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About MunnaPrawin

I am MunnaPrawin. Yes, that’s my open ID. I am accomplished and multifaceted IT professional offering more than 14 years of experience at International level in Personality Development Trainings, and as Quality Assurance Manager special focus on Test Automation. I have proven expertise in leading teams towards project goals. I am passionate about my work. Because I love what I do, I have a steady source of motivation that drives me to do my best. I am currently working as a QA Manager for Medloop Technologies, UK, London. My highest educational qualification is Masters in Computer Science. I started my career after my Graduation. I must thank all the people who supported and guided me when i started career in 2007. After my Masters, I joined in a Government Organization and later I worked for multiple organizations. That’s me professionally… “I’m a people-person. I love meeting new people and learning about their lives and their backgrounds. I can almost always find common ground with strangers, and I like making people feel comfortable in my presence. I find this skill is especially helpful when kicking off projects with new clients. In my previous job, my clients’ customer satisfaction scores were 15% over the company average.” “I’m a natural leader. I’ve eventually been promoted to a leadership role in almost every job because I like to help people. I find co-workers usually come to me with questions or concerns even when I’m not in a leadership role because if I don’t know the answer, I’ll at least point them in the right direction. In my last two roles, I was promoted to leadership positions after less than a year with the company.” “I am results-oriented, constantly checking in with the goal to determine how close or how far away we are and what it will take to make it happen. I find this pressure inspiring and a great motivator for the rest of the team. In fact, over the past year, I was able to help my team shorten our average product time to market by two weeks.” The biggest ideas in life are often expressed in the fewest words. " Its a popular saying, I have felt the truth in it a lot of times. I have been inspired by writings of many people… It had long been my desire to start a blog of that genre for the benefit of young men and women of India, especially students. The wish has materialized and the this blog is the result. I have nevertheless borrowed from western and Indian writers, bloggers, authors and referred to Indian greats to reinforce my views. After all, most values are universal, valid anytime, anywhere. I strongly believe, the young are the inheritors of tomorrow. Every effort should be made to remind them of their heritage, responsibility and provide them such guidance and inspiration as may be needed, to prepare them to face the future with enthusiasm and confidence. This blog is an effort in that direction. I am very much thankful to PRATYUSHA who is there with me all the years in all the aspects of my life. She is everything to me. All I am today is because of you people. Thanks!!

Resignation is not a CRIME


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Employee Resignation, we know it is inevitable in any organization. Sooner or later, even the best employer has employees resign. The reasons are endless for what causes an employee resignation. But, each employee resignation poses the employer with the same series of questions. Unexpected resignations present big challenges for leaders, managers especially those unaccustomed to dealing with them. It’s probably a frustration you haven’t had for a whileand if you’re a relatively new manager, you might not have ever experienced this before.

As our team members grow in their careers, they may branch out beyond what is available to them in their current role or company. Sometimes, what they are looking for next isn’t something we can offer.  I agree, It’s a dreadful moment when a well-liked member of your team tenders their resignation. You experience a cocktail of emotions ranging from fear about how the rest of the team will react.

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Posted by on January 22, 2020 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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Pat on back from others, may hold you Back


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Be aware of the pat on the back from others! It might be the one thing that holds you back.

In current weakened society, one of the methods people believe works is to give an instant pat on the back to someone once they do something positive/correct, etc. While this may be an effective method, all you are truly doing is weakening one person’s mind. You are essentially training a person to expect a congratulations/ an attaboy, etc., for every fucking thing they do. But, we are forgetting the very basic principles of being a basic fucking human being. Instead of the pat-on-the-back method, why not try this one? The fucking “supposed to” method!

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It is our job as leaders and teachers to teach people to not always look for the pat on the back rather to build a mindset that we are supposed to do and be our best all the time in every situation. We shouldn’t look for anything from anybody for simply doing our best.

You are supposed to get up early, make your bed and clean your house. You are supposed to work out almost every day. You are supposed to do the best you can in school every day. You are supposed to bring your best effort to work every day.

That pat on the back should only come when you have exceeded what most people consider exceptional work or have gone above and beyond what is expected.

Don’t expect a pat on the back for the shit that a human being is supposed to be doing every day of their lives and that is being the best that he/she can be in every situation in their life. It’s not about you. It’s about your team, the ones you love, and having pride in yourself. It’s not about what others think or feel about you- it’s about how you feel about yourself.

Like I say we(humans) don’t need approval, we know what we are supposed to do and just do it out of love for our family community country and lastly self. As long as I go above and beyond and can look at myself In the mirror and smile, it’s all good, “well done good and faithful servant” is the only praise I seek and I ain’t getting that in this life

Sometimes you just have to pat your own back for all that you do. Well, today is your day! Today recognize your accomplishments, your abilities, your personal greatness and give yourself a pat on the back. You’re not being conceited, you’re not being vain, you’re being proud of who you are and what you do.

Everyday congratulate yourself, thank yourself, check your path correct yourself and give yourself a big pat on the back. We must not forget to pat ourselves on the back for all that we’ve accomplished so far! It’ll fill us with great positivity and energy to move forward in life.

Give Yourself a Pat on the Back. Don’t Be Afraid to Be Proud

Don’t be afraid to wear your pride on your sleeve,. Too often we fear being proud of ourselves for the concern that others will see us as cocky or boastful. But there is nothing wrong with giving ourselves a pat on the back or hearty congratulations when we have accomplished something- big, small, anything! DO not wait for someone to congratulate you. Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds.

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There is no Winter Today


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

May this Christmas festive season sparkle and shine, may all of your wishes and dreams come true, and may you feel this happiness all year round. Spending money on someone is nice, but spending time with them is nicer. The Christmas gifts will one day lose their luster – the memories of loved ones never will.

There is no winter today. But the warmth of summer in every heart.

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But the snow flakes of happiness

But the snowflakes of blessings

are shining in every corner, under the colorful festive lights .

There is no winter today

But the warmth of summer in every heart

But the warmth of Holy Spirit in every soul

But the warmth of friendship, family meeting, and reunion in every life

There is no winter today

On this sacred day of Lord Jesus’s birth

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is no winter today

But warmth of summer in every joyful loving heart

On this special day of Holly jolly Merry Christmas

There is winter, but warmth of Summer in every heart

There is no coldness in any heart

But full of warmth love and kindness for every mankind .

……..Merry Christmas. ❤️🎄❄️❤️

By… Tapas Das

 

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She says, “Loving ME is Your Mistake”


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Words of a Bleeding  ❤ ….

People say love drives the world.But it is we who drive love itself. Loving is a gift you give yourself and to others. Yes, it also depends on the person whom you love.

We hear a lot of things in our lives that might make us sad or uncomfortable. Sometimes from our peers, friends, family and other times it can come from the people that we love most in this world. Sometimes, things are said which really cut deep and hurt badly. For example when your partner says he/she never loved you. Once we hear it, we can’t forget it. Which is sorrowful indeed, but hey- that’s life. Relationships are complex. They can be messy and hard to conquer. Especially when you hear something such as, “I never loved you.”

I came across a persons situation where I heard the below words.

x51k5266Loving me is a mistake because I am not used to committed relationships. I am used to being strung along for months and then tossed to the side without a warning. I have no idea how to be a caring, loving girlfriend because I haven’t had any practice. Most guys I am relationship loved my body and expected me to keep my feelings to myself so I learned how to act emotionless. I learned how to turn off the part of me that reaches for hugs and gives unexpected compliments. I can come across as cold even when you mean the world to me.

Loving me is a mistake because I am uncomfortable with affection. I will not know how to respond to your compliments. I will not know how to comfort you when you cry. I will not know what the hell I am doing or why you have chosen to be with me of all people.

Loving me is a mistake because I cannot promise not to hurt you. I probably will hurt you. I will accidentally say the wrong thing. I will go places without even thinking about inviting you. Important dates will slip my mind. I will disappoint you. I will fuck everything up somehow.

Loving me is your mistake, because I am not a person who does not believe in True love. I never experienced true love in my previous life, so I cannot experience yours not I can give it to you. I see no difference between love and lust.

Loving me is a mistake because I detach easily. I assume people will grow bored of me so I prepare myself for the worst. I tell myself no one is going to stick around for long. I remind myself they are going to walk away eventually, even if they swear they are staying put. I have a hard time accepting happiness. Even when things are going well I will assume it’s only a matter of time until everything erupts. I am a pessimist but I call myself a realist. I feel like anyone who believes in fairy tales and happy endings isn’t living in the real world.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a shit-ton of baggage. No matter how well you treat me, I will find a reason to distrust you. I am a skeptic. I am cynical. I don’t believe in love at first sight or in everlasting marriages. I am the kind of person who laughs at romance movies because I cannot take them seriously.

Loving me is a mistake because I have a short temper. Even though I act like nothing bothers me, I am soft on the inside. I take things personally. If you hurt my feelings then I will cut you out of my world completely. I won’t give you a chance to explain yourself because in my mind I feel like I know exactly why you did what you did. I think I have all the answers, even though I can barely figure myself out.

Loving me is a mistake because I get scared easily. I will grow afraid that I will ruin the best thing that ever happened to me, but instead of telling you that, I will run away. I will hurt you before you have the chance to hurt me

Loving me is a mistake, I never asked you to love me. Whatever happened is happened, now i wanna move out of this. I have my own plans to restart life in a new way with person i want and way I want.

Hearing these words hurts. And it definitely does. More than we might care to admit. It looks like someone is pulling out your  Heart when you are alive. Your partner may have said those exact words to you. And now you’re struggling, because you simply don’t understand why. I simply said “If loving you is a mistake darling, then I don’t want to correct it. You made me feel whole and you complete me, that’s why I choose to call you my soulmate. I love you forever”

But loving someone who doesn’t love you might just turn out to be a very big mistake. If you fall into love with someone who does not have any feelings for you at all, then believe me you are in a big trouble because this will make you do things who never want to. It will take you away from your friends and family.  It will make yourself get away from the people who you really care about. It may develop an inferiority complex and it will harm you in the long run.

After reading this you might feel love is not a good feeling to have. But here comes the twist, even if you try to run away from it you won’t be able to run far away.

Well love is really powerful. Sometimes what happens is that you are not able to let go of someone and can’t just stop loving them. And if your love is real, mark my words it will teach you a lot about life. Not everyone will believe you but it is their problem. There will eventually come a time when after being sad about everything related to love and your experience with it, you will become happy and will find yourself lucky and proud that you loved someone. This is the power of love.

At last I would like to say that love is probably the best feeling to have but only when you get the same love back. But you should be powerful enough to handle it.

 

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MAN Behind Million Smiles


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Dr RS Praveen Kumar is an IPS officer, who is very well known as a tough COP. More than that, he is a passionate leader who dedicated his life to bring change in millions of lives. In his new avatar, as a secretary of the Telangana Social Welfare Residential Educational Institutions Society (TSWREIS), which runs residential schools for Scheduled Caste, Scheduled Tribe and underprivileged children. Dr Kumar wanted to do something for the underprivileged was quite clear even when he was in uniform.

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Dr Kumar has bitter childhood. He came from a very poor family in a backward caste. His mother was a coolie who was rescued and given an education. She went on to become a teacher. His father too was a teacher. Education changed things for the family.learnt the value of education early in life from his parents. He studied veterinary science before being inspired to take the civil services examination and join the Indian Police Service (IPS) in 1995.

He was a decorated IPS officer and he had done a Masters in Public Administration under the Mason Programme at the Kennedy School in Harvard University when he opted to be Secretary of the schools.

The TSWREIS is an institution which runs residential schools for students from marginalised  communities. Until a few years ago, the society was known to perform poorly, but Dr Kumar has been credited as the man who turned it all around. When he took over as secretary, the  department was dreary and there seemed to be no life. Schools lacked facilities and teachers were not motivated enough. Dr Kumar changed all that within six months.

Dr Kumar started a movement  SWAROES, based on the ideologies of Jyothi Rao Phule and Dr. B R Ambedkar. Where SWAEROES stands for Social Welfare Aeroes (Greek for sky) it means that sky is the limit and there is no reverse gear or no looking back or no slowing down. It consists of alumni of the Society, who seek to empower those who come from similar backgrounds, with the help of ten commandments unique to the movement.

The TSWREIS runs 268 residential educational institutions, which provide free food, education and residential facilities to thousands of underprivileged children every year. Funded and operated by the Telangana government, it caters to students from primary level to the undergraduate level. The society has many accomplishments to its name. Dr Kumar is much loved and admired. He is a source of positive energy. He cuts an inspirational figure for children at the schools.

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A few students have really stood out like stars. Dr Kumar says he wants to give confidence to all students. Apart from the visible difficulties, like socio-economic issues, it is the lack of role models within the community which makes parents dither when sending their children, especially daughters, to schools. Parents are unaware that success can be achieved because those who are worthy of being emulated do not stay in the villages, Dr Kumar said.

Among his wards are Malavath Poorna, a 13-year-old who became the youngest girl to scale the Everest, Anand Kumar the first Dalit to scale the world’s tallest mountain. Under Dr Kumar’s leadership, sons and daughters of ordinary workers including daily wage earners and others got admission into premier institutions.

In the last five years, 48 students secured IIT seats, 133 joined NITs, 81 entered MBBS courses. Another 62 got entry into Azim Premji University, 12 in Delhi University, 31 in various Central universities, four in the Indian Navy School, and 11 in the Tata Institute of Social Sciences.

Dr Kumar proved that Service comes with sacrifice and one should be ready to take up challenges and this is definitely one of the best opportunities to make India as informed, inclusive, and invincible nation in the world.

Many say that Dr Kumar is the wind beneath the wings of students at Telangana’s social welfare hostels. He is the guiding force, opening endless doors for students from underprivileged sections and leading them to a limitless sense of being. They are given confidence to deal with life. 

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It´s Insane to play with people Emotions


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

If you’re in a relationship or dating someone or exploring a relationship where someone is toying or playing with your emotions, leaving you feeling miserable most or worse, all of the time, you need to leave ASAP. No one should have that much control over your emotions. You should never give someone that kind of power where they can take away your good and positive energy and happiness. And that’s exactly what they’ll be doing, that is, if you let them. WhatsApp Image 2019-11-09 at 9.19.37 PM

Some people will be wishy-washy, uncertain, confused, ambivalent, emotionally unavailable, or simply, they might just be a total jerk or a player. But what you need to do is recognize it when a person acts like they don’t know what they want, or if and when they change their mind every other day, or even every two minutes for that matter. We need to become aware of the types of people who we surround ourselves with in our lives. People who have these types of issues are not people who anyone should be associating with, but especially, on a romantic level, and even moreso, when we want something stable, long term, meaningful, and with future potential.

Think about it! Imagine going to sleep on a happy, peaceful, and loving note with your partner, where you feel so in love and as if you and your honey are better than ever, and BOOM! First second you open your eyes in the morning and look down at your cell phone and you have a long-a** text message saying how your partner loves you somuch, but has doubts and thinks that it’s better to end things for this or that reason. But wait, two days later, the cycle repeats, and they want you back, apologize and regret leaving, making excuses for why they’d left, and the instability goes on and on in this type of toxic pattern for—as long as you let it.

Many people will make promises to you, but never keep them. But when you’re in a relationship with someone who does this, and even moreso, when they do it quite often, it will not only drive you nuts, not to mention provoke you if you’re the sensitive type, but it will steal your inner peace, and make you feel miserable from all of the in and out, on and off, wishy-washy, back and forth instability. EVERYONE who wants to be in an exclusive relationship wants that relationship to be stable. No one gets into a relationship and feels good when they go through break up after break up, and all of the time.

Ukh! Breaking up with someone is hard enough, right? But when someone breaks up, makes up, and repeats that unstable pattern so often, you’ll never know what to expect. When someone is so unpredictable and wishy-washy, but you choose to stay with them regardless and perhaps because you love them, you’re basically causing your own misery by staying. My best advice would be to leave. A person who is so unstable that they break up or continuously go back and forth with how they feel or what they want with you, or if they make promises or give you their word, but never follow through, you should move on, and find someone who therapists will kill me for saying is “normal.”

You have to recognize when someone brings out the worst in you, and take it as a BIG sign that you should leave, because they’re obviously not the right match for you. You shouldn’t be sweeping red flags under the rug, and you shouldn’t give someone chance after chance to change and improve themselves or to just once—keep their word, when they keep letting you down.

Not everyone deserves multiple chances. I mean, O.K., if you’re married, you should be willing to fight for things to work and with all of your power, but in a relationship, when you see that you’re completely a mess and unhappy more often than not, and when you see that a person thrives on creating drama and is just making you feel miserable on a daily basis, LEAVE for goodness sake! I mean, come on! Relationships are all about seeing if you’ll be good enough together so that you can take things to the next level.

So when you see that someone is not only making you unhappy a lot of the time, but that they’re completely unstable and that’s one of the main things that’s provoking your unhappiness, you should start thinking with your head instead of your heart. You see, despite how much someone might love or even think that they love you, when a person really loves you, they won’t cause you so much pain and discomfort. And especially when they see how much they’re hurting you all of the time by their words and actions.

Now, when it comes to someone stringing their partner along, I’m basically referring to when someone tells their partner certain things, makes promises, but never follows through with them. I’m referring to when your partner lets you down a lot and convinces you that things will be different soon, and that they will change and improve, and that they’ll do whatever it takes to keep you by their side and make you feel happy, but nothing changes.

People who string their partner along are usually some of the most selfish types of people, because they end up hurting someone who they claim to, or possibly even do really love. But the problem is, that when someone keeps stringing their partner along, many times, they’re wasting their time, hurting them, and at times, even keeping them from finding someone else who will not only be stable, but who will be a better match for them. This is especially bad if the person stringing their partner along, is doing so when they already know they they ultimately won’t be with their partner in the future, yet they’re simply too attached or too afraid of letting their partner go for whatever reason. I mean, talk about selfish!

When someone strings you along, they usually do so like I said, for selfish reasons. But one of those selfish reasons is because they want everything to be their way. They usually aren’t willing to compromise or make changes, other than changes to what they might’ve originally said that they wanted or even in regards to what you both might’ve agreed to early on when dating. What’s really unfortunate though, is when a person strings their partner along when they’re older, and especially when their partner wants to settle down and have children, knowing ahead of time that the person is likely not going to be the person who they will be with in their future, but they want to be with them anyway, despite their age, and despite the other person’s circumstances.

Many people want what they want and simply don’t care who they might hurt along the way, as long as they get it. Having said that, not everyone’s motives are initially bad, and not everyone knows right away they they won’t end up with someone. I mean after all, how could anyone know how they’ll feel until they get to know someone on a deeper level. However, when a person directly tells you their concerns early on, yet you avoid or ignore them, thinking, “I can do it! (arrogantly or maybe even selfishly based on lust or thinking with anything but your head) or thinking that somehow you’ll make things work, despite the obvious challenges that maybe your partner had even voiced to you as concerns, you’ll be at fault for wasting their time.

You see, despite having pure and good intentions, it’s not always enough. Having pure intentions isn’t enough, when you don’t follow through with your word. And dreaming of having what you want and going after it when you ultimately know that it’s wrong or that someone isn’t the right match for you, yet you go after it anyway, is completely selfish and wrong. This is when listening to your instinct can be helpful. As well as using your logic and heart when exploring relationships.

When two people explore a relationship together, there shouldn’t have to be so much drama, confusion, instability, or back and forth. When you see that things aren’t working out early on or when you don’t feel that you can keep your word or follow through with what you initially thought or said that you would, you need to ends things with the other person sooner, rather than later. You see, holding off ending things when you have major doubts, is just plain selfish, because you’re holding back the other person from their “real” match.

Remember, it’s never nice to play with people’s emotions, to mislead them, or to be selfish and not think before you do things. Don’t lead people on. If you know that someone isn’t the right match for you, don’t waste their time by dating them and giving them hope. Giving false hope to someone or stringing them along for the ride, knowing that you can’t or won’t ultimately stick around is cruel. Think of the possible consequences of your actions and be careful not to hurt others by being selfish.

You should never waste someone’s time by stringing them along for your selfish reasons. Be a good person, and let someone know when you have doubts early on, and preferably before you get too close (attached or intimate), so that they don’t end up feeling used or that they were taken advantage of. Be selfless, not selfish, and even if you love someone but know that you ultimately won’t end up with them for whatever reasons, you shouldn’t waste their time. Love them enough to let them go… ……..By… Vishal

Finally one suggestion, People play with our feelings because we let them play,people usually play with feelings of those persons who are emotionally weak,they know even if they will hurt that person.he/she can’t do anything other than crying or making excuses but on the other side they don’t even try to play with feelings of mentally strong person because they know even if they will do it will not affect him/her so always act strong,no matter what so is going in your life,it will always help you

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Journey from Nowhere to NOW HERE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I feel so fortunate and happy  to say that, all I am today is by adding a little space in my life to “ I am NOWHERE” to make “I am NOW HERE”. Along with my parents, I made myself as a footpath to make me reach what I am Today.  When I started facing the world of opportunities with obstacles, I am very well aware that being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. A hungry stomach during my childhood, empty pocket during my school/college days, painful treatment from trusted ones and broken heart in every phase of my life taught the great life lessons and turned me into the person who i should actually be i.e. what I am Today..

The journey that I have been making did not started in a high-end car but more like on IMG_20191103_061339 bicycle. Its a very very special journey from a village kid who is Milk Vendor( person who used to sell MILK by going to each house) to Quality Control Manager in London,  developing teams, implementing effective QA Practices. Its true. I never feel shy to say where I started and where are my roots are. By considering my current position or traits or appearance, many assume that I am from a High end family, who´s born with Silver spoon. Which is not correct. In each step of my Life I faced obstacles, hurdles, ill-treatments from society for being born in low class, caste family, but I let nothing to distract me from reaching my goals.

