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At every stage of life, our relationships and families present us with both joys and challenges. Learning to manage stress, to understand our own emotions and behaviors, and to communicate effectively can help strengthen our own emotional health.

My First Love called me Munna


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Yesterday, during one of discussions with my Stakeholders, I was asked how did I have a unique Surname  Munna. I simply smiled at him and continued my discussion. He interrupted me and asked the same question again.

Unknowingly, an angel called Nikki flashed in my mind. Nikki, she is the amazing girl who entered and left my life  unknowingly. In the last 20 years, thousands of people asked me the same question during my colleges days, Trainings, guest lectures, office place etc. Answer is simple and straightforward. My First love used to call me by name Munna.MunnaPrawinI love you”- a sacred phrase that was already made before each of us was born. It may sometimes be hard to explain, hard to say and hard to express, but it will always be easy to feel. I didn’t believe in such feeling as love ever, not so long until I met somebody, who changed my life and made me utter these words with no doubt, no hesitation, just love. First love is an experience that you get only once because it’s filled with emotions that you feel for the very first time. Enter into your life, from out of nowhere, this new person. BOOM! You can’t explain quite why, but you just know there’s something super-special about them. Thrilling, perhaps. Your beloved is an angel.

When Nikki was two days shy of her 15th birthday the night I kissed her for the first time. Her name was Nikki. It was July 18, 1999, and as we are walking back from school in the evening, I stopped her by holding the hand and kissed her — full-mouthed and everything I dreamed of and more. She was so shocked and inexperienced that she kept her eyes open at first, not sure what to do or where to put her hands. All I can feel is good, like eating ice cream on a summer night.

I had never been kissed before. Not a peck on the cheek. The kiss led to more dates, made us more close that and my girl used to hold my hands as we walked out of high school and the next thing I knew, I had a girlfriend. You will never kiss anyone again like how you kiss someone when you’re in high school. Remember this. There is something innocent and passionate about the high-school sweetheart relationship.

Reality of Life

Everyone who falls in love for the first time thinks that his or her respective romance is far superior than everyone else’s, by the way. Sure, other people have first loves—but they cannot hold a candle to yours. You and your beloved are unique. No one else can feel these particular emotions. Oh, no. You alone own these one-of-a-kind feelings that no other human will ever know. And you feel them potently.

That’s first love for you. It’s awesome. It’s wonderful. It’s a mirage. It’s innocent, because for a brief time, you truly do believe that you are special and unique. (This is actually your brain chemicals playing a nifty little trick on you to get you to reproduce and perpetuate the species—but you don’t know of such banalities yet.)

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Think of first love as your very first time riding an airplane. It’s magical. A little scary, maybe? You don’t know what to expect, what comes next. Part of the thrill is feeling the plane take off from the tarmac for the first time and edging into the sky. I like to think of first love as a lot like that plane ride—young lovers are focused on the thrill of their journey. They’re not really too concerned about where they end up.

They could end up in a tropical paradise, although that’s a long shot. More likely, they end up in a depressing third-world country without enough money to get back home. Many first love experiences are tumultuous, peppered with arguments and discord. Young lovers don’t realise  that this is not normal and remain slaves to their feelings. Sometimes for years.

Once you get older, you realise  that the journey is important only insofar that it serves a function to get you to a specific place. But it’s where you end up together that’s far more important. Most young people are unqualified to make that assessment, which makes marrying their first love one big crapshoot.

I don’t regret having a first love—it was a positive, wonderful experience. But I’m relieved that we didn’t end up together. Our lives diverged wildly, and we’re nothing like the young adults we were back in the day.

I have since had loves that were mature and based on things of substance—agreed-on values, morals, and lifestyles. Those relationships made my first love affair seem rather silly by comparison.

Silly, but relevant, because it was my first. Lastly, she is no more in my life and on this earth, but she stays in my memories forever. Years later, now I am father of my two, I look back on my first love as the relationship that catapulted me into all the others — the one that prepared me for all the ups and downs of love and life that would lie ahead.

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Dad hold My Hand forever


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Pr@win..

All that I am today, is because of You.I am so grateful and blessed for having special Father like you.I appreciate you a lot. Take care always and God bless.Wish you a good health and pleasant..

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The strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle’s flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need.

There was nothing more to add, All the qualities combined is YOU! The Masterpiece! My FATHER

Your arms are my shelter, Assuring me that it will be better.

Your hand in my comfort, Lifting me up when I fall short.

Your voice make me strong, Teaching me what’s right and wrong.

Your smile says it all, Father I love you more then all.

DAD I take this opportunity to say Thanks for what you have made my life to be from the word go to this time.

Father,… Walk alongside me, daddy and hold my little hand.
I have so many things to learn that I don’t yet understand.

Teach me things to keep me safe from dangers every day.
Show me how to do my best at home, at school, at play at office and in life.

Every child needs a gentle hand to guide them as they grow.
So walk alongside me, daddy -We have a long way to go.

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Posted by on June 15, 2014 in Family & Relationship

 

A true father is always there for You


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

By ShruthaKeerthi…

People ask me.. “Why social service! you are so young! You should be having fun!?” the truth is..With you as my father, I will strive till the end of my life to be at least half of the person you are! I am blessed to have u DAD, u are my hero, teacher, guide, strength & weakness. You are everything!

 HaPpiE faThErS daY DaDdy  LOve U daDdy 

Parenting is a 24-hour-a-day job with no salary, no raises, no promotions and very few vacations.   kee

A true father is always there.

He is there to spill tears of happiness when his eyes fall upon his infant daughter.

He is there with arms to catch her when she takes her first steps or stumbles.

He is there to teach her at the youngest age, even though she might not understand half of it.

He is there to help her color inside the lines, make her grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup, and tie her shoes.

He is there to hug her and kiss her on her first days of school, and to walk her in if need be.

He is there to teach her and tease her and laugh with her. He is always there to embarrass her, but that’s part of life.

He is there to tell her to go ask her mother, when her mother told her to ask him.

He is there to lecture her, prepare her for the monster called high school.

He is there to put up with her teenage moods and her co-ed relationships. He is there to approve, disapprove, accept and forgive.

He is there to give her a big bundle of flowers when she graduates, to smile when her name is called and feel proud.

He is there to embrace her and kiss her before she goes to live and learn a thousand miles away.

He is there to see her become a workingwoman, to walk her down the aisle (or not, if her independence and stubbornness prevail after all).

He is there to watch her grow as the lines on his face grow.

He is there to welcome her home, always, and let her hug him and smell the smell she remembers from childhood, the warm, protecting, comforting smell of dad.

But most of all, he is always there to love her. And she is always there to love him back.

“Dad, I love you, love you the most. Never leave me alone.”

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Posted by on June 15, 2014 in Family & Relationship

 

Proud To Be Your Daughter


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Daughter of a Lovely Father…..

 The greatest gift I ever had, Came from God; I call him Father!  

He didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.

There will always be a few people who have the courage to love what is untamed inside us. One of those men is my father.

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A Father is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.

A Father is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

A Father is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail…

My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me

FATHER I take this opportunity to say
BIG Thank you for what you have made
my life to be from the word go to this time.
I say thank you Father.
Happy Father’s Day 

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I am going to miss You Forever…


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

My Heart Never knows loneliness until you went away.

Nobody knows that i still wake up thinking of you
each-day .

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I miss your company,
I miss your smile,
I miss walking with you in rain,
I miss your love, care, concern,
I miss the sensation of your touch.
I miss you, pampering me like kid,
I miss visiting temples with you,
I miss the arms that protected me,
I miss the shoulder that takes me to sleep,
I miss the fingers, that wipes out my tears,
I miss the hand that holds me when I am down,
I miss holding you at night,
I miss support of your shoulders when I am tired.
I miss feeling like you want me.
I miss early morning walks in the park by holding your hand,
I miss the kiss which you used to give on my forehead daily,
I miss imagining us a year from now,and how happy we should be.
I miss planning our vacations,
I miss phone calls, text messages,
I miss sweet fights with you,
I miss daydreaming of how nice it will all be.
I miss the idea of you missing me!!!
I miss everything we used to be!
Finally I miss, my Life’s journey with you,

Nobody Understands how much I miss you,

You are defined as my unspoken truth hidden behind my heart…

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Posted by on December 31, 2013 in Family & Relationship

 

Woman’s Day


 

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As world will be celebrating women’s day on 08th March, I feel that it is my duty to express my gratitude to all women in my life, as a mother, sister, teacher, friend, wife, daughter,  peer…to all known and unknown women’s.

Nature has given women so much power that the law has very wisely given them little. A woman is like a tea bag: you cannot tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water. – Even woman laugh, love, hope, try, hurt, need, fear, cry. And they do the same things too, So they really not that different, me and you.

Women play very important roles in our lives. They are our mothers, our wives, sisters, daughters and friends. Women sacrifice a great deal for the men in their lives and sometimes their little sacrifices go unnoticed or without mention. Even with the great push for equality and affirmative action, women still suffer in this male dominated world. Some Inspiration for women that would help motivates, empower and help women step out of the pattern of self-doubt.

 “Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.”

