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The year 2022 isn’t over yet. End on a high note


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

As we approach the end of the year and plan for a new one to begin, most of us enter a phase of reflection. We assess the goals we set to achieve throughout the year. We look at the highs and lows we faced over the past months. We see the things we did do, what we never had a chance to do, and the things that happened organically that we never expected.

The year 2022 was supposed to be a great year. It is the first first full year after Covid Pandemic.This year has been one, never-ending road. It’s had some straights and has been filled with hairpin bends, but the final corner is coming up.

Do a quick year-end review.

Write down everything that went right with your year. There were probably some good moments. Highlighting them can help you package 2022 up and swiftly move on.

Maybe you graduated, landed a new/better job, welcomed a baby into the world, adopted a new pet, or quit a bad habit. Those are all amazing victories! Celebrate them! Take yourself out on a date, buy yourself something pretty, or do a little victory dance in your living room.

I just want you to look back over the last year and think about three things that people smarter than me have been thinking about for decades: What do I want to start doing? What do I want to stop doing? What do I want to keep doing? As you reflect on the year, what’s something new you want to try? What’s something old you want to stop? What’s something great you want to keep doing?

Don’t beat yourself up.

 You might have set ambitious goals for yourself at the start of the year that you now realize you’re not close to reaching as the year comes to a close. Hey, it’s okay! We can’t always reach every single goal we set for ourselves.

Assess why you didn’t reach your goal(s). Maybe you needed more time? If so, extend it as a resolution for next year! Maybe it was too ambitious? If yes, consider adjusting it to be a more realistic goal.

There’s no need to harp on yourself for failing at something. Failure does not define you. It’s part of life. Learn from it, grow from it, and move forward.

Make Adjustments, If Needed

As you reassess your goals, adjust them if it makes sense. Try to ensure all goals are SMART : Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time specific. If you decide to be a little bolder with your goal setting, also be realistic about what you can do well—or at all—given the time you have between now and year-end.

If overwhelm starts to occur, take it down a notch by asking yourself and a trusted colleague “If this goal is going to happen by year end, how can I most easily make that happen?” By talking through the solution with someone else, you may be able to find solutions that would not have come up otherwise.

End the year with generosity

One of my goals is to be as generous as the portions of fries they give you at Five Guys. Have you ever ordered their fries? That cup overfloweth! Sometimes, in the midst of a busy year, I’ve overlooked opportunities to be both grateful and generous.

As I review the last 12 months, I always discover reasons to be grateful. I notice good things that I missed the first time around because I was hustling so fast. This gratefulness then tends to turn into generosity, as I look for new ways to pass on the gifts that have been passed on to me.

Gratefulness changes me. Generosity changes the world.

Ask a friend one small question.

The end of the year can be stressful for a lot of people. There’s family drama, year-end work projects, holiday expectations, and a swirl of other emotions stacked into this season. Reach out to one friend and ask this question: “Is there anything you need?”

Why does asking this question matter? Because when you ask someone what they need, they become visible and valuable. That’s what everyone in your life wants to know. “Do you see me? Do I matter?” A little question like that can have a significant impact, especially after a stressful year. Crisis magnifies kindness. The small things you do for your relationships this season are worth 100 times what they were two years ago because we’ve all been so isolated. Ask that one small question and then don’t be surprised if it leads to a big conversation.

Get Clear On What You Will STOP Doing

As you are put together a clear plan to reach your goals, be as clear about what you will stop doing as what you will start doing…especially if you have a tendency to try and do too much!

Remember Your Self-Care

For peak performance as you end the year, schedule planned rest periods. “All work and no play is not the true champion’s way.”

Unless you stay physically and mentally strong through year end, achieving your goals won’t mean much. And stress can derail even the best of efforts and intentions.

But, Don’t Forget to Have Fun

By refocusing your efforts, you may be able to achieve significant progress on a couple of key initiatives, rather than finishing the year with a stack of unfinished business. It will make the end of the year a time for celebration, rather than a calm environment before a chaotic return to work.

With all of that being said, perhaps the best way to end the year is to celebrate. Although there isn’t much to celebrate, there is joy in knowing this awful year is coming to an end.

