Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by munn@prawin…

Please remember that I’m an everyday, average person who loves every being & respects every life and is trying to the best with what I’ve been given. I’m not an orator or a narrator. I’m only posting my reflections on the lessons I learned from my life.

In the early morning, when I am preparing my coffee, I observed few ants gathered at my coffee cup. While observing them, I got few points in my mind which I would like to share to you all…

I found myself interest in the lives of those little powerhouses, and soon enjoyed not only feeding, watching and caring for them, but learning from them as well.

Here are a few of the things I picked up from those tiny fellows, and how those lessons can be applied or molded to fit our personal financial lives.

Ants never quit. That’s a good philosophy. If they’re headed somewhere and you try to stop them, they’ll look for another way. They’ll climb over. They’ll climb under. They’ll climb around. They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy-to never quit looking for a way to get where you’re supposed to go.

Lesson: To never quit looking for a way to get where you’re supposed to go.

Work First, Play…Never? I know that a bug’s capacity for play is limited, and I knew going in that ants had a heck of a work ethic, but these little guys’ were ridiculous…they never stopped working except to sleep. I mean, I’m all for work getting your work out of the way first, but these ants took it to a whole new level. They’d just work, work, work.

Lesson: Work…Enjoy the work

Ants think winter all summer. That’s an important perspective. You can’t be so naive as to think summer will last forever. So ants gather their winter food in the middle of summer.

An ancient story says, “Don’t build your house on the sand in the summer.” Why do we need that advice? Because it is important to think ahead. In the summer, you’ve got to think storm. You’ve got to think rocks as you enjoy the sand and sun.

Lesson: It is important to be realistic. Think ahead.

Working as a Team:

It is incredible just how much teamwork can take place with creatures that don’t speak to one another.

While each ant in the colony seems to know his role, we as humans often find ourselves not knowing exactly how to help ourselves or each other in families of much smaller proportions. it is similarly important inside human families for us to understand our roles by talking to and listening to one another and determining just how we can each contribute best to the family finances and pull our weight accordingly.

Ants think summer all winter. That is so important. During the winter, ants remind themselves, “This won’t last long; we’ll soon be out of here.” And the first warm day, the ants are out. If it turns cold again, they’ll dive back down, but then they come out the first warm day. They can’t wait to get out.

Lesson: Stay positive at all times.

Do all-you-possibly-can.How much will an ant gather during the summer to prepare for the winter? All he possibly can. What an incredible philosophy, the “all-you-possibly-can” philosophy.

Lesson: Do all you can….and more!

Nobody Tells the Ants to Be Prepared: We need to look towards the future, while keeping an eye on the present. If we live too much in the present, while ignoring the future, we run the risk of abusing credit cards to satisfy our every whim. Then we will be in big financial trouble in the future.

If we live too much for the future, we risk not appreciating the present. If we work too much, we miss out on our children’s lives. That’s not OK either.

The ants are balanced. They eat what they need today. They eat enough to get them through the winter. But they don’t eat too much. If they didn’t eat enough today, they’d die. If they gorged themselves on too much food, they’d explode. The find the perfect balance. And that’s what we need to do too.

Ant’s Philosophy

Never Give Up, Look Ahead Stay Positive, Do All You Can, Be faithful, even to the point of death, hose who live should no longer live for themselves, Live for Others, Always be prepared.

@  This collection is sure to energize your nerves, brighten up your face with a smile, lighten up your confused mind and let u ponder and think upon the subtleties and intricacies of the enigma called life.

@ Someone somewhere thinks of ur smile n while thinking of u says life is worthwhile. So whenever u r lonely remember it’s true, someone somewhere is alive b’coz of u..

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Sravani….

I work in a reputed organization as a Software Engineer. All these years I met different people of different mindsets, but for the first time I felt quiet irritated with the people around me in My Work Environment.

Everyone has annoying co-workers. Dealing with co-workers who are annoying is part of the job, so everyone needs to know how to effectively deal with them. Dealing with annoying co-workers also helps in dealing with other difficult people in daily life, so learning strategies to deal with annoying co-workers can assist in personal interactions as well.
The most Annoying traits that I found in the people around me.

 I have looked at some traits that I dislike in other people and hopefully am teaching my friends to avoid. I think if people could rid themselves of the following traits the World might be a better place.