Few things I like in women around me…

1. It is amazing how women are so wonderfully giving and loving. Their love is unconditional and forever. And once 
they forgive, they really forget. They don’t dig out the heavy artillery, even when they have the best opportunities 
to do so.

2. It is lovely how women manage to hear you out for hours. They never pass judgments. Never say you are wrong (even if you have behaved like the worst jerk in the world). And when you ask for their opinion they give it without managing to make you feel a worm. They criticize without wounding.

3. A smile. Now when women smiles, she really smiles. No pretences, She smiles from her heart and speaks with her eyes. It is amazing how many ways women smiles. She has a tender smile, a loving smile, a “what will I do with you” kind a smile. A saucy grin. A smile of gentle indulgence and finally the best of them the complete smile. The smile that says “Whatever you are, however you are, I love you”

4. The way they get all in frenzy, when they want to let you know of their achievements. Their eyes say “I want you to be proud of me” but they will die rather than admit it, After all they only wanted to let you know.

5. “Do-good” attitude – an undeniable part of every woman. They are out to reform everyone. They will give you sermons on all your vices (by the number of ‘vices’ they list you will feel a worse insect than Satan will) and tell you have to reform to be a “better” person. And will be hurt if you don’t wanna change. 

6. A single thing that I love about a woman, it is the perfect mix that makes men goes weak-kneed. The sensuality combined with nurturing, the naughtiness combined with caring, the vivacity coupled with quiet understanding. It is a heady mix and man, it is very intoxicating. 

Therefore, 

Kudos to the Mother who loves others even more
Kudos to the brave lady
Kudos to the business woman
Kudos to the sports woman
Kudos to the politician
Kudos to the women for all her successful and enduring

I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself.

 

 
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Posted by on March 8, 2013 in Family & Relationship

 

Be my Valentine Forever


Being in love is the magical and unforgettable experience of your life. So don’t be shy and reveal your true feelings to the one who has made you fall love.

Valentine’s Day will be celebrated on 14th of February, throughout the world every year – with much love and enthusiasm. It is the most awaited day by lovers all over the world. Co-incidentally I met Love for the first time in same month. That first meet changed my life totally. I decided never to heave her hand irrespective of situation I am in and consequences i need to face. Till date I am on it and I will be on IT.

Love cannot be measured in actions and words but when expressed in the right terms it can sure melt someone’s heart. Valentine’s Day is the day which is celebrated all over the world as the day of love. It is the perfect day to communicate your deep feelings of passion and affection towards someone you have fallen for.

Let’s share the world
A sea is for you, and waves are for me.
The sky is for you, and stars are for me.
The sun is for you, and light is for me.
Everything is for you, and you are for me.
Happy Valentines Day

Valentines-Day

The moment I saw you
I fell in love with you
I can’t live without you
and want to spend the rest of my life with you
I Love you
What will you reply?

You are The most beautiful waterfall in all the good times,
My Friend, My Love, My All.
You are the most amazing part of waking up every morning,
I love you, with every beat of my heart and every breath I take.
Thank you for being in my life and my world.

Your love surrounds me like the air that I breathe.
Your kiss touches me as gentle as a breeze.
Your touch is as tender as that of a child.
Your hug is warm, meek, and mild.
Each day we grow older and its plain to see,
The love that you give me is all that I need.

You may be out of my sight, but not out of my heart.
you may be out of my reach, but not out of my mind.
I may mean nothing to you, but you’ll always be special to me.

 I thought love was just a mirage of the mind,
it’s an illusion, it’s fake, impossible to find.
But the day I met you, I began to see,
that love is real, and exists in me.

I wanted to tell you that wherever I am,
whatever happens, I’ll always think of you,
and the time we spent together,
Was my happiest time. I’d do it all over again,
if I had the choice. No regrets.

Happy Valentine Day! To all my friends who are committed:
And To all my friends who r single,Happy Independence Life…:-)

 
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Posted by on February 13, 2013 in Family & Relationship

 

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Way of the Peaceful Parent


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

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The article was by Father of beautiful angel…

Peace isn’t a place with no stress, but a place where you take the stress as it comes, in stride, and don’t let it rule you. You let it flow through you, and then smile, and breathe, and give your child a hug.

Parents will always have stress: we not only have to deal with tantrums and scraped knees and refusing to eat anything you cook, but we worry about potential accidents, whether we are ruining our kids, whether our children will find happiness as adults and be able to provide for themselves and find love.

I’ve learned that we can find peace.

There is a Way of the Peaceful Parent, but it isn’t one that I’ve learned completely. I’ll share what I’ve learned so far, with the caveat that I don’t always follow the Way, that I still make mistakes daily, that I still have a lot to learn, that I don’t claim to have all the answers as a parent.

The Way

The Way is only learned by walking it. Here are the steps I recommend:

  • Greet your child each morning with a smile, a hug, a loving Good Morning! This is how we would all like to be greeted each day.
  • Teach your child to make her own breakfast. This starts for most children at around the age of 3 or 4. Teach them progressively to brush their teeth, bathe themselves, clean up their rooms, put away clothes, wash their dishes, make lunch, wash their own clothes, sweep and clean, etc.
  • Teaching these skills takes patience. Kids suck at them at first, so you have to show them about a hundred times, but let them try it, correct them, and let them make mistakes. They will gradually learn independence as you will gradually have less work to do caring for them.
  • Older children can help younger children — it’s good for them to learn responsibility, it helps the younger children learn from the older ones, and it takes some of the stress off you.
  • Read to them often. It’s a wonderful way to bond, to educate, to explore imaginary worlds.imagesqq
  • Build forts with them. Play hide and seek. Shoot each other with Nerf dart guns. Have tea together. Squeeze lemons and make lemonade. Play, often, as play is the essence of childhood. Don’t try to force them to stop playing.
  • When your child asks for your attention, grant it.
  • Parents need alone time, though. Set certain traditions so that you’ll have time to work on your own, or have mommy and daddy time in the evening, when your child can do things on her own.
  • When your child is upset, put yourself in his shoes. Don’t just judge the behavior (yes, crying and screaming isn’t ideal), but the needs behind the behavior. Does he need a hug, or attention, or maybe he’s just tired?
  • Model the behavior you want your child to learn. Don’t yell at the child because he was screaming. Don’t get angry at a child for losing his temper. Don’t get mad at a kid who wants to play video games all the time if you’re always on your laptop. Be calm, smile, be kind, go outdoors and be active.
  • When a stressful time arises (and it will), learn to deal with it with a smile. Make a joke, turn it into a game, laugh … you’ll teach your child not to take things so seriously, and that life is to be enjoyed. Breathe, walk away if you’ve lost your temper, and come back when you can smile.
  • Remember that your child is a gift. She won’t be a child for long, and so your time with her is fleeting. Every moment you can spend with her is a miracle, and you should savor it. Enjoy it to the fullest, and be grateful for that moment.
  • Let your child share your interests. Bake cookies together. Sew together. Exercise together. Read together. Work on a website together. Write a blog together.
  • Know that when you screw up as a parent, everything will be fine. Forgive yourself. Apologize. Learn from that screw up. In other words, model the behavior you’d like your child to learn whenever he screws up.
  • Patiently teach your child the boundaries of behavior. There should be boundaries — what’s acceptable and what’s not. It’s not OK to do things that might harm yourself or others. We should treat each other with kindness and respect. Those aren’t things the child learns immediately, so have patience, but set the boundaries. Within those boundaries, allow lots of freedom.
  • Give your child some space. Parents too often over-schedule their child’s life, with classes and sports and play dates and music and clubs and the like, but it’s a constant source of stress for both child and parent to keep this schedule going. Let the child go outside and play. Free time is necessary. You don’t always have to be by her side either — she needs alone time just as much as you do.
  • Exercise to cope with stress. A run in solitude is a lovely thing. Get a massage now and then.
  • It helps tremendously to be a parenting team — one parent can take over when the other gets stressed. When one parent starts to lose his temper, the other should be a calming force.
  • Sing and dance together.
  • Take every opportunity to teach kindness and love. It’s the best lesson.
  • Kiss your child goodnight. And give thanks for another amazing day with your beautiful, unique, crazy child.

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‘You know the only people who are always sure about the proper way to raise children? Those who’ve never had any.’

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Posted by on December 29, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

Man who Programmed his LIFE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

From students of PSNA college..

Prawin, the day I met you during a training program in my college, my first impression is you are so handsome with unique dressing, silver rings, bracelets and earring. You are first crush in my life and to many others in PSNA college 2011 BE batch. When you started the training program, you looked like an Idiot who is speaking so arrogant and have no respect towards girls. By the end of 3 day training event, you looked something special to me and many of my friends. As it is a college with many students who girls,  many of my friends started to admire you for your looks, your attitude, your teaching skills and love you poured on us. After journey with you and by seeing and listening to people about you, I understood I am totally wrong for taking u wrong on day 1. From then, every-time I used to get surprised with your lectures, articles and with your Gutso nature. You are unique in way you speak, behave, give lectures, work, treat others, learn, eat, live your life… I mean  WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.05.26 PMeverything grabbed the attention of people around you. People like you are actually a very rare gem. You might not actually have a bad personality, but it can be so intense that other people often feel the need to give you a wide berth. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should change who you are. You just need to understand that people will often misunderstand you.It could be the energy around you, it could also be a peculiar personality trait that rubs people the wrong way.

