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Oldest Zoo in Germany


Berlin Zoo, It’s the oldest zoo in Germany – but totally modern. The Zoo Berlin and the Aquarium Berlin are a highlight for all the family. Recently i visited Berlin Zoo and I felt its worth sharing with wide audience. One of the things I love about this zoo is the architecture of the animal houses. Chickens get half timbers, bison get totem poles and giraffes get minarets. Isn’t it cute?

Berlin Zoo is the most biodiverse zoo in the world and at the same time the oldest zoo in Germany, opened in 1844. More than 20,000 animals in over 1,500 forms live in the green oasis in the heart of Berlin.

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Zoos are places where wild animals are kept for public display. The term ‘ZOO’ stands short for zoological park or zoological garden, and can also be named animal park or menagerie.

Zoos contain wide varieties of animals that are native to all parts of the Earth.Zoos are often the sites of sophisticated breeding centers, where endangered species may be protected and studied. Some zoos, like this aquarium in Monterey,

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Zoos are places where you can spend a quality afternoon with your family and friends admiring the beauties and diversities mother nature has given us. On the more technical aspect, a zoo is a facility that houses animals within enclosures, displays them to the public and it’s a place where the animals are bred.

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Zoo parks are fun and entertaining places to spend time at. However, ordinary visitors must start thinking about how humanity affects nature and how can they contribute to saving the planet. The zoos offer a lot of information on the concrete steps to take so that the wonders we see and love in these types of facilities aren’t going to disappear in the wild.

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Aquarium Berlin in the heart of Berlin is one of Europe’s best-known and most notable aquariums. Behind the building’s historic façade awaits an impressive diversity of species that few facilities in the world can rival.  The aquarium was built in 1913 as part of the Zoologischer Garten complex. In addition to fish and other aquatic life, it is home to most of the zoo’s reptiles, amphibians and invertebrates.

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The Aquarium Berlin, which you can also visit separately, has biotopes for sharks, piranhas and coral reef fish.

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The Aquarium not only houses numerous extraordinary fish, it is also home to hundreds of impressive reptiles and insects.

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The terrariums contain insects, amphibians and reptiles. Jellyfish pulse in glass cylinders. The aquarium is home to 13,000 animals. We have separate enclosures for reptiles.

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Among them are seven species of sharks, crocodiles, manatees, naked mole-rats, Nile hippos, aardvarks and extra ordinary fish.

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I walked around and saw sea lions, seals, hippos and penguins while the others went to the aquarium. Each year, millions of visitors of all ages come to Zoo Berlin for a delightful day out – with family, with friends, or alone.  Zoo Berlin is the perfect place to take the kids for a short getaway – any day of the year!

For further details:

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https://www.visitberlin.de/en/zoo-berlin

https://www.zoo-berlin.de/en/tickets

 

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Pat on back from others, may hold you Back


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Be aware of the pat on the back from others! It might be the one thing that holds you back.

In current weakened society, one of the methods people believe works is to give an instant pat on the back to someone once they do something positive/correct, etc. While this may be an effective method, all you are truly doing is weakening one person’s mind. You are essentially training a person to expect a congratulations/ an attaboy, etc., for every fucking thing they do. But, we are forgetting the very basic principles of being a basic fucking human being. Instead of the pat-on-the-back method, why not try this one? The fucking “supposed to” method!

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It is our job as leaders and teachers to teach people to not always look for the pat on the back rather to build a mindset that we are supposed to do and be our best all the time in every situation. We shouldn’t look for anything from anybody for simply doing our best.

You are supposed to get up early, make your bed and clean your house. You are supposed to work out almost every day. You are supposed to do the best you can in school every day. You are supposed to bring your best effort to work every day.

That pat on the back should only come when you have exceeded what most people consider exceptional work or have gone above and beyond what is expected.

Don’t expect a pat on the back for the shit that a human being is supposed to be doing every day of their lives and that is being the best that he/she can be in every situation in their life. It’s not about you. It’s about your team, the ones you love, and having pride in yourself. It’s not about what others think or feel about you- it’s about how you feel about yourself.

Like I say we(humans) don’t need approval, we know what we are supposed to do and just do it out of love for our family community country and lastly self. As long as I go above and beyond and can look at myself In the mirror and smile, it’s all good, “well done good and faithful servant” is the only praise I seek and I ain’t getting that in this life

Sometimes you just have to pat your own back for all that you do. Well, today is your day! Today recognize your accomplishments, your abilities, your personal greatness and give yourself a pat on the back. You’re not being conceited, you’re not being vain, you’re being proud of who you are and what you do.

Everyday congratulate yourself, thank yourself, check your path correct yourself and give yourself a big pat on the back. We must not forget to pat ourselves on the back for all that we’ve accomplished so far! It’ll fill us with great positivity and energy to move forward in life.

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Proud

Don’t be afraid to wear your pride on your sleeve,. Too often we fear being proud of ourselves for the concern that others will see us as cocky or boastful. But there is nothing wrong with giving ourselves a pat on the back or hearty congratulations when we have accomplished something- big, small, anything! DO not wait for someone to congratulate you. Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds.

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There is no Winter Today


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

May this Christmas festive season sparkle and shine, may all of your wishes and dreams come true, and may you feel this happiness all year round. Spending money on someone is nice, but spending time with them is nicer. The Christmas gifts will one day lose their luster – the memories of loved ones never will.

There is no winter today. But the warmth of summer in every heart.

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But the snow flakes of happiness

But the snowflakes of blessings

are shining in every corner, under the colorful festive lights .

There is no winter today

But the warmth of summer in every heart

But the warmth of Holy Spirit in every soul

But the warmth of friendship, family meeting, and reunion in every life

There is no winter today

On this sacred day of Lord Jesus’s birth

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is no winter today

But warmth of summer in every joyful loving heart

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is winter, but warmth of Summer in every heart

There is no coldness in any heart

But full of warmth love and kindness for every mankind .

……..Merry Christmas. ❤️🎄❄️❤️

By… Tapas Das

 

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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Words of a Bleeding  ❤ ….

People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

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MAN Behind Million Smiles


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Dr RS Praveen Kumar is an IPS officer, who is very well known as a tough COP. More than that, he is a passionate leader who dedicated his life to bring change in millions of lives. In his new avatar, as a secretary of the Telangana Social Welfare Residential Educational Institutions Society (TSWREIS), which runs residential schools for Scheduled Caste, Scheduled Tribe and underprivileged children. Dr Kumar wanted to do something for the underprivileged was quite clear even when he was in uniform.

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Dr Kumar has bitter childhood. He came from a very poor family in a backward caste. His mother was a coolie who was rescued and given an education. She went on to become a teacher. His father too was a teacher. Education changed things for the family.learnt the value of education early in life from his parents. He studied veterinary science before being inspired to take the civil services examination and join the Indian Police Service (IPS) in 1995.

He was a decorated IPS officer and he had done a Masters in Public Administration under the Mason Programme at the Kennedy School in Harvard University when he opted to be Secretary of the schools.

The TSWREIS is an institution which runs residential schools for students from marginalised  communities. Until a few years ago, the society was known to perform poorly, but Dr Kumar has been credited as the man who turned it all around. When he took over as secretary, the  department was dreary and there seemed to be no life. Schools lacked facilities and teachers were not motivated enough. Dr Kumar changed all that within six months.

Dr Kumar started a movement  SWAROES, based on the ideologies of Jyothi Rao Phule and Dr. B R Ambedkar. Where SWAEROES stands for Social Welfare Aeroes (Greek for sky) it means that sky is the limit and there is no reverse gear or no looking back or no slowing down. It consists of alumni of the Society, who seek to empower those who come from similar backgrounds, with the help of ten commandments unique to the movement.

The TSWREIS runs 268 residential educational institutions, which provide free food, education and residential facilities to thousands of underprivileged children every year. Funded and operated by the Telangana government, it caters to students from primary level to the undergraduate level. The society has many accomplishments to its name. Dr Kumar is much loved and admired. He is a source of positive energy. He cuts an inspirational figure for children at the schools.

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A few students have really stood out like stars. Dr Kumar says he wants to give confidence to all students. Apart from the visible difficulties, like socio-economic issues, it is the lack of role models within the community which makes parents dither when sending their children, especially daughters, to schools. Parents are unaware that success can be achieved because those who are worthy of being emulated do not stay in the villages, Dr Kumar said.

Among his wards are Malavath Poorna, a 13-year-old who became the youngest girl to scale the Everest, Anand Kumar the first Dalit to scale the world’s tallest mountain. Under Dr Kumar’s leadership, sons and daughters of ordinary workers including daily wage earners and others got admission into premier institutions.

In the last five years, 48 students secured IIT seats, 133 joined NITs, 81 entered MBBS courses. Another 62 got entry into Azim Premji University, 12 in Delhi University, 31 in various Central universities, four in the Indian Navy School, and 11 in the Tata Institute of Social Sciences.