I started my journey like others from a very poor rural set up ,having no support or idealism to follow. It started like a lonely leaf in the whirl pool. I am born in a below middle class family with only moral values not money.  As a very small child I don’t remember too much other than ethics, moral, values taught by my parents and the painful childhood experienced in various forms. The things that I do remember were seen through a child’s eyes that has made me the person that I am today and I will always have those memory’s with me until my last breath on this earth.

My parents are not educated, they are able to teach me only moral values to live proper life, with which i started my life’s journey. Due to economical situation of family, my parents requested my sisters to give-up their dream of becoming Engineer, Doctor to see me and my brother as Software Engineers. Seen many highs and lows. Faced many failures enjoyed many success. In my small journey learned few but important things. Most of them are taught by parents, teachers/faculty, my girlfriends, brother, family of friends.

Today, I proudly say, I have forgotten my struggles in life to exist but could not forget the pleasure in coming out with flying colors from all sufferings. With successful Computers Graduation and Post-graduation as a topper at college, University levels, I could impart my knowledge, experience and expertise to thousands of students, employees across countries inform of Guest Lectures, Trainings and through my writings in form of books, articles and websites. Most of my students are now established in various countries. But most surprising and happiest fact is that they acknowledge my contribution in their carrier even today .

I believe in these lines..

“If you learn from your experiences, you are an intelligent, if you learn from experiences of others you are a Genius”
“It doesn’t matter whom you choose as a role-model in life, but before you leave this world, you should become a role-model even to a person”
“I am not sure if I am going to be with you till my last breath, but for sure my words & moments you spent with me are going to be with you till your last breath”
“Its better to die on your feet, than to live on your knees”

I have had my own share of highs and lows.I am thankful for what I have. I can´t say that I have always been very mature about the way I have handled the highs and lows. I have had my bouts of arrogance when I flew high and then bouts of low morale when things went badly. Life however did teach me that nothing ever lasts…not the good times, and definitely not the bad. I have therefore learnt to take things as they come and never to give-up irrespective obstacles in the journey. This has been my biggest learning.

I think what makes my life exciting are not the right things but the mistakes.. Things that I should not have done, things that I should have done in better way. I have learnt from my mistakes no matter how I clichéd it sounds.. I have made mistakes but they played their part in making me what I am today. I am happy to be me. I do not wish to live anyone else’s life. I will keep on learning from my life. But at the age of late 30´s, I think I am a grown up person and ready to commit more mistakes in the coming future.. 😉 of course the new ones as per this generation..

Here are few lines to People, Who…

Who looks at the world from a different perspective.
Who still believes in his or her dreams.
Who see life as living thing and life worth living.
Who do not settle for low.

For everyone who strives for change.
For everyone who doesn’t accept the way things work today.
For everyone who don’t accept the status quo.
This is for the ones who challenge the challenges.

This is for the ones who break down existing barriers.
For the ones make the impossible possible.
For the ones most people would call crazy.
This is for people just like you and me…

Life is a journey with many ups and downs, twists and turns, joys and heartaches.
When the down times and heartaches come, you need to remember they are not your final destination–they are just part of the journey.

Giving up may seem like the easiest thing to do, when your life appears to be falling apart, but it is hardest and worst thing you can do to sit in the rubble of your shattered dreams. You need to not see your current failures and hardships as your final destination, because they are not!  The easiest and best thing for you to do is to take several deep breaths and take steps to keep moving on. One step at a time is the only way to move through and put some space between where you are and where you belong!

Perhaps you have been longing to arrive at your destination, reach your goals and declare yourself “Now Here,” only to suffer a mighty setback and feel like you have actually arrived at “nowhere!” There is hope! You need to keep moving forward, keep pressing on toward the goal, keeping your eyes focused and having faith that you are loved more than you can possibly imagine. By taping into that love, you will find the strength and hope to continue through the difficulties.

Everybody can add that little space in their life to NOWHERE and make NOW HERE!
It doesn’t matter where did you start..
or how old or how young you are.
or how much or how little money you have.
or what your current job is or where you work.
or how big or small your mortgage is.
or do you possess luxurious cars or commute by bicycle.
or in which country you live.
The only thing that matters in Where you are going to End and How.
Life can be a rocky road; the challenge is not to let it grind you into dust, but to polish you into brilliant gem.

Life sure has opened it’s cards one by one. It takes great courage and perseverance to sail through the roughest of the tides. It would have been a great journey but there have been moments when you question your own capabilities. Never loose faith and hope.

If you will keep moving through your hardships, one day and one step at a time, you will, someday soon, look back and realize the difference between “nowhere” and “now here” was just a little space! Nowhere is cared by no one, but Now Here can command the world.

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✿✿✿ Indians help Germany to Celebrate Bathukamma ✿✿✿


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Prawin…

Every Indian heart feels so proud to say I am INDIAN. We can find Indians at every part of world. Indians living outside India celebrates every Indian festival and make it as best opportunity to unite with other Indians living in that states or country, irrespective of religion, caste, financial status etc. I really feel so excited and happy to see people gathering for events on occasion of festivals. WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM(1)

Each fall — September, October and November in the United Kingdom, Germany, United States — Hundreds of German, Americans celebrate one of Hinduism’s most important festivals, Batukamma, Diwali,  or the Festival of Lights. Like every-other year this year German woman joined to celebrate the India Batukamma festival. This year more than 200 families joined in Germany and they played and danced for over nine hours. There is overwhelming participation from Indian woman and Indian students.

Importance of the environment was known to all but there is a small negligence towards it. There are some people who are really working for protection of the environment and bringing awareness, in South India people of Telangana state and some of AndhraPradesh celebrates a Floral Festival to remember the importance and treating the Nature as the goddess with a hope that ‘protection of environment is protecting our selves’, in Telugu the festival is called as ‘Bathukamma’ which mean ‘Live Forever’, they pray to the goddess (Environment) to live forever with the people.

Floral Festival (Bathukamma) is recognized as the Telangana’s (a newly emerged state in India) major festival and the government is also promoting the festival and its importance all over the world. It is a festival of environment hence, the state also making awareness to protect the environment. Telugu people who are staying in different countries like Germany, United States, United Kingdom, Dubai, Singapore etc., are also celebrating the festival and expanding the culture to the World

Various organizations working for revival and sustenance of Indian culture and festivals in different parts of the world irrespective of religion are competing with each other to celebrate the festival inviting Public figures, Ministers and politicians of various parties and also adding glamour to it ensuring the participation of film and television stars.

WhatsApp Image 2019-10-01 at 1.40.32 PM2019 Bathukamma Sambaralu, organized by the Telangana/Telugu Association of Germany (TAG) recently helped many families to unite and created a wonderful family environment. Similar programs were organized at Dallas, Houston, Washington DC, Raleigh in North Carolina, Los Angeles, Dubai, Sydney, Melbourne and other places across world. All these places saw droves of young and middle-aged women, decked up traditionally arriving with their flamboyant flower stacks that embodied Goddess MahaGowri, who is revered as life-giver and symbolise the womanhood going by Telangana folklore.

It has become a part of our life here and the effort is to revive, retain and pass on our culture to the next generation,” said Dr. Malthi Rao (Director of TTC, Indian Embassy). “Earlier, individual groups used to celebrate but now its on a bigger platform and the enthusiasm is unbelievable,” she said

Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld (Grüne Partei MLA, Neukölln), conveyed his wishes to all the Indian families living across all states in Germany.

Families that fail to participate in such events don’t forget to celebrate at nearby lakes in small groups singing Bathukamma songs, they learnt as children back home. “I haven’t missed the festival since the last six years. I make Bathukamma at home and immerse it in the nearby lake along with a few friends,” says a proud Telangana Woman, a resident of Munich in Germany.

TAG volunteers, Raghu Chaliganti, Jairam Naidu, Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy etc who are active in Germany Telugu Forum have been organizing the events to celebrate Indian festivals and they says people participation , interest is immense and the numbers have been swelling every year.

Finally I would like to convey my sincere thanks to all the Indian, German families who joined here for making Bathukamma celebrations and for making its as such a wonderful & memorable event. This amazing response will definitely boost us to organize more and more cultural events for our Indian community. 

Very special thanks to our Honorable Guests Dr. Malthi Rao, Dr. Susanna Kahlefeld  a million thanks to all the TAG volunteers, Raghu Ch, Mr. Jairam Naidu & Mr. Vilwanathan Krishnamurthy (Ganesh Temple President and Vice-President) for their support like every year.

We request you to share your thoughts/impression in the below comments without hesitation to us either personally or on our FB page. Looking forward to meeting you all very soon again!

Once again thank you all and wish you all a Happy Bathukamma and upcoming Dussehra, Diwali, Christmas and so on. Wish you to celebrate everyday and moment of life making other Indians proud.

 

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CPR – It Saves Life of a Person & ❤ of his Family


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR) is an emergency procedure that combines chest compressions often with artificial ventilation in an effort to manually preserve intact brain function until further measures are taken to restore spontaneous blood circulation and breathing in a person who is in cardiac arrest. From School going children to Adults, everyone should have some awareness on CPR.  It not only saves life of person who is dying, but also saves his entire family from loosing the heart of their family

In the present busy and pressure world, everyone is exposed to one or other health issues. The frequent and common thing that we hear now a days is Heart Attack or Cardio Arrest. Its not limited to Humans(Adults, Infants, Kids), we can see even same issues in pets. Its good to know the life Saving Steps in the Event of a Heart Attack or Sudden Cardiac Arrest.

Heart attacks , Cardiac Attacks can strike without warnings. They are becoming what the steps of CPR areincreasingly common across world. The statistics are indeed worrying; 50% of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 50 years of age and a quarter of all the heart attacks in Indians occur under 40 years of age, according to the data available with Indian Heart Association.

Also, those living in urban areas are three times more susceptible than the rural population. In the light of such disturbing statistics, one would be better off getting to know some steps which may come in handy in the event of a heart attack.

What is a heart attack?

The heart is a muscle, and like all muscles it requires an oxygen-rich blood supply. This is provided to the heart by coronary arteries. A heart attack occurs when there is a blockage of the coronary arteries. This is often caused by a blood clot. Such a blockage, if not quickly resolved, can cause parts of heart muscle to begin to die. (1-3)

What is a cardiac arrest?

A cardiac arrest is different to a heart attack. In a cardiac arrest the heart actually stops beating; whereas in a heart attack the heart normally continues to beat even though the blood supply to the heart is disrupted.

Symptoms of  heart attack are:

  1. Shortness of breath
  2. Chest pain like pressure, squeezing or fullness
  3. Pain radiating to the shoulder, arms, neck, jaw, back and the stomach which be intermittent or last a few minutes
  4. Cold sweats
  5. Nausea or vomiting
  6. Lightheadedness, dizziness and/or fainting
  7. Anxiety
  8. Feeling restless or panicky
  9. Unexplained fatigue, especially in women and the elderly
  10. Numbness, aching or tingling sensation, usually in the left arm, but may occur in the
    right arm too in some cases
  11. Breathlessness or wheezing or coughing

Symptoms of  Cardiac attack are:

  1. Sudden loss of consciousness/responsiveness
  2. No breathing
  3. No pulse
  4. Chest pain
  5. Shortness of breath
  6. Weakness
  7. Dizziness
  8. Palpitations
  9. Nausea

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STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM ADULT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Push down hard and fast in the middle of the chest, over the breastbone, with one hand on top of the other and fingers interlaced
  • Press down  2-2.4 inches deep and at least 100-120 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose shut and cover the victim’s mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and check to see if the victim’s chest rises
  • If their chest does not rise, give another breath 

Mouth to mouth is optional, but highly recommended for child and infant CPR

Continue 30 Compressions And 2 Breaths Until:

  • The victim begins to breathe
  • An AED is ready to use
  • A trained rescuer arrives
  • You are too exhausted to continue

Special Considerations for Adult CPR:

Depending on the age of the Adult victim, the rescuer may fracture the sternum and/or ribs of the victim when performing CPR

  • In order for CPR to be effective, the rescuer must push down hard, at least 2 inches deep, on the victim’s chest. Although, this pressure may do harm to the victim such as break bones. The decision to give CPR relies on the rescuer, but physicians suggest that the victim would most likely rather live with broken bones than not live at all

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING ADULT

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM CHILD CPR (1YR-8YR):

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • You can use one or two hands: For one-handed compressions, press down hard and fast on the center of the chest using the heel of your hand
  • For two-handed compressions, push down hard and fast on the center of the chest with the heel of one hand and place the other over top
  • Push down about 2 inches deep, giving at least 100 compressions per minute
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted
  • Pinch the nose closed and cover their mouth with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Blow inside the victim’s mouth for 1 second and look for their chest to rise
  • If the chest doesn’t rise, give another breath

STEPS ON HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING CHILD

  1. Give Continuous Abdominal Thrusts
    • Place a fist with the thumb side against the middle of the child’s abdomen, just above the navel
    • Cover your fist with your other hand
  2. Continue Abdominal Thrusts Until:
    • The object is forced out
    • The adult/child can cough forcefully or breather
    • The child becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) if not done already

If child becomes unconscious, perform CPR. Start 30 to 2

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM INFANT CPR:

  1. Give 30 Chest Compressions
  • Using two fingers, push down in the center of the chest, just below the nipple line
  • Give 30 chest compressions at the rate of at least 100 per minute
  • Press down approximately 1 1/2 inches deep
  • Allow for full chest recoil between each compression 
  1. Give 2 Rescue Breaths
  • Make sure the head is tilted back and the chin is lifted into a neutral, or sniffing, position
  • Cover the infant’s mouth and nose with your mouth to form a complete seal
  • Give 2 rescue breaths, each 1 second long
  • You should see the infant’s chest rise with each breath

**A baby’s lungs are much smaller than an adult’s, so it takes much less than a full breath to fill them

STEPS FOR HOW TO HELP A CONSCIOUS CHOKING INFANT:

** The infant cannot cough, cry or breathe**

  1. Give 5 Back Blows
  • Place the infant in one hand with their face facing down
  • Give 5 firm back blows with the heel of one hand between the infant’s shoulder blades

2.Give 5 Chest Thrusts

  • Turn the infant over so their face is upwards in one arm with the same hand cupping their head
  • Place two or three fingers in the center of the infant’s chest just below the nipples and press down onto the breastbone, about 1 1/2 inches deep – 5 Compressions

**Be sure to support the infant’s head and neck with one hand and arm, and keep the head lower than the chest** 

Continue Sets of 5 Back Blows And 5 Chest Thrusts Until:

  • The object is forced out
  • The infant can cough, cry or breathe
  • The infant becomes unconscious. Call Emergency No(911, 102, 104, 108..depends on country) , if not done already

STEPS FOR HOW TO PERFORM PET CPR:

  1. Check For Breathing And a Pulse
  • Using your middle and index fingers, check your pet’s pulse below its wrist, inner thigh, below the ankle, or where the left elbow touches the chest
  • Check pulse below wrists, inner thight, ankle or where left elbow touches chest
  1. Look For Other Warning Signs
  • The gums and lips will appear gray in color
  • The pupils will be dilated
  1. If No Pulse, Start CPR
  • Lay your pet on its right side, with its heart facing upwards
  • Place your hands over the ribs where its elbows touches the chest
  • Begin chest compressions

**DO NOT give compressions if the animal has a pulse

  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: press down ½ – 1 inch
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: press down 1 – 1 ½ inches
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: press down 1 ½ – 2 inches
  1. Rescue Breaths
  • If your pet is not breathing, give rescue breaths
  • Cats and small dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose and mouth, and blow until you see chest rise
  • Medium to large dogs: close your pets mouth shut, place your mouth over the nose, blow until you see chest rise
  • Cats and small dogs under 30 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Medium dogs between 30-90 pounds: give 5 compressions per breath
  • Large dogs over 90 pounds: give 10 compressions per breath

Continue Compressions And Breaths Until:

  • Your pet starts to breathe or has a pulse

**Check its pulse after 1 minute when first starting CPR, and then after every few minutes

The above steps are easy to remember and one must have the presence of mind to perform it when the need arises. Doing so may help save a person’s life.

 

References.. Various Health sites, reliable web pages

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Divorce is chance to start fresh and discover yourself!


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 

Marriage isn’t a love affair. It isn’t even a honeymoon. It’s a job. A long hard job, at which both partners have to work, harder than they’ve worked at anything in their lives before. If it’s a good marriage, it changes, it evolves, but it goes on getting better. I’ve seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. I’ve seen that, too, in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And it’s never one person’s fault. It’s the sum total of a thousand little irritations, disagreements, idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded, or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isn’t a cure, it’s a surgical operation, even if there are no children to consider.

Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course. With divorce Your relationship may be “Breaking Up,” but you won’t be “Breaking Down. Many say its not easy to come out of the state, at same time it i snot hard as well. For every divorced one, there will be a person, who can understand him/her in a better way and take best care for rest of time. Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the Enddivorce-is-not-the-end

You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one. Turn the page, there might be a good news awaiting for you that makes you happy.

Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family.

I am a divorcee, it’s been more than 2 years now. Although it was the toughest decision of my life, not a day goes by when I don’t thank God for the courage he gave me. So, whether it is me or any other woman I am sure she would have gone through a few of these things:

1) Facing the fact that we are labelled. We are a divorcee now and the world never misses an opportunity to remind us of that status.

2) Pity. People will show fake sympathy and pity. Do not fall for it. Things like “you must be lonely na. How do you stay strong? I wish you find someone good. “Do not discuss the details of your divorce with anyone. They will not understand it unless they have gone through it!

3) Judging. We will be judged for what we wear, what we eat, who we talk to, everything!!! So, keep calm and ignore.

4) Curiosity. Our sex lives will a source of mystery to them. So never ever discuss it. They will not believe what you say and will have their version of it.

5) Adjustment. We need to make changes to our personal and professional lives. Eat healthy. Take care of ourselves. Keep ourselves busy.

6) Learning to be alone. This one is hard. At times it gets lonely, very lonely, learn to deal with it.

2b2ab942cd8dda95fb9bfb43d3fe8bec7) Self-pity. We need to stop the pity party. If we do not stay strong, we will be squashed. We are all we have!

8) Faith. Just because we went through tough times does not mean we lose faith in ourselves or in the almighty.

9) Family. This is the time we need to be there for each other. But, do not hold your breath on it.

10) Friends. You get to know who your real friends are. DO not get in touch with wrong ones. Limit relations as men may try to use your situations. Respect and love the people who are truly with you.

11) Dating, Marriage. Date only if you want to. Not because you have to or you should or you feel lonely. Do not get carried away by fake words of men who want you.

12) Be Careful with your wishes. It is time where you have to very careful. Even a bit of support or care given by a person, you will start falling for them. No one comes close without a reason, so be wise in dealing and judging people around. do not take chance again without proper understandings

13) Become Financially Strong. Try to become financially strong to take care of you and Kid(s) id you have. Its the first thing that makes you believe you are no way lost anything in life. Get a suitable job or move to a suitable job profile

14) Keep check on your health. To do anything in life remember you have to be health, so take good care your health. Take proper diet, have good sleep.

Divorce is Not Shameful and it is Not the End… Divorce is a choice and I chose to leave. For me, divorce affirmed that an unhappy marriage is no place to raise a child. It didn’t matter if the unhappiness was one or two sided. What mattered to me most was what my son would bear witness to. I realized that there is no dishonor in my decision, so long as we remain a family. And we have. My son knows that he is loved and he sees a fabulous friendship and co-parenting relationship.

 

For those of you who are divorcing or trying to come to terms with it after the fact, know this: You are not a failure, a jerk, a bad person; some relationships are just not meant to last. Love is not enough, and it does not conquer all, despite what we are spoon fed. The best and truest love we can ever experience is the love we have for ourselves. If you set that relationship aside for the sake of “saving a marriage”, you have failed your one true love.

 

I also realized that I will love again.I will love and be loved by someone in a breathtaking way. And I will be ready for it because I fell in love with me first.

Once the fog from our bad times clear up, We see who we are! What we are capable of. It is a chance to start a fresh and discover yourself!
“Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!”
Words by Shipra Jain…..

 

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Unspoken truth hidden behind my Heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In Life we meet many people who leave their own impressions and memories. Every person have their own importance and everyone holds a piece of our lives puzzle. Even if a person leaves us, we can never be full. When you experience loss, people say you’ll move through the 5 stages of grief….Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. ….. Unfortunately I cycle through all of them all every day.

My Love, Though my words will never find you, I hope that you knew I was thinking of you yesterday, today, tomorrow and everyday to come….. and that I was wishing you every happiness. Love you Always, The girl who loved me and walked with me.

My Heart never knows loneliness until you left me. World never knows that i still wake up thinking of you  each-day .
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I miss your company,
I miss your smile,
I miss walking with you in rain,
I miss your love, care, concern,
I miss the sensation of your touch.
I miss you, pampering me like kid,
I miss visiting temples with you,
I miss the arms that protected me,
I miss the shoulder that takes me to sleep,
I miss the fingers, that wipes out my tears,
I miss the hand that holds me when I am down,
I miss holding you at night,
I miss support of your shoulders when I am tired.
I miss feeling like you want me.
I miss early morning walks in the park by holding your hand,
I miss the kiss which you used to give on my forehead daily,
I miss imagining us a year from now,and how happy we should be.
I miss planning our vacations,
I miss phone calls, text messages,
I miss sweet fights  and arguments with you,
I miss daydreaming of how nice it will all be.
I miss the idea of you missing me!!!
I miss everything we used to be!
Finally I miss, my Life’s journey with you,
Nobody Understands how much I miss you,

I Miss You

You are defined as my unspoken truth hidden behind my heart…

The sad part is, that I will probably end up loving you without you for much longer than I loved you when I knew you. Some people might find that strange.
But the truth of it is that the amount of love you feel for someone and the impact they have on you as a person, is in no way relative to the amount of time you have known them.