Set the Stage for Next Year

As long as you live, there will always be a next year to do things differently. A new chapter. A new blank canvas to draw on.

Whatever metaphor works for you, own it and make it yours. Learn from this year and turn your disappointments into action items to take into the new year.

We don’t have to own the negatives or carry them with us any longer. If something doesn’t serve you, set it free. Vow to make next year better in whatever way(s) you can. Create a plan that is actionable and realistic. Even if you end up straying from it, it’s better to create a road map that you can aim for and hope for the best.

Focus on the four components every great goal requires.

The goal nerd in me can’t help it. I can’t end this list without giving you a set of specific tools. Goals are not complex. They always involve the same four components: results, actions, time, and motivation.

Results are what you flirted with in item number four on our list. What do you want to accomplish? Actions are the physical steps you’ll take to make those results happen. What will you do? Time is everything from the deadline you pick to finish your results to the hours you plan to invest. Motivation is the fuel, fire, passion, or drive that will keep you going way beyond January 1. Most people are okay at dreaming about results but neglect the other three. We’re not most people though. We finish this last year strong and start the new one even better!

Make actionable goals for the new year on the things that you did not follow through with. Set new goals and achieve them in the coming months. Life is a journey, not a checklist. You can’t do everything or be everything all at once. Take it day-by-day.

“If you’re not working hard, ideas don’t matter. The best idea is worthless without execution.

If you’re already working hard, ideas are crucial. Most effort is wasted on mediocre ideas.”

Don’t over-improve your weaknesses. If you’re not good at something, work on it until it no longer prevents your progress, but the bulk of your time is better spent maximizing your strengths.

You’ll see the progress unfolding as time goes by. Trust me, your year was not as horrible as you think it was. End it on a high note!

I hope you had a wonderful 2022. It’s not over yet though — you’ve still got a chance to finish strong. When you do, let me know how it went. Hopefully, your end of year reflection is full of positives, even among the negatives. You can find me online in all your favorite places  LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.

Finish strong by giving a year-end gift to help kids and change the world through generosity Give a Gift. Change a Life.

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Taking Breaks At Work is My Success Secret  


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I strongly believe in the concept of Pause is Power. Like me, People know breaks are helpful, but we don’t always take them. Take your mind off work to give your brain a chance to truly relax.

We are living in competitive world. Competition comes with great pressure and intensity, and it’s important to remind people of the power that can be found in the simple act of a pause, allowing us to come back better and stronger.

Taking break is not a crime. We have to make sure to Prioritise Wellbeing Over Winning.

You don’t want to take breaks because you think you can get more done. But did you? One day you will started realizing that your neck, wrist, and back are hurting, despite being an otherwise health-conscious, active lifestyle advocate.

Remember that, We work best when we adhere to our natural rhythms, which dictate switching between periods of expending energy and periods of renewing energy.

Elite musicians, actors, and athletes know this well enough and rarely practice for longer than 90 minutes in one session. They take breaks between sessions, and rarely work/practice for more than 4.5 hours in any given day.

Basically, microbreaks help you manage your energy resources over the course of the day — and that’s particularly beneficial on days when you’re tired. We Need to Get Serious About Taking Breaks At Work

“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes…including you.” – Anne Lamott

Science Agrees: More Breaks = Higher Productivity

Many people experience “productivity breakthroughs” after going against their instincts to meet a deadline by taking a pause. We emerge refreshed and more resilient after getting up for both brain and movement breaks.

So, how do breaks help us? 

Here’s a quick look at the magic taking breaks does to our brain:

  • Improved focus.
  • Boosted creativity and problem-solving abilities
  • Better information retention
  • Improved productivity
  • Prevents decision fatigue
  • Reevaluate goals and seeing the bigger picture
  • Better stress management

Besides the juicy benefits that breaks have on our brains, now what if you can double the benefits? 

It’s simple – add movement to your breaks.

For those who get the least amount of physical activity, replacing a half hour of sitting time with physical activity was associated with up to a nearly 50% reduction in mortality, according to a new study from the American Cancer Society.

Breaks are a great opportunity to incorporate movement into our workdays to combat the setbacks of a sedentary lifestyle. 

