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Ignoring is Killing a Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
 

Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but never know when the last chance may be. I honestly think one of the biggest mistakes people make is to take people for granted in their LIFE. Parents not always going to be around to help you understand things you can’t understand yourself and they are not going to be around you to constantly correcting your mistakes, protecting you and to guide you. Remember that people who love you unconditionally are so precious! Never miss such persons in life. Many of us take people for granted, like it’s just a given for them to always be there with us. People constantly say that we need to treat life for what it is , precious, because we don’t know when it’s going to end… but same goes with PEOPLE who love and live for us.WhatsApp Image 2019-08-26 at 9.31.58 PM

People are precious. Without those around us where would we be, the people around us make us. People are precious. Without each other we wouldn’t be anything. We should stop using each other and cheating each other for personal growth and benefits. The only beneficial thing in life is helping each other, taking care of each other, showing each other that together we can truly make a difference. Separate we are ordinary but together we are extraordinary.

Every time you take the person for granted, you are teaching them to live without you and you offering your place to others in their LIFE.

Don’t ever take anyone for granted because before you know it, you’ll only have so much time left with them. You’ll be hit with the sudden realization that everything about them that you’ve been taking for granted for as long as you remember will not be there anymore, nor will that person either. Your relationship with this person will slip away from you faster than you know it and you’ll regret every last thing you didn’t do, and every little thing you did do to them.

When a person give, it does not come with strings. They does not keep track of what you owe them. When they give, they choose to do so without ulterior motives. They give because their love and care is genuine. They give because they know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When they give it’s because they get it. It’s because they know the value in what they have in their heart and they refuse to let the world stop them from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate their sincerity. They won’t switch, they won’t get angry, and they won’t be spiteful. They’ll just get smart and they’ll change your role in my life. Because when they give, they give portion of their life to you. But when they are done, there’s no looking back.

Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted

 In your LIFE if you have someone who ultimately loves and cares about you, PLEASE do not take that person for granted. It’s very hard to get people who really love us without any expectations. It doesn’t matter what your relation with that person is and also it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with that person or not. Right now, we are living in a world where it’s hard to find someone who will be love you, Live for you, hold your in tough situations and who is ready to give himself for you. So to have someone who will love and support you no matter what is a blessing.  Because no matter how strong we say we are, we still need someone to stick by our side. So please, just don’t ever take anyone for granted, and just appreciate and be grateful for every single breathing soul you have in your life.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.
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Failure is Proof that You haven’t Finished YET


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by…. Prawin

No KING ruled a Kingdom forever and no Mountaineer who reached the peak of MOUNT EVEREST Stayed there forever. Even our History proves that, the people who reach  unscaled heights are bound to get low in their personal as well as professional lives. Success is not property of anyone or its is not for only few people in world. Success is never permanent, and failure is never final. People may fail in academics, love, profession, relationships, fulfilling their dreams. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren’t where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

World evaluate people by what they finish, not by what they. The reason most people do not go far in life is they procrastinate procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried. Do not sit back and take what comes, go after what you want. The door of opportunity will not open unless you push. The choice of given up or going on is a defining moment in your life. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless you decide not to rise again. The world will always give you the opportunity to quit, but only the world would call quitting an opportunity. One of the most powerful success principles ever preached is Never, Never, Never give up.. IMG_20190817_221529.jpg

At very early age of my life, I realized that every single person have battles in their life. No matter what that is and how big or small it is. At the end of the day, you’re your own hero. When you’re feeling low, don’t look for somebody’s hands, lift yourself up and be your inspiration, guide, motivator and number one supporter. Every day we need to give ourselves a pat on the back. Not for achieving something or when something goes well. But we need it when no one is there but only you. Remember, life is not puppy dogs and rainbows. It gets stormy and dark sometimes. And it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to feel everything at the same time. It’s okay to commit mistakes and mess up on something. Remember, you will always have another chance to make things right.

My greatest glory wasn’t that I never failed. It was that I rose every time I did fall. That’s why this quote means so much to me. If I turn back and see my life, I still can see images of kid from a village going to every house to sell MILK (which is our family’s source of income) as milk vendor. From that stage, I fought every battle that my life put before me. I failed many times in my life’s journey, i did many mistakes, i was insulted by people around and each time I failed, I learnt a lesson. I never gave up and made use of every opportunity and grabbed each of them. After such a struggle, I came to a stage where I am today (The head of Quality Assurance wing for a Software Firm In London, UK. ). Only God and Myself know how many times I fell down and rose every time I fell . I never realized the validity of failure until I realized they had guided me to where I am today. If it wasn’t for that pain, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I wouldn’t be sharing all of this with you.

Today we face so many threats from the world we live in. But the biggest fear comes from within… the fear to fall. Even the most non-technical analysis tells us that the main reason behind this fear is not the fall itself but being witnessed by the whole world while we fall. Many of us work day in  and day out out to top the list of the performers in our chosen fields, and try to make ourselves conform up to the standards the world expects from us.  There are many others who do not care about the world though, but are still working relentlessly to achieve their set goals. The thought of any fall in the way to success for both gives them jitters since it seems to have a potential of eventually culminating in a failure.

I well know, it is never easy to wake up and face the same demons that you left the night before. But is it not the end of the world. You must keep going and push forward. The success awaits those who believe that SUCCESS IS NOT PERMANENT, THE SAME WAY AS FAILURE IS NOT  FINAL. So every time we fall, instead of brooding  over the fall and wasting our precious time, we should rather get up and get moving as soon as possible with full faith in our capabilities and full hope for our success at last.

IMG_20190817_194631.jpgThe fact that you have failed is proof that you are not finished. Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. It is not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it”.  Your success will be measured by your willingness to keep on trying. Have the courage to rise each time you fall, you can either stand up and be counted or lie down and be counted out. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down.

Life is a never ending battle between you and the uncontrollable forces that try to fail you. Life is all about rising up in spite of the ache. It’s about picking yourself after a crashing defeat. No matter what you feel, you have to get up because what remains in your life is still worth fighting for. It is your responsibility not to give up because it is only you who decide for your life. Stay on course. Stay brave and be a warrior. There’s always hope. Again, there’s always hope. When you are persistent, it is proof you have not been defeated, life holds no greater wealth than that of steadfast commitment. It cannot be robbed from you, only you can lose it by your will. People do not fail, they just quit too soon.

So please do yourself a favor, never give up. You fight through the stress. You fight the anxiety. You fight through the pain. You through the insults. You fight all the negative circumstances in your life. You fight through the demons that are beating you down to your knees. Life is full of golden opportunities, every person has a lot that they can do, so start with what you can do; do not stop because of what you cannot do. Great opportunities will come as you make the most of small ones.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 

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Dads aren’t moms, it’s exactly why daughters need them


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father, none of us can assume life without this role. It’s truly disappointing whenever some says or sees fathers as just money earning machine or a person who is there in family to control or regulate kids . Till last decade World considered fathers were often those who were left in charge of providing the family, while mothers were considered the primary and only caretakers…However, it is good to know that nowadays, fatherhood has a completely different meaning. Because parenting is not only a mother’s responsibility. Good parenting means having equal roles and responsibilities when it comes to raising your children.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM (1)A lot has changed for fathers over the past few generations. In today’s world Fathers  are much more informed and involved with their children, taking an active part in the nurturing of their children, from feeding — whether expressed breast milk or formula — to changing diapers, soothing, clothing, bathing, reading to, and helping their baby go to sleep.

Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. They create us, introduce us to this world and everything in it, raise us, help us overcome our fears, have an active role in shaping our personality and creating our own world from scratch. However, regardless of the fact that both mom and dad are an essential part of a child’s development, there is one special bond I think you’ll all agree that plays a big role in a kid’s life. From the moment little girls are born, fathers play a key role in the psychological development of their daughters. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters’ lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are.

That’s the indestructible, everlasting, powerful bond between fathers and daughters. A father serves as the guide for a little girl to blossom into a strong and courageous young woman

When it comes to raising girls, moms often get most of the pressure and the credit. Whether regarding menstrual issues, boy problems, or makeup tips, mom is usually the first person girls turn to. I see too many men buy into the idea of ‘that’s a girl’s issue’ or ‘only a woman can understand another woman’ and avoid talking to their daughters about sex, dating, or other ‘girly’ topics.

I think it would be hard to overstate the value of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have more confidence, high self-esteem, and believe they can achieve their goals.⠀

Mothers, don’t me wrong. You undoubtedly have the strongest and most unique connection with your children. But there is something special about the daughter-father bond that affects the lives of their daughters in a truly intriguing and life-changing way.

A father is the first male figure in a girl’s life.

He is the true source of her values & morals.

He is the safe shelter that she goes to.

He is the pillar of her strength.

Her first love.

While moms cuddle us and teach us to be gentler, fathers encourage us to be strong. To never stop being curious, even though we make mistakes. To never give up no matter how afraid we are. To always push our limits. The mother is the one who avoids risks, and the father is the one who encourages us to always try and learn from our mistakes.

It’s no doubt. The family plays a big role in preparing us for all future relationships.  Daughters get to know how to get along with their husbands, friends, boyfriends and other people in their life after getting along with father and brother.WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM

So, naturally, problematic relationships with men, depressive symptoms or low levels of self-esteem are often the residue of a father’s desertion.  When children grow up with a feeling of closeness with their fathers in the period of adolescence, they are more likely to develop a healthy and satisfying adult marital relationship.

A healthy relationship with the father prevents a daughter from being afraid of establishing an intimate relationship in her future life. For any girl, love with her father is always the first experience of love and introduces her to what male love is all about. If there is a positive love experience with her father in her early years, she is going to do much better and vice versa.  As compared to mothers,  fathers generally have more impact on how daughters relate to men. That is exactly why a positive father-daughter relationship has a big impact on a daughter’s interpersonal problems and interactions.

Here are some ideas for creating a loving and secure relationship with your daughter.

Begin the Day She Is Born: To create a positive relationship with your daughter, start on the day she is born. Get involved in her life from the very beginning by taking an active role in caring for your baby girl. The more time you spend with her early on, the easier it will be to continue building the relationship later.

Be Involved: The hallmark of every great father-daughter relationship is a father who is actively interested and involved in his daughter’s life. Being involved is about more than asking about her day. Instead, it means finding out what she is interested in or excited about and sharing in it with her.

Teach Her New Things: It is wonderful when you teach your daughter to ride a bike, throw a softball, to read, or even to do chores. But often the best things you can teach her are the things society might consider “guy things.” Skills like checking the oil in a car, putting bait on a fishing hook, building a computer program, using a hammer and nails, or even hitting a cricket ball will serve your daughter well.

Love Her Unconditionally: Every young girl needs to know that she is loved even when she messes up. When she makes poor choices be careful not to ridicule, shame, or demean her. Instead, help her learn and grow. Use these situations as opportunities to teach her something. Just be calm, patient, and loving in the process.

Plan Fun Time: Every father-daughter relationship should include daddy-daughter dates. These moments together don’t have to be anything elaborate. Simply checking out the latest toys at the toy store, going out for ice cream, or attending the library’s storytime are great options for daddy-daughter dates.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.57.55 PMBe Her Confidant: Many girls love to talk. They also tend to be more vocal than boys growing up. You can build your relationship with your daughter by listening more and allowing her to confide in you. Pay attention to what she says when you are together. Listen to what she is thinking about, dreaming of, and wishing for in her life.

Validate Her Often: Modern culture and the media often give young girls the wrong messages. For instance, it is common for girls to believe that they need to be a certain weight, wear the right makeup, and dress a certain way to be beautiful. But, you can diminish those messages by validating the way your daughter looks. When you tell her she is beautiful, you are emphasizing that she is perfect just the way she is. You also can emphasize the importance of being beautiful inside too.

Write Notes and Letters: Just about every little girl loves cards, notes, and letters. Take the time to write your daughter regular notes and letters expressing your feelings. Let her know how you feel about her, and tell her how proud you are of her.

Be a Great Example of Manhood: The way you treat other women makes a big difference in how your daughter will see men later in her life. Be respectful, kind, generous, and loving toward her and her mother, as well as the other female friends and relatives in your lives. Simple courtesy and kindness will go a long way in helping her know what to expect of the men in her life.

A father should create a safe and protective environment for his daughter not only physically but also emotionally.  A father’s behavior should encourage his daughters to never feel afraid to share their feelings.

The understanding between a father and his daughter is unbeatable. They are inseparable and feel quite restless when they aren’t around each other. A daughter brings out the best father in a man while that best father is busy raising a wonderful girl. Cheers to all the father-daughter duos. 🙂

In the end, it is no doubt that we are the product of those who raise us.

Daughter May Outgrow your lap but not HEART of a Father.

 

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Guide to make Sex Life Beautiful


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When it comes to sex, you might be wondering if there are tips and tricks guys want to share, but don’t. Frankly, there is no is no standard such list of tips. Everyone is different, and what works for one guy might not work for another. Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.

There’s a common belief that most Men want to have more sex, but is this really the case? Does only Men want Sex. ? Its not true. Its not limited to Gender. Even Woman look  for good Sex. Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different from their male partners.

Most men’s minds tend readily to say “yes” to sex. Whereas most women’s minds tend to say “maybe,” or “that depends.” For Men it’s an instant Maggie noodle, whereas for woman lot of things come into play.

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“Women need a reason to have sex. Men need a reason to have sex, too.  But for most men, the reason can be as simple as your partner taking off their shirt, coming out from shower etc. In Simple terms,Men just need a place to have Sex.

It reminds me of one of my friend who said: “It’s not fair, my husband is always up for it, he gets aroused, gets an erection and he is ready go. It never was a problem for me in our first years together but now with our busy lives and two young children I don’t look forward to it any more. I really love him but we keep arguing about it all the time, which really puts me off sex. Can you please suggest me what to do?”

It’s important for couples not to blame each other for different levels of sexual interest. This desire discrepancy, as it is often called, does not generally reflect a lack of love but can lead to questioning sexual compatibility as a couple. The main problem is that the person who wants sex more almost always feels rejected by their partner. They may take it personally and begin to wonder if they are still attractive, not desired any more, or maybe their partner has a lover.

Most couples argue about the frequency of sex; one person wants sex three times a week and the partner is content with once a week or fortnight. However, the partner with the lower sex drive controls the frequency of sex — if she or he doesn’t want it, it generally doesn’t happen. This is usually not due to being vindictive or needing power and control, it’s just that why would anyone want to have sex when they are not in the mood?

Here are some tips for Men and Women who wanna have health Sexual bond.

What do woman and men crave in bed, but are too shy to ask? Here are some ideas of what women, man want during sex. Its like a detailed Step-by-step guide to make your nights memorable with your partner. Make some of these ideas your own—then forward to the guys in your circle.

Find out if the person wants to have sex: This is the most important part about a good sexual experience. If one of the partners is not ‘in the mood’ or does not want to have sex it can lead to the entire process turning sour. Not to mention the fact that it can leave you or your partner with a sense of being violated or used. So, find out if he/she wants to have sex. Some common indicators you should look out for is if the person seems keen on being with you physically, touches you or increases his/her proximity to you.