I will always hold a candle for you – even until it burns my fingers, hand.
And when the light has long since gone …. I will be there in the darkness holding what remains, quite simply because I cannot let go what i experienced and what memories you left with me.

Please feel free to share your lessons you learned, you experienced , you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Ignoring is Killing a Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.
 

Dont take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but never know when the last chance may be. I honestly think one of the biggest mistakes people make is to take people for granted in their LIFE. Parents not always going to be around to help you understand things you can’t understand yourself and they are not going to be around you to constantly correcting your mistakes, protecting you and to guide you. Remember that people who love you unconditionally are so precious! Never miss such persons in life. Many of us take people for granted, like it’s just a given for them to always be there with us. People constantly say that we need to treat life for what it is , precious, because we don’t know when it’s going to end… but same goes with PEOPLE who love and live for us.WhatsApp Image 2019-08-26 at 9.31.58 PM

People are precious. Without those around us where would we be, the people around us make us. People are precious. Without each other we wouldn’t be anything. We should stop using each other and cheating each other for personal growth and benefits. The only beneficial thing in life is helping each other, taking care of each other, showing each other that together we can truly make a difference. Separate we are ordinary but together we are extraordinary.

Every time you take the person for granted, you are teaching them to live without you and you offering your place to others in their LIFE.

Don’t ever take anyone for granted because before you know it, you’ll only have so much time left with them. You’ll be hit with the sudden realization that everything about them that you’ve been taking for granted for as long as you remember will not be there anymore, nor will that person either. Your relationship with this person will slip away from you faster than you know it and you’ll regret every last thing you didn’t do, and every little thing you did do to them.

When a person give, it does not come with strings. They does not keep track of what you owe them. When they give, they choose to do so without ulterior motives. They give because their love and care is genuine. They give because they know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When they give it’s because they get it. It’s because they know the value in what they have in their heart and they refuse to let the world stop them from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate their sincerity. They won’t switch, they won’t get angry, and they won’t be spiteful. They’ll just get smart and they’ll change your role in my life. Because when they give, they give portion of their life to you. But when they are done, there’s no looking back.

Even the strongest feelings expire when ignored and taken for granted

 In your LIFE if you have someone who ultimately loves and cares about you, PLEASE do not take that person for granted. It’s very hard to get people who really love us without any expectations. It doesn’t matter what your relation with that person is and also it doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with that person or not. Right now, we are living in a world where it’s hard to find someone who will be love you, Live for you, hold your in tough situations and who is ready to give himself for you. So to have someone who will love and support you no matter what is a blessing.  Because no matter how strong we say we are, we still need someone to stick by our side. So please, just don’t ever take anyone for granted, and just appreciate and be grateful for every single breathing soul you have in your life.

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Do we Really have Freedom in India?


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Bleeding Indian….

India celebrates its 73rd year of Independence from the British Rule today, and the entire nation is basking in a patriotic glory. It’s a day to cherish, celebrate and remember the great sacrifices made by the freedom fighters to give us a free country.

Are we really free and independent? Every day, we hear about pronounced issues in our system and society such as poverty, unemployment, terrorism, the crime against women, corruption – which are not exclusive to our country. The whole world is suffering from these at different levels. My mind hovers around other subtle yet critical issues that our society is suffering from and in a way society itself is responsible for this situation. We call ourselves a free nation, but do not have the freedom to choose what we eat, what we wear or even whom we love. 15 August Independence day of India_14214

Independence Day doesn’t mean one day of nationalist pride, it means a commitment to serve the nation in a truly inclusive way. We salute the brave hearts and heroes who fought in the freedom struggle but they dreamt of a nation of peace and harmony where people prospered. Until unless we eradicate these social evils, intolerance and learn to accept differences and celebrate them, the people in the country can’t prosper.

India is the largest democracy in the world. The Constitution of India gives its citizens six rights known as the Fundamental Rights. We have the:

– RIGHT TO FREEDOM
– RIGHT TO EDUCATION AND CULTURE
– RIGHT AGAINST EXPLOITATION
– RIGHT TO EQUALITY
– RIGHT TO FREEDOM OF RELIGION
– RIGHT TO CONSTITUTIONAL REMEDIES.

The above rights are in our Constitution but not in reality. Even after 73 years of Independence, if we look at life of a common man in INDIA, he is leading a painful poisoned life .Most people in India are simultaneously prisoners and prison guards in the cages within cages of family, job and society. They spend their entire lives in these cages doing exactly what they are told to do. From birth to death their lives are regulated and decided for them by others. They usually cannot take even one day off in a year to do only what they please. They are conditioned to eat, drink, dress and behaquotescover-JPG-321ve in prescribed ways. Conformity in everything is the sum and substance of their identities. Their freedom is the freedom of the reflex action; it is the freedom of the knee to jerk. This is not freedom.

I hope that someday, I will see those kids in schools unfurling the National Flag in their schools and not selling them on traffic signals which would be trampled upon by cars the next day. It is our duty to make the dream of a progressive nation with all citizens having equal rights to live with dignity come true.

Having said all that, we still have a reason to celebrate today. Let’s enjoy our freedom, for whatever it means to the people today!

I wish that this year, we as Indians get real Independence from all the evil forces and practices that are present in Indian society.

 

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Failure is Proof that You haven’t Finished YET


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by…. Prawin

No KING ruled a Kingdom forever and no Mountaineer who reached the peak of MOUNT EVEREST Stayed there forever. Even our History proves that, the people who reach  unscaled heights are bound to get low in their personal as well as professional lives. Success is not property of anyone or its is not for only few people in world. Success is never permanent, and failure is never final. People may fail in academics, love, profession, relationships, fulfilling their dreams. At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren’t where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

World evaluate people by what they finish, not by what they. The reason most people do not go far in life is they procrastinate procrastination is the grave in which opportunity is buried. Do not sit back and take what comes, go after what you want. The door of opportunity will not open unless you push. The choice of given up or going on is a defining moment in your life. Nobody and nothing can keep you down unless you decide not to rise again. The world will always give you the opportunity to quit, but only the world would call quitting an opportunity. One of the most powerful success principles ever preached is Never, Never, Never give up.. IMG_20190817_221529.jpg

At very early age of my life, I realized that every single person have battles in their life. No matter what that is and how big or small it is. At the end of the day, you’re your own hero. When you’re feeling low, don’t look for somebody’s hands, lift yourself up and be your inspiration, guide, motivator and number one supporter. Every day we need to give ourselves a pat on the back. Not for achieving something or when something goes well. But we need it when no one is there but only you. Remember, life is not puppy dogs and rainbows. It gets stormy and dark sometimes. And it’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to feel everything at the same time. It’s okay to commit mistakes and mess up on something. Remember, you will always have another chance to make things right.

My greatest glory wasn’t that I never failed. It was that I rose every time I did fall. That’s why this quote means so much to me. If I turn back and see my life, I still can see images of kid from a village going to every house to sell MILK (which is our family’s source of income) as milk vendor. From that stage, I fought every battle that my life put before me. I failed many times in my life’s journey, i did many mistakes, i was insulted by people around and each time I failed, I learnt a lesson. I never gave up and made use of every opportunity and grabbed each of them. After such a struggle, I came to a stage where I am today (The head of Quality Assurance wing for a Software Firm In London, UK. ). Only God and Myself know how many times I fell down and rose every time I fell . I never realized the validity of failure until I realized they had guided me to where I am today. If it wasn’t for that pain, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I wouldn’t be sharing all of this with you.

Today we face so many threats from the world we live in. But the biggest fear comes from within… the fear to fall. Even the most non-technical analysis tells us that the main reason behind this fear is not the fall itself but being witnessed by the whole world while we fall. Many of us work day in  and day out out to top the list of the performers in our chosen fields, and try to make ourselves conform up to the standards the world expects from us.  There are many others who do not care about the world though, but are still working relentlessly to achieve their set goals. The thought of any fall in the way to success for both gives them jitters since it seems to have a potential of eventually culminating in a failure.

I well know, it is never easy to wake up and face the same demons that you left the night before. But is it not the end of the world. You must keep going and push forward. The success awaits those who believe that SUCCESS IS NOT PERMANENT, THE SAME WAY AS FAILURE IS NOT  FINAL. So every time we fall, instead of brooding  over the fall and wasting our precious time, we should rather get up and get moving as soon as possible with full faith in our capabilities and full hope for our success at last.

IMG_20190817_194631.jpgThe fact that you have failed is proof that you are not finished. Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. It is not how far you fall but how high you bounce that makes all the difference. “You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it”.  Your success will be measured by your willingness to keep on trying. Have the courage to rise each time you fall, you can either stand up and be counted or lie down and be counted out. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fall down.

Life is a never ending battle between you and the uncontrollable forces that try to fail you. Life is all about rising up in spite of the ache. It’s about picking yourself after a crashing defeat. No matter what you feel, you have to get up because what remains in your life is still worth fighting for. It is your responsibility not to give up because it is only you who decide for your life. Stay on course. Stay brave and be a warrior. There’s always hope. Again, there’s always hope. When you are persistent, it is proof you have not been defeated, life holds no greater wealth than that of steadfast commitment. It cannot be robbed from you, only you can lose it by your will. People do not fail, they just quit too soon.

So please do yourself a favor, never give up. You fight through the stress. You fight the anxiety. You fight through the pain. You through the insults. You fight all the negative circumstances in your life. You fight through the demons that are beating you down to your knees. Life is full of golden opportunities, every person has a lot that they can do, so start with what you can do; do not stop because of what you cannot do. Great opportunities will come as you make the most of small ones.

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Dads aren’t moms, it’s exactly why daughters need them


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Father, none of us can assume life without this role. It’s truly disappointing whenever some says or sees fathers as just money earning machine or a person who is there in family to control or regulate kids . Till last decade World considered fathers were often those who were left in charge of providing the family, while mothers were considered the primary and only caretakers…However, it is good to know that nowadays, fatherhood has a completely different meaning. Because parenting is not only a mother’s responsibility. Good parenting means having equal roles and responsibilities when it comes to raising your children.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM (1)A lot has changed for fathers over the past few generations. In today’s world Fathers  are much more informed and involved with their children, taking an active part in the nurturing of their children, from feeding — whether expressed breast milk or formula — to changing diapers, soothing, clothing, bathing, reading to, and helping their baby go to sleep.

Parents are the most important people in a child’s life. They create us, introduce us to this world and everything in it, raise us, help us overcome our fears, have an active role in shaping our personality and creating our own world from scratch. However, regardless of the fact that both mom and dad are an essential part of a child’s development, there is one special bond I think you’ll all agree that plays a big role in a kid’s life. From the moment little girls are born, fathers play a key role in the psychological development of their daughters. In fact, when fathers are present in their daughters’ lives, girls grow up with a healthy sense of who they are.

That’s the indestructible, everlasting, powerful bond between fathers and daughters. A father serves as the guide for a little girl to blossom into a strong and courageous young woman

When it comes to raising girls, moms often get most of the pressure and the credit. Whether regarding menstrual issues, boy problems, or makeup tips, mom is usually the first person girls turn to. I see too many men buy into the idea of ‘that’s a girl’s issue’ or ‘only a woman can understand another woman’ and avoid talking to their daughters about sex, dating, or other ‘girly’ topics.

I think it would be hard to overstate the value of the father-daughter relationship. Young women who have a positive relationship with their fathers achieve more academically. They make better relationship choices. They have more confidence, high self-esteem, and believe they can achieve their goals.⠀

Mothers, don’t me wrong. You undoubtedly have the strongest and most unique connection with your children. But there is something special about the daughter-father bond that affects the lives of their daughters in a truly intriguing and life-changing way.

A father is the first male figure in a girl’s life.

He is the true source of her values & morals.

He is the safe shelter that she goes to.

He is the pillar of her strength.

Her first love.

While moms cuddle us and teach us to be gentler, fathers encourage us to be strong. To never stop being curious, even though we make mistakes. To never give up no matter how afraid we are. To always push our limits. The mother is the one who avoids risks, and the father is the one who encourages us to always try and learn from our mistakes.

It’s no doubt. The family plays a big role in preparing us for all future relationships.  Daughters get to know how to get along with their husbands, friends, boyfriends and other people in their life after getting along with father and brother.WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.04.31 PM

So, naturally, problematic relationships with men, depressive symptoms or low levels of self-esteem are often the residue of a father’s desertion.  When children grow up with a feeling of closeness with their fathers in the period of adolescence, they are more likely to develop a healthy and satisfying adult marital relationship.

A healthy relationship with the father prevents a daughter from being afraid of establishing an intimate relationship in her future life. For any girl, love with her father is always the first experience of love and introduces her to what male love is all about. If there is a positive love experience with her father in her early years, she is going to do much better and vice versa.  As compared to mothers,  fathers generally have more impact on how daughters relate to men. That is exactly why a positive father-daughter relationship has a big impact on a daughter’s interpersonal problems and interactions.

Here are some ideas for creating a loving and secure relationship with your daughter.

Begin the Day She Is Born: To create a positive relationship with your daughter, start on the day she is born. Get involved in her life from the very beginning by taking an active role in caring for your baby girl. The more time you spend with her early on, the easier it will be to continue building the relationship later.

Be Involved: The hallmark of every great father-daughter relationship is a father who is actively interested and involved in his daughter’s life. Being involved is about more than asking about her day. Instead, it means finding out what she is interested in or excited about and sharing in it with her.

Teach Her New Things: It is wonderful when you teach your daughter to ride a bike, throw a softball, to read, or even to do chores. But often the best things you can teach her are the things society might consider “guy things.” Skills like checking the oil in a car, putting bait on a fishing hook, building a computer program, using a hammer and nails, or even hitting a cricket ball will serve your daughter well.

Love Her Unconditionally: Every young girl needs to know that she is loved even when she messes up. When she makes poor choices be careful not to ridicule, shame, or demean her. Instead, help her learn and grow. Use these situations as opportunities to teach her something. Just be calm, patient, and loving in the process.

Plan Fun Time: Every father-daughter relationship should include daddy-daughter dates. These moments together don’t have to be anything elaborate. Simply checking out the latest toys at the toy store, going out for ice cream, or attending the library’s storytime are great options for daddy-daughter dates.

WhatsApp Image 2020-02-20 at 12.57.55 PMBe Her Confidant: Many girls love to talk. They also tend to be more vocal than boys growing up. You can build your relationship with your daughter by listening more and allowing her to confide in you. Pay attention to what she says when you are together. Listen to what she is thinking about, dreaming of, and wishing for in her life.

Validate Her Often: Modern culture and the media often give young girls the wrong messages. For instance, it is common for girls to believe that they need to be a certain weight, wear the right makeup, and dress a certain way to be beautiful. But, you can diminish those messages by validating the way your daughter looks. When you tell her she is beautiful, you are emphasizing that she is perfect just the way she is. You also can emphasize the importance of being beautiful inside too.

Write Notes and Letters: Just about every little girl loves cards, notes, and letters. Take the time to write your daughter regular notes and letters expressing your feelings. Let her know how you feel about her, and tell her how proud you are of her.

Be a Great Example of Manhood: The way you treat other women makes a big difference in how your daughter will see men later in her life. Be respectful, kind, generous, and loving toward her and her mother, as well as the other female friends and relatives in your lives. Simple courtesy and kindness will go a long way in helping her know what to expect of the men in her life.

A father should create a safe and protective environment for his daughter not only physically but also emotionally.  A father’s behavior should encourage his daughters to never feel afraid to share their feelings.

The understanding between a father and his daughter is unbeatable. They are inseparable and feel quite restless when they aren’t around each other. A daughter brings out the best father in a man while that best father is busy raising a wonderful girl. Cheers to all the father-daughter duos. 🙂

In the end, it is no doubt that we are the product of those who raise us.

Daughter May Outgrow your lap but not HEART of a Father.

 

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SEX vs MAKING LOVE


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

 When researching this topic I came across many opinions on the Internet. The explanations ranged from the obscene to the very simple. Some common themes that kept coming up were:

  1. F||King is hard, hot and nasty and always objectifying. whats-the-difference-between-making-love-and-having-sex
  2. Sex is well – sexy, and can be fast, hard … but also slower, and is often objectifying.
  3. Making-love is slower and gentle, only happens between two people that are in love, have mutual respect, and consider the feelings and pleasure of the sexual partner.

Every woman expects to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in every day life. This is not just a legend used by women to manipulate men. Woman expect her partner to love and care her, but not to see her as a sex toy. It became a job for woman to satisfy her partners sexual needs whether she is ready or not.

Sex is just Physical act. Many term Sex  as “Fucking” which is more about the man and his orgasm (&needs) In General Sex is having physical intercourse between a couple. This is irrespective of the fact that they share love or any bond between them. Sex is all about a sexual intercourse between two people who only share their bodies. Most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just two reasons pleading in favor of having sex.

It became very common that Men/Woman are having sex with more than one person in life. Earlier it is limited to Men. But now, along with men, many woman sharing their bed with multiple people for several reasons. One may have sex with any person(spouse, friend, beloved, colleague, stranger) needn’t be their partner, spouse, beloved etc. It can also mean casual sex with anyone. Having sex doesn’t extend beyond sexual intercourse and more often than not, there isn’t any emotion between the couple.  In Sex Emotions not necessarily involved if you are in an uncommitted relationship.

If you’re f*cking, it doesn’t have to be super-sweet and nice. You can even be mean to each other. You can be raunchy and dirty. The filthiest part of you that you want no one to see, except for the person you’re f*cking. Sex is all about a sexual intercourse between two people who only share their bodies. In present world most men/woman are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just two reasons pleading in favor of having sex. F*cking is a space in which partners show different sides of themselves that they may never show in public. This is where sexual taste brings out hidden personality aspects

On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a woman making love. There are feelings and emotions, leading to a totally different connection between the two of them. More than that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is the environment. Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay attention to the unspoken signs every woman gives them. Ignoring these signs will make women feel used. The old legend that says that when a woman says “no” she actually means “yes” is nothing more than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.

Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with your fingers and tongue, kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs, all in a specific order surrounding the most important area and closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension and when that moment comes both you and her will feel the difference.If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command and that’s “don’t stop!” When you hear that, whatever you do, DON’T STOP!

Making Love is connecting of two people’s souls through two people’s bodies, as one. When there is no stronger way to express your love than sexual Intimacy. Wanting to please each other, make the other happy, share everything, be as close as humanly possible. Making Love is a Sexual and Emotional act. While making love reflects a feeling of affection associated with sexual intercourse. Making love also implies being intimate with your partner, not only physically but also mentally while having sex is just an urge for intercourse. In Making Love Emotions involved, often more pleasurable due to the fact that you are pleasing the person that you love.

While making love is generally referred to intercourse with a partner, spouse or beloved. In simple words, with one you care for or are emotionally attached to. It is an emotional attachment, including infatuation in the beginning of a relationship, is there when making love. It is sharing over all intimacy. Some people also suggest that making love is an expression of love though having sex isn’t because love might not be involved.

One of the most amazing things about being in a seriously loving and committed relationship is the actual art of making love to your partner. It’s going to feel so immensely great that you will want to do it as much and as often as possible. Yes, it’s still a lot of fun to just get physical with someone in the confines of a bedroom. But there’s just a whole new level of enjoyment and pleasure that comes with actually making love to someone. The emotional connection and romance just take it to greater heights.

Making love just really happens to be one of the best feelings in the world. It will enable you to feel more and more connected to the partner you are already so in love with. There really is nothing else in the world quite like it. Having sex may just satisfy one’s sexual urge while making love may please a person’s physical, emotional, sexual and mental urges. It can be said that having sex is merely restricted to a physical act while making love goes to include other urges also.

Sex can be a physical thrill for a night or a few encounters, but lovemaking can be an ecstatic adventure of a lifetime and most women can feel the difference. Sex is a simple physical act, so simple that even animals do it. But lovemaking is a complex expression of LOVE. It’s a desire to communicate the love you have for the other person non-verbally. It gives you a chance to express all the good feelings and thoughts you have about your lover.

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Guide to make Sex Life Beautiful


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

When it comes to sex, you might be wondering if there are tips and tricks guys want to share, but don’t. Frankly, there is no is no standard such list of tips. Everyone is different, and what works for one guy might not work for another. Married couples who have sex regularly live longer, have better heart health, enjoy a deeper connection, and can let go of annoyances easier.

There’s a common belief that most Men want to have more sex, but is this really the case? Does only Men want Sex. ? Its not true. Its not limited to Gender. Even Woman look  for good Sex. Many women find sex to be the deepest form of love and connection, and many women are very sexually oriented. But the ways that women experience and express their sexuality are often very different from their male partners.

Most men’s minds tend readily to say “yes” to sex. Whereas most women’s minds tend to say “maybe,” or “that depends.” For Men it’s an instant Maggie noodle, whereas for woman lot of things come into play.

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“Women need a reason to have sex. Men need a reason to have sex, too.  But for most men, the reason can be as simple as your partner taking off their shirt, coming out from shower etc. In Simple terms,Men just need a place to have Sex.

It reminds me of one of my friend who said: “It’s not fair, my husband is always up for it, he gets aroused, gets an erection and he is ready go. It never was a problem for me in our first years together but now with our busy lives and two young children I don’t look forward to it any more. I really love him but we keep arguing about it all the time, which really puts me off sex. Can you please suggest me what to do?”

It’s important for couples not to blame each other for different levels of sexual interest. This desire discrepancy, as it is often called, does not generally reflect a lack of love but can lead to questioning sexual compatibility as a couple. The main problem is that the person who wants sex more almost always feels rejected by their partner. They may take it personally and begin to wonder if they are still attractive, not desired any more, or maybe their partner has a lover.