Take a look at the most important benefits of movement breaks:

  • Improve energy levels
  • Boost mood and relieve stress
  • Strengthen weakened muscles and bones
  • Reduces the risk of developing type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease
  • Reduces the risk of injury
  • Boost memory and focus

It’s pretty clear that taking breaks is a powerful tool that can make us better at what we do, feel physically better, and happier. 

High-performing people understand the power of taking breaks and know how to take advantage of effective breaks to become more productive while keeping their health in check.

So, how do you harness the power of taking breaks, so that you come back fully recharged both physically and mentally?

Continue reading to find out the strategy that actually works.

How to Work Like an Expert and Maximize Your Productivity

If we want to work like an expert and maximize our productivity, we need to learn from elite performers. Here’s the recipe:

  1. Work in sprints: Give it all you’ve got for short periods of time. Get as much done during that time as possible. Push hard.
  2. Take frequent recovery breaks: In-between work sprints you need to recover and replenish some of your energy.

That’s it. You’re either working super hard – deeply focused, fully engaged, highly concentrated, at full speed – or you’re taking a recovery break.

There’s no more in-between. There’s no more ‘doing some work’. There’s no more preserving energy when you’re working. There’s no more half-assed working because you’re tired or whatever. You either work (you’re super productive) or you don’t (you’re taking a break). You’re either expending energy (work sprint) or replenishing energy (recovery break).

That’s working according to your natural rhythms and it’s exactly how the highest performing people in the world do it.

Now, How long should those work sprints and recovery breaks ideally be?

If you want to copy the best, then the ideal length seems to be working for 90 minutes and recovering for 15 minutes. (That way you also adhere to the ultradian rhythm.)

For most people, however, that’s not very practical. You may have a meeting coming up, co-workers interrupting you, or whatever. What’s important is that you either work or recover. Don’t do some half-working/half-chilling stuff.

Sometimes you may have a work sprint that only lasts for 30 minutes. Or one that lasts for 80 minutes. Or heck, even one that goes on for 2 hours. Similarly, some breaks may only last 10 minutes, or 5 minutes, or 40 minutes.

Don’t overcomplicate it. The key is to make waves and follow periods of intense activity with periods of intense recovery. If you work, work hard. If you take a break, recover properly.

Do that and your productivity will go through the roof. There are a few strategies that’ll help you make your work sprints as productive as possible.

1) Give it all you’ve got.

2) Eliminate all distractions

3) Single-task and work on one task, uninterruptedly, for long periods of time

4) Take mini breaks every 30 minutes.

Forcing the brain to stay hyper focused on work throughout the workday lessens productivity. The solution to this is to take regular breaks so you can refresh both physically and mentally several times a day. Doing so will not only make you more productive but help you prevent job burnout too.

Managing breaks at work

Do you know the difference between some of the best tennis players and average tennis players? One difference is that top players are maximizing their recovery between points.

Here the point is that getting the most out of your recovery breaks is crucial if you’re looking to maximize your productivity. Yes, taking any break is better than not taking breaks at all. But there are better and worse ways to spend your time during breaks.

Watching TV, reading the news, or checking your Facebook newsfeed won’t give you the highest possible returns from your recovery breaks.

Instead, you may want to choose one of the following activities:

  • Get in nature
  • Boost your mood
  • Meditate
  • Walk or exercise
  • Leave the office 
  • Have a healthy snack/meal 
  • Have a brief nap (if you’re allowed) – if not, try some deep breathing 
  • Meditate/daydream 
  • Do something creative – like a puzzle, or doodling 
  • Have a coffee or tea 
  • Create a to-do list for your home-based tasks 

It has become increasingly clear that taking breaks at work helps keep you healthy and productive. Both are important for working individuals to continue to do a good job as well as take care of themselves. Burnout at work is a real problem and employees need to be able to practice reasonable self care so things never escalate to that point. Here are just a few of the reasons why taking breaks at work keeps your productivity levels high.

When people think their employer cares about their health, they feel more empowered to freely make decisions about when to take microbreaks and what type of microbreaks to take,And that is ultimately good for both the employer and the employee.

