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At every stage of life, our relationships and families present us with both joys and challenges. Learning to manage stress, to understand our own emotions and behaviors, and to communicate effectively can help strengthen our own emotional health.

New Born Babies

24 Jun

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

I would like to share some interesting facts about pets.

I am a great animal lover. From my childhood, I have habit to spend time with my pets. One of my cats had a litter of kittens. I remember how small and cute they were! I have two felines right now, one is munna and the other is shadow.

My pets became part of my life, they mean lot to me.

She  loves me no matter what.


She ’s my best friend.

She’s my co passenger in my life’s journey.

She’s like my mother, who takes me into a sound sleep.


She  makes me laugh.


She ‘s the perfect stress-reducer.

They really don’t have to do anything. Just looking at my pets makes me smile.

“I’m having 3 kittens right now and the joy I get from watching them play is amazing.

They let me love and snuggle them all the time.”

“They greet me at the door as though I’ve been gone weeks, even when I just run to the store for five minutes. And they don’t  let me sleep a little longer even on Sunday mornings!”

“When I come home from work my pets come running, she wags her tail, then runs over to me talking in a very high-pitched voice, as if to say, ‘I’m so glad you’re home!’ It’s so nice to be loved so very much – and it’s also wonderful to be able to return that love to an appreciative being. I am blessed!”

A pet is certainly a great friend. After a difficult day, pet owners quite literally feel the love.

“As soon as our cat realizes that I am wake she’ll kiss and lick my face.

After that it’s major snuggling time – best way to start the day. My other cat and my golden retriever bring many smiles to my face throughout the day in so many ways. My pets mean the world to me.”

Some Interesting Facts.

We  are  not the owners of pets, We are just the provider of the food and the cleaner of the litter box. Of course they love use for that.

Cats will annoy you to death until they get there way. And they know exactly what to do that will make you do it!.

Cats know they aren’t allowed on the table. That’s why they wait for you to leave the room, leave for work or go to bed before they attempt it.

Everything, and i mean EVERYTHING is theirs, not yours. Get used to it.

ATS ARE SOCIAL!! It is a complete myth that they are aloof and anti-social. It’s just that they aren’t dogs.

They are independent for sure, but cats love to play and cuddle together.

Of course there are exceptions. There are anti-social humans too.

Benefit’s of Having Pets:

According to this article in care2.com, scientists have recently discovered many health benefits that can be attributed to pets. Many people intuitively believe that pets have healing benefits, but there is now scientific proof for such beliefs:

1) Cats lower risk of fatal heart attack: Those who own cats have been found to have a 40% lower risk of heart attack, most likely due to the fact that owning a cat can reduce anxiety, which can lead to heart conditions.

2) Pets reduce stress: A Mindlab International survey reported that 55% of people were more relaxed after spending time with their pets. Stress reduction is a novelty in today’s society and can greatly improve one’s mental and physical health.

3) Pets can help people with serious illness: Physicians often encourage ailing patients to own a pet because it has been found that this can motivate people to take better care of themselves.

4)  Pets lessen the risk of allergies and asthma: Recent studies have found that children who grow up in homes with dogs, cats are much less likely to have certain allergies, and are less likely to develop eczema later in life.

5) Pet owners were found to be more interacting and understanding than those who were highly educated and with higher annual turnovers.

6) Pet owners had better interacting skills than those without making one to feel better when in their company.

7) Living with pets, helps one to develop better communication skills which brings understanding and quality relationships. It is now quite clear that, every one should have a pet for the purpose of improving his interrelation skills among other benefits.

Advantages of Having Pets:

Having a pet teaches toddlers the essential skill of empathy with other people and with animals. At this age, children should be developing a sense of compassion and emotional intimacy with others. This is how they learn to make friends and to avoid doing things that hurt others. Caring  for a pet is the perfect opportunity for toddlers to learn kindness and tolerance.Independence – exercising choice, within reason.

  • Responsibility – grooming, feeding and exercising.
  • Creativity and imagination – make believe and role plays.

  • Disposition and attitudes – develop a kind, caring attitude towards both animals and people, helping children to build a strong and significant bond.
  • Bereavement – as sad as it sounds, the loss of a pet is a less distressing way for a child to learn how to cope with, manage and experience grief and helps to set a basic understanding of what a death means.

