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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Words of a Bleeding  ❤ ….

People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!

 

 

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Words by Shipra Jain…..

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status. divorce-isnt-such-a-tragedy-a-tragedys-staying-in-an-5123019

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!

 

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

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Man who Programmed his LIFE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From students of PSNA college..

Prawin, the day I met you during a training program in my college, my first impression is you are so handsome with unique dressing, silver rings, bracelets and earring. You are first crush in my life and to many others in PSNA college 2011 BE batch. When you started the training program, you looked like an Idiot who is speaking so arrogant and have no respect towards girls. By the end of 3 day training event, you looked something special to me and many of my friends. As it is a college with many students who girls,  many of my friends started to admire you for your looks, your attitude, your teaching skills and love you poured on us. After journey with you and by seeing and listening to people about you, I understood I am totally wrong for taking u wrong on day 1. From then, every-time I used to get surprised with your lectures, articles and with your Gutso nature. You are unique in way you speak, behave, give lectures, work, treat others, learn, eat, live your life… I mean  WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.05.26 PMeverything grabbed the attention of people around you. People like you are actually a very rare gem. You might not actually have a bad personality, but it can be so intense that other people often feel the need to give you a wide berth. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should change who you are. You just need to understand that people will often misunderstand you.It could be the energy around you, it could also be a peculiar personality trait that rubs people the wrong way.

Out of my curiosity of attraction or love, I did lot of analysis and found some interesting and hidden points about your personality. For those who possess a deeper personality, you may actually be scaring people off just by being yourself! You are like a Humanoid/ a programmed human. 

Prawin, You possess a deep personality, you are like a diamond in the rough – the honest, reliable, forward-thinking type of person that makes this world a better place. However, not everyone is going to understand how your mind works. There are many people out there who are willing to settle for far less, and your intensity threatens the simplicity of the world that they have created.

You do things with gusto. You believe that you only live once, and therefore, you make an effort to live life to the fullest. Many people don’t do things in the same manner, and they will therefore not get why you do it. But take heart, there will be people who understand your passion, and you can hold on to them.

You Never encourage shallow relationships. You’re not the kind of person who is going to enjoy a one-night stand or a casual fling. If you get into a relationship, you’re all in. You want to connect with someone on a deep level, establishing a meaningful relationship, and anything less is a waste of time in your opinion. As a person with a deep personality, you expect others to give as you give, but you’ll soon be disappointed when you find that many people are only “deep” on the surface” and that it is difficult for people to keep up the ruse over time.

You are incredibly open-minded. Too many people have masked closed-mindedness today with the illusion that they are merely staying true to their morals and beliefs rather than admitting they simply haven’t tried to understand. Instead, you are open to trying to understand new ideas, concepts and ways of living. You may not agree, but you’re always willing to learn more.

IMG_1023You are brutally honest.When it comes down to it, you don’t have time to waste beating around the bush. It’s why people both love and hate you. You don’t bother to sugar coat things, and see your honesty as a positive trait about you. Don’t worry, it is, but many people are not going to like it when you tell it like it is, especially if it’s a hard truth about themselves they don’t want to admit.

You always have a clear picture of what you want. Knowing what you want means you can get to work faster. This means that people will be always in your dust. Your goals are always a top priority which can lead you to say or do things in your quest to achieve success that will make others feel uncomfortable. When you speak your mind you are capable of achieving those goals and that makes people pretty uncomfortable; especially when they are comparing themselves to you and your amazing self. Just be careful not to be too goal focused or you can lose sight of the beauty in the little moments in between.

Your habits are programmed. Schedules and consistency are your friends, creating a solid and predictable foundation upon which you can build your life. You like to know what to expect and how you should prepare for it, and you have no interest in surprises.

You are a solution for problems. If you’re in a difficult situation, you’re not the kind of person who is going to sit around wallowing in the struggle you’ve been handed. Instead, you will instantly get to work trying to find a solution to the problem, working on getting yourself out of there and on to better things.