Out of my curiosity of attraction or love, I did lot of analysis and found some interesting and hidden points about your personality. For those who possess a deeper personality, you may actually be scaring people off just by being yourself! You are like a Humanoid/ a programmed human. 

Prawin, You possess a deep personality, you are like a diamond in the rough – the honest, reliable, forward-thinking type of person that makes this world a better place. However, not everyone is going to understand how your mind works. There are many people out there who are willing to settle for far less, and your intensity threatens the simplicity of the world that they have created.

You do things with gusto. You believe that you only live once, and therefore, you make an effort to live life to the fullest. Many people don’t do things in the same manner, and they will therefore not get why you do it. But take heart, there will be people who understand your passion, and you can hold on to them.

You Never encourage shallow relationships. You’re not the kind of person who is going to enjoy a one-night stand or a casual fling. If you get into a relationship, you’re all in. You want to connect with someone on a deep level, establishing a meaningful relationship, and anything less is a waste of time in your opinion. As a person with a deep personality, you expect others to give as you give, but you’ll soon be disappointed when you find that many people are only “deep” on the surface” and that it is difficult for people to keep up the ruse over time.

You are incredibly open-minded. Too many people have masked closed-mindedness today with the illusion that they are merely staying true to their morals and beliefs rather than admitting they simply haven’t tried to understand. Instead, you are open to trying to understand new ideas, concepts and ways of living. You may not agree, but you’re always willing to learn more.

IMG_1023You are brutally honest.When it comes down to it, you don’t have time to waste beating around the bush. It’s why people both love and hate you. You don’t bother to sugar coat things, and see your honesty as a positive trait about you. Don’t worry, it is, but many people are not going to like it when you tell it like it is, especially if it’s a hard truth about themselves they don’t want to admit.

You always have a clear picture of what you want. Knowing what you want means you can get to work faster. This means that people will be always in your dust. Your goals are always a top priority which can lead you to say or do things in your quest to achieve success that will make others feel uncomfortable. When you speak your mind you are capable of achieving those goals and that makes people pretty uncomfortable; especially when they are comparing themselves to you and your amazing self. Just be careful not to be too goal focused or you can lose sight of the beauty in the little moments in between.

Your habits are programmed. Schedules and consistency are your friends, creating a solid and predictable foundation upon which you can build your life. You like to know what to expect and how you should prepare for it, and you have no interest in surprises.

You are a solution for problems. If you’re in a difficult situation, you’re not the kind of person who is going to sit around wallowing in the struggle you’ve been handed. Instead, you will instantly get to work trying to find a solution to the problem, working on getting yourself out of there and on to better things.

You like consistency. Your deep personality requires some maintenance and that means that you don’t like surprises. You expect people to do what they said they would do, and you always deliver on your promises in return. When someone rocks the boat, it can be hard for your emotional thought process to handle, and that means that you need longer to deal with life’s problems. But that’s okay, it also means you get to spend more time working through things that others would just glaze over.

Your life isn’t fear driven. Every human being experiences fear. For some people, it can stop them from living a full life. But you’re different. Fear is just another annoying emotion you’ve chosen to accept and move on from. You understand that you will undoubtedly experience fear when you try something new, but you also know that trying new things is what makes life fun and rewarding. After all, growth only happens when you escape your comfort zone.

You aren’t afraid of intimacy. You never seen feeling uncomfortable in expressing love or your feelings. I still remember you sharing your first kiss incident. You want to share your life with someone who understands you at your deepest core. ThaWhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PM(2)t can be hard .But it doesn’t mean that you will never find it. It’s surprising how many people in today’s society claim to understand the importance of intimacy and then shy away from it completely when the opportunity presents itself.

You are incredibly intense in all that you do.You are too intense for some people. You love life and you love living life to the fullest.You intend on living life to the fullest, experiencing everything available. This causes you to lead your life with a level of intensity that most will fail to understand. The few who understand you will share your passion for finding enjoyment in every moment, those are the people you need to surround yourself with.

You cannot shut your mouth.While this may come across to others like you are  interrogating them, the truth is that you want to get to know them on a deeper and more meaningful level. You aren’t asking for manipulative reasons or to find out information you can use to your benefit later, you genuinely want to understand others better and asking questions is the best way to learn more.

You hate waiting in life. Sure, you understand the importance of friendship and companionship but when it comes down to it, you have places to go and things to accomplish. If someone is going to waste your time or leave you waiting around waiting for them to recognize what you have to offer, you have better things to do. You’ll simply walk away and devote that time and energy into those who are ready.

You are like a human lie detector. When someone is being insincere or dishonest, it’s like a red light goes off in your mind warning you that they are screwing around. As someone who values honest, as we previously discussed, there’s nothing you see as a bigger deal breaker than someone who tells lies. You have no interest in sticking around for those that don’t respect you enough to be transparent with you.

You are careful who you let into your life. You only want to spend time with people who actually add to your life. After all, what good is a friend if they don’t make your life better? Yes, you’re intense when it comes to adhering to these principles, but it’s the best way for you to live a great life.

WhatsApp Image 2019-11-17 at 8.02.39 PMYou hate ignorance. You cannot tolerate the feeling of being ignored by your beloved ones. Your critical thinking skills are something you’re immensely proud of. So when people make judgments without knowing the facts, it irks you to your core.

You love learning and expanding your mind. You are book worm not reading books alone, but peoples lives as well. Your deep and complex mind needs new information to feed itself. You love learning new things and expanding your knowledge about the world and the universe.

You don’t need attention. Craving attention because of your looks is something you simply can’t understand. You’d rather live with integrity and keep your complexity and depth about you. That’s why you take the time to get to know someone. You know there’s much more to a person than what appears on the surface. This can be intimidating to some people because you won’t be manipulated by what appears on the outside. You see them for who they truly are.

I watched this video about you. The reason nobody doesn’t understand you is that you try to be the different one and perhaps you don’t want to be understood. There’s nothing wrong with being different, it’s good to be you and unique. If you weren’t different, we’d all be the same and that’s not fun nor worth it. Many people in this world  won’t understand you like me in the first meet, but that isn’t a bad thing, But that doesn’t make you less of who you are.

MunnaPrawin, you are very unique and special to me. You are unique breed of human with so many attractive and inspiring traits. Never change yourself for anyone. Let people leave you, but never leave yourself. Remember your words, If a day comes where, I have to change ME to impress this world, that means I am dead.Remember these words forever and never change. One last thing, you may have heard this word from many, but i wanna say that I love you till my last breath. Yours loving AkshayaAryan.

 

 

 

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Enhance your Communication with Mother


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

A mother’s love is unlike any other and our one-of-a-kind relationships can never be compared. Before its late, let the woman in your life know how much they mean to you by showering them with love, kind words. Aunts, sisters, grandmothers and daughters deserve special appreciation for all that they do.

It is Dedicated to every Daughter/Son of a mom — Mothers of babies, mothers of grown children, mothers who lost their babies before they were born, mothers who are yet to be, single mothers, married mothers. Enjoy the precious gift.

I am writing this article with the experiences of me, experiences of people around me & content that is collected across the globe.

Like all the Daughters/Sons, I love my mom very much, but I failed to express it. Due to small misunderstandings, arguments to some extent I missed my mom’s love. After self realization I got back to mom with love for love.

Mother-daughter relationships are complex and diverse.There also are ups and downs, no matter how positive (or prickly) the relationship

Whatever your relationship with your mother or daughter, you can always make improvements. Here’s how to enhance your communication and connection and cut down on clashes.

 

Don’t wait to make first Move:

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move. Doing so inevitably leaves relationships stuck. “Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.”

Communicate.

Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. “In some ways they can be so close or feel so close that they believe that each of them should know how the other one feels,” . “What happens as a result is they don’t communicate.” Or they communicate harshly, in ways they’d never “dare speak to everyone else,” which causes hurt feelings that “don’t go away so easily,” .Instead of harshly dismissing your mom (or ignoring her calls), communicate what works best, such as: “If you want to talk on the phone, the best time is in the morning. But if you want to reach me during the day [with something] more urgent, just text me.” 

Change yourself.

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. But you aren’t chained to their actions; you can change your own reactions and responses. Interestingly, this can still alter your relationship. Think of it as a dance, . When one person changes their steps, the dance inevitably changes.

Be an active listener.

Active listening is “reflecting back what the other person is saying,” instead of assuming you already know, . When you reflect back what your mom or daughter is saying, you’re telling her that she’s being heard and that you understand.

Also, listen “to the feelings underlying the message,” which is often the real message, . If “mom says, ‘you’re acting like a doormat,’ the daughter hears that as being horribly critical [and that she’s not good enough], but what the mom is really saying is, ‘I feel so protective of you because you’re not protecting yourself.’”

Repair damage quickly.

“One of the key principles in sustaining healthy and satisfying marriages is to repair damage quickly,” . Healthy couples don’t avoid conflict. They realize conflict is inevitable and they deal with it head on. This applies to mother and daughter relationships, too.