Un-Invited-(Meaning =Persons who tries to indulge in the personal matters of others, persons who interfere unnecessarily). Simply we can say, these kinds of people are the worst humans on the planet. Personally few of my office mates tries to interfere in others personal matters. At that time I feel like slapping on their face, but due to few reasons I can’t do that. I don’t understand what people get , if they interfere in others matters. How can they be such shameless, senseless & manners-less bloody creatures.

“If we are rude and get a reputation for it we will continue to be rude” It’s the human tendency.

 Conceited – (Meaning = Holding a high opinion of yourself) Much like arrogance and just as annoying. It great to have a good opinion of yourself but when it is displayed to others in a manner as to make others feel small it can be very unpleasant.

 Condescending – (Meaning = showing or implying a usually patronizing descent from dignity or superiority).This is another trait which rile me. Of course this is open to interpretation in many cases. On a few occasions I have asked people if they are meaning to sound condescending and often they are embarrassed and explain that it was not their intention,so it can be a tricky one.

Show-off-(Meaning =means to boast, to act big, to demonstrate a skill or knowledge excessively & who wants themselves 2 b noticed by everyone). Side to my cabin there is a person who tries to show-off. I got fed up with his unrealistic words, actions, thoughts. He behaves as if he knows everything, but not at all.

Arrogant– (Meaning  = unpleasantly proud and behaving as if you are more important than, or know more than, other people). We’ve all come across people like this. When I think of the arrogant people I have met it seems to be mainly men that display this trait. I have also noticed that it seems to be a class trait i.e. people who are in the ‘upper class’ be arrogant with the ‘lower classes’

 Sneaky-(Meaning =To behave in a cowardly or servile manner, to act in a stealthy and cowardly manner; to behave with meanness and servility; to crouch). Sneaky person who walks quietly behind you in your cubicle to grab a sneak  at your work, hoping to find an idea he can steal?

What about a person who tries to use the use the machine of the co-workers in their absence?What about the person who in every conversation points out the inefficiency of others or the process as if we don’t already know?

The person that refuses to answer a direct question because they fear they’re going to be judged and wastes time by avoiding? 

 Bragging-(Meaning   =an instance of boastful talk,speaking of yourself in superlatives). Bragging was agreed by all to be a very annoying characteristic. Some believed that bragging seemed to be the only reason these people ever achieved anything – so they could brag about it afterwards. Bragging about one’s children was also frowned upon, not only was it unpleasant to experience but it was thought to have a negative effect on the children who were bragged about.

Rudeness – (Meaning = not polite; offensive or embarrassing) When I think of people who are rude I tend to think of some experienced dealing with fresher’s in the organization. Many feel that they know lot and everything. They ill treat others. I don’t understand what they think of others, after all they were placed just before us that’s it, nothing more.

Needy-(Meaning =People who use the other people to satisfy their needs).Everyone has an occasion when they will need the help of friends or family. However, when that becomes a constant occurrence, it becomes extremely annoying to everyone around. Needy people tend to drain the life and most often the money out of friends, relatives and coworkers.

Eventually, relationships will be ruined because others can no longer support the needy person — either emotionally or financially.

Domineering – (Meaning = inclined to rule arbitrarily or despotically; overbearing; tyrannical:
domineering parents. People who try to control others are not a good trait at all. Again this can often be seen in the office. They advice others on everything, as if they are perfect at everything.

The Fun-Sucker: These people are the worst. When you make a sarcastic remark, even if everyone else in the room is cracking up, the Fun-Sucker just stares at you as if you’re the stupidest person in the history of the planet. Fun-Suckers are basically sore losers who want the attention for themselves at all times, and no matter how genius or hilarious your comment may be, they won’t crack so much as a grin. They’re selfish, tend to be music snobs, and have been known to enjoy granola bars. Watch out.

 Dishonesty – (Meaning = not honest) The trait that I abhor the most in people! Everybody lies whether it be a white lie or a big ‘honestly I didn’t kill him’ lie. However when someone lies constantly it is very irritating and annoying especially after you have pointed out that you know they are lying and they continue with it. If you are honest all the time it will lead to people trusting you more and valuing your opinion more.

The Hypocrite: Hypocrites are almost worse than liars: they’re not only lying to you, they’re lying to themselves. They gossip about their best friends and then freak out when they hear someone else do the same; they preach against cheating on tests, but are always looking over your shoulder in Calculus. 

Hypocrites are in a permanent stage of denial, and somebody needs to slap them with a dead squirrel. Just don’t kill the squirrel yourself, because that would be creepy and gross.

 Temperamental – (Meaning = describes someone whose mood tends to change very suddenly) Sorry ladies, but I have found the most temperamental people tend to be female, especially if you’ve ever worked in an office.

