to our community.

What Do we Get? by placing Community Persons names to geographical places

What Do we Get? by rejecting marriage proposals of children who like to marry other caste or religion person.

What Do we Get? by allowing only few community individuals into temples.

By conducting community gatherings What Do we Get?

By placing the pics or images of our community leaders What Do we Get?

By moving close with own community people What Do we Get?

By criticizing others based on race, caste, religion What Do we Get?

Even though there is no benefit from political leaders to society Why Do People support such leaders by considering community.

Why Caste Discrimination is increasing in colleges, offices.

Why to include caste, religion options in the school admission, college admission, job applications.

Think Before You Act. Community of an Individual is not Important, Character of an Individual is Important.

I don’t understand what the hell people are going to get with this diversity basing on Caste.

Did Caste  Give Birth to You…?

Is Caste going to keep you into Correct Path…?

Is Caste going to teach you Morals….?

Is Caste going to provide you livelihood or Job..?

Is Caste going to Feed You for lifelong…?

Is Caste going to change your life…?

Is Caste going to Educate you or make you literate..?

Is Caste going to fetch you Fame, Name and Health ….?

Is Caste going to make you Rich.?

Is Caste going to drag the people towards you…?

Is Caste going to add meaning to your Life….?

Is Caste going to make you Immortal?

Is Caste going to change your fate or fortune?

The strife between various groups is part of a worldwide phenomenon, which affected all kinds of human relations for thousands of years.

The reasons for hostilities between different tribes/castes/religions/nationalities are mostly prejudice, jealousy, self-righteousness, partisan politics etc.,

Caste System discharges many dysfunctions. These are listed below.

• Social Problems
•  Social Inequality
• Oppose to Democracy
• Hindrance to the Development of personality
• Obstacle to social progress
• Obstacle to social unity
• Retards Social Solidarity
• Untouchability
• Denies of Mobility of Labor

To avoid caste, creed feelings , lets stop differentiating and praising high or low about our religion and lets think each one as humans.
Government should stop asking about community certificates for admissions in schools and colleges.
Allotting admission seats into medical / engineering colleges based on caste should be avoided, rather it should be taken in a very fair manner or every candidate should be given opportunities,if not in that university he/she should be given seat into some other university, nominated by the government alone.

Today I think total INDIA is rooted up with the caste feeling. Many are suffering from it….

Now-a-days there is big caste feeling..but i think this is not good..for any development of human society..this is bad disease than AIDS.. so..avoid the caste feeling.

I need answers for some of the questions…..

First of all….

What is Castism???
Why this Castism???????
What is the use of castism??
Will caste helps us in any way??
Why the same caste people will group up??
Why don’t they involve other people to join them??
Why don’t they help other castes people??
Is there any way to eradicate the caste feeling in schools, colleges, offices, society, etc??
How to motivate people who feel proud of showing racial feeling???

Will there be change in the mind sets of people????

Ways to Handle Castism:

1.Do not ask caste/religion in any application form or in any survey/census like admission to school, ration card, job application etc.
2 Provide reservation to jobs and higher education in following manner: Farmer’s sons 30%, rural people 10%, physically handicapped 5% and women 5%. No reservations should be caste/religion based.
3. Abolish Waif Boards and Waif portfolio.
4. Remove religion from governance. Government should have no say in religion. Government should concentrate only on economic issues should keep quite when it comes to religion.
5.Make family planning compulsory and no one should be spared.
6. Uniform Civil Code be brought making all religions equal in the eyes of law

Is it wrong to ask this question…? If it is a mistake to ask this question…you may remove this thread…!

I personally think,  One should have respect towards their community, but it doesn’t mean that we have to hurt the feelings, opinions, beliefs and restrict the freedom of others.

Finally I would like to conclude .. India is a country with diversity.so we should learn to tolerate and respect each others religions, caste.we should abolish religion or caste based organizations.

We, the people of India, should unite and work together for the country’s progress.we should show unity in diversity. We should abolish the system of casteism  ,racism.we should also educate others about it. Every one of us got birth in the similar fashion, with the purpose to lead a happy, meaningful and peaceful life.

Please Live and Let Live….

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Vinamra….

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,  

When the road you’re truding seems all uphill,  

When the funds are low, when the debts are high,  

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,  

When care is pressing you a bit,

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.  

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,  

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,

You may succeed with an blow.  