Final Thoughts

While there are many options for breaks at work, individuals are unique and have to find out what works best for them. Try to make a note of what sort of break benefits you the most – if you can continuously make use of it, your motivation and productivity will stay high.  

Now I’d love to hear from you. What’s your experience with taking regular breaks at work? Let me know in the comments below, and thanks for reading!

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The Mexican Fisherman Story – What really Matters in Life?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

This Small Story Of ‘ Life Of A Fisherman’ Tells Us The Importance Of Hard Work & How To Live A meaningful Life Beating All Odds!

The short story of The Mexican Fisherman was originally told by Heinrich Böll about an encounter between a tourist and a small fisherman on a European coast.

It’s one of my favorite stories – The Parable of The Mexican Fisherman. It’s short, fun, and packs an important message.

I remember first hearing this inspiring story when I was in my “dream school i.e. Noble Public School, Andhra Pradesh, India in 1990s”. I shared the story with my students to encourage them to keep perspective about pursuing what makes them most passionate in life … and why.

The more I shared this story with others, the more I realized how much perspective I had lost myself. Soon thereafter, I moved away from my school to pursue higher studies and then I continued to share that inspiring and meaningful story till date. A lot of people thought I was crazy.

Here is the story…

A tourist went to Mexico and praised the local fishermen for the quality of their fish and then asked them?
How much time do you need to catch it? And the fishermen answered him in one voice:
“Not long”
He asked them: Why don’t you spend more time and fish more?
The fishermen made it clear that their little catch would suffice their needs and the needs of their families!
He asked them: But what do you do in the rest of your time?
They answered:
We sleep late..
We fish a little…
We play with our children.
We eat with our wives.
And in the evening we visit our friends..
We have fun, laugh and chant some songs
The tourist interrupted:
I have an MBA from Harvard University and I can help you!
You have to start fishing for long periods every day..and then sell the extra fish for a bigger return
And buy a bigger fishing boat 00
They asked him: Then what?
He replied: With the big boat and the extra money..
You can buy a second and third boat, and so on until you have an integrated fleet of fishing vessels,
Instead of selling your catch to an intermediary, you will negotiate directly with the factories, and perhaps you will also open your own factory,
And you will be able to leave this village and move to Mexico, the capital, or Los Angeles or even New York!
From there you will be able to start your giant projects
The fishermen asked the tourist:
How much time will we need to achieve this?
He replied: About twenty or maybe twenty-five year
They asked him: What next?
He replied with a smile: When your business grows, you will speculate in stocks and win millions 00
They asked him in amazement:
Millions? Oh really ?
And what will we do after that?
replied:
Then you can retire
And live quietly in a village on the coast, sleep late..
You play with your children.
And you eat with your wives.
And spend the nights enjoying with friends.
The fishermen answered
With all due respect and appreciation
But that’s exactly what we’re doing now,
So, what is the logic for which we waste twenty-five years of misery?

I love this simple parable. So, what does this story mean for you?

It brings clarity to what the money game is all about… and definitely not about.

It brilliantly illustrates the illusions we so easily fall into when pursuing wealth and financial freedom. It’s far too easy to build incessantly and forget the end game is happiness and a fulfilling life.

It’s equally easy to forget all the goodness we’re surrounded by today.

The truth is, it doesn’t take a lot of money to have a truly wealthy life, but it does take freedom.

So here are some questions for you to ponder as you develop your own life plans for financial freedom:

  • What does financial freedom mean to you? How will it change your life?
  • What do you really need to be happy and fulfilled?
  • How much money do you need to retire?
  • Would a simpler life allow you to retire sooner?
  • What’s the price you pay for simplicity? Complexity?
  • If you died tomorrow, what unfulfilled dreams would you regret having never lived?
  • What’s keeping you from living those dreams today?

While it may be a source or importance, power, and prestige to build what is analogous to a large fishing empire, you need to ask yourself what the end goal of all this is in the first place. Is there a quicker route to your goal? Is there a way that you can take the journey to success and enjoy the fruits of success along the way? How can you strategize this to live a happier, fuller life each and every day (or at least as much as possible)?

Is there something you can simplify in your life today to enjoy some of the reward you may be working so hard to earn? What matters most in your life? Have you lost sight of it while chasing down other goals? Have you become distracted?