Not resolving conflict can have surprising consequences. “If you don’t deal with your mom by resolving conflict, you’re going to carry those same patterns into your future relationships,” whether that’s with your friends, partner or boss, .

Learn to forgive.

Forgiveness is “an individual act. It differs from reconciliation, which takes both people and isn’t always possible. Forgiving someone isn’t saying that what happened is OK. It’s not condoning, pardoning or minimizing the impact.

“I suggest all daughters you have to forgive your mom in order to be healthy.” “The power of forgiveness is really for the person who forgives.”

“The better you can forgive, the better you can repair damage quickly,”

Don’t bring in third parties.

It’s common for mothers and daughters to bring someone else into their conflict. A daughter might involve dad because mom is driving her crazy. Mom might involve another child because she feels like she can’t talk to her daughter. Either way, talk directly to the person.

Finally, ask yourself if you’re OK with your relationship and your actions.

Have realistic expectations.

Both moms and daughters often have idealistic expectations about their relationship. For instance, kids commonly think their mom will be nurturing and present — always. This idea can develop from an early age. When her kids were young, I found myself setting up this unrealistic belief during their nightly reading time.

Stick to the present.

Moms and daughters tend to have “an old argument that runs like a broken record in the background,” . It becomes their default disagreement. Instead, avoid “bring[ing] up old gripes from the past,” and try to focus on the present.

Balance individuality and closeness.

It can be challenging for daughters to build their own identities. Sometimes daughters think that in order to become their own person, they must cut off from their moms, . Or, quite the opposite, they’re so fused that they’re unable to make decisions without her input, . Both are clearly problematic.

But daughters can find their voices and identities within the relationship. We learn how to deal with conflict and negative emotions through our families, . “You don’t grow and develop and become your own person void of relationships.”

Put yourself in her shoes.

If you’re a daughter, think of your mom as a woman with her “own wounds and hurts,” who was born and raised in a different generation with different values and difficult family relationships and issues.

If mom really wants to hang out, instead of saying “Stop asking me, you know I’m busy,” say, “I know how much you want to meet with me, and I wish I could but I can’t do it this week; can we do it next week?”

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

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Me and My Mom


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Sravanthi….

Hi All,

I would like to share some of my feelings that i thought of sharing with my mom, but I never.

My Mother is the best gift that was given to me by god. Having her is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.

I am so thankful – SO thankful – for my mother, and so fortunate to have the relationship that I have with her.  She is the strongest woman I know.  She loves her children  fiercely.  She is a fortress.  She breathes selflessness.  She is my sounding board.  She is the picture of sacrificial giving.  And she taught me how to do my very favorite thing in the universe:  be a mother.  I couldn’t be more thankful, and to borrow a phrase that she often used in reference to my brother and me:  “I couldn’t have gone to Heaven and picked out a more wonderful mom.”

Let me start off by saying that my mom is great! She is my role model and I can only hope to achieve a fraction of what she has achieved in her lifetime.My mother’s story is AMAZING and I am hoping to one day write a book telling everyone about her unbelievable challenging life’s journey, but for now I am going to ponder my relationship with my mom and how it has changed— for the better.

My mom is a tough cookie. She cares for the family a lot. From childhood I was brought up under single parenthood.I will tell you few incidents that depict my relationship with my mom.  It is a love/tolerate type of relationship. Like any relationship, we have our ups and downs.

My mom struggled a lot to get me to this position.

My mother may not be rich enough to leave me a financial legacy when she go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.

Mom…You have always been a source of inspiration to me when it comes to hard work and not giving up. I have been lazy and sister has been lazy in her own ways, but you never gave up on us to get things done…I always love you for that…

My mother was my first teacher to write and read.

I still remember the days that I spent with her in my child hood.

She used to sit along with us through out night during exams.

She spent many sleepless nights thinking of me and my sister.

In order to feed us, she used to keep herself starving.

From my childhood I was in hostel to pursue my education. Every week she used to come to me, from my village with some special dishes. She used to walk from Bus-stop to my college which is 4 kms In order to save 5 rupees.

My mom used to get new clothes to me & my sister on every occasion, but she never purchased even a single pair.

In order to provide us better education, she sold all her property, jewellery.

She is the first person in this world to become happy, when I was on top; achieved something and when I was blessed.

When I said I am in love with Vamsi, she eacted in a positive way and done our marriage.

In so many ways, my mother have cherished me so much that she cherished her own life.

She used to care me & my sister, as if we were golden treasure.

She always prays for the goodness of our life in this world and what comes after.

She used to spend time to take good care of me. In the middle of the night, where everybody was fall asleep, my mother remains awake to check what i need.

She put her strength all together for me, and being a weak human being in physical, she could still manage to do a lot of hard works for me and family.

Even today if she come to me, she pampers me & my sister a lot.

If there was any argument between me and my sister, she used to take the pain.

Even at this age, i like to sleep with my mom placing my head on her shoulders.

I know I am miles away from my mother now. But, I will never forget what you gave me have made me special in this world. She never left hopes on me, her belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now, but I never cared you and received you with love.I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.

I will hold her hand; I will take care of her till my last breath.

I have decided to keep my mother in my heart with me  and welcome unconditional love and support into my life.

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Posted by on October 2, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

THE UNSPOKEN WORDS


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja….

                                      Mother is the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.

Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.

It was 5.30 pm. I was on the terrace enjoying the sunset. It was a pleasant evening.As usual I was enjoying the wind on my face. My mobile rang. I checked the number, it was my father.

With smile on my face and with anxiety I attended the call, He asked me to start to my home place immediately.

When I reached my home I was informed that my mother was suffering with health problem and she was admitted in hospital.

I was confused because I was never before exposed to such situations.

I regained my senses and my speech after a while.

We know that our time on earth is finite. Still, it is one of the most painful experiences in life.

Doctor predicted “she took all her way and finally she is well.”

I took my confidence and I tried to care her taking all my chance to serve her. But every time I tried to care for her by feeding her or cleaning her, she pushed me away softly.

I realized she did not want me to take care of her.

Because like many other grandparents and mothers do, she gave all her love for granted so she didn’t want me to take care of her.

The way I sat beside her she realized I can take care of her.Somewhere e in her confused mind there is a moment of understanding then she gave me the opportunity to serve her.

I remembered

“The days I spent with my parents were the best days in my childhood. I demanded love and attention from them and I always got it.”

When I moved ahead busy with my goals, career and life….., she used to call me at least  once a week. She used to note my wellness and health. But, I hadn’t called her even once.

I realized how much of their love we had taken for granted.

My mother spent 50 years of her life. “She” a wife and a mother of three children defended the world for her children.

When everything was lost there she fought and she lived with a hope that her children would defend her.

It is said that behind every successful person there is a woman. That may not necessarily be true; however it is true that behind every confident child there is an encouraging mother. Day after day in our impressionable years our mothers either build us up, or tear us down. A child who has a mother who is set on encouraging her/him is a child that starts off with an advantage. Our mothers may not be rich enough to leave us a financial legacy when they go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.

Her smile-her rejection, her laugh-her anger, her presence and I looking after her are deeply overwhelming.

That moment I realized the unspoken words.

It is incredible how much comfort can be found in little things.

We live each moment just heartbeats away from our beloved people so please ensure that on any given day we say the things that we would most want the important people in our lives to know.”

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced; however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth.

There is no greater gift that you could leave behind than to have left “no words unspoken.”

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Posted by on August 14, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

What to name this relation?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel Sylaja….

PRAWIN you are one of the great thing, that happened to me in my life. I am placing the words that I thought about you in your presence and in your absence..

It’s really an honor to me, to work with you and be a part your life’s journey.

Do we choose relations in our lives?

I didn’t choose my parents, my brothers, my sisters they happened to be in my life. Many relations happened in my life, the same way you happened. But you made a difference by how best you happened. I trust and love my parents because my blood. I trust, love and respect you though you are not my blood.

What have you given me that make me respect u so much…..?

Although like every human I want to love and be loved, I fear both. But u made me realize “trust makes you never feel afraid of being used, being misunderstood or being hurt but just makes feel free to give oneself fully to beloved one.

I watch you when you are in front of me, “I perceive how selfless you are, how open you are, how close you are to others and how sweet behind the harsh words”.

I perceive how you love all young and elders not just to be nice but because you see they have something to value.

I perceive how you balance happiness, sadness and humility.

I wonder how you overlook the praises when everyone around shower on you.

I feel warm by your presence and your words.

I feel accepted whenever I’m near you, even though I’m far from your way of perceptions, principles and values.

At times you give hope to laugh away darkness. At times you make smile and sometimes cry.

At times you’ll be a reason to make a step for glory.

You are neither world famous but been world to all who invited you into their lives

“I have never met someone like you who has so much pride and respect for yourself and your loved ones”.

One can never know what may come in life but I feel u never give up your faith. The reason is you make yourself a stick to guide where you want to go.

I one among your memories,

“Why it happened? How it happened? Where does it go?

Not that it mattered. Because” knowing, you love us all for we are beings, i.e humans. Can I name this relation?”Just by word love.