  • Cognitive Development – babies enjoy the sensory aspects of animals.They see the pretty bird, hear the cat’s meow, and pet the soft dog. Toddlers can also learn the names and shapes of different animals, and the noises each one makes

My Beautiful Angels:

People who have pets are the most fortunate people in the world. 

Give your pet a big hug from me.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 24, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

I am Because of you, Father

15 Jun

 

All My Dear Readers,

I am very much thankful to all of you for the tremendous response that you gave, to share your opinion and experiences with your father. It’s an attempt made to come out with an Article, which is nothing but the collection of mails i got from you all. I got hundreds of mails and still I am receiving them. Unfortunately I am unable to publish all the mails that i have got. I expect this kind of support from you all forever. This blog is not individual’s, Anyone can share their expertise & experiences of their life, to the outer world………

This article is dedicated to all the people, who are leading their life in the memories, of their lost ones. Recently i have lost my both the grand parents, who used to pamper me like a kid even at this age. I can’t forget the moment’s that i spent with them. I spent most of my life time with them..

What does father mean?  What does your father mean to you? What is his Role in your Life? What attachment you have? How did he shape you? What do fathers mean to our society, our culture, our nation? What would you change about the way we think about fathers?

The word father may mean different things for different people. To some it may bring the picture of love, laughter, respect, power, authority etc. To others it may mean fear, rejection, disappointment and failure. 

I don’t get exact words to describe father, he is everything in an individual’s life.

  • F-Forever loving
  • A-At my side when I need him
  • T-Talks and listens to me
  • H-Hears my cries & happiness
  • E-Easy-going and fun
  • R-Risks anything to please our family.

A true father will get down to the level of his children; engaging in “their” world with a heart full of love, care and concern not for what they do, but because they are his own; a gift given to him by almighty. He exercises patience in times of rebellion and yet spurs his children on to become who they are called to be; what they are capable of becoming in their life.

“Sita (Orphan School Student)

When my Dad was dying, I was with him, I was terrified. I am 8 years kid, I didn’t know how to act, what to say, so I sat in silence. He asked me, “Aren’t you going to give me a hug?” When we hugged, he started to cry. That memory has broken my heart ever since.  I don’t have anyone, my mother left me with my father, when I was 5 months old.  After my father’s death I was joined in this Orphan School.

“Sanjay ( Medical Representative)

Ten years ago on February 14 th 2002 was one of the worst days of my life. I received a call telling me my father was dying and to come quick. I flew to the hospital, but I failed to see him alive.

” Prasithan ( DJ)

My father who is 67 years old, died suddenly of a heart stoke at the dinner table in 2009. I still remember his last looks, which asked me to save him. At that time i was scared & helpless. By the time I recovered from shock, he left me alone in this world. He left his last breath in my hands. I hug him and cried through out the night, because I know that he is no more.

After all this time it still hurts to talk about it and I have been through a lot of self-medicating and therapy to get on with my life.

“Nirmala (My Mother)

I don’t find any words, which can be used to speak about my father. The only thing I can tell you is father should be like My Father. My age is around 50; I lost my father in the year 2011. Before your father came into my life, my life is my Father. After that your father became a part of my life.

If, I recall the moments that made happy before, now I get cry, because my father is no more.

I was married 28 years back with your father, but till now my father is my driving force. What do I mean is?

To a Women husband is important, more than that father’s love is important.

To whatever heights we move, we are still kids to our parents. Never hurt your parents through your actions, behavior, words, attitude through any means, because they will never tell that you are hurting them.

Venkata Seshagiri Rao Ongole (QA Manager)

My father is everything to me, He is my Strength & he is my Weakness. Not only that, He is my best friend, philosopher, guide and more over he is my Role Model. He has got Tons of patience; he never loses his temper on any critical issues. And he is an excellent yoga guru.

The most unforgettable moment in my life is when he told me “Giri I have confidence in you, you can achieve anything in life. I am not worried of your future. “By listening his words, I really felt happy. From childhood he trusted me a lot. I used to feel very comfortable with him.

Due to my job and my responsibilities, I am missing him badly. I make it a point to talk to him, listen to him as long as he wishes to talk. I wish I was with all through.

In my opinion Father is guide to their future journey of his children.I am very much fortunate to have such a father.

 “Manjula Devi (House Wife)

Like millions of people, I grew up in a single parent household. I lost my father in the early age of my life. When I was in schooling, I lost him. He is the Hero in my life. The most influential person in my life is probably not even aware of the things he has taught me or of how much he has affected my existence.