Give yourself the gift of a few minutes to drop everything and ponder on this concept and these questions. Pausing and taking a few moments right now may set your life on a trajectory toward a brighter and happier future.

I love you. Thank you for letting me share this inspirational story with you. Please come back for more.

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REINVENT YOUR LIFE! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

We all have two lives, the second one begins when we realize that we only have one.

“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” -Dr. Seuss

Life is not an easy journey for anyone. It is easy when you understand happenings in life. There will always be times in your life when you feel stuck and may need to learn how to reinvent yourself. This could come when you experience a big change, such as leaving your job, ending a relationship, moving to a new home, or losing a loved one. If you are going through a major shift in your life, you may have to find new ways of thinking or doing things, or risk failing to reach your full potential.

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There are many reasons why you might find yourself craving self-reinvention. Ultimately, it’s a sign that you are seeking change in some area of your life. Being and feeling stuck in life is an awful place to be. When you are stuck, it feels as though you are literally just spinning your wheels in the mud and are running around in circles.

It also feels as though no matter what you do or say, nothing will ever change for the better and you’ll be stuck in a rut forever. If you’re not careful, being stuck in life can magnify the fear, guilt, shame and/or apathy you’re already feeling.

You can become even more stuck than you already are. So rather than doing nothing and allowing yourself to get sucked into a really terrible rabbit hole, let’s explore 10 ways to reinvent yourself so you – and your life – can start to become unstuck.

Reinventing yourself means identifying patterns, values, or activities that no longer serve you and changing them for better options. It can involve external characteristics, like job, hobbies, appearance, relationships, and location. True reinvention also happens inside, in how you think and behave. It will be different for everybody, which is what makes it so powerful.

Life is all about understanding WHO WE ARE and what our PERSONAL BRAND. Then we can communicate to the universe what we want – thus attracting exactly what we deserve and how to achieve it. It takes some soul searching and a few exercises to understand and define your own PERSONAL BRAND.

Do You know YOUR brand? Start asking yourself some simple questions –

What do I like and Why?
Who do I like and Why?
What music rocks my soul?
What music soothes my soul?
When am I the happiest?
What makes me very low?
When was the last time I was the happiest?
How do I like to spend the weekends?
What is it that I dream of doing for vacation?
Where do I want to go?
Do I live for myself or to impress others ?
To live happy life what I want want in life?
What fears me most ? What ways I have to overcome that feeling?
What haven’t I seen in life?
Do I like to write? If so, when did I last do it? Whats the thing I can write instantly ?
Do I sing in the shower? The car? The living room? In front of others?
Doodling – is it with some sophisticated talent? Or does it look geometrical and pattern-like?
What color did I last pick to paint something in my home?
If it weren’t for money, what would I really be doing with my life?
What does life mean to me and what do I want to do with my life ?

How to reinvent yourself

When life starts to feel a little too sticky, try these ways to reinvent yourself:

Focus on the Good – Focusing on what is going well will help you take your mind off what isn’t going so well and will also allow you to get yourself out of your rut quickly. What you focus on magnifies. So you might as well focus on the good stuff.
Change Your Diet – Since 20 – 30 percent of us are obese and as most of the grocery store aisles are packed with processed foods, I think it’s safe to assume that we can all benefit from making healthier choices with our diets.
Clear Out Physical Clutter – Get rid of anything that you no longer like, use or need. Clutter is just stuff that isn’t the best of you so why keep it around? To complicate your life any longer than you have to?
Clear Our Emotional Clutter – It’s easier to deal with physical clutter because you can see it. Therefore, you know it’s there. Emotional clutter is much more difficult because it’s affecting how you think and do everything. Yet often, you’re not even aware of it at all.
Change Up Your Routine – An easy way to get stuck is to get yourself into such a routine that you’re on autopilot all the time. Your life has become so systematized you don’t even need to think about it anymore.
Make Yourself Uncomfortable – People get stuck when they become too comfortable with their lives. We are meant to challenge ourselves! So try to do something each day that takes you slightly outside your comfort zone.
Get Up and Move – Whether it’s your body, mind and/or spirit, get something moving because you cannot resolve your issues with the same energy you created them with. Be open to new ideas and new ways of doing things.
Express Yourself – Paint. Do yoga. Sing. Play an instrument. Write a short story. It doesn’t matter: just get creative and express yourself in some way. This is a great method to get unstuck and reinvent yourself because creativity is just the truth of who you are coming out. It’s safe and healthy, and can be a wonderful new avenue for you to explore.
Take It Slow – When we get stuck, we really want to become unstuck as quickly as possible. What we don’t realize is that sometimes, we get stuck for a reason. When we take the time to look at our lives and how we feel about what’s currently going on, it gives us the ability to make small changes that can often have huge, lasting results.
Create a Vision/Plan of Your Life – Write down what it should look like and feel like. Then, review that plan often. Cut out photos of what your perfect life looks like and paste it to a vision board. Every day, take steps to make those plans a reality and keep going until you actually start to become that vision.