Unreliable – (Meaning = cannot be relied or depended upon) another trait that can extremely annoying. Again we’ve all come across people like this at work, at school, at university, in fact every area of life. We also know, very quickly, not to rely on that person for anything.

If you recognize yourself in the list above? If you do it is easy to rid yourself of these traits. The main trick is to recognize it when it happens. As soon as you recognize you can change you. For the next few days be aware of how you interact with people around you, listen to your language, be aware of what you do when you are listening, and be aware of what you do when you are talking.

Co-workers have the ability to make a work environment pleasant or horrible. Annoying co-workers aren’t just a nuisance; they can make a work environment miserable. Dealing with an annoying co-worker every day leads to an increase in stress, which can lead to numerous health problems, including high blood pressure and frequent headaches.

Make sure to establish boundaries early on. If someone sitting and chatting with you, involving in personal matters, making fun in unrelenting matters, for extended periods is bothersome, find an excuse to get him/her out. Take a bathroom break; explain that time constraints exist, ask him not to disturb you or  ask him to shut his mouth. In cases of brown-nosing or other public annoyances, sometimes it’s just necessary to avoid these people when possible. Getting along with everyone is not possible, but civility is always necessary. If the annoyance turns into a problem that affects productivity or job satisfaction, talk to a manager to determine which options are available to remedy the situation.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel shylaja….

Few months back I met a friend, since then I known her as a bubbly beloved one. She was known for her quicksilver smile, laugh, the talk and that was her charm.

One day, my friend sat before me with warm smile.

Was she the same bubbly girl whom I met few months back? I just thought….

She has really come a long way from the time I met her, I was thrilled because her whole personality has developed, really cool.

I am listening to her words staring at her…, her lips smiled as never done before.

I said her, “I see change in you my dear”.

“Uh, only one thing has changed in me”, she replied in a sweet voice….

“What’s that?” I asked

“MY smile “she said with a cute smile on her face.

Some smiles are warm while others are cold. There are real smiles and fake smiles.

I trained my lips to smile over my face and overflow into my eyes.”

I remembered her contagious laugh while she is speaking…

She said “At certain point in every one’s life some things just cause to shift your whole thinking. It may be a teacher, a mother, a pet, a stranger …………….

In my case he started a chapter to shift my whole thinking,

   “HE”…………………….

   A philosopher, a foolish…

   A teacher, UN professional…..

   A well-wisher, not my blood……

   A companion, an unacceptable…

   Unbelievable and incredible…..

The time I spent with him, the person I became,

I don’t know for what purpose, he entered into my life. He made me know the purpose of my life.

He gave his helping hand to pull me out of my horrible life, which I was leading till that moment.

He is the only Great thing, which happened to me, in all these years of my Life’s journey.

The moments that I spent with him are very precious, valuable, meaningful and unforgettable.

I learned many things through his words, actions, thoughts, ideas, ideologies, principles, behavior and approach towards life.

He is the only person, who made me realize where I am standing in this world and purpose of my Life.

He changed my entire world, he was someone who understood my pain, my demands, my happiness, my dreams, my aspirations someone who tolerated my angry but now known that it is time to move on to a newer turn.

I am one among, the luckiest humans to taste his Unconditional love.

When I lost hope and Interest on life, He entered uninvited like a Ray of Hope.

He touched me like a breeze and added everlasting fragrance to my life.

He made me, to be myself by making me as strong as his Will Power.

Initially I thought he is a part of my life, but later I Realized He is my Life.

I wish him well and thank him for adding meaning to my life.

I would like to follow his foot prints till my last breath.

Even today, I remember his first words…. “Be Yourself, Never Compromise in Life”.

I know for sure I will live like this for the rest of my life with the hope that was given by him.

While she was speaking I observed her eyes were intense, still with warm smile on her lips

My friend has made a decision to take her share from life with her smile magically.

But she never knows it is the shadow in her made a decision reaching out for change.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Susheel….

It’s just not a writing; It’s the life of a person with unconditional love, who touched my heart with love and added fragrance to my life.

In his words……

I faintly remember being wheeled into hospital. Someone was talking to me. I opened my eyes for few seconds only to close them again.

I remember pain; when probe was inserted into by body. I felt disgusting. I remember being helped onto bed. I tried to open my eyes, but couldn’t.

I felt a hand on my forehead, opened my eyes to see my beloved one but……… reality was in front of me.