Dr Kumar proved that Service comes with sacrifice and one should be ready to take up challenges and this is definitely one of the best opportunities to make India as informed, inclusive, and invincible nation in the world.

Many say that Dr Kumar is the wind beneath the wings of students at Telangana’s social welfare hostels. He is the guiding force, opening endless doors for students from underprivileged sections and leading them to a limitless sense of being. They are given confidence to deal with life. 

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It´s Insane to play with people Emotions


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

If you’re in a relationship or dating someone or exploring a relationship where someone is toying or playing with your emotions, leaving you feeling miserable most or worse, all of the time, you need to leave ASAP. No one should have that much control over your emotions. You should never give someone that kind of power where they can take away your good and positive energy and happiness. And that’s exactly what they’ll be doing, that is, if you let them. WhatsApp Image 2019-11-09 at 9.19.37 PM

Some people will be wishy-washy, uncertain, confused, ambivalent, emotionally unavailable, or simply, they might just be a total jerk or a player. But what you need to do is recognize it when a person acts like they don’t know what they want, or if and when they change their mind every other day, or even every two minutes for that matter. We need to become aware of the types of people who we surround ourselves with in our lives. People who have these types of issues are not people who anyone should be associating with, but especially, on a romantic level, and even moreso, when we want something stable, long term, meaningful, and with future potential.

Think about it! Imagine going to sleep on a happy, peaceful, and loving note with your partner, where you feel so in love and as if you and your honey are better than ever, and BOOM! First second you open your eyes in the morning and look down at your cell phone and you have a long-a** text message saying how your partner loves you somuch, but has doubts and thinks that it’s better to end things for this or that reason. But wait, two days later, the cycle repeats, and they want you back, apologize and regret leaving, making excuses for why they’d left, and the instability goes on and on in this type of toxic pattern for—as long as you let it.

Many people will make promises to you, but never keep them. But when you’re in a relationship with someone who does this, and even moreso, when they do it quite often, it will not only drive you nuts, not to mention provoke you if you’re the sensitive type, but it will steal your inner peace, and make you feel miserable from all of the in and out, on and off, wishy-washy, back and forth instability. EVERYONE who wants to be in an exclusive relationship wants that relationship to be stable. No one gets into a relationship and feels good when they go through break up after break up, and all of the time.

Ukh! Breaking up with someone is hard enough, right? But when someone breaks up, makes up, and repeats that unstable pattern so often, you’ll never know what to expect. When someone is so unpredictable and wishy-washy, but you choose to stay with them regardless and perhaps because you love them, you’re basically causing your own misery by staying. My best advice would be to leave. A person who is so unstable that they break up or continuously go back and forth with how they feel or what they want with you, or if they make promises or give you their word, but never follow through, you should move on, and find someone who therapists will kill me for saying is “normal.”

You have to recognize when someone brings out the worst in you, and take it as a BIG sign that you should leave, because they’re obviously not the right match for you. You shouldn’t be sweeping red flags under the rug, and you shouldn’t give someone chance after chance to change and improve themselves or to just once—keep their word, when they keep letting you down.

Not everyone deserves multiple chances. I mean, O.K., if you’re married, you should be willing to fight for things to work and with all of your power, but in a relationship, when you see that you’re completely a mess and unhappy more often than not, and when you see that a person thrives on creating drama and is just making you feel miserable on a daily basis, LEAVE for goodness sake! I mean, come on! Relationships are all about seeing if you’ll be good enough together so that you can take things to the next level.

So when you see that someone is not only making you unhappy a lot of the time, but that they’re completely unstable and that’s one of the main things that’s provoking your unhappiness, you should start thinking with your head instead of your heart. You see, despite how much someone might love or even think that they love you, when a person really loves you, they won’t cause you so much pain and discomfort. And especially when they see how much they’re hurting you all of the time by their words and actions.

Now, when it comes to someone stringing their partner along, I’m basically referring to when someone tells their partner certain things, makes promises, but never follows through with them. I’m referring to when your partner lets you down a lot and convinces you that things will be different soon, and that they will change and improve, and that they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you by their side and make you feel happy, but nothing changes.

People who string their partner along are usually some of the most selfish types of people, because they end up hurting someone who they claim to, or possibly even do really love. But the problem is, that when someone keeps stringing their partner along, many times, they’re wasting their time, hurting them, and at times, even keeping them from finding someone else who will not only be stable, but who will be a better match for them. This is especially bad if the person stringing their partner along, is doing so when they already know they they ultimately won’t be with their partner in the future, yet they’re simply too attached or too afraid of letting their partner go for whatever reason. I mean, talk about selfish!

When someone strings you along, they usually do so like I said, for selfish reasons. But one of those selfish reasons is because they want everything to be their way. They usually aren’t willing to compromise or make changes, other than changes to what they might’ve originally said that they wanted or even in regards to what you both might’ve agreed to early on when dating. What’s really unfortunate though, is when a person strings their partner along when they’re older, and especially when their partner wants to settle down and have children, knowing ahead of time that the person is likely not going to be the person who they will be with in their future, but they want to be with them anyway, despite their age, and despite the other person’s circumstances.

Many people want what they want and simply don’t care who they might hurt along the way, as long as they get it. Having said that, not everyone’s motives are initially bad, and not everyone knows right away they they won’t end up with someone. I mean after all, how could anyone know how they’ll feel until they get to know someone on a deeper level. However, when a person directly tells you their concerns early on, yet you avoid or ignore them, thinking, “I can do it! (arrogantly or maybe even selfishly based on lust or thinking with anything but your head) or thinking that somehow you’ll make things work, despite the obvious challenges that maybe your partner had even voiced to you as concerns, you’ll be at fault for wasting their time.

You see, despite having pure and good intentions, it’s not always enough. Having pure intentions isn’t enough, when you don’t follow through with your word. And dreaming of having what you want and going after it when you ultimately know that it’s wrong or that someone isn’t the right match for you, yet you go after it anyway, is completely selfish and wrong. This is when listening to your instinct can be helpful. As well as using your logic and heart when exploring relationships.

When two people explore a relationship together, there shouldn’t have to be so much drama, confusion, instability, or back and forth. When you see that things aren’t working out early on or when you don’t feel that you can keep your word or follow through with what you initially thought or said that you would, you need to ends things with the other person sooner, rather than later. You see, holding off ending things when you have major doubts, is just plain selfish, because you’re holding back the other person from their “real” match.

Remember, it’s never nice to play with people’s emotions, to mislead them, or to be selfish and not think before you do things. Don’t lead people on. If you know that someone isn’t the right match for you, don’t waste their time by dating them and giving them hope. Giving false hope to someone or stringing them along for the ride, knowing that you can’t or won’t ultimately stick around is cruel. Think of the possible consequences of your actions and be careful not to hurt others by being selfish.

You should never waste someone’s time by stringing them along for your selfish reasons. Be a good person, and let someone know when you have doubts early on, and preferably before you get too close (attached or intimate), so that they don’t end up feeling used or that they were taken advantage of. Be selfless, not selfish, and even if you love someone but know that you ultimately won’t end up with them for whatever reasons, you shouldn’t waste their time. Love them enough to let them go… ……..By… Vishal

Finally one suggestion, People play with our feelings because we let them play,people usually play with feelings of those persons who are emotionally weak,they know even if they will hurt that person.he/she can’t do anything other than crying or making excuses but on the other side they don’t even try to play with feelings of mentally strong person because they know even if they will do it will not affect him/her so always act strong,no matter what so is going in your life,it will always help you

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Journey from Nowhere to NOW HERE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I feel so fortunate and happy  to say that, all I am today is by adding a little space in my life to “ I am NOWHERE” to make “I am NOW HERE”. Along with my parents, I made myself as a footpath to make me reach what I am Today.  When I started facing the world of opportunities with obstacles, I am very well aware that being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. A hungry stomach during my childhood, empty pocket during my school/college days, painful treatment from trusted ones and broken heart in every phase of my life taught the great life lessons and turned me into the person who i should actually be i.e. what I am Today..

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on IMG_20191103_061339 bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) to Quality Control Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. Its true. I never feel shy to say where I started and where are my roots are. By considering my current position or traits or appearance, many assume that I am from a High end family, who´s born with Silver spoon. Which is not correct. In each step of my Life I faced obstacles, hurdles, ill-treatments from society for being born in low class, caste family, but I let nothing to distract me from reaching my goals.

I started my journey like others from a very poor rural set up ,having no support or idealism to follow. It started like a lonely leaf in the whirl pool. I am born in a below middle class family with only moral values not money.  As a very small child I don’t remember too much other than ethics, moral, values taught by my parents and the painful childhood experienced in various forms. The things that I do remember were seen through a child’s eyes that has made me the person that I am today and I will always have those memory’s with me until my last breath on this earth.