Final Thoughts

If you truly want to learn how to reinvent yourself and live the life you desire, take the advice above and start taking action. It will take time, patience, and plenty of effort to make the change you want happen, but it will be all worth it.

Half the battle of reinvention is knowing where you want to be. If you’re not sure what that looks like, a vision board or brainstorming can help you gain clarity on what you really want out of life.

When you’re ready to reinvent yourself, these tips should provide good guidance. Along the way, you’ll hopefully pick up some great habits to help keep you and your life running smoothly.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this or any other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share them with your family, friends, and followers!

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Today this father is not a beggar, he is a KING


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

There are uncountable relationships in a person’s life throughout they live. The most precious one is that of a father and a daughter, its the most affectionate and sweet relationship one can ever experience. A father is a girl’s first love in the male character and this bond is really very special to each and every one. 

Did you wake up staring at your wardrobe, thinking you don’t have enough clothes or that you need to go shopping? And for many of us, it’s pretty simple: Get in the car, drive to the nearest mall and buy whatever you wish for.

There are millions who don’t have the same means and yet they make things happen out of sheer determination.

Case in point: MD. Kawsar Hossain, who begs for a living, saved up every rupee for two years to buy his daughter a new dress.

After an accident resulted in the amputation of his right hand, Hossain had no other means to support his family and so he started begging. The day he walked into the store to buy a dress with loose change, the shopkeeper yelled at him. His daughter burst into tears, but that did not deter his spirit.

After two years, he bought his daughter a pretty yellow dress of her dreams. This heartbreaking picture taken by photographer GMB Akash has gone viral and you cannot get through the post without shedding a tear.

Read the full post below:

Yesterday, I was able to buy a new dress for my daughter after two years. While I handed sixty pieces of five taka note to the seller, he yelled at me for asking if I am a beggar. My daughter held my hand and cried to leave the shop by saying that she did not want to buy any dress.

I swept off her tears with one hand. Yes, I am a beggar. Ten years ago I had never thought in my nightmares that I have to live by begging from people. The night coach fell from the bridge and unbelievably I was alive. I was alive by becoming a disable. My youngest son often asked me where had I left my other hand. And my daughter Sumaiya feed me every day by saying she knows how difficult it is to do all work with one hand.

After two years my daughter is wearing a new dress, that’s why today I brought her with me to play for some time. Maybe I will not be able to earn anything today, but I wanted to roam around with my little girl. I secretly borrowed this mobile phone from my neighbour without informing my wife. My daughter has no picture and I want to make this day memorable for her. When one day I will have a phone I will take a lot of pictures of my children. I want to keep good memories. It’s very difficult to send my children to school, but I am educating them all. Sometimes they cannot attend the exam because giving exam fees is not always possible by me. On those days they feel very sad then I tell them, sometimes we can miss exams because the biggest exam is life which we are giving every day.

Now I will go for begging. I will place my daughter in a signal where she will wait for me. I will look at her from distant while begging. I feel shame while she looks at me when I lend my one hand to others. But she never leaves me alone. Because there are big cars, she thinks accident can happen again, these cars could run on me and I would die. Whenever I managed to get some money I return to home by holding my daughter’s hand. We do bazaar on our way and my daughter always carry that bag. During rain we love to get wet and talk about our dreams. In someday I do not get any money, on those days we return to home silently. On those days I feel like to die but at night when my children fall in sleep by holding me I feel being alive is not a bad thing. Only bad is when my daughter waits for me in the signal by keeping her head down. When I cannot look at her eye while begging. But today is different. Because today my daughter is very happy. Today this father is not a beggar. Today this father is a king and here is his princess.

