Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons and the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
It’s easy to clap when someone is winning; it’s rare to stay when they’re not.
In two decades of my professional journey, I’ve seen the greatest fade after a single failure—despite their effort, success, and sacrifice. This is my reflection on why applause is temporary, loyalty is rare, and how leaders can show up when the winning stops.
The Rooster Story
Once, this rooster was worth millions.
Every victory brought applause, food, and comfort.
But the moment it lost, everything vanished.
No roof. No praise. No people.
Just silence. Forgotten.
Isn’t that how our professional and personal lives work too? When we’re winning, the crowd swells. When we stumble, the room gets smaller.
Applause is temporary. Character is tested in the silence after the cheering stops.
In my 20-year professional journey, I’ve watched some of the greatest of the greats fade from the spotlight after a single failure—irrespective of their effort, past success, or sacrifice.
Talent wasn’t the issue. Commitment wasn’t the issue. The issue was how quickly we, as teams and communities, move on when the scoreboard turns against someone.
Those moments shaped my leadership over the last decade.
What Failure Taught Me
Performance wins attention; presence wins trust. Anyone can congratulate you after the trophy. Few will sit with you in the locker room after a loss.
Results matter—but so do attempts. We learn more from courageous tries than from safe wins.
Teams thrive when effort is remembered. Recognition should not vanish with a rough sprint, a missed target, or a bad quarter.
My Leadership Commitments (and What I Expect of Myself)
Recognise consistently, not conditionally. Celebrate wins, yes—but also name the effort when outcomes fall short.
Stand by people in hard times. Reviews, coaching, resources, and cover—especially when someone is hurting or burnt out.
Hold a long memory for contribution. Don’t let a single failure erase years of service, loyalty, and craft.
Practice gratitude out loud. Appreciation shouldn’t be assumed; it should be heard.
Protect wellbeing as fiercely as targets. Burnout is not a badge. Recovery is part of high performance.
How You Can Lead Differently (Starting Today)
Name three efforts from your team this week that deserve appreciation—regardless of outcome.
Check in privately with one person who’s had a tough sprint or review. Ask, “What do you need from me right now?”
Make recognition repeatable: add a 3-minute “effort spotlight” to your weekly stand-up.
Track contributions over time: keep a running log so a bad month doesn’t rewrite a good year.
Normalize recovery: plan rest after big pushes the same way you plan delivery.
Don’t just celebrate the wins. Stand with people when the noise fades. That’s where leadership begins.
Beyond Success
The world moves on quickly. That’s the painful truth. But we don’t have to.
In our careers, friendships, families, and teams, we can choose to be the few who stay when the winning ends. That’s how trust is built. That’s how cultures last.
If this resonates with you, pass it forward—recognise someone today for their effort, not just their outcomes.
Who stood by you when the winning stopped?
Drop their name (and a thank-you) in the comments. Let’s make loyalty visible.
If you wanna share your experiences, you can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
When I meet university students, one of the most common questions I hear is:
“Sir, I have a degree—why is it still so hard to get a good job?”
For decades, the formula was simple:
Get into a university.
Graduate with a degree.
Land an entry-level job.
Build expertise through promotions.
But today, that ladder is missing a few rungs.
Research from Harvard economists covering 62 million workers shows that firms adopting Artificial Intelligence (AI) are hiring 22% fewer junior employees. The steepest hiring drops are in wholesale, retail, and the very white-collar roles that graduates once relied on.
This isn’t just “no demand for average people.”
It’s no entry for average credentials.
As a coach, I tell my students:
“The future doesn’t ask where you studied—it asks what you can do.”
Why Degrees Are Losing Their Value
1. Credentials as Signals Are Breaking Down
Degrees used to be powerful signals. Employers didn’t know your skills, so they trusted your university’s name.
But now companies can test you directly—through projects, portfolios, and proof-of-work. The proxy has lost its power.
2. AI Boosts Productivity, But Not Judgment
AI is a powerful assistant. A junior analyst can use AI to build financial models in minutes. But here’s the real test:
Can they recognise when the numbers don’t reflect reality?
Can they connect insights across industries?
Can they detect shifts in the environment?
These are judgment calls—skills AI cannot replace.
“Tools can make you faster, but only wisdom makes you right.”
3. The Mid-Tier Squeeze
Elite universities still open doors thanks to brand and alumni networks.
Bottom-tier colleges survive by serving local needs.
Tier 2 and Tier 3 schools, however, are squeezed the hardest. They produced the majority of white-collar workers, but their degrees no longer guarantee entry-level jobs.
And for the 26-year-old carrying student debt, this is not a theory—it’s a crisis.
What This Means for Graduates and Postgraduates
When I run workshops with students, I often ask:
“If degrees are losing value, what do you have that makes you stand out?”
Most look at me with hesitation. And that’s okay. Because the answer isn’t in the past—it’s in what you start building today.
Here are the steps every graduate and postgraduate can take right now:
Step 1: Build a Strong Portfolio
Your degree may get you noticed, but your portfolio gets you hired.
For coders: publish on GitHub.
For designers: showcase on Behance.
For writers: post on Medium or LinkedIn.
For analysts: share dashboards, case studies, or research.
I tell my mentees:
“A project in your portfolio speaks louder than a line on your CV.”
Step 2: Learn AI—but Add Your Own Judgment
Yes, you should learn AI tools. But don’t stop there. Employers are looking for the human layer—critical thinking, problem-solving, and judgment.
Ask yourself:
Can I spot when AI is wrong?
Can I explain complex ideas simply?
Can I frame the right problem before solving it?
Step 3: Seek Audition-Style Opportunities
The hiring game is shifting. Instead of degrees, companies want proof-of-work in action.
Freelancing projects, part-time consulting, internships—they’re the new auditions.
Even if it’s small, each project adds credibility.
I once coached a student who struggled to land interviews. We built a portfolio of small freelance projects. Within six months, he had three offers—not because of his degree, but because of his demonstrated work.
Step 4: Commit to Continuous Learning
The world no longer rewards “one-time learners.”
Take micro-certifications (Google, AWS, Microsoft).
Learn industry-specific tools in your field.
Invest in soft skills: leadership, adaptability, communication.
Remember:
“Your degree is your foundation. Your lifelong learning is the building you live in.”
Step 5: Build Networks, Not Just Resumes
When I interact with hiring managers, I hear this again and again:
“We trust recommendations more than CVs.”
That’s why networks matter.
Join communities, professional groups, and alumni networks.
Find mentors who can guide you.
Attend events, webinars, hackathons.
Opportunities often come through people, not job boards.
Alternate Career Opportunities in the AI Era
Not everyone needs to join a big corporate. In fact, many students I coach find greater success in alternative paths.
1. Freelance & Gig Economy
Skill-first platforms like Upwork and Fiverr reward competence, not degrees.