You like consistency. Your deep personality requires some maintenance and that means that you don’t like surprises. You expect people to do what they said they would do, and you always deliver on your promises in return. When someone rocks the boat, it can be hard for your emotional thought process to handle, and that means that you need longer to deal with life’s problems. But that’s okay, it also means you get to spend more time working through things that others would just glaze over.

Your life isn’t fear driven. Every human being experiences fear. For some people, it can stop them from living a full life. But you’re different. Fear is just another annoying emotion you’ve chosen to accept and move on from. You understand that you will undoubtedly experience fear when you try something new, but you also know that trying new things is what makes life fun and rewarding. After all, growth only happens when you escape your comfort zone.

You aren’t afraid of intimacy. You never seen feeling uncomfortable in expressing love or your feelings. I still remember you sharing your first kiss incident. You want to share your life with someone who understands you at your deepest core. ThaWhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PM(2)t can be hard .But it doesn’t mean that you will never find it. It’s surprising how many people in today’s society claim to understand the importance of intimacy and then shy away from it completely when the opportunity presents itself.

You are incredibly intense in all that you do.You are too intense for some people. You love life and you love living life to the fullest.You intend on living life to the fullest, experiencing everything available. This causes you to lead your life with a level of intensity that most will fail to understand. The few who understand you will share your passion for finding enjoyment in every moment, those are the people you need to surround yourself with.

You cannot shut your mouth.While this may come across to others like you are  interrogating them, the truth is that you want to get to know them on a deeper and more meaningful level. You aren’t asking for manipulative reasons or to find out information you can use to your benefit later, you genuinely want to understand others better and asking questions is the best way to learn more.

You hate waiting in life. Sure, you understand the importance of friendship and companionship but when it comes down to it, you have places to go and things to accomplish. If someone is going to waste your time or leave you waiting around waiting for them to recognize what you have to offer, you have better things to do. You’ll simply walk away and devote that time and energy into those who are ready.

You are like a human lie detector. When someone is being insincere or dishonest, it’s like a red light goes off in your mind warning you that they are screwing around. As someone who values honest, as we previously discussed, there’s nothing you see as a bigger deal breaker than someone who tells lies. You have no interest in sticking around for those that don’t respect you enough to be transparent with you.

You are careful who you let into your life. You only want to spend time with people who actually add to your life. After all, what good is a friend if they don’t make your life better? Yes, you’re intense when it comes to adhering to these principles, but it’s the best way for you to live a great life.

WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PMYou hate ignorance. You cannot tolerate the feeling of being ignored by your beloved ones. Your critical thinking skills are something you’re immensely proud of. So when people make judgments without knowing the facts, it irks you to your core.

You love learning and expanding your mind. You are book worm not reading books alone, but peoples lives as well. Your deep and complex mind needs new information to feed itself. You love learning new things and expanding your knowledge about the world and the universe.

You don’t need attention. Craving attention because of your looks is something you simply can’t understand. You’d rather live with integrity and keep your complexity and depth about you. That’s why you take the time to get to know someone. You know there’s much more to a person than what appears on the surface. This can be intimidating to some people because you won’t be manipulated by what appears on the outside. You see them for who they truly are.

I watched this video about you. The reason nobody doesn’t understand you is that you try to be the different one and perhaps you don’t want to be understood. There’s nothing wrong with being different, it’s good to be you and unique. If you weren’t different, we’d all be the same and that’s not fun nor worth it. Many people in this world  won’t understand you like me in the first meet, but that isn’t a bad thing, But that doesn’t make you less of who you are.

MunnaPrawin, you are very unique and special to me. You are unique breed of human with so many attractive and inspiring traits. Never change yourself for anyone. Let people leave you, but never leave yourself. Remember your words, If a day comes where, I have to change ME to impress this world, that means I am dead.Remember these words forever and never change. One last thing, you may have heard this word from many, but i wanna say that I love you till my last breath. Yours loving AkshayaAryan.

 

 

 

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