Fear ran through me, my love will never be back. For a moment, I reflected back on my past. Every moment flashed in my eyes…

Who had not valued my shared love enough?

I felt it is tough to walk away from the world, that I created bit by bit over years but not one emotion out all of them has a trace of regret. I cherish the moments I spent with my love but doesn’t wish to relive the old times.

When the commitment is dishonored, the least one can do is to honor oneself.

From then I started my journey like a breeze touching each and every soul with love and care..

I fought and fighting the pain, pain of me and pain of my people.

I spent many sleepless nights, to make my people sleep comfortably, by taking their pain on shoulders. I never help anyone, but I make them to help themselves.

I decided to leave my emotions, wishes, interests, ideals, goals because, they are not so important than my fellow beings. From that day I started to treat everyone as part of my family and I started feeling responsible.

I decided to leave my Heart to live in the Heart of others.

I took an oath to make myself as a foot path, to make fellow beings to reach their destination safely.

I helped me to know the value of miracle called “Life” for which all takes for granted but for which I was willing to fight till the end.

Sustaining my hope to make sustain my people hope. Even though I lost Hope on my life, I like to fill the Hope in the lives of fellow beings.

In my life’s journey I met thousands of people who left their foot prints in my life. Each one is unique and relation with each one is a lesson, memory, experience and a sweet pain.

No matter what happened, no matter how many times I fall apart, I gather myself and ready to fight.

I am just a business man, who gather love and sell it to people, in return of love.

I Realized and making others realize, falling apart is to become whole again…

Fiinally I can say onething, that my life is a journey with no destination, moving forward in search of love by spreading love to the people, who are in need of it.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me…….

The article was written by Shanmukhi…..

Mothers are the best gift that has given to us by god. Having them is such a thankful and splendid treasure in our life.

I am Shanmukhi; Today I would like to share the mistake that I made in my life.

I lost my Father when I was 14 years old. I know how my mom struggled all these years to make me and my sister stand in this respectable position. I only recently realized that I hated my mother because by hearing most of the friends words.

Growing up in a single parent household is challenging because I always felt so dependent on my mother for survival. But the older I get the more I see that my life is suffering because of the friends who misguided me from my mom.

Till my intermediate I had a decent relationship with my mother. After joining into b tech, I got 3 new friends sinduja, ravi, and pavani. I love them all because they shown the love and I was impressed by their caring. In the initial days they are so friendly and they used to respect my likes & dislikes. Among them Mr. Ravi love me lot. He expressed his interest to marry, but I told I am sorry, but also he used to take care of me.

From then each & every decision in my life is taken by them. After few days, they started pointing my weakness & negatives in me, but I never spoke anything, because that time I have a fear of losing them. My friends have always said bad things about my life, restrictions posed by mom, many like that and their way of words influenced me. I have never been able to connect emotionally with my mother.

I don’t know why my friends never liked my mom? They used to ask me, to avoid my mother for number of reasons. I thought their words are correct and all these years I avoided her. They used to say that, why do you talk to your mother for long time avoid her and made me stay away from my mom. I believed their words. I followed their words blindly. Even my dressing, way of behavior, eating habits, life style everything was decided by them. At one point I felt really unhappy with my life. I was not given any chance to express my feelings. They used to ask me to share everything, but when I tried none of them received or cared of my emotions & my hearts pain.

After my education I came to Bangalore job search. Even my professional was influenced by them. They used to compel me even in attending interviews. I simply did whatever they told to me.

Now I am really feeling bad of my past. If I look back and see, I am nowhere in my life, not even my mother. Even now I don’t understand how I simply believed such senseless and unusual friends who took away my personal life from my mother, who’s everything to me.

Recently by seeing few incidents, I realized what mistake I made.  Now I feel like moving back to mom.

Few days back I am at a cross roads in my life. And I feel more lost than ever. And the fact that my friends, who seem so settled in their lives, have misguided me. I can’t complain about anyone. It’s my mistake to disregard my mother by listening such stupid words.

For many years my mother is alone looking eagerly for my arrival. Now I am feeling really ashamed of the things that I have done. I can’t forgive myself. I even feel that I don’t have eligibility to live on the Earth. I know how really my mom worked to take care me and my brother. She spent many sleepless nights crying for us. I don’t know how I have done this to her.
My advice to everyone is that, please don’t listen anyone words and disregard your parents and do the same mistake I have done. Parents are everything.