2. Entrepreneurship & Startups
AI has lowered the cost of starting a business. Students can launch services, apps, or consultancies with minimal capital.
3. Creator Economy
Blogging, YouTube, and online teaching can turn knowledge into income. I know students who earn more from teaching coding on YouTube than from a corporate salary.
4. Domain + Tech Hybrids
Finance graduates with AI skills → fintech analysts.
Law graduates with AI skills → legaltech innovators.
Doctors with data skills → healthtech leaders.
5. Social Impact Roles
NGOs, governments, and international bodies increasingly seek data-driven talent for public good.
How the Education System Must Transform
As someone who often collaborates with universities, I see the gap clearly: we are preparing students for jobs that no longer exist.
Here’s how education must evolve:
From Marks to Portfolios – Every graduate should leave with proof-of-work, not just transcripts.
From Final-Year Projects to Industry Projects – Universities must partner with companies for real challenges.
From Memorisation to Critical Thinking – Teach students how to question, test, and synthesise.
From Fixed Curriculum to Modular Learning – Let students mix AI with finance, design with psychology, law with technology.
From Local Degrees to Global Credentials – Integrate certifications from global platforms into the university experience.
“Education must prepare students for the future they will face, not the past we are nostalgic about.”
The New Career Path
The old path looked like this:
Degree → Junior Role → Steady Promotion
The new path looks like this:
Portfolio → Paid Audition → Accelerated Growth
This is not theory—it’s already happening in AI-driven companies.
Conclusion: Building Your Own Proof of Work
To every student and young professional reading this, here’s my message:
Don’t wait for your degree to “unlock” a career.
Start building your proof-of-work now.
Use AI wisely, but bring your judgment to the table.
Stay curious, keep learning, and expand your network.
The credential collapse is real. But it is not the end of opportunity. In fact, it’s the start of a new era—where your skills, your creativity, and your resilience matter more than ever.
“The world doesn’t need more degrees. It needs more doers, thinkers, and leaders. Be one of them.”
If you wanna share your experiences, you can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons and the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
In a world that often equates masculinity with stoicism, many men are silently carrying burdens they feel they must bear alone. There’s a cultural expectation that men should be strong, not cry, and handle whatever life throws at them without complaint. But what happens when the weight of those struggles becomes too much to bear?
Behind the mask of masculinity, many men hide their pain, afraid to reveal their vulnerabilities for fear of being judged or rejected. Society teaches men that showing emotion is a sign of weakness, that admitting to struggles diminishes their strength. This silent epidemic affects countless men who believe they must face their challenges alone, even when those challenges are overwhelming.
But what happens when a man finally asks for help? It’s not just a request—it’s often a sign that he’s reaching his breaking point. For many men, asking for help is an act of last resort, a decision made when the pain and pressure have become unbearable. It’s important to understand that when a man reaches out, it’s not a sign of weakness, but rather a tremendous act of courage.
As a society, we must challenge the outdated notions of masculinity that prevent men from seeking help. We need to recognize that true strength lies not in enduring suffering in silence, but in the courage to admit when we need support. When a man asks for help, it’s a powerful statement that he trusts you to see him at his most vulnerable. It’s a sign that you are his last hope, that he believes you can provide the understanding and support he desperately needs.
Being a supportive listener can make all the difference. By simply being there, without judgment or criticism, you can help a man find the courage to face his challenges. Encouraging open and honest conversations about emotions and mental health can break down the barriers that keep men from seeking the help they need.
In the end, we must remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a profound demonstration of strength. By supporting men in their struggles and encouraging them to seek help, we can begin to dismantle the harmful stereotypes that perpetuate this silent epidemic. Together, we can create a culture where all people, regardless of gender, feel empowered to reach out and ask for the help they need.
If you wanna share your experiences, you can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches. When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem. Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
Life is complex. Each one of us must make his own path through life. There are no self-help manuals, no formulas, no easy answers. The right road for one is the wrong road for another…The journey of life is not paved in blacktop; it is not brightly lit, and it has no road signs. It is a rocky path through the wilderness.
Life is unpredictable, and it can be both beautiful and unkind at the same time. While some people seem to have a relatively smooth ride, others experience life’s unkindness on a more regular basis. From physical and emotional pain to financial difficulties and relationship troubles, life can be tough for many people.
Life can be very unkind for following reasons!
If you’re not popular, you want fame.
If you’re popular, you want privacy.
If you are poor, you need money.
If you are rich you realize that there is still a lack of happiness in your life. You just want to live a simple life.
Life becomes stressful if you are intelligent because you are not able to ignore anything.
If you’re clumsy, you make mistakes because of your ignorant behavior.
If you’re single, you want a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship, you want some space and freedom.
If you’re not a powerful person, you feel like people dominate you.
If you are a powerful person, you realize that you have to handle all the responsibilities. And it’s hard to identify who really loves you and who’s pretending.
Life can be very unkind to some people, sometimes as a result of circumstances beyond their control such as natural disasters, illness, loss of loved ones or accidents. Other times, unkindness can stem from intentional actions of others such as abuse, bullying, discrimination, or injustice. It’s also important to note that some people may face multiple challenges and hardships, making their experiences of life even more difficult.
It’s important to remember that we are not alone in our struggles and to seek help from friends, family, or professionals when needed. By finding ways to cope and overcome our challenges, we can emerge stronger and wiser.
Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE! It doesn’t matter where did you start.. or how old or how young you are. or how much or how little money you have. or what your current job is or where you work. or how big or small your mortgage is. or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle. or in which country you live. The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
However, it’s also worth mentioning that life can also be full of kindness and generosity, and many people experience love, support, and positive experiences despite facing challenges. It’s important to remember that every person’s journey is unique, and no one’s life can be reduced to a single adjective such as “unkind.
Life is never perfect. Every solution brings a new problem. Light exists because of darkness and this is the bitter truth of life. Acceptance is the only solution.
If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.
Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below. If you enjoyed this, or any other other posts, I’d be honored if you’d share it with your family, friends and followers!
The key is to stay focused and work hard towards achieving your goals. Good luck!
If you wanna share your experiences, you can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
The concept of “Disappearing for 90 Days” is associated with taking a break from daily routines to reflect and recharge. Here are some primary decisions you need to consider to come out of the crowd and make the difference:
1. Develop a routine. Sleep at 9:00 PM and be awake at 4.00 AM every day.
2. Spend 60-minutes of your day reading ,writing, and internalizing what you understand.
3. Be willing to let go of friendships that don’t serve you. If you hangout with losers, you become a loser.
4. Master the art of self-discipline. Get up early, work long hours, and face your problems head on.
5. Learn a high-income skill that’ll earn you $10k+ per month.
6. Stop chasing cheap dopamine. Prioritize what’s important over pleasure.
7. Hit at least 100 push ups and 80 squats per day to stay strong. You’ll also be healthier than 97% of people.
8. Build self-discipline by taking one cold shower in the morning.
9. Make the internet a source of your income. There’re endless possibilities for making money.
10. Take 100% responsibility for your life and never blame circumstances or anyone.
11. Include proteins, fresh fruits, and 3L of water in your daily diet to optimize your health.
12. Hang out with people who obsess over making moves and living a good life. Your circle should not gossip, complain, or get jealous of each other.