39159b6b575d2f0e58c92b5bbc85005dGive yourself time. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing; working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Maintain physical affection. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

Be prepared: Sex is a wonderful thing. It’s pleasurable and makes you feel happy. It also has a number of other health benefits like helping you burn calories and beating depression. It’s no wonder that we are the only species that has sex for pleasure and not solely procreation. But with all that fun come problems like unwanted pregnancies, STDs and emotional setbacks. So being prepared is your best option. If you are planning to have a one-night stand or are taking the first step towards a committed relationship remember that you should have your mind in sync with what your body wants.

Choose the location and set the mood: Sex is an intimate act, at least it should be. So pick a spot where both of you will be uninhibited, especially if it’s your first time. Pick a place that is private and has a comfortable place to have sex in. A good soft bed with mood lighting always helps the cause (unless you plan to tread on an experimental path). So splurge a little bit. Remember pleasure does come at a cost.

Approach the person gently and do not seem too desperate: Coming on too strongly or being pushy about having sex is one of the biggest turn offs. So don’t seem desperate (even if you are dying to be with the person), allow the other person some space to express their feelings as well. You should definitely show that you are interested in getting physically intimate but back off if you feel the other person is not reciprocating. Sex should be a choice so let them choose.

Kiss and caress: The first step towards physical intimacy is kissing. Most women love to kiss and a passionate kiss can definitely put her in the mood for some more. Moreover being close, kissing, touching and caressing your partner helps stimulate their erogenous zones which will lead to more pleasurable sex. It also leads to a stronger sense of closeness and safety – two emotions that help a person perform better in bed.  So touch him/her, kiss and make your partner wanted. This is also another way to help quell the person’s body image issues (if they have any), making them more comfortable in your presence.porls7yry8

Have a lot of foreplay: This is where you can either choose to remove your clothes or have your partner undress you. Another way to go about it is to remove one piece of clothing at a time, making the entire process a mystery. When it comes to foreplay, most people think that sex is only penetrative. But the act does include foreplay. Foreplay, as the name suggests is what you do before you have sex. It includes fondling, kissing, stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones and oral sex as well. Make sure you get enough of this in. It is often the most enjoyable part of the whole sexual experience because the two of you can experiment with a number of methods. Tip for men: Women can orgasm multiple times. So pleasure your woman, she will definitely be in the mood for some more and thank you for it in more ways than one. Tip for women: Most men love to be touched as well, so make him feel good. Touch him, kiss him and feel his entire body. Don’t hold back and don’t be the only one hogging all the pleasure.

Pick the right moment: The right moment to have penetrative sex is usually felt and is often mutual. Pick the moment when your partner really wants to move on to the next step. In some cases asking if the other person is ready or if he/she wants more is a good way to know when it’s time. Once you know that he/she is ready, take it to the next level.

Insertion: This is the most hyped part about sex and is often believed to be the only thing that happens during it. But there’s nothing further from the truth. In this step the penis is inserted into the vagina. Tip for men: The vagina is an elastic organ present just below the woman’s vulva (external lips of her genitals). If you are having protective sex, make sure you wear a condom before you insert your penis into her vagina. A number of men get the position wrong and tend to ‘look around’ with their penis (try to penetrate without knowing where the vagina is) this can be painful for the woman. So a good way to find the vagina without being embarrassed is to ask your partner to help you.

Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help overcome problems. For example, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.

Use lubrication. Often, the vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex—a problem that can snowball into flagging libido and growing relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.

img_0867Love making: Once the initial penetration is complete, you can choose to have sex however you both are comfortable. Men, make sure you thrust (your penis into her vagina) in rhythmic motions and do it from the hip; this will ensure your woman gets the maximum pleasure. Moving your entire body is counterproductive. Most importantly listen to your partner and your body. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and make sure you take your partner’s pleasure into consideration and make her happy too. Tip for women: Be proactive in bed. Move when your man moves. Thrusting can be pleasurable and even more so when you both are doing it in sync and together. Tell your man what you do and don’t like. Also, make sure you pleasure him as well.

Last few moments: Once you both have climaxed or the sex is about to get over, you both will most probably be in a state of elation. Allow yourselves to be in that state for as long as you need to be. Remember this is the phase where you can choose to hold each other or simply be next to each other. Don’t rush things; let your body come back to its normal state. Rushed sex can be exciting sometimes but if it is done on a regular basis it can leave you feeling a bit incomplete. Tip for men: Most women like to be held or cuddled at this point. Indulge her. After all she has been a partner in your sexual romp. Tip for women: If you liked the experience, tell your partner that. There is nothing like an ego boost after a good time between the sheets.

Winding up: The post coital part can be lovely in some cases and awkward in others. So try to make your partner comfortable. Give him/her a t-shirt to wear, flirt a little and tell him/her how good the experience was. Smile and share a laugh together. This could be the best time to make a good friend or a partner for life. So use the opportunity. After you’ll are done, make sure you’ll wash up. Women, wash your vaginal opening and vulva and men should wash their penis once they remove the condom. Lastly, make sure you dispose of the condom properly. Do not flush it down the toilet. Throw it in a dustbin wrapped in paper or tissue instead.

Don’t give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

But we have to keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It’s not only about who has the stronger sex drive; men and women just respond differently and at different times. Women base their desire for sex more on connection, intimacy and emotion; they also need more time to physically get ready for sex.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

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Request to Parents & Parents-to-be


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Every Child’s Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today! Child Abuse Main Image

Any for of Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.

As parents you would always want your kids to grow up as loving, kind, happy and successful individuals. You want them to love and to be loved by all. In the process you teach them many things which are good for their life and future.

In the similar way, make sure to consider below points and teach you Children at early age. You must remind your kids from time and again that you would always be by their side when required and help them when required. Ask your kid to maintain a positive frame of mind, so that she can easily overcome hurdles that she comes across in her life.

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

child-abuse-750x5385. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child..

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

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These are just few, but important life lessons that you should teach your kid. You have some more to add on this? Share with us if u have some more life lessons to teach kids by mentioning them in the comment section below.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”. And if possible forward to all friends who have children’s

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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A daughter may outgrow your lap, but not your heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a KING, not because i have a kingdom, but as I have a Daughter who is PRINCESS of my World. Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.

From my childhood I spent most of my life in the arms of many wonderful women, but for first time, I hold a little angel (ShanvikaPr@win) close to my HEART and she proudly calls me Prawin. When she says ‘Daddy I need you!’ I wonder if she has any idea that I need her billion times more. Having a daughter makes me see things in a different way. This is my only girl. So I don’t care what it takes to protect her. You can call it what you want to call it. As long as you treat her the same way I treat her, like my princess, I don’t mind.

Shanvika, hours I spend with you in a day may be limited, but my thoughts for PicsArt_08-18-05.35.48you are  unlimited and my love is unconditional. You make me very proud to be your Father. I know that our relationship is not completely perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real. I love you, sweetheart. With every day that passes, you only grow more beautiful in my eyes. I admire your heart of gold. I love you very much! I Adore your Smile, I Cherish your Hugs, I Admire your Heart, But Most of All I Love that you are My Daughter. Never forget that I Love you till my last breath. Life is filled with hard times and good times. Learn from everything you can. Be the woman I know you can be.

The bond a father and daughter share is special and irreplaceable. To every father, his Daughter is a gift from heaven who is like sunshine to a day. She fills fathers heart with pleasure, a joy to always treasure! Not only does a girl’s relationship with her father shape her childhood experience, but it will also influence how she interacts with men in her adult years. If a father is absent or erratic in his behavior, this sets his daughter up for feelings of low self-esteem and trouble with trusting men in general. All parents should appreciate the importance of understanding the father’s role in his daughter’s life, as his presence (or absence) will play a role in her self-image and well-being for decades to come. Daughters can bring so much meaning to your life and make you the happiest you have ever been. Below are some of the traits every father should possess.

Teach your Daughter That She Is Worthy of a Respectful Partner: A father who treats his daughter – and his daughter’s mother – with respect is sending a clear message that women deserve good treatment from the men in their lives. This can make all the difference when his daughter begins dating. If she is used to positive support and kind behavior, she is less likely to tolerate it from abusive dates and partners.

IMG_20190818_182623Make Time for your Daughter, No Matter How Busy you are: One of the most important things a father can do is simply show that he is willing to be around. He should make the effort to attend special events at his daughter’s school, engage her in conversation, and take an interest in all areas of her life. This will build her self-esteem and let her know that she is a worthwhile individual.

Remind Your Daughter That She Is Beautiful Inside and Out: There is nothing wrong with telling your daughter that she is pretty, but remember to tell her how much you value her intellectual abilities and character. This will prevent her from relying on her looks to carry her through life and from placing too much value on what others think of her face and body.

Inspire your Daughter to Reach Her Goals: A father should encourage his daughter to follow her dreams and show her that he believes she has what it takes to succeed. Girls habitually look to both parents for guidance and support, so fathers must make the effort to inspire their daughters whenever possible

Enjoy Activities Together: Healthy activities such as walking, biking and swimming are a great way of building memories and teaching your daughter that exercise is an important habit. Keeping fit will help her maintain a good body image, which will be a real asset as she develops into a teenager.

Be Consistently Loving but Firm : Daughters who do not receive affection and approval from their fathers are likely to seek it elsewhere as teenagers and adults, and this may lead to an unhealthy dependency on men. Fathers can prevent this happening by telling their daughters how special and loved they are, whilst maintaining appropriate levels of discipline and upholding firm boundaries.

Always Treat your wife Well, Even If you Are Not Together: If a daughter witnesses her father treating her mother poorly, she will receive negative or mixed messages about how men and women relate to one another. Even if you are not with her mother, always take the high road and act in a civil manner.

Take your daughter on Special Trips and Outings: Let your daughter feel special by  IMG_20190818_182553making the time to take her out on a regular basis. A simple trip to the park with a picnic is enough to show her that you care enough to make her a priority. Take the opportunity to show her how men should treat women – with respect and dignity. Engage her in conversation and talk to her as an equal.

Model a Respectful Attitude Towards Women : A good father does not make sexist jokes or speak disrespectfully about women. He has the intelligence to realize that his daughter’s self-image will suffer if he does so, and knows that it is important to uphold the idea that women are of equal value to men

Know When to Ask for Forgiveness: No father can be perfect all the time. When you mess up, explain how you plan to do better next time and tell her that you are sorry. For example, if you accidentally miss her piano recital, plan an outing to make it up to her. Ask for her forgiveness and learn from your mistakes.

I request every father, kindly treat you Daughter the way you want her future partner to treat her. The way you interact with your daughter is what she becomes used to when relating to a man. Treat her with respect, dignity, caring, and affection and she will expect to be treated that way by a mate.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person. In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, good Son, a good grandson, a good husband, a good brother, good friend, a good colleague and a good fellow human just being connected to every of my well-wishers  as much as possible.

Today is my little angel ShanvikaPr@win birthday. Kindly bless her and wish her to have a wonderful life. 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Potluck Lunch helps in Team Building


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In any organisation, team work can make all the difference between success and failure. That’s because collaborative teams excel at dividing responsibilities and working towards the same goal. Realising this, most teams are focusing on team building exercises that can bring teams closer.

Maintaining a healthy work culture, one that keeps the entire team motivated and enthused, can be a tough task. You see your employees going through their everyday tasks in a routine, and on the surface, everything might look happy and gay, but you never know when monotony can kick in and leave the entire system uninspired.

Just a small activity is enough to see the change in the overall enthusiasm and energy of the office. It can also be a great way for newbies to feel comfortable and at ease with the rest of the team.

Recently we had a team Potluck lunch organised by my lovely team ladies. Special thanks to my loving Vijaya Ragi & Team for handling everything in a smooth way. It is well planned and organised.

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If you want your team to feel energised at all times, to enjoy what they’re doing and love working for you – and for this, you cannot lay enough emphasis on the need for recreational activities. While some offices go for activity outings, we actually have a simpler and cheaper alternative that can be just as rewarding. The other simple yet effective team building activity is a potluck. It can be organised  by anyone without costing a penny to the company.

But what exactly is it and how does it help in building teams?

What Is an Office Potluck?

In simple terms, a potluck is an occasion when attendees bring food to be shared with everyone. Whether it has a theme or not, is completely up to the team members.

The main idea is to add some fun to the workplace and encourage employees to connect with one another over food.

How to Organise  an Office Potluck

The best thing about a potluck is that you don’t need a big reason to organise  it. It could be an occasion to celebrate a holiday or just the first day at work after a long holiday.

You simply need an organiser  to send out the emails and coordinate with everyone involved.

Sometimes the organiser  may allocate responsibilities to the team members. For example, you may ask two employees to take care of the dessert and two others to bring some appetisers . Or you may choose to let the employees decide among themselves.

Office Potluck for Team Building

Do you sense a growing lack of communication between two team members? A potluck lunch can be of great help.

Get those two employees to plan the potluck. Ask them to coordinate the menu and come up with two dishes that everyone can enjoy.

The objective here is to get them to communicate with each other and find a simple solution. You may or may not oversee how they do this, but the end result can help them connect with each other.

At a later point, you may even speak to the two employees separately to get an idea how they felt about the whole exercise.

A potluck is also a great occasion to bring a close-knit team closer. As many small businesses have fewer employees working for them, a potluck lunch can give them a reason to discuss things beyond work. Often such discussions may reveal hidden talents and opportunities for business growth.

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and enjoy some good food.

Below are some glimpses of my teams Potluck events.

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In conclusion, I would like to point out one very important fact. This is the deciding force. More convincing than any research paper or analysis. This is the real, ultimate deal-breaker: Your office is going to be flooded with yummy home-made FOOD for one whole day! Do you still need another reason?

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honoured  if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

If you wish to follow my journey outside of my writing, you can find me on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/MunnaPrawin) Instagram(MunnaPrawin) and Twitter(@munnaprawin).

 

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ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !


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టెన్షన్లు.. ఒత్తిళ్లు… డబ్బు సంపాదన…అతిగా ఆలోచనలు లేకుండా…80573564_2523240627774267_4107180927703056384_n.jpg
ఉన్నంతలో కుటుంబమంతా కలసి… ఆనందంగా గడిపిన .
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మినరల్ వాటర్ గోల లేకుండా…కుళాయి దగ్గర, బోరింగుల దగ్గర, బావుల దగ్గర… నీళ్లు తాగిన…
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వందలకొద్దీ చానెళ్లు లేకున్నా…ఉన్న ఒక్క దూరదర్శన్ లో
శుక్రవారం చిత్రలహరి… ఆదివారం సినిమా కోసం వారమంతా… ఎదురు చూసిన
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సెలవుల్లో అమ్మమ్మ.. నానమ్మల ఊళ్లకు వెళ్లి…ఇంటికి రావాలనే ఆలోచన లేని…
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ఏసీ కార్లు లేకున్నా ఎర్రబస్సుల్లో…కిటికీ పక్క సీట్లో నుండి ప్రకృతిని ఆస్వాదించిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్…!