I know I am miles away from my mother now. But, I will never forget what she gave me have made me special in this world. You never left hopes on me, your belief and trust made me achieve all what I have now, but I never cared you and received you with love. Please Forgive Me Mom.. I thank you for all your unconditional love, care, and numerous uncountable things you have given me in life. I wish you all health, happiness and comfort forever. Please never leave me mom.

Please forgive me mom. I will hold your hand; I will take care of you till my last breath.

I have decided to keep my mother in my heart with me  and welcome unconditional love and support into my life.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

A smile can stop tears, raise hope on life, ease ones pain, shed light on sorrow, make you blush, even fill one with excitement. The things a smile can do are truly limitless. Every ones smile can cause such different positive reactions in so many different people. The simple greatness of a smile is truly remarkable. It’s true… some of the best things in life are free, yet priceless.

I heard these words a long back in my childhood.

Recently My Friend Ashok, who is my team-mate told me about an incident that took place in life. It’s a heart Touching real story.

In his Words……
” I am a very friendly person and always smile at everyone and say hello anyway.

One day when I am at a Tiffin centre in sultan bazaar one poor old man came there. He smelled really bad and all of a sudden everyone around me began to back away.

As I looked down at the short gentleman, close to me, he was “smiling”.

His beautiful sky blue eyes were full of Light,  his eyes looked as if  he searching for acceptance.

Suddenly, in a polite voice he said, “Good day” and started smiling loudly,  I was shocked by his words. I realized the man was educated, and I thought he was mentally challenged, because his clothes were torn and standing in the full sun even without sandals.

Then I really felt it – the compulsion was so great I almost reached out and embraced the little man with the blue eyes.

That is when I noticed all eyes in the restaurant were set on me, judging my every action.

I smiled and asked the man to sit with me. He came and sat opposite me .

I ordered two paneer dosa, one for me and one for that gentle man. I put the tray on the table and laid my hand on the blue-eyed gentleman’s cold hand and I asked what your name is? I leaned over, began to pat his hand and said, “I did not do this for you. God is here working through me to give you hope.”

He looked up at me, with tears in his eyes, and said, “Thank you son”. I am not a beggar, but for many years I begged my children for their love, care and concern. Finally I became a beggar. I held my tears as I am there with them. By listening those words, I was unable to sit there even for a moment.

When I started walking away from him, tears started rolling from my eyes, because at that moment I thought of my parents, who I never cared, never shown concern or love. If love them, but i never tries to show to them.
That day showed me the value of simple smile and the miracle that love can make.Share a smile to everyone, it brings a lot of change in the person who gives and who receives.

I graduated with one of the biggest lessons I would ever learn: UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE. ”

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.

LOVE PEOPLE AND USE THINGS – Never LOVE THINGS AND USE PEOPLE.

To handle yourself, use your head. To handle others, use your heart.

In your Life’s journey, If you Find anyone without smile, please give them one.

A small piece of advice my dear friends, fall back to your parents for anything and everything. I am sure that will make our lives better. Our parents may not understand all our feelings, emotions and thoughts immediately. They may not be so educated, talented & advanced,  however I am sure they will make an honest attempt to understand us at any case. And, that attempt would always make the result fruitful. It is because they deny something or go against some of our decisions it does not mean they will do it always. They always understand and all ears to us with an unlimited unconditional eternal love. Please understand your parents & respect the love, hope, dreams & the faith that they kept on you…..

Much love and compassion is sent to each and every person who may read this and learn how to love and be loved.

Help the fellow beings, in what ever you have.
Keep this going……………..Yours Ever lasting…munn@

 Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

Dear All,

I am very much thankful to all the readers who are encouraging & motivating me,  from all these years to move forward in my life. All my writings are nothing, but the experiences that i experienced, experiences of people who shared to me and simplified form of various words gathered from the writings of various World famous writers.

On the occassion of Father’s Day, I am coming up with an article where everyone can share their opinions, So I am gathering the Opinions of Individual about Fathers and their importance in Life.

Here is a list of Questionnaire about father.  So if you find free time, please reply to these questions and if there are any other questions which you feel good to be asked, you can add them..

What’s Your Name?

What does Father Mean to you?

What does your Father Mean to You?

What type of attachment do you have with your father?

Your unforgettable moment with your Father?

Your Happiest Moment with Your Father?

Do you Miss your Father? Why?

Did, ever your father ask for apologies From You?

Is Your Father Role Model To You? Why?

What Do You Like & Don’t Like In Your Father? Why?

If you get a chance, what do you like to tell Heart fully to your Father?

In your opinion How a father is Important in Children life?