My parents are not educated, they are able to teach me only moral values to live proper life, with which i started my life’s journey. Due to economical situation of family, my parents requested my sisters to give-up their dream of becoming Engineer, Doctor to see me and my brother as Software Engineers. Seen many highs and lows. Faced many failures enjoyed many success. In my small journey learned few but important things. Most of them are taught by parents, teachers/faculty, my girlfriends, brother, family of friends.

Today, I proudly say, I have forgotten my struggles in life to exist but could not forget the pleasure in coming out with flying colors from all sufferings. With successful Computers Graduation and Post-graduation as a topper at college, University levels, I could impart my knowledge, experience and expertise to thousands of students, employees across countries inform of Guest Lectures, Trainings and through my writings in form of books, articles and websites. Most of my students are now established in various countries. But most surprising and happiest fact is that they acknowledge my contribution in their carrier even today .

I believe in these lines..

“If you learn from your experiences, you are an intelligent, if you learn from experiences of others you are a Genius”
“It doesn’t matter whom you choose as a role-model in life, but before you leave this world, you should become a role-model even to a person”
“I am not sure if I am going to be with you till my last breath, but for sure my words & moments you spent with me are going to be with you till your last breath”
“Its better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees”

I have had my own share of highs and lows.I am thankful for what I have. I can´t say that I have always been very mature about the way I have handled the highs and lows. I have had my bouts of arrogance when I flew high and then bouts of low morale when things went badly. Life however did teach me that nothing ever lasts…not the good times, and definitely not the bad. I have therefore learnt to take things as they come and never to give-up irrespective obstacles in the journey. This has been my biggest learning.

I think what makes my life exciting are not the right things but the mistakes.. Things that I should not have done, things that I should have done in better way. I have learnt from my mistakes no matter how I clichéd it sounds.. I have made mistakes but they played their part in making me what I am today. I am happy to be me. I do not wish to live anyone else’s life. I will keep on learning from my life. But at the age of late 30´s, I think I am a grown up person and ready to commit more mistakes in the coming future.. 😉 of course the new ones as per this generation..

Here are few lines to People, Who…

Who looks at the world from a different perspective.
Who still believes in his or her dreams.
Who see life as living thing and life worth living.
Who do not settle for low.

For everyone who strives for change.
For everyone who doesn’t accept the way things work today.
For everyone who don’t accept the status quo.
This is for the ones who challenge the challenges.

This is for the ones who break down existing barriers.
For the ones make the impossible possible.
For the ones most people would call crazy.
This is for people just like you and me…

Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches.
When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.

Giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, when your life appears to be falling apart, but it is hardest and worst thing you can do to sit in the rubble of your shattered dreams. You need to not see your current failures and hardships as your final destination, because they are not!  The easiest and best thing for you to do is to take several deep breaths and take steps to keep moving on. One step at a time is the only way to move through and put some space between where you are and where you belong!

Perhaps you have been longing to arrive at your destination, reach your goals and declare yourself “Now Here,” only to suffer a mighty setback and feel like you have actually arrived at “nowhere!” There is hope! You need to keep moving forward, keep pressing on toward the goal, keeping your eyes focused and having faith that you are loved more than you can possibly imagine. By taping into that love, you will find the strength and hope to continue through the difficulties.

Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
It doesn’t matter where did you start..
or how old or how young you are.
or how much or how little money you have.
or what your current job is or where you work.
or how big or small your mortgage is.
or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle.
or in which country you live.
The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

Life sure has opened it’s cards one by one. It takes great courage and perseverance to sail through the roughest of the tides. It would have been a great journey but there have been moments when you question your own capabilities. Never loose faith and hope.

If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.

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CPR – It Saves Life of a Person & ❤ of his Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) is an emergency procedure that combines chest compressions often with artificial ventilation in an effort to manually preserve intact brain function until further measures are taken to restore spontaneous blood circulation and breathing in a person who is in cardiac arrest. From School going children to Adults, everyone should have some awareness on CPR.  It not only saves life of person who is dying, but also saves his entire family from loosing the heart of their family

In the present busy and pressure world, everyone is exposed to one or other health issues. The frequent and common thing that we hear now a days is Heart Attack or Cardio Arrest. Its not limited to Humans(Adults, Infants, Kids), we can see even same issues in pets. Its good to know the life Saving Steps in the Event of a Heart Attack or Sudden Cardiac Arrest.

Heart attacks , Cardiac Attacks can strike without warnings. They are becoming what the steps of CPR areincreasingly common across world. The statistics are indeed worrying; 50% of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 50 years of age and a quarter of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 40 years of age, according to the data available with Indian Heart Association.

Also, those living in urban areas are three times more susceptible than the rural population. In the light of such disturbing statistics, one would be better off getting to know some steps which may come in handy in the event of a heart attack.

What is a heart attack?

The heart is a muscle, and like all muscles it requires an oxygen-rich blood supply. This is provided to the heart by coronary arteries. A heart attack occurs when there is a blockage of the coronary arteries. This is often caused by a blood clot. Such a blockage, if not quickly resolved, can cause parts of heart muscle to begin to die. (1-3)

What is a cardiac arrest?

A cardiac arrest is different to a heart attack. In a cardiac arrest the heart actually stops beating; whereas in a heart attack the heart normally continues to beat even though the blood supply to the heart is disrupted.

Symptoms of  heart attack are:

  1. Shortness of breath
  2. Chest pain like pressure, squeezing or fullness
  3. Pain radiating to the shoulder, arms, neck, jaw, back and the stomach which be intermittent or last a few minutes
  4. Cold sweats
  5. Nausea or vomiting
  6. Lightheadedness, dizziness and/or fainting
  7. Anxiety
  8. Feeling restless or panicky
  9. Unexplained fatigue, especially in women and the elderly
  10. Numbness, aching or tingling sensation, usually in the left arm, but may occur in the
    right arm too in some cases
  11. Breathlessness or wheezing or coughing

Symptoms of  Cardiac attack are:

  1. Sudden loss of consciousness/responsiveness
  2. No breathing
  3. No pulse
  4. Chest pain
  5. Shortness of breath
  6. Weakness
  7. Dizziness
  8. Palpitations
  9. Nausea

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STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM ADULT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Push down hard and fast in the middle of the chest, over the breastbone, with one hand on top of the other and fingers interlaced
  • Press down  2-2.4 inches deep and at least 100-120 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose shut and cover the victim’s mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and check to see if the victim’s chest rises
  • If their chest does not rise, give another breath 

Mouth to mouth is optional, but highly recommended for child and infant CPR

Continue 30 Compressions And 2 Breaths Until:

  • The victim begins to breathe
  • An AED is ready to use
  • A trained rescuer arrives
  • You are too exhausted to continue

Special Considerations for Adult CPR:

Depending on the age of the Adult victim, the rescuer may fracture the sternum and/or ribs of the victim when performing CPR

  • In order for CPR to be effective, the rescuer must push down hard, at least 2 inches deep, on the victim’s chest. Although, this pressure may do harm to the victim such as break bones. The decision to give CPR relies on the rescuer, but physicians suggest that the victim would most likely rather live with broken bones than not live at all

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING ADULT

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM CHILD CPR (1YR-8YR):

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • You can use one or two hands: For one-handed compressions, press down hard and fast on the center of the chest using the heel of your hand
  • For two-handed compressions, push down hard and fast on the center of the chest with the heel of one hand and place the other over top
  • Push down about 2 inches deep, giving at least 100 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose closed and cover their mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and look for their chest to rise
  • If the chest doesn’t rise, give another breath

STEPS ON HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING CHILD

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

If child becomes unconscious, perform CPR. Start 30 to 2

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM INFANT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Using two fingers, push down in the center of the chest, just below the nipple line
  • Give 30 chest compressions at the rate of at least 100 per minute
  • Press down approximately 1 1/2 inches deep
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression 
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted into a neutral, or sniffing, position
  • Cover the infant’s mouth and nose with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Give 2 rescue breaths, each 1 second long
  • You should see the infant’s chest rise with each breath

**A baby’s lungs are much smaller than an adult’s, so it takes much less than a full breath to fill them

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING INFANT:

** The infant cannot cough, cry or breathe**

  1. Give 5 Back Blows
  • Place the infant in one hand with their face facing down
  • Give 5 firm back blows with the heel of one hand between the infant’s shoulder blades

2.Give 5 Chest Thrusts

  • Turn the infant over so their face is upwards in one arm with the same hand cupping their head
  • Place two or three fingers in the center of the infant’s chest just below the nipples and press down onto the breastbone, about 1 1/2 inches deep – 5 Compressions

**Be sure to support the infant’s head and neck with one hand and arm, and keep the head lower than the chest** 

Continue Sets of 5 Back Blows And 5 Chest Thrusts Until:

  • The object is forced out
  • The infant can cough, cry or breathe
  • The infant becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) , if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM PET CPR:

  1. Check For Breathing And a Pulse
  • Using your middle and index fingers, check your pet’s pulse below its wrist, inner thigh, below the ankle, or where the left elbow touches the chest
  • Check pulse below wrists, inner thight, ankle or where left elbow touches chest
  1. Look For Other Warning Signs
  • The gums and lips will appear gray in color
  • The pupils will be dilated
  1. If No Pulse, Start CPR
  • Lay your pet on its right side, with its heart facing upwards
  • Place your hands over the ribs where its elbows touches the chest
  • Begin chest compressions

**DO NOT give compressions if the animal has a pulse

  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: press down ½ – 1 inch
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: press down 1 – 1 ½ inches
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: press down 1 ½ – 2 inches
  1. Rescue Breaths
  • If your pet is not breathing, give rescue breaths
  • Cats and small dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose and mouth, and blow until you see chest rise
  • Medium to large dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose, blow until you see chest rise
  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: give 10 compressions per breath

Continue Compressions And Breaths Until:

  • Your pet starts to breathe or has a pulse

**Check its pulse after 1 minute when first starting CPR, and then after every few minutes

The above steps are easy to remember and one must have the presence of mind to perform it when the need arises. Doing so may help save a person’s life.

 

References.. Various Health sites, reliable web pages

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Marriage isn’t a love affair. It isn’t even a honeymoon. It’s a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they’ve worked at anything in their lives before. If it’s a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it goes on getting better. I’ve seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I’ve seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it’s never one person’s fault. It’s the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn’t a cure, it’s a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the Enddivorce-is-not-the-end

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status.

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

2b2ab942cd8dda95fb9bfb43d3fe8bec7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

 

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!”
Words by Shipra Jain…..

 

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Ignoring is Killing a Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
 

Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but never know when the last chance may be. I honestly think one of the biggest mistakes people make is to take people for granted in their LIFE. Parents not always going to be around to help you understand things you can’t understand yourself and they are not going to be around you to constantly correcting your mistakes, protecting you and to guide you. Remember that people who love you unconditionally are so precious! Never miss such persons in life. Many of us take people for granted, like it’s just a given for them to always be there with us. People constantly say that we need to treat life for what it is , precious, because we don’t know when it’s going to end… but same goes with PEOPLE who love and live for us.WhatsApp Image 2019-08-26 at 9.31.58 PM

People are precious. Without those around us where would we be, the people around us make us. People are precious. Without each other we wouldn’t be anything. We should stop using each other and cheating each other for personal growth and benefits. The only beneficial thing in life is helping each other, taking care of each other, showing each other that together we can truly make a difference. Separate we are ordinary but together we are extraordinary.

Every time you take the person for granted, you are teaching them to live without you and you offering your place to others in their LIFE.

Don’t ever take anyone for granted because before you know it, you’ll only have so much time left with them. You’ll be hit with the sudden realization that everything about them that you’ve been taking for granted for as long as you remember will not be there anymore, nor will that person either. Your relationship with this person will slip away from you faster than you know it and you’ll regret every last thing you didn’t do, and every little thing you did do to them.

When a person give, it does not come with strings. They does not keep track of what you owe them. When they give, they choose to do so without ulterior motives. They give because their love and care is genuine. They give because they know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When they give it’s because they get it. It’s because they know the value in what they have in their heart and they refuse to let the world stop them from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate their sincerity. They won’t switch, they won’t get angry, and they won’t be spiteful. They’ll just get smart and they’ll change your role in my life. Because when they give, they give portion of their life to you. But when they are done, there’s no looking back.

Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted

 In your LIFE if you have someone who ultimately loves and cares about you, PLEASE do not take that person for granted. It’s very hard to get people who really love us without any expectations. It doesn’t matter what your relation with that person is and also it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with that person or not. Right now, we are living in a world where it’s hard to find someone who will be love you, Live for you, hold your in tough situations and who is ready to give himself for you. So to have someone who will love and support you no matter what is a blessing.  Because no matter how strong we say we are, we still need someone to stick by our side. So please, just don’t ever take anyone for granted, and just appreciate and be grateful for every single breathing soul you have in your life.

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Failure is Proof that You haven’t Finished YET


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by…. Prawin

No KING ruled a Kingdom forever and no Mountaineer who reached the peak of MOUNT EVEREST Stayed there forever. Even our History proves that, the people who reach  unscaled heights are bound to get low in their personal as well as professional lives. Success is not property of anyone or its is not for only few people in world. Success is never permanent, and failure is never final. People may fail in academics, love, profession, relationships, fulfilling their dreams. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren’t where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

World evaluate people by what they finish, not by what they. The reason most people do not go far in life is they procrastinate procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried. Do not sit back and take what comes, go after what you want. The door of opportunity will not open unless you push. The choice of given up or going on is a defining moment in your life. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless you decide not to rise again. The world will always give you the opportunity to quit, but only the world would call quitting an opportunity. One of the most powerful success principles ever preached is Never, Never, Never give up.. IMG_20190817_221529.jpg

At very early age of my life, I realized that every single person have battles in their life. No matter what that is and how big or small it is. At the end of the day, you’re your own hero. When you’re feeling low, don’t look for somebody’s hands, lift yourself up and be your inspiration, guide, motivator and number one supporter. Every day we need to give ourselves a pat on the back. Not for achieving something or when something goes well. But we need it when no one is there but only you. Remember, life is not puppy dogs and rainbows. It gets stormy and dark sometimes. And it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to feel everything at the same time. It’s okay to commit mistakes and mess up on something. Remember, you will always have another chance to make things right.

My greatest glory wasn’t that I never failed. It was that I rose every time I did fall. That’s why this quote means so much to me. If I turn back and see my life, I still can see images of kid from a village going to every house to sell MILK (which is our family’s source of income) as milk vendor. From that stage, I fought every battle that my life put before me. I failed many times in my life’s journey, i did many mistakes, i was insulted by people around and each time I failed, I learnt a lesson. I never gave up and made use of every opportunity and grabbed each of them. After such a struggle, I came to a stage where I am today (The head of Quality Assurance wing for a Software Firm In London, UK. ). Only God and Myself know how many times I fell down and rose every time I fell . I never realized the validity of failure until I realized they had guided me to where I am today. If it wasn’t for that pain, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I wouldn’t be sharing all of this with you.

Today we face so many threats from the world we live in. But the biggest fear comes from within… the fear to fall. Even the most non-technical analysis tells us that the main reason behind this fear is not the fall itself but being witnessed by the whole world while we fall. Many of us work day in  and day out out to top the list of the performers in our chosen fields, and try to make ourselves conform up to the standards the world expects from us.  There are many others who do not care about the world though, but are still working relentlessly to achieve their set goals. The thought of any fall in the way to success for both gives them jitters since it seems to have a potential of eventually culminating in a failure.

I well know, it is never easy to wake up and face the same demons that you left the night before. But is it not the end of the world. You must keep going and push forward. The success awaits those who believe that SUCCESS IS NOT PERMANENT, THE SAME WAY AS FAILURE IS NOT  FINAL. So every time we fall, instead of brooding  over the fall and wasting our precious time, we should rather get up and get moving as soon as possible with full faith in our capabilities and full hope for our success at last.

IMG_20190817_194631.jpgThe fact that you have failed is proof that you are not finished. Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. It is not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it”.  Your success will be measured by your willingness to keep on trying. Have the courage to rise each time you fall, you can either stand up and be counted or lie down and be counted out. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down.

Life is a never ending battle between you and the uncontrollable forces that try to fail you. Life is all about rising up in spite of the ache. It’s about picking yourself after a crashing defeat. No matter what you feel, you have to get up because what remains in your life is still worth fighting for. It is your responsibility not to give up because it is only you who decide for your life. Stay on course. Stay brave and be a warrior. There’s always hope. Again, there’s always hope. When you are persistent, it is proof you have not been defeated, life holds no greater wealth than that of steadfast commitment. It cannot be robbed from you, only you can lose it by your will. People do not fail, they just quit too soon.

So please do yourself a favor, never give up. You fight through the stress. You fight the anxiety. You fight through the pain. You through the insults. You fight all the negative circumstances in your life. You fight through the demons that are beating you down to your knees. Life is full of golden opportunities, every person has a lot that they can do, so start with what you can do; do not stop because of what you cannot do. Great opportunities will come as you make the most of small ones.