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మొబైల్ డేటా గురించి ఆలోచించకుండా..బర్త్ డే డేట్ గురించి మాత్రమే ఆలోచిస్తూ.చాక్లెట్లు పంచిన
� ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

మటన్ బిర్యానీ.. చికిన్ బిర్యానీ లేకున్నా…ఎండాకాలం వచ్చిందంటే మామిడి కాయ పచ్చడితో…
అందరం కలసి కడుపునిండా అన్నం తిన్న…
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ఇప్పుడు జేబు నిండా కార్డులున్నా… పరుసు నిండా డబ్బులున్నా…కొట్టుకు పంపితే …మిగిలిన చిల్లర కాజేసిన
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సెల్లు నిండా గేములున్నా…బ్యాట్ మార్చుకుంటూ ఒకే బ్యాట్ తో క్రికెట్టాడిన..
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ఇప్పుడు బీరువా నిండా ప్యాంట్లున్నా… రెండు నిక్కర్లతో బడికెళ్లిన…
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ఇప్పుడు బేకరీల్లో కూల్ కేకులు తింటున్నా… .ఐదు పైసల ఆశా చాక్లెట్ తిన్న…
� ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్…!

చిన్న చిన్న మాటలకే దూరం పెంచుకుంటున్న ఈ రోజుల్లో..
పిల్లలం కొట్టుకున్నా పెద్దలంతా కలసివుండే
# రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్..!

ఇప్పుడు ఇంటినిండా తినుబండారాలున్నా…నాన్న కొనుక్కొచ్చే …చిరుతిళ్ళ కోసం ఎదురు చూసిన..
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ఇప్పుడు రకరకాల ఐస్ క్రీమ్ లు చల్లగా నోట్లో నానుతున్నా…అమ్మ చీరకొంగు పైసలతో పుల్ల ఐసు కొనితిన్న…
#ఆ రోజులు ఎంతో బాగున్నాయ్..!

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పొద్దుపోయేదాకా చేలో పని చేసుకొచ్చి…ఎలాంటి చీకూచింత లేకుండా.. ఎండాకాలంలో ఆకాశంలోని చందమామను చూస్తూ నిదురించిన..
#ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

*ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబాల ఊసే లేకుండా పోయింది*
అమ్మ, నాన్న,…. అక్క బావ…చెల్లి మర్ది….అన్న వదిన…. తమ్ముడు మర్దలు…. మేనత్త మేనమామ.
పిన్ని బాబాయ్….. పెద్దమ్మ పెదనాన్న…. తాతయ్య అమ్మమ్మ…. తాతయ్య నానమ్మ…..
ఒదిన, మరదలు….బావ బామ్మర్ధి…..ఇంకా…. ముత్తాత తాతమ్మ….
ఇలా వరుసలు ఉన్నాయని…. ఉంటాయన్న సంగతే మరిచారు నేటి తరం….

మమ్మి డాడి….. ఆంటీ అంకుల్
ఇవి రెండు తెలిస్తే చాలు….ప్రపంచమంతా మన బందువులే అనే భావన ఏర్పడింది.

రక్త సంభందం అంటే ఏంటో తెలియని దుస్తితి….

కారణం…..
పుట్టగానే పిల్లలను క్రెచ్చ్ ల్లో వేయడం….లేదా ఆయాలకు అప్పగించడం…

అందాలకు బందీలై తల్లి పాలు కూడా ఇవ్వకపోవడం….
ముడ్డి కడగడం మానుకొని డైపర్స్ వాడడం….ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… లాలనలు….
ఇక్కడినుండే మొదలు….ఇక కాన్వెంట్లు….. రెసిడెన్సు స్కూళ్లు….

వాడికి ఎవడు చుట్టమో… ఎవడు పక్కమో తెలియని పరిస్థితి ….
ఎద్దులా పెరిగి మొద్దులా తయారవడం తప్ప మరేమీలేదు….

ఇంజనీరింగ్ చేయడం…. ఎమ్మెస్ కని విదేశాలకు వెళ్ళడం…..

వాట్సాప్ లో చాటింగ్….ఐ ఎం ఓ లో విజిటింగ్….
స్కైప్ లో వీడియో కాలింగ్….అమేజాన్ ద్వారా షాపింగ్….
నెలకింత అమ్మ నాన్నలకు డబ్బు పంపిస్తే…. వీరికదే ఆనందం….

పెళ్లి ముందురావడం…. అయిపోగానే పెళ్ళాన్ని తీసుకొని పోవడం…..

ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… ఆప్యాయతలు….అయ్యా, అమ్మ సస్తే తప్ప….

కనీసం దాయాదులు పోయినా….దగ్గరోడు సచ్చినా….

దయలేని దుస్థితి ….చూడలేని పరిస్థితి ..ఇంకెక్కడి బందాలు..ఇంకెక్కడి బందుత్వాలు….అందుకే….
కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థ రోజు రోజుకు నశించిపోతుంది….

అందుకే రోజు రోజుకు ఓల్డ్ ఏజ్ హోం ల సంఖ్యలు పెరుగుతూ పోతున్నాయి…..

బాల్యం నుండే మార్పు రావాలి…
బందాలు పెరగాలి….
అమ్మమ్మ, నానమ్మ ల కథలు వినాలి….
తాతయ్య నేర్పే మర్యాదలు నేర్పాలి….
కుటుంబం లో ఉండే ఆనందం తెలపాలి….
అది మనింటినుండే ప్రారంభం కావాలి….

కలసి బోజనం చేసి…. కలసి ముచ్చటించడం నేర్పాలి….ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థను కాపాడి….

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You lost her a little more every time


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

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It’s the texts you answer at your convenience. It’s the snaps you look at then put down your phone.

It’s every like when you’re bored because you’re wondering what she’s up to. It’s every canceled plan when something better comes along.

It’s the attention you give that’s the bare minimum. But she takes it. Because at least for that moment, she has your time and attention when she’s always given you all of hers.

It’s every surprise you take for granted. Even though, she thought a lot about it for a while. It’s not caring enough to even consider reciprocating those things.

It’s the favor if you need one, that always goes answered every time. Even though she’d never ask the same. x51k5655.jpg

It’s the nights she wishes would turn into the morning but you have some sort of other agenda, as you say goodbye.

You label her as easy to read. Because the truth is you know if you want her you can have her. And where is the fun in that?

Where is the fun in someone only caring about you?  Where is the fun in honesty? Where is the fun in love when everyone is chasing after questionable likes?

But the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t answer.

You lose her a little more every time you cancel plans.

You lose her a little more every time you choose someone else when the only person she’s ever chosen is you.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t appreciate her.

You lose her a little more every time you take her for granted.

You lose her a little more every time she goes to bed wondering, ‘why aren’t I enough for him?’

But what she doesn’t realize, as these feelings she has for you, blinds her of the truth. She’s more than enough for you. It’s you that isn’t good enough for her.

Because if you were worthy of her, you’d realize her value.

But one day you’ll lose her for good. Because she’s going to get to a point where there’s nothing more she has to offer and she’ll walk away. And it’ll hurt her to do so. Because she looked at you with wide eyes full of faith that depleted over time.

One day she’ll be the one not answering. One day those snaps you send will be ignored and you’ll send another just in case.

It’ll irk the shit out of you, the moment she starts treating you the way you treated her.

You’ll ask her out and she’ll politely decline. You’ll blow up her newsfeed and begin to become more interested in what she is up to but more than that who she’s with.

Because it’s not you that’s making her smile anymore.

You’ll miss the nights when she laid beside you and all she ever wanted to do was talk. The silence will kill you, as you wish for just one more conversation.

You’ll hold onto everything she ever got you and it’ll be a hurtful reminder of the girl who loved you just a little too much.

And maybe you’ll look back and remember there wasn’t mystery to her. But there was an honesty you’ve never known in someone.

She didn’t play games like the others. She’s the type of girl that ruins people in the best way and you’ve become just another victim.

And as you fumble through girl after girl, you’ll find something in them all missing. It’ll be in them you look for her but she will never be found.

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If your Partner look like this, then you are in Worst Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

aBY3yjA_460sWhen it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.

Below I am going to go over some of the things you should never allow within a relationship. These are things far too many of us settle for and allow to happen or go on within our relationships. We all deserve someone who knows our worth and treats us right, someone who is willing to motivate us when we are down and help us through all the hard times. Your bar is not set too high, don’t be willing to bump it down for just anyone.

Someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

If he or she doesn’t care about how you feel or how he or she is making you feel you need to cut ties. You need someone that really wants to make you happy and is willing to take your emotions into consideration. In a real functioning relationship, everyone’s feelings will be taken into consideration.

Someone who brings out the worst in you.

If the person you are with brings out the worst in you then you should not be with him or her. You should find someone that brings out the best in you. Sure, you might care about this person, but he or she is not causing you anything more than pain and stress, let him or her go and move on. Sometimes toxic relationships are not so much abusive as they are just people not being able to click properly.

Someone who takes advantage of you.

Never let anyone take advantage of you, especially not someone you are in love with. Make sure that your partner is bringing the same amount to the table as you are. Don’t give someone your all only for them to give you nothing. People will use you and take you for all you have in this world. Most people are not what they seem.

Someone who is very double-standard oriented.

Do not be with someone who thinks you have to abide by some kind of relationship rules and he or she doesn’t. If you are expected to answer all of his or her calls, but then he or she cannot be bothered to do the same to you why stick around? You deserve someone that is on the same level as you are.

Someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort.

You should never settle for someone who will not make an effort in the relationship. You should not be coming all the way for someone who won’t even roll over in your direction. You should both be putting forth equal amounts of effort to make things work, no more-no less.

Someone who refuses to take responsibility for his or herself.

You should never settle for someone who won’t take responsibility for his or herself. You and your partner are not the same person. Sure, you might have each other’s backs but at the end of the day you have to own your shit and he or she has to own his or her shit. That is just how it goes, otherwise, problems within the relationship will occur and you will find yourself constantly having to make excuses for him or her. This is something none of us want to deal with.

Someone who makes you doubt yourself.

If someone you are close to is making you doubt yourself then the relationship is already off to a rocky start. Your partner should be building you up and making you feel better about yourself. This is a breeding ground for toxic energies and you should get out while you can.

Someone who tries to control what you wear or do.

If your partner is trying to control the things you wear and the things you do you are settling for someone who is going to try and control you in other ways as time progresses. Controlling partners are not going to let you be yourself. They are going to try and mold you into the person they want you to be and that will never work.

Someone who blames you for their problems or mistakes.

If your partner is constantly blaming you for his or her problems or mistakes why should you stick around? You should not be taking the flack for things you have no control over and did not do in the first place. He or she should be owning his or her stuff; it is not your place too and you should never be put in that kind of situation.

Someone who crosses your boundaries on purpose.

If someone is crossing your boundaries because he or she doesn’t care that they are there in the first place you should not be with them. Your boundaries are there for a reason and you should not be forced to feel like him or her making you uncomfortable is alright, it is not alright. Someone who loves and cares about you will take the time to pay attention to you and respect you and your boundaries.

Someone who refuses to actually work or take care of his or herself.

If the person you are with refuses to better his or herself they oftentimes cannot be helped. Don’t let this person bring you down. You should not be carrying their weight and your weight, everyone should be contributing to things in one way or another. You are no maid.

Someone who torments you be it physical, verbal, or any possible form.

No one should ever put up with any kind of abuse. You can and will find someone who will treat you like you put the stars in the sky. DO NOT EVER let someone put their hands on you or make you feel like you are worthless. You are amazing and you deserve all the best things in this world.

Someone who acts like you owe them something.

Let me get this clear! You do not owe anything to anybody but yourself. If you do not want to do something, you do not have to!

Posted by:  Gerald Sinclair

 

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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Tomorrow is the first page of a 365-page book


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

It is no surprise that we are coming close to the year end. Good or bad, old or new, success or failure we have all had our experiences with the year. So here’s to all our moments!

Another fresh new year is here another year to live! to banish worry, doubt, and fear, to love and laugh and give!

Each New Year, we have before us a brand new book containing 365 blank pages. Let us fill them with all the forgotten things from last year—the words we forgot to say, the love we forgot to show, and the charity we forgot to offer.” 1We have collected a few quotes and sayings that will inspire us towards the year end and make us start a Fabulous New Year.

It is better to DIE on your feet, than to LIVE on your knees.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

20171230_082253-COLLAGEEveryone have the opportunity, once more to pray for peace, to plant some trees, to help others, sing more joyful songs and to live and let live.

 

There is no greater guarantee of a long, happy, healthy, and prosperous life than for you to be continually working on being, having, and achieving more and more of the things you really want. Clear Goals enable you to release your potential, overcome any obstacle and to make your future achievement unlimited.

Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us .

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover .

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.

Make New Year’s goals. Goals give us direction. 

What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed?
sdr What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life?

What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career?

Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down – as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go.

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”

Happy New Year to the most wonderful family in the world. I am so thankful and grateful to have all of you in my life as my family. 

I heart fully wish everyone to Have a Wonderful and Prosperous New Year with good health, success.

 

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Born to Stand Out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From my Childhood, I’ve been following inspiring leaders, writers and others on the cutting edge of thought leadership, and I’m still awed and amazed at how much there is out in the world to be inspired by.

In my line of work as a Life coach, Soft-Skill trainer, Tech Lead and blogger, I’m fortunate to connect with some awesome and amazing Men and Woman who invest deeply in ideas, thoughts and help their dreams become reality.  Success is an iceberg. When we learn about extremely successful leaders, we tend to see the tip of the iceberg. What we may fail to see is the hard work behind their success. IMG_3999.JPG

I remember being rendered speechless when someone asked me, “Who’s your role model?  Who inspires you?” The sad truth is that, at that time, the answer was “No one.” Today, I would like to speak about a young lady i.e. my friend “Nandita Narayan” who is so Inspiring and Motivating with her Ideas, moves and Personality. Her presence brings the change in environment and inspires many people around. There is something intriguing and compelling about a girl who lights up every room she walks in. Is it her style? No. Is it her long flowing hair? No. Is it her flawless complexion? No. She is quietly confident and has a way of listening and engaging with people. When a group of radiant young women come together, they can inspire hearts, and do remarkable and lovely things. Here are few points i would like to bring that make her stand out.

Fearless
She welcomes the future in all of it’s unknown mystery. Even if she does feel afraid, she does what she has been called to do anyways. Being bold and courageous in the middle of fear has produced great victories throughout history. She always lets her faith be bigger than her fear.

Honest
She knows the liberating and healing power in revealing her struggles and shame. She is honest with those who mistreat her, letting them know that she only tolerates respect, just as she respects them.

Mentorship
She is humble hearted and wise in knowing that she will never know everything there is to know. She has a thirst for learning and growing, so she invites advice and sound counsel from solid mentors.

Self-Discipline
Consistent good habits in her life like getting enough rest, proper nutrition, exercise, spending time in prayer and journaling reflects the commitment to take care of her over-all health. This enables her to care for the people and other priorities in her life more effectively.

Goodness
She is a vessel of joy and kindness, like a healing medicine to the flesh and soul. People are excited when they see her coming and hate to see her go because she always brings life through her words and actions.

Work Ethic
She is not known for laziness; she works diligently. Even when the job seems less than ideal, she always works with a cheerful heart and a constant gratitude for the ability to work and provide. This way, her happiness is not contingent on circumstances alone.