Most couples argue about the frequency of sex; one person wants sex three times a week and the partner is content with once a week or fortnight. However, the partner with the lower sex drive controls the frequency of sex — if she or he doesn’t want it, it generally doesn’t happen. This is usually not due to being vindictive or needing power and control, it’s just that why would anyone want to have sex when they are not in the mood?

Here are some tips for Men and Women who wanna have health Sexual bond.

What do woman and men crave in bed, but are too shy to ask? Here are some ideas of what women, man want during sex. Its like a detailed Step-by-step guide to make your nights memorable with your partner. Make some of these ideas your own—then forward to the guys in your circle.

Find out if the person wants to have sex: This is the most important part about a good sexual experience. If one of the partners is not ‘in the mood’ or does not want to have sex it can lead to the entire process turning sour. Not to mention the fact that it can leave you or your partner with a sense of being violated or used. So, find out if he/she wants to have sex. Some common indicators you should look out for is if the person seems keen on being with you physically, touches you or increases his/her proximity to you.

39159b6b575d2f0e58c92b5bbc85005dGive yourself time. As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing; working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Maintain physical affection. Even if you’re tired, tense, or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and cuddling is essential for maintaining an emotional and physical bond.

Be prepared: Sex is a wonderful thing. It’s pleasurable and makes you feel happy. It also has a number of other health benefits like helping you burn calories and beating depression. It’s no wonder that we are the only species that has sex for pleasure and not solely procreation. But with all that fun come problems like unwanted pregnancies, STDs and emotional setbacks. So being prepared is your best option. If you are planning to have a one-night stand or are taking the first step towards a committed relationship remember that you should have your mind in sync with what your body wants.

Choose the location and set the mood: Sex is an intimate act, at least it should be. So pick a spot where both of you will be uninhibited, especially if it’s your first time. Pick a place that is private and has a comfortable place to have sex in. A good soft bed with mood lighting always helps the cause (unless you plan to tread on an experimental path). So splurge a little bit. Remember pleasure does come at a cost.

Approach the person gently and do not seem too desperate: Coming on too strongly or being pushy about having sex is one of the biggest turn offs. So don’t seem desperate (even if you are dying to be with the person), allow the other person some space to express their feelings as well. You should definitely show that you are interested in getting physically intimate but back off if you feel the other person is not reciprocating. Sex should be a choice so let them choose.

Kiss and caress: The first step towards physical intimacy is kissing. Most women love to kiss and a passionate kiss can definitely put her in the mood for some more. Moreover being close, kissing, touching and caressing your partner helps stimulate their erogenous zones which will lead to more pleasurable sex. It also leads to a stronger sense of closeness and safety – two emotions that help a person perform better in bed.  So touch him/her, kiss and make your partner wanted. This is also another way to help quell the person’s body image issues (if they have any), making them more comfortable in your presence.porls7yry8

Have a lot of foreplay: This is where you can either choose to remove your clothes or have your partner undress you. Another way to go about it is to remove one piece of clothing at a time, making the entire process a mystery. When it comes to foreplay, most people think that sex is only penetrative. But the act does include foreplay. Foreplay, as the name suggests is what you do before you have sex. It includes fondling, kissing, stimulating your partner’s erogenous zones and oral sex as well. Make sure you get enough of this in. It is often the most enjoyable part of the whole sexual experience because the two of you can experiment with a number of methods. Tip for men: Women can orgasm multiple times. So pleasure your woman, she will definitely be in the mood for some more and thank you for it in more ways than one. Tip for women: Most men love to be touched as well, so make him feel good. Touch him, kiss him and feel his entire body. Don’t hold back and don’t be the only one hogging all the pleasure.

Pick the right moment: The right moment to have penetrative sex is usually felt and is often mutual. Pick the moment when your partner really wants to move on to the next step. In some cases asking if the other person is ready or if he/she wants more is a good way to know when it’s time. Once you know that he/she is ready, take it to the next level.

Insertion: This is the most hyped part about sex and is often believed to be the only thing that happens during it. But there’s nothing further from the truth. In this step the penis is inserted into the vagina. Tip for men: The vagina is an elastic organ present just below the woman’s vulva (external lips of her genitals). If you are having protective sex, make sure you wear a condom before you insert your penis into her vagina. A number of men get the position wrong and tend to ‘look around’ with their penis (try to penetrate without knowing where the vagina is) this can be painful for the woman. So a good way to find the vagina without being embarrassed is to ask your partner to help you.

Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help overcome problems. For example, the increased stimulation to the G-spot that occurs when a man enters his partner from behind can help the woman reach orgasm.

Use lubrication. Often, the vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use these freely to avoid painful sex—a problem that can snowball into flagging libido and growing relationship tensions. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.

img_0867Love making: Once the initial penetration is complete, you can choose to have sex however you both are comfortable. Men, make sure you thrust (your penis into her vagina) in rhythmic motions and do it from the hip; this will ensure your woman gets the maximum pleasure. Moving your entire body is counterproductive. Most importantly listen to your partner and your body. Allow yourself to feel pleasure and make sure you take your partner’s pleasure into consideration and make her happy too. Tip for women: Be proactive in bed. Move when your man moves. Thrusting can be pleasurable and even more so when you both are doing it in sync and together. Tell your man what you do and don’t like. Also, make sure you pleasure him as well.

Last few moments: Once you both have climaxed or the sex is about to get over, you both will most probably be in a state of elation. Allow yourselves to be in that state for as long as you need to be. Remember this is the phase where you can choose to hold each other or simply be next to each other. Don’t rush things; let your body come back to its normal state. Rushed sex can be exciting sometimes but if it is done on a regular basis it can leave you feeling a bit incomplete. Tip for men: Most women like to be held or cuddled at this point. Indulge her. After all she has been a partner in your sexual romp. Tip for women: If you liked the experience, tell your partner that. There is nothing like an ego boost after a good time between the sheets.

Winding up: The post coital part can be lovely in some cases and awkward in others. So try to make your partner comfortable. Give him/her a t-shirt to wear, flirt a little and tell him/her how good the experience was. Smile and share a laugh together. This could be the best time to make a good friend or a partner for life. So use the opportunity. After you’ll are done, make sure you’ll wash up. Women, wash your vaginal opening and vulva and men should wash their penis once they remove the condom. Lastly, make sure you dispose of the condom properly. Do not flush it down the toilet. Throw it in a dustbin wrapped in paper or tissue instead.

Don’t give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don’t give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and may be able to identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may be standing in the way of a fulfilling sex life.

But we have to keep in mind that men and women are wired differently. It’s not only about who has the stronger sex drive; men and women just respond differently and at different times. Women base their desire for sex more on connection, intimacy and emotion; they also need more time to physically get ready for sex.

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Scrum Vs Kanban


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by AXA XL Team…

Which framework works best: Kanban or Scrum? If you are on the verge of a brand new project, I bet this question has posed quite the challenge to your mind. Today Kanban and Scrum have grown in popularity and have taken the place of the previously popular waterfall method.

Agile –  Agile software development is based on an incremental, iterative approach. Instead of in-depth planning at the beginning of the project, Agile methodologies are open to changing requirements over time and encourages constant feedback from the end users. Cross-functional teams work on iterations of a product over a period of time, and this work is organized into a backlog that is prioritized based on business or customer value. The goal of each iteration is to produce a working product.

Scrum – The approach followed here is breaking down a complex task into simpler smaller manageable pieces which are easy to collaborate upon by the respective owners of the scrum.

Kanban – It is a Continuous improvement, flexible process. Kanban helps visualize your work, limit work-in-progress(WIP) and quickly move work from “Doing” to “Done.” It is a framework which utilizes visualization technique, limiting the number of tasks to be taken in “Work in Progress” column.

Scrum Vs Kanban

Kanban and Scrum are both iterative Agile development models, the goal is to get the most important tasks fully done (including testing) as soon as possible. The product should be potentially shippable at the end of the iteration. The difference is with Scrum the end is a set date, with Kanban it could be anytime the features that need releasing are done. In Scrum you plan a fixed period of time and with Kanban you plan just in time.

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Roles –

  • Scrum is dependent on the scrum owners and is worked upon by them respectively. Scrum has three clearly defined roles.
    1. The product owner advocates for the customer, manages the product backlog, and helps prioritize the work done by the development team.
    2. The scrum master helps the team stay grounded in the scrum principles.
    3. The scrum team chooses the work to be done, delivers increments, and demonstrates collective accountability
  • Kanban is independent of cross-functional team members and parallel roles. The whole team owns the kanban board. Some teams enlist an agile coach but, unlike scrum, there is no single “kanban master” who keeps everything running smoothly. It’s the collective responsibility of the entire team to collaborate on and deliver the tasks on the board.

Release cycle –

  • Scrum makes use of sprints whose duration varies from one week to two weeks. The user stories are then taken up for development, testing and bug fixes. Nowadays, it’s common to have ad-hoc releases in scrum, but it’s long been a best practice to release at the end of each sprint. Teams set an objective for each sprint, the sprint goal, and either approves it for release in the sprint review meeting, or don’t
  • Kanban does not follow any cycle and the process is continuous in nature. In kanban, updates are released whenever they are ready, without a regular schedule or predetermined due dates. In theory, kanban does not prescribe a fixed time to deliver a task. If the task gets completed earlier (or later), it can be released as needed without having to wait for a release milestone like sprint review.

Tracking parameters –

  • Scrum makes use of velocity in planning upcoming sprints taking into account the complexity and number of user stories completed in the previous sprint.
  • Kanban ensures limiting of user stories in “Work in Progress” column to avoid bottlenecks. It tracks the time taken to finish a task from the starting to the end.

The scope of improvement –

  • Scrum does not encourage changes in ongoing sprints.
  • Kanban is open to any changes before the completion of the project. It is flexible in nature.

Fit factor –

  • Scrum is suitable for projects with clearly defined user stories. Acknowledgement on the same by the client for timely completion of the project makes it a fit.
  • Kanban being flexible in nature allows variations in priorities on the basis of the current scenario.

Pick process –

  • Scrum picks the entire batch of user stories from the product backlog for development.
  • Kanban follows the maximum number of tasks allowed in the columns to maintain the sanity of the framework and to avoid bottlenecks.

Delivery –

  • Scrum follows delivery based on sprint planning and prioritize based on the specifications given by the client.
  • Kanban follows the continuous delivery model based on business needs.

Key metrics

  • Scrum – Velocity i.e. the number of story points completed in a sprint—is the central metric for scrum teams. It guides future sprint commitments, or how much work the scrum team takes on in future sprints. If the team completes an average of 35 story points per sprint (Velocity = 35), it won’t agree to a sprint backlog that contains 45 points.
  • Kanban – Lead time and cycle time are important metrics for kanban teams. The deal with the average amount of time that it takes for a task to move from start to finish. Improving cycle times indicates the success of kanban teams.

The above points are easy to remember if you are able to visualize working on them. Ideally where the scrum follows a rather predefined set of principles. Kanban is backed up by the principle of flexibility. It allows you to track tasks that are of utmost importance for delivery.

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In order to simplify the manufacturing process and increase efficiency, in the 1940s Toyota implemented just-in-time manufacturing—effectively, making only what is needed, only when it is needed, and only in the amount that is needed.

Kanban is great for teams that have lots of incoming requests that vary in priority and size. Whereas scrum processes require high control over what is in scope, kanban let’s you go with the flow. Let’s take a look at the same five considerations to help you decide. What makes Kanban interesting is this aspect of it – that you could be continuously developing, integrating, testing and releasing at a cadence that you feel comfortable with – and so the whole concept of Continuous Delivery becomes much more ‘natural’ with Kanban.

How Does Kanban Work?

The only essential materials for kanban are a marker, sticky notes, and a board. Create “cards” from the sticky notes representing work items that have to go through several phases, from start to finish. Then draw columns on the board for each phase the cards need to go through, with a number at the top of each column that indicates the maximum number of cards (i.e., work in progress) that can be in that phase at a time. This number probably will and should change as your team improves its ability to gauge and reduce bottlenecks. The columns could simply be labeled “to do,” “doing,” “waiting,” and “done,” or they can be more process-specific, such as in the examples below.

Another helpful thing many teams do is dividing the columns in two, with one lane for “doing” and one for “done,” as you can see in the software development kanban example above. This way, it is clear to whoever is in charge of the following column to know when they can pull another card and begin working on it.

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The beauty of this system is that it helps you detect where bottlenecks are. The work-in-progress limit stimulates conversations about process problems. In the examples above, you can see some columns are at capacity and some are not, but none has more cards than prescribed.

 

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Request to Parents & Parents-to-be


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Every Child’s Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul. Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime. The only reason why child abuse is alive today, is because we as adults fail our children when we fail to listen to them. Listen to a child today! Child Abuse Main Image

Any for of Abuse manipulates and twists a child’s natural sense of trust and love. Her innocent feelings are belittled or mocked and she learns to ignore her feelings. She can’t afford to feel the full range of feelings in her body while she’s being abused—pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, arousal. So she short-circuits them and goes numb. For many children, any expression of feelings, even a single tear, is cause for more severe abuse. Again, the only recourse is to shut down. Feelings go underground.

As parents you would always want your kids to grow up as loving, kind, happy and successful individuals. You want them to love and to be loved by all. In the process you teach them many things which are good for their life and future.

In the similar way, make sure to consider below points and teach you Children at early age. You must remind your kids from time and again that you would always be by their side when required and help them when required. Ask your kid to maintain a positive frame of mind, so that she can easily overcome hurdles that she comes across in her life.

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

child-abuse-750x5385. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child..

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don’t, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.

10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).

12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them.

Child(ren) abuse changes your life…Fight Back and change the life of your abusers by Breaking Your Silence on Abuse!

These are just few, but important life lessons that you should teach your kid. You have some more to add on this? Share with us if u have some more life lessons to teach kids by mentioning them in the comment section below.

Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be. and remember “THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME”. And if possible forward to all friends who have children’s

 

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A daughter may outgrow your lap, but not your heart


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I am a KING, not because i have a kingdom, but as I have a Daughter who is PRINCESS of my World. Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.

From my childhood I spent most of my life in the arms of many wonderful women, but for first time, I hold a little angel (ShanvikaPr@win) close to my HEART and she proudly calls me Prawin. When she says ‘Daddy I need you!’ I wonder if she has any idea that I need her billion times more. Having a daughter makes me see things in a different way. This is my only girl. So I don’t care what it takes to protect her. You can call it what you want to call it. As long as you treat her the same way I treat her, like my princess, I don’t mind.

Shanvika, hours I spend with you in a day may be limited, but my thoughts for PicsArt_08-18-05.35.48you are  unlimited and my love is unconditional. You make me very proud to be your Father. I know that our relationship is not completely perfect, but I love that it’s strong and real. I love you, sweetheart. With every day that passes, you only grow more beautiful in my eyes. I admire your heart of gold. I love you very much! I Adore your Smile, I Cherish your Hugs, I Admire your Heart, But Most of All I Love that you are My Daughter. Never forget that I Love you till my last breath. Life is filled with hard times and good times. Learn from everything you can. Be the woman I know you can be.

The bond a father and daughter share is special and irreplaceable. To every father, his Daughter is a gift from heaven who is like sunshine to a day. She fills fathers heart with pleasure, a joy to always treasure! Not only does a girl’s relationship with her father shape her childhood experience, but it will also influence how she interacts with men in her adult years. If a father is absent or erratic in his behavior, this sets his daughter up for feelings of low self-esteem and trouble with trusting men in general. All parents should appreciate the importance of understanding the father’s role in his daughter’s life, as his presence (or absence) will play a role in her self-image and well-being for decades to come. Daughters can bring so much meaning to your life and make you the happiest you have ever been. Below are some of the traits every father should possess.

Teach your Daughter That She Is Worthy of a Respectful Partner: A father who treats his daughter – and his daughter’s mother – with respect is sending a clear message that women deserve good treatment from the men in their lives. This can make all the difference when his daughter begins dating. If she is used to positive support and kind behavior, she is less likely to tolerate it from abusive dates and partners.

IMG_20190818_182623Make Time for your Daughter, No Matter How Busy you are: One of the most important things a father can do is simply show that he is willing to be around. He should make the effort to attend special events at his daughter’s school, engage her in conversation, and take an interest in all areas of her life. This will build her self-esteem and let her know that she is a worthwhile individual.

Remind Your Daughter That She Is Beautiful Inside and Out: There is nothing wrong with telling your daughter that she is pretty, but remember to tell her how much you value her intellectual abilities and character. This will prevent her from relying on her looks to carry her through life and from placing too much value on what others think of her face and body.

Inspire your Daughter to Reach Her Goals: A father should encourage his daughter to follow her dreams and show her that he believes she has what it takes to succeed. Girls habitually look to both parents for guidance and support, so fathers must make the effort to inspire their daughters whenever possible

Enjoy Activities Together: Healthy activities such as walking, biking and swimming are a great way of building memories and teaching your daughter that exercise is an important habit. Keeping fit will help her maintain a good body image, which will be a real asset as she develops into a teenager.

Be Consistently Loving but Firm : Daughters who do not receive affection and approval from their fathers are likely to seek it elsewhere as teenagers and adults, and this may lead to an unhealthy dependency on men. Fathers can prevent this happening by telling their daughters how special and loved they are, whilst maintaining appropriate levels of discipline and upholding firm boundaries.

Always Treat your wife Well, Even If you Are Not Together: If a daughter witnesses her father treating her mother poorly, she will receive negative or mixed messages about how men and women relate to one another. Even if you are not with her mother, always take the high road and act in a civil manner.

Take your daughter on Special Trips and Outings: Let your daughter feel special by  IMG_20190818_182553making the time to take her out on a regular basis. A simple trip to the park with a picnic is enough to show her that you care enough to make her a priority. Take the opportunity to show her how men should treat women – with respect and dignity. Engage her in conversation and talk to her as an equal.

Model a Respectful Attitude Towards Women : A good father does not make sexist jokes or speak disrespectfully about women. He has the intelligence to realize that his daughter’s self-image will suffer if he does so, and knows that it is important to uphold the idea that women are of equal value to men

Know When to Ask for Forgiveness: No father can be perfect all the time. When you mess up, explain how you plan to do better next time and tell her that you are sorry. For example, if you accidentally miss her piano recital, plan an outing to make it up to her. Ask for her forgiveness and learn from your mistakes.

I request every father, kindly treat you Daughter the way you want her future partner to treat her. The way you interact with your daughter is what she becomes used to when relating to a man. Treat her with respect, dignity, caring, and affection and she will expect to be treated that way by a mate.

Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person. In my career, there’s many things I’ve won and many things I’ve achieved, but for me, my greatest achievement is my children and my family. It’s about being a good father, good Son, a good grandson, a good husband, a good brother, good friend, a good colleague and a good fellow human just being connected to every of my well-wishers  as much as possible.

Today is my little angel ShanvikaPr@win birthday. Kindly bless her and wish her to have a wonderful life. 

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Potluck Lunch helps in Team Building


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

In any organisation, team work can make all the difference between success and failure. That’s because collaborative teams excel at dividing responsibilities and working towards the same goal. Realising this, most teams are focusing on team building exercises that can bring teams closer.

Maintaining a healthy work culture, one that keeps the entire team motivated and enthused, can be a tough task. You see your employees going through their everyday tasks in a routine, and on the surface, everything might look happy and gay, but you never know when monotony can kick in and leave the entire system uninspired.

Just a small activity is enough to see the change in the overall enthusiasm and energy of the office. It can also be a great way for newbies to feel comfortable and at ease with the rest of the team.

Recently we had a team Potluck lunch organised by my lovely team ladies. Special thanks to my loving Vijaya Ragi & Team for handling everything in a smooth way. It is well planned and organised.

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If you want your team to feel energised at all times, to enjoy what they’re doing and love working for you – and for this, you cannot lay enough emphasis on the need for recreational activities. While some offices go for activity outings, we actually have a simpler and cheaper alternative that can be just as rewarding. The other simple yet effective team building activity is a potluck. It can be organised  by anyone without costing a penny to the company.

But what exactly is it and how does it help in building teams?

What Is an Office Potluck?

In simple terms, a potluck is an occasion when attendees bring food to be shared with everyone. Whether it has a theme or not, is completely up to the team members.

The main idea is to add some fun to the workplace and encourage employees to connect with one another over food.

How to Organise  an Office Potluck

The best thing about a potluck is that you don’t need a big reason to organise  it. It could be an occasion to celebrate a holiday or just the first day at work after a long holiday.

You simply need an organiser  to send out the emails and coordinate with everyone involved.

Sometimes the organiser  may allocate responsibilities to the team members. For example, you may ask two employees to take care of the dessert and two others to bring some appetisers . Or you may choose to let the employees decide among themselves.

Office Potluck for Team Building

Do you sense a growing lack of communication between two team members? A potluck lunch can be of great help.

Get those two employees to plan the potluck. Ask them to coordinate the menu and come up with two dishes that everyone can enjoy.

The objective here is to get them to communicate with each other and find a simple solution. You may or may not oversee how they do this, but the end result can help them connect with each other.

At a later point, you may even speak to the two employees separately to get an idea how they felt about the whole exercise.

A potluck is also a great occasion to bring a close-knit team closer. As many small businesses have fewer employees working for them, a potluck lunch can give them a reason to discuss things beyond work. Often such discussions may reveal hidden talents and opportunities for business growth.

Whatever you do, remember to have fun and enjoy some good food.

Below are some glimpses of my teams Potluck events.

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In conclusion, I would like to point out one very important fact. This is the deciding force. More convincing than any research paper or analysis. This is the real, ultimate deal-breaker: Your office is going to be flooded with yummy home-made FOOD for one whole day! Do you still need another reason?

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Steps to Introduce Test Automation


Today, software testing is an integral part of the development process. To reduce the time spent on testing, many companies opt for test automation. However, automation capabilities move beyond speed increase and include test coverage enhancement and overall QA costs optimization in the long run.