The respect, trust and love growing for you each day. Where do I get the words from, when you impact to make clear ambitions, goals and make life more beautiful?

I am making no expectations from you.

I am not waiting for anything in return. All I want is you live with health and happiness forever…..

You are really good in the way you are, please lead the life as per your expectations. I need not suggest or advice you, because you are PRAWIN.

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Posted by on July 29, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

I LOVE MY PAA


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

By Varalakshmi Davu..

FATHER is the one who makes their children feel protected..

 My Father is the world to me..

He is as as sweet as nectar, as brave as a lion. v1-001

He is a very strong man who worked hard to give me and my Sister a good life. He was always there when we needed him, He is my teacher..

He follows our interests and cooperate with us in play or doing tasks rather than forcing us to follow his own preferences and He responds quickly to the needs expressed by us..

 Unforgettable Moment

When I’m in 5th class we constructed our own house  at that time  we had a money problem, my dad was in a hurry to go out then I went with my sis and hand over all our savings for construction on the spot my dad kissed me on my forehead and tears were rolled down from his eyes..

My dad is my role model. There were many struggles and difficult times, but out of it all, my dad emerged. I don’t believe that any man could ever love me as much as my dad does..

He was always punctual, honest and he has a good sense of humor.. When I’m in home he usually crack jokes only on me..

In My Next Birth I want you as my child…And I enjoy being with you..

Father is Important in Children life Bcoz he is the only person who can give healthier family as well as healthier future for his child..

For the best dad who always had a smile for me.
Though we may be far apart right now,
But here’s a big hug and kiss for you
To let you know how special you are
Daddy, I love you so, You are my inspiration, You are a picture of strength and serenity, And I shall love you till eternity!
Happy Fathers Day

Thanks to you Father for all the care, sacrifices and affection.

 Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 

 
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Posted by on July 1, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

New Born Babies


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

I would like to share some interesting facts about pets.

I am a great animal lover. From my childhood, I have habit to spend time with my pets. One of my cats had a litter of kittens. I remember how small and cute they were! I have two felines right now, one is munna and the other is shadow.

My pets became part of my life, they mean lot to me.

She  loves me no matter what.


She ’s my best friend.

She’s my co passenger in my life’s journey.

She’s like my mother, who takes me into a sound sleep.


She  makes me laugh.


She ‘s the perfect stress-reducer.

They really don’t have to do anything. Just looking at my pets makes me smile.

“I’m having 3 kittens right now and the joy I get from watching them play is amazing.

They let me love and snuggle them all the time.”

They greet me at the door as though I’ve been gone weeks, even when I just run to the store for five minutes. And they don’t  let me sleep a little longer even on Sunday mornings!”

“When I come home from work my pets come running, she wags her tail, then runs over to me talking in a very high-pitched voice, as if to say, ‘I’m so glad you’re home!’ It’s so nice to be loved so very much – and it’s also wonderful to be able to return that love to an appreciative being. I am blessed!”

A pet is certainly a great friend. After a difficult day, pet owners quite literally feel the love.

“As soon as our cat realizes that I am wake she’ll kiss and lick my face.

After that it’s major snuggling time – best way to start the day. My other cat and my golden retriever bring many smiles to my face throughout the day in so many ways. My pets mean the world to me.”

Some Interesting Facts.

We  are  not the owners of pets, We are just the provider of the food and the cleaner of the litter box. Of course they love use for that.

Cats will annoy you to death until they get there way. And they know exactly what to do that will make you do it!.

Cats know they aren’t allowed on the table. That’s why they wait for you to leave the room, leave for work or go to bed before they attempt it.

Everything, and i mean EVERYTHING is theirs, not yours. Get used to it.

ATS ARE SOCIAL!! It is a complete myth that they are aloof and anti-social. It’s just that they aren’t dogs.

They are independent for sure, but cats love to play and cuddle together.

Of course there are exceptions. There are anti-social humans too.

Benefit’s of Having Pets:

According to this article in care2.com, scientists have recently discovered many health benefits that can be attributed to pets. Many people intuitively believe that pets have healing benefits, but there is now scientific proof for such beliefs:

1) Cats lower risk of fatal heart attack: Those who own cats have been found to have a 40% lower risk of heart attack, most likely due to the fact that owning a cat can reduce anxiety, which can lead to heart conditions.

2) Pets reduce stress: A Mindlab International survey reported that 55% of people were more relaxed after spending time with their pets. Stress reduction is a novelty in today’s society and can greatly improve one’s mental and physical health.

3) Pets can help people with serious illness: Physicians often encourage ailing patients to own a pet because it has been found that this can motivate people to take better care of themselves.

4)  Pets lessen the risk of allergies and asthma: Recent studies have found that children who grow up in homes with dogs, cats are much less likely to have certain allergies, and are less likely to develop eczema later in life.

5) Pet owners were found to be more interacting and understanding than those who were highly educated and with higher annual turnovers.

6) Pet owners had better interacting skills than those without making one to feel better when in their company.

7) Living with pets, helps one to develop better communication skills which brings understanding and quality relationships. It is now quite clear that, every one should have a pet for the purpose of improving his interrelation skills among other benefits.

Advantages of Having Pets:

Having a pet teaches toddlers the essential skill of empathy with other people and with animals. At this age, children should be developing a sense of compassion and emotional intimacy with others. This is how they learn to make friends and to avoid doing things that hurt others. Caring  for a pet is the perfect opportunity for toddlers to learn kindness and tolerance.Independence – exercising choice, within reason.

  • Responsibility – grooming, feeding and exercising.
  • Creativity and imagination – make believe and role plays.

  • Disposition and attitudes – develop a kind, caring attitude towards both animals and people, helping children to build a strong and significant bond.
  • Bereavement – as sad as it sounds, the loss of a pet is a less distressing way for a child to learn how to cope with, manage and experience grief and helps to set a basic understanding of what a death means.

  • Cognitive Development – babies enjoy the sensory aspects of animals.They see the pretty bird, hear the cat’s meow, and pet the soft dog. Toddlers can also learn the names and shapes of different animals, and the noises each one makes

My Beautiful Angels:

People who have pets are the most fortunate people in the world. 

Give your pet a big hug from me.

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Posted by on June 24, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

I am Because of you, Father


 

All My Dear Readers,

I am very much thankful to all of you for the tremendous response that you gave, to share your opinion and experiences with your father. It’s an attempt made to come out with an Article, which is nothing but the collection of mails i got from you all. I got hundreds of mails and still I am receiving them. Unfortunately I am unable to publish all the mails that i have got. I expect this kind of support from you all forever. This blog is not individual’s, Anyone can share their expertise & experiences of their life, to the outer world………

This article is dedicated to all the people, who are leading their life in the memories, of their lost ones. Recently i have lost my both the grand parents, who used to pamper me like a kid even at this age. I can’t forget the moment’s that i spent with them. I spent most of my life time with them..

What does father mean?  What does your father mean to you? What is his Role in your Life? What attachment you have? How did he shape you? What do fathers mean to our society, our culture, our nation? What would you change about the way we think about fathers?

The word father may mean different things for different people. To some it may bring the picture of love, laughter, respect, power, authority etc. To others it may mean fear, rejection, disappointment and failure. 

I don’t get exact words to describe father, he is everything in an individual’s life.

  • F-Forever loving
  • A-At my side when I need him
  • T-Talks and listens to me
  • H-Hears my cries & happiness
  • E-Easy-going and fun
  • R-Risks anything to please our family.

A true father will get down to the level of his children; engaging in “their” world with a heart full of love, care and concern not for what they do, but because they are his own; a gift given to him by almighty. He exercises patience in times of rebellion and yet spurs his children on to become who they are called to be; what they are capable of becoming in their life.

“Sita (Orphan School Student)

When my Dad was dying, I was with him, I was terrified. I am 8 years kid, I didn’t know how to act, what to say, so I sat in silence. He asked me, “Aren’t you going to give me a hug?” When we hugged, he started to cry. That memory has broken my heart ever since.  I don’t have anyone, my mother left me with my father, when I was 5 months old.  After my father’s death I was joined in this Orphan School.

“Sanjay ( Medical Representative)

Ten years ago on February 14 th 2002 was one of the worst days of my life. I received a call telling me my father was dying and to come quick. I flew to the hospital, but I failed to see him alive.

” Prasithan ( DJ)

My father who is 67 years old, died suddenly of a heart stoke at the dinner table in 2009. I still remember his last looks, which asked me to save him. At that time i was scared & helpless. By the time I recovered from shock, he left me alone in this world. He left his last breath in my hands. I hug him and cried through out the night, because I know that he is no more.

After all this time it still hurts to talk about it and I have been through a lot of self-medicating and therapy to get on with my life.

“Nirmala (My Mother)

I don’t find any words, which can be used to speak about my father. The only thing I can tell you is father should be like My Father. My age is around 50; I lost my father in the year 2011. Before your father came into my life, my life is my Father. After that your father became a part of my life.

If, I recall the moments that made happy before, now I get cry, because my father is no more.

I was married 28 years back with your father, but till now my father is my driving force. What do I mean is?

To a Women husband is important, more than that father’s love is important.