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Dads aren’t moms, it’s exactly why daughters need them


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father, none of us can assume life without this role. It’s truly disappointing whenever some says or sees fathers as just money earning machine or a person who is there in family to control or regulate kids . Till last decade World considered fathers were often those who were left in charge of providing the family, while mothers were considered the primary and only caretakers…However, it is good to know that nowadays, fatherhood has a completely different meaning. Because parenting is not only a mother’s responsibility. Good parenting means having equal roles and responsibilities when it comes to raising your children.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM (1)A lot has changed for fathers over the past few generations. In today’s world Fathers  are much more informed and involved with their children, taking an active part in the nurturing of their children, from feeding — whether expressed breast milk or formula — to changing diapers, soothing, clothing, bathing, reading to, and helping their baby go to sleep.

Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. They create us, introduce us to this world and everything in it, raise us, help us overcome our fears, have an active role in shaping our personality and creating our own world from scratch. However, regardless of the fact that both mom and dad are an essential part of a child’s development, there is one special bond I think you’ll all agree that plays a big role in a kid’s life. From the moment little girls are born, fathers play a key role in the psychological development of their daughters. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters’ lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are.

That’s the indestructible, everlasting, powerful bond between fathers and daughters. A father serves as the guide for a little girl to blossom into a strong and courageous young woman

When it comes to raising girls, moms often get most of the pressure and the credit. Whether regarding menstrual issues, boy problems, or makeup tips, mom is usually the first person girls turn to. I see too many men buy into the idea of ‘that’s a girl’s issue’ or ‘only a woman can understand another woman’ and avoid talking to their daughters about sex, dating, or other ‘girly’ topics.

I think it would be hard to overstate the value of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have more confidence, high self-esteem, and believe they can achieve their goals.⠀

Mothers, don’t me wrong. You undoubtedly have the strongest and most unique connection with your children. But there is something special about the daughter-father bond that affects the lives of their daughters in a truly intriguing and life-changing way.

A father is the first male figure in a girl’s life.

He is the true source of her values & morals.

He is the safe shelter that she goes to.

He is the pillar of her strength.

Her first love.

While moms cuddle us and teach us to be gentler, fathers encourage us to be strong. To never stop being curious, even though we make mistakes. To never give up no matter how afraid we are. To always push our limits. The mother is the one who avoids risks, and the father is the one who encourages us to always try and learn from our mistakes.

It’s no doubt. The family plays a big role in preparing us for all future relationships.  Daughters get to know how to get along with their husbands, friends, boyfriends and other people in their life after getting along with father and brother.WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM

So, naturally, problematic relationships with men, depressive symptoms or low levels of self-esteem are often the residue of a father’s desertion.  When children grow up with a feeling of closeness with their fathers in the period of adolescence, they are more likely to develop a healthy and satisfying adult marital relationship.

A healthy relationship with the father prevents a daughter from being afraid of establishing an intimate relationship in her future life. For any girl, love with her father is always the first experience of love and introduces her to what male love is all about. If there is a positive love experience with her father in her early years, she is going to do much better and vice versa.  As compared to mothers,  fathers generally have more impact on how daughters relate to men. That is exactly why a positive father-daughter relationship has a big impact on a daughter’s interpersonal problems and interactions.

Here are some ideas for creating a loving and secure relationship with your daughter.

Begin the Day She Is Born: To create a positive relationship with your daughter, start on the day she is born. Get involved in her life from the very beginning by taking an active role in caring for your baby girl. The more time you spend with her early on, the easier it will be to continue building the relationship later.

Be Involved: The hallmark of every great father-daughter relationship is a father who is actively interested and involved in his daughter’s life. Being involved is about more than asking about her day. Instead, it means finding out what she is interested in or excited about and sharing in it with her.

Teach Her New Things: It is wonderful when you teach your daughter to ride a bike, throw a softball, to read, or even to do chores. But often the best things you can teach her are the things society might consider “guy things.” Skills like checking the oil in a car, putting bait on a fishing hook, building a computer program, using a hammer and nails, or even hitting a cricket ball will serve your daughter well.

Love Her Unconditionally: Every young girl needs to know that she is loved even when she messes up. When she makes poor choices be careful not to ridicule, shame, or demean her. Instead, help her learn and grow. Use these situations as opportunities to teach her something. Just be calm, patient, and loving in the process.

Plan Fun Time: Every father-daughter relationship should include daddy-daughter dates. These moments together don’t have to be anything elaborate. Simply checking out the latest toys at the toy store, going out for ice cream, or attending the library’s storytime are great options for daddy-daughter dates.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.57.55 PMBe Her Confidant: Many girls love to talk. They also tend to be more vocal than boys growing up. You can build your relationship with your daughter by listening more and allowing her to confide in you. Pay attention to what she says when you are together. Listen to what she is thinking about, dreaming of, and wishing for in her life.

Validate Her Often: Modern culture and the media often give young girls the wrong messages. For instance, it is common for girls to believe that they need to be a certain weight, wear the right makeup, and dress a certain way to be beautiful. But, you can diminish those messages by validating the way your daughter looks. When you tell her she is beautiful, you are emphasizing that she is perfect just the way she is. You also can emphasize the importance of being beautiful inside too.

Write Notes and Letters: Just about every little girl loves cards, notes, and letters. Take the time to write your daughter regular notes and letters expressing your feelings. Let her know how you feel about her, and tell her how proud you are of her.

Be a Great Example of Manhood: The way you treat other women makes a big difference in how your daughter will see men later in her life. Be respectful, kind, generous, and loving toward her and her mother, as well as the other female friends and relatives in your lives. Simple courtesy and kindness will go a long way in helping her know what to expect of the men in her life.

A father should create a safe and protective environment for his daughter not only physically but also emotionally.  A father’s behavior should encourage his daughters to never feel afraid to share their feelings.

The understanding between a father and his daughter is unbeatable. They are inseparable and feel quite restless when they aren’t around each other. A daughter brings out the best father in a man while that best father is busy raising a wonderful girl. Cheers to all the father-daughter duos. 🙂

In the end, it is no doubt that we are the product of those who raise us.

Daughter May Outgrow your lap but not HEART of a Father.

 

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Guide to make Sex Life Beautiful


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When it comes to sex, you might be wondering if there are tips and tricks guys want to share, but don’t. Frankly, there is no is no standard such list of tips. Everyone is different, and what works for one guy might not work for another. Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.

There’s a common belief that most Men want to have more sex, but is this really the case? Does only Men want Sex. ? Its not true. Its not limited to Gender. Even Woman look  for good Sex. Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different from their male partners.

Most men’s minds tend readily to say “yes” to sex. Whereas most women’s minds tend to say “maybe,” or “that depends.” For Men it’s an instant Maggie noodle, whereas for woman lot of things come into play.

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“Women need a reason to have sex. Men need a reason to have sex, too.  But for most men, the reason can be as simple as your partner taking off their shirt, coming out from shower etc. In Simple terms,Men just need a place to have Sex.

It reminds me of one of my friend who said: “It’s not fair, my husband is always up for it, he gets aroused, gets an erection and he is ready go. It never was a problem for me in our first years together but now with our busy lives and two young children I don’t look forward to it any more. I really love him but we keep arguing about it all the time, which really puts me off sex. Can you please suggest me what to do?”

It’s important for couples not to blame each other for different levels of sexual interest. This desire discrepancy, as it is often called, does not generally reflect a lack of love but can lead to questioning sexual compatibility as a couple. The main problem is that the person who wants sex more almost always feels rejected by their partner. They may take it personally and begin to wonder if they are still attractive, not desired any more, or maybe their partner has a lover.

Most couples argue about the frequency of sex; one person wants sex three times a week and the partner is content with once a week or fortnight. However, the partner with the lower sex drive controls the frequency of sex — if she or he doesn’t want it, it generally doesn’t happen. This is usually not due to being vindictive or needing power and control, it’s just that why would anyone want to have sex when they are not in the mood?

Here are some tips for Men and Women who wanna have health Sexual bond.

What do woman and men crave in bed, but are too shy to ask? Here are some ideas of what women, man want during sex. Its like a detailed Step-by-step guide to make your nights memorable with your partner. Make some of these ideas your own—then forward to the guys in your circle.

Find out if the person wants to have sex: This is the most important part about a good sexual experience. If one of the partners is not ‘in the mood’ or does not want to have sex it can lead to the entire process turning sour. Not to mention the fact that it can leave you or your partner with a sense of being violated or used. So, find out if he/she wants to have sex. Some common indicators you should look out for is if the person seems keen on being with you physically, touches you or increases his/her proximity to you.

39159b6b575d2f0e58c92b5bbc85005dGive yourself time. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing; working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Maintain physical affection. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

Be prepared: Sex is a wonderful thing. It’s pleasurable and makes you feel happy. It also has a number of other health benefits like helping you burn calories and beating depression. It’s no wonder that we are the only species that has sex for pleasure and not solely procreation. But with all that fun come problems like unwanted pregnancies, STDs and emotional setbacks. So being prepared is your best option. If you are planning to have a one-night stand or are taking the first step towards a committed relationship remember that you should have your mind in sync with what your body wants.