Stands for Justice
She speaks up for those who can not speak for themselves. She defends those who are defenseless and she has a heart for restoring justice.

Wisdom
The words she speaks comes with great responsibility and impact, even to those she does not know are listening. Therefore she is mindful in habitually only speaking words of wisdom and guidance. Therefore, all who encounter her will be blessed because of her. Gossip, slander, idle talk and negativity are strangers to her lips.

Leads by Example
She counsels younger women with a good listening ear, a compassionate heart and a voice of truth. She inspires others to follow her vision through servant leadership and creativity.

Self-Worth
She knows that her value is not defined by the opinions of people, but rather by who she is in the One who made her. When she looks into the mirror, she sees a reflection of God’s own image. There is no rare or glittering jewel or metal that could compare with her worth.

I agree that no Woman or Man who is complete and perfect. What would our character and lives look like if we purposefully applied these attributes? Start with one per day, you could even write yourself reminders in your phone or post-its on your mirror to remind you of the woman/man you can be if you want to be. You were born to stand out.

There are so many people in the world who can serve as your role models and help you make the huge impact in the world that you want to, that I’d say this — if you can’t find someone to inspire you, it’s time for an internal shift to heal the disconnection and isolation you feel, and get yourself back in the game of life.

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My Team is My Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Sweet Team Member.. img_1152

There are lot of reasons why i love my work. One of the important one’s is my TEAM and I
just have an nondetachable bond with them. I am so immensely blessed to have them in my life, and they have made my life better in more ways than they know.We work together, fight together, understand each other, cheer each other up, talk together, help each other, guide each other and we LIVE together. I’ll remember them till my last breath that’s for sure.

I already knew some of the folks, I’d already grown close with them, so they mean a lot to me, yet new friends who came into my life and I got to know them, and they turned out awesome. This has been one great experience and I’ve NEVER wanted any other team and couldn’t wish for a better one because I feel like we stick together, and we have team spirit to stand by each other which is important.

My team is my family, and while there are countless reasons why they will always hold such a special place in my heart. Every’s life is colorful when they enjoy and love the company of others.

We’re a family

photo-0180The amazing bond that we have will never be lost. We are together, in our successes and in our failures. Family is family, no matter what. A great team is so much more than merely people that you play your sport with. A successful team knows each other on a deeper
level. They know each other’s likes, dislikes, fears, strengths and weaknesses; they are also able to accommodate around all of these things. A true team will never be broken. Once a team, always a team

We guide each other

As a team, We walk with each other, through the darkest night and brightest day by holding the hand and and guiding the way. Stones often bar our path, and there are times we fall, but we are always there to help each other. We have a shoulder when someone needs it and have place for everyone in our heart.

We’re always laughing when we’re together

When me and my friends are together, we act like the most mentally retarded people on the planet. Everything’s funnier with my team. You can always count on us to be “that group” of people that’s laughing to the point of tears. There’s always a smile on the face which lightens the workplace. A smile never cost anybody anything and a day seems to go better when you are surrounded by colleagues that smile and are willingly to help you anytime or just to hug you when you are not feeling ok.

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As a team, we love each other and trust everyone in the team. We don’t judge, and our secrets are safe within our team. We can tell each other anything. From our deepest,
darkest secrets . Whatever it is, we’ll listen. My Friends know every embarrassing thing that’s happened to me, and we know every weird thing about others. We never hesitate share  something, because all of us knew that we will take it to our grave.

We know how to listen each other

It sounds like a simple task, but very few people are as attentive my team. They sit with me while I speak, and they follow all my words, and waits until I finish before responding. Sometimes they don’t even need to reply — their concentration is all I need.

We can be ourselves with each other

Like I just said, our team doesn’t judge. In my team all can be what they were. Whether we are dancing around while not fully dressed, sending each other humiliating snapchats or making fun of each other, we are always pushing the boundaries of how close is too close. We wouldn’t have it any other way, though. A team is a group of people who sees the many different versions of you: the weird and hysterical version of you, the crazy version of you, the serious version of you, the lovable version of you—and they still love you to pieces.

20140824131906We pick each other up when we’re down.

If someone is talking shit, everyone will be there on my defense like white on rice. We’re always there to cheer someone up, to get another’s head back in the life’s race, to comfort everyone and we never give up on each other.

We know how to get out of a seriously bad mood

They’ll play that one song, or suggest we watch that one movie, or take me to that one amazing café. They’ll comfort me if I want, or give me space if I want to be alone. Somehow they always know what to do, and I am forever grateful. I don’t know how they do it, but they’re always radiating happy energy, and it never fails to make me feel better.

We celebrate every occasion

Throughout the year, we’ve had lot of celebrations in the office & out of office. Either on birthdays, marriage days every team member has been spoilt with splendid flowers img_20150104_074347-001
followed by either a birthday breakfast, or a lunch. What makes those moments special is not necessarily the presents or the things received but simply the genuine mark of affection and consideration toward everyone.

” Dont Count the Days Make the Days Count ”

You know those little things that make your day shine and are not really connected to you in anyway? Either your colleague’s attitude, the way your work space is organised or random surprises that your colleagues treat you with can make every day at work more and more enjoyable.

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Little things that make people feel happy at work

 2-4You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives.

It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.

Sociable Colleagues

Isn’t everything better when you have nice sociable colleagues to work with? You can have a happy workplace if you take the time to make it a happy workplace. Hire happy people. Don’t get caught up in focusing on the negative and make sure to do the little things that make a difference in people’s lives. It won’t be a major cultural change at first but I can promise you that slowly but surely, your workplace will become a better place and people will do better work.

Doing tasks that have meaning for me

Let’s say you choose a job just for paying your rent and you’re waiting for a dream job opportunity. But, whatever you’re doing you want to be appreciated for your work. And how can we judge a fish by its climbing skills? We can’t.

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The most important part of your work is feedback. No matter if it’s positive or negative (and then you will know what you have to change) feedback represents a very important instrument for measuring the quality of your work. And a complete feedback that has only the best intentions can transform your day in a very productive and cheerful one.

Smiling co-workers

A smile never cost anybody anything and a day seems to go better when you are surrounded by colleagues that smile and are willingly to help you anytime or just to hug you when you are not feeling ok.

Having a mentor

Not anybody can brag about having a mentor at their job. A mentor is not only a teacher, it is the person that inspires you, the person from whom you want “steal” the knowledge’s of the job or you want to enjoy his “success secrets”.

A good training program

We all feel very motivated do our job the best way we can when we have a very good
training program. Thereby you can receive better feedback  you can work more focused and you can improve your skills when you know you’ll be rewarded.

Brainstorming sessions

The sessions where we put our brains to work to come up with a mountain of ideas in which there is hidden, like a treasure, a brilliant idea for a project are relaxing and exhausting. Even though it seems a paradox a brainstorming session can bring up to the surface all the creativity that we are capable.

Open-minded people around

If all the people around us would be open minded we would all have something to gain.

A unique benefits package

IMG_20150103_131635-001We bet you love free coffee or lunch included or candies on bosses desk or stuff like that included in your unique benefits package. Or maybe you prefer free gym or free parking

The pursuit of happiness is so crucial that we try a lot of motivational strategies to make our employees productive. Happy employees tend to work efficiently and effectively since they emit positive energy, it is for this reason why they have to have proper compensation in order for them to enjoy and love their respective job. If the employee is in the state of being happy, he/she is thrice innovative.

These little things can really make them feel important and they’ll be dedicated to their respective work.

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Don’t forget to enjoy the journey


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Madhu……..

It’s almost the end of the first month of the New Year. Almost everyone makes new goals and resolutions for the New Year. It feels so good when we achieve our goals but sometimes we are so focused on the goals that we forget to enjoy the journey.

The most learning experiences are not gained while achieving something but in the process of seeking it. It’s the journey which matters, which teaches you the most. The small intermittent successes and the failures during he journey have a lot to teach. It’s all about the pursuit of achieving the goal and what you learn along the way. l-18914

Get out of your head and the endless cycle of self-defeating thoughts. If you want a different outcome you absolutely must change your thoughts. A problem cannot be solved by the same thinking that caused it. When doubt surfaces, and it will, take some form of action, no matter how small it may be that moves you forward. No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. Replace fear, doubt or anxiety with action.

While seeking the destination, don’t forget to enjoy the journey for it’s during the journey when you realize your passions, gain your strength, overcome your weaknesses, learn new insights and in the process, make new memories!

And last but not least, please don’t forget to breathe. I think Joyce Meyer said it best when she said “Everything in life is a process in motion. Without movement, advancement and progression, there is no life. Once a thing has ceased to progress, it is dead. In other words, as long as we live, you and I are always going to be heading somewhere, and we should be enjoying ourselves on the way.”

Don’t become so focused on the destination, you forget to enjoy the journey.

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Be A Winner


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

“Winners were not born winners; they learnt and practiced how to win and they have it! Everyone who gives a great testimony about his/her life begins with a beginning that was “inadequate” until something happened… an a breakthrough became evident!”

Winners truly believe; Losers only hope.  sportsachievements

Winners have a mission; Losers have excuses.

Winners maximize their strengths; Losers dwell on their weaknesses.

Winners commit to improve every day; Losers just go through the motions.

Winners make sacrifices for the team; Losers care only about themselves.

Winner says,”Let me do it for you; Loser says;” That is not my job.”

Winner sees an answer for every problem; Loser sees a problem for every answer.

Winner says,” It may be difficult but it is possible”; Loser says,”It may be possible but it is too difficult.”

When a Winner makes a mistake, he says,” I was wrong”; When a Loser makes a mistake, he says,” It wasn’t my fault.”

A Winner makes commitments; A Loser makes promises.

winner-vs-looserWinners say,” I must do something”; Losers say,”Something must be done.”

Winners are a part of the team; Losers are apart from the team.

 

Winners believe in win/win; Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.

 

Winners choose what they say; Losers say what they choose.

Winners use hard arguments but soft words; Losers use soft arguments but hard words.

Winners make it happen; Losers let it happen.

Carry a Winning Attitude because~ Attitude defines you!!! Attitude is everything…. !!!!!

“I will win~Not Immediately~But Definitely”

BE A WINNER!!!

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My memories keep asking about you all the time.


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart ♥♥♥

It was back in 2010, I went to Dindigul, Tamil Nadu to conduct of Personality Development Workshop. I met a beautiful girl in my workshops and i never knew that she will become one of my lifetime memory. Throughout the workshop, she is so calm without uttering a word. After the program, I returned to Hyderabad and then, on a fine day I got a message from her introducing herself. She said, she really loved the workshop , way I looked, my mannerism, way I addressed students and handled the workshop. Slowly our conversations grew and she became my lifetime favourite character. I wouldn’t like to share the complete story, reason I want it to be known to my Heart alone forever. She used to call me Khadakan (means one who wears ear ring).

After many years, recently I got a message from her. She got married and started a new life. I am so happy for her. But somewhere, I know I am not happy to see her in someones life. Even today I admire, like and love her for the person she is and for the care and love she pours on me. She deserves a better life. I truly believe that while the memories and the voice may have disappeared over the years, in those last moments it is as though it all comes back.

As a blogger, many-times I attempted to put into words my thoughts about you, but I failed to do so. Really I don’t know if I can properly describe and convey to you the feelings of my heart? I know in my mind, that my life is enormously better with you in it; that you are good, and true, and honest, and loving and so much fun. Deep in my being and soul there is so much more–a sense, an emotion, a feeling that is beyond description. It is love, truly, but how does one describe that? Perhaps if I were a songwriter, I could put my feelings into music. If I were a painter, I could paint a lovely picture. My only hope is this–that you feel in your heart what I feel in mine–beyond description, beyond words, beyond true comprehension and know that this mutual feeling is a gift given to us to last for our lives and to eternity.

I Might Have Erased Ur Text. But I Will Never
Forget What U Wrote.
I May Never See You Again
But
I Will Never Forget Ur Picture.
We Might Have Stopped Talking. But I Will Never Forget Ur Voice.
I Will Never Forget Our Bond I Will Never
Forget U.

Whenever you come into my mind, i recall these heart touching lines.

Somewhere in my thoughts there lives a lady
She’s walking back and forth across my mind
Blocking out each chance of me forgetting
Assuring me she’ll be there for sometimeHer golden hair is tied around my memory
The pain she left with me is here to stay
I’m doing all I can to go on living
And yet I die a little more each dayNow that I’m alone with just her memory
I’ve had sometime for counting my mistakes
Loving her stands out among the others
And that was one I really had to makeFunny how some thoughts can be so painful
And how they just refuse to go away
I’m doing all I can to go on living
And yet I die a little more each day She lets me die a little more each day

Some visuals make me think about my own memories and life experiences and I can’t help but wonder if I could only keep one memory, which one would it be? Until then, I choose to relive them often while I still can, continue to make many more, and remember to be thankful and grateful for every single thing my life has blessed me with.

You are defined as my unspoken truth hidden behind my Heart 💖

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Life is short. Time is fast. No replay. No rewind


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. We all have the power to shape our day and our life, so no matter what is happening in our lives we can make the decision to be happy and enjoy every moment . You are here in this world for a short period of time. Therefore, you must enjoy each and every single moment of your life. If you don’t want to enjoy your life then you are no more a living person.

 Life is short. Time is fast. No replay. No rewind. So enjoy every moment as it comes.

 Get up early in the morning. Go for a swift walk. Enjoy listening to the chattering of birds. Enjoy looking at the beautiful colourful IMG_20150103_131635-001flowers. Do some workout/stretching in the nearby park. Fill your lungs with pollution free fresh air. Isn’t it all exciting and enjoyable.

 Enjoy your breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day so your breakfast must include a variety of nourishing food such as fruit, juice, milk, bread, cereals, egg, jam, jelly, honey, dried nuts, tea, coffee etc.

 Enjoy your work. Start your work by saying hello to everyone in the office. Pass some positive remarks about your colleagues. Be crazy and make a lively, healthy environment. Enjoy talking to your clients, colleagues, friends and family members. Make every effort to complete your work in time.

 Enjoy every single bite of your lunch. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat in a tension-free and stress-free atmosphere. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat the kind of food that is light on stomach but quite nourishing so that you get the much needed physical as well as emotional energy, during the day.

 After satisfactorily finishing your work, it’s now time to leave office and enjoy. Enjoy your leisure time in the manner you wish to enjoy by involving yourself in activities like reading, writing, studying, swimming, boating, dancing, visiting friends, learning new skills, playing outdoors, playing indoors, watching TV , watching movies, listening to your favourite music, enjoying food in your favourite restaurant, going on long drive, etc.

 Don’t engage yourself in activities that can bring problems to your life. Don’t invite trouble. Live a disease-free, smoke-free, stress-free and drugs-free life. Don’t involve yourself in any criminal activities and don’t do anything that is illegal or immoral.