To whatever heights we move, we are still kids to our parents. Never hurt your parents through your actions, behavior, words, attitude through any means, because they will never tell that you are hurting them.

Venkata Seshagiri Rao Ongole (QA Manager)

My father is everything to me, He is my Strength & he is my Weakness. Not only that, He is my best friend, philosopher, guide and more over he is my Role Model. He has got Tons of patience; he never loses his temper on any critical issues. And he is an excellent yoga guru.

The most unforgettable moment in my life is when he told me “Giri I have confidence in you, you can achieve anything in life. I am not worried of your future. “By listening his words, I really felt happy. From childhood he trusted me a lot. I used to feel very comfortable with him.

Due to my job and my responsibilities, I am missing him badly. I make it a point to talk to him, listen to him as long as he wishes to talk. I wish I was with all through.

In my opinion Father is guide to their future journey of his children.I am very much fortunate to have such a father.

 “Manjula Devi (House Wife)

Like millions of people, I grew up in a single parent household. I lost my father in the early age of my life. When I was in schooling, I lost him. He is the Hero in my life. The most influential person in my life is probably not even aware of the things he has taught me or of how much he has affected my existence.

This person has always been in my life, from the day I first opened my eyes to the moment he left our family alone in this worthless world. He is a protector, well wisher, teacher, a guide, and a source of strength and support. He is whom I look up to with loving trust and pride. With a willing hand to lend, he is a helper; an adviser .He showed me the stars and taught me how to reach them. This person means the world to me, so who is this influential person in my life? He is my one and only father.

 “Chandini (A Hijra)

When my parents came to know I was Hijra, they sent me out of house. At that time one Human God took me into his arms. At that small age I don’t know what to call him, he said “I am your father, I feel happy if you can call me Father”.  

All these years no one listened my hearts cry, except my god i.e. My Father. He was truly one in a Hundred million and I’m so lucky to have had him as my Dad. I thought I’d always appreciated him when he was alive but now he’s gone I look back and realize I had no idea how blessed I was to have him around. It would have been Dad’s birthday in a few weeks. I’ll probably cry my eyes out but I want to do something positive to celebrate his life. That’s what Dad would want.

Now I don’t know how to face humans. Really I am so scared of you all. Please give us a chance to live, I want to live. Please………

Spare a thought and a smile to us; we expect nothing more from so called Humans.

“Menon (BE student)

 It is true that not every man or husband will be a father and not every husband who has children will be a good father. Many fathers have many children but have failed in the responsibility of fathering them. We have also seen or read about men and husbands who were unable to have children but have been exemplary fathers? Fatherhood is a great gift. It is a precious gift from God who considers godly family and rising of children to be the utmost priority in the world 

A fulfilled father is not determined by the number of children he has and how successful they were, a father is fulfilled when he has sacrificed to nurture, instruct and raise his children in a way that brings honor and glory to the giver.

The first and probably the most important purpose for fathers are to build strong and fortified families. 

 Fathers are called not only to love and lead their wives but also to love their children without partiality and to raise them with care, compassion, courage and common sense.

“Nikhila (Lecturer)

“The road leading up to success can be bitter, but its result is sweet.” His teachings have made me who I am today. Every moment I think of him. How can someone replace my father, who is everywhere in life and who is life. I lost him in a road accident in the year 2002.

“Vincent (Priest)

My father is the God father of my life. He is the greatest gift to me and my family. He has shown the approach towards life. I have gained not only knowledge, but have applied his teachings to my life. Because of the example he has set for me, my father has provided the steppingstone I need to achieve my goals so that I can lead a happy and successful life. He gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me.

“Chaitankya Kumar( My Student )

Today is my Dad’s birthday prawin. If he was still alive he would have been 56. He passed away almost 2 years ago … and while he was very fortunate to live for as long as he did due to poor health … I still miss him.. I want to see him once. If God exists really, he should show me. I don’t know what I am alive from the day he left me.

“RamBabu (Farmer)

I lost my father 4 years back. My father is not an engineer, industrialist, teacher, firefighter, an astronaut or a brain surgeon – he is a farmer-he is a simple man – He is a Great Father. He has left the greatest impact on me. My father is the individual who has influenced me the most and is the greatest gift I have ever received. I am living in his memories and following the footsteps of him.

“Satyalakshmi( Sweeper)

My dad not only influenced me through his attitude, actions, but also influences me through his words. He has taught me a great deal about life. He shown me the light of life and instills in me lessons that he wished others had instilled in him. I lost him when I am studying Intermediate.

“Srinivas Rao (HR Manager)

My father is a potter, he is uneducated and unable to speak the languages apart from his mother, yet he has taught me all I needed to know about attitude, determination and hard work by the simple eloquence of his example. I never felt bad of his profession, because he is a professional in his profession. I remember the days that I spent with him playing in the mud, roaming on streets sitting on his shoulders, going to exhibition at nampally. He has a dream to see me in suite. After long struggle I became HR of a reputed Organization, but now he is not here to see my achievement. My present life is because of the sacrifice made by my father in the past.

“Father……. I might have felt much happier, if you might not have left me alone like his….. “

“Subramanyam (Manager)

The worst obstacle I had to tackle unexpectedly was the death of my father due to Heart disease. At that time my age was 24. I just completed my Masters then, world became dark. I don’t know what to do, then my father’s words came into my mind Life is a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into a brilliant gem.”  Those words have lot of impact on me. I t has been 40 years back that incident happened. Now I have 1 son & daughters’, and also I am having 3 grand children. Even today I remember the words that I heard from the father. He is a great human, who I ever met in my life.

“NarsinghRao (Auto Rickshaw Driver)

I am not educated, I studied till 7 th class in ZPHS high school. My father is a Daily wage worker. He is a big drinker. Even though he used to take care of my family, provided us with the necessities in life: food, clothing, shelter, and so much more. He sacrificed himself so I can have more than he ever had. He has given me so much, including the most important thing in the world: all of his love.

In the year 2006 he passed away with problem in the lungs. Now I am running this Auto Rickshaw, to drive the wheels of life.

“Sampath (Bank Employee)

Last month I kept leave for 4 days and went to meet my family members in Vijayawada. I don’t know why I spent; I spent total 4 days with my father happily. I came back to Chennai. The last time I saw my dad, I didn’t know it was going to be the last time I saw him. He passed away recently.  He is a retired school teacher.

We don’t know when we are going to miss a person, so please make them feel your love every moment.

“Anupama (Nursing Student)

It’s been nearly 3 months since my wonderful Dad passed away. The shock and numbness are wearing off but the pain is still very raw. I knew it would be hard but I didn’t anticipate how strong the feelings of loss and emptiness would be. What I wouldn’t give to see him again! I’ll never stop missing him but I know in time the pain will start to fade. Already I find myself thinking of him in a happier light. Not ill and unhappy as he was at the end but the way he was for most of his life. Happy, positive and always making me laugh.

“Shilpa (Sex Worker)

I don’t know how my father looks like. From childhood I was with my mother. My mother is a sex worker. In my childhood many men used to come to our house, I was sent out to sleep in the corridor. I don’t know, what she used to do inside, but after 18 years I am doing the same. Now I came to know, why father is important in girl’s life. If my father is there, I might not have been in this sex work. Even my father’s age people used to sleep with me for fulfilling their wishes. It’s all my fate. I can’t change my past. I don’t say my mother is bad, but she is not good.

 “RajKumar( Electrician)

I never got to do many things with my father. He is a truck driver that is only home two days a week. When my brothers were kids, they would go with him on trips when I was old enough; he started driving for a company that wouldn’t allow it because he carried dangerous chemicals. We never went fishing or anything, mostly just helped him do any chores or repairs that needed to be done at the house.

Two years back I lost him In an Road accident.

“Susheel (Trainer)

My father is my protector, an inspiration. He shown me love, made me experience love, taught me to share love. He is the person who I love & respect most. The most Unforgettable moment in my life is the day I stepped the hostel gate biding bye to him the tears rolled down my cheek, the thing surprises is that  I was not with my father all my whole childhood but still tears rolled that day.

I can’t expect the life without him. I feel the protective charm with love, confidence in his presence.In my view my father is a great individual, he lead and leading a great life facing hurdles at every aspect in life, never stepped back from his responsibilities at any point of time.

However a father may be as individual, may be drunker, may be irresponsible, may be great person to shower lover, may be strict and aggressive yet he is a protector, guide, inspirational and confidence to children.

I can simply say that, my father made his life as a footpath, to make me to reach my destination.

“Sravani( )

My Dad died from Paralysis when I was 14 years old. I lost my parent, my hero, and my teacher. That day it-self know I will never be the same . . . as I was before.  I see my life as a puzzle – every experience in my life is a piece of unique Life’s puzzle. When combined, they form the entire picture of my life. My Dad took a piece of my puzzle with him, a piece that will never return. I am incomplete without it, without him. We shared memories that nobody else shares, which means he knew me differently than anyone else. When someone you love dies, that part of you dies as well. You can’t re-live that memory with anyone else. Your puzzle may grow, but you can never replace that missing piece. And because of that, I will never be the same again.