I am sorry to ask, Is your father alive?     Y/N

Just provide with simple answers, need not go for elaborated ones.

You can also mail your opinion to the  following Email Id’s

munna.prawin@yahoo.com

munna.prawin@hotmail.com

praveen@2xprime.com

Your Everlasting Friend.

Prawin

Please feel free to share your opinion, your relation, attachment with your father in your words  in the comments below.

All these years I and my team wrote hundreds of articles on different topics and  issues. For the first time in my life, I am coming out with content, which is thought provoking and which proves how worst, we Humans are towards other Human Beings on this planet;

I want people to read this and change their mindset. I want to add that if you have any Hijras in the family, don’t be ashamed and support them.

I would like to dedicate my blog to a group of people called Third Sex on the planet, who are probably the most harmless beings, but yet are probably more feared than the terrorists. Yes I’m talking about the ‘Hijras’… When we spoke to them for the first with heart, tears rolled down on my cheeks by listening to their talk about their sufferings.

In our daily life we see Hijras on roads, near shopping malls, near temples, in trains, on streets, etc begging for money. Many of us scared to talk, to walk, to sit, to see, to hear, and even to feel their presence. Many times I too felt the same, till I came to know about their struggle to survive on this earth. Some people snap at them and use abusive words towards them… It’s not their fault that they are the way they are or that they haven’t fully been accepted in society.

When I was in northern part of India I have seen many people considering Hijras as superior humans.

It is believed that their blessings are very good for us and at the same time their curses are equally bad.

This belief makes some orthodox families to invite Hijras to special occasions like weddings, naming ceremonies and so on. In those occasions Hijras come in groups, sing, dance, perform rituals and bless everyone there.

When it comes to Southern part, its quiet opposite. Hijras are often referred to as members of the ‘3rd gender’ in India. They themselves will describe their sexual identity as being neither male nor female.

They are usually rejected for what they are and the way they live. Still, they are tolerated when they show up uninvited at special ceremonies such as births and weddings where they cash in for performing dances and blessings.

I personally spoke to few Hijras  when I went to Tamil Nadu with my team on a Training Program, whom I met in my life. I requested if I could get to know “how do they actually lead their life? What is their life story?”

It was a collection of Interviews that I done with Hijras in the recent past, when I met them on roads, trains, near shopping malls and the points from Revathis book;

“The Truth About Me: A Hijra Life Story”.

The book is an eye opener to all the Homo sapiens.

The book is all about the life of an Hijra who was dragged into sexual work, to meet her basic needs. It’s really a touching story which make the readers to think for a while.

In their words……

“Please give us a chance to express our pain, problems; ill-treatment’s that we are facing in this, so called Human Society. We are going through a lot of physical and emotional turmoil and led a life full of questions and uncertainty.

Facing Challenges at every step and rudeness of society forced us to live an unimaginable, painful life constantly under fear of violence as some of us made a living by begging and sex work. We fear to think of a life beyond begging and sex-work because it earns our livelihood.

In our society, Hijras have always been looked with suspicion, ridicule and fear.

There are few people who support us occasionally; they are

    Political parties.

     Media.

     Mean Humans.

. Political parties support us, because they know very that, we have Right to Vote and they have Right to Beg for those votes.  They give lot of lectures about welfare of Hijras during elections, that’s it.

. Media supports us, because they want publicity and they need their own ratings. They interview us, they show us to the world for their own benefit.

. There are few people, who even  force us to sleep with them, for satisfying there sexual wishes and needs. We used to feel, that we are really fortunate because, we don’t behave like human animals.

Several men made bold to touch us, on our backs, on our shoulders. Some attempted to grab our breasts. ? Original or duplicate? They shouted and hooted.

People used to ask out loudly? Some out of curiosity, others out of malice? Whether we were men or women or? Number nines? Or devadasis. At such moments we felt despair and wondered if there would ever be a way for us to live with dignity and make a decent living.

We were born as Hijras; it’s not our choice or our mistake, simply its creation. We too have feelings but right from our parents to the world, nobody understands us except the ones like us. When my parents came to know I was Hijra, they sent me out of house. At that time one Human God took me into his arms. At that small age I don’t know what to call him, he said “I am your father, I feel happy if you can call me Father”.

All these years no one listened my hearts cry, except my god i.e. My Father. He was truly one in a Hundred million and I’m so lucky to have had him as my Dad.

It’s been an emotional journey all these years. Reliving the pain and torture was never easy. We want to let the society know about our life and the hardships borne by us.