Assume, You’ve just started a brand new role at a company and the very first task you’ve got in front of you, is to implement test automation.

Now, this company has never done any kind of test automation and right now is relying on a hodgepodge of methods to test and measure quality.

Where do you start and how do you begin such a momentous task? I’m glad you asked.

We’re going to be talking about the general, fundamental concepts surrounding test automation – not specific tools or frameworks you need to use because those will vary based on what your organizations unique needs.

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Analyzing applications to determine which can be automated

If your organization is working on 3 applications, it is not necessary that each should be automated. We have to see the various factors while selecting any application to automate.

The application which should be automated must have these factors:

  1. The application should not be in the early stages of its development. (The application should have all or some modules which are stable and tested by manual testers)
  2. The UI of the application must be stable. (The UI must not change frequently)
  3. The manual test cases of this application should be in written form.
  4. Basic application flow should have been already tested and working

The main goal of automation is to make sure that if the application is bug-free in one build, it should remain bug-free in the next build. The manual tester should not waste their time in finding regression issues, these issues should be identified in automation.

Educate on myths & misconceptions

Educating management, and other groups, about these particular myths and misconceptions surrounding test automation, gives you a shot at success. It provides the understanding and opens lines of communication that will benefit you and your work.

The myths & misconceptions include things such as:

  • You can automate 100% of your tests.
  • Automation allows Management to reduce test staff.
  • One tool is all you need.
  • Automation will speed up the testing process.
  • Anyone (untrained/unskilled) can do automation.
  • Open-source tools are “free.”
  • “Codeless” and “Scriptless” tools can do all the work.
  • Automation can be created quickly.
  • Only hire a Software Design/Development Engineer in Test (SDET).
  • Automation provides an immediate return on investment (ROI).

Determine the scope

Any process starts with the definition. Therefore, before implementing test automation, you should determine the automation scope. When starting tests development, a QA engineer should first define the order according to the tests’ priority rate.

Prepare to automate

Having quite profound experience in test automation, I can say the following: automated tests should cover the most stable part of the functionality and the one that is tested for about 3-4 times per week.

As a rule, smoke tests (or other regression tests) are chosen for that very purpose.

Select tools for automation

As soon as the scope is defined, a QA engineer should select test automation tools. The tested interfaces define the package of applied tools. Different types of interfaces presuppose different tools’ range.

There is no any one-size-fits-all solution. The choice of a test automation tool will depend on the technology the software is built on. For example, QTP does not support Informatica. That means the tool cannot be used for the software. We prefer the most reliable and proven solutions: Selenium WebDriver, Coded UI, Ranorex, TestStack.White, Appium, Xamarin, and many more.

Having decided upon the tools, testers get to framework implementation.

Training the Team

After tool selection and resource hiring, the next step is logically the training of the resources. If manual testers are converted into automation engineers, they have to be trained on automation terminologies and concepts. If automation architect is hired from outside, he must get knowledge about the product to test, the manual testing process and what management is expecting.

Give resources some time to try different things until they finally come up with a winning automation strategy. Train them on the tools which organization is already using bug tracking software and requirements management software.

Good training and strong communication between manual testers, developers and automation team is really necessary.

Develop the framework

The framework is the basis for further automated tests’ development. It provides an opportunity to optimize test development efforts by re-using the code. You can utilize any of the ready-to-use frameworks presented on the market, like the Robot framework for Selenium.

The usefulness of frameworks is hard to underestimate. Thanks to frameworks, it’s possible to maintain consistency of testing and improve re-usability. You can also count on minimizing code usage and improving the structure of tests, which is a perfect scenario for long-term projects.

Configure the environment

All the tests run in the environment, which is to be well-configured. Upon this step, you should create and support the environment to successfully run automated tests and store the results.

Test automation will require test data, which means you are to prepare the set of files and test accounts beforehand. Otherwise, you tackle risks that may damage the process and provide you with irrelevant test results.

Test automation process

Developing an Execution Plan

The execution plan includes selecting which environments the scripts will be executed. The environment includes OS, Browser and different hardware configurations.

For example, if the test case demands that it should check the website in 3 browsers, namely, Chrome, Firefox and IE, then the automation team will write the script in such a manner that it will be able to execute in each browser.

Start to automate

Eventually, when all the preliminary preparations are done, testers can get down to automated test development. A regular process of providing new automated tests includes the following points:

  1. Selection of the manual test case according to the stated priorities
  2. Code writing for the automated test
  3. Adding the automated test to the debug test execution
  4. Adding the automated test to the test execution for newly created builds.

Writing Scripts

When the framework is designed, the execution plan is known and resources are trained on the new tool, now it’s the right time to start writing scripts.

Scripts should be written in an organized manner with proper naming convention. The source code should be maintained in a source control to avoid code loss. Version control and history should be maintained. Test automation is just like software development. All best programming practices should be taken care while writing the scripts.

Reporting

The reporting feature is usually provided by the tool. But we can create custom reporting mechanisms like auto-emailing the results to management.

We can create reports at the end of each execution in the form of charts and tables if management needs it. The management should always be informed about the test case coverage, that means which manual test cases are covered in automation and which of them are remaining.

Maintenance of Scripts

If best programming practices are followed and framework is good, then maintenance will not be a problem.

Maintenance usually occurs when there is a change request an application. The scripts should immediately be updated to cope with that change to ensure flawless execution.

Monitoring

When the tests are launched, they should be monitored. You cannot let them go along without tracking the process. While monitoring the automated test, remember to take into consideration the following aspects:

  1. Automated test coverage, cost per test
  2. Useful vs. irrelevant results after test execution
  3. Cost per test
  4. The scope of support in comparison with the number of executed tests
  5. Economic effect (ROI, return on investment).

Tracking the process, keep in mind, that test automation is much more than computers launching test programs. It is also delivering information about quality.

Ultimately, mastering automation can significantly increase your business value. Automation includes many factors that need to be understood and addressed before the start of the process. Follow the main points to avoid the risks and get your benefits.

The Final Word:

Following the steps discussed above will help you in successfully implementing automation testing seamlessly in your organization. Once the process is in place, you need to follow the best practices. Whenever there is a change/update in the application, the scripts should be checked and updated as required. Have you tried introducing automation to your testing process? Share your experience in the comments below.
 
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Posted by on February 21, 2019 in Technical

 

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Journey with my Team


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

I miss my team. I miss the inside jokes, the feelings of communal accomplishment, the team dinners, even the endless drama… I miss it all. I loved complaining about the workouts, the politics, and the bad apples (every team had them). I loved the friendships that were established in the every step of journey..

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I miss confiding in my teammates everything on my mind and heart, and miss them being such a huge part of both.

I cannot imagine achieving new goals without you, lads! You made this company reach new milestones with all your hard work! Big thanks to all of you. Congratulations to you for all the hard works and positive thinking. You took the meaning of teamwork to a whole new level. Appreciate your good work! I don’t think it would have been possible to achieve the goal without each and every one of your efforts! You guys deserve a treat!

I’m lucky to be part of a team who help to make me look good, and they deserve as much of the credit for my success as I do for the hard work we have all put in on the training ground. I am so blessed to have worked with such an amazing team of individuals, who care so much for each individual they come in contact with. Each wonderfully happy moment and every single heartbreaking moment has its place here.

My team saw the best of me. They worked so hard, accomplished big dreams part of me. The leader by actions part of me. The motivated, determined me. The healthy and strong me. They saw the shinny gold me.

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My team celebrated with me. They jumped and danced and squealed because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged, high-fived and scarfed down an extra large victory Blizzard together.

My team commiserated with me. They cried and apologized because of me. Just for me. Alongside me. We hugged. We ugly-cried.

My team saw the worst of me. The couldn’t keep up, failing part of me. The excuse making, finger pointing, complaining part of me. The depressed, discouraged me. The broken and weak me. They saw the darkest shadows of me.

My team saw every part of me. Even the parts very few others have ever seen. My team, my teammates, my people; they never walked away.

My team never gave up on me. They pulled me up. Pushed me forward. Even when I preferred sitting down.

My team let me be courageous. I was free to dream. Free to try. Free to fall and do it all over again.

My team kept me accountable. Kept me humble. Kept me driven to something bigger than myself.

I miss my team.

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For all those years, I did all I could for the betterment of the team. For a united goal. For a prize awarded to “us.” Through it all; the elation and desperation, the fatigue and failure, the praise and adoration, my team was working for me. Helping me. Loving me. Shaping me.

But I am forever thankful they let me be me. Forever thankful they are MY team. Always. Thank you for not only your good work but also for all the support you have given each other throughout the project, that’s what makes the team stronger! Thank you for all your effort!

But from the bottom of my heart I want my guys to know that are wonderful .Love you guys and my prayers are with y’all!! 🐶🐱🐾❤

I miss my team. I miss my teammates. I miss my people. I miss those moments.

Every second, every minute, and every hour spent with my team was the time of my life.

 

 

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Root Cause Analysis


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by Karthik.

Root cause analysis (RCA) is a systematic process for identifying “root causes” of problems or events and an approach for responding to them. RCA is based on the basic idea that effective management requires more than merely “putting out fires” for problems that develop, but finding a way to prevent them. It is a mechanism of analyzing the Incidents/defects, to identify its cause. We brainstorm, read and dig the Incidents/defect to identify whether the defect was due to “testing miss”, “development miss” or was a “requirement or designs miss”.

RCA is simply about determining, very specifically, the when, the where, and the why of a problem at its source, before it can ripple out to affect the end-user of an application or website a second time. Doing the RCA accurately helps to prevent defects in the later releases or phases. If we find, that a defect was due to design miss, we can review the design documents and can take appropriate measures. Similarly, if we find that a defect was due to testing miss, we can review our test cases or metrics, and update it accordingly.

Root Cause Analysis is like a chain of events which go backward, right from the last possible action to the previous and so on, till you reach the start of the problem and the exact point at which it was introduced as a defect. This is called as reverse engineering. There are a few two major questions that we need to ask – WHAT, WHY, WHEN, HOW. With the assistance of these questions, we can dig into each phase of the software life cycle to exactly track the origin of the defect and the point at which it was injected into the system.

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Goals: The primary goal of using RCA is to analyze problems or events to identify:

  • What happened
  • How it happened
  • Why it happened…so that
  • Actions for preventing reoccurrence are developed

Benefits: Implementing RCA will help the agency:

  • Identify barriers and the causes of problems, so that permanent solutions can be found.
  • Develop a logical approach to problem-solving, using data that already exists in the agency.
  • Identify current and future needs for organizational improvement.
  • Establish repeatable, step-by-step processes, in which one process can confirm the results of another.

Principles

  • Focusing on corrective measures of root causes is more effective than simply treating the symptoms of a problem or event.
  • RCA is performed most effectively when accomplished through a systematic process with conclusions backed up by evidence.
  • There is usually more than one root cause for a problem or event.
  • The focus of investigation and analysis through problem identification is WHY the event occurred, and not who made the error.

Roots: Root cause analysis is not a one-size-fits-all methodology. There are many different tools, processes, and philosophies of accomplishing RCA. In fact, it was born out of a need to analyze various enterprise activities such as:

  • Accident analysis and occupational safety and health
  • Quality control
  • Efficient business process
  • Engineering and maintenance failure analysis
  • Various systems-based processes, including change management and risk management

Applying RCA: Examples of events where RCA is used to solve problems and provide preventive actions include:

  • Major accidents
  • Everyday incidents
  • Minor near-misses
  • Human errors
  • Maintenance problems
  • Medical mistakes
  • Productivity issues
  • Manufacturing mistakes
  • Environmental releases
  • Risk analysis, risk mapping

Root-Cause-Analysis-Process

Basic method to use

  • Define the problem.
  • Gather information, data and evidence.
  • Identify all issues and events that contributed to the problem.
  • Determine root causes.
  • Identify recommendations for eliminating or mitigating the reoccurrence of problems or events.
  • Implement the identified solutions.

RCA methods

The nature of RCA is to identify all and multiple contributing factors to a problem or event. This is most effectively accomplished through an analysis method. Some methods used in RCA include:

  • The “5-Whys” Analysis” — A simple problem-solving technique that helps users get to the root of the problem quickly. It was made popular in the 1970’s by the Toyota Production System. This strategy involves looking at a problem and asking “why” and “what caused this problem”. Often the answer to the first “why” prompts a second “why” and so on—providing the basis for the “5-why” analysis.
  • Barrier Analysis — Investigation or design method that involves the tracing of pathways by which a target is adversely affected by a hazard, including the identification of any failed or missing countermeasures that could or should have prevented the undesired effect(s).
  • Change Analysis — Looks systematically for possible risk impacts and appropriate risk management strategies in situations where change is occurring. This includes situations in which system configurations are changed, operating practices or policies are revised, new or different activities will be performed, etc.
  • Causal Factor Tree Analysis — An investigation and analysis technique used to record and display, in a logical, tree-structured hierarchy, all the actions and conditions that were necessary and sufficient for a given consequence to have occurred.
  • Failure Mode and Effects Analysis — A “system engineering” process that examines failures in products or processes.
  • Fish-Bone Diagram or Ishikawa Diagram — Derived from the quality management process, it’s an analysis tool that provides a systematic way of looking at effects and the causes that create or contribute to those effects. Because of the function of the fishbone diagram, it may be referred to as a cause-and-effect diagram. The design of the diagram looks much like the skeleton of a fish—hence the designation “fishbone” diagram.
  • Pareto Analysis — A statistical technique in decision making that is used for analysis of selected and a limited number of tasks that produce significant overall effect. The premise is that 80% of problems are produced by a few critical causes (20%).
  • Fault Tree Analysis — The event is placed at the root (top event) of a “tree of logic”. Each situation causing effect is added to the tree as a series of logic expressions.

Based on the results of RCA, you can determine which of the phase has problem areas. For example, if you determine most of the RCA of the defects are due to requirement miss, then you can improve the requirement gathering / understanding phase by introducing more reviews or walk-through sessions.

Similarly, if you find that mostly defects are due to testing miss, you need to improve the testing process. You can introduce metrics like requirement tractability metrics, test coverage metrics or can keep a check on the review process or any other step which you feel would improve the efficiency of the testing. It is the responsibility of the entire team to sit and analyze the defects, and contribute to the product and process improvement.

Please feel free to share your story and any lessons you learned, you experienced, you came across in your life in the comments below.

 
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Posted by on November 29, 2018 in Technical

 

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ఆ రోజులే బాగున్నాయ్* !


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ఉన్నంతలో కుటుంబమంతా కలసి… ఆనందంగా గడిపిన .
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మినరల్ వాటర్ గోల లేకుండా…కుళాయి దగ్గర, బోరింగుల దగ్గర, బావుల దగ్గర… నీళ్లు తాగిన…
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శుక్రవారం చిత్రలహరి… ఆదివారం సినిమా కోసం వారమంతా… ఎదురు చూసిన
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ఏసీ కార్లు లేకున్నా ఎర్రబస్సుల్లో…కిటికీ పక్క సీట్లో నుండి ప్రకృతిని ఆస్వాదించిన
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మొబైల్ డేటా గురించి ఆలోచించకుండా..బర్త్ డే డేట్ గురించి మాత్రమే ఆలోచిస్తూ.చాక్లెట్లు పంచిన
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మటన్ బిర్యానీ.. చికిన్ బిర్యానీ లేకున్నా…ఎండాకాలం వచ్చిందంటే మామిడి కాయ పచ్చడితో…
అందరం కలసి కడుపునిండా అన్నం తిన్న…
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ఇప్పుడు బీరువా నిండా ప్యాంట్లున్నా… రెండు నిక్కర్లతో బడికెళ్లిన…
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ఇప్పుడు బేకరీల్లో కూల్ కేకులు తింటున్నా… .ఐదు పైసల ఆశా చాక్లెట్ తిన్న…
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చిన్న చిన్న మాటలకే దూరం పెంచుకుంటున్న ఈ రోజుల్లో..
పిల్లలం కొట్టుకున్నా పెద్దలంతా కలసివుండే
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ఇప్పుడు ఇంటినిండా తినుబండారాలున్నా…నాన్న కొనుక్కొచ్చే …చిరుతిళ్ళ కోసం ఎదురు చూసిన..
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ఇప్పుడు రకరకాల ఐస్ క్రీమ్ లు చల్లగా నోట్లో నానుతున్నా…అమ్మ చీరకొంగు పైసలతో పుల్ల ఐసు కొనితిన్న…
#ఆ రోజులు ఎంతో బాగున్నాయ్..!

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పొద్దుపోయేదాకా చేలో పని చేసుకొచ్చి…ఎలాంటి చీకూచింత లేకుండా.. ఎండాకాలంలో ఆకాశంలోని చందమామను చూస్తూ నిదురించిన..
#ఆ రోజులు బాగున్నాయ్..!

*ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబాల ఊసే లేకుండా పోయింది*
అమ్మ, నాన్న,…. అక్క బావ…చెల్లి మర్ది….అన్న వదిన…. తమ్ముడు మర్దలు…. మేనత్త మేనమామ.
పిన్ని బాబాయ్….. పెద్దమ్మ పెదనాన్న…. తాతయ్య అమ్మమ్మ…. తాతయ్య నానమ్మ…..
ఒదిన, మరదలు….బావ బామ్మర్ధి…..ఇంకా…. ముత్తాత తాతమ్మ….
ఇలా వరుసలు ఉన్నాయని…. ఉంటాయన్న సంగతే మరిచారు నేటి తరం….

మమ్మి డాడి….. ఆంటీ అంకుల్
ఇవి రెండు తెలిస్తే చాలు….ప్రపంచమంతా మన బందువులే అనే భావన ఏర్పడింది.

రక్త సంభందం అంటే ఏంటో తెలియని దుస్తితి….

కారణం…..
పుట్టగానే పిల్లలను క్రెచ్చ్ ల్లో వేయడం….లేదా ఆయాలకు అప్పగించడం…

అందాలకు బందీలై తల్లి పాలు కూడా ఇవ్వకపోవడం….
ముడ్డి కడగడం మానుకొని డైపర్స్ వాడడం….ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… లాలనలు….
ఇక్కడినుండే మొదలు….ఇక కాన్వెంట్లు….. రెసిడెన్సు స్కూళ్లు….

వాడికి ఎవడు చుట్టమో… ఎవడు పక్కమో తెలియని పరిస్థితి ….
ఎద్దులా పెరిగి మొద్దులా తయారవడం తప్ప మరేమీలేదు….

ఇంజనీరింగ్ చేయడం…. ఎమ్మెస్ కని విదేశాలకు వెళ్ళడం…..

వాట్సాప్ లో చాటింగ్….ఐ ఎం ఓ లో విజిటింగ్….
స్కైప్ లో వీడియో కాలింగ్….అమేజాన్ ద్వారా షాపింగ్….
నెలకింత అమ్మ నాన్నలకు డబ్బు పంపిస్తే…. వీరికదే ఆనందం….

పెళ్లి ముందురావడం…. అయిపోగానే పెళ్ళాన్ని తీసుకొని పోవడం…..

ఇంకెక్కడి ప్రేమలు… ఆప్యాయతలు….అయ్యా, అమ్మ సస్తే తప్ప….

కనీసం దాయాదులు పోయినా….దగ్గరోడు సచ్చినా….

దయలేని దుస్థితి ….చూడలేని పరిస్థితి ..ఇంకెక్కడి బందాలు..ఇంకెక్కడి బందుత్వాలు….అందుకే….
కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థ రోజు రోజుకు నశించిపోతుంది….

అందుకే రోజు రోజుకు ఓల్డ్ ఏజ్ హోం ల సంఖ్యలు పెరుగుతూ పోతున్నాయి…..

బాల్యం నుండే మార్పు రావాలి…
బందాలు పెరగాలి….
అమ్మమ్మ, నానమ్మ ల కథలు వినాలి….
తాతయ్య నేర్పే మర్యాదలు నేర్పాలి….
కుటుంబం లో ఉండే ఆనందం తెలపాలి….
అది మనింటినుండే ప్రారంభం కావాలి….

కలసి బోజనం చేసి…. కలసి ముచ్చటించడం నేర్పాలి….ఉమ్మడి కుటుంబ వ్యవస్థను కాపాడి….

మళ్ళీ ప్రపంచానికి మన దేశం వసుదైక కుటుంబం అని చాటి చెబుదాం….🌹

 

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This Is When You’re Gonna Miss Her Most


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

I never knew, i love her so much, till I met and lost lost her in the journey of my life.

She’s not the type of person you miss when she leaves. In fact, you might not even notice she’s gone initially… because well you thought she’d always be there. She’ll casually go without a goodbye or some grand exit because it was hard for her to give up on you. It was hard for her to walk away and not look back. It was hard for her to accept no matter how hard she tried, you never were going to reciprocate was she both wanted and deserved.

She was around and gave you so much attention so often you took her for granted. You’re still going to think she’s someone you can pick and choose when you want to. What you don’t realize is she made the choice to walk away already. And it broke her heart to do so. But she had to because you left her with no other choice. If you weren’t going to appreciate her presence she’d make you realize what you lost in her absence.

Missing her… It’s going to happen when you least expect it. You’ll see her somewhere and she might not even notice you at first. She’ll be so consumed by the attention of someone else. You’ll look at this person who is making her smile so big and that’s when it’s going to hit how pretty she is when she’s happy. But you never saw that side of her because all you did was disappoint her and let her down and bring out the worst of her.

You never saw how torn up she was about every little thing. But she lost sleep over you. You spent too much time talking about you. Too much time emotionally invested. And when you’re emotionally invested in someone you don’t see how bad they are for you sometimes. 270f02c9985b5d6bcd64c03b3ecfa9c9

Maybe someone will mention her in conversation and ask you how she’s doing because there was a time you knew. There was a time you were very much a part of her life and so involved you could answer on her behalf because you knew about every good day and bad one.