13. Invest in a good wardrobe, a good niche fragrance, and learn how to talk. You’ll boost your success rate by 94%.
14. Befriend nature, walk 5000 steps per day to clear your mind, boost your mood and get creative.
15. Keep distance from people who only prioritize their needs over yours. They’re your greatest setback.
16. Be smart enough to quit weed, p*orn, and alcohol. They’re the worst distraction that’ll raise your dopamine, make you dumb, and depressed.
By incorporating these activities into your 90 days of “disappearing,” you can get 10 years ahead in your personal and professional life.
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The key is to stay focused and dedicated to your goals. Good luck!
If you wanna share your experiences, you can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
As we approach the end of the year and plan for a new one to begin, most of us enter a phase of reflection. We assess the goals we set to achieve throughout the year. We look at the highs and lows we faced over the past months. We see the things we did do, what we never had a chance to do, and the things that happened organically that we never expected.
The year 2022 was supposed to be a great year. It is the first first full year after Covid Pandemic.This year has been one, never-ending road. It’s had some straights and has been filled with hairpin bends, but the final corner is coming up.
Do a quick year-end review.
Write down everything that went right with your year. There were probably some good moments. Highlighting them can help you package 2022 up and swiftly move on.
Maybe you graduated, landed a new/better job, welcomed a baby into the world, adopted a new pet, or quit a bad habit. Those are all amazing victories! Celebrate them! Take yourself out on a date, buy yourself something pretty, or do a little victory dance in your living room.
I just want you to look back over the last year and think about three things that people smarter than me have been thinking about for decades: What do I want to start doing? What do I want to stop doing? What do I want to keep doing? As you reflect on the year, what’s something new you want to try? What’s something old you want to stop? What’s something great you want to keep doing?
Don’t beat yourself up.
You might have set ambitious goals for yourself at the start of the year that you now realize you’re not close to reaching as the year comes to a close. Hey, it’s okay! We can’t always reach every single goal we set for ourselves.
Assess why you didn’t reach your goal(s). Maybe you needed more time? If so, extend it as a resolution for next year! Maybe it was too ambitious? If yes, consider adjusting it to be a more realistic goal.
There’s no need to harp on yourself for failing at something. Failure does not define you. It’s part of life. Learn from it, grow from it, and move forward.
Make Adjustments, If Needed
As you reassess your goals, adjust them if it makes sense. Try to ensure all goals are SMART : Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time specific. If you decide to be a little bolder with your goal setting, also be realistic about what you can do well—or at all—given the time you have between now and year-end.
If overwhelm starts to occur, take it down a notch by asking yourself and a trusted colleague “If this goal is going to happen by year end, how can I most easily make that happen?” By talking through the solution with someone else, you may be able to find solutions that would not have come up otherwise.
End the year with generosity
One of my goals is to be as generous as the portions of fries they give you at Five Guys. Have you ever ordered their fries? That cup overfloweth! Sometimes, in the midst of a busy year, I’ve overlooked opportunities to be both grateful and generous.
As I review the last 12 months, I always discover reasons to be grateful. I notice good things that I missed the first time around because I was hustling so fast. This gratefulness then tends to turn into generosity, as I look for new ways to pass on the gifts that have been passed on to me.
Gratefulness changes me. Generosity changes the world.
Ask a friend one small question.
The end of the year can be stressful for a lot of people. There’s family drama, year-end work projects, holiday expectations, and a swirl of other emotions stacked into this season. Reach out to one friend and ask this question: “Is there anything you need?”
Why does asking this question matter? Because when you ask someone what they need, they become visible and valuable. That’s what everyone in your life wants to know. “Do you see me? Do I matter?” A little question like that can have a significant impact, especially after a stressful year. Crisis magnifies kindness. The small things you do for your relationships this season are worth 100 times what they were two years ago because we’ve all been so isolated. Ask that one small question and then don’t be surprised if it leads to a big conversation.
Get Clear On What You Will STOP Doing
As you are put together a clear plan to reach your goals, be as clear about what you will stop doing as what you will start doing…especially if you have a tendency to try and do too much!
Remember Your Self-Care
For peak performance as you end the year, schedule planned rest periods. “All work and no play is not the true champion’s way.”
Unless you stay physically and mentally strong through year end, achieving your goals won’t mean much. And stress can derail even the best of efforts and intentions.
But, Don’t Forget to Have Fun
By refocusing your efforts, you may be able to achieve significant progress on a couple of key initiatives, rather than finishing the year with a stack of unfinished business. It will make the end of the year a time for celebration, rather than a calm environment before a chaotic return to work.
With all of that being said, perhaps the best way to end the year is to celebrate. Although there isn’t much to celebrate, there is joy in knowing this awful year is coming to an end.
Set the Stage for Next Year
As long as you live, there will always be a next year to do things differently. A new chapter. A new blank canvas to draw on.
Whatever metaphor works for you, own it and make it yours. Learn from this year and turn your disappointments into action items to take into the new year.
We don’t have to own the negatives or carry them with us any longer. If something doesn’t serve you, set it free. Vow to make next year better in whatever way(s) you can. Create a plan that is actionable and realistic. Even if you end up straying from it, it’s better to create a road map that you can aim for and hope for the best.
Focus on the four components every great goal requires.
The goal nerd in me can’t help it. I can’t end this list without giving you a set of specific tools. Goals are not complex. They always involve the same four components: results, actions, time, and motivation.
Results are what you flirted with in item number four on our list. What do you want to accomplish? Actions are the physical steps you’ll take to make those results happen. What will you do? Time is everything from the deadline you pick to finish your results to the hours you plan to invest. Motivation is the fuel, fire, passion, or drive that will keep you going way beyond January 1. Most people are okay at dreaming about results but neglect the other three. We’re not most people though. We finish this last year strong and start the new one even better!
Make actionable goals for the new year on the things that you did not follow through with. Set new goals and achieve them in the coming months. Life is a journey, not a checklist. You can’t do everything or be everything all at once. Take it day-by-day.
“If you’re not working hard, ideas don’t matter. The best idea is worthless without execution.
If you’re already working hard, ideas are crucial. Most effort is wasted on mediocre ideas.”
Don’t over-improve your weaknesses. If you’re not good at something, work on it until it no longer prevents your progress, but the bulk of your time is better spent maximizing your strengths.
You’ll see the progress unfolding as time goes by. Trust me, your year was not as horrible as you think it was. End it on a high note!
