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Learn to appreciate who deserve it


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Appreciation is the act of giving something or someone their proper value, and everybody has value. The value in a relationship is important because it lets a person know where they stand, and what they mean to you; appreciation is a way of letting that person know what you value.

In the workplace, appreciation generally means “recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something. Appreciating someone is not tough task. It can be as simple as saying “thank you” for a job well done, for completing a project quickly, or for coming to a meeting prepared and ahead of time.

If you don’t show appreciation to those that deserve it, they’ll learn to stop doing the things you appreciate. 

In the workplace, appreciation plays a key role in creating a positive organisational culture and strengthening employee-leader relationships. Many studies have revealed that appreciation is one of the proven methods to motivate employees, make them more productive and committed to their jobs.

Importance Of Appreciation In The Workplace

Although appreciation is often confused with praise and recognition for achievements, real appreciation goes much further. It regards colleagues as human beings who are valuable because of their abilities, personality, and uniqueness. Regardless of their position in the company, each employee has enormous potential in different areas.

Appreciation is a fundamental human need in both professional and private life. We want to be appreciated by what we are, what we do, and what we achieve.

Appreciation should be a daily event and it is giving positive feedback and thanks for good ongoing work. It can be a simple thank you and positive feedback for a special project or special effort.

Appreciation keeps employees engaged. In addition to improving productivity, showing appreciation in the workplace also increases employee engagement and dedication.

Appreciation improves workplace morale. Showing appreciation to an employee creates a ripple effect in the workplace. An employee who feels appreciated is highly likely to show appreciation to their co-workers and other team members.

Appreciation improves productivity. When employees know their hard work is appreciated and recognised, they feel that their work is valued. And this motivates them to maintain and improve their great performance.

Appreciation boots moral. It has the largest effect on trust when it occurs immediately after a goal has been met, when it comes from peers, and when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.

Learn to appreciate others, And they will definitely appreciate you at right time.

When you appreciate someone, it indicates that you have recognized their effort. It may encourage them to go the extra mile. Giving recognition inspires greatness in others.

Final Thoughts

Appreciation is a powerful everyday tool that managers and leaders can use with their staff. Unfortunately, it is a greatly underutilized and many managers that I have worked with say “why should I have to say thank you and appreciate someone who is just doing their job that they are paid to do”.

Appreciation can be as simple as giving quality time to an employee and taking an interest in their career and personal development.

Appreciation can be shown to the whole team and this helps build engagement and a culture that everyone wants to be part of.

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Today this father is not a beggar, he is a KING


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

There are uncountable relationships in a person’s life throughout they live. The most precious one is that of a father and a daughter, its the most affectionate and sweet relationship one can ever experience. A father is a girl’s first love in the male character and this bond is really very special to each and every one. 

Did you wake up staring at your wardrobe, thinking you don’t have enough clothes or that you need to go shopping? And for many of us, it’s pretty simple: Get in the car, drive to the nearest mall and buy whatever you wish for.

There are millions who don’t have the same means and yet they make things happen out of sheer determination.

Case in point: MD. Kawsar Hossain, who begs for a living, saved up every rupee for two years to buy his daughter a new dress.

After an accident resulted in the amputation of his right hand, Hossain had no other means to support his family and so he started begging. The day he walked into the store to buy a dress with loose change, the shopkeeper yelled at him. His daughter burst into tears, but that did not deter his spirit.

After two years, he bought his daughter a pretty yellow dress of her dreams. This heartbreaking picture taken by photographer GMB Akash has gone viral and you cannot get through the post without shedding a tear.

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Yesterday, I was able to buy a new dress for my daughter after two years. While I handed sixty pieces of five taka note to the seller, he yelled at me for asking if I am a beggar. My daughter held my hand and cried to leave the shop by saying that she did not want to buy any dress.

I swept off her tears with one hand. Yes, I am a beggar. Ten years ago I had never thought in my nightmares that I have to live by begging from people. The night coach fell from the bridge and unbelievably I was alive. I was alive by becoming a disable. My youngest son often asked me where had I left my other hand. And my daughter Sumaiya feed me every day by saying she knows how difficult it is to do all work with one hand.