This person has always been in my life, from the day I first opened my eyes to the moment he left our family alone in this worthless world. He is a protector, well wisher, teacher, a guide, and a source of strength and support. He is whom I look up to with loving trust and pride. With a willing hand to lend, he is a helper; an adviser .He showed me the stars and taught me how to reach them. This person means the world to me, so who is this influential person in my life? He is my one and only father.

 “Chandini (A Hijra)

When my parents came to know I was Hijra, they sent me out of house. At that time one Human God took me into his arms. At that small age I don’t know what to call him, he said “I am your father, I feel happy if you can call me Father”.  

All these years no one listened my hearts cry, except my god i.e. My Father. He was truly one in a Hundred million and I’m so lucky to have had him as my Dad. I thought I’d always appreciated him when he was alive but now he’s gone I look back and realize I had no idea how blessed I was to have him around. It would have been Dad’s birthday in a few weeks. I’ll probably cry my eyes out but I want to do something positive to celebrate his life. That’s what Dad would want.

Now I don’t know how to face humans. Really I am so scared of you all. Please give us a chance to live, I want to live. Please………

Spare a thought and a smile to us; we expect nothing more from so called Humans.

“Menon (BE student)

 It is true that not every man or husband will be a father and not every husband who has children will be a good father. Many fathers have many children but have failed in the responsibility of fathering them. We have also seen or read about men and husbands who were unable to have children but have been exemplary fathers? Fatherhood is a great gift. It is a precious gift from God who considers godly family and rising of children to be the utmost priority in the world 

A fulfilled father is not determined by the number of children he has and how successful they were, a father is fulfilled when he has sacrificed to nurture, instruct and raise his children in a way that brings honor and glory to the giver.

The first and probably the most important purpose for fathers are to build strong and fortified families. 

 Fathers are called not only to love and lead their wives but also to love their children without partiality and to raise them with care, compassion, courage and common sense.

“Nikhila (Lecturer)

“The road leading up to success can be bitter, but its result is sweet.” His teachings have made me who I am today. Every moment I think of him. How can someone replace my father, who is everywhere in life and who is life. I lost him in a road accident in the year 2002.

“Vincent (Priest)

My father is the God father of my life. He is the greatest gift to me and my family. He has shown the approach towards life. I have gained not only knowledge, but have applied his teachings to my life. Because of the example he has set for me, my father has provided the steppingstone I need to achieve my goals so that I can lead a happy and successful life. He gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.

“Chaitankya Kumar( My Student )

Today is my Dad’s birthday prawin. If he was still alive he would have been 56. He passed away almost 2 years ago … and while he was very fortunate to live for as long as he did due to poor health … I still miss him.. I want to see him once. If God exists really, he should show me. I don’t know what I am alive from the day he left me.

“RamBabu (Farmer)

I lost my father 4 years back. My father is not an engineer, industrialist, teacher, firefighter, an astronaut or a brain surgeon – he is a farmer-he is a simple man – He is a Great Father. He has left the greatest impact on me. My father is the individual who has influenced me the most and is the greatest gift I have ever received. I am living in his memories and following the footsteps of him.

“Satyalakshmi( Sweeper)

My dad not only influenced me through his attitude, actions, but also influences me through his words. He has taught me a great deal about life. He shown me the light of life and instills in me lessons that he wished others had instilled in him. I lost him when I am studying Intermediate.

“Srinivas Rao (HR Manager)

My father is a potter, he is uneducated and unable to speak the languages apart from his mother, yet he has taught me all I needed to know about attitude, determination and hard work by the simple eloquence of his example. I never felt bad of his profession, because he is a professional in his profession. I remember the days that I spent with him playing in the mud, roaming on streets sitting on his shoulders, going to exhibition at nampally. He has a dream to see me in suite. After long struggle I became HR of a reputed Organization, but now he is not here to see my achievement. My present life is because of the sacrifice made by my father in the past.

“Father……. I might have felt much happier, if you might not have left me alone like his….. “

“Subramanyam (Manager)

The worst obstacle I had to tackle unexpectedly was the death of my father due to Heart disease. At that time my age was 24. I just completed my Masters then, world became dark. I don’t know what to do, then my father’s words came into my mind “Life is a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into a brilliant gem.”  Those words have lot of impact on me. I t has been 40 years back that incident happened. Now I have 1 son & daughters’, and also I am having 3 grand children. Even today I remember the words that I heard from the father. He is a great human, who I ever met in my life.