Choose the location and set the mood: Sex is an intimate act, at least it should be. So pick a spot where both of you will be uninhibited, especially if it’s your first time. Pick a place that is private and has a comfortable place to have sex in. A good soft bed with mood lighting always helps the cause (unless you plan to tread on an experimental path). So splurge a little bit. Remember pleasure does come at a cost.

Approach the person gently and do not seem too desperate: Coming on too strongly or being pushy about having sex is one of the biggest turn offs. So don’t seem desperate (even if you are dying to be with the person), allow the other person some space to express their feelings as well. You should definitely show that you are interested in getting physically intimate but back off if you feel the other person is not reciprocating. Sex should be a choice so let them choose.

Kiss and caress: The first step towards physical intimacy is kissing. Most women love to kiss and a passionate kiss can definitely put her in the mood for some more. Moreover being close, kissing, touching and caressing your partner helps stimulate their erogenous zones which will lead to more pleasurable sex. It also leads to a stronger sense of closeness and safety – two emotions that help a person perform better in bed.  So touch him/her, kiss and make your partner wanted. This is also another way to help quell the person’s body image issues (if they have any), making them more comfortable in your presence.porls7yry8

Have a lot of foreplay: This is where you can either choose to remove your clothes or have your partner undress you. Another way to go about it is to remove one piece of clothing at a time, making the entire process a mystery. When it comes to foreplay, most people think that sex is only penetrative. But the act does include foreplay. Foreplay, as the name suggests is what you do before you have sex. It includes fondling, kissing, stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones and oral sex as well. Make sure you get enough of this in. It is often the most enjoyable part of the whole sexual experience because the two of you can experiment with a number of methods. Tip for men: Women can orgasm multiple times. So pleasure your woman, she will definitely be in the mood for some more and thank you for it in more ways than one. Tip for women: Most men love to be touched as well, so make him feel good. Touch him, kiss him and feel his entire body. Don’t hold back and don’t be the only one hogging all the pleasure.

Pick the right moment: The right moment to have penetrative sex is usually felt and is often mutual. Pick the moment when your partner really wants to move on to the next step. In some cases asking if the other person is ready or if he/she wants more is a good way to know when it’s time. Once you know that he/she is ready, take it to the next level.

Insertion: This is the most hyped part about sex and is often believed to be the only thing that happens during it. But there’s nothing further from the truth. In this step the penis is inserted into the vagina. Tip for men: The vagina is an elastic organ present just below the woman’s vulva (external lips of her genitals). If you are having protective sex, make sure you wear a condom before you insert your penis into her vagina. A number of men get the position wrong and tend to ‘look around’ with their penis (try to penetrate without knowing where the vagina is) this can be painful for the woman. So a good way to find the vagina without being embarrassed is to ask your partner to help you.

Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help overcome problems. For example, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.

Use lubrication. Often, the vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex—a problem that can snowball into flagging libido and growing relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.

img_0867Love making: Once the initial penetration is complete, you can choose to have sex however you both are comfortable. Men, make sure you thrust (your penis into her vagina) in rhythmic motions and do it from the hip; this will ensure your woman gets the maximum pleasure. Moving your entire body is counterproductive. Most importantly listen to your partner and your body. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and make sure you take your partner’s pleasure into consideration and make her happy too. Tip for women: Be proactive in bed. Move when your man moves. Thrusting can be pleasurable and even more so when you both are doing it in sync and together. Tell your man what you do and don’t like. Also, make sure you pleasure him as well.

Last few moments: Once you both have climaxed or the sex is about to get over, you both will most probably be in a state of elation. Allow yourselves to be in that state for as long as you need to be. Remember this is the phase where you can choose to hold each other or simply be next to each other. Don’t rush things; let your body come back to its normal state. Rushed sex can be exciting sometimes but if it is done on a regular basis it can leave you feeling a bit incomplete. Tip for men: Most women like to be held or cuddled at this point. Indulge her. After all she has been a partner in your sexual romp. Tip for women: If you liked the experience, tell your partner that. There is nothing like an ego boost after a good time between the sheets.

Winding up: The post coital part can be lovely in some cases and awkward in others. So try to make your partner comfortable. Give him/her a t-shirt to wear, flirt a little and tell him/her how good the experience was. Smile and share a laugh together. This could be the best time to make a good friend or a partner for life. So use the opportunity. After you’ll are done, make sure you’ll wash up. Women, wash your vaginal opening and vulva and men should wash their penis once they remove the condom. Lastly, make sure you dispose of the condom properly. Do not flush it down the toilet. Throw it in a dustbin wrapped in paper or tissue instead.

Don’t give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

But we have to keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It’s not only about who has the stronger sex drive; men and women just respond differently and at different times. Women base their desire for sex more on connection, intimacy and emotion; they also need more time to physically get ready for sex.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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Request to Parents & Parents-to-be


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Every Child’s Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today! Child Abuse Main Image

Any for of Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.

As parents you would always want your kids to grow up as loving, kind, happy and successful individuals. You want them to love and to be loved by all. In the process you teach them many things which are good for their life and future.

In the similar way, make sure to consider below points and teach you Children at early age. You must remind your kids from time and again that you would always be by their side when required and help them when required. Ask your kid to maintain a positive frame of mind, so that she can easily overcome hurdles that she comes across in her life.

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

child-abuse-750x5385. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child..

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

Child(ren) abuse changes your life…Fight Back and change the life of your abusers by Breaking Your Silence on Abuse!

These are just few, but important life lessons that you should teach your kid. You have some more to add on this? Share with us if u have some more life lessons to teach kids by mentioning them in the comment section below.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”. And if possible forward to all friends who have children’s

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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A daughter may outgrow your lap, but not your heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a KING, not because i have a kingdom, but as I have a Daughter who is PRINCESS of my World. Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.

From my childhood I spent most of my life in the arms of many wonderful women, but for first time, I hold a little angel (ShanvikaPr@win) close to my HEART and she proudly calls me Prawin. When she says ‘Daddy I need you!’ I wonder if she has any idea that I need her billion times more. Having a daughter makes me see things in a different way. This is my only girl. So I don’t care what it takes to protect her. You can call it what you want to call it. As long as you treat her the same way I treat her, like my princess, I don’t mind.

Shanvika, hours I spend with you in a day may be limited, but my thoughts for PicsArt_08-18-05.35.48you are  unlimited and my love is unconditional. You make me very proud to be your Father. I know that our relationship is not completely perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real. I love you, sweetheart. With every day that passes, you only grow more beautiful in my eyes. I admire your heart of gold. I love you very much! I Adore your Smile, I Cherish your Hugs, I Admire your Heart, But Most of All I Love that you are My Daughter. Never forget that I Love you till my last breath. Life is filled with hard times and good times. Learn from everything you can. Be the woman I know you can be.

The bond a father and daughter share is special and irreplaceable. To every father, his Daughter is a gift from heaven who is like sunshine to a day. She fills fathers heart with pleasure, a joy to always treasure! Not only does a girl’s relationship with her father shape her childhood experience, but it will also influence how she interacts with men in her adult years. If a father is absent or erratic in his behavior, this sets his daughter up for feelings of low self-esteem and trouble with trusting men in general. All parents should appreciate the importance of understanding the father’s role in his daughter’s life, as his presence (or absence) will play a role in her self-image and well-being for decades to come. Daughters can bring so much meaning to your life and make you the happiest you have ever been. Below are some of the traits every father should possess.

Teach your Daughter That She Is Worthy of a Respectful Partner: A father who treats his daughter – and his daughter’s mother – with respect is sending a clear message that women deserve good treatment from the men in their lives. This can make all the difference when his daughter begins dating. If she is used to positive support and kind behavior, she is less likely to tolerate it from abusive dates and partners.

IMG_20190818_182623Make Time for your Daughter, No Matter How Busy you are: One of the most important things a father can do is simply show that he is willing to be around. He should make the effort to attend special events at his daughter’s school, engage her in conversation, and take an interest in all areas of her life. This will build her self-esteem and let her know that she is a worthwhile individual.

Remind Your Daughter That She Is Beautiful Inside and Out: There is nothing wrong with telling your daughter that she is pretty, but remember to tell her how much you value her intellectual abilities and character. This will prevent her from relying on her looks to carry her through life and from placing too much value on what others think of her face and body.

Inspire your Daughter to Reach Her Goals: A father should encourage his daughter to follow her dreams and show her that he believes she has what it takes to succeed. Girls habitually look to both parents for guidance and support, so fathers must make the effort to inspire their daughters whenever possible

Enjoy Activities Together: Healthy activities such as walking, biking and swimming are a great way of building memories and teaching your daughter that exercise is an important habit. Keeping fit will help her maintain a good body image, which will be a real asset as she develops into a teenager.