You’ll freeze for a moment and you’ll answer good but the truth is you’re finding out about her life the way everyone else is. Through social media. Instagram posts. FB updates. Snap stories. And you aren’t hearing from her firsthand like you used to.

It’s going to hurt a bit once you realize that.

You’ll go to text her and you’ll realize you don’t even know how to say hello.

You’ll realize there are so many things you want to tell her. And you think back to a time when every conversation she made about you. Even when you ignored her she’d send a double text continuing to try and keep the conversation going. You’ll stare at her name in your phone, looking back at the date of the last time you spoke and you’ll realize how long it’s been. But what’s going to hurt more is that it took you this long to realize she was already gone.

What’s going to hurt is the moment you realize you did nothing to make her want to stay.

You’ll miss the little details of her life even the things she used to complain about.

You’ll miss even the things that used to annoy you about her. How long her texts were, how she’d answer in less than 5 seconds making it so easy. How predictable she was and how you thought she’d always be there. Because no matter what you did or how you treated her it never altered the way she treated you.

You’ll miss having someone who genuinely cared about you. Someone who took time out of their day to ask how you were and wait for an answer. Someone who went out of their way and always made sure they were there. Someone who took the time to learn and understand you. Someone who wanted to know about your past to understand why you were the way you were. Someone who would have gone to the ends of the earth to make you happy and never stopped praising you or building you up even if you were knocking her down.

You’ll miss her late at night when you’re laying there alone and you realize there’s no one to talk to. And it’s not just her you miss it’s the conversations you used to have, how she’d get you to a place no one else could. How she’d get you thinking about things caring about things, believing in things even if it was you yourself. After talking to her she thought you could do anything because that’s how much she believed in you.

You’ll find yourself driving and a song will start playing and you’ll freeze for a moment thinking of her. It’s one of the songs she made you listen to and it’s only now you realize why. It was just another clever way of her saying she cared without spelling it out. You’ll drive past a place and it’s her ghost you’ll see there as flashbacks run through your mind of when you were there together and things were so different.

You’ll think back to a time when you knew she cared even when you didn’t. Moments where she poured her heart out to you and all you did was listen.

And you’ll hate yourself for realizing it too late that you really do care. Maybe you always have. And you probably always will care a little bit. That’s the thing about girls like her, they come into your life just long enough to leave a lasting impression before they take off again. Forever leaving a little bit of an imprint on your heart. She’ll leave and you won’t even be able to be angry at her for it. You’re more so angry at yourself for not realizing what you had when you had it.

You’ll again and she’ll smile and hug you and ask how you are because she doesn’t hold it against you for not caring. But what she doesn’t realize is how you do care. But you let her go on her way not saying anything because even you know, she deserves better and it wasn’t supposed to end this way.

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You lost her a little more every time


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by a Heart filled with Love..

It’s the texts you answer at your convenience. It’s the snaps you look at then put down your phone.

It’s every like when you’re bored because you’re wondering what she’s up to. It’s every canceled plan when something better comes along.

It’s the attention you give that’s the bare minimum. But she takes it. Because at least for that moment, she has your time and attention when she’s always given you all of hers.

It’s every surprise you take for granted. Even though, she thought a lot about it for a while. It’s not caring enough to even consider reciprocating those things.

It’s the favor if you need one, that always goes answered every time. Even though she’d never ask the same. x51k5655.jpg

It’s the nights she wishes would turn into the morning but you have some sort of other agenda, as you say goodbye.

You label her as easy to read. Because the truth is you know if you want her you can have her. And where is the fun in that?

Where is the fun in someone only caring about you?  Where is the fun in honesty? Where is the fun in love when everyone is chasing after questionable likes?

But the truth is you’re losing her and not even realizing it.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t answer.

You lose her a little more every time you cancel plans.

You lose her a little more every time you choose someone else when the only person she’s ever chosen is you.

You lose her a little more every time you don’t appreciate her.

You lose her a little more every time you take her for granted.

You lose her a little more every time she goes to bed wondering, ‘why aren’t I enough for him?’

But what she doesn’t realize, as these feelings she has for you, blinds her of the truth. She’s more than enough for you. It’s you that isn’t good enough for her.

Because if you were worthy of her, you’d realize her value.

But one day you’ll lose her for good. Because she’s going to get to a point where there’s nothing more she has to offer and she’ll walk away. And it’ll hurt her to do so. Because she looked at you with wide eyes full of faith that depleted over time.

One day she’ll be the one not answering. One day those snaps you send will be ignored and you’ll send another just in case.

It’ll irk the shit out of you, the moment she starts treating you the way you treated her.

You’ll ask her out and she’ll politely decline. You’ll blow up her newsfeed and begin to become more interested in what she is up to but more than that who she’s with.

Because it’s not you that’s making her smile anymore.

You’ll miss the nights when she laid beside you and all she ever wanted to do was talk. The silence will kill you, as you wish for just one more conversation.

You’ll hold onto everything she ever got you and it’ll be a hurtful reminder of the girl who loved you just a little too much.

And maybe you’ll look back and remember there wasn’t mystery to her. But there was an honesty you’ve never known in someone.

She didn’t play games like the others. She’s the type of girl that ruins people in the best way and you’ve become just another victim.

And as you fumble through girl after girl, you’ll find something in them all missing. It’ll be in them you look for her but she will never be found.

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That’s why she’s a slut


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Article by  Laura Jane Williams..

She’s missing something, and needs you to fill the hole. Literally. Come inside her and stem the flow, patch up the wound with your own body because she cannot do it alone. When he left he took something from her, but she doesn’t know – can’t figure out – what, exactly, it is. So she’ll try anything. She’ll do anything to see what works. She just needs to not feel quite so much.

She’s a slut because it helps. It’s less about the act of fucking you, and more about what it does to her ego to get there. That she can control you. She had no control over him – the way he cried when he said goodbye but said goodbye all the same. She had no control when she got the call about his new girlfriend, second-hand information that made her wonder how long, exactly, it had really been going on. o-SLUT-570

She needed him to be a faithful man so that she could believe faithful men exist, and now they don’t anyone is up for grabs. It is balm for the ego, locking eyes across the bar. Salve for the dented spirit when she approaches. Men love the thrill of the chase, and she loves knowing that she can screw any man she wants if only she’s brave enough to ask. She just needs to make it their idea. She’s in the driving seat of saying just the right amount of provocative. Master of making his pupils dilate in thrilled shock. Will say the unsayable as code for what else she’ll do, too.

She’s not a bad person. She’s not a Madonna, nor is she a total whore. She has friends, and a job, and is liked and respected and popular enough. She commands attention because she’s so in control, so measured, so aware of the cracks she’ll let other people see. Most will be fooled by it. Most will marvel at her confidence and her “go for it” attitude. Concede that she must really have her shit together. But then there will be one or two who linger behind, say less, hold something back because they see it. They see that she’s playing make believe and doesn’t even recognize it herself. They don’t trust it, and they shouldn’t.

She’ll fuck you, and you, and you – one after the other, filling up and filling up but never being filled for long enough. She’ll begin to pride herself on not being like the other girls. Of keeping you at a distance. Ignoring you once you’ve peeled off the condom and flung it in the trash. Because she will always make you wear a condom. She can’t love herself so she sure as hell couldn’t love your child.

She’s a slut because none of you are the answer. As she holds your gaze longer than strictly necessary, rests her hand on your knee a little too high to be friendly, there will be a question in her eyes and in her heart and the moment you lean in to kiss her –tough, and fast, always too fast to mean anything – the tiny speckle of hope that she almost had will be quashed. She’ll just get on with it.

She’ll be wet for you. Turned on as all hell. You might even make her come. But it won’t be from being inside her. It won’t be where she can see you. You’ll slip your hand into her knickers from behind or go down on her in the dark. From there, you could be anybody. Nobody. Him.

She’ll treat you like utter shit and it will make you want more, because the ones who don’t care can be the most attractive when we’re playing the “who is more broken?” game. But you won’t value her. She gave it away too easily, you used each other in a way that can’t be undone. She’ll note your attitude, the way you keep your texts explicit and void of emotion, following her lead, as evidence that all men are the same.

Sexual predators. Easily led. Emotionally stunted.

She won’t feel bad about moving on to the next, because it didn’t mean anything anyway.

That’s why she’s a slut.

Because nobody can disprove her theory. Nobody is saving her from herself. She doesn’t know, yet, that she needs to save herself.

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If your Partner look like this, then you are in Worst Relationship


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

aBY3yjA_460sWhen it comes to love, most of us tend to settle, we do this without even realizing it, and I am sick of it. So many amazing people end up stuck in toxic relationships wasting away because they are afraid to move forward, and afraid of being alone.

Below I am going to go over some of the things you should never allow within a relationship. These are things far too many of us settle for and allow to happen or go on within our relationships. We all deserve someone who knows our worth and treats us right, someone who is willing to motivate us when we are down and help us through all the hard times. Your bar is not set too high, don’t be willing to bump it down for just anyone.

Someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

If he or she doesn’t care about how you feel or how he or she is making you feel you need to cut ties. You need someone that really wants to make you happy and is willing to take your emotions into consideration. In a real functioning relationship, everyone’s feelings will be taken into consideration.

Someone who brings out the worst in you.

If the person you are with brings out the worst in you then you should not be with him or her. You should find someone that brings out the best in you. Sure, you might care about this person, but he or she is not causing you anything more than pain and stress, let him or her go and move on. Sometimes toxic relationships are not so much abusive as they are just people not being able to click properly.

Someone who takes advantage of you.

Never let anyone take advantage of you, especially not someone you are in love with. Make sure that your partner is bringing the same amount to the table as you are. Don’t give someone your all only for them to give you nothing. People will use you and take you for all you have in this world. Most people are not what they seem.

Someone who is very double-standard oriented.

Do not be with someone who thinks you have to abide by some kind of relationship rules and he or she doesn’t. If you are expected to answer all of his or her calls, but then he or she cannot be bothered to do the same to you why stick around? You deserve someone that is on the same level as you are.

Someone who isn’t willing to put forth the effort.

You should never settle for someone who will not make an effort in the relationship. You should not be coming all the way for someone who won’t even roll over in your direction. You should both be putting forth equal amounts of effort to make things work, no more-no less.

Someone who refuses to take responsibility for his or herself.

You should never settle for someone who won’t take responsibility for his or herself. You and your partner are not the same person. Sure, you might have each other’s backs but at the end of the day you have to own your shit and he or she has to own his or her shit. That is just how it goes, otherwise, problems within the relationship will occur and you will find yourself constantly having to make excuses for him or her. This is something none of us want to deal with.

Someone who makes you doubt yourself.

If someone you are close to is making you doubt yourself then the relationship is already off to a rocky start. Your partner should be building you up and making you feel better about yourself. This is a breeding ground for toxic energies and you should get out while you can.

Someone who tries to control what you wear or do.

If your partner is trying to control the things you wear and the things you do you are settling for someone who is going to try and control you in other ways as time progresses. Controlling partners are not going to let you be yourself. They are going to try and mold you into the person they want you to be and that will never work.

Someone who blames you for their problems or mistakes.

If your partner is constantly blaming you for his or her problems or mistakes why should you stick around? You should not be taking the flack for things you have no control over and did not do in the first place. He or she should be owning his or her stuff; it is not your place too and you should never be put in that kind of situation.

Someone who crosses your boundaries on purpose.

If someone is crossing your boundaries because he or she doesn’t care that they are there in the first place you should not be with them. Your boundaries are there for a reason and you should not be forced to feel like him or her making you uncomfortable is alright, it is not alright. Someone who loves and cares about you will take the time to pay attention to you and respect you and your boundaries.

Someone who refuses to actually work or take care of his or herself.

If the person you are with refuses to better his or herself they oftentimes cannot be helped. Don’t let this person bring you down. You should not be carrying their weight and your weight, everyone should be contributing to things in one way or another. You are no maid.

Someone who torments you be it physical, verbal, or any possible form.

No one should ever put up with any kind of abuse. You can and will find someone who will treat you like you put the stars in the sky. DO NOT EVER let someone put their hands on you or make you feel like you are worthless. You are amazing and you deserve all the best things in this world.

Someone who acts like you owe them something.

Let me get this clear! You do not owe anything to anybody but yourself. If you do not want to do something, you do not have to!

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Why, When & How Women cheat their Partners


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Why do women cheat? The answer is as complicated as one might imagine. A lot of the time the reasons are physical, sometimes they’re emotional, and, sometimes, as much as we don’t want to admit this or know this, sometimes it’s just a matter of somebody having an opportunity,”

bacadc577a68fbaa761514ae0ba8c76c (1)There is a common misperception that it’s only men who step out on their partners and that women are always faithful. To that, I say: Who are all these men cheating with exactly? Do heterosexual men only cheat with single women and each other?

Unlike previous generations, currently women and men cheat at approximately the same rates, though the reasons why women cheat may be different from men. The main reasons for cheating in women are: lack of love for primary partner, desire for sexual variety, and situational factors (like being drunk or on vacation) and many more.

The simple truth is that approximately as many married, heterosexual women cheat as married, heterosexual men. Research suggests that 10 to 20 percent of men and women in marriages or other committed (monogamous) relationships will actively engage in sexual activity outside of their primary relationship.

Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:

  • They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. When you ignore your woman’s needs especially the emotional and intimate wants, her moods towards you will change drastically more than they do when her estrogens and progesterone levels fluctuate on every ovulation. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
  • Revenge: If her partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair. Few Woman, wanna take a revenge by sleeping with other Men.
  • Idealistic expectations from a relationship. Some women fantasise beyond the thresholds of realism which leaves them extremely disappointed in the relationship with their partner. Women with this utopic mindset expects eternal pampering from their spouse like having them around round the clock all 365 days. Though such expectations are not realistic, they look out for other men who may turn them true.
  • Her man is bad in bed. One of the key reasons why women cheat is the partner’s lack lustre performance. It is hard enough being in a relationship where sex is insufficient; if this is coupled with poor quality performance then it is only a matter of time before the disgruntled partner seeks gratification elsewhere.
  • They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
  • They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
  • Material Favors. People get attracted to flashy things from time to time; it gets even worse if these are things they can’t afford. A woman may be attempted to cheat while hoping that the besotted extra wheel will be kind enough to throw in the desired gifts as a way of showing gratitude.
  • Lack of enough satisfying intimacy, passion and sex. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if f1778c84509ba4146d4ec406358bd957they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.A relationship that lacks sexual intimacy is as good as dead to a woman. This is mostly true in a relationship that previously enjoyed a vibrant sex life only for situations to end up reducing and completely killing intimacy.
  • Need for Attention and being wanted. As witnessed in the points above, the reasons why women cheat on their partners is propagated by intertwined emotional factors. Remember that many men in their optimum to impress will always lure a woman with sweet words and total attention. If you fail to attend to your woman’s needs and offer a listening ear, she will cheat on you because she will fell more appreciated and wanted elsewhere.
  • The Thrill, Adventure.Cheating may also happen when people let their lives fall into a continuous boring routine. In a bid to seek the missing adventure, cheating becomes an attractive preoccupation. Many women had admitted to being turned on by the risk of getting caught and the adventurous nature of extra-marital sex.
  • Want to test the water first. Another reason why women cheat is uncertainty of the relationship at hand. In this case, a woman may pretend to be committed in a relationship only to be in another or even other relationships, all in the quest of finding “Mr. Right”.
  • They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
  • They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
  • They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
  • She wants to experience something new. Many women are pushed to cheat because they want to try things they deem they should have tried long ago. A lot of this is borne of the conversations they have with friends. If they feel their experiences are mute compared to what their friends relate then they might be tempted to even the scores.

As with male cheaters, women who cheat typically do not realize (in the moment) how profoundly infidelity affects their partner and their relationship. Cheating hurts betrayed men just as much as it hurts betrayed women. The keeping of secrets, especially sexual and romantic secrets, damages relationship trust and is incredibly painful regardless of gender.But cheating doesn’t have to be seen as the end of a relationship; instead, it can be viewed as a test of its maturity and ability to weather the storm.

There are several reasons, why women are cheating their partner and I’m pretty sure that more than 50% are guilty of it. But how should you know if your girlfriend is loyal? Below are the most common signs that can help you tell whether your woman is cheating on you.

23598b264c041b0b4ebf5447dabb0617--quotes-about-married-womanShe Stops Caring. Women are wired to care about the smallest details about their men and relationships. She cares how many times you call and whether you make time for her. She gets angry with you when you forget those important dates in your relationship and will make a big fuss about it. So when your lady stops caring that you didn’t call and when she doesn’t throw a fit that you forgot all your special dates, then you have cause to worry.

If she start paying more attention to appearance. This sign doesn’t always mean that she is cheating you – especially if they’ve already discussed with you wanting to change their appearance. However, if your partner goes from not caring much about how they look, to suddenly preening like a peacock, they may be trying to impress someone else.

They’re (too often) home late from work. . One of the strongest signs of cheating is when your woman starts falling in love with her work more. If your partner is usually home by a certain time every day, but suddenly they’re staying late at work, it could be an excuse for them to see someone else behind your back. It’s a common enough excuse that many people don’t think too much about. She could be spending time with a male co-worker instead of you. 

Secretive phone or computer use. Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it. If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. If your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If she picked up new habits. These habits can be anything from suddenly being over-protective of their phone, to not picking up their phone when you call. The new habits that your partner exhibits will often be hard to explain away, and your partner may feel defensive if you try to bring them up. This can be a sign that they’re seeing someone else and they don’t want you to know about it.

Sexier Inner-wear & change in Perfumes.When a woman is involved with someone new, she often will go out and purchase sexier bras and panties – because she feels sexier. There is a pleasure women get in being appreciated as a sexual being and will behave a little more sexier… maybe she’s leaving an extra button undone on her blouse or wearing her hair down instead of neatly tied up. Maybe she has changed her perfume. She may also change the way she wears make-up for similar reasons.

Stops sharing the details. When your love was young, sweet, and full of promise, your girl just couldn’t wait to share everything with you. When she was having an issue at work or with friends, she always opened up. But now she always says that she is fine or tells you not to bother. These are very bad indicators that show your relationship is almost over and you have every right to be paranoid. If she starts being all cagey, then she is planning on being a cheat – if she isn’t one already.

She starts telling lies. It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

Acting defensively . If your woman is cheating on you she is afraid of getting caught; she will get defensive and anything you ask or say to her will be taken as an accusation. You can know she is cheating if she is defensive about how she spends her time, who she spends it with and when she refuses to answer simple questions.

Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. Yet another possible sign is that your partner is introducing new techniques and activities into your sex life. As much as you might enjoy that, it’s possible that they are learning new tricks outside of your relationship. bdd720db4a881db986548a558bd27f98

Unexplained expenses. If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity. If you ask your partner about these expenses, and their answers seem untrue, it’s likely that they are untrue.

She doesn’t invite you out with her friends. One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home. If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

Sudden strange friends. If your woman begins to have mysterious friends that are taking most of her time, there are high chances that she is cheating on you. It does not matter whether it is a friend or a workmate but as long as she is not willing to disclose more information, it is a direct telltale sign that she is cheating.

Spending less time with your family or friends. If a woman begins to detach herself from the family, there are strong signs that she is cheating. There are also other women who will stop any close relationship with your friends for fear of showing off their guilt. The woman may be feeling guilty and being close to your family or friends is painful because symptoms of guilt may manifest.

These signs are a clear indication that your woman is cheating on you, or intends to do so. If there is no cheating, the same signs may be a suggestion that the relationship is not where it should be, but don’t get paranoid unless there is a combination of the above signs that make you feel like something is wrong.

If the many signs above add up, consider asking her directly if she is seeing someone else. I have collected the most popular reasons why woman cheat from various sources, always be aware of them, when it comes to choosing the right woman for a relationship.

Many people who are cheating think it’s easier to find a “quick solution” than do the hard work, or so it seems. Bottom line is an affair may seem like an easy answer, but it will only create more work and hardship. Don’t do similar mistake like many of us committed in our lives.

Appreciate your partner, and show them how much they mean to you, pounder them in love and care. But, most importantly, put your phone down, stop looking up towards co-workers, avoid pornography, stop looking living with social sites and look into the face in front of you. It might be the one.

 

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Business Impact Analysis


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Article by XLC Team…

A Business Impact Analysis is a process used to determine the effect of an interruption of services on each business unit and the organization as a whole. The analysis can provide information on the short and long term effects of a disaster on such factors as profit, market share and goodwill.

This information in required to develop a business continuity strategy for the entire organization. Please fill out this questionnaire in as much detail as possible. Your input will be valuable in developing an effective Business Continuity program.

A business impact analysis is a key part of the business continuity process that analyzes mission-critical business functions and identifies and quantifies the impact a loss of those functions — e.g., operational, financial — may have on the organization. A business impact analysis (BIA) is critical in assessing the cost of business disruption and how disaster recovery plays a role in mitigating it. The BIA has several crucial elements, which include executive backing; a deep understanding of the organization; and BIA tools, processes and findings.  concept-image-of-business-acronym-bia-business-impact-and-analysis-FGFK4M

Once risks to an organization have been identified — usually through a risk analysis — the next step in a business impact analysis is to determine how the identified risks affect specific business operations. Let’s assume that if all business functions are performing normally, the organization ought to be fully viable, competitive and financially solid. If an incident — internal or external — negatively affects business operations, the organization could be compromised.

Business impact analyses help business continuity/disaster recovery professionals to identify business priorities and validate or modify them for plan development. Questionnaires must be formulated for preinterview data gathering or in-person interviews. People with in-depth knowledge of and experience with the business functions being analyzed are ideal candidates for BIA interviews.