“NarsinghRao (Auto Rickshaw Driver)

I am not educated, I studied till 7 th class in ZPHS high school. My father is a Daily wage worker. He is a big drinker. Even though he used to take care of my family, provided us with the necessities in life: food, clothing, shelter, and so much more. He sacrificed himself so I can have more than he ever had. He has given me so much, including the most important thing in the world: all of his love.

In the year 2006 he passed away with problem in the lungs. Now I am running this Auto Rickshaw, to drive the wheels of life.

“Sampath (Bank Employee)

Last month I kept leave for 4 days and went to meet my family members in Vijayawada. I don’t know why I spent; I spent total 4 days with my father happily. I came back to Chennai. The last time I saw my dad, I didn’t know it was going to be the last time I saw him. He passed away recently.  He is a retired school teacher.

We don’t know when we are going to miss a person, so please make them feel your love every moment.

“Anupama (Nursing Student)

It’s been nearly 3 months since my wonderful Dad passed away. The shock and numbness are wearing off but the pain is still very raw. I knew it would be hard but I didn’t anticipate how strong the feelings of loss and emptiness would be. What I wouldn’t give to see him again! I’ll never stop missing him but I know in time the pain will start to fade. Already I find myself thinking of him in a happier light. Not ill and unhappy as he was at the end but the way he was for most of his life. Happy, positive and always making me laugh.

“Shilpa (Sex Worker)

I don’t know how my father looks like. From childhood I was with my mother. My mother is a sex worker. In my childhood many men used to come to our house, I was sent out to sleep in the corridor. I don’t know, what she used to do inside, but after 18 years I am doing the same. Now I came to know, why father is important in girl’s life. If my father is there, I might not have been in this sex work. Even my father’s age people used to sleep with me for fulfilling their wishes. It’s all my fate. I can’t change my past. I don’t say my mother is bad, but she is not good.

 “RajKumar( Electrician)

I never got to do many things with my father. He is a truck driver that is only home two days a week. When my brothers were kids, they would go with him on trips when I was old enough; he started driving for a company that wouldn’t allow it because he carried dangerous chemicals. We never went fishing or anything, mostly just helped him do any chores or repairs that needed to be done at the house.

Two years back I lost him In an Road accident.

“Susheel (Trainer)

My father is my protector, an inspiration. He shown me love, made me experience love, taught me to share love. He is the person who I love & respect most. The most Unforgettable moment in my life is the day I stepped the hostel gate biding bye to him the tears rolled down my cheek, the thing surprises is that  I was not with my father all my whole childhood but still tears rolled that day.

I can’t expect the life without him. I feel the protective charm with love, confidence in his presence.In my view my father is a great individual, he lead and leading a great life facing hurdles at every aspect in life, never stepped back from his responsibilities at any point of time.

However a father may be as individual, may be drunker, may be irresponsible, may be great person to shower lover, may be strict and aggressive yet he is a protector, guide, inspirational and confidence to children.

I can simply say that, my father made his life as a footpath, to make me to reach my destination.

“Sravani( )

My Dad died from Paralysis when I was 14 years old. I lost my parent, my hero, and my teacher. That day it-self know I will never be the same . . . as I was before.  I see my life as a puzzle – every experience in my life is a piece of unique Life’s puzzle. When combined, they form the entire picture of my life. My Dad took a piece of my puzzle with him, a piece that will never return. I am incomplete without it, without him. We shared memories that nobody else shares, which means he knew me differently than anyone else. When someone you love dies, that part of you dies as well. You can’t re-live that memory with anyone else. Your puzzle may grow, but you can never replace that missing piece. And because of that, I will never be the same again.

Even today, daily I cry for my father, not because he left me alone, because I haven’t joined him in his journey after life. It’s really hard for a girl to face this World without father. I know the struggles that I faced from the society, for not having a father. The worst part of my life is, not able to see my father’s face for the last time when he died.

I will never be the same . . . as someone who hasn’t lost a parent. 

People are never gone, as long as we hold them in our hearts; they live on inside of us.

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth..

Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.

I’m missing my dad on father’s day.

Happy Father’s Day to all of you who are fathers, grand fathers, great-grand fathers and aspiring fathers.

Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 15, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

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Mr. Perfect

11 Jun

Good Morning all.