After two years my daughter is wearing a new dress, that’s why today I brought her with me to play for some time. Maybe I will not be able to earn anything today, but I wanted to roam around with my little girl. I secretly borrowed this mobile phone from my neighbour without informing my wife. My daughter has no picture and I want to make this day memorable for her. When one day I will have a phone I will take a lot of pictures of my children. I want to keep good memories. It’s very difficult to send my children to school, but I am educating them all. Sometimes they cannot attend the exam because giving exam fees is not always possible by me. On those days they feel very sad then I tell them, sometimes we can miss exams because the biggest exam is life which we are giving every day.

Now I will go for begging. I will place my daughter in a signal where she will wait for me. I will look at her from distant while begging. I feel shame while she looks at me when I lend my one hand to others. But she never leaves me alone. Because there are big cars, she thinks accident can happen again, these cars could run on me and I would die. Whenever I managed to get some money I return to home by holding my daughter’s hand. We do bazaar on our way and my daughter always carry that bag. During rain we love to get wet and talk about our dreams. In someday I do not get any money, on those days we return to home silently. On those days I feel like to die but at night when my children fall in sleep by holding me I feel being alive is not a bad thing. Only bad is when my daughter waits for me in the signal by keeping her head down. When I cannot look at her eye while begging. But today is different. Because today my daughter is very happy. Today this father is not a beggar. Today this father is a king and here is his princess.

Being a father is no easy job! He is the one who gave his girl the strength to fight with the patriarchal society and live life on her own terms. The bond between daughter and father is genuinely filled with warmth and pure love.

Fathers play a big role in their daughters’ self-esteem, self-worth and body image. A strong father-daughter bond also plays a heavy role in her ability to express her feelings, her emotions, and her thoughts.

credit: https://corporate-soldiers.com, GMB Akash (photographer)

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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Words of a Bleeding  ❤ ….

People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Marriage isn’t a love affair. It isn’t even a honeymoon. It’s a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they’ve worked at anything in their lives before. If it’s a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it goes on getting better. I’ve seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I’ve seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it’s never one person’s fault. It’s the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn’t a cure, it’s a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the Enddivorce-is-not-the-end

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status.

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

2b2ab942cd8dda95fb9bfb43d3fe8bec7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

 

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!”
Words by Shipra Jain…..

 

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Ignoring is Killing a Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
 

Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but never know when the last chance may be. I honestly think one of the biggest mistakes people make is to take people for granted in their LIFE. Parents not always going to be around to help you understand things you can’t understand yourself and they are not going to be around you to constantly correcting your mistakes, protecting you and to guide you. Remember that people who love you unconditionally are so precious! Never miss such persons in life. Many of us take people for granted, like it’s just a given for them to always be there with us. People constantly say that we need to treat life for what it is , precious, because we don’t know when it’s going to end… but same goes with PEOPLE who love and live for us.WhatsApp Image 2019-08-26 at 9.31.58 PM

People are precious. Without those around us where would we be, the people around us make us. People are precious. Without each other we wouldn’t be anything. We should stop using each other and cheating each other for personal growth and benefits. The only beneficial thing in life is helping each other, taking care of each other, showing each other that together we can truly make a difference. Separate we are ordinary but together we are extraordinary.

Every time you take the person for granted, you are teaching them to live without you and you offering your place to others in their LIFE.

Don’t ever take anyone for granted because before you know it, you’ll only have so much time left with them. You’ll be hit with the sudden realization that everything about them that you’ve been taking for granted for as long as you remember will not be there anymore, nor will that person either. Your relationship with this person will slip away from you faster than you know it and you’ll regret every last thing you didn’t do, and every little thing you did do to them.

When a person give, it does not come with strings. They does not keep track of what you owe them. When they give, they choose to do so without ulterior motives. They give because their love and care is genuine. They give because they know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When they give it’s because they get it. It’s because they know the value in what they have in their heart and they refuse to let the world stop them from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate their sincerity. They won’t switch, they won’t get angry, and they won’t be spiteful. They’ll just get smart and they’ll change your role in my life. Because when they give, they give portion of their life to you. But when they are done, there’s no looking back.

Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted

 In your LIFE if you have someone who ultimately loves and cares about you, PLEASE do not take that person for granted. It’s very hard to get people who really love us without any expectations. It doesn’t matter what your relation with that person is and also it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with that person or not. Right now, we are living in a world where it’s hard to find someone who will be love you, Live for you, hold your in tough situations and who is ready to give himself for you. So to have someone who will love and support you no matter what is a blessing.  Because no matter how strong we say we are, we still need someone to stick by our side. So please, just don’t ever take anyone for granted, and just appreciate and be grateful for every single breathing soul you have in your life.

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If your Partner look like this, then you are in Worst Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

aBY3yjA_460sWhen it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.

Below I am going to go over some of the things you should never allow within a relationship. These are things far too many of us settle for and allow to happen or go on within our relationships. We all deserve someone who knows our worth and treats us right, someone who is willing to motivate us when we are down and help us through all the hard times. Your bar is not set too high, don’t be willing to bump it down for just anyone.

Someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

If he or she doesn’t care about how you feel or how he or she is making you feel you need to cut ties. You need someone that really wants to make you happy and is willing to take your emotions into consideration. In a real functioning relationship, everyone’s feelings will be taken into consideration.

Someone who brings out the worst in you.

If the person you are with brings out the worst in you then you should not be with him or her. You should find someone that brings out the best in you. Sure, you might care about this person, but he or she is not causing you anything more than pain and stress, let him or her go and move on. Sometimes toxic relationships are not so much abusive as they are just people not being able to click properly.

Someone who takes advantage of you.

Never let anyone take advantage of you, especially not someone you are in love with. Make sure that your partner is bringing the same amount to the table as you are. Don’t give someone your all only for them to give you nothing. People will use you and take you for all you have in this world. Most people are not what they seem.

Someone who is very double-standard oriented.

Do not be with someone who thinks you have to abide by some kind of relationship rules and he or she doesn’t. If you are expected to answer all of his or her calls, but then he or she cannot be bothered to do the same to you why stick around? You deserve someone that is on the same level as you are.

Someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort.

You should never settle for someone who will not make an effort in the relationship. You should not be coming all the way for someone who won’t even roll over in your direction. You should both be putting forth equal amounts of effort to make things work, no more-no less.

Someone who refuses to take responsibility for his or herself.

You should never settle for someone who won’t take responsibility for his or herself. You and your partner are not the same person. Sure, you might have each other’s backs but at the end of the day you have to own your shit and he or she has to own his or her shit. That is just how it goes, otherwise, problems within the relationship will occur and you will find yourself constantly having to make excuses for him or her. This is something none of us want to deal with.

Someone who makes you doubt yourself.

If someone you are close to is making you doubt yourself then the relationship is already off to a rocky start. Your partner should be building you up and making you feel better about yourself. This is a breeding ground for toxic energies and you should get out while you can.

Someone who tries to control what you wear or do.

If your partner is trying to control the things you wear and the things you do you are settling for someone who is going to try and control you in other ways as time progresses. Controlling partners are not going to let you be yourself. They are going to try and mold you into the person they want you to be and that will never work.

Someone who blames you for their problems or mistakes.

If your partner is constantly blaming you for his or her problems or mistakes why should you stick around? You should not be taking the flack for things you have no control over and did not do in the first place. He or she should be owning his or her stuff; it is not your place too and you should never be put in that kind of situation.

Someone who crosses your boundaries on purpose.

If someone is crossing your boundaries because he or she doesn’t care that they are there in the first place you should not be with them. Your boundaries are there for a reason and you should not be forced to feel like him or her making you uncomfortable is alright, it is not alright. Someone who loves and cares about you will take the time to pay attention to you and respect you and your boundaries.

Someone who refuses to actually work or take care of his or herself.

If the person you are with refuses to better his or herself they oftentimes cannot be helped. Don’t let this person bring you down. You should not be carrying their weight and your weight, everyone should be contributing to things in one way or another. You are no maid.

Someone who torments you be it physical, verbal, or any possible form.

No one should ever put up with any kind of abuse. You can and will find someone who will treat you like you put the stars in the sky. DO NOT EVER let someone put their hands on you or make you feel like you are worthless. You are amazing and you deserve all the best things in this world.

Someone who acts like you owe them something.

Let me get this clear! You do not owe anything to anybody but yourself. If you do not want to do something, you do not have to!

Posted by:  Gerald Sinclair

 

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