I hope you had a wonderful 2022. It’s not over yet though — you’ve still got a chance to finish strong. When you do, let me know how it went. Hopefully, your end of year reflection is full of positives, even among the negatives. You can find me online in all your favorite places LinkedIn and Facebook. Shoot me a DM, a tweet, a comment, or whatever works best for you. I’ll be the one trying to figure out how to read books and get better at playing ping pong at the same time.
Finish strong by giving a year-end gift to help kids and change the world through generosityGive a Gift. Change a Life.
Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
I strongly believe in the concept of Pause is Power. Like me, People know breaks are helpful, but we don’t always take them. Take your mind off work to give your brain a chance to truly relax.
We are living in competitive world. Competition comes with great pressure and intensity, and it’s important to remind people of the power that can be found in the simple act of a pause, allowing us to come back better and stronger.
Taking break is not a crime. We have to make sure to Prioritise Wellbeing Over Winning.
You don’t want to take breaks because you think you can get more done. But did you? One day you will started realizing that your neck, wrist, and back are hurting, despite being an otherwise health-conscious, active lifestyle advocate.
Remember that, We work best when we adhere to our natural rhythms, which dictate switching between periods of expending energy and periods of renewing energy.
Elite musicians, actors, and athletes know this well enough and rarely practice for longer than 90 minutes in one session. They take breaks between sessions, and rarely work/practice for more than 4.5 hours in any given day.
Basically, microbreaks help you manage your energy resources over the course of the day — and that’s particularly beneficial on days when you’re tired. We Need to Get Serious About Taking Breaks At Work
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes…including you.” – Anne Lamott
Science Agrees: More Breaks = Higher Productivity
Many people experience “productivity breakthroughs” after going against their instincts to meet a deadline by taking a pause. We emerge refreshed and more resilient after getting up for both brain and movement breaks.
So, how do breaks help us?
Here’s a quick look at the magic taking breaks does to our brain:
Improved focus.
Boosted creativity and problem-solving abilities
Better information retention
Improved productivity
Prevents decision fatigue
Reevaluate goals and seeing the bigger picture
Better stress management
Besides the juicy benefits that breaks have on our brains, now what if you can double the benefits?
It’s simple – add movement to your breaks.
For those who get the least amount of physical activity, replacing a half hour of sitting time with physical activity was associated with up to a nearly 50% reduction in mortality, according to a new study from the American Cancer Society.
Breaks are a great opportunity to incorporate movement into our workdays to combat the setbacks of a sedentary lifestyle.
Take a look at the most important benefits of movement breaks:
Improve energy levels
Boost mood and relieve stress
Strengthen weakened muscles and bones
Reduces the risk of developing type 2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease
Reduces the risk of injury
Boost memory and focus
It’s pretty clear that taking breaks is a powerful tool that can make us better at what we do, feel physically better, and happier.
High-performing people understand the power of taking breaks and know how to take advantage of effective breaks to become more productive while keeping their health in check.
So, how do you harness the power of taking breaks, so that you come back fully recharged both physically and mentally?
Continue reading to find out the strategy that actually works.
How to Work Like an Expert and Maximize Your Productivity
If we want to work like an expert and maximize our productivity, we need to learn from elite performers. Here’s the recipe:
Work in sprints: Give it all you’ve got for short periods of time. Get as much done during that time as possible. Push hard.
Take frequent recovery breaks: In-between work sprints you need to recover and replenish some of your energy.
That’s it. You’re either working super hard – deeply focused, fully engaged, highly concentrated, at full speed – or you’re taking a recovery break.
There’s no more in-between. There’s no more ‘doing some work’. There’s no more preserving energy when you’re working. There’s no more half-assed working because you’re tired or whatever. You either work (you’re super productive) or you don’t (you’re taking a break). You’re either expending energy (work sprint) or replenishing energy (recovery break).
That’s working according to your natural rhythms and it’s exactly how the highest performing people in the world do it.
Now, How long should those work sprints and recovery breaks ideally be?
If you want to copy the best, then the ideal length seems to be working for 90 minutes and recovering for 15 minutes. (That way you also adhere to the ultradian rhythm.)
For most people, however, that’s not very practical. You may have a meeting coming up, co-workers interrupting you, or whatever. What’s important is that you either work or recover. Don’t do some half-working/half-chilling stuff.
Sometimes you may have a work sprint that only lasts for 30 minutes. Or one that lasts for 80 minutes. Or heck, even one that goes on for 2 hours. Similarly, some breaks may only last 10 minutes, or 5 minutes, or 40 minutes.
Don’t overcomplicate it. The key is to make waves and follow periods of intense activity with periods of intense recovery. If you work, work hard. If you take a break, recover properly.
Do that and your productivity will go through the roof. There are a few strategies that’ll help you make your work sprints as productive as possible.
1) Give it all you’ve got.
2) Eliminate all distractions
3) Single-task and work on one task, uninterruptedly, for long periods of time
4) Take mini breaks every 30 minutes.
Forcing the brain to stay hyper focused on work throughout the workday lessens productivity. The solution to this is to take regular breaks so you can refresh both physically and mentally several times a day. Doing so will not only make you more productive but help you prevent job burnout too.
Managing breaks at work
Do you know the difference between some of the best tennis players and average tennis players? One difference is that top players are maximizing their recovery between points.
Here the point is that getting the most out of your recovery breaks is crucial if you’re looking to maximize your productivity. Yes, taking any break is better than not taking breaks at all. But there are better and worse ways to spend your time during breaks.
Watching TV, reading the news, or checking your Facebook newsfeed won’t give you the highest possible returns from your recovery breaks.
Instead, you may want to choose one of the following activities:
Get in nature
Boost your mood
Meditate
Walk or exercise
Leave the office
Have a healthy snack/meal
Have a brief nap (if you’re allowed) – if not, try some deep breathing
Meditate/daydream
Do something creative – like a puzzle, or doodling
Have a coffee or tea
Create a to-do list for your home-based tasks
It has become increasingly clear that taking breaks at work helps keep you healthy and productive. Both are important for working individuals to continue to do a good job as well as take care of themselves. Burnout at work is a real problem and employees need to be able to practice reasonable self care so things never escalate to that point. Here are just a few of the reasons why taking breaks at work keeps your productivity levels high.
When people think their employer cares about their health, they feel more empowered to freely make decisions about when to take microbreaks and what type of microbreaks to take,And that is ultimately good for both the employer and the employee.
Final Thoughts
While there are many options for breaks at work, individuals are unique and have to find out what works best for them. Try to make a note of what sort of break benefits you the most – if you can continuously make use of it, your motivation and productivity will stay high.
Now I’d love to hear from you. What’s your experience with taking regular breaks at work? Let me know in the comments below, and thanks for reading!
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This Small Story Of ‘ Life Of A Fisherman’ Tells Us The Importance Of Hard Work & How To Live A meaningful Life Beating All Odds!