Even today, daily I cry for my father, not because he left me alone, because I haven’t joined him in his journey after life. It’s really hard for a girl to face this World without father. I know the struggles that I faced from the society, for not having a father. The worst part of my life is, not able to see my father’s face for the last time when he died.

I will never be the same . . . as someone who hasn’t lost a parent. 

People are never gone, as long as we hold them in our hearts; they live on inside of us.

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…I sincerely request each and everyone, please never miss your parents. They are the visible gods on earth..

Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.

I’m missing my dad on father’s day.

Happy Father’s Day to all of you who are fathers, grand fathers, great-grand fathers and aspiring fathers.

Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 15, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

Mr. Perfect


Good Morning all.

Today I would like share some interesting and motivating points about my QA Manager Venkata Seshagiri. Whenever I think of him, the first thing that comes into my mind is his “Ever fading smile”. He is such a great human, who wishes everyone with his smile. He is Person with quality background.

He is a professional path maker, protecting shield, guiding force, fire extinguisher, a work wheel greaser, a motivator, a pencil pusher, a role model, and if necessary, a disciplinarian in our QA Department.

In a family, father plays the crucial role in laying the foundation to the future of family members, in the similar way My QA Manager is like a father of our QA Department who is the base of Quality of any product that is produced from our organization.

Normally in many Organization’s QA Managers/Project Managers do to lot of circus to achieve the trust of their Director/VP and also from their sub-ordinates. But frankly speaking, Giri’s nature is not that. He is very good in the way he is.

Traits that I like in My QA Manager are:

Ever Fading Smile.

A smile can stop tears, stop a frown, ease ones pain, shed light on sorrow, make you blush, even fill one with excitement. The things a smile can do are truly limitless. Every ones smile can cause such different positive reactions in so many different people. The simple greatness of a smile is truly remarkable. It’s true… some of the best things in life are free, yet priceless.

I heard these words in my childhood, but after seeing GIRI, I started believing . He is such a person, who conveys almost everything with his sweet smile. Daily once I meet or talk to him to grab that lovely smile.

Excellent Interactive & Communication Skills.

Communication is an important facet of life. Communication skills are essential in all spheres of life. Every day, in many ways, we communicate with other people.

Giri style of communication & interaction with Team members is very impressive. He has the ability to communicate comfortably with people at all levels of the team & organization about the project. He conveys the message that he want to convey in clear & polite way. Basing on the requirement, he used to engage with different people in different ways in order to convey the message.

Punctual in conferences & meetings.

Many managers don’t have this trait. Giri is very punctual in almost all the areas like coming to Office, attending meetings, taking up client calls, etc. Being on time consistently shows everyone around you that you are the master of your life. It demonstrates foresight — the ability to predict possible hang-ups — and adaptability — the ability to change your plans to accommodate those hang-ups.

Great Technical Forte.

He is not only good at management skills; he is also strong at technical aspects. He has got adequate experience to smoothly run the Organizational issues. He is a High Qualified Professional.  He has got adequate knowledge on different domains.

Great Decision Maker.

In every project there are few crucial decisions which have to be taken on correct time.If any decision has to be taken Giri used to take the team mates opinion, if it’s fine used to implement it. He hasn’t got nature to take his own decisions as he like. Whatever decision he takes he used to present to team if they feel its fine used to implement it.

Sense of fairness in dealing with people and issues.

Giri is very expert in dealing the co workers and also the issues that come in the way. He used to handle them with cool mind, without going under any pressure. He know how to handle the bulls in the organization without getting into any arguments or clashes.

Involvement in the team tasks.

Giri is not only a good manager; he is also a great team player. He used to take up the whole responsibility on his shoulders, without giving burden to anyone. Working in team is always a fun. Whenever any team mate requires help, he used to stretch his hand to help them.

keeps track of all the QA activities in all the projects.

He is a person, who strives for the Quality. Quality in work, resources, actions, out come, everything. He will interact with every individual in the QA Department and finds out what happening and provides suggestions for the better results.

It’s fun to Work.

The main quality that I like in Giri is the way he see the problem or any task that has to be done. He is very cool under pressure. It’s really a great experience to work with him. He used to tell “Don’t worry Prawin, by birth no one is scientist, as the days progress you will learn”. He never shows disinterest towards work. This is one of the common qualities in both of us. I like Work N joyinG.

Consistency in Behavior.

Consistency is a core concept of personality. Giri is very consistent with his behavior. He treats and receives everyone equally. It doesn’t matter what’s the situation, environment, person, task he will be same. The way he interacts in the morning will be same in the evening time too.

Allows others to get credit for the positive outcomes.

In any organization, everyone tries to dominate others to get to top or get the credit. It happens at every level in organization. There are very few individuals who work, but expect nothing in return in terms of name, fame, reorganization, etc. Giri is one such a person, who works rigorously but allows others to get the credit for the Positive Outcomes.

Simple Human.

Apart from all these traits, there is one more important quality which i like in him i.e “Simplicity”. Normally managers try to show-off infront of others, but no my Giri. His life stle is very simple and plain. He is to talk to every individual it can be frsher or experienced, find out their problems and used to give advice to them. In the evening time, he used to join for coffee.

As per my knowledge, He is a good manager, highly organized, and has excellent communication skills; Giri have the ability to interact with all the levels, various groups/departments in our organization. The most important quality that I have seen in him is the ability to properly identify the RIGHT people needed to perform the quality tasks. The manager does not have to be able to perform all the tasks needed, but he/she should be able to assemble a department that can and then lead them to accomplish the company’s quality objectives/goals.

Venkata Seshagiri  is a successful manager who keeps everything running smoothly in our Organization.  A great manager must possess all of the qualities that my Giri have, to make a business or program run smoothly and achieve its goals.

It’s really a great Opportunity and Honour to Work with Giri.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life,  in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 11, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

Long Lasting Relationship


I would like to share some of the points, for a  Long Lasting Relationship that I heard from my Grandfather and also I would like to share his relationship with my Grandmother.

In his words….. “Life is bound with relationships. Everyone have their own perception towards relationship. However, good adult relationships generally involve two people who respect each other, can communicate, and have equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities. Most of us would also expect our relationship with our partner to include love, intimacy and sexual expression, commitment, compatibility and companionship.

After being married for more than 45 years I thought I might take a moment to share secret to a successful relationship.

Your Grandmother name is Lakshmi.

It had been a long journey with her, with Ups & Downs. I really enjoyed her company, but till now I haven’t told her how much I Love her. But now, it’s already late.

I give all the credit to her for the success of our relationship. However, it has been a joint effort, with my wife being a major contributor to the results.

The fact is that I am an extremely lucky man who married a woman who demonstrates some incredible qualities that are the necessary ingredients required for any successful relationship.

My wife and I used to pray, enjoy together,share sorrow together, dream together, and respect each other and our differences. We give each other room to grow. We listen. We talk. We date. We laugh. We plan. We look for ways to give, and not just to get. We share intimacy.

From few years, she is suffering from an unknown disease. The day on which, doctors told that she can’t trace me; on that day itself I was dead. She scarified her life to make me and our children happy. She has done everything that she can. Now I retired from my job. I thought I can have a great time with lakshmi, but.  ”

My heart full request to all the Men, no one knows what’s going to happen in the next moment, so please care, love, respect, do want ever you can do make your life partner happy.

There are few things which have to be considered, if you can master these you will be on the path to success in all your relationships.

Respect your Relationship:

The first and the foremost thing is that, you have your Relation with your partner.

Trust

My wife trusts me & I trust her. She is my true friend,  and has followed me into endeavors throughout the years where even angels would have feared to tread. Throughout the years we have failed and we have succeeded in our life’s journey, but we never lost hope on each other.

Share your Feelings:

Until unless we tell even our partner can’t understand few of our feelings. Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else.

Talk to each other:

Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you will be able to communicate well or can read your partner’s mind, or that they can read yours. Communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you. If you have something to bring up, do it gently. Going on the attack rarely gets you what you want. It is also important to listen to each other.

Tell your partner you love them.

A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner.

Everyone is different:

It’s not fair to expect everyone to be as we like. Accept and value differences in others, including your partner. We often choose people who have qualities and abilities we would like more of. This is one of the reasons why our relationships offer us significant opportunities to grow and develop as people. Remind yourself of this.

Show appreciation for your partner.

Building a romantic relationship isn’t just about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up. Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes.

Make “alone time” a priority.

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company.

Small acts of physical intimacy:

In my opinion the littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy. Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on her shoulders, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street, giving her a hug occasionally – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them.

Blindness

I have faults. My wife has faults. Do we concentrate on our human flaws, or do we choose to be blind to some of those things, and rather become attuned to those qualities of the other party that we admire. Both of us have chosen to concentrate on the finer qualities that we portray rather than focusing on those things that annoy us.

Make plans:

Set goals for your relationship and plan for your future. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.

Be supportive:

Try not to judge, criticize or blame each other; we are all human, there is a chance that we do make mistakes. Remind yourself that you are a team, and in order for the team to be successful, you each have to cheer the other on.

Commitment

When we got married we decided that we will together for life time. The amazing thing is that many people have come in and out of our lives these past forty-five years, and yet our relationship is stronger than ever – and we are more in love with each other than the very first day we met.