Being a father is no easy job! He is the one who gave his girl the strength to fight with the patriarchal society and live life on her own terms. The bond between daughter and father is genuinely filled with warmth and pure love.

Fathers play a big role in their daughters’ self-esteem, self-worth and body image. A strong father-daughter bond also plays a heavy role in her ability to express her feelings, her emotions, and her thoughts.

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Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Life is not a Race to WIN… Life is like a Journey , to ENJOY every moment. We are running through life so fast that we forget not only where we have been but also where we are going.

There is no reward for completing the race my friend. Please run at your own speed and run how you like it.

Don’t try to run other’s race. It is your own race run how you like it.

Stop worrying about the consequences. Live in the present, share the glory of being a part of this race. No amount of gold, silver or money will or can compensate what you will miss if you try to rush things and miss the very essence of running.

Don’t just run for the sake of running because running is important and not the race!!

Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Do not set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Do not let your years slip through your fingers by living in the past, nor in the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.

Do not give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

Do not be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly.

Do not dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose.

Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.

We have born and brought up in society, where we were prepared to compete with others – your fellow mates and friends. 

The seed had planted when you were at school. The pressure of scoring highest marks, the pressure of performing well in sports, the weight of getting admission into a renown college, getting a good job and again getting into an unhealthy competition at the workplace.

Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

When you were in college, you wanted a job.

When you got a job in service-based company, You wanted product-based.

When you got 6 LPA package, you wanted 10 LPA.

When you got 15 LPA, You wanted 30 LPA.

When you got 40 LPA CTC, you wanted 40 LPA Fixed.

When you got 50 LPA fixed, You wanted to build a startup.

When you got successful in that, you wanted early retirement.

When you retired early, you wanted unlimited passive income.

When you got everything you ever wanted, You wanted time to enjoy it.

Hence, time is your most valuable asset and it cannot be equated with your earnings. Enjoy your 20s and 30s by both working hard and playing hard. Feel the satisfaction of hitting milestones. The finish line is not really important.

Achieve your own goals ( Not society’s expectations ). You don’t need to prove anything to anyone but yourself.

Nobody is measuring you, they are busy in their lives. You are the only opponent to yourself in this battle.

Running towards the next fulfillment will never be able to find peace in life. It will only lead us distant away from what we’re hoping to feel.

The only way to win the race of life is to realize that, there is no race.

Winning has to be from within us. We need to find happiness within ourselves. True satisfaction can only be observed from inside.

Life is not a race or competition. It’s a journey. Don’t just run after aiming at the finishing line, rather enjoy the ride.

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DARE TO BE YOU


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you’re feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

Dare to be you

When love hurts you, dare to love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you’ve done your best.

Dare to be the best you can – At all times, Dare to be!”

“¯`✻´¯) DARE TO BE YOU ✶♪✻ღ*✿ `*.¸.*✻ღღ.¸¸.✫*¨`*✶♪¸.✻ღ

 

By.. ― Steve Maraboli

 

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Break free before time runs out


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

Recently, I met one of friend who lives in States. During the discussion, I learnt both of her sons got killed in a bike accident. From then, I am thinking about those boys who have gone on so young, and all of the people I’ve loved who didn’t make it as far as I have, made me realise one thing.

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They had dreams. They had goals. They had ambitions. And they no longer have the chance to pursue them. They quite literally have run out of time.

But I haven’t. Not yet. And if I don’t pursue my dreams and ambitions with every tiny bit of my soul, it’s like I’m slapping them in the face.

I’m still here. I’m not done. I’ve got things to do. And quite frankly, I”m not doing them. Break free before time runs out, from all that is holding you back, from all that stopping you to be ‘U’.

“Our only limitations are those we set up in our own mind”. Napoleon Hill

What seems to be impossible for you might be easier than you think!