We are neither men nor women. We have families and we also started going to school, but when we understood that we were both boys and girls we have left everything. For this reason now we live in a group. We are not Christian, Muslim or Hindu, we are all united. Each one is free to follow their religion. We all eat in the same dish. On the road we behave differently with you, but our house is easier to talk and we are more sociable.

We don’t feel neither men nor women. We don’t have a proper lively hood; we go on stores and take clothes and food without paying. We also do street collections. Few give us clothes, food, money. Now it is harder for us to live. Many think that, we are prostitutes with HIV; nobody passes the medicine, the care. Even doctor’s they don’t help us at all. Some of us die because we do not have medicine.

There are many fake Hijras too…silly boys trying to make a quick buck off the back of someone else’s unfortunate circumstances.

If we could be reborn, we would like to have birth as a Hijra, because.

a. We don’t know politics of life.

b. We don’t  know how to bluff own people.

c. We  know how to give pain to everyone.

d.We  don’t know how to trouble parents.

e.We are not greedy for wealth.

f.We live in what we have, if possible we help others.

g.We dont fight for power.

h.We don’t go in wrong path, to pursue name & fame.

i. In us fathers don’t  know how to sexually harass own daughters.

j.We don’t  know how to kill parents for property.

k.We don’t know how to fight for separate states.

l.We don’t  know how to play wife lives of people showing love.

m.We don’t know how to leave life partners, by getting attracted to new ones.

o.We don’t know how to share our life partner with friends.

p.We don’t know how to fight for separate states.

q. We don’t know how to show community feeling.

r. We don’t know how to through away new born babies.

s. We don’t are not alcoholics or womanisers who disregard their family.

t. We don’t know how to show-off.

u. We don’t know how to rob from the public.

v. We don’t know how to kill our parents for property.

w. We don’t even know how to trouble Hijras.

like this there are many more, which we Hijras don’t know

Without knowing all these, how can we expect to have birth as Normal Humans like you all.

The only thing that we know is, to silently bear the pain.

I am sorry to say …..All you Humans are very educated, advanced, intelligent, successful, rich with name & fame, but without minimum morals, courtesy, care and concern towards the fellow human beings.

Really we are scared of you Humans. Please give us a chance to live, we like to live. Don’t kill us or make us kill ourselves with your words, actions, behavior. Please……… give us chance to live on this planet.

Our Sincere Request to All Civilized Humans:

1. Please when ever we stretch our hand for help, if possible help us, because we don’t have any one else.

2. When we are diseased please provide medicine.

3. Let our children go to schools like your children.

4.We too expect some entertainment, So when we come to theaters or public places, don’t abuse us or hit us.

5.Don’t criticize or comment us with bad words, because we too have Heart.

6.When we are starving for food, please provide us with the food, that you leave away.

7. Finally, When we die please provide 6 feet land, to bury our dead bodies in the cremation ground.

Treat Hijras as normal human beings. Spare a thought and a smile to us; we expect nothing more from so called Humans.

If there is any mistake in our words, please forgive us. Sincere thanks to these students, who spoke to us with real heart. ……”

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Hi Friends Good Morning to one and All, I am very much happy to say that my Job got confirmed at Prime Ki Software Solutions Pvt Ltd. It’s anunforgettable day in my life. Now I can proudly say to everyone that I am also a Job Holder.

One’s first job offer is usually a cherished memory. I would like to share “My First Job” experience.

I experienced many ups and downs to get this job. I remember the days…… “When I was studying I had to dream to get place in a reputed organization as a Software employee and to go with further studies. Since there were a few months left for me to kill before the course, I started looking up job opportunities. I completed my Engineering from a college in my home town  near to Hyderabad in the year 2010. I was very much inspired by founder of Infosys i.e. N. R. Narayana Murthy.

From then I started my hunt for Job. My parents are not so educated. Frankly to say there is no one to guide me in getting a job. I came from a middle-class family. My father is the only source of Income. I know if I can’t get job now, I will become more burden. So I gave up my dream of Higher Education. I decided to support my family economically, by getting a job.

I know most graduates undergo these challenges at some point in their lives, but I felt I was totally down.

I came to Hyderabad and joined in technical training Institute. I used to stay in hostel at SR Nagar. I used to work for 14 hours daily. At that time the only goal I have is  “ To get a Job”. Even though I have got above 75% throughout career, I haven’t got much interview calls. I used to feel my life is over. Now a whole year had passed and there wasn’t a single call from any Recruitment organizations. It was disheartening, but how could I let go of my dream so soon, so easily?