Today I would like share some interesting and motivating points about my QA Manager Venkata Seshagiri. Whenever I think of him, the first thing that comes into my mind is his “Ever fading smile”. He is such a great human, who wishes everyone with his smile. He is Person with quality background.

He is a professional path maker, protecting shield, guiding force, fire extinguisher, a work wheel greaser, a motivator, a pencil pusher, a role model, and if necessary, a disciplinarian in our QA Department.

In a family, father plays the crucial role in laying the foundation to the future of family members, in the similar way My QA Manager is like a father of our QA Department who is the base of Quality of any product that is produced from our organization.

Normally in many Organization’s QA Managers/Project Managers do to lot of circus to achieve the trust of their Director/VP and also from their sub-ordinates. But frankly speaking, Giri’s nature is not that. He is very good in the way he is.

Traits that I like in My QA Manager are:

Ever Fading Smile.

A smile can stop tears, stop a frown, ease ones pain, shed light on sorrow, make you blush, even fill one with excitement. The things a smile can do are truly limitless. Every ones smile can cause such different positive reactions in so many different people. The simple greatness of a smile is truly remarkable. It’s true… some of the best things in life are free, yet priceless.

I heard these words in my childhood, but after seeing GIRI, I started believing . He is such a person, who conveys almost everything with his sweet smile. Daily once I meet or talk to him to grab that lovely smile.

Excellent Interactive & Communication Skills.

Communication is an important facet of life. Communication skills are essential in all spheres of life. Every day, in many ways, we communicate with other people.

Giri style of communication & interaction with Team members is very impressive. He has the ability to communicate comfortably with people at all levels of the team & organization about the project. He conveys the message that he want to convey in clear & polite way. Basing on the requirement, he used to engage with different people in different ways in order to convey the message.

Punctual in conferences & meetings.

Many managers don’t have this trait. Giri is very punctual in almost all the areas like coming to Office, attending meetings, taking up client calls, etc. Being on time consistently shows everyone around you that you are the master of your life. It demonstrates foresight — the ability to predict possible hang-ups — and adaptability — the ability to change your plans to accommodate those hang-ups.

Great Technical Forte.

He is not only good at management skills; he is also strong at technical aspects. He has got adequate experience to smoothly run the Organizational issues. He is a High Qualified Professional.  He has got adequate knowledge on different domains.

Great Decision Maker.

In every project there are few crucial decisions which have to be taken on correct time.If any decision has to be taken Giri used to take the team mates opinion, if it’s fine used to implement it. He hasn’t got nature to take his own decisions as he like. Whatever decision he takes he used to present to team if they feel its fine used to implement it.

Sense of fairness in dealing with people and issues.

Giri is very expert in dealing the co workers and also the issues that come in the way. He used to handle them with cool mind, without going under any pressure. He know how to handle the bulls in the organization without getting into any arguments or clashes.

Involvement in the team tasks.

Giri is not only a good manager; he is also a great team player. He used to take up the whole responsibility on his shoulders, without giving burden to anyone. Working in team is always a fun. Whenever any team mate requires help, he used to stretch his hand to help them.

keeps track of all the QA activities in all the projects.

He is a person, who strives for the Quality. Quality in work, resources, actions, out come, everything. He will interact with every individual in the QA Department and finds out what happening and provides suggestions for the better results.

It’s fun to Work.

The main quality that I like in Giri is the way he see the problem or any task that has to be done. He is very cool under pressure. It’s really a great experience to work with him. He used to tell “Don’t worry Prawin, by birth no one is scientist, as the days progress you will learn”. He never shows disinterest towards work. This is one of the common qualities in both of us. I like Work N joyinG.

Consistency in Behavior.

Consistency is a core concept of personality. Giri is very consistent with his behavior. He treats and receives everyone equally. It doesn’t matter what’s the situation, environment, person, task he will be same. The way he interacts in the morning will be same in the evening time too.

Allows others to get credit for the positive outcomes.

In any organization, everyone tries to dominate others to get to top or get the credit. It happens at every level in organization. There are very few individuals who work, but expect nothing in return in terms of name, fame, reorganization, etc. Giri is one such a person, who works rigorously but allows others to get the credit for the Positive Outcomes.

Simple Human.