Success is failure turned inside out,  

The silver tints of the clouds of doubt,

And you can never tell how close you are,

It may be near, when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you’re the hardest hit,

It’s when things seem worst, that you must not quit……    

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja.

Woman holds many different roles in one’s life as mother, wife,  sister,  teacher, friend …..

In ancient India, women occupied a very important position, in fact a superior position to, men. It is a culture whose only words for strength and power are feminine -“Shakti” means “power” and “strength.” All male power comes from the

Take a pride that we have come out of the culture where women were seen as just reproducers. Today she openly displays her power, knowledge and skill, receiving public recognition and honor.

Woman often fight for her home, her people. Yet she faces humiliation in every aspect of her life.

A home maker says “he come home drunk and kick me with his boots.” Who knew when I met the love of my life I would have such blows.

A working woman says” He was irate when he came home. He asked to clean up the mess so he could rest. I thought to prepare a cup of tea for him and was about to move to kitchen. He thought I was ignoring him, He hit me in my eye.”

What kind of thinking make us behave so badly? What makes us of believe we have a right to hit woman?

Why does a woman be helpless victim at men mercy?

Is that the attitude of common man who:

”the difference between mother and wife is –we take life from the former and get into the life of latter”

Is it that “we are grown up in a society which believe men are superior to women”

Let us see the excuses that men make from millennia to hit a women:

“I am very short-tempered there’s a lot of stress and problems in my life so it comes out like this.”

“I get violent with my wife because I love her so much my love for her comes out in this way.”

“I become angry because she don’t understand me.”

“I don’t like her because she tries to restrict me in all the things.”

Then why don’t you accept if your wife also show the love and anger in same way as u do.Realize the influence of such acts on family.

God created men and women to build life together and to complete one another all lifelong.

Women are self-sacrificing, gentle, patient, caring… Recognize the importance of her in our lives.

God made us special
He made our arms to control the weight of world.
He made our shoulders, our childs feel happiness on them
.

In modern world women degrading themselves as well as allowing others to degrade them.

Are we ,women aware of our power, values, rights and proper position in the family, in work place and in the society ?

Are you proud to be a women? 

Please contribute your views, ideas, thoughts, demands,worries and happiness here. Gentle men , you can also take part in this.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Today, when I am having coffee along with my Freaks, A story called  “Life Is Like A Cup Of Coffee ” came into my mind, which I heard a long back when I am in my 8th standard…

It is a wonderful narration of a simple story that shares a great perspective of life and the way we live it. This story is based on the way we see and lead the life. The story is all about the conversation between Professor and his old students, who come to meet him after many years of their college life.

Story starts like this….” A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups!

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

This story provides a simple, yet profound look at life that may shed light on how challenges being faced today need to be addressed, and hopefully, resolved. Maybe, just maybe, it can be looked at as the simple approach to tackle complex problems. And, I’ve asked myself if it could really be instrumental in making people look at things differently and provide hope, where hope was not even considered before.

Anyway, go through the story  and give this some thought. Then, please share it with your family and friends and request they share it with people they know. If we can ultimately help just one person, or just one family, we will have made progress. Progress that’s necessary to survive this rough economic storm.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Today I would like share My First Kiss Experience. From Childhood I have good collection of Girls.Last night I got a kiss from one of my girl friend. As everyone know It’s a sweet experience. I just looked back into my life. It’s really a long long journey in all the ways. I remembered my First Kiss Experience with one of my girl friend, which is a magical one.

Around the time of my 16th birthday I started hanging out with my best friends a lot. When I am 16 I was Talented,Young, stupid, very assertive moreover romantic. I didn’t have big social life at that time.Just I used to spend my free time with the girls.Many used to say that I am a big flirt, but intentionally I never tried to flirt any girl. I agree that my words are bit attractive and assertive.

When I was in my  +1  I got into relationship with one of my classmate called Nikhila Chowdary.  She is really beautiful and hot. She used to speak with only few members in the class, I am one among them, but I have many, she is one among them. In the class  Madhu used to sit with me. She was my childhood friend. Later Vinotha started sitting along with me. I along with few more used to bunk class and sit in the park near to my college.

During exams i used to assist her in the theoretical subjects, she used to help me in Mathematics. I used to visit her house frequently. Even her parents liked me.