In some cases, it may be possible to develop business impact analysis questionnaires into an automated survey — an example of which is BIA Professional from SunGard Availability Services — in which the results can be captured and summarized. Often, it is useful to include an incident description for interviewees to use when answering the questions. An example of such a situation is when:

  • the business unit’s portion of the building is completely destroyed;
  • all records, data files, technology, supplies and other support systems are lost;
  • some key personnel are not available;
  • primary business processes are affected immediately, and for at least 30 days; and
  • the disaster occurs during a peak processing period for the business unit.

Tips for performing a business impact analysis

Keep in mind the following key tips when performing a business impact analysis:

  1. Get the support of senior management.Given the nature of BIAs, and the time needed for research, be sure to obtain senior management support so that your project goals can be achieved.
  2. Take the business impact analysis process seriously.Although the BIA can take a great deal of time for data gathering and analysis, its value is essential as you develop plans. BIAs do not have to be dozens of pages long; they simply need the right information, and that information should be current and accurate.
  3. There are no formal BIA standards.Despite many business continuity standards being available in the U.S., no formal standards exist for BIAs.
  4. Keep it simple.Gathering the right information is critical; the associated business impact analysis template provides a baseline for information to be gathered. If a one-page business impact analysis summary provides the relevant information, versus one with dozens of pages, it is perfectly acceptable.
  5. Review results with business units.Once the plan is complete, review the findings with business unit leaders to make sure your assumptions are correct.
  6. Be flexible.The suggested template in this article may be too complex for some organizations; feel free to modify it as you see fit to accomplish your goals.
  1. Business unit name: Enter the business unit’s name.
  2. Head count: Enter the number of full-time staff in the business unit and, optionally, part-time staff and contractors, if applicable.
  3. Parent process: Describe the principal activities the unit performs, e.g., sales, contractor interface or investor relationship management.
  4. Priority ranking: Enter a number here for subjective ranking of process importance.
  5. Recovery time objective: Enter a time frame — e.g., one hour, one week — in this section; it describes the time a parent process has to return to business almost as usual following a disruption.
  6. Recovery point objective: Enter a time frame — e.g., one hour, one day — in this section; this is a point in time to which parent process work should be restored following a disruption.
  7. Parent process depends on: Enter names of organizations and processes the parent process depends on for normal operations.
  8. Parent process required by: Enter names of organizations and processes that depend on the parent process for normal operations.
  9. (Optional) Subprocess: Enter a description of supporting activities the unit performs, e.g., sales analysis, financial analysis.
  10. (Optional) Priority ranking: Enter a number here for subjective ranking of subprocesses and their importance to the business unit.
  11. (Optional) Recovery time objective: Enter a time frame; it describes the time a subprocess has to return to business almost as usual following a disruption.
  12. (Optional) Recovery point objective: Enter a time frame; this is a point in time to which subprocess work should be restored following a disruption.
  13. (Optional) Subprocess depends on: Enter names of organizations and processes the subprocess depends on for normal operations.
  14. (Optional) Subprocess required by: Enter names of organizations and processes that depend on the subprocess for normal operations.
  15. Quantitative impact: Enter a financial amount associated with the parent process, e.g., annual revenue generated by the process.
  16. Qualitative impact: Enter a nonfinancial impact to the company, e.g., loss of reputation, loss of customers associated with parent process.
  17. Time needed to recover staff: Enter the number of staff that need to be back to business almost as usual within specific time frames.
  18. Recovery strategy: Enter specific actions the business unit can take to recover to a business almost as usual state, e.g., work from home, relocate to an alternate area, recover to a hot site.
  19. Technology and services recovery time: Enter the system and services in each time frame that must be recovered within the specific time frame.
  20. Comments: Self-explanatory.

An excellent way to learn about a business is to conduct a business impact analysis. In addition to identifying recovery priorities and time frames, conducting a BIA can also identify opportunities for process improvement.

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Tomorrow is the first page of a 365-page book


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

It is no surprise that we are coming close to the year end. Good or bad, old or new, success or failure we have all had our experiences with the year. So here’s to all our moments!

Another fresh new year is here another year to live! to banish worry, doubt, and fear, to love and laugh and give!

Each New Year, we have before us a brand new book containing 365 blank pages. Let us fill them with all the forgotten things from last year—the words we forgot to say, the love we forgot to show, and the charity we forgot to offer.” 1We have collected a few quotes and sayings that will inspire us towards the year end and make us start a Fabulous New Year.

It is better to DIE on your feet, than to LIVE on your knees.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.

When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

20171230_082253-COLLAGEEveryone have the opportunity, once more to pray for peace, to plant some trees, to help others, sing more joyful songs and to live and let live.

 

There is no greater guarantee of a long, happy, healthy, and prosperous life than for you to be continually working on being, having, and achieving more and more of the things you really want. Clear Goals enable you to release your potential, overcome any obstacle and to make your future achievement unlimited.

Year’s end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us .

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover .

All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.

Make New Year’s goals. Goals give us direction. 

What would you like to have happen in your life this year? What would you like to do, to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks, or character defects, would you like to have removed?
sdr What would you like to attain? Little things and big things? Where would you like to go? What would you like to have happen in friendship and love? What would you like to have happen in your family life?

What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to happen in your career?

Write it down. Take a piece of paper, a few hours of your time, and write it all down – as an affirmation of you, your life, and your ability to choose. Then let it go.

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”

Happy New Year to the most wonderful family in the world. I am so thankful and grateful to have all of you in my life as my family. 

I heart fully wish everyone to Have a Wonderful and Prosperous New Year with good health, success.

 

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What is DevOps? Role of QA in DevOps


 

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Article by V Rana & Vaibhav Choksi..

In most software development organizations, QA is considered a function separate from  development units. Indeed, testers and developers have their own roles and responsibilities to take care of.  However, QA and development teams should sync very closely to achieve common objectives of delivering a single, robust application that functions and behaves as per agreed standards.

When one examines the present drift toward DevOps, it’s quite evident that more and more organizations are implementing this software release model with the intention of enabling automation in software deployment. DevOps affords the framework that allows teams to move forward software on a more frequent basis. The conventional idea of a “software release” dissolves into a uninterrupted cycle of service improvement over time.

What is DevOps?

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DevOps is projected as the next higher level of agile software development practice that enables coding and testing to take place simultaneously with timely collaboration and communication amongst all concerned functions/ departments. It provides a framework that enables teams to speed-up software releases and gain faster time-to-market, even while ensuring quality at the same time. Traditional role of QA is to detect bugs, but in DevOps, the key responsibility of QA is to avoid the bugs from occurring in the first place

DevOps encourages development and operations teams to function as one single cohesive unit, focused on delivering business values across the IT value chain. It also helps in release management, delivery and deployment with continuous automation. Here we will discuss how DevOps can be helpful to deliver continuous integration & continuous delivery in QA..

Test automation tools are capable of performing tests, reporting outcomes and comparing results with earlier test runs. Tests carried out with these tools can be run repetitively, at any time of day. Test automation framework is a set of guidelines, coding standards, concepts, processes, practices and more, which provides an execution environment for automation test scripts. It allows the user to develop, execute and report on the automation test scripts in an effective and efficient manner.

Build Verification Test (BVT) is a set of tests run on every new build to verify that build is testable, before it is released to a test team for further testing. These test cases are fundamental functionality test cases that ensure application is stable and can be tested systematically. BVT saves time, cost, resources and efforts for test teams to setup and test a build. Test environment virtualization enables optimization of various simultaneously started processes. It can make testing much easier and efficient by eliminating certain dependencies and bring down the cost of setting one or multiple test environments. It considerably increases IT infrastructure flexibility and the efficiency of hardware usage.

 How implementing DevOps can be useful in QA?

The role of QA in DevOps becomes more of an enabler or gatekeeper that links developers and the operations teams. DevOps is an approach to highlight swift, small, iterative development and deployment of applications. DevOps flawlessly integrates all the three functions – Dev, Ops and QA as a single IT entity that deliver value.

14Tools2Take an example of an ecommerce portal. In its release environment, hourly releases are very common. In such cases, load, stress, and security testing become important. With DevOps approach, faster timely releases can be delivered by eliminating the opportunity for people to make errors. The continuous performance evaluation of the portal helps in improving customer experience.

DevOps helps in creating rapid, reliable and repeatable processes. It also benefits in achieving process improvements throughout the software development life cycle by identifying issues and recommending necessary improvements. With the help of DevOps, testers can leverage best practices in agile testing, continuous integration and test-driven development to accelerate QA processes and reduce cycle time.

What is the role of QA in DevOps?

QA has always been seen as a “gatekeeper” for software deliveries. However, in a DevOps environment, QA is part of the process itself since there are no boundaries between development and operations leading to Agile results unlike a traditional environment where development and operations are separated functions and operations team fixed issues raised by development teams.
In DevOps organizations, QA pushes out new development code to a production environment and DevOps teams provide infrastructure and tools to make the deployment process easier while simultaneously verifying that the changes are functioning as per the requirement.

In a traditional QA focused organizations, quality assurance teams focus on finding bugs while in DevOps organizations, the responsibility of quality assurance is not limited to that but to prevent them from arising in the first place. This approach helps in an environment where there is a need for newer releases every few minutes or hours. Here, manual testing is simply ruled out as an option and test automation has to be deployed.

Hourly releases are very common if we consider the release environment of an eCommerce portal. In this case, load, security and stress testing become critical and DevOps practice can help manage better quality releases since quality is an integral part of DevOps. This helps to identify and fix issues before new code goes live on the portal while checking for performance when it’s live.

DevOps helps achieve continuous improvement throughout the development cycle of a software product as QA teams can simultaneously identify issues in processes and recommend improvements wherever necessary. 

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Lessons from Devops Experience – 1


WHAT’S DEVOPS?

Wikipedia defines DevOps as:

DevOps (a clipped compound of “development” and “operations”) is a software development method that stresses communication, collaboration, integration, automation, and measurement of cooperation between software developers and other information-technology (IT) professionals.

I like to simplify this definition by saying that DevOps is when you’re not only responsible for developing the application but you’re also responsible for running and supporting the application in your testing and production environments. As opposed to the traditional way of developing where you have the luxury of developing the application then throw it over the wall to the Ops team.

DevOps came as a response to shortcomings of the traditional way of separating development and operations activities. If we look at Damon Edwards’ article What is DevOps?, we will find a description of the traditional way, the way it worked, and what shortcomings it has. Also Mike Loukides, in one of his articles, does a great job in describing the history of the relationship between development and operations, and why we need DevOps in its modern form. I strongly recommend you read both of these articles.

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KEY COMPONENTS OF DEVOPS

From my experience, there are several key components or principles when implemented then we are set for a successful DevOps experience. Those components and principles are:

  • Automated Delivery Pipeline
  • Configuration Management
  • Regular Integration
  • Automated Monitoring & Health Checks
  • Firefighter Role
  • Infrastructure as Code

When you first look at this list you may say: “We’re already following those principles without doing DevOps”. That might be true but DevOps adds emphasis to the fact that the development team needs to be responsible for defining, understanding and implementing these components. In other words, DevOps encourages developers to dive into aspects of software delivery that Ops would traditionally own. It’s worth mentioning that from a project management point of view, DevOps tasks and stories should be treated the same way we treat those that solve direct business problems like generating a report, or providing a log-in page. That is, DevOps work needs to be well-defined, prioritized, planned, executed and tested just like other user stories or features because the same team of developers will be working on them. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to go into details about this aspect of DevOps management in this post. In the following sections, I will explain a bit what each component is all about.

1. AUTOMATED DELIVERY PIPELINE

First, let’s talk about the “pipeline” part of this terminology. We want to create a process that defines what needs to happen in what order from the moment new code is published to source control to the last step of making that code available to customers in production. That is, the pipeline is an ordered list of well-defined and stable steps that start with pushing new code and ends with that code being in production. The second aspect of an Automated Delivery Pipeline is automation. Once our steps or recipe for delivery is defined, we need to script and automate it.

2. CONFIGURATION MANAGEMENT

When we deploy the same artifact like a web application WAR file to different environments, how do we ensure that the application in Development environment is only using the Development database and that in Production it’s only using the Production database? Or more generally, how do we ensure that the application is only talking to resources specific to the environment in which it’s running? Configuration management is the answer to this problem. There are two approaches to determining what resources an application should use; we can either determine those resources at run time or at deploy time. Both approaches rely on externalizing those concerns from source code into a configuration file. Hence, it’s called configuration management.

3. REGULAR INTEGRATION

Integration in this context is simply to deploy our application to an environment where it will interact with other applications and components in the ecosystem. Agile software development puts strong emphasis on having a feedback cycle in order to validate the solution we’re implementing is indeed solving customer problems and to also detect issues early on. Having a regular schedule of integrating our application is essential in creating a feedback cycle. When our integration cycle is tighter, so would our feedback cycle.

4. AUTOMATED MONITORING & HEALTH CHECKS

Since DevOps involves operational duties, we want to know about problems before they are reported or noticed by users so we can solve them before they impact our users. We need to develop the ability to periodically and automatically check the health of our application and react appropriately when it’s in a bad state in a timely manner.

5. THE FIREFIGHTER ROLE

When the development team takes on the “ops” duties as part of implementing DevOps, it means that the team will have to deal with issues not only related to the business functionality they implemented but also with infrastructure issues, monitoring alerts going off, impaired servers and services, etc. These issues are interruptions to the team’s development activities which can result in reduced velocity and loss of concentration. An approach that I like to employ is to define a Firefighter role and rotate it among the team. All issues that crop up are directed to the Firefighter and she is tasked with resolving the issues.

Dealing with issues that crop up are opportunities to get first-hand experience at how the application actually works in real life and those insights will certainly help the application to evolve and mature.

6. INFRASTRUCTURE AS CODE

This could be the most recognizable part of DevOps but I intentionally list it at the end to emphasize that it’s not the only aspect. Over the years, many good practices came out of developing software for business problems that are widely adopted but many of those practices are not employed to infrastructure as commonly. Treating infrastructure as code does not only mean to write code for infrastructure but it also mean to apply the aforementioned best practices to infrastructure code.

CONCLUSION

All of the previous DevOps components discussed in this post are not to be treated in a “all or nothing” manner. Instead, it’s better to take them one by one. We can pick one to understand, design and implement. Once we are satisfied with its benefits, we can move on to the next one.

This list of components is not intended to be a definitive list but they are what I personally experienced to be most influential. If you have other components or principles you believe should be included, please let me know in the comments section. I’m very interested in hearing from fellow “Dev Operators” about their experience. As a follow-up to this post, I will be publishing a second blog post that will shed more light into the aforementioned components.

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Testing Trends – Predictions for the next decade


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The QA (Quality Assurance) and the Software Testing industries have observed rapid evolution in the recent past. This accounts for the emergence of several new & disruptive processes and technologies. To keep pace with the ever-changing trends and advancements in the QA and software testing fields, the businesses have the need to adapt to these rapidly shifting demographics as soon as possible.

As our world continues its digital transformation with excitement in the advancement and convergence of so many technologies- from AI, machine learning, big data and analytics, to device mesh connectivity, nor should we forget VR and AR- 2017 promises to be a year that further transforms the way we work, play and take care of ourselves through product innovation. We have already seen the application of these technologies in robotics, digital assistants, self-driving/autonomous vehicles, wearables, IoT’s, drones, etc.

The applications are everywhere, from family, kids, fitness, to gaming and education, and a lot more. What does it mean for software testing? I believe testing will continue to help fuel new and disruptive product innovation for years to come. The rising user demands and adoptions for accessing data and decision-support analytics anywhere, anytime, on any device, coupled with smart things, powered by artificial intelligence (AI) are stimulating fresh changes to the testing world.

As these trends keep changing, here are some predictions that we believe the QA and Software Testing industry might have to face in the coming times: top-7-qa-and-testing-trends-for-this-winter

Manual Testing not Dead

While test automation coverage continues to be critical to rapid product releases, hence time to market, with the continuation of digital transformation user experience, an area that is more challenging to automate, manual testing continues to be the key to success. Hence, human/manual testing will continue to be in demand. IoT testing requires testers to possess additional technical knowledge beyond domain expertise. Intelligent things, as Gartner has predicted to be part of 2017 technology trends, such as intelligent IoT’s, robots or drones will need testing by human testing beyond automation. Furthermore, with complex testing, humans must test to give it a green light before bots take over. In-sprint testing, agile development will continue to be manual. Gartner also predicts that Augmented Reality (AR) rather than Virtual Reality (VR) will begin to gain traction. AR applications will need manual testing for visual validation until automation advances and takes over.

Security Testing

As the technology industry is pacing forward with a whopping speed, there is a significant increase in the amount of information as well. As such, information security and continuous integration testing becomes a matter of concern to the larger companies to ensure the effective data flow without any leakage or breaching of confidential information. Therefore, security testing is another domain that the technology world is going to observe in the upcoming times.

Looking Forward to Agile & DevOps

Several organizations across the globe are adopting the agile and DevOps in their software creation & development. Involving programmers or the testers during the early stages of development and delivering a product in the market at a rapid rate is one of the biggest trend prediction. With help of agile testing, the testers might be able to respond to the upcoming challenges faster and in a better manner.

The DevOps technique calls for delivery of seamless integrations as well as collaboration between several departments. As such, this engages the developers into the QA processes and thus, increases the speed of deployment and promotes higher ROI.

IoT Testing

With IoT growing in leaps and bounds, more and more customers rely on IoT Testing before using the products. If the products are not tested, their functionality, security, and effectiveness – all will come under scanner. According to a HP study, 70 percent of devices in the Internet of Things are vulnerable to security problems.

Performance Engineering is replacing Performance Testing: A good user experience is the key to a successful product. Consistent performance across diverse platforms, OSs, and devices defines how much of a market can a product really capture. The need to provide the best experience to users is making organizations change their strategy. Organizations move from just Performance testing to Performance engineering is going to be swifter and the user experience is going to play a major role in that.

Digital Testing

With a majority of organizations making a foray in the digital world, the need for digital transformation will require a huge shift of focus towards digital testing. Robust strategies for digital assurance will be required for focusing on optimizing functional testing across channels.  Digital assurance strategy should focus on optimizing functional testing across maxresdefaultchannels. It is more likely to mimic a user’s behavior in today’s world.

Cloud & Mobile Applications will be on the Mainstream

The application store approval method is becoming more simplified and straightforward nowadays. As such, the world will observe a boom in the hybrid applications, including both cloud & mobile applications, which would require the users to stay online & offline equally. The QA and Software Testing industry would observe more frequent testing of the mobile & cloud applications on a larger scale. These applications can be tested by the release of a beta version and then, followed by receiving a good feedback.

The applications that interact with the cloud environment will also be a part of the hybrid application and will thus, play a major role in shaping the development of the QA and Software Testing industry. In the recent years, the world has observed substantial investments on the cloud-architecture based platforms with the help of AWS (Amazon Web Service) and Cloud Test Lab of Google. With the presence of such big names, there is expected a pressure built-up among the hybrid application developers & testers to deliver excellent applications.

BigData Testing will be BIG

We are sitting atop an explosive amount of BigData today and need to have a very strong strategy around BigData Testing. Testing datasets requires highly analytical tools, techniques, and frameworks, and is an area that is set to grow big. BigData is no more a “Fad” and the amount of data is growing with each passing day at an explosive rate. A strategy around Testing Big data is strongly needed given the rate at which it data is growing. Testing of these datasets involves various tools, techniques and frameworks to process and is going to be one of biggest trend to watch out for.

Automated API & Micro services Testing

The world has observed the evolution of API & Micro Services as a result of the digital disruption. Several large-scale companies are asking for effective API & Micro Services testing strategies. The major issues in the current times are limited tool sets that offer capabilities to test API & Micro Services. The main question here is how to setup automated verification for data completeness, ensure quality and responsiveness. As such, the QA and software testers needs to be highly surgical with respect to API testing with a light & careful approach.

These were some of the important trends in the QA and software testing industry.

Kindly do let us know what do you think about these or share your thoughts related to any other trends you feel are not included.

 

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Toxic Co-Workers


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Article by an Annoyed Employee in IT..

You can pick your friends; you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues any more than you can the next assignment to come down from upper management. It’s no surprise, then, that not every colleague is a good one.

The first, and by far the best, kind of co-workers are the nice ones. You know, the ones who are always quick to offer you a hand whenever you need one. They’re friendly, helpful, and normal to your standards. With them, everything’s peachy! You have absolutely no complaints when it comes to the nice co-workers. Heck, they may be the only aspect of the workplace that’s keeping you sane!

The next category is toxic co-workers. They may be disguised as nice co-workers or even weird, annoying, or obnoxious co-workers, but they actually belong in a whole different category. Those co-workers are out to intentionally or unintentionally hurt your career, and you need to avoid them at all costs. 2013_bsl_CopeToxicWorkers_01

Greed, laziness, selfishness and backstabbing behaviors are an all-too-common part of many company cultures. Often, the people who personify these behaviors within organizations step on the colleagues who are just trying to put in an honest day’s work—so they can get ahead or get out of pulling their load—and it’s time to call them out.

The backstabber: Watch out for this one – he might appear to be on your side, but behind your back he will bad mouth you, lie about you and may be out to destroy you. The backstabber tries to make himself look good at your expense – by making you look bad. Pay attention to how you feel around this person and what you hear; seek clarification if you’re getting mixed signals.

The Politician. Promotions based on merit are not what these schmoozers believe in. Instead, they participate in office politics—popping in the boss’s office every five minutes, declaring their indispensable worth. The Politician is consumed with company politics. Her work life becomes a game in which she is constantly trying to “win” the next job, the next promotion, the next project. However, she spends little or no time fulfilling her current responsibilities.

The time sucker: This is someone who doesn’t think about the schedules and time of others. This employee will simply show up at your workstation to ask questions and go on tangents, with no consideration for your time, prior commitments, deadlines, etc.