When I was in hostel, every month my father used to send me 4000 rupees. In that, 2900 rupees I used to pay as hostel fee and with little money left I used to spend whole month. From my room to Training Institute bus fare is 4 rupees. I used to walk all that distance to save those 4 rupees. In the evening I used to drink sugarcane juice and used to continue my lab practice in the Institute. I came to know the value of money, parents and I came to know value of life. In the last two years I haven’t gone even to a single movie. I haven’t met any of my friends because I can’t show my face without job.

As months passed, the road ahead seemed uncertain to me. At that point of time, I wasn’t sure if I should go ahead and follow my dream to do a Job or go by pursuing my post-graduation

Daily I used to question myself “Everyone is getting job, why am I not getting? Really Do I deserve it? Am I worth full to get a job?” like this many questions started rising in my mind. At that my parents stood with me. They were the only support that made to stand up and fight back.

I spoke to a few people from the profession and they advised me not be too adamant about my options at the start of my career. They advised me to try looking for opportunities outside of Hyderabad. On a fine day with god’s grace I got Interview call from Prime Ki Solutions Pvt Ltd.

I gave my interview at Prime Ki Software Solutions Pvt Ltd on Feb 24-2012. Till the final results were announced I was very nervous. The time when results were announced, for a moment I thought I conquered the World because I was selected. But my happiness hasn’t last for long time. I reported at Prime Ki Software Solutions Pvt Ltd on march-5-2012, they told that 3 months is probation period, where if the performance is not good they have rights to terminate me and for the first three months I have to work for free.

After one week I was placed into project. From then for three months, I worked as if I was very hungry of work. During that period I faced lot of financial problems. Daily my traveling expense is around 45 rupees. I used to come by local buses even though they are very crowded. Because the bus fare is very low compared to auto rickshaws. I haven’t even gone out with my team to have coffee or lunch in those 3 months. I used to have milk which was provided in our office. I used to get lunch box from hostel for the lunch. There are no words to explain the struggle that i faced during that period.  I can’t ask my parents for more money, so I spent very plain life.

Finally today i.e. on 5-June-2012, I got my offer letter. I don’t have words to say. I called my parents and told them the news, they felt really happy. At that moment I am unable to stop my tears. I let them roll down because; I only know how much pain I took all these days to get the job. I know how many sleepless nights I spent, I know how many interviews I gave, I know how many organization steps I climbed for job, I know how many people I requested for reference, Finally I know what am I.

My words may look funny to you, but I want to tell everyone that.

“Life is not easy, as we dream and Life is not as hard as we think. The only thing is you have to understand life.”

Small suggestion to Job Seekers.

During your job search, constantly remind yourself of you capability to locate a suitable job and that there is a fantastic opportunity waiting for you. Discard all ‘negative’ thoughts that are not supportive to your job search. Listen to advice and guidance that will help make progress in your job search and not the unhelpful talk that will paralyze you with fear. Fear is not useful in a job search situation because it closes you down instead of opening you up to all the opportunities that exist out there. If you fail in 100 Interviews, you should be ready to give 101th interview with same fire, interest, zeal that you shown on the first.

If you get job early, you are Good.

If it takes few attempts to get job, you are Great.

If takes many attempts to get a job, then you are Unstoppable in future.

 Where to look for jobs

There are a number of ways you can search for jobs:

• through newspapers
• on the internet
• by registering with recruitment agencies
• in trade journals
• through friends and other people you know

Personal and social skills

Ask yourself the following questions about life outside work:

• Do you get on well with people?
• Are you on a local committee or a member of a community organization?
• Are you part of a team, (for example, a sports or quiz team)?
• Do you have skills from caring for your family, (for example, organizational skills)?
• Have you done any voluntary work?
• Have you been to any evening classes or training?

Employment skills and experience

Ask yourself the following questions to think about skills you have developed, including those built up in jobs you have had before:

• Did you develop any skills that will be useful in the job you’re looking for?
• Have you worked as part of a team?
• Did you need to share information with others?
• Did you follow or give instructions well?
• Are you a good timekeeper?
• Do you have IT skills?
• Did you get any qualifications?
• Were you praised for any part of your role?

One should experience the Job Hunt. It’s really challenging and a memorable experience. I shared about my first job experience, What about yours?

I heart fully wish every job seeker to get placed in a better organization as per your dreams.

Posted  By …………………………………………………………Experienced Job Hunter.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.