IMG_20150104_120831692-001 Now and then plan for outings or tours with your family & friends. It helps you in coming out of the normal routine life. Leave all your worries and enjoy every moment like kid

 Difficult times in life come and go but keep your spirits high even in the worst type of crisis. Face challenges of life with courage and a positive state of mind. Take lessons from your past mistakes but don’t feel guilty. Laugh at silly things and enjoy life. Laughter is the best medicine.

 It is my own experience that you get the best kind of enjoyment when you help those who are helpless and look towards you for help. I personally feel great excited when I am able to help such people. There is nothing more enjoyable than enabling other people enjoy their lives. Enjoy your own life and let others enjoy theirs.

You will not live forever, so till you are alive, enjoy every moment of your life from the core of your heart.

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I’m So Sorry My Love


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article was written by Nikila…

My dear Aryan(name was changed),

I hope you forgive me and, please, read this letter till the end. I just want to say I`m sorry; all I want is to tell you that I made a big mistake when I decided to break up with you and this mistake has made me hurt and cry too much. I get emotional at least 5 times a day and struggle daily to not contact you.

The past three years held some of the greatest moments of my life and it was all because of you. Somewhere along the line I stopped realizing how amazing you were and took you for granted. I cheated and even though I realized I was wrong and ended it I still lied to you. It hurts so much knowing that this pain I’m feeling is coming directly from my actions.  i_miss_u__source.jpg_480_480_0_64000_0_1_0

I know I did wrong, but believe me when I say that I made a mistake, I was confused and unsure of want I wanted. The moment we broke up I realized, in truth, that you are the only who can make me happy…

Please don`t take my apologies as yet another selfish attitude, and as if I`m only thinking about myself; if you`re noble enough to forgive me you`ll find out that I can really make you very happy too!

I know you must be upset and I can perfectly understand why. I`m aware of the extent of my mistake and I`ve even tried to put myself in your shoes. I understand the sad and uneasy situation that I`ve put you through just because of a slip up but mostly because of my childishness and insecurity. But I trust you have a big heart and soul. And I honestly wish you could give me another chance, one last chance to make your feel happy and very much loved.

Please, reply quickly, by letter or by phone!

A kiss filled with love and my most sincere apologies

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✿ ATTITUDE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE ✿


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by MATT…

Attitude is such a little thing that makes a major difference.  There are many factors that determine ones success throughout life, however, I strongly believe that having the right attitude towards life, yourself, and others is one of the greatest factors of all. attitude

The right attitude can take you to the top of your profession. The right attitude can build powerful marriages.  The right attitude can create an everlasting legacy.  The right attitude can bring out the best in others.  The right attitude can spark hope in those who are in need.

Some of the biggest achievements in history were made by men and women who understood the importance of attitude.  A good portion of the population will look at these accomplishments and think, “Wow, how in the world did they do that?”  We tend to believe these men and women have been blessed with a special gift over the rest of us.  That there is no way we could ever do something that remarkable.  And it’s that type of mental attitude that will leave you searching and wishing for more in life.  Never creating and leaving a legacy of your own.

YOU have ultimate control over your attitude.  YOU aren’t any different from the next person.  YOU have the ability to live your dream and create whatever it is you desire.  It all comes down to YOUR attitude.  Why is it that some can earn an extraordinary amount of money with very little education?  Why can some defeat such odds and go on to be some of the worlds greatest achievers?  Simple.  The attitude they chose.  You have two options.  To choose a positive and resilient attitude despite any hardship you encounter along the way, or to allow life’s minor mishaps to negatively shape your attitude.  And what you choose will greatly determine the quality of life your life.

When you choose a positive attitude, no goal or dream is out of reach.  If it has been done before, then you darn well know you can do the same.  Someone with a negative attitude loves to play the blame game.  The economy limits their financial goals.  Circumstances limit their vision for what they can accomplish.

The only thing that separates you from those who are living a happy, abundant, and successful life is whether you decide to choose a positive or negative attitude.  Take advantage of your power and the ability to choose whatever attitude it is you desire.  But just know that such a little thing…… makes such a major difference!

Attitude affects our every aspect of life. Happiness is the product of our attitudes because right attitudes will produce right actions. Only right actions can make us happy. If we have the right attitude we will see the invisible, feel the intangible and achieve the impossible. Having positive attitudes is a sure way to succeed in life. It is a sure way to long and cheerful life.

Let us opt for a great attitude to have a great life.

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Posted by on July 25, 2014 in Life & It's Importance

 

My First Love called me Munna


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Yesterday, during one of discussions with my Stakeholders, I was asked how did I have a unique Surname  Munna. I simply smiled at him and continued my discussion. He interrupted me and asked the same question again.

Unknowingly, an angel called Nikki flashed in my mind. Nikki, she is the amazing girl who entered and left my life  unknowingly. In the last 20 years, thousands of people asked me the same question during my colleges days, Trainings, guest lectures, office place etc. Answer is simple and straightforward. My First love used to call me by name Munna.MunnaPrawinI love you”- a sacred phrase that was already made before each of us was born. It may sometimes be hard to explain, hard to say and hard to express, but it will always be easy to feel. I didn’t believe in such feeling as love ever, not so long until I met somebody, who changed my life and made me utter these words with no doubt, no hesitation, just love. First love is an experience that you get only once because it’s filled with emotions that you feel for the very first time. Enter into your life, from out of nowhere, this new person. BOOM! You can’t explain quite why, but you just know there’s something super-special about them. Thrilling, perhaps. Your beloved is an angel.

When Nikki was two days shy of her 15th birthday the night I kissed her for the first time. Her name was Nikki. It was July 18, 1999, and as we are walking back from school in the evening, I stopped her by holding the hand and kissed her — full-mouthed and everything I dreamed of and more. She was so shocked and inexperienced that she kept her eyes open at first, not sure what to do or where to put her hands. All I can feel is good, like eating ice cream on a summer night.

I had never been kissed before. Not a peck on the cheek. The kiss led to more dates, made us more close that and my girl used to hold my hands as we walked out of high school and the next thing I knew, I had a girlfriend. You will never kiss anyone again like how you kiss someone when you’re in high school. Remember this. There is something innocent and passionate about the high-school sweetheart relationship.

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Everyone who falls in love for the first time thinks that his or her respective romance is far superior than everyone else’s, by the way. Sure, other people have first loves—but they cannot hold a candle to yours. You and your beloved are unique. No one else can feel these particular emotions. Oh, no. You alone own these one-of-a-kind feelings that no other human will ever know. And you feel them potently.

That’s first love for you. It’s awesome. It’s wonderful. It’s a mirage. It’s innocent, because for a brief time, you truly do believe that you are special and unique. (This is actually your brain chemicals playing a nifty little trick on you to get you to reproduce and perpetuate the species—but you don’t know of such banalities yet.)

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Think of first love as your very first time riding an airplane. It’s magical. A little scary, maybe? You don’t know what to expect, what comes next. Part of the thrill is feeling the plane take off from the tarmac for the first time and edging into the sky. I like to think of first love as a lot like that plane ride—young lovers are focused on the thrill of their journey. They’re not really too concerned about where they end up.

They could end up in a tropical paradise, although that’s a long shot. More likely, they end up in a depressing third-world country without enough money to get back home. Many first love experiences are tumultuous, peppered with arguments and discord. Young lovers don’t realise  that this is not normal and remain slaves to their feelings. Sometimes for years.

Once you get older, you realise  that the journey is important only insofar that it serves a function to get you to a specific place. But it’s where you end up together that’s far more important. Most young people are unqualified to make that assessment, which makes marrying their first love one big crapshoot.

I don’t regret having a first love—it was a positive, wonderful experience. But I’m relieved that we didn’t end up together. Our lives diverged wildly, and we’re nothing like the young adults we were back in the day.

I have since had loves that were mature and based on things of substance—agreed-on values, morals, and lifestyles. Those relationships made my first love affair seem rather silly by comparison.

Silly, but relevant, because it was my first. Lastly, she is no more in my life and on this earth, but she stays in my memories forever. Years later, now I am father of my two, I look back on my first love as the relationship that catapulted me into all the others — the one that prepared me for all the ups and downs of love and life that would lie ahead.

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Proud To Be Your Daughter


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Daughter of a Lovely Father…..

 The greatest gift I ever had, Came from God; I call him Father!  

He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.

There will always be a few people who have the courage to love what is untamed inside us. One of those men is my father.

Who Is A Father?            DSC00444

A Father is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.

A Father is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

A Father is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail…

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me

FATHER I take this opportunity to say
BIG Thank you for what you have made
my life to be from the word go to this time.
I say thank you Father.
Happy Father’s Day 

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Tribute to Women


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

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The first face……The first touch….The first love……he first affection…The first hug

Mother…………….. A women.

 Do I need to say about “the first” anymore??

This is a tribute to our mothers, grandmothers and sisters or the women who have come and gone throughout centuries and the women who are here today taking their place; women like you and me.

This is a tribute to women from all walks of life. No matter where they came from or what position or status they held, these are women who have toiled the soil for most if not all their living years. These are the women who worked for hours, days, even years, often non-stop, pouring their sweat, sometimes their heart into what they felt needed to be done. Some of these women got to see the fruit of their hard labor while others didn’t. One thing is clear though, no matter what little satisfaction they got or didn’t get out of it, they still got the job done otherwise you and I wouldn’t be here today living the life we lead.

Throughout time these women have done their share of the work often quietly and sometimes not so quietly, at times, even with a lot of anguish and despair too But in the end they did the work because they knew if they didn’t, no one else would.

While some of these women chose the work they gave their time and effort, more often than not, they didn’t have the luxury of choice. Many felt their work was their fate and so it was only their duty to accept it and carry it out. Perhaps as a result, many also carried the burden of resentment. But they still stayed and did the work and quietly buried their grief within themselves. Some carried their grief and resentment into their graves, or maybe it was the grief and the resentment that finally carried them to their graves. Either way, many left and still leave today with a heavy heart and a silent voice. This is a tribute to all these women who have come and gone, and those who are here today doing the work but are rarely seen, recognized or acknowledged for their share.

Though these women come from all races, religions, sects and cultures, we are able to relate to them as our own mothers, sisters, aunts, and grandmothers. This strong kinship always existed among women. No matter from what part of the world we come from, whenever we hear about another woman who may be lost her life to cancer, we let out a deep sigh of despair for we only know too well of the pain that finally took her precious life. We know her as our own because her pain is our pain.

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So let us come together, pay tribute and celebrate the lives of these women through celebrating our own precious lives. Let us celebrate our own talents and unique qualities and give ourselves the acknowledgment and the recognition due for our efforts and hard work however big or small. Let us recognize and honor the mother, the sister, the aunt and the grandmother within ourselves and within each other and remember that like a burning candle that illuminated the dark, we too need to honor and cherish the light within ourselves and each other for giving light to the world around us.

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Posted by on March 7, 2014 in Life & It's Importance

 

Motherhood is a Gift


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Woman, you are amazing!

From the first presentation of woman to man in the Garden of Eden, the gift of who you are is nothing less than “wow!” Your dignity comes from the gift of your being, and the gift of your being created feminine. images (2)

Man saw your profound and complementary gifts right away, and rejoiced. In God’s first act of blessing humanity, the creator smiled upon and blessed the union of the first couple, encouraging them be fertile and multiply

There’s no mistaking biology. Womanly bodies are wonderfully made, and purposefully created with an empty space of a womb carried under her heart. A woman’s womb, her uterus, signals that she is made for something and someone more than herself. This reality touches a woman at her very core — physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

What’s more, a pregnant mother is entrusted with carrying an immortal soul besides her own — a soul that is destined for eternity. That’s why a woman really needs to be aware of the dignity of her feminine creation, and the sublime gift of her maternity, so she can confer that dignity on her child, and upon others through her love of life.

The gift of maternity is inherent in all women. They are predisposed to motherhood by their design. Yet, as we know, not all women bear children. Even if a woman never gives birth, a woman’s life is still inclined toward mothering. All women are entrusted with the call to care for the people within their sphere of influence. This broadens our ideas of maternity beyond gestation and lactation.

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Yes, women! Your womb is a marvelous gift, meant to be used as a tool to bear and bear a

nd bear until you die of it, with no concern whatsoever for anything else you might do with your life, for your ability to care for those children, or for what it costs you or your existing family! We’ll give lip service to your selfless devoted work raising all th

Your brain, ignore and throw away in favor of mindless obedience. Any other gifts you might have, throw away in favor of mindless and continual morality. You are a breeding machine – this is a marvelous thing to be! Cherish it! Love it! Never ever dare to do or want anything other than motherhood, because your womb should be in charge of your life, not your mind or heart or talents.ose kids (assuming you have any energy left after bearingbearingbearing until you die of it), but we won’t actually allow you any discretion as to how or when or how often to do it, not unless you want to swear lifelong celibacy (and can get your husband to approve).

Cherish Motherhood!! 🙂

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Is Beauty a Joy Forever?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Article by Susheel…

A picture speaks louder than thousand words.

A motion picture speaks the loudest …

imagesThe phrase that often comes is ‘is advertising reflects the society or society reflects in advertising?

but the truth :advertising is reinforcing a stereotypical image of women in society.

Is Beauty a Joy Forever? yes,young women as models are always objectifying in adds…

A bikini model walks out of water on to the beach…. and u may ask “what wrong?”.. not until u know the product it was promoting is-an Indian cement brand.and the voice over said ‘vishwas hai, isme kush kas hey.’

Not just this there are product categories that often stereotype women.many deodorants ads,for instance ,make us believe that if  you wear them you become a chick magnet.It is not just in India.. objectifying women ,also obviously seen in developed  countries as well.Advertisers use beautiful women to attract attention to products because they believe the beautiful are credible, desirable, and aspiration. But these advertisers has to stop looking at the thinking subject and concentrate on the” humanity subject and how to define “beauty”.

Most of the brands have consciously checked the way they portrait the women in their communication.brands like images (3),tata,nirma have done great work demolish the type cast.

Advertisers and Agencies both need to carefully look into content and context.”The creative person writing the copy has a blank paper in front , and they have a choice.”

they can choose to write about a girl who is presented as a gift to the boy who wins a bike ride, or they can write about a girl riding a bike.

Because the creative people have the power to influence mindsets and change behaviors. So realize that you have options and can choose to tell better stories.

And as individuals it is we who has to decide what to encourage and what not to……

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Cherish Womanhood!!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

It’s Chetan Bhagat’ s Article in TOI : Specially for Indian Women. Do Read it and share it with all the women you know..

Courage, sacrifice, determination, commitment, toughness, heart, talent, guts… that’s what some woman are made of! 1601025_815849185097517_1558522187_n

A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I’m biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends – we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels.

One, don’t ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn’t like you? That’s her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn’t value you -tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand.

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network – figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can’t score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don’t make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don’t work until midnight and don’t get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don’t get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbor may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don’t – big deal. Do your best, but don’t keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don’t expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain – stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don’t want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world.

Cherish Womanhood!!