Apart from all these traits, there is one more important quality which i like in him i.e “Simplicity”. Normally managers try to show-off infront of others, but no my Giri. His life stle is very simple and plain. He is to talk to every individual it can be frsher or experienced, find out their problems and used to give advice to them. In the evening time, he used to join for coffee.

As per my knowledge, He is a good manager, highly organized, and has excellent communication skills; Giri have the ability to interact with all the levels, various groups/departments in our organization. The most important quality that I have seen in him is the ability to properly identify the RIGHT people needed to perform the quality tasks. The manager does not have to be able to perform all the tasks needed, but he/she should be able to assemble a department that can and then lead them to accomplish the company’s quality objectives/goals.

Venkata Seshagiri  is a successful manager who keeps everything running smoothly in our Organization.  A great manager must possess all of the qualities that my Giri have, to make a business or program run smoothly and achieve its goals.

It’s really a great Opportunity and Honour to Work with Giri.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 11, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

Long Lasting Relationship

07 Jun

I would like to share some of the points, for a  Long Lasting Relationship that I heard from my Grandfather and also I would like to share his relationship with my Grandmother.

In his words….. “Life is bound with relationships. Everyone have their own perception towards relationship. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect each other, can communicate, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities. Most of us would also expect our relationship with our partner to include love, intimacy and sexual expression, commitment, compatibility and companionship.

After being married for more than 45 years I thought I might take a moment to share secret to a successful relationship.

Your Grandmother name is Lakshmi.

It had been a long journey with her, with Ups & Downs. I really enjoyed her company, but till now I haven’t told her how much I Love her. But now, it’s already late.

I give all the credit to her for the success of our relationship. However, it has been a joint effort, with my wife being a major contributor to the results.

The fact is that I am an extremely lucky man who married a woman who demonstrates some incredible qualities that are the necessary ingredients required for any successful relationship.

My wife and I used to pray, enjoy together,share sorrow together, dream together, and respect each other and our differences. We give each other room to grow. We listen. We talk. We date. We laugh. We plan. We look for ways to give, and not just to get. We share intimacy.

From few years, she is suffering from an unknown disease. The day on which, doctors told that she can’t trace me; on that day itself I was dead. She scarified her life to make me and our children happy. She has done everything that she can. Now I retired from my job. I thought I can have a great time with lakshmi, but.  ”

My heart full request to all the Men, no one knows what’s going to happen in the next moment, so please care, love, respect, do want ever you can do make your life partner happy.

There are few things which have to be considered, if you can master these you will be on the path to success in all your relationships.

Respect your Relationship:

The first and the foremost thing is that, you have your Relation with your partner.

Trust

My wife trusts me & I trust her. She is my true friend,  and has followed me into endeavors throughout the years where even angels would have feared to tread. Throughout the years we have failed and we have succeeded in our life’s journey, but we never lost hope on each other.

Share your Feelings:

Until unless we tell even our partner can’t understand few of our feelings. Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else.

Talk to each other:

Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you will be able to communicate well or can read your partner’s mind, or that they can read yours. Communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you. If you have something to bring up, do it gently. Going on the attack rarely gets you what you want. It is also important to listen to each other.

Tell your partner you love them.

A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner.

Everyone is different:

It’s not fair to expect everyone to be as we like. Accept and value differences in others, including your partner. We often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

Show appreciation for your partner.

Building a romantic relationship isn’t just about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up. Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes.

Make “alone time” a priority.

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company.

Small acts of physical intimacy:

In my opinion the littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy. Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on her shoulders, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street, giving her a hug occasionally – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them.

Blindness

I have faults. My wife has faults. Do we concentrate on our human flaws, or do we choose to be blind to some of those things, and rather become attuned to those qualities of the other party that we admire. Both of us have chosen to concentrate on the finer qualities that we portray rather than focusing on those things that annoy us.

Make plans:

Set goals for your relationship and plan for your future. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

Be supportive:

Try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human, there is a chance that we do make mistakes. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

Commitment

When we got married we decided that we will together for life time. The amazing thing is that many people have come in and out of our lives these past forty-five years, and yet our relationship is stronger than ever – and we are more in love with each other than the very first day we met.

Through the years I have seen my co-employees dissolved, friendships wax and wane, but our commitment to each other, through thick and thin, has continued to become stronger as iron does in the furnace.

I remember a day when my lakshmi had her bags packed ready to leave. She had good reason to, but she didn’t. Why? Because she was committed.

Forgiveness

In a relationship if any of the Individual makes a mistake, the other person should forgive and guide them in correct path.