The short story of The Mexican Fisherman was originally told by Heinrich Böll about an encounter between a tourist and a small fisherman on a European coast.
It’s one of my favorite stories – The Parable of The Mexican Fisherman. It’s short, fun, and packs an important message.
I remember first hearing this inspiring story when I was in my “dream school i.e. Noble Public School, Andhra Pradesh, India in 1990s”. I shared the story with my students to encourage them to keep perspective about pursuing what makes them most passionate in life … and why.
The more I shared this story with others, the more I realized how much perspective I had lost myself. Soon thereafter, I moved away from my school to pursue higher studies and then I continued to share that inspiring and meaningful story till date. A lot of people thought I was crazy.
Here is the story…
A tourist went to Mexico and praised the local fishermen for the quality of their fish and then asked them? How much time do you need to catch it? And the fishermen answered him in one voice: “Not long” He asked them: Why don’t you spend more time and fish more? The fishermen made it clear that their little catch would suffice their needs and the needs of their families! He asked them: But what do you do in the rest of your time? They answered: We sleep late.. We fish a little… We play with our children. We eat with our wives. And in the evening we visit our friends.. We have fun, laugh and chant some songs The tourist interrupted: I have an MBA from Harvard University and I can help you! You have to start fishing for long periods every day..and then sell the extra fish for a bigger return And buy a bigger fishing boat 00 They asked him: Then what? He replied: With the big boat and the extra money.. You can buy a second and third boat, and so on until you have an integrated fleet of fishing vessels, Instead of selling your catch to an intermediary, you will negotiate directly with the factories, and perhaps you will also open your own factory, And you will be able to leave this village and move to Mexico, the capital, or Los Angeles or even New York! From there you will be able to start your giant projects The fishermen asked the tourist: How much time will we need to achieve this? He replied: About twenty or maybe twenty-five year They asked him: What next? He replied with a smile: When your business grows, you will speculate in stocks and win millions 00 They asked him in amazement: Millions? Oh really ? And what will we do after that? replied: Then you can retire And live quietly in a village on the coast, sleep late.. You play with your children. And you eat with your wives. And spend the nights enjoying with friends. The fishermen answered With all due respect and appreciation But that’s exactly what we’re doing now, So, what is the logic for which we waste twenty-five years of misery?
I love this simple parable. So, what does this story mean for you?
It brings clarity to what the money game is all about… and definitely not about.
It brilliantly illustrates the illusions we so easily fall into when pursuing wealth and financial freedom. It’s far too easy to build incessantly and forget the end game is happiness and a fulfilling life.
It’s equally easy to forget all the goodness we’re surrounded by today.
The truth is, it doesn’t take a lot of money to have a truly wealthy life, but it does take freedom.
So here are some questions for you to ponder as you develop your own life plans for financial freedom:
What does financial freedom mean to you? How will it change your life?
What do you really need to be happy and fulfilled?
How much money do you need to retire?
Would a simpler life allow you to retire sooner?
What’s the price you pay for simplicity? Complexity?
If you died tomorrow, what unfulfilled dreams would you regret having never lived?
What’s keeping you from living those dreams today?
While it may be a source or importance, power, and prestige to build what is analogous to a large fishing empire, you need to ask yourself what the end goal of all this is in the first place. Is there a quicker route to your goal? Is there a way that you can take the journey to success and enjoy the fruits of success along the way? How can you strategize this to live a happier, fuller life each and every day (or at least as much as possible)?
Is there something you can simplify in your life today to enjoy some of the reward you may be working so hard to earn? What matters most in your life? Have you lost sight of it while chasing down other goals? Have you become distracted?
Give yourself the gift of a few minutes to drop everything and ponder on this concept and these questions. Pausing and taking a few moments right now may set your life on a trajectory toward a brighter and happier future.
I love you. Thank you for letting me share this inspirational story with you. Please come back for more.
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Appreciation is the act of giving something or someone their proper value, and everybody has value. The value in a relationship is important because it lets a person know where they stand, and what they mean to you; appreciation is a way of letting that person know what you value.
In the workplace, appreciation generally means “recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something. Appreciating someone is not tough task. It can be as simple as saying “thank you” for a job well done, for completing a project quickly, or for coming to a meeting prepared and ahead of time.
If you don’t show appreciation to those that deserve it, they’ll learn to stop doing the things you appreciate.
In the workplace, appreciation plays a key role in creating a positive organisational culture and strengthening employee-leader relationships. Many studies have revealed that appreciation is one of the proven methods to motivate employees, make them more productive and committed to their jobs.
Importance Of Appreciation In The Workplace
Although appreciation is often confused with praise and recognition for achievements, real appreciation goes much further. It regards colleagues as human beings who are valuable because of their abilities, personality, and uniqueness. Regardless of their position in the company, each employee has enormous potential in different areas.
Appreciation is a fundamental human need in both professional and private life. We want to be appreciated by what we are, what we do, and what we achieve.
Appreciation should be a daily event and it is giving positive feedback and thanks for good ongoing work. It can be a simple thank you and positive feedback for a special project or special effort.
Appreciation keeps employees engaged. In addition to improving productivity, showing appreciation in the workplace also increases employee engagement and dedication.
Appreciation improves workplace morale. Showing appreciation to an employee creates a ripple effect in the workplace. An employee who feels appreciated is highly likely to show appreciation to their co-workers and other team members.
Appreciation improves productivity. When employees know their hard work is appreciated and recognised, they feel that their work is valued. And this motivates them to maintain and improve their great performance.
Appreciation boots moral. It has the largest effect on trust when it occurs immediately after a goal has been met, when it comes from peers, and when it’s tangible, unexpected, personal, and public.
Learn to appreciate others, And they will definitely appreciate you at right time.
When you appreciate someone, it indicates that you have recognized their effort. It may encourage them to go the extra mile. Giving recognition inspires greatness in others.
Final Thoughts
Appreciation is a powerful everyday tool that managers and leaders can use with their staff. Unfortunately, it is a greatly underutilized and many managers that I have worked with say “why should I have to say thank you and appreciate someone who is just doing their job that they are paid to do”.
Appreciation can be as simple as giving quality time to an employee and taking an interest in their career and personal development.
Appreciation can be shown to the whole team and this helps build engagement and a culture that everyone wants to be part of.
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We all have two lives, the second one begins when we realize that we only have one.
“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.” -Dr. Seuss
Life is not an easy journey for anyone. It is easy when you understand happenings in life. There will always be times in your life when you feel stuck and may need to learn how to reinvent yourself. This could come when you experience a big change, such as leaving your job, ending a relationship, moving to a new home, or losing a loved one. If you are going through a major shift in your life, you may have to find new ways of thinking or doing things, or risk failing to reach your full potential.