“I wonder how many times people give up just before the breakthrough”.

It is not over until you say it is over!

Most people don’t need help as much as they need to believe on themselves & go after what they want.

No matter where you are at now in your life, or what challenges you may have, there is always a way out and there is a solution.

The famous Zen master Shunryu Suzuki once said, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” By this he meant that if we view ourselves as the experts of our business who know how everything should be done, we are limiting ourselves to very few opportunities.

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When the world is in crisis, many things change, and many opportunities arise. But to see these opportunities, we must let go of our expert-attitude and look at the new reality with a beginner’s mind. We must wake up every day with fresh eyes and truly discern what is different than yesterday.

Every problem has its solution; it is born with it. If you want a different result, make different choice. We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. Facing reality can be hard because our brains are wired to be emotionally attached to how things used to be. The past seems known and secure, while an unknown future can make us anxious.

As we know, many of us are attached to our past successes and want to have them back. Because of this emotional attachment, we are at risk of walking in the same direction even if the world has taken a sharp turn the other way. Positive people also have negative thoughts but they just made up their mind to enjoy life. They focus on the possibilities not the problem. They always “align with love and tap into abundance”.

Now is your chance to reimagine the future and the possibilities. It all starts in the mind, in your mind. So look inside, and then leap.

If there is one thing I want you to understand…it’s this.

And I know I’m not the only one stuck in this rut. This is what happens in life when we get complacent. When we let things get easy. “Lost Time is Never Found again” You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.

 

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Life is short. Time is fast. No replay. No rewind


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. We all have the power to shape our day and our life, so no matter what is happening in our lives we can make the decision to be happy and enjoy every moment . You are here in this world for a short period of time. Therefore, you must enjoy each and every single moment of your life. If you don’t want to enjoy your life then you are no more a living person.

 Life is short. Time is fast. No replay. No rewind. So enjoy every moment as it comes.

 Get up early in the morning. Go for a swift walk. Enjoy listening to the chattering of birds. Enjoy looking at the beautiful colourful IMG_20150103_131635-001flowers. Do some workout/stretching in the nearby park. Fill your lungs with pollution free fresh air. Isn’t it all exciting and enjoyable.

 Enjoy your breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day so your breakfast must include a variety of nourishing food such as fruit, juice, milk, bread, cereals, egg, jam, jelly, honey, dried nuts, tea, coffee etc.

 Enjoy your work. Start your work by saying hello to everyone in the office. Pass some positive remarks about your colleagues. Be crazy and make a lively, healthy environment. Enjoy talking to your clients, colleagues, friends and family members. Make every effort to complete your work in time.

 Enjoy every single bite of your lunch. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat in a tension-free and stress-free atmosphere. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat the kind of food that is light on stomach but quite nourishing so that you get the much needed physical as well as emotional energy, during the day.

 After satisfactorily finishing your work, it’s now time to leave office and enjoy. Enjoy your leisure time in the manner you wish to enjoy by involving yourself in activities like reading, writing, studying, swimming, boating, dancing, visiting friends, learning new skills, playing outdoors, playing indoors, watching TV , watching movies, listening to your favourite music, enjoying food in your favourite restaurant, going on long drive, etc.

 Don’t engage yourself in activities that can bring problems to your life. Don’t invite trouble. Live a disease-free, smoke-free, stress-free and drugs-free life. Don’t involve yourself in any criminal activities and don’t do anything that is illegal or immoral.

IMG_20150104_120831692-001 Now and then plan for outings or tours with your family & friends. It helps you in coming out of the normal routine life. Leave all your worries and enjoy every moment like kid

 Difficult times in life come and go but keep your spirits high even in the worst type of crisis. Face challenges of life with courage and a positive state of mind. Take lessons from your past mistakes but don’t feel guilty. Laugh at silly things and enjoy life. Laughter is the best medicine.

 It is my own experience that you get the best kind of enjoyment when you help those who are helpless and look towards you for help. I personally feel great excited when I am able to help such people. There is nothing more enjoyable than enabling other people enjoy their lives. Enjoy your own life and let others enjoy theirs.

You will not live forever, so till you are alive, enjoy every moment of your life from the core of your heart.

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