If there is one greater than us who can forgive us, then it is only natural that we should forgive others.

Be sexually considerate:

Be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and to sustain a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

Take nothing for granted.

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work  (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.

Things to remember

  • A good relationship doesn’t just happen – you have to work at it.
  • All couples experience problems and challenges in their relationships.
  • There are many things you can do to help build healthy and happy relationships and prepare for the challenges along the way.
  • Relationships change. You need to be aware of how they are changing and adapt to those changes.
  • If problems become too difficult or complex, consider seeking the help of your family members.

Successful relationships are forever.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 7, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

A Mother’s Sacrifice

12 May

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Munna….

 

Mothers are the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.
It is said that behind every successful man there is a woman. That may not necessarily be true; however it is true that behind every confident child there is an encouraging mother. Day after day in our impressionable years our mothers either build us up, or tear us down. A child who has a mother who is set on encouraging her/him is a child that starts off with an advantage. Our mothers may not be rich enough to leave us a financial legacy when they go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.
Mom…You have always been a source of inspiration to me when it comes to hard work and not giving up. I have been lazy and dad has been lazy in his own ways, but you never gave up on us to get things done…I always love you for that…
 They are the one who stay when we get hurt, when we are down, when we are sad, when we are harmed.
They were the first person in this world to become happy, when we are on top; we are triumphant, when we achieved something and when we are blessed.
In there so many ways, mothers have cherished their children so much that they even cherished more than their lives.
They cared for us as if we are a golden treasure that they need to protect us from harmful humans and incidents.
They always pray for the goodness of our life in this world and what comes after.
 They spent time to take good care of us. In the middle of the night, where everybody was fall asleep, our mothers remain awake to check what we need
. They often had a sleepless night to feed us, check our diapers and sometimes we defecated in their very lap. They sang a song to us.
She put her strength all together for us, and being a weak human being in physical, she could still manage to do a lot of hard works for their children.
They were our first teacher to write and read.
 
 Who could be better than them to take care of us, care for us, pray for us and be there for us? There are so many people who never accompanied their mother had a very sad experience.
They were so much jealous to the people who are still living under the caring of their mother. Nobody cared for them with real care.
These were just among from the few sacrifices of our mother. You cannot count every deed they made to let us live better. Before birth, their body was in pain to carry us in their wombs for about 9 months.

They vomited their foods, they suffered headaches, they felt something strange and weakness of their body every morning. But because they are a mother, they paid no complain against these.

They were pretty much excited to see us, to give birth to us. They even talk to us even they could not see us, just massaging their wombs. The wished for the best for us, they hoped for the excellence of our life.
They are doing all these sacrifices wholeheartedly without waiting for something in return. This is priceless care, a blessed care and a gift to us.
If there is someone that we owe our life to, it is our mother.
We could not give her back her sacrifices but we could make her happy.
We should not treat her bad, disobey her will and defy her. Aside from materials, we need to show them our love to them every day. We do not have a right to say bad things about them and hurt them.
Mother you were so kind to me, cared for me, suckled me, I wish I could make you happier each day. I will always love you and pray that I could be more like you.
I still remember the day(s)…
  •      When you would leave me off at School and wave me off bye and return home to finish off all your work at home. And, yet promptly come back to school even in the mid day sun or cold rain carrying my lunch box with a king like lunch. I still remember no other kid enjoyed this privilege; it was just me. Those days made me understand the value of commitment, love and care.
  • When you would get me ready for the school outing with friends and get me packed with Chapatti. Dad would help you make for me on those special days. I understood that even small things in life mattered a lot.
  •    When you found me having a rubber of my friend which I carried home willingly, got so angry thinking I had stole it from him – you made me return it back to him the next day with a sorry. That day I understood the value of morals.
  •  When you would come to collect the report card and mark sheets from Springfield at the times when dad was busy on Parents Teachers day meet – though you knew I was an average performer you had a smile on your face as if I was the best among everyone in the class. That day I understood the value of motivation.
  • When you always protected me and did not give up on me when others boasted about their sons/daughters in the friends and relatives circle. Those days made me understand that no matter what keeping up the respect of your son played its role in building him to a better person in the future.
  • When you always yelled at me and scolded me for not doing some things or not helping you on house hold errands – I understood the value of perfection and getting things done immediately.
  • When you took me to temple, and socialized with people on the way – I understood the value of networking and socializing not just with humans but also with god .
  •  When I get back home tired with a lot of cribbing about school and office, there was always something surprisingly delicious waiting for me which made me forget all negativity – I understood you knew me in and out.
  •   When you gave me all the comforts at home in the weekends – I felt so pampered like a small kid.
  •  When you always considered me one step ahead of everyone in the family – I understood I am special to you as always.
  • When I missed you and dad so much when I came to Hyderabad – I understood my world was around you both.
  • When you saved penny by penny out of household expenses, and when they turned out to a big sum – I understood saving is an integral part of every one’s life.
All this while, all  these things has partly made me what I am now. I am proud to say that I learned all these from you. I know I am miles away from you now, but  Whenever I think of you, Mother, Whatever the time or the place, I picture a moment of childhood and a smile spreads over my face.
I feel myself being encouraged in all I am trying to do. I remember the pride you expressed whenever i do a little good. To you I was never a loser. I know I am miles away from you now. But, I will never forget what you are giving me and you have made me special in your own ways. I am what I am because of you and dad. You never left hopes on me, your belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now. I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life.I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.
Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.
 