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Posted by on February 3, 2014 in Life & It's Importance

 

♥♥Have a Prosperous Year♥♥


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Dear All,

“May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art — write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself. I hope the year to add, everlasting memories to your life’s journey”
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Let us avoid negative, arrogant and noisy people
Let us unite, positive, modest and wise people
Let us help as much as we can all those in need
May there be freedom for men, women, children and animals
May there be a fair share of knowledge and welfare
May we respect all those who are different from us
May we all refuse to send our children to silly wars
May we quietly, non-violently and wisely act
May we open our hearts, spread and be guided by love
May we succeed to keep our dignity in all circumstances
May we stop producing stuff that affects our health
May we learn how to cure diseases’ and relieve the pain
May we demand and elect governments based on this values

♥♥♥♥Happiness keeps you sweet, Trials make you strong, Sorrows make you humble, Success keeps you glowing & your determination keeps you going. May you have a greatest 2014….Ur’s …Munn@Pr@win♥♥♥♥

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Listen to Her


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

“Intellectually, mentally, and spiritually, woman is equivalent to a male and she can participate in every activity.” But ….

Woman don’t always get the respect that they deserve. This being said, it is this articles opinion that there are many who do respect woman, although perhaps they do not know how to show it properly. Here are a few steps and tips. Please keep in mind that this article is for showing respect to all woman, not just a special one or two.

Steps

Don’t talk with your back to her and make eye contact. Remember that it is very important to face the direction of your conversation and make eye contact with woman that is either talking to you or when you are talking to them. People tend to become relaxed around familiar people and as such we sometimes forget the small things.
Don’t interrupt her. Let her finish talking to you and then reply, even if half way through you think you know where the conversation is heading. Chances are she is talking to you about a subject because it is important. By listening to her you can acknowledge that her information is important to you. Also you might find that you missed out on an important point that she might have picked up about the subject of conversation.
Give valid arguments. When in conversation about a certain topic, give valid arguments about the points raised. Don’t insult a woman’s intelligence by being sarcastic about the subject because you might believe that she wouldn’t know about it.
Give constructive compliments. When a woman does something or add to something that helped anything improve, acknowledge her for it. It doesn’t always need to be done publicly unless the rest of the team gets praised the same way. Recognize her verbally or via email or what ever means you see fit and proper for the work that she has put in to it.
Ask her opinion about important matters. There is nothing in this world that feels better than when you are sitting at work and someone in a higher position comes up to you and seriously asks for your opinion, listens to you and thanks you for your input. (this doesn’t just apply to woman, but to most men too)Even at home, let her know that her opinion counts and that her input is taken seriously.
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Happy Ugadi !!!!♥♥♥♥


Dear All,
The festival of Ugadi heralds the beginning Telugu & Kannada New Year and is celebrated all over AndhraPradesh & Karnataka with traditional fervor. The word ‘Ugadi’ is derived from the Sanskrit word ‘Yugadi’, which means ‘beginning of a new Yuga or era’. Ugadi is the first day of new year in the states AndhraPradesh, Karnataka, Maharashtra and Goa.

Happy Ugadi To U & all your family members

Symbolic Eating of a Dish with Six Tastes: The eating of a specific mixture of six tastes , called Ugadi Pachhadi in Telugu and Bevu-Bella in Kannada,symbolizes the fact that life is a mixture of different experiences (sadness, happiness, anger, fear, disgust, surprise) , which should be accepted together and with equanimity through the New Year.

The Special Mixture consists of:
1.Neem Buds/Flowers for its bitterness, signifying Sadness
2.Jaggery and ripe banana pieces for sweetness, signifying Happiness
3.Green Chilli/Pepper for its hot taste, signifying Anger
4.Salt for saltiness, signifying Fear
5.Tamarind Juice for its sourness, signifying Disgust
6.Unripened Mango for its tang, signifying Surprise

May this Ugadi bring in you the brightest and choicest happiness and love you have ever wished for..

           U – Ultimate G – Glorious A – Amazing D – Days r  I – in front of  U         

         Happy Ugadi! to you & all your family members!!!!!!!

             ♥♥♥  Happiness keeps you sweet, Trials make you strong, Sorrows make you humble, Success keeps you glowing & your determination keeps you going. May you have a greatest year Ahead…Ur’s  SCF Team  ♥♥♥

 
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Posted by on April 11, 2013 in Life & It's Importance

 

Man who Programmed his LIFE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From students of PSNA college..

Prawin, the day I met you during a training program in my college, my first impression is you are so handsome with unique dressing, silver rings, bracelets and earring. You are first crush in my life and to many others in PSNA college 2011 BE batch. When you started the training program, you looked like an Idiot who is speaking so arrogant and have no respect towards girls. By the end of 3 day training event, you looked something special to me and many of my friends. As it is a college with many students who girls,  many of my friends started to admire you for your looks, your attitude, your teaching skills and love you poured on us. After journey with you and by seeing and listening to people about you, I understood I am totally wrong for taking u wrong on day 1. From then, every-time I used to get surprised with your lectures, articles and with your Gutso nature. You are unique in way you speak, behave, give lectures, work, treat others, learn, eat, live your life… I mean  WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.05.26 PMeverything grabbed the attention of people around you. People like you are actually a very rare gem. You might not actually have a bad personality, but it can be so intense that other people often feel the need to give you a wide berth. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should change who you are. You just need to understand that people will often misunderstand you.It could be the energy around you, it could also be a peculiar personality trait that rubs people the wrong way.

Out of my curiosity of attraction or love, I did lot of analysis and found some interesting and hidden points about your personality. For those who possess a deeper personality, you may actually be scaring people off just by being yourself! You are like a Humanoid/ a programmed human. 

Prawin, You possess a deep personality, you are like a diamond in the rough – the honest, reliable, forward-thinking type of person that makes this world a better place. However, not everyone is going to understand how your mind works. There are many people out there who are willing to settle for far less, and your intensity threatens the simplicity of the world that they have created.

You do things with gusto. You believe that you only live once, and therefore, you make an effort to live life to the fullest. Many people don’t do things in the same manner, and they will therefore not get why you do it. But take heart, there will be people who understand your passion, and you can hold on to them.

You Never encourage shallow relationships. You’re not the kind of person who is going to enjoy a one-night stand or a casual fling. If you get into a relationship, you’re all in. You want to connect with someone on a deep level, establishing a meaningful relationship, and anything less is a waste of time in your opinion. As a person with a deep personality, you expect others to give as you give, but you’ll soon be disappointed when you find that many people are only “deep” on the surface” and that it is difficult for people to keep up the ruse over time.

You are incredibly open-minded. Too many people have masked closed-mindedness today with the illusion that they are merely staying true to their morals and beliefs rather than admitting they simply haven’t tried to understand. Instead, you are open to trying to understand new ideas, concepts and ways of living. You may not agree, but you’re always willing to learn more.

IMG_1023You are brutally honest.When it comes down to it, you don’t have time to waste beating around the bush. It’s why people both love and hate you. You don’t bother to sugar coat things, and see your honesty as a positive trait about you. Don’t worry, it is, but many people are not going to like it when you tell it like it is, especially if it’s a hard truth about themselves they don’t want to admit.

You always have a clear picture of what you want. Knowing what you want means you can get to work faster. This means that people will be always in your dust. Your goals are always a top priority which can lead you to say or do things in your quest to achieve success that will make others feel uncomfortable. When you speak your mind you are capable of achieving those goals and that makes people pretty uncomfortable; especially when they are comparing themselves to you and your amazing self. Just be careful not to be too goal focused or you can lose sight of the beauty in the little moments in between.

Your habits are programmed. Schedules and consistency are your friends, creating a solid and predictable foundation upon which you can build your life. You like to know what to expect and how you should prepare for it, and you have no interest in surprises.

You are a solution for problems. If you’re in a difficult situation, you’re not the kind of person who is going to sit around wallowing in the struggle you’ve been handed. Instead, you will instantly get to work trying to find a solution to the problem, working on getting yourself out of there and on to better things.

You like consistency. Your deep personality requires some maintenance and that means that you don’t like surprises. You expect people to do what they said they would do, and you always deliver on your promises in return. When someone rocks the boat, it can be hard for your emotional thought process to handle, and that means that you need longer to deal with life’s problems. But that’s okay, it also means you get to spend more time working through things that others would just glaze over.

Your life isn’t fear driven. Every human being experiences fear. For some people, it can stop them from living a full life. But you’re different. Fear is just another annoying emotion you’ve chosen to accept and move on from. You understand that you will undoubtedly experience fear when you try something new, but you also know that trying new things is what makes life fun and rewarding. After all, growth only happens when you escape your comfort zone.

You aren’t afraid of intimacy. You never seen feeling uncomfortable in expressing love or your feelings. I still remember you sharing your first kiss incident. You want to share your life with someone who understands you at your deepest core. ThaWhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PM(2)t can be hard .But it doesn’t mean that you will never find it. It’s surprising how many people in today’s society claim to understand the importance of intimacy and then shy away from it completely when the opportunity presents itself.

You are incredibly intense in all that you do.You are too intense for some people. You love life and you love living life to the fullest.You intend on living life to the fullest, experiencing everything available. This causes you to lead your life with a level of intensity that most will fail to understand. The few who understand you will share your passion for finding enjoyment in every moment, those are the people you need to surround yourself with.

You cannot shut your mouth.While this may come across to others like you are  interrogating them, the truth is that you want to get to know them on a deeper and more meaningful level. You aren’t asking for manipulative reasons or to find out information you can use to your benefit later, you genuinely want to understand others better and asking questions is the best way to learn more.

You hate waiting in life. Sure, you understand the importance of friendship and companionship but when it comes down to it, you have places to go and things to accomplish. If someone is going to waste your time or leave you waiting around waiting for them to recognize what you have to offer, you have better things to do. You’ll simply walk away and devote that time and energy into those who are ready.

You are like a human lie detector. When someone is being insincere or dishonest, it’s like a red light goes off in your mind warning you that they are screwing around. As someone who values honest, as we previously discussed, there’s nothing you see as a bigger deal breaker than someone who tells lies. You have no interest in sticking around for those that don’t respect you enough to be transparent with you.

You are careful who you let into your life. You only want to spend time with people who actually add to your life. After all, what good is a friend if they don’t make your life better? Yes, you’re intense when it comes to adhering to these principles, but it’s the best way for you to live a great life.

WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PMYou hate ignorance. You cannot tolerate the feeling of being ignored by your beloved ones. Your critical thinking skills are something you’re immensely proud of. So when people make judgments without knowing the facts, it irks you to your core.

You love learning and expanding your mind. You are book worm not reading books alone, but peoples lives as well. Your deep and complex mind needs new information to feed itself. You love learning new things and expanding your knowledge about the world and the universe.

You don’t need attention. Craving attention because of your looks is something you simply can’t understand. You’d rather live with integrity and keep your complexity and depth about you. That’s why you take the time to get to know someone. You know there’s much more to a person than what appears on the surface. This can be intimidating to some people because you won’t be manipulated by what appears on the outside. You see them for who they truly are.

I watched this video about you. The reason nobody doesn’t understand you is that you try to be the different one and perhaps you don’t want to be understood. There’s nothing wrong with being different, it’s good to be you and unique. If you weren’t different, we’d all be the same and that’s not fun nor worth it. Many people in this world  won’t understand you like me in the first meet, but that isn’t a bad thing, But that doesn’t make you less of who you are.

MunnaPrawin, you are very unique and special to me. You are unique breed of human with so many attractive and inspiring traits. Never change yourself for anyone. Let people leave you, but never leave yourself. Remember your words, If a day comes where, I have to change ME to impress this world, that means I am dead.Remember these words forever and never change. One last thing, you may have heard this word from many, but i wanna say that I love you till my last breath. Yours loving AkshayaAryan.

 

 

 

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Enhance your Communication with Mother


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared. Before its late, let the woman in your life know how much they mean to you by showering them with love, kind words. Aunts, sisters, grandmothers and daughters deserve special appreciation for all that they do.

It is Dedicated to every Daughter/Son of a mom — Mothers of babies, mothers of grown children, mothers who lost their babies before they were born, mothers who are yet to be, single mothers, married mothers. Enjoy the precious gift.

I am writing this article with the experiences of me, experiences of people around me & content that is collected across the globe.

Like all the Daughters/Sons, I love my mom very much, but I failed to express it. Due to small misunderstandings, arguments to some extent I missed my mom’s love. After self realization I got back to mom with love for love.

Mother-daughter relationships are complex and diverse.There also are ups and downs, no matter how positive (or prickly) the relationship

Whatever your relationship with your mother or daughter, you can always make improvements. Here’s how to enhance your communication and connection and cut down on clashes.

 

Don’t wait to make first Move:

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. Doing so inevitably leaves relationships stuck. “Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.”

Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. “In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels,” . “What happens as a result is they don’t communicate.” Or they communicate harshly, in ways they’d never “dare speak to everyone else,” which causes hurt feelings that “don’t go away so easily,” .Instead of harshly dismissing your mom (or ignoring her calls), communicate what works best, such as: “If you want to talk on the phone, the best time is in the morning. But if you want to reach me during the day [with something] more urgent, just text me.” 

Change yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. But you aren’t chained to their actions; you can change your own reactions and responses. Interestingly, this can still alter your relationship. Think of it as a dance, . When one person changes their steps, the dance inevitably changes.

Be an active listener.

Active listening is “reflecting back what the other person is saying,” instead of assuming you already know, . When you reflect back what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.

Also, listen “to the feelings underlying the message,” which is often the real message, . If “mom says, ‘you’re acting like a doormat,’ the daughter hears that as being horribly critical [and that she’s not good enough], but what the mom is really saying is, ‘I feel so protective of you because you’re not protecting yourself.’”

Repair damage quickly.

“One of the key principles in sustaining healthy and satisfying marriages is to repair damage quickly,” . Healthy couples don’t avoid conflict. They realize conflict is inevitable and they deal with it head on. This applies to mother and daughter relationships, too.

Not resolving conflict can have surprising consequences. “If you don’t deal with your mom by resolving conflict, you’re going to carry those same patterns into your future relationships,” whether that’s with your friends, partner or boss, .

Learn to forgive.

Forgiveness is “an individual act. It differs from reconciliation, which takes both people and isn’t always possible. Forgiving someone isn’t saying that what happened is OK. It’s not condoning, pardoning or minimizing the impact.

“I suggest all daughters you have to forgive your mom in order to be healthy.” “The power of forgiveness is really for the person who forgives.”

“The better you can forgive, the better you can repair damage quickly,”

Don’t bring in third parties.

It’s common for mothers and daughters to bring someone else into their conflict. A daughter might involve dad because mom is driving her crazy. Mom might involve another child because she feels like she can’t talk to her daughter. Either way, talk directly to the person.

Finally, ask yourself if you’re OK with your relationship and your actions.

Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. When her kids were young, I found myself setting up this unrealistic belief during their nightly reading time.

Stick to the present.

Moms and daughters tend to have “an old argument that runs like a broken record in the background,” . It becomes their default disagreement. Instead, avoid “bring[ing] up old gripes from the past,” and try to focus on the present.

Balance individuality and closeness.

It can be challenging for daughters to build their own identities. Sometimes daughters think that in order to become their own person, they must cut off from their moms, . Or, quite the opposite, they’re so fused that they’re unable to make decisions without her input, . Both are clearly problematic.