Everything went on well for few months. One day she told that she love me. I was simply said shocked and said  I am sorry, because I never seen her in such a way and moreover I din’t have belief on love. She left from there without a word.After a week she back apologized and asked me to be friend.From then my life changed.

I remember the day i.e. on February 3 we completed our Lab exam. She asked me come to her house. Normally I went. Both of her parents are employees, so no one in the house. Afternoon We had lunch, till evening we prepared for the exam.

She was sitting side to me, lying on my shoulders and said “Munna I love you and want to have you in my life. Munna I want to kiss you.” Before too she had told me that she wanted to kiss me a number of times.”I asked her not to make fun, then Suddenly she hold my hair and kissed on my lips, but I tried to avoid her because I don’t want  to let go of my first kiss so early.

Her lips were so soft against mine, and it slowly progressed until both of us were breathing hard.I found myself completely unable to move, The only thing I did was open my eyes for just a sec, too see if she had her eyes closed too. No regrets, because she looked adorable. The ironic thing is though, is that I didn’t even realize I’d been holding my breath until she retreated. That experience  was sexy and scary and fun, but not intentional from my end.

The Relationship between us didn’t last long,but she gave me a memory and a new habit, like a life time treasure.

Even though that was not perfect kiss I’ve ever shared with someone, and I will always remember it as the most magical. It’s really magical because from that day to this day I never stopped kissing girls.

If you look at me Today, I am a Freak getting Kisses, Hug’s almost everything without saying NO even to single girl. The only thing that I like in me is Till now In my life I never ran behind anyone.

My words and attitude may be hard to receive, but I am haven’t made mistake, not making any mistake, will not make any mistake. My philosophy is

” If a girl is comfortable with you, there is nothing wrong in being with her in any way, If she don’t like you, It is a mistake even if you stare at her.” 

Whenever I get into relationship with girls I had an agreement:  Can held hands, spend time with me, hug’s, flirting,  and kissing on the cheek is allowed…  lips too.

Till now I kissed many girls, I don’t know exact count. Even yesterday I kissed a girl. It’s my habit to give a bear hug and a sweet kiss. It doesn’t mean that I am person always willing to have a physical attachment. That’s the only way through which I can convey my care, concern, love, affection…

If my behavior hurt anyone, I am sorry and I am helpless, because If you are not interested I might haven’t been in your life and memories..

I love to experience love, i love passionate hugs, i love sweet kiss, i love caring words, i love consoling heart, i love helping hands, I love fingers which wipe out my tears, i love the heart which thinks of me, overall I love girls.

I don’t know whether I am good or bad, I don’t even have time to think. I simply believe, I am good in the way I am.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Getting dumped is perhaps one of the most difficult situations in life. Today i would like to share a Real story which i heard in the today’s early hours from a stranger . As usually I started to office by 8 clock in the morning. In the bus  I met a guy, who is around 26 years. I have habit to interact with the people around me whenever I  travel in bus, train, plain etc. After few minutes I started conversation by telling my name and he told his name as Vijay. In the words he told about his bitter experience with a girl who dumped him.

In his words ”  I  worked as a Software Engineer  for a reputed organization. Few months back I left the job. When I am working, I used to stay  in a room near Ameerpet Hyderabad, whereas my family members lives in our home town. Days passed well, till I met a girl called Akshaya(name was changed). She was my team mate in the office. Initially i felt bit uncomfortable whenever she spoke to me, because I am not good at girls. As the days passed our relation became thicker. We use to leave the office together. From my office it takes 15 minutes to reach Bust Stop, during the walk we used to talk freely. Daily we used to go out for the lunch and in the evenings she used to join me for coffee. One day by mistake she misplaced her laptop in a shopping mall and she lost . So, i brought a new one a gave to her. Initially she hesitated to take, at end she took the laptop.

Next day morning she came to me and she told that she love me and if I am interested she want to marry me, I felt so happy by her words. I introduced her to my family members.

In the last summer we went out for a tour to Kodaikanal. It’s an unforgettable memory in my life. Each moment i spent there with Akshaya is precious. We were there for 3 days. We visited Palani temple, Kodaikanal forests, hills, waterfalls…After coming from our tour she felt sick due to climatic change. She became very tired, suffered from fever. I took her to the hospital. Doctor said she was very sick and asked me, to admit her in the hospital. I felt nervous and called my friend. That whole night I was sitting near her bed looking at her. On the next day morning I went to nearest temple and prayed god for her. With gods grace, she recovered in two days. Like this there are many incidents between us.