Be Consistently Loving but Firm : Daughters who do not receive affection and approval from their fathers are likely to seek it elsewhere as teenagers and adults, and this may lead to an unhealthy dependency on men. Fathers can prevent this happening by telling their daughters how special and loved they are, whilst maintaining appropriate levels of discipline and upholding firm boundaries.

Always Treat your wife Well, Even If you Are Not Together: If a daughter witnesses her father treating her mother poorly, she will receive negative or mixed messages about how men and women relate to one another. Even if you are not with her mother, always take the high road and act in a civil manner.

Take your daughter on Special Trips and Outings: Let your daughter feel special by  IMG_20190818_182553making the time to take her out on a regular basis. A simple trip to the park with a picnic is enough to show her that you care enough to make her a priority. Take the opportunity to show her how men should treat women – with respect and dignity. Engage her in conversation and talk to her as an equal.

Model a Respectful Attitude Towards Women : A good father does not make sexist jokes or speak disrespectfully about women. He has the intelligence to realize that his daughter’s self-image will suffer if he does so, and knows that it is important to uphold the idea that women are of equal value to men

Know When to Ask for Forgiveness: No father can be perfect all the time. When you mess up, explain how you plan to do better next time and tell her that you are sorry. For example, if you accidentally miss her piano recital, plan an outing to make it up to her. Ask for her forgiveness and learn from your mistakes.

I request every father, kindly treat you Daughter the way you want her future partner to treat her. The way you interact with your daughter is what she becomes used to when relating to a man. Treat her with respect, dignity, caring, and affection and she will expect to be treated that way by a mate.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person. In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, good Son, a good grandson, a good husband, a good brother, good friend, a good colleague and a good fellow human just being connected to every of my well-wishers  as much as possible.

Today is my little angel ShanvikaPr@win birthday. Kindly bless her and wish her to have a wonderful life. 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Potluck Lunch helps in Team Building


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In any organisation, team work can make all the difference between success and failure. That’s because collaborative teams excel at dividing responsibilities and working towards the same goal. Realising this, most teams are focusing on team building exercises that can bring teams closer.

Maintaining a healthy work culture, one that keeps the entire team motivated and enthused, can be a tough task. You see your employees going through their everyday tasks in a routine, and on the surface, everything might look happy and gay, but you never know when monotony can kick in and leave the entire system uninspired.

Just a small activity is enough to see the change in the overall enthusiasm and energy of the office. It can also be a great way for newbies to feel comfortable and at ease with the rest of the team.

Recently we had a team Potluck lunch organised by my lovely team ladies. Special thanks to my loving Vijaya Ragi & Team for handling everything in a smooth way. It is well planned and organised.

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If you want your team to feel energised at all times, to enjoy what they’re doing and love working for you – and for this, you cannot lay enough emphasis on the need for recreational activities. While some offices go for activity outings, we actually have a simpler and cheaper alternative that can be just as rewarding. The other simple yet effective team building activity is a potluck. It can be organised  by anyone without costing a penny to the company.

But what exactly is it and how does it help in building teams?

What Is an Office Potluck?

In simple terms, a potluck is an occasion when attendees bring food to be shared with everyone. Whether it has a theme or not, is completely up to the team members.

The main idea is to add some fun to the workplace and encourage employees to connect with one another over food.

How to Organise  an Office Potluck

The best thing about a potluck is that you don’t need a big reason to organise  it. It could be an occasion to celebrate a holiday or just the first day at work after a long holiday.

You simply need an organiser  to send out the emails and coordinate with everyone involved.

Sometimes the organiser  may allocate responsibilities to the team members. For example, you may ask two employees to take care of the dessert and two others to bring some appetisers . Or you may choose to let the employees decide among themselves.

Office Potluck for Team Building

Do you sense a growing lack of communication between two team members? A potluck lunch can be of great help.

Get those two employees to plan the potluck. Ask them to coordinate the menu and come up with two dishes that everyone can enjoy.

The objective here is to get them to communicate with each other and find a simple solution. You may or may not oversee how they do this, but the end result can help them connect with each other.

At a later point, you may even speak to the two employees separately to get an idea how they felt about the whole exercise.

A potluck is also a great occasion to bring a close-knit team closer. As many small businesses have fewer employees working for them, a potluck lunch can give them a reason to discuss things beyond work. Often such discussions may reveal hidden talents and opportunities for business growth.

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and enjoy some good food.

Below are some glimpses of my teams Potluck events.

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In conclusion, I would like to point out one very important fact. This is the deciding force. More convincing than any research paper or analysis. This is the real, ultimate deal-breaker: Your office is going to be flooded with yummy home-made FOOD for one whole day! Do you still need another reason?

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honoured  if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

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ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !


ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !
టెన్షన్లు.. ఒత్తిళ్లు… డబ్బు సంపాదన…అతిగా ఆలోచనలు లేకుండా…80573564_2523240627774267_4107180927703056384_n.jpg
ఉన్నంతలో కుటుంబమంతా కలసి… ఆనందంగా గడిపిన .
�ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!  

ఆదివారం ఆటలాడుతూ… అన్నాన్ని మరచిన
�ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

మినరల్ వాటర్ గోల లేకుండా…కుళాయి దగ్గర, బోరింగుల దగ్గర, బావుల దగ్గర… నీళ్లు తాగిన…
�ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

వందలకొద్దీ చానెళ్లు లేకున్నా…ఉన్న ఒక్క దూరదర్శన్ లో
శుక్రవారం చిత్రలహరి… ఆదివారం సినిమా కోసం వారమంతా… ఎదురు చూసిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

సెలవుల్లో అమ్మమ్మ.. నానమ్మల ఊళ్లకు వెళ్లి…ఇంటికి రావాలనే ఆలోచన లేని…
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఏసీ కార్లు లేకున్నా ఎర్రబస్సుల్లో…కిటికీ పక్క సీట్లో నుండి ప్రకృతిని ఆస్వాదించిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్…!

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మొబైల్ డేటా గురించి ఆలోచించకుండా..బర్త్ డే డేట్ గురించి మాత్రమే ఆలోచిస్తూ.చాక్లెట్లు పంచిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

మటన్ బిర్యానీ.. చికిన్ బిర్యానీ లేకున్నా…ఎండాకాలం వచ్చిందంటే మామిడి కాయ పచ్చడితో…
అందరం కలసి కడుపునిండా అన్నం తిన్న…
� ఆరోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు జేబు నిండా కార్డులున్నా… పరుసు నిండా డబ్బులున్నా…కొట్టుకు పంపితే …మిగిలిన చిల్లర కాజేసిన
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

సెల్లు నిండా గేములున్నా…బ్యాట్ మార్చుకుంటూ ఒకే బ్యాట్ తో క్రికెట్టాడిన..
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్…!

ఇప్పుడు బీరువా నిండా ప్యాంట్లున్నా… రెండు నిక్కర్లతో బడికెళ్లిన…
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు బేకరీల్లో కూల్ కేకులు తింటున్నా… .ఐదు పైసల ఆశా చాక్లెట్ తిన్న…
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్…!

చిన్న చిన్న మాటలకే దూరం పెంచుకుంటున్న ఈ రోజుల్లో..
పిల్లలం కొట్టుకున్నా పెద్దలంతా కలసివుండే
# రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు ఇంటినిండా తినుబండారాలున్నా…నాన్న కొనుక్కొచ్చే …చిరుతిళ్ళ కోసం ఎదురు చూసిన..
#ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు రకరకాల ఐస్ క్రీమ్ లు చల్లగా నోట్లో నానుతున్నా…అమ్మ చీరకొంగు పైసలతో పుల్ల ఐసు కొనితిన్న…
#ఆ రోజులు ఎంతో బాగున్నాయ్..!

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పొద్దుపోయేదాకా చేలో పని చేసుకొచ్చి…ఎలాంటి చీకూచింత లేకుండా.. ఎండాకాలంలో ఆకాశంలోని చందమామను చూస్తూ నిదురించిన..
#ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

*ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబాల ఊసే లేకుండా పోయింది*
అమ్మ, నాన్న,…. అక్క బావ…చెల్లి మర్ది….అన్న వదిన…. తమ్ముడు మర్దలు…. మేనత్త మేనమామ.
పిన్ని బాబాయ్….. పెద్దమ్మ పెదనాన్న…. తాతయ్య అమ్మమ్మ…. తాతయ్య నానమ్మ…..
ఒదిన, మరదలు….బావ బామ్మర్ధి…..ఇంకా…. ముత్తాత తాతమ్మ….
ఇలా వరుసలు ఉన్నాయని…. ఉంటాయన్న సంగతే మరిచారు నేటి తరం….

మమ్మి డాడి….. ఆంటీ అంకుల్
ఇవి రెండు తెలిస్తే చాలు….ప్రపంచమంతా మన బందువులే అనే భావన ఏర్పడింది.

రక్త సంభందం అంటే ఏంటో తెలియని దుస్తితి….