But daughters can find their voices and identities within the relationship. We learn how to deal with conflict and negative emotions through our families, . “You don’t grow and develop and become your own person void of relationships.”

Put yourself in her shoes.

If you’re a daughter, think of your mom as a woman with her “own wounds and hurts,” who was born and raised in a different generation with different values and difficult family relationships and issues.

If mom really wants to hang out, instead of saying “Stop asking me, you know I’m busy,” say, “I know how much you want to meet with me, and I wish I could but I can’t do it this week; can we do it next week?”

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..

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The Art of saying “NO”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel & MunnaPrawin….  

“No” is a simple, two letter word that can save you time, energy and precious resources when you know when and how to use it purposefully at correct time, in a correct way with the right people.

Inability to say “No” can bring a lot of harm. Being assertive is one of the toughest things for many people.  Saying no is indeed a major challenge for most people. I am telling this with my personal experience.

From last 15 years, I said yes to 95% of invites and pleas for help, regardless of how much I already had on my plate. I used to say … I’ll do it. I can help no problem. I am there for you.  Don’t worry..Sure, why not? I used to schedule things back to back to back and I used to drive myself crazy fitting it all in.

I began to feel anxious and tired instead of feeling joy as I approached the weekend. That simply would not do. Re-evaluation was in order.

That is why I am sure everyone mustn’t hesitate to say “No” in appropriate situation.

 We say ‘Yes’ when we really want to say ‘No’. We all do it very often.

Here are few situations:

A corporate person says” It was a party meeting, I couldn’t say no when the delegates forced me to take alcohol and puff the cigar.”

A college going student says “I used bear the physical harassment by my faculty, because I have fear of losing marks.”

A bride says” I was proposed to the one whom I am not interested but I don’t want to trouble my parents.”

A lover says “my girlfriend is need of money but I have no single pie to help her. If I say it may hurt our relationship so somehow I need to sort out this problem.”

A lady says “I get upset over certain topics to discuss but when I am subjected with the people I couldn’t say to excuse me from the discussion.”

An UN-matured girl says “I got into physical relationship with my boyfriend, because I have fear of losing his care, love.”

A person says “I know in long run my ‘yes’ results a failure but I don’t want to hurt then now so I couldn’t say ‘no’.”

An employee says “my boss expects me provide every time the resources which is my hard earned effort and dwindling time. It cause me inconvenience but I fear to say that I can’t provide”

A friend says “I am already full with my important schedules but my friend want to me to join his party .I don’t want to disappoint him. So, I couldn’t say that I cannot attend his party.”
“No” is a word that can save you time, energy and precious resources when you know when and how to use it purposefully. But many people like me have a difficult time saying “no” because they sincerely want to help and don’t want to disappoint others. So they take on more than they can handle, compromising the quality of performance, neglecting their own priorities, and burying themselves under mountains of responsibilities, tasks and activities that will never lead to their ultimate vision. That’s why it’s important to know when to say “no” – so rather than react to other’s demands, you respond based on your values and priorities.

I pride myself on being productive and extremely efficient all these years, maximizing my time. But even I know it’s impossible to do all of those things and say yes to all invites too. I can’t say yes to everything anymore I don’t want to.  I can’t do anything as I done in past. I’d rather just say I’m sorry, I can’t. It’s just that simple.

One of the biggest reasons people have a difficult time saying “no” is because they haven’t clarified their own intention; other people’s goals become more important than their own in the absence of a specific vision.

Learning to say “no” to non-essential tasks creates a path to freedom and success. It will clear your schedule of mental clutter so you can harness your life force and focus your attention on the realization of your goals. Having a clear vision and a strong sense of purpose gives you the discernment to know which actions yield the greatest return on investment for your time, energy and resources.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — it can be through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

For most of us, having to say ‘no’ somehow feels like a rejection, so we hate to do it. Instead, too many people just say ‘yes,’ and regret it afterward. So here are some tips that I have accumulated over the years that can help you say the right thing the right way:

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

Maybe you’re like me and you need to cut down on some of the activities you do. Well, here are a few tips on how you can do that:

 

Give yourself time to think. Before responding with an enthusiastic ‘yes’ that you never meant, or a cryptic ‘no’ that will ruin a relationship, ask for time to mull it over. It’s acceptable business practice to say that you need to check your calendar first, or pass the request by other principles before deciding. Commit a date for the final decision.

Make the ‘no’ a function of your constraints. Emphasize that the rejection has more to do with your priorities, budget limitations, and workload, rather than any inherent flaw in their request. In this context, encourage a return discussion as some specific point in the future, or with some specific variation.

Be logical, calm, and concise. Choose your words wisely to avoid conflict and a defensive or emotional reaction, but make sure the answer is clear and understood.

Be firm — not defensive or overly apologetic — and polite. This gives the signal that you       are sympathetic, but will not easily change your mind if pressured.

Explicitly evaluate the pros and cons. First, make sure you understand the full implications of a simple yes or no response. Every ‘no’ answer reduces the likelihood of another opportunity along the same lines, while every ‘yes’ answer increases your workload and the probability of burnout on your long list of critical items.

  Make sure you’re actually saying “no”. Make no mistake about it, no is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When it’s time to say no, you need to avoid phrases like “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” Using limp phrases instead of saying no will often be considered a yes. When it’s time to say no, just say no!

Listen to your gut. Sometimes we say ‘yes’ because we love the excitement of a new idea, when our instinct is telling us that it implies many complex issues that we are not prepared to deal with right now. It’s a fact that our brain often stores relevant information that we might not be able to vocalize right now. Trust your judgment.

Negotiate a return consideration. Often people asking for favors don’t realize or consider the cost, so you shouldn’t hesitate to ask for a reciprocal favor. It may make that person re-think their need for your help, or you may actually get more than you give.

Sandwich the no between two yeses. Sandwiching a no between two yeses ensures that your no will be more palatable. It’s also a great way to explain that to which you are already committed. For example, if your boss asks you to work on the weekend, but you have family commitments you cannot break, explain these commitments to your boss (the first yes), how that prevents you from coming in on the weekend (the no), and finish by confirming your commitment to the company and your work (the final yes) by asking if there are other ways you can contribute that don’t require you to come in that weekend. 

Be prepared to repeat yourself. If you say no and the other party pushes back, the best thing you can do is repeat yourself. This is much easier to do when you recognize beforehand that it is often necessary. In some cases, you may have to repeat yourself more than once. If you offered any explanation with your original response, you can repeat this explanation or just say no again. Don’t back yourself into a corner by trying to explain yourself further.

Lead with positives when saying no. Mute the sting of rejection by rewarding the person for being aggressive and creative, while not directly accepting the contract or proposal. It may even be appropriate to give some reward, such as access to an alternative opportunity, or recognition in front of peers, to encourage the source.

Pick the right time and place. Pick the least stressful time of the day, or a private place where you can talk sincerely, and give full attention to any questions or discussion. Watch your body language and tone to eliminate the guilt and fear that often make the ‘no’ response harder on the sender than the receiver.

Remember that there are only few hours in the day. This means that whatever you choose to take on limits your ability to do other things. So even if you somehow can fit a new commitment into your schedule, if it’s not more important than what you would have to give up doing it, you really don’t have the time in your schedule.

“The art of leadership is saying no, not saying yes, to the things where you want to say “NO”. It is very easy to say yes.”

People have learned the art of asking, so you need to learn the art of saying ‘no.’ Rid yourself of the fallacy that you must say ‘yes’ to be viewed as a leader. If the request presents a moral dilemma to you, your code of ethics should allow you to refuse, rather than lie to the other party, or agree to something you can’t deliver. Just say ‘no,’ and smile as you say it.

No is not always negative. It is not a bad or incorrect response. Saying no does not make you a difficult or uncooperative person.  Read that again, out loud. Saying no is more honest than a false yes.

Learn the Art to say “NO”…. 

 

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CAST AWAY THE CASTE SYSTEM


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Aryan….Image

Imagine being rejected by society since birth and being denied access to certain human rights because of your birth status in the community. In this article I am not pointing any person, or any group. Just I am explaining the pain that I faced in my life.

It’s the Life’s story of a person who is still treated on the status of his birth..

26 years ago……when I was 9 years old…I had a friend called Shastri.  Shastri, I and few more friends used to play every day in our street.

One day as usually after our play I, Shastri and my friends went to his house.Sastri brought me water while I was sitting in front of his grandmother. As I was drinking water, his mother asked me “my son, what is your name?”

I said “I am Aryan”

Then she asked “which community you belong to?”

What does your father do?

Till then none asked me that question, I thought for a while to make my words and said “I am from Backward Caste.”

She became serious hearing me…She shouted bluntly at shastri and forced him to not touch the glass.

All my friends were staring at me. At that moment I felt like a thief caught while robbing. Everyone there was watching me so.

While she was screaming at shastri “he was unclean, with a filthiness that had affected his family. Clean the house” I moved from there silently.

That day I understood I was born at the bottom of Hinduism’s complex social ladder.

    Image  All these years many asked me the same question i.e. “Which community you belong to?”

I came from a poor family. When my mother asked for Fee concession to join me in school, school Principal asked “Which community you belong to?”

In the school I was made to sit in the Last rows, the reason is “I am from Backward Caste”.

Even my friends used to ask me frequently “Which community you belong to?”

Even the girl, who proposed me her love, left me because “I am from Backward Caste”.

In the college which I studied my Head of Department ask me “Which community you belong to?” in order to allow me for the Campus Recruitment Drive in the college.

You may believe it or not in even in one of my Job Interviews, Interviewer asked me “Which community you belong to?”

On the first day of my office, my colleague asked “Which community you belong to?”Image

I faced the same question from many individuals in every phase and turn of my life…

 Years later, i.e. today people call me something else.

Life is good for me, sitting in my office with good clothes, good food, good life style; it is like I am high-caste.

In the past few years I felt Caste and caste traditions lost its grip with economic growth as well as with globalization.

Recently I went to one of my colleague’s house, when we all were taking tea and chatting, suddenly her mother asked me “which community you belong to?”

I said….“I am from Backward Caste”.

Her smile vanished slowly. She said “I’ll get snacks” and moved from there.

Then I realized My Guess was Wrong…..nothing changed……

Days passed into years, years passed into decades but Hinduism’s complex social ladder still exists as a barrier in society

In caste tradition there has been no change.

I am well settled, having great family, I haven’t got any bad habits, I am well Educated, Into Great profession, I am greeted with respect on the streets. But I am from Backward Caste…

I wish to see my future generation, where none poses the question i.e. “Which Community you belong to?”

There is no universal system of caste throughout India. Image

The castes in AndhraPradesh can be divided into two distinct categories.  Brahmin, Komati, Reddy, Kamma, Velama, Kapu, Nayudu, Relli, Mala, Madiga, Yeraka, Yanadi etc., castes are based on their tribal, cultural and religious differences, while the castes like Chakali (washerman), Kummari (potter), Kammari (smith), Kamsali (goldsmith), Mangali (barber) etc are based on their duties.

With a few exceptions like the Brahmin caste, all these castes are uniquely localized in AndhraPradesh.  Each caste has a deity and distinct social formalities. The interaction between various castes is difficult because of these religious, cultural and tribal considerations.

Today, all the castes (tribes) in AndhraPradesh are categorized into four groups, viz., Forward Communities (FC), Backward Communities (BC), Scheduled Castes (SC), and Scheduled Tribes (ST).

What Do we Get?

I would like mention few funny, senseless & useless actions that many perform in their day-to-day life with casteism roots in their mind.

By appending community name with individuals name What Do we Get?

What Do we Get? by celebrating Film Actors birthday or Movie Release who belong to our community.

What Do we Get? by placing Community Persons names to geographical places

What Do we Get? by rejecting marriage proposals of children who like to marry other caste or religion person.

What Do we Get? by allowing only few community individuals into temples.

By conducting community gatherings What Do we Get?

By placing the pics or images of our community leaders What Do we Get?

By moving close with own community people What Do we Get?

By criticizing others based on race, caste, religion What Do we Get?

Even though there is no benefit from political leaders to society Why Do People support such leaders by considering community.

Why Caste Discrimination is increasing in colleges, offices.

Why to include caste, religion options in the school admission, college admission, job applications.

Think Before You Act. Community of an Individual is not Important, Character of an Individual is Important.

I don’t understand what the hell people are going to get with this diversity basing on Caste.

Did Caste  Give Birth to You…?

Is Caste going to keep you into Correct Path…?

Is Caste going to teach you Morals….?

Is Caste going to provide you livelihood or Job..?

Is Caste going to Feed You for lifelong…?

Is Caste going to change your life…?

Is Caste going to Educate you or make you literate..?

Is Caste going to fetch you Fame, Name and Health ….?

Is Caste going to make you Rich.?

Is Caste going to drag the people towards you…?

Is Caste going to add meaning to your Life….?

Is Caste going to make you Immortal?

Is Caste going to change your fate or fortune?

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The strife between various groups is part of a worldwide phenomenon, which affected all kinds of human relations for thousands of years.

The reasons for hostilities between different tribes/castes/religions/nationalities are mostly prejudice, jealousy, self-righteousness, partisan politics etc.,

 

 

Caste System discharges many dysfunctions. These are listed below.

  • Social Problems
  •  Social Inequality
  • Oppose to Democracy
  • Hindrance to the Development of personality
  • Obstacle to social progress
  • Obstacle to social unity
  • Retards Social Solidarity
  • Untouchability
  • Denies of Mobility of Labor

To avoid caste, creed feelings , lets stop differentiating and praising high or low about our religion and lets think each one as humans.
Government should stop asking about community certificates for admissions in schools and colleges.
Allotting admission seats into medical / engineering colleges based on caste should be avoided, rather it should be taken in a very fair manner or every candidate should be given opportunities,if not in that university he/she should be given seat into some other university, nominated by the government alone.

Today I think total INDIA is rooted up with the caste feeling. Many are suffering from it….

Now-a-days there is big caste feeling..but i think this is not good..for any development of human society..this is bad disease than AIDS.. so..avoid the caste feeling.

I need answers for some of the questions…..

First of all….

What is Castism???
Why this Castism???????
What is the use of castism??
Will caste helps us in any way??
Why the same caste people will group up??
Why don’t they involve other people to join them??
Why don’t they help other castes people??
Is there any way to eradicate the caste feeling in schools, colleges, offices, society, etc??
How to motivate people who feel proud of showing racial feeling???

Will there be change in the mind sets of people????

Ways to Handle Castism:

1.Do not ask caste/religion in any application form or in any survey/census like admission to school, ration card, job application etc.
2 Provide reservation to jobs and higher education in following manner: Farmer’s sons 30%, rural people 10%, physically handicapped 5% and women 5%. No reservations should be caste/religion based.
3. Abolish Waif Boards and Waif portfolio.
4. Remove religion from governance. Government should have no say in religion. Government should concentrate only on economic issues should keep quite when it comes to religion.
5.Make family planning compulsory and no one should be spared.
6. Uniform Civil Code be brought making all religions equal in the eyes of law

Is it wrong to ask this question…? If it is a mistake to ask this question…you may remove this thread…!