Occasionally i used to present her with valuable gifts. Every day we used to meet, talk for long hours in phone after office, used to go for movies. In the weekends she used to come to my room, where we had a great time. I thought I am the luckiest person on the earth and we were inseparable.

Everything was going on well, but suddenly all the happiness vaporized from my life. I remember the day i.e. December 24 2011, which brought total darkness into my life. That day in some work tension I haven’t attended her call. She started calling continuously, I got angry and I asked not to disturb me. She told Bye forever and put the call. In the evening I went to her cabin to her, but I came to know she left the office in Afternoon itself. I called her around Hundred times, but she haven’t responded. At around 12 clock in the night she put a message ” Vijay please leave me, my marriage got fixed. I will be happy If you don’t disturb me”. Thats it ……

The time that i spent with her is best of my life. They are unforgettable memories in my life. After her arrival into my life, I changed a lot. I changed my food habits, dressing, way of speaking everything for the sake of her. Akshaya have habit to go to pubs, so even if i don’t like I used to join her along with her friends. She used to move freely with boys, even thought i don’t like I got adjusted.

In the last two years I liked her, loved , Respected, took lot of care and provided everything that she asked, till my energy.

After she left me, She moved to other organization and immediately she got married to a Government Employee .Through our friends i came to know that before marriage only she was in relation with that guy whom she married now. I don’t understand why did she come into my life uninvited.

Recently I have seen Akshaya in the BanjaraHills, Hyderabd. I found the address to her office. I decided to meet and talk to her. So, I am on my way to meet her, not to give her any trouble or make her feel inconvenient,  just to ask her why did she enter into my life . She is happy with her life without me, but what about me? I am unable to assume my life without her. Every moment her memories are haunting me.Now I am a living dead person.

The only suggestion i want to give  to Women is that

” If you can’t live with one, whom you love, please don’t love and spoil their life………….”

It’s really a heart touching Incident. When Vijay is narrating, I noticed tears rolling from his Eyes. Then I came to know How madly he loved her. I didn’t understood how that girl missed such a caring and true love person.

I request all the present generation men and women ” Please, for god sake don’t play with the emotions of individuals. All may not know how to handle their life in such situations.”

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

“Smoking became fashion and addiction to the present generation teenagers. In the olden days only men used to smoke, but now women joined them. Smoking is can be simply defined as inhaling tobacco.Cigarettes, pipes and hookahs are the most popular methods of smoking and hence also the most injurious smoking elements for health.There are many reasons for doing so, the most common being cultural reasons or peer pressure.

This habit usually begins at school when boys/girls try to experiment with every new thing that they can lay their hands on.In the beginning, a teenager may take a few puffs from his friend’s cigarette; then comes a time when it becomes an indispensable part of his life. Several puffs lead to the formation of a habit. Soon smoking begins to affect the health of the smoker. He becomes a chain-smoker.

Smoking is THE most important cause of premature heart attacks, with India having about 4.5 crore patients with ischemic heart disease, doctors warned today. Despite the warnings given by doctors about the ill-effects of smoking, people continue to smoke. Smokers are addicted to it, and even if they want to, they cannot refrain from picking up a cigar or cigarette and puffing away.

According to the World Health Organization, tobacco use is one of the biggest public health threats worldwide which kills nearly six million people a year of whom about 600,000 are non-smokers exposed to second-hand smoke.

And the situation in India is very alarming as around 10 lakh deaths are caused by tobacco every year, with the WHO 2012 Global Report on Mortality claiming seven per cent of all deaths for people aged 30 and over in India are attributable to tobacco.

It is widely believed that tobacco use, especially smoking, causes chronic bronchitis and lung cancer, but many may not know that it is actually the most important cause of premature heart attacks.

Smoking does not only harm you but also people associated with you and people sitting around you because the smoke, which you take out from your mouth after smoking, will damage the environment badly. Not only that just think once about your family members what feelings will they be going through seeing you killing yourself day by day.

If you are a continuous smoker, the time has come for you to stop smoking and live a healthy wealthy and great life!