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There are many reasons why you might find yourself craving self-reinvention. Ultimately, it’s a sign that you are seeking change in some area of your life. Being and feeling stuck in life is an awful place to be. When you are stuck, it feels as though you are literally just spinning your wheels in the mud and are running around in circles.
It also feels as though no matter what you do or say, nothing will ever change for the better and you’ll be stuck in a rut forever. If you’re not careful, being stuck in life can magnify the fear, guilt, shame and/or apathy you’re already feeling.
You can become even more stuck than you already are. So rather than doing nothing and allowing yourself to get sucked into a really terrible rabbit hole, let’s explore 10 ways to reinvent yourself so you – and your life – can start to become unstuck.
Reinventing yourself means identifying patterns, values, or activities that no longer serve you and changing them for better options. It can involve external characteristics, like job, hobbies, appearance, relationships, and location. True reinvention also happens inside, in how you think and behave. It will be different for everybody, which is what makes it so powerful.
Life is all about understanding WHO WE ARE and what our PERSONAL BRAND. Then we can communicate to the universe what we want – thus attracting exactly what we deserve and how to achieve it. It takes some soul searching and a few exercises to understand and define your own PERSONAL BRAND.
Do You know YOUR brand? Start asking yourself some simple questions –
What do I like and Why? Who do I like and Why? What music rocks my soul? What music soothes my soul? When am I the happiest? What makes me very low? When was the last time I was the happiest? How do I like to spend the weekends? What is it that I dream of doing for vacation? Where do I want to go? Do I live for myself or to impress others ? To live happy life what I want want in life? What fears me most ? What ways I have to overcome that feeling? What haven’t I seen in life? Do I like to write? If so, when did I last do it? Whats the thing I can write instantly ? Do I sing in the shower? The car? The living room? In front of others? Doodling – is it with some sophisticated talent? Or does it look geometrical and pattern-like? What color did I last pick to paint something in my home? If it weren’t for money, what would I really be doing with my life? What does life mean to me and what do I want to do with my life ?
How to reinvent yourself
When life starts to feel a little too sticky, try these ways to reinvent yourself:
Focus on the Good – Focusing on what is going well will help you take your mind off what isn’t going so well and will also allow you to get yourself out of your rut quickly. What you focus on magnifies. So you might as well focus on the good stuff. Change Your Diet – Since 20 – 30 percent of us are obese and as most of the grocery store aisles are packed with processed foods, I think it’s safe to assume that we can all benefit from making healthier choices with our diets. Clear Out Physical Clutter – Get rid of anything that you no longer like, use or need. Clutter is just stuff that isn’t the best of you so why keep it around? To complicate your life any longer than you have to? Clear Our Emotional Clutter – It’s easier to deal with physical clutter because you can see it. Therefore, you know it’s there. Emotional clutter is much more difficult because it’s affecting how you think and do everything. Yet often, you’re not even aware of it at all. Change Up Your Routine – An easy way to get stuck is to get yourself into such a routine that you’re on autopilot all the time. Your life has become so systematized you don’t even need to think about it anymore. Make Yourself Uncomfortable – People get stuck when they become too comfortable with their lives. We are meant to challenge ourselves! So try to do something each day that takes you slightly outside your comfort zone. Get Up and Move – Whether it’s your body, mind and/or spirit, get something moving because you cannot resolve your issues with the same energy you created them with. Be open to new ideas and new ways of doing things. Express Yourself – Paint. Do yoga. Sing. Play an instrument. Write a short story. It doesn’t matter: just get creative and express yourself in some way. This is a great method to get unstuck and reinvent yourself because creativity is just the truth of who you are coming out. It’s safe and healthy, and can be a wonderful new avenue for you to explore. Take It Slow – When we get stuck, we really want to become unstuck as quickly as possible. What we don’t realize is that sometimes, we get stuck for a reason. When we take the time to look at our lives and how we feel about what’s currently going on, it gives us the ability to make small changes that can often have huge, lasting results. Create a Vision/Plan of Your Life – Write down what it should look like and feel like. Then, review that plan often. Cut out photos of what your perfect life looks like and paste it to a vision board. Every day, take steps to make those plans a reality and keep going until you actually start to become that vision.
Final Thoughts
If you truly want to learn how to reinvent yourself and live the life you desire, take the advice above and start taking action. It will take time, patience, and plenty of effort to make the change you want happen, but it will be all worth it.
Half the battle of reinvention is knowing where you want to be. If you’re not sure what that looks like, a vision board or brainstorming can help you gain clarity on what you really want out of life.
When you’re ready to reinvent yourself, these tips should provide good guidance. Along the way, you’ll hopefully pick up some great habits to help keep you and your life running smoothly.
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Many people have an overwhelming fear of failure. This usually stems from societal programming that tells us how negative and even shameful failure is.
However, the reality is that failure is a necessary part of life. It is just one step of thousands you will take. It is unreasonable to expect to complete each task in life perfectly on the first attempt.
Successful People are not Afraid of Failure. Successful people don’t define failure as the opposite of success; they define failure as the opposite of trying.
Failure simply means that you have made mistakes, and you can learn from these mistakes to improve your future efforts. It is not the end of the process. Truly great leaders understand the importance of mistakes and failure, and they are comfortable with the concept of failure. In fact, there are four primary reasons why you should embrace failure if you want to be a great leader.
Successful people know that nothing ever goes exactly as planned. And no matter how hard you work, sooner or later you must face the reality that you failed. You tried to do something and weren’t successful. You didn’t get the result you wanted.
You don’t clear every interview you give.
You don’t close every sale.
You don’t win every game.
You aren’t going to hit a home run every time you’re up to bat.
You don’t always get what you want.
FAILURE is OK. It’s part of life. It should be expected.
The bigger question is: What do you do next? What do you do after you’ve failed?
As Frank Sinatra sang: “You pick yourself up and get back in the race. That’s life …”
You don’t feel sorry for yourself. You don’t mope around. You pick
yourself up and do it again and again and again until you get it right!
Failure is as much a part of life as success. Losing is as much a part of life as winning. The most important thing to think about is how can you ensure that you won’t fail in the same way a second time.
Remember: You just can’t fail the last time you try.
Life is a series of trial-and-error experiences. We are taught something by a teacher, and then we try to do it ourselves. The first time we do it we probably don’t get the results we want. So we try again, and again, and again. With practice we get better.
Then we push ourselves as we try to do something that’s a little bit more difficult. As we succeed, our expectations increase, and so does the satisfaction that comes from the feeling of a job well done.
So we set our sights a bit higher-to improve our results as compared to what we’ve done before and in relation to the results of those with whom we are competing-and we try again. We continue to push ourselves to new heights.
When we succeed, we once again raise the bar. And when we don’t, we go back to work to improve our skills and talents, and try again.