Through the years I have seen my co-employees dissolved, friendships wax and wane, but our commitment to each other, through thick and thin, has continued to become stronger as iron does in the furnace.

I remember a day when my lakshmi had her bags packed ready to leave. She had good reason to, but she didn’t. Why? Because she was committed.

Forgiveness

In a relationship if any of the Individual makes a mistake, the other person should forgive and guide them in correct path.

If there is one greater than us who can forgive us, then it is only natural that we should forgive others.

Be sexually considerate:

Be affectionate (sometimes a lingering kiss or a warm hug are just as important). Accept that individuals have different sex drives and to sustain a healthy and happy sex life requires negotiation. A reduction in a couple’s physical connection is often a warning sign of problems in a relationship.

Take nothing for granted.

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work  (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away.

Things to remember

  • A good relationship doesn’t just happen – you have to work at it.
  • All couples experience problems and challenges in their relationships.
  • There are many things you can do to help build healthy and happy relationships and prepare for the challenges along the way.
  • Relationships change. You need to be aware of how they are changing and adapt to those changes.
  • If problems become too difficult or complex, consider seeking the help of your family members.

Successful relationships are forever.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on June 7, 2012 in Family & Relationship

 

A Mother’s Sacrifice


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Munna….

 

Mothers are the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.
It is said that behind every successful man there is a woman. That may not necessarily be true; however it is true that behind every confident child there is an encouraging mother. Day after day in our impressionable years our mothers either build us up, or tear us down. A child who has a mother who is set on encouraging her/him is a child that starts off with an advantage. Our mothers may not be rich enough to leave us a financial legacy when they go, but a mother who sows encouragement into her child’s heart gives the greatest legacy of all.
Mom…You have always been a source of inspiration to me when it comes to hard work and not giving up. I have been lazy and dad has been lazy in his own ways, but you never gave up on us to get things done…I always love you for that…
 They are the one who stay when we get hurt, when we are down, when we are sad, when we are harmed.
They were the first person in this world to become happy, when we are on top; we are triumphant, when we achieved something and when we are blessed.
In there so many ways, mothers have cherished their children so much that they even cherished more than their lives.
They cared for us as if we are a golden treasure that they need to protect us from harmful humans and incidents.
They always pray for the goodness of our life in this world and what comes after.
 They spent time to take good care of us. In the middle of the night, where everybody was fall asleep, our mothers remain awake to check what we need
. They often had a sleepless night to feed us, check our diapers and sometimes we defecated in their very lap. They sang a song to us.
She put her strength all together for us, and being a weak human being in physical, she could still manage to do a lot of hard works for their children.
They were our first teacher to write and read.
 
 Who could be better than them to take care of us, care for us, pray for us and be there for us? There are so many people who never accompanied their mother had a very sad experience.
They were so much jealous to the people who are still living under the caring of their mother. Nobody cared for them with real care.
These were just among from the few sacrifices of our mother. You cannot count every deed they made to let us live better. Before birth, their body was in pain to carry us in their wombs for about 9 months.

They vomited their foods, they suffered headaches, they felt something strange and weakness of their body every morning. But because they are a mother, they paid no complain against these.

They were pretty much excited to see us, to give birth to us. They even talk to us even they could not see us, just massaging their wombs. The wished for the best for us, they hoped for the excellence of our life.
They are doing all these sacrifices wholeheartedly without waiting for something in return. This is priceless care, a blessed care and a gift to us.
If there is someone that we owe our life to, it is our mother.
We could not give her back her sacrifices but we could make her happy.
We should not treat her bad, disobey her will and defy her. Aside from materials, we need to show them our love to them every day. We do not have a right to say bad things about them and hurt them.
Mother you were so kind to me, cared for me, suckled me, I wish I could make you happier each day. I will always love you and pray that I could be more like you.
I still remember the day(s)…
  •      When you would leave me off at School and wave me off bye and return home to finish off all your work at home. And, yet promptly come back to school even in the mid day sun or cold rain carrying my lunch box with a king like lunch. I still remember no other kid enjoyed this privilege; it was just me. Those days made me understand the value of commitment, love and care.
  • When you would get me ready for the school outing with friends and get me packed with Chapatti. Dad would help you make for me on those special days. I understood that even small things in life mattered a lot.
  •    When you found me having a rubber of my friend which I carried home willingly, got so angry thinking I had stole it from him – you made me return it back to him the next day with a sorry. That day I understood the value of morals.
  •  When you would come to collect the report card and mark sheets from Springfield at the times when dad was busy on Parents Teachers day meet – though you knew I was an average performer you had a smile on your face as if I was the best among everyone in the class. That day I understood the value of motivation.
  • When you always protected me and did not give up on me when others boasted about their sons/daughters in the friends and relatives circle. Those days made me understand that no matter what keeping up the respect of your son played its role in building him to a better person in the future.
  • When you always yelled at me and scolded me for not doing some things or not helping you on house hold errands – I understood the value of perfection and getting things done immediately.
  • When you took me to temple, and socialized with people on the way – I understood the value of networking and socializing not just with humans but also with god .
  •  When I get back home tired with a lot of cribbing about school and office, there was always something surprisingly delicious waiting for me which made me forget all negativity – I understood you knew me in and out.
  •   When you gave me all the comforts at home in the weekends – I felt so pampered like a small kid.
  •  When you always considered me one step ahead of everyone in the family – I understood I am special to you as always.
  • When I missed you and dad so much when I came to Hyderabad – I understood my world was around you both.
  • When you saved penny by penny out of household expenses, and when they turned out to a big sum – I understood saving is an integral part of every one’s life.
All this while, all  these things has partly made me what I am now. I am proud to say that I learned all these from you. I know I am miles away from you now, but  Whenever I think of you, Mother, Whatever the time or the place, I picture a moment of childhood and a smile spreads over my face.
I feel myself being encouraged in all I am trying to do. I remember the pride you expressed whenever i do a little good. To you I was never a loser. I know I am miles away from you now. But, I will never forget what you are giving me and you have made me special in your own ways. I am what I am because of you and dad. You never left hopes on me, your belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now. I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life.I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.
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Unrevealed Words to My father


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Munn@Prawin….

Hi Dad,

I thought of expressing my feelings to you, but I never.

You are a great dad and a very hard working person. You are my guide, mentor, teacher and my all-time role model in life. There are still a lot of things I have to learn from you in all these years. Every time I see you handling an issue with Honesty, stability & Boldness and patience, I always wonder how you are able to do it.

I remember the days……………

  • The days you worked as an Army Official at the Borders. Even now i feel very proud to say that My Father served our Nation.
  • The unforgettable days in my life are the days when we were in the North India.
  • You used to take me to the Mahamkali temple located on the hill bit away from the firing area. I used to play with my friends Sumi & Suji, whom I remember even now.
  • I remember the hard times when we were in economical drain, after you came retired from Army. You worked as heavy vehicle driver to take care of family. I understood that “Life is not as easy as we dream & it’s not too hard to be scared of, the only thing is we have to understand life”.
  • When you used to pick me & sisters from school during night time, we used to come together on your Bi-cycle. I learned life is responsibility.
  • I travelled almost North & South parts of India along with you. I believe Life is a sweet journey, If my father accompany me all the time.
  •  The days you used to help Mom in making different dishes. I felt to love someone even the smallest things you do matters a lot.
  • You gave lot of freedom to me, but I don’t know why I hid many things & feelings from from you. The reason is I don’t want to hurt you.
  • When our house met with fire accident, there is nothing left, but again you started from scratch. I learn that “Problems are common in Life, our strength lies in, how we respond”.
  • When I was put behind the bars due to some college issues in the year 2004, you stood behind me and gave your hand to come out of that situation.
  • You encouraged me in almost everything that I felt like doing. I realized it is not the winning that matters; it is the participation that matters.
  • The days when you used to get new clothes for family members on any occasion, but you and mom used to buy clothes for yourself very very rarely. I realized how much you care & want us to be happy. Also I realized saving is part of every man’s life.
  • I came to know how much I love you, when i left you to pursue my Higher studies.
  • I remember the day when I came to know that I am the reason for the tears in your eyes, I felt like moving away. But how can I live without you. I realized that I am meaningless without you.
  • The way you took care of your parents, family members & relatives motivated me a lot. Everyone should learn from, how to take care of their parents.
  • I remember the first day of my office, where you you gave me lot of guidelines which  i will never forget.
  • The hardworking and whiz mind of yours…It made me realize hard work always pays off and gives us mental satisfaction.
  • The days you used to wake up early and come home late. I realized a man’s will plays a lot, it is not the body that controls us but it is the mind. I still wonder how you can do it at this age. It is just so amazing.
  • You are an all-rounder nature, made me realize to be a Dad needs this trait always.
Father I may not be good at expressing & showing my care, love, concern & respect, but I strongly believe that you can understand because you are FATHER…..

There are many many many things I learnt from you, which makes me stand out of the crowd even now. Thanks for being a wonderful dad, great role model and a wonderful motivator. I honestly feel, you have greatest skills and skills more than an average man, only we know about it. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever.

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..Yours Ever lasting…munn@

 

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