కారణం…..
పుట్టగానే పిల్లలను క్రెచ్చ్ ల్లో వేయడం….లేదా ఆయాలకు అప్పగించడం…

అందాలకు బందీలై తల్లి పాలు కూడా ఇవ్వకపోవడం….
ముడ్డి కడగడం మానుకొని డైపర్స్ వాడడం….ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… లాలనలు….
ఇక్కడినుండే మొదలు….ఇక కాన్వెంట్లు….. రెసిడెన్సు స్కూళ్లు….

వాడికి ఎవడు చుట్టమో… ఎవడు పక్కమో తెలియని పరిస్థితి ….
ఎద్దులా పెరిగి మొద్దులా తయారవడం తప్ప మరేమీలేదు….

ఇంజనీరింగ్ చేయడం…. ఎమ్మెస్ కని విదేశాలకు వెళ్ళడం…..

వాట్సాప్ లో చాటింగ్….ఐ ఎం ఓ లో విజిటింగ్….
స్కైప్ లో వీడియో కాలింగ్….అమేజాన్ ద్వారా షాపింగ్….
నెలకింత అమ్మ నాన్నలకు డబ్బు పంపిస్తే…. వీరికదే ఆనందం….

పెళ్లి ముందురావడం…. అయిపోగానే పెళ్ళాన్ని తీసుకొని పోవడం…..

ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… ఆప్యాయతలు….అయ్యా, అమ్మ సస్తే తప్ప….

కనీసం దాయాదులు పోయినా….దగ్గరోడు సచ్చినా….

దయలేని దుస్థితి ….చూడలేని పరిస్థితి ..ఇంకెక్కడి బందాలు..ఇంకెక్కడి బందుత్వాలు….అందుకే….
కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థ రోజు రోజుకు నశించిపోతుంది….

అందుకే రోజు రోజుకు ఓల్డ్ ఏజ్ హోం ల సంఖ్యలు పెరుగుతూ పోతున్నాయి…..

బాల్యం నుండే మార్పు రావాలి…
బందాలు పెరగాలి….
అమ్మమ్మ, నానమ్మ ల కథలు వినాలి….
తాతయ్య నేర్పే మర్యాదలు నేర్పాలి….
కుటుంబం లో ఉండే ఆనందం తెలపాలి….
అది మనింటినుండే ప్రారంభం కావాలి….

కలసి బోజనం చేసి…. కలసి ముచ్చటించడం నేర్పాలి….ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థను కాపాడి….

మళ్ళీ ప్రపంచానికి మన దేశం వసుదైక కుటుంబం అని చాటి చెబుదాం….🌹

 

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You lost her a little more every time


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

It’s the texts you answer at your convenience. It’s the snaps you look at then put down your phone.

It’s every like when you’re bored because you’re wondering what she’s up to. It’s every canceled plan when something better comes along.

It’s the attention you give that’s the bare minimum. But she takes it. Because at least for that moment, she has your time and attention when she’s always given you all of hers.

It’s every surprise you take for granted. Even though, she thought a lot about it for a while. It’s not caring enough to even consider reciprocating those things.

It’s the favor if you need one, that always goes answered every time. Even though she’d never ask the same. x51k5655.jpg

It’s the nights she wishes would turn into the morning but you have some sort of other agenda, as you say goodbye.

You label her as easy to read. Because the truth is you know if you want her you can have her. And where is the fun in that?

Where is the fun in someone only caring about you?  Where is the fun in honesty? Where is the fun in love when everyone is chasing after questionable likes?

But the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t answer.

You lose her a little more every time you cancel plans.

You lose her a little more every time you choose someone else when the only person she’s ever chosen is you.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t appreciate her.

You lose her a little more every time you take her for granted.

You lose her a little more every time she goes to bed wondering, ‘why aren’t I enough for him?’

But what she doesn’t realize, as these feelings she has for you, blinds her of the truth. She’s more than enough for you. It’s you that isn’t good enough for her.

Because if you were worthy of her, you’d realize her value.

But one day you’ll lose her for good. Because she’s going to get to a point where there’s nothing more she has to offer and she’ll walk away. And it’ll hurt her to do so. Because she looked at you with wide eyes full of faith that depleted over time.

One day she’ll be the one not answering. One day those snaps you send will be ignored and you’ll send another just in case.

It’ll irk the shit out of you, the moment she starts treating you the way you treated her.

You’ll ask her out and she’ll politely decline. You’ll blow up her newsfeed and begin to become more interested in what she is up to but more than that who she’s with.

Because it’s not you that’s making her smile anymore.

You’ll miss the nights when she laid beside you and all she ever wanted to do was talk. The silence will kill you, as you wish for just one more conversation.

You’ll hold onto everything she ever got you and it’ll be a hurtful reminder of the girl who loved you just a little too much.

And maybe you’ll look back and remember there wasn’t mystery to her. But there was an honesty you’ve never known in someone.

She didn’t play games like the others. She’s the type of girl that ruins people in the best way and you’ve become just another victim.

And as you fumble through girl after girl, you’ll find something in them all missing. It’ll be in them you look for her but she will never be found.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 

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If your Partner look like this, then you are in Worst Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

aBY3yjA_460sWhen it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.

Below I am going to go over some of the things you should never allow within a relationship. These are things far too many of us settle for and allow to happen or go on within our relationships. We all deserve someone who knows our worth and treats us right, someone who is willing to motivate us when we are down and help us through all the hard times. Your bar is not set too high, don’t be willing to bump it down for just anyone.

Someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

If he or she doesn’t care about how you feel or how he or she is making you feel you need to cut ties. You need someone that really wants to make you happy and is willing to take your emotions into consideration. In a real functioning relationship, everyone’s feelings will be taken into consideration.

Someone who brings out the worst in you.

If the person you are with brings out the worst in you then you should not be with him or her. You should find someone that brings out the best in you. Sure, you might care about this person, but he or she is not causing you anything more than pain and stress, let him or her go and move on. Sometimes toxic relationships are not so much abusive as they are just people not being able to click properly.

Someone who takes advantage of you.

Never let anyone take advantage of you, especially not someone you are in love with. Make sure that your partner is bringing the same amount to the table as you are. Don’t give someone your all only for them to give you nothing. People will use you and take you for all you have in this world. Most people are not what they seem.

Someone who is very double-standard oriented.

Do not be with someone who thinks you have to abide by some kind of relationship rules and he or she doesn’t. If you are expected to answer all of his or her calls, but then he or she cannot be bothered to do the same to you why stick around? You deserve someone that is on the same level as you are.

Someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort.

You should never settle for someone who will not make an effort in the relationship. You should not be coming all the way for someone who won’t even roll over in your direction. You should both be putting forth equal amounts of effort to make things work, no more-no less.

Someone who refuses to take responsibility for his or herself.

You should never settle for someone who won’t take responsibility for his or herself. You and your partner are not the same person. Sure, you might have each other’s backs but at the end of the day you have to own your shit and he or she has to own his or her shit. That is just how it goes, otherwise, problems within the relationship will occur and you will find yourself constantly having to make excuses for him or her. This is something none of us want to deal with.

Someone who makes you doubt yourself.

If someone you are close to is making you doubt yourself then the relationship is already off to a rocky start. Your partner should be building you up and making you feel better about yourself. This is a breeding ground for toxic energies and you should get out while you can.

Someone who tries to control what you wear or do.

If your partner is trying to control the things you wear and the things you do you are settling for someone who is going to try and control you in other ways as time progresses. Controlling partners are not going to let you be yourself. They are going to try and mold you into the person they want you to be and that will never work.

Someone who blames you for their problems or mistakes.

If your partner is constantly blaming you for his or her problems or mistakes why should you stick around? You should not be taking the flack for things you have no control over and did not do in the first place. He or she should be owning his or her stuff; it is not your place too and you should never be put in that kind of situation.

Someone who crosses your boundaries on purpose.

If someone is crossing your boundaries because he or she doesn’t care that they are there in the first place you should not be with them. Your boundaries are there for a reason and you should not be forced to feel like him or her making you uncomfortable is alright, it is not alright. Someone who loves and cares about you will take the time to pay attention to you and respect you and your boundaries.

Someone who refuses to actually work or take care of his or herself.

If the person you are with refuses to better his or herself they oftentimes cannot be helped. Don’t let this person bring you down. You should not be carrying their weight and your weight, everyone should be contributing to things in one way or another. You are no maid.

Someone who torments you be it physical, verbal, or any possible form.

No one should ever put up with any kind of abuse. You can and will find someone who will treat you like you put the stars in the sky. DO NOT EVER let someone put their hands on you or make you feel like you are worthless. You are amazing and you deserve all the best things in this world.

Someone who acts like you owe them something.

Let me get this clear! You do not owe anything to anybody but yourself. If you do not want to do something, you do not have to!

Posted by:  Gerald Sinclair

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 

 

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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