That is why I feel that the subjects of success and failure are so intertwined: because it is through failure that we grow and develop as individuals. We learn through our failures. Failures show us our flaws, our imperfections, the areas in which we need improvement.
In order to achieve your goals, to fulfill your desires, to make your dreams come true, you’re going to have to work. It is hard work that makes you better at what you do, and failing from time to time is just a part of life.
Learn From Your Failures. When you experience failure, take some time to reflect upon what happened. Pull out a pad of paper and start writing down the answers to these questions:
*Why did this happen?
*What could I have done differently?
*How can I do it better next time?
*What changes should I make in my strategies?
*What can I do to improve my planning and preparation?
Study these answers. Analyze them. Then go out and do it better the next time.
Remember: If you’re not experiencing failure, you’re not working hard enough.
Great leaders are not shamed by failure, and they do not attempt to mask their failures. Instead, they learn lessons, determine what went wrong and make a solid effort to get back on track with a corrected course and updated business plan.
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Life is not a Race to WIN… Life is like a Journey , to ENJOY every moment. We are running through life so fast that we forget not only where we have been but also where we are going.
There is no reward for completing the race my friend. Please run at your own speed and run how you like it.
Don’t try to run other’s race. It is your own race run how you like it.
Stop worrying about the consequences. Live in the present, share the glory of being a part of this race. No amount of gold, silver or money will or can compensate what you will miss if you try to rush things and miss the very essence of running.
Don’t just run for the sake of running because running is important and not the race!!
Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Do not set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.
Do not let your years slip through your fingers by living in the past, nor in the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.
Do not give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
Do not be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find. The quickest way to receive love is to give love; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly.
Do not dismiss your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose.
Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.
We have born and brought up in society, where we were prepared to compete with others – your fellow mates and friends.
The seed had planted when you were at school. The pressure of scoring highest marks, the pressure of performing well in sports, the weight of getting admission into a renown college, getting a good job and again getting into an unhealthy competition at the workplace.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
When you were in college, you wanted a job.
When you got a job in service-based company, You wanted product-based.
When you got 6 LPA package, you wanted 10 LPA.
When you got 15 LPA, You wanted 30 LPA.
When you got 40 LPA CTC, you wanted 40 LPA Fixed.
When you got 50 LPA fixed, You wanted to build a startup.
When you got successful in that, you wanted early retirement.
When you retired early, you wanted unlimited passive income.
When you got everything you ever wanted, You wanted time to enjoy it.
Hence, time is your most valuable asset and it cannot be equated with your earnings. Enjoy your 20s and 30s by both working hard and playing hard. Feel the satisfaction of hitting milestones. The finish line is not really important.
Achieve your own goals ( Not society’s expectations ). You don’t need to prove anything to anyone but yourself.
Nobody is measuring you, they are busy in their lives. You are the only opponent to yourself in this battle.
Running towards the next fulfillment will never be able to find peace in life. It will only lead us distant away from what we’re hoping to feel.
The only way to win the race of life is to realize that, there is no race.
Winning has to be from within us. We need to find happiness within ourselves. True satisfaction can only be observed from inside.
Life is not a race or competition. It’s a journey. Don’t just run after aiming at the finishing line, rather enjoy the ride.
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You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.
Recently, I met one of friend who lives in States. During the discussion, I learnt both of her sons got killed in a bike accident. From then, I am thinking about those boys who have gone on so young, and all of the people I’ve loved who didn’t make it as far as I have, made me realise one thing.
They had dreams. They had goals. They had ambitions. And they no longer have the chance to pursue them. They quite literally have run out of time.
But I haven’t. Not yet. And if I don’t pursue my dreams and ambitions with every tiny bit of my soul, it’s like I’m slapping them in the face.
I’m still here. I’m not done. I’ve got things to do. And quite frankly, I”m not doing them. Break free before time runs out, from all that is holding you back, from all that stopping you to be ‘U’.
“Our only limitations are those we set up in our own mind”. Napoleon Hill
What seems to be impossible for you might be easier than you think!
“I wonder how many times people give up just before the breakthrough”.
It is not over until you say it is over!
Most people don’t need help as much as they need to believe on themselves & go after what they want.
No matter where you are at now in your life, or what challenges you may have, there is always a way out and there is a solution.
The famous Zen master Shunryu Suzuki once said, “In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” By this he meant that if we view ourselves as the experts of our business who know how everything should be done, we are limiting ourselves to very few opportunities.
When the world is in crisis, many things change, and many opportunities arise. But to see these opportunities, we must let go of our expert-attitude and look at the new reality with a beginner’s mind. We must wake up every day with fresh eyes and truly discern what is different than yesterday.
Every problem has its solution; it is born with it. If you want a different result, make different choice. We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are. Facing reality can be hard because our brains are wired to be emotionally attached to how things used to be. The past seems known and secure, while an unknown future can make us anxious.
As we know, many of us are attached to our past successes and want to have them back. Because of this emotional attachment, we are at risk of walking in the same direction even if the world has taken a sharp turn the other way. Positive people also have negative thoughts but they just made up their mind to enjoy life. They focus on the possibilities not the problem. They always “align with love and tap into abundance”.
Now is your chance to reimagine the future and the possibilities. It all starts in the mind, in your mind. So look inside, and then leap.
If there is one thing I want you to understand…it’s this.
And I know I’m not the only one stuck in this rut. This is what happens in life when we get complacent. When we let things get easy. “Lost Time is Never Found again” You have ONE life. Don’t waste it by being complacent and settling for ease. You must, must, must get out of your comfort zone to grow and live.
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Every Child’s Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today!
Any for of Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.
As parents you would always want your kids to grow up as loving, kind, happy and successful individuals. You want them to love and to be loved by all. In the process you teach them many things which are good for their life and future.
In the similar way, make sure to consider below points and teach you Children at early age. You must remind your kids from time and again that you would always be by their side when required and help them when required. Ask your kid to maintain a positive frame of mind, so that she can easily overcome hurdles that she comes across in her life.
1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.
2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child..
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.
13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.
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These are just few, but important life lessons that you should teach your kid. You have some more to add on this? Share with us if u have some more life lessons to teach kids by mentioning them in the comment section below.
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Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
When it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.
Below I am going to go over some of the things you should never allow within a relationship. These are things far too many of us settle for and allow to happen or go on within our relationships. We all deserve someone who knows our worth and treats us right, someone who is willing to motivate us when we are down and help us through all the hard times. Your bar is not set too high, don’t be willing to bump it down for just anyone.
Someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.
If he or she doesn’t care about how you feel or how he or she is making you feel you need to cut ties. You need someone that really wants to make you happy and is willing to take your emotions into consideration. In a real functioning relationship, everyone’s feelings will be taken into consideration.
Someone who brings out the worst in you.
If the person you are with brings out the worst in you then you should not be with him or her. You should find someone that brings out the best in you. Sure, you might care about this person, but he or she is not causing you anything more than pain and stress, let him or her go and move on. Sometimes toxic relationships are not so much abusive as they are just people not being able to click properly.