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I personally think,  One should have respect towards their community, but it doesn’t mean that we have to hurt the feelings, opinions, beliefs and restrict the freedom of others.

Finally I would like to conclude .. India is a country with diversity.so we should learn to tolerate and respect each others religions, caste.we should abolish religion or caste based organizations.

We, the people of India, should unite and work together for the country’s progress.we should show unity in diversity. We should abolish the system of casteism  ,racism.we should also educate others about it. Every one of us got birth in the similar fashion, with the purpose to lead a happy, meaningful and peaceful life.

Please Live and Let Live….

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Posted by on August 28, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

FRIENDSHIP


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

“Many people will walk in out of your life. But only true friends will leave foot prints in

your heart. “
 “As long as we have memories, yesterday remains.
  As long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits.
  As long as we have friends, our life is precious.”
 “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to
     you when you have forgotten the words.’
To live in the hearts of others, we have to leave ours.
Friends are like stars. You can’t always see them, but you know they are there.
Hold a true friend with both your hands.
Friendship is one mind in two bodies.
Your friends reflect who you are.
Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.
You need not be the first friend.
      You need not be the best friend.
            But try to be the everlasting friend.
   Friendship is an Art.
         Which cannot be taught?
                 It only comes from Heart.
   A real friend is one who believes in you when you have lost faith in you.
My dear friends I request everyone, please don’t make friends for satisfying your personal needs. You may not know the pain that it creates, but the opposite person know it well.

 

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Posted by on August 6, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

Don’t Quit


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Vinamra….

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,  

When the road you’re truding seems all uphill,  

When the funds are low, when the debts are high,  

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,  

When care is pressing you a bit,

Rest if you must, but don’t you quit.  

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,  

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow,

You may succeed with an blow.  

Success is failure turned inside out,  

The silver tints of the clouds of doubt,

And you can never tell how close you are,

It may be near, when it seems so far;

So stick to the fight when you’re the hardest hit,

It’s when things seem worst, that you must not quit……    

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Posted by on July 30, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

Are you Proud to be a Woman?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja.

Woman holds many different roles in one’s life as mother, wife,  sister,  teacher, friend …..

In ancient India, women occupied a very important position, in fact a superior position to, men. It is a culture whose only words for strength and power are feminine -“Shakti” means “power” and “strength.” All male power comes from the

Take a pride that we have come out of the culture where women were seen as just reproducers. Today she openly displays her power, knowledge and skill, receiving public recognition and honor.

Woman often fight for her home, her people. Yet she faces humiliation in every aspect of her life.

A home maker says “he come home drunk and kick me with his boots.” Who knew when I met the love of my life I would have such blows.

A working woman says” He was irate when he came home. He asked to clean up the mess so he could rest. I thought to prepare a cup of tea for him and was about to move to kitchen. He thought I was ignoring him, He hit me in my eye.”

What kind of thinking make us behave so badly? What makes us of believe we have a right to hit woman?

Why does a woman be helpless victim at men mercy?

Is that the attitude of common man who:

”the difference between mother and wife is –we take life from the former and get into the life of latter”

Is it that “we are grown up in a society which believe men are superior to women”

Let us see the excuses that men make from millennia to hit a women:

“I am very short-tempered there’s a lot of stress and problems in my life so it comes out like this.”

“I get violent with my wife because I love her so much my love for her comes out in this way.”

“I become angry because she don’t understand me.”

“I don’t like her because she tries to restrict me in all the things.”

Then why don’t you accept if your wife also show the love and anger in same way as u do.Realize the influence of such acts on family.

God created men and women to build life together and to complete one another all lifelong.

Women are self-sacrificing, gentle, patient, caring… Recognize the importance of her in our lives.

God made us special
He made our arms to control the weight of world.
He made our shoulders, our childs feel happiness on them
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In modern world women degrading themselves as well as allowing others to degrade them.

Are we ,women aware of our power, values, rights and proper position in the family, in work place and in the society ?

Are you proud to be a women? 

Please contribute your views, ideas, thoughts, demands,worries and happiness here. Gentle men , you can also take part in this.

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Posted by on July 6, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

Life Is Like A Cup Of Coffee


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Today, when I am having coffee along with my Freaks, A story called  “Life Is Like A Cup Of Coffee ” came into my mind, which I heard a long back when I am in my 8th standard…

It is a wonderful narration of a simple story that shares a great perspective of life and the way we live it. This story is based on the way we see and lead the life. The story is all about the conversation between Professor and his old students, who come to meet him after many years of their college life.

Story starts like this….” A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee, not the cups!

The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

This story provides a simple, yet profound look at life that may shed light on how challenges being faced today need to be addressed, and hopefully, resolved. Maybe, just maybe, it can be looked at as the simple approach to tackle complex problems. And, I’ve asked myself if it could really be instrumental in making people look at things differently and provide hope, where hope was not even considered before.

Anyway, go through the story  and give this some thought. Then, please share it with your family and friends and request they share it with people they know. If we can ultimately help just one person, or just one family, we will have made progress. Progress that’s necessary to survive this rough economic storm.

 

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Posted by on June 4, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

My First Kiss


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Today I would like share My First Kiss Experience. From Childhood I have good collection of Girls.Last night I got a kiss from one of my girl friend. As everyone know It’s a sweet experience. I just looked back into my life. It’s really a long long journey in all the ways. I remembered my First Kiss Experience with one of my girl friend, which is a magical one.

Around the time of my 16th birthday I started hanging out with my best friends a lot. When I am 16 I was Talented,Young, stupid, very assertive moreover romantic. I didn’t have big social life at that time.Just I used to spend my free time with the girls.Many used to say that I am a big flirt, but intentionally I never tried to flirt any girl. I agree that my words are bit attractive and assertive.

When I was in my  +1  I got into relationship with one of my classmate called Nikhila Chowdary.  She is really beautiful and hot. She used to speak with only few members in the class, I am one among them, but I have many, she is one among them. In the class  Madhu used to sit with me. She was my childhood friend. Later Vinotha started sitting along with me. I along with few more used to bunk class and sit in the park near to my college.

During exams i used to assist her in the theoretical subjects, she used to help me in Mathematics. I used to visit her house frequently. Even her parents liked me.

Everything went on well for few months. One day she told that she love me. I was simply said shocked and said  I am sorry, because I never seen her in such a way and moreover I din’t have belief on love. She left from there without a word.After a week she back apologized and asked me to be friend.From then my life changed.

I remember the day i.e. on February 3 we completed our Lab exam. She asked me come to her house. Normally I went. Both of her parents are employees, so no one in the house. Afternoon We had lunch, till evening we prepared for the exam.

She was sitting side to me, lying on my shoulders and said “Munna I love you and want to have you in my life. Munna I want to kiss you.” Before too she had told me that she wanted to kiss me a number of times.”I asked her not to make fun, then Suddenly she hold my hair and kissed on my lips, but I tried to avoid her because I don’t want  to let go of my first kiss so early.

Her lips were so soft against mine, and it slowly progressed until both of us were breathing hard.I found myself completely unable to move, The only thing I did was open my eyes for just a sec, too see if she had her eyes closed too. No regrets, because she looked adorable. The ironic thing is though, is that I didn’t even realize I’d been holding my breath until she retreated. That experience  was sexy and scary and fun, but not intentional from my end.

The Relationship between us didn’t last long,but she gave me a memory and a new habit, like a life time treasure.

Even though that was not perfect kiss I’ve ever shared with someone, and I will always remember it as the most magical. It’s really magical because from that day to this day I never stopped kissing girls.

If you look at me Today, I am a Freak getting Kisses, Hug’s almost everything without saying NO even to single girl. The only thing that I like in me is Till now In my life I never ran behind anyone.

My words and attitude may be hard to receive, but I am haven’t made mistake, not making any mistake, will not make any mistake. My philosophy is

” If a girl is comfortable with you, there is nothing wrong in being with her in any way, If she don’t like you, It is a mistake even if you stare at her.” 

Whenever I get into relationship with girls I had an agreement:  Can held hands, spend time with me, hug’s, flirting,  and kissing on the cheek is allowed…  lips too.

Till now I kissed many girls, I don’t know exact count. Even yesterday I kissed a girl. It’s my habit to give a bear hug and a sweet kiss. It doesn’t mean that I am person always willing to have a physical attachment. That’s the only way through which I can convey my care, concern, love, affection…

If my behavior hurt anyone, I am sorry and I am helpless, because If you are not interested I might haven’t been in your life and memories..

I love to experience love, i love passionate hugs, i love sweet kiss, i love caring words, i love consoling heart, i love helping hands, I love fingers which wipe out my tears, i love the heart which thinks of me, overall I love girls.

I don’t know whether I am good or bad, I don’t even have time to think. I simply believe, I am good in the way I am.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 3, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

Why Love Hurts?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

Getting dumped is perhaps one of the most difficult situations in life. Today i would like to share a Real story which i heard in the today’s early hours from a stranger . As usually I started to office by 8 clock in the morning. In the bus  I met a guy, who is around 26 years. I have habit to interact with the people around me whenever I  travel in bus, train, plain etc. After few minutes I started conversation by telling my name and he told his name as Vijay. In the words he told about his bitter experience with a girl who dumped him.

In his words ”  I  worked as a Software Engineer  for a reputed organization. Few months back I left the job. When I am working, I used to stay  in a room near Ameerpet Hyderabad, whereas my family members lives in our home town. Days passed well, till I met a girl called Akshaya(name was changed). She was my team mate in the office. Initially i felt bit uncomfortable whenever she spoke to me, because I am not good at girls. As the days passed our relation became thicker. We use to leave the office together. From my office it takes 15 minutes to reach Bust Stop, during the walk we used to talk freely. Daily we used to go out for the lunch and in the evenings she used to join me for coffee. One day by mistake she misplaced her laptop in a shopping mall and she lost . So, i brought a new one a gave to her. Initially she hesitated to take, at end she took the laptop.

Next day morning she came to me and she told that she love me and if I am interested she want to marry me, I felt so happy by her words. I introduced her to my family members.

In the last summer we went out for a tour to Kodaikanal. It’s an unforgettable memory in my life. Each moment i spent there with Akshaya is precious. We were there for 3 days. We visited Palani temple, Kodaikanal forests, hills, waterfalls…After coming from our tour she felt sick due to climatic change. She became very tired, suffered from fever. I took her to the hospital. Doctor said she was very sick and asked me, to admit her in the hospital. I felt nervous and called my friend. That whole night I was sitting near her bed looking at her. On the next day morning I went to nearest temple and prayed god for her. With gods grace, she recovered in two days. Like this there are many incidents between us.

Occasionally i used to present her with valuable gifts. Every day we used to meet, talk for long hours in phone after office, used to go for movies. In the weekends she used to come to my room, where we had a great time. I thought I am the luckiest person on the earth and we were inseparable.

Everything was going on well, but suddenly all the happiness vaporized from my life. I remember the day i.e. December 24 2011, which brought total darkness into my life. That day in some work tension I haven’t attended her call. She started calling continuously, I got angry and I asked not to disturb me. She told Bye forever and put the call. In the evening I went to her cabin to her, but I came to know she left the office in Afternoon itself. I called her around Hundred times, but she haven’t responded. At around 12 clock in the night she put a message ” Vijay please leave me, my marriage got fixed. I will be happy If you don’t disturb me”. Thats it ……

The time that i spent with her is best of my life. They are unforgettable memories in my life. After her arrival into my life, I changed a lot. I changed my food habits, dressing, way of speaking everything for the sake of her. Akshaya have habit to go to pubs, so even if i don’t like I used to join her along with her friends. She used to move freely with boys, even thought i don’t like I got adjusted.

In the last two years I liked her, loved , Respected, took lot of care and provided everything that she asked, till my energy.

After she left me, She moved to other organization and immediately she got married to a Government Employee .Through our friends i came to know that before marriage only she was in relation with that guy whom she married now. I don’t understand why did she come into my life uninvited.

Recently I have seen Akshaya in the BanjaraHills, Hyderabd. I found the address to her office. I decided to meet and talk to her. So, I am on my way to meet her, not to give her any trouble or make her feel inconvenient,  just to ask her why did she enter into my life . She is happy with her life without me, but what about me? I am unable to assume my life without her. Every moment her memories are haunting me.Now I am a living dead person.

The only suggestion i want to give  to Women is that

” If you can’t live with one, whom you love, please don’t love and spoil their life………….”

It’s really a heart touching Incident. When Vijay is narrating, I noticed tears rolling from his Eyes. Then I came to know How madly he loved her. I didn’t understood how that girl missed such a caring and true love person.

I request all the present generation men and women ” Please, for god sake don’t play with the emotions of individuals. All may not know how to handle their life in such situations.”

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 1, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 

Leave to Live


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

“Smoking became fashion and addiction to the present generation teenagers. In the olden days only men used to smoke, but now women joined them. Smoking is can be simply defined as inhaling tobacco.Cigarettes, pipes and hookahs are the most popular methods of smoking and hence also the most injurious smoking elements for health.There are many reasons for doing so, the most common being cultural reasons or peer pressure.

This habit usually begins at school when boys/girls try to experiment with every new thing that they can lay their hands on.In the beginning, a teenager may take a few puffs from his friend’s cigarette; then comes a time when it becomes an indispensable part of his life. Several puffs lead to the formation of a habit. Soon smoking begins to affect the health of the smoker. He becomes a chain-smoker.

Smoking is THE most important cause of premature heart attacks, with India having about 4.5 crore patients with ischemic heart disease, doctors warned today. Despite the warnings given by doctors about the ill-effects of smoking, people continue to smoke. Smokers are addicted to it, and even if they want to, they cannot refrain from picking up a cigar or cigarette and puffing away.

According to the World Health Organization, tobacco use is one of the biggest public health threats worldwide which kills nearly six million people a year of whom about 600,000 are non-smokers exposed to second-hand smoke.

And the situation in India is very alarming as around 10 lakh deaths are caused by tobacco every year, with the WHO 2012 Global Report on Mortality claiming seven per cent of all deaths for people aged 30 and over in India are attributable to tobacco.

It is widely believed that tobacco use, especially smoking, causes chronic bronchitis and lung cancer, but many may not know that it is actually the most important cause of premature heart attacks.

Smoking does not only harm you but also people associated with you and people sitting around you because the smoke, which you take out from your mouth after smoking, will damage the environment badly. Not only that just think once about your family members what feelings will they be going through seeing you killing yourself day by day.

If you are a continuous smoker, the time has come for you to stop smoking and live a healthy wealthy and great life!

Tell Yourself Daily:

  • I will feel healthier and have more energy, whiter teeth, and fresher breath.
  • I will lower my risk for cancer, heart attacks, strokes, early death, cataracts, and skin wrinkling.
  • I will make myself and my partner, friends, and family proud of me.
  • I will no longer expose my children and others to the dangers of my second-hand smoke.
  • I will have a healthier baby (If you or your partner is pregnant).
  • I will have more money to spend.
  • I won’t have to worry: “When will I get to smoke next?”

Smoking can be stopped by a strong will power and every person has the capacity to give it up once he sets his mind at doing so.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on May 31, 2012 in Life & It's Importance

 
 
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