Tell Yourself Daily:

• I will feel healthier and have more energy, whiter teeth, and fresher breath.
• I will lower my risk for cancer, heart attacks, strokes, early death, cataracts, and skin wrinkling.
• I will make myself and my partner, friends, and family proud of me.
• I will no longer expose my children and others to the dangers of my second-hand smoke.
• I will have a healthier baby (If you or your partner is pregnant).
• I will have more money to spend.
• I won’t have to worry: “When will I get to smoke next?”

Smoking can be stopped by a strong will power and every person has the capacity to give it up once he sets his mind at doing so.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The lesson for today is…” Today morning when I am going through the mails in my Inbox, I found a mail about a girl called Jessica  Cox who was Armless. Even though Jessica was born without hands, she never used words like I Can’t, I may not  in her life”

I would like to present Jessica Cox  images which are really inspiring & motivating.

Jessica Cox (born 1983 in Arizona) is the world’s first licensed armless pilot , as well as the first armless black-belt  in the American Taekwondo Association. She was born without arms due to a rare birth defect.

Using her feet as most people use their hands, she is able, among other things, to drive a car to type on a  keyboard(25 words per minute), to pump her own gas, and to put in and remove her contact lenses.

“Disability is a matter of perception. If you can do just one thing well, you’re needed by someone.”

In my opinion The only disability in life is a bad attitude.

According to Jessica, being different physically from other people has taught her to be strong and persistent. And in an imperfect world where many people are dealing with their own handicaps — real or imagined — she wants to make a difference by helping them deal with their limitations.

Said Jessica: ?I want people to think, ?Hey, if she can do so much without arms, then I can do so much more with my life.??

She used to say anything is possible, if we have zeal to learn, determination and fire to do the things. She also says physical disabilities are not at all any barriers which can stop us to reach our goal.

Everyone should  learn from Jessica that inner strength, thinking out of the box is more than enough to overcome issues, solve problems in our life.

If Jessica, who is Armless achieved & reached to such a great heights, what about the people who are physical perfect, having everything that they need in life?

 Hats off Jessica.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that i learned by seeing the  people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The lesson for today is…” On last Friday, I spoke to one of my friend named Susheel. She is one of my best collection. She was my team mate in the previous Organization . Few months back she resigned for her job. After that she struggled a lot, to get the job. She joined in different training Institutes to get job, but no result. One day she thought of giving up and going back to her home town. But i have hope on her, that she will get a job.With gods grace & her hard work recently she got job in Tata Business Solutions. She struggled a lot to get that job. I know how badly she worked to get that. She intimated her family members that she got job, they all were happy.

In the Last week she went to her home town. In the words she told that she is working in night shifts. Suddenly her father became angry and asked her to resign. She don’t want to hurt her father, so she told she will. She returned to Hyderabad. All her dreams , Hard work gone  in vain.”

One small advice to all the people like Susheel, No one knows how much you worked in your life to get a job or get into some position. It’s your responsibility to make the world know how hard you worked and try to protect your dreams & the Hard work that you done to achieve some thing. I am not complaining about parents, but the thing is they don’t know how much pain you took & how hard you worked you to get that job.

I request all the parents, please don’t kill the Dreams of your kids. It can be job, habits, likes, friends, Love, education anything, when ever you are asking your children to leave something, change some habit or stop doing anything, just give a thought about it. When you ask them to give up anything, they may follow your words, but you don’t know how much pain it gives to them.

Every children love and Respect their parents. They love us than anything else, but few don’t know how to show their affection & love.

In the same way we have to respect our children’s Wishes, Dreams, Interests everything. If they are not good guide them, but don’t try to restrict them forcefully, because they are just kids, our kids.

It’s our responsibility to protect the Dreams of our children.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

‘Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life.’

Each day is colorful. It depends on the individual how he makes use of every moment of his life.

I’m not a rich man, nor am I a person having luxurious life.

And yet, I’m very happy.

The truth is, everyone can be happy. You don’t need a lot to live well — you just need the right mindset.

Here’s what I’ve learned about living well on little:

1.       You should know what you are & what you want in life:  It’s very important in life to know about yourself. In order to be happy, you should know what you want and should try to achieve it, with fire and passion.

2.      Have Proper Attitude: It is very much necessary to have good attitude in order to succeed in life. Without that there is no life. Attitudes are innate feelings of individual’s like or dislike about an issue, topic or behavior that in our life or in our professional career determine decisively who are we, and that may be consciously encouraged, strongly improved and better expressed as a result of our education, professional career and guidance from relatives, friends and mentors. Although attitudes may be classified as positive, neutral or negative according to their effects over our sociability.