Someone who takes advantage of you.
Never let anyone take advantage of you, especially not someone you are in love with. Make sure that your partner is bringing the same amount to the table as you are. Don’t give someone your all only for them to give you nothing. People will use you and take you for all you have in this world. Most people are not what they seem.
Someone who is very double-standard oriented.
Do not be with someone who thinks you have to abide by some kind of relationship rules and he or she doesn’t. If you are expected to answer all of his or her calls, but then he or she cannot be bothered to do the same to you why stick around? You deserve someone that is on the same level as you are.
Someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort.
You should never settle for someone who will not make an effort in the relationship. You should not be coming all the way for someone who won’t even roll over in your direction. You should both be putting forth equal amounts of effort to make things work, no more-no less.
Someone who refuses to take responsibility for his or herself.
You should never settle for someone who won’t take responsibility for his or herself. You and your partner are not the same person. Sure, you might have each other’s backs but at the end of the day you have to own your shit and he or she has to own his or her shit. That is just how it goes, otherwise, problems within the relationship will occur and you will find yourself constantly having to make excuses for him or her. This is something none of us want to deal with.
Someone who makes you doubt yourself.
If someone you are close to is making you doubt yourself then the relationship is already off to a rocky start. Your partner should be building you up and making you feel better about yourself. This is a breeding ground for toxic energies and you should get out while you can.
Someone who tries to control what you wear or do.
If your partner is trying to control the things you wear and the things you do you are settling for someone who is going to try and control you in other ways as time progresses. Controlling partners are not going to let you be yourself. They are going to try and mold you into the person they want you to be and that will never work.
Someone who blames you for their problems or mistakes.
If your partner is constantly blaming you for his or her problems or mistakes why should you stick around? You should not be taking the flack for things you have no control over and did not do in the first place. He or she should be owning his or her stuff; it is not your place too and you should never be put in that kind of situation.
Someone who crosses your boundaries on purpose.
If someone is crossing your boundaries because he or she doesn’t care that they are there in the first place you should not be with them. Your boundaries are there for a reason and you should not be forced to feel like him or her making you uncomfortable is alright, it is not alright. Someone who loves and cares about you will take the time to pay attention to you and respect you and your boundaries.
Someone who refuses to actually work or take care of his or herself.
If the person you are with refuses to better his or herself they oftentimes cannot be helped. Don’t let this person bring you down. You should not be carrying their weight and your weight, everyone should be contributing to things in one way or another. You are no maid.
Someone who torments you be it physical, verbal, or any possible form.
No one should ever put up with any kind of abuse. You can and will find someone who will treat you like you put the stars in the sky. DO NOT EVER let someone put their hands on you or make you feel like you are worthless. You are amazing and you deserve all the best things in this world.
Someone who acts like you owe them something.
Let me get this clear! You do not owe anything to anybody but yourself. If you do not want to do something, you do not have to!
Posted by: Gerald Sinclair
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Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
Article by Madhu……..
It’s almost the end of the first month of the New Year. Almost everyone makes new goals and resolutions for the New Year. It feels so good when we achieve our goals but sometimes we are so focused on the goals that we forget to enjoy the journey.
The most learning experiences are not gained while achieving something but in the process of seeking it. It’s the journey which matters, which teaches you the most. The small intermittent successes and the failures during he journey have a lot to teach. It’s all about the pursuit of achieving the goal and what you learn along the way.
Get out of your head and the endless cycle of self-defeating thoughts. If you want a different outcome you absolutely must change your thoughts. A problem cannot be solved by the same thinking that caused it. When doubt surfaces, and it will, take some form of action, no matter how small it may be that moves you forward. No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. Replace fear, doubt or anxiety with action.
While seeking the destination, don’t forget to enjoy the journey for it’s during the journey when you realize your passions, gain your strength, overcome your weaknesses, learn new insights and in the process, make new memories!
And last but not least, please don’t forget to breathe. I think Joyce Meyer said it best when she said “Everything in life is a process in motion. Without movement, advancement and progression, there is no life. Once a thing has ceased to progress, it is dead. In other words, as long as we live, you and I are always going to be heading somewhere, and we should be enjoying ourselves on the way.”
Don’t become so focused on the destination, you forget to enjoy the journey.
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Enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. We all have the power to shape our day and our life, so no matter what is happening in our lives we can make the decision to be happy and enjoy every moment . You are here in this world for a short period of time. Therefore, you must enjoy each and every single moment of your life. If you don’t want to enjoy your life then you are no more a living person.
Get up early in the morning. Go for a swift walk. Enjoy listening to the chattering of birds. Enjoy looking at the beautiful colourful flowers. Do some workout/stretching in the nearby park. Fill your lungs with pollution free fresh air. Isn’t it all exciting and enjoyable.
Enjoy your breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day so your breakfast must include a variety of nourishing food such as fruit, juice, milk, bread, cereals, egg, jam, jelly, honey, dried nuts, tea, coffee etc.
Enjoy your work. Start your work by saying hello to everyone in the office. Pass some positive remarks about your colleagues. Be crazy and make a lively, healthy environment. Enjoy talking to your clients, colleagues, friends and family members. Make every effort to complete your work in time.
Enjoy every single bite of your lunch. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat in a tension-free and stress-free atmosphere. Don’t eat in a haste. Eat the kind of food that is light on stomach but quite nourishing so that you get the much needed physical as well as emotional energy, during the day.
After satisfactorily finishing your work, it’s now time to leave office and enjoy. Enjoy your leisure time in the manner you wish to enjoy by involving yourself in activities like reading, writing, studying, swimming, boating, dancing, visiting friends, learning new skills, playing outdoors, playing indoors, watching TV , watching movies, listening to your favourite music, enjoying food in your favourite restaurant, going on long drive, etc.
Don’t engage yourself in activities that can bring problems to your life. Don’t invite trouble. Live a disease-free, smoke-free, stress-free and drugs-free life. Don’t involve yourself in any criminal activities and don’t do anything that is illegal or immoral.
Now and then plan for outings or tours with your family & friends. It helps you in coming out of the normal routine life. Leave all your worries and enjoy every moment like kid
Difficult times in life come and go but keep your spirits high even in the worst type of crisis. Face challenges of life with courage and a positive state of mind. Take lessons from your past mistakes but don’t feel guilty. Laugh at silly things and enjoy life. Laughter is the best medicine.
It is my own experience that you get the best kind of enjoyment when you help those who are helpless and look towards you for help. I personally feel great excited when I am able to help such people. There is nothing more enjoyable than enabling other people enjoy their lives. Enjoy your own life and let others enjoy theirs.
You will not live forever, so till you are alive, enjoy every moment of your life from the core of your heart.
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5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
When it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.
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