The gossiper: Keep in mind that those who gossip to you will gossip about you. It doesn’t hurt to listen to what you hear – just don’t participate in the conversation. Often, the industry grapevine is true, but the gossiper tends to exaggerate, so beware. Some people feel they’ll make themselves look better by spreading information, especially about someone else. The good news is that most people catch on to this tactic, but not always before damage is done.

The Taskmaster. Have you ever come across someone at work who spends all of his time worrying about what everyone else is doing, while at the same time complaining that no one else in the company ever does anything and that he is saddled with all the work? This is the Taskmaster. Taskmasters are quick to assign tasks to other people to avoid having to do anything—and yet as soon as a task is completed, somehow the Taskmaster is there to take credit for getting it done. The Taskmaster constantly works to create the perception that he is so busy that he just couldn’t possibly work one more thing into his day.

The credit-robber: There are people who take credit for other people’s ideas in order to shine the light on themselves, no matter whom they steal from to do it. The credit-robber usually steals the spotlight when you least suspect it, and in front of others. Being caught off-guard makes it difficult to know how to respond and, by the time you catch your breath, you’ve lost your moment.

The unsupportive supervisor: This is a tough one: When you don’t have your supervisor on your side, you’re on your own. Many supervisors feel threatened by their staff; some thrive on the power they feel from making others feel small. You must be very careful when the problem is your supervisor – as with any negative scenario, you need to take a step back to evaluate the situation and do everything you can to protect yourself.

For most of us, working in an office can offer a pleasant, exciting, and motivating path to a successful career. However, sometimes we encounter unprofessional, unhappy, and downright hostile colleagues. When there are unhealthy people within your organization, you’re not just fighting the market and your competitors, you’re now fighting internal battles between teams and individuals just to get something done.

You can pick your friends, you can pick your job. But you can’t pick your colleagues. It’s all up to us how wisely we react and handle the Toxic Co-workers at work environment.

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Software Metrics


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Article by Pranav Sharma…

In our technical blog series we will be discussing on Software Test Metrics, Metrics types and their uses.

Software Metrics is a Measurement Based Technique which is applied to processes, products and services to supply engineering and management information and working on the information supplied to improve processes, products and services, if required.  Metrics help organization to obtain the information it needs to continue to improve its productivity, reduce errors and improve acceptance of processes, products and services and achieve the desired Goal.

For decades, industries across the world have been measuring processes to improve efficiency and quality.  You’ve probably heard the catchphrase, “If you can’t measure it, you can’t improve it.”  Without measuring, we’re guessing what “success” is.  With data, we can make educated decisions quickly.

Software metrics plays an important role in measuring attributes that are critical to the success of a software project. Measurement of these attributes helps to make the characteristics and relationships between the attributes clearer. This in turn supports informed decision making.

The aim of this document is provide to insights into the Testing Metrics and different concepts and phases involved in the Metrics. This document addresses metrics lifecycle, various software testing metrics, need for having metrics, evaluation process and arriving at ideal conclusion.

Introduction to test metrics

The field of software engineering is affected by infrequent, incomplete and inconsistent measurements. Software testing metrics are a way to measure and monitor your test activities. More importantly, they give insights into your team’s test progress, productivity, and the quality of the system under test.

Software testing is an integral part of software development, providing opportunities for measurement of process attributes. The measurement of software testing process attributes enables the management to have better insight in to the software testing process.

When we ask ourselves “What have we tested?” metrics will give us better answers than just “we have tested it.” Different teams measure various aspects depending on what they want to track and control or improve.

A metric usually conveys a result or a prediction based off the combination of data.

  • Metric is a quantitative measure of the degree to which a system, system component, or process possesses a given attribute.
  • Through test metrics we can measure software quality.
  • It gives clear measurement of quality and completeness of product.
  • It helps to understand the improvement required in project, taking decision and change in technology.
  • It helps to take the decision for next phase of activities i.e. estimate the cost and schedule of future projects.

Why Test Metrics? Why Should You Care?

The aim of collecting test metrics is to use the data for improving the test process, rather than to just show fancy reports. This includes finding tangible answers to the questions:

  • How long will it take to test?
  • How much money will it take to test?
  • How bad are the bugs?
  • How many bugs found were fixed? reopened? closed? deferred?
  • How many bugs did the test team did not find?
  • How much of the software was tested?
  • Will testing be done on time? Can the software be shipped on time?
  • How good were the tests? Are we using low-value test cases?
  • What is the cost of testing?
  • Was the test effort adequate? Could we have fit more testing in this release?

 Types of Metrics:

At high level Test Metrics can be broadly classified into two – Basic and calculated metric.

 Base Metric: Also known as direct metric.

  • Base metric constitutes raw data gathered by all test engineers throughout the testing process.
  • Base metric is prepared by Test Engineers.
  • It helps us to provide status report to test lead and project manager.

Reports contain data like:

  • Total number of test cases
  • Number of test cases Executed.
  • Number of test cases passed
  • Number of test cases failed
  • Number of test cases blocked
  • Number of test cases Re-executed.
  • Number of defects found
  • Number of defects accepted
  • Number of defects rejected
  • Number of defects deferred
  • Number of critical defects
  • Number of planned test hours
  • Number of actual test hours
  • Number of bugs found after shipping
  • Test case Execution time.

 Calculated Metric: Also known as indirect metric.

  •  Calculated metric is nothing but a conversion of Base metric data into more useful information.
  • Calculated metric is usually prepared by Test Leads.
  • It helps Test Lead to track the progress of project at different level or project as a whole

 

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Why IT Certifications Still Matter in 2017


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Article by XLC Team…

IT is a highly dynamic field and new technologies are introduced every single day. As the industry evolves, new types of tools, technologies and sets of certifications continue to crop up. Certifications are important to ensure that you are on top of these developments and that your skills are updated.

Because of various certifications, certification paths, specializations and providers out there, it is easy for someone new to IT to be confused about where to start.  Even people who are certified might be unsure of the next steps.

There has always been a debate about how important IT certifications really are. Some believe certifications prove that an IT professional is knowledgeable but may not prove how well they can actually do the job. However, certifications provide the knowledge needed to gain experience and validate skills to potential/current employers. And in the current economy, certifications are an increasingly important tool for building skill levels, improved marketability and career opportunities.

A certification isn’t just another bullet point in your resume. It’s a powerful validation of your knowledge and skills that 9 out of 10 hiring managers trust. Organizations increasingly view certifications as an indicator of the qualification of their applicants when looking for the right candidate to fill their open positions. In today’s job market, hiring managers use certifications to:

  • Assess the skills and knowledge of a candidate.
  • Save time and resources to evaluate candidates.
  • Confirm knowledge gains.
  • Support professional development.
  • Match the need of professional training.

Why should I get certified? What are various reasons to seek certification?

Certification demonstrates your dedication, motivation and technical knowledge on a specific platform. Once you earn an IT certification, you join a select group of individuals – a peer group with demonstrated skills. Having a certification shows that you not only possess comprehensive knowledge of that technology but you also care enough about your own career to spend the time and money to get certified. Remember: You are your own best career manager!

There are various reasons why you should seek out certification in a number of IT-related programs, software or skills, but three reasons are key:

  • Getting Hired: Having an IT certification will certainly give you an advantage when hiring managers look at your resume. Competition for IT jobs can be stiff, and having a certification is a significant advantage compared to those who do not have one. In fact, a certification can be a qualifier for a position. Keep in mind that when two otherwise equal candidates are vying for the same job, the one who has a certification will have the edge over the candidate that does not. A certification may do nothing more than get your resume a second look – which may be more than your competition gets.
  • Professional Credibility: IT certifications are testaments to your skills and proficiency in a certain area.  Having earned one (or more) certifications demonstrates your dedication and motivation to professional development. Many companies will actively support their employees in earning these certifications that may even lead to promotions and raises as well. For example, becoming a CSQA Certified Professional tells hiring managers, companies and clients that you have the experience and skills needed to effectively understand, analyze and test a software application.
  • Marketability: Certifications do more than just validate your skills and experience.  It also shows potential employers that you are committed to the IT field by spending the money and time to obtain your certifications. According to few CEO’s, the right certifications could mean anywhere from an 8 to 16 percent increase in your pay, so certifications are very important when it comes to compensation.
  • Current Trending Technologies: Earning a certification on a recently released operating system, tool, platform or application will demonstrate that you have achieved what few have done up to that point: become certified on a new product. Passing an exam for a recently released certification is challenging due to the lack of study material and advice available from other certified individuals. Earning an IT certification on a new product can make you the subject matter expert in your organization – putting you in a positive light for your early efforts.
  • Personal and Professional Development: Certification training can help you cover new areas while also reinforcing the skills you already have.  Certification can also help you to network with other IT professionals.  Your next job, project or endorsement could very well come from someone you met at a study group or technical conference related to a certain certification exam.  Certification can help you meet IT professionals who have similar interests and specialties as you.
  • Job Retention: In a volatile economic environment, businesses are always looking for ways to cut costs. That may mean jobs are on the line. This is when having an IT certification (or more) can mean the difference between keeping your job and having a chance to seek a new one. Earning a certification demonstrates that you are determined to enhance your skill set and knowledge – which benefits you and your employer. The bottom line is you must invest in yourself.
  • Salary Maintenance : Many companies, are asking employees to take salary cuts. With a certification, companies will be much more likely to pay you what you’re really worth. That way, if you’re forced to take a salary cut, you’ll be making what you should be making, so it’ll hurt a lot less.
  • Promotion Eligibility: New and timely certifications are the key to standing out in a heap of resumes and having a leg up on the competition. Want to move up the corporate ladder or into a better, higher-paying job in your company, then you will need to learn new technologies or enhance the skills you currently possess. There is no better way to show this than to earn a new certification or progress further up the certification chain in a current area of expertise.

What are various certification options?

There are a lot of answers to these questions, really.  It would all depend on what you need for your job, what your career goals are, and what you are interested in.

There are certain certifications that are appropriate for wherever you are at in your career.  For example, it may help new graduates land entry-level positions if they pursue basic certifications such as ISTQB, CSTE,  Microsoft Certified Professional, Sun Certified Java Programmer and Cisco’s CCNA, etc.

These certifications validate the skills they learned and can help make up for not having the right work experience for the job. In fact, no matter where you are in your IT career, certifications will almost always give you an edge over non-certified IT professionals.

Choosing your certification path depends on two things: Where you are now and where you want to go in your IT career, and what functions and work-related experience you have in your profession. Knowing these will help you wade through the numerous certification providers that offer different paths. You will also have to decide whether to go for vendor-neutral certifications or vendor-specific ones.

The certifications provided by the biggest certifications providers, are:

ASQ American society for quality , Scrum certifications, Tricentis Tosca certifications, IBM certifications, Six Sigma Certified Six Sigma Champion,International Institute for Software Testing , American society for quality Quality Improvement Associate , Project Management Professional , SSBB Six sigma black belt certification, ISEBQualification in software testing , Associate In General Insurance (AINS)ISTQB Certified tester , Mercury tools certificationsCSQA Certified software quality analyst , Segue tools certifications, JIRA Certifications

How to Prepare for a Certification Test

No matter which test you want to take, you will always need to prepare.  Here are some general tips on how to prepare for your certification exam:

  • Practice makes perfect.

Practice tests will help you tremendously in passing the test.  Working on practice tests can help you know which areas you need to brush up on, as well as making you familiar with the actual test.  You will be able to simulate just what it will be like to answer the test with the time limits, instructions and other variables that are present during the actual test.

  • Make sure to keep the time.

While doing practice tests, take note of the time you need to complete it.  You will need this in order to pace yourself so that you could complete a certification exam within the allotted time.  If, for instance, you take four hours to finish an exam that has an allotted time of 1.5 hours, then you might not be ready to take at all.

  • Study groups help.

Study groups are a great way to cover examination topics and battle the boredom that comes from studying alone.  Chances are, there are colleagues in your office who are studying for the same exams.  If not, then you can probably find a study group on Craigslist or online certification forums.

  1. Use different preparation methods.

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of ways to study for an exam.  You can get books, participate in an online forum, go through a formal classroom review, check out web-based training and talk to people who have taken the same tests.  Do not just rely on one preparation method because it might not be enough.

Whatever you do, please be sure to not depend totally on Brain dumps. How will a CSTE certification, for example, help you if you really do not know anything about application testing and testing practices?

  1. Make sure you are ready for the test.

This probably goes without saying, but if you have prepared and you still feel that you are not ready for the test, do not go through with it.  And when you do feel that you are ready, make sure that you get enough rest and sleep on the night before the exam.

Above all, you should have a clear understanding of what skills will be covered on the specific test you’ll be taking.

The main thing to keep in mind is that if your job requires certification on a specific tool or technology, or if gaining that certification will help your resume stand out, it’s smart to invest time and money to achieve it. This is the biggest reason why IT professionals pursue IT certifications.  It helps validate your skills and expertise in your current job.

Used properly, certifications make an excellent tool to boost your career progression. Certifications open doors into new employment opportunities and can put you ahead of peers when seeking promotions. Remember that certifications can improve your career and brighten your future. They may be time-consuming and difficult to earn, but you’ll find the end results well worth the time, effort, and money involved.

Go ahead, put your certificate on your wall or add those letters after your name!

Aim high and good luck!

 

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Posted by on January 2, 2017 in Technical

 

Need for Testing Center of Excellence(TCoE)


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Testing Center of Excellence (TCoE) is a framework where testing is maintained as a centralized service and shared across the organization. Regardless of a company’s experience, the objective is the same – build technical expertise in the platform, often referred to as a center of excellence. Every organization across the globe wishes to have a team that nurtures an environment of innovation, thereby helping it to thrive in the market and beat the competition. However, while earlier managing business processes and QA used to be on a per project basis, today, these have become a process of continuous planning, integration, and management. This has led to the development of an organizational model based on testing center of excellence (TCoE).T1

A TCoE is made up of testing processes, people, tools operating as a shared services function in order to provide testing services with optimal benefits across the test organization. TCoEs can accrue many benefits to an organization in terms of improved quality, lesser time to market and lower cost of ownership.

WHAT IS A CENTER OF EXCELLENCE (COE)?

A Center of Excellence (CoE) is a team of people that are knowledgeable, promote, share and collaborate on a specific technical focus area. They follow best practice, and are passionate about the chosen technology. They focus on utilizing the technology to achieve the business objectives efficiently and effectively. Ideally, and depending on the business needs, a CoE should be made up of several professional disciplines, either as full-time or part-time members.

A QA Center of Excellence provides your teams with a set of standard, yet smartly flexible, processes and templates for use across all of your IT projects. The processes and templates established by the Center of Excellence can be used for both in-house custom-developed applications as well as vendor-owned COTS (commercial off-the-shelf) systems. Most companies utilize a nice mixture of both.

Why move to TCoE model?

Traditional “siloed test teams” are distributed across multiple business units (or) groups and they are governed by different managers. Because of this organizational design, test teams cannot ensure testing consistency across the organization as they are controlled by managers who have their own priorities and political realities about the importance and budget allocation for testing. This led to massive inefficiencies across the organization in terms of costs, reusing best practices, quality of testing, effective utilization of teams, hardware & software.

t.jpgA testing centre of excellence solves this problem by the centralization of all test assets (people, hardware infrastructure, software licenses, process assets) across the organization and offering “testing” as a shared service across multiple lines of business units (or) groups. Collapsing multiple test groups into a centralized testing group will lead to better efficiencies due to economies of scale & optimization. Testing Centres of Excellence (TCoE) framework ties all the strategic assets of the testing such as people, process, hardware & tools which are held together through enablers and a robust governance model. Transformation of a “siloed testing organization” to a “TCoE based testing organization”.

HOW TO implement TCoE?

  1. Get an approval and agreement from all stake holders of the organization stating the need to establish a TCoE, and ensure that the multiple teams have clarity regarding the changes that will result due to implementation of TCoE.
  2. Analyze the current business processes, gauge the improvements that need to be made, and define clear processes and templates for the SDLC and STLC workflows that need to be implemented to bring about the required changes. Additionally, also reach a consensus regarding the intervals at which checks will be conducted to see if the processes are being followed.
  3. Identify what needs to be tested across the board quickly, and share observations and metrics that help add required value.T2
  4. Implement required best practices using well researched and scenario-specific tools that will speed up the process and help teams focus on other important activities.
  5. Keep working on the improvements so as to generate better ROI and establish an atmosphere of quality across the board.

WHAT VALUE SHOULD A COE PROVIDE TO YOUR BUSINESS?

A testing center of excellence (TCoE) is a framework where testing is maintained as a centralized service and shared across the organization. A well-oiled CoE should provide many valuable benefits to your business. To name but a few:

  1. Guidance & Training By sharing their expertise with everyone else in the business, from new recruits to non-technical business users, everyone can benefit from increased understanding.
  2. Best Practices The team should be promoting the right way to do things across the business, both technically and from a process perspective.
  3. News Updates on what’s new with the platform (and it’s competitors), important public announcements and any business-impacting items, such as bugs and support holidays.
  4. Championing & Advice New business streams often need advice and/or encouragement when considering a platform change. Streamlining a business onto common platforms has obvious benefits, but can often face resistance from less forward-thinking departments.
  5. Governance Provide the guidance and have the autonomy to freely advise the business on the right way to invest time, money and resources to ensure results. They are the experts you’ve invested in, so listen to their advice!

Conclusion

Many enterprises have established testing centres of excellence to improve the release quality of the applications (or) products in production environment, deliver better business value to the internal customers of testing, improve the overall maturity of testing & optimize the testing costs across the enterprise. Unless the promised benefits are measured against the actual delivered benefits, the CIO/Head of Testing will not be able to demonstrate the effectiveness of the TCoE. This framework can help the IT leadership in an enterprise to measure, showcase and in some cases figure out what needs to be done to really deliver the intended benefits of a testing center of excellence.

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Posted by on December 29, 2016 in Technical

 

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Your Team is What &Who You Are


Each minute of our life is a lesson but most of us fail to read it. I thought I would just add my daily lessons & the lessons that I learned by seeing the people around here. So it may be useful for you and as memories for me.

Leadership is lonely. No matter how big your team, sometimes it’s just you–which means you sometimes need to look inside yourself for motivation and inspiration.

An article by the PraWINS Team……..

There are times in your professional environment when you need to support and fight for your team. As a leader, it’s your job to support your team members, so they can get their respect, protect their rights and get their job done at workplace. Today, I would like to speak about my Lead/Manager more than all he’s loving friend “Mayank Shah” who is so FullSizeRender.jpgInspiring and Motivating with his ideas, behavior, way he foresees the things, moves and Personality. His words brings the change in environment and inspires team. Mayank, is such a person who takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little less than his share of the credit. All the time he displays courage and goes to bat for the people by sending a message that Teams success and achievement is his priority. He wins both respect and loyalty of the team members. He believes in one thing “When the team succeeds, so do you.”

Here are few traits of Mayank that i would like to share. He’s a Good Person, Lead, Manager who’s respected by everyone in the team and organization.

Empowering. He Inspires, motivates and make the associates feel emboldened and powerful, not diminished and powerless.

Care. He doesn’t care about project alone, but about the people in it and the people impacted by it. He also makes it visible that, he care through his words and actions. Care shouldn’t be a four-letter word in our workplace today — and the best leaders know it.

Supportive. He foster a positive environment that allows team to flourish. He provides constructive feedback to make team energized and deliver better results. He’s so supportive professionally and personally.

Powerful. “Power isn’t control at all–power is strength, and giving that strength to others. A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others that they may have the strength to stand on their own.”

Passion. Whatever it is, he’s so passionate for what he’s doing. He believes in “Live, breathe, eat and sleep your mission.”

Respect. Not playing favorites with people and treating all people — no matter what station in life, what class or what rank in the org chart — the same.

Collaborative. He have a nature to solicit input and feedback from those around him so that everyone feels part of the process.

Communicative. He’s very open to suggestions and ideas. He share the vision or strategy often with those around him.

Fearlessness. He’s not afraid to take risks or make mistakes.  He helps team to learn the mistakes and the outcomes.True leaders make mistakes born from risk.

Confidence. He’s so confident on the things which he know. He’s rock solid in thoughts and the way to implement them. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will.

Clarity. The only way you can get confidence is by becoming really, really clear about who you are and what is most important to you. New leaders fail when they try to become all things to all people, or try to do too much out of their area of excellence. Clarity helps you say “yes” to the right things — and “no” to others.

2016-11-21-PHOTO-00000188.jpgYet interestingly, in my work environment, people who don’t own this mindset get promoted into leadership positions every day, and it’s quite possible that you’ve encountered or heard about such types in your career. These are those stereotypical sorts of leaders who care more about winning the political favor of their superiors than the respect of the people they’re assigned to lead. Self-serving and ego centric, these types of leaders quickly offend and fail to earn the trust of their people, making enemies rather than supporters of their teammates. There are many Leads/Managers, who could always throw team to the wolves. But there are a lot of managers out there who seem to think that’s the clever option, the right choice. What do you think? I’ve worked for and with some, and believe me they quickly lose staff.

Meanwhile, sometimes leaders don’t fight for their teams because they don’t like conflict or understand how critical the team support is to the company’s ultimate survival and success. Their leadership style may be immature, weak, naive, out-of-touch, disengaged — or any combination thereof. In such cases, there is always hope for growth and improvement, but revolutionary change is undoubtedly required. The problem here is that change of this magnitude can take a long time and in today’s world, few have the patience for that!

The very opposite of these two types of leaders are the disciplined, fearless and balanced ones — and you probably know some of these, too. They’re the ones who have built rock-solid trust with their direct reports and created loyalty and alignment within the culture. When times get tough, everyone knows these courageous, tenacious types have “