3.      Never Complain:  Ever complain about anything or anyone in the life. Many people have habit to complain about each and everything whenever they fail. If you fail you are responsible for it.

“Whenever you try you should try alone, if you succeed the whole world succeeds with you”

4. You need very little to be happy. In order to be happy you need small things like some simple plant food, modest shelter, a couple changes of clothes, a good book, a notebook, some meaningful work, and some loved ones.

5. Live Below Your Means: There will always be temptation to forsake the future for immediate gratification. We all want to buy that new piece of technology, treat ourselves to an expensive night on the town, or take out a loan for the flashy car we can’t afford. It might feel great at the time but rash spending hurts a lot later on.

6. Enjoy life’s simple pleasures and save as much as you can. Expensive things don’t create lasting happiness and security. Careful spending will bring you greater leisure and enjoyment in the long run.

7. Want little, and you are not poor. You can have a lot of money and possessions, but if you always want more, you are poorer than the guy who has little and wants nothing

8. Develop Lasting Personal Relationships: Suppose you had everything you wanted. Would you be happy without anyone to share it with? The personal relationships we develop with friends and family members are the greatest source of happiness in our lives. Don’t forget about them.

Taking the time to cultivate and enjoy personal relationships is essential to long term happiness. Without the relationship there is no life.

9. Focus on the present. Stop worrying about the future and holding onto the past. How much of your day is spent thinking about things other than where you are and what you’re doing, physically, at this moment? How often are we living as opposed to stuck thinking about other things? Live now and you live fully.

10. Be happy with what you have and where you are. Too often we want to be somewhere else, doing something else, with other people than whomever we’re with right now, getting things other than what we already have. But where we are is great! Who we’re with (including just ourselves) is already perfect. What we have is enough. What we’re doing already is amazing.

11. Be grateful for the small pleasures in life.Berries, a square of dark chocolate, tea — simple pleasures that are so much better than rich desserts, sugary drinks, fried foods if you learn to enjoy them fully. A good book borrowed from the library, a walk with a loved one in the park, the fine exertion of a short hard workout, the crazy things your child says, the smile of a stranger, walking barefoot on grass, a moment of quiet as the morning wakens and the world still rests. These little pleasures are living well, without needing much.

12. Be driven by joy and not fear. People are driven by the fear of missing out, or the fear of change, or the fear of losing something. These are not good reasons to do things. Instead, do things because they give you or others joy? Let your work be driven not because you need to support a lifestyle and are afraid of changing it, but by the joy of doing something creative, meaningful, valuable.

13. Practice compassion. Compassion for others creates loving, rewarding relationships.

Compassion for yourself means forgiving yourself for past mistakes, treating yourself well (including eating well and exercising), loving yourself as you are.

14. Forget about productivity and numbers. They matter not at all. If you are driven to do things to reach certain numbers (goals), you have probably lost sight of what’s important. If you are striving to be productive, you are filling your days with things just to be productive, which is a waste of a day. This day is a gift, and shouldn’t be crammed with every possible thing — spend time enjoying it and what you’re doing.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

I’ve been on this earth for nearly two and half decades. I haven’t celebrated any of my birthdays. There is nothing much to celebrate, but there is lot to feel bad because years are passing like seconds. I thought I’d share a handful of lessons I’ve learned as a helpful guide for those just starting out.

This post is for my next generations all over the world, whom I miss greatly.

The 26 Lessons I’ve learned in my 26 Years of Life’s Journey…

1. Life is really valuable; make use of every moment learning new & useful things.

and cost you everything. Not just the money required buying them, but the time and money spent shopping for them, maintaining them, worrying about them, insuring them, fixing them, etc.

3. Goals aren’t as important as we think. Try working without them for a week. Turns out, you can do amazing things without goals. And you don’t have to manage them, cutting out on some of the bureaucracy of your life. You’re less stressed without goals, and you’re freer to choose paths you couldn’t have foreseen without them.

4. Always swallow your pride to say you’re sorry. Being too proud to apologize is never worth it -your relationship suffers for no good benefit.

5. Slow down. Rushing is rarely worth it. Life is better enjoyed at a leisurely pace.

6. Fear will try to stop you. Doubts will try to stop you. You’ll shy away from doing great things, from going on new adventures, from creating something new and putting it out in the world, because of self-doubt and fear. It will happen in the recesses of your mind, where you don’t even know it’s happening.

Become aware of these doubts and fears. Shine some light on them. Beat them with a thousand tiny cuts. Do it anyway, because they are wrong.

 7. When your beloved ones ask for your attention, always grant it. Give them your full attention, and instead of being annoyed at the interruption, be grateful for the reminder to spend time with someone you love.

8. Don’t go into debt. That includes credit card debt, student debt, home debt, personal loans, and auto loans. We think they’re necessary but they’re not, at all. They cause more headaches than they’re worth, they can ruin lives, and they cost us way more than we get. Spend less than you earn, go without until you have the money.

9. Life is exceedingly brief. You might feel like there’s a huge mass of time ahead of you, but it passes much faster than you think. Your kids grow up so fast you get whiplash.

You get gray hairs before you’re done getting your bearings on life. Appreciate every damn moment.

10. If you find yourself swimming with all the other fish, go the other way. They don’t know where they’re going either.

Be different to be Irreplaceable in the world.

11. Mistakes are the best way to learn. Don’t be afraid to make them. Try not to repeat the same ones too often.

12.Failures are the stepping stones to success. Without failure, we’ll never learn how to succeed. So try to fail, instead of trying to avoid failure through fear.

13. Rest is more important than you think. People work too hard, forgets to rest, and then begin to hate their jobs.

People who try to do too much because they don’t know that rest is where their body gets stronger, after the stress.

 14. There are few joys that equal a good book, a good walk, a good hug, good thoughts, good health, or a good friend. All are free.

15. The destination is just a tiny slice of the journey. We’re so worried about goals, about our future, that we miss all the great things along the way.

If you’re fixated on the goal, on the end, you won’t enjoy it when you get there. You’ll be worried about the next goal, the next destination.

16. A good walk cures most problems. Want to lose weight and get fit? Walk.

Want to enjoy life but spend less? Walk. Want to cure stress and clear your head? Walk.

Want to meditate and live in the moment? Walk. Having trouble with a life or work problem? Walk and your head get clear.

17. Giving is so much better than getting. Give with no expectation of getting something in return, and it becomes a purer, more beautiful act.

Too often we give something and expect to get an equal measure in return — at least get some gratitude or recognition for our efforts. Try to let go of that need, and just give.

18. Competition is very rarely as useful as cooperation. Our society is geared toward competition — rips each other’s throats out, survival of the fittest.

But humans are meant to work together for the survival of the tribe, and cooperation pools our resources and allows everyone to contribute what they can.

It requires a whole other set of people skills to work cooperatively, but its well worth the effort.

19. Gratitude is one of the best ways to find contentment. We are often discontent in our lives, desire more, because we don’t realize how much we have.

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, be grateful for the amazing gifts you’ve been given: of loved ones and simple pleasures, of health and sight and the gift of music and books, of nature and beauty and the ability to create, and everything in between. Be grateful every day.

20. Compassion for other living things is more important than pleasure. Many people scoff at vegetarianism because they love the taste of meat and cheese too much, but they are putting the pleasure of their taste buds ahead of the suffering of other living, feeling beings.

You can be perfectly healthy on a vegetarian (even vegan) diet, so killing and torturing animals is absolutely unnecessary.

Compassion is a much more fulfilling way to live than closing your eyes to suffering.

21. Taste buds change. I thought I could never give up chicken, but by doing it slowly, I never missed it. I thought I could never give up junk food like sweets, fried crap all kinds of unhealthy things … and yet today I would rather eat some fresh berries or raw nuts. Weird, but it’s amazing how much our taste buds can change.

22. Love comes in many flavors. I love my parents; completely and more than I can ever fully understand. I love them each in a different way, and know that each is perfect in his or her own way.

23. Use the magic of compound interest. Invest early, and it will grow. Live on little, don’t get into debt, save all you can, and invest it in mutual funds. Watch your money grow.

24. All we are taught in schools, and all we see in the media (news, films, books, magazines, Internet) has a worldview that we’re meant to conform to.

Figure out what that worldview is, and question it. Ask if there are alternatives, and investigate.

25. Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information.

We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, and start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art.

26. Do less. Most people try to do too much. They fill life with checklists, and try to crank out tasks as if they were widget machines.

Throw out the checklists and just figure out what’s important. Stop being a machine and focus on what you love. Do it lovingly.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.