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Posted by on May 12, 2012 in Experiences of Life., Family & Relationship, Life & It's Importance

 

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Unrevealed Words to My father

19 Jun

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Munn@Prawin….

Hi Dad,

I thought of expressing my feelings to you, but I never.

You are a great dad and a very hard working person. You are my guide, mentor, teacher and my all-time role model in life. There are still a lot of things I have to learn from you in all these years. Every time I see you handling an issue with Honesty, stability & Boldness and patience, I always wonder how you are able to do it.

I remember the days……………

  • The days you worked as an Army Official at the Borders. Even now i feel very proud to say that My Father served our Nation.
  • The unforgettable days in my life are the days when we were in the North India.
  • You used to take me to the Mahamkali temple located on the hill bit away from the firing area. I used to play with my friends Sumi & Suji, whom I remember even now.
  • I remember the hard times when we were in economical drain, after you came retired from Army. You worked as heavy vehicle driver to take care of family. I understood that “Life is not as easy as we dream & it’s not too hard to be scared of, the only thing is we have to understand life”.
  • When you used to pick me & sisters from school during night time, we used to come together on your Bi-cycle. I learned life is responsibility.
  • I travelled almost North & South parts of India along with you. I believe Life is a sweet journey, If my father accompany me all the time.
  •  The days you used to help Mom in making different dishes. I felt to love someone even the smallest things you do matters a lot.
  • You gave lot of freedom to me, but I don’t know why I hid many things & feelings from from you. The reason is I don’t want to hurt you.
  • When our house met with fire accident, there is nothing left, but again you started from scratch. I learn that “Problems are common in Life, our strength lies in, how we respond”.
  • When I was put behind the bars due to some college issues in the year 2004, you stood behind me and gave your hand to come out of that situation.
  • You encouraged me in almost everything that I felt like doing. I realized it is not the winning that matters; it is the participation that matters.
  • The days when you used to get new clothes for family members on any occasion, but you and mom used to buy clothes for yourself very very rarely. I realized how much you care & want us to be happy. Also I realized saving is part of every man’s life.
  • I came to know how much I love you, when i left you to pursue my Higher studies.
  • I remember the day when I came to know that I am the reason for the tears in your eyes, I felt like moving away. But how can I live without you. I realized that I am meaningless without you.
  • The way you took care of your parents, family members & relatives motivated me a lot. Everyone should learn from, how to take care of their parents.
  • I remember the first day of my office, where you you gave me lot of guidelines which  i will never forget.
  • The hardworking and whiz mind of yours…It made me realize hard work always pays off and gives us mental satisfaction.
  • The days you used to wake up early and come home late. I realized a man’s will plays a lot, it is not the body that controls us but it is the mind. I still wonder how you can do it at this age. It is just so amazing.
  • You are an all-rounder nature, made me realize to be a Dad needs this trait always.
Father I may not be good at expressing & showing my care, love, concern & respect, but I strongly believe that you can understand because you are FATHER…..

There are many many many things I learnt from you, which makes me stand out of the crowd even now. Thanks for being a wonderful dad, great role model and a wonderful motivator. I honestly feel, you have greatest skills and skills more than an average man, only we know about it. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever.

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..Yours Ever lasting…munn@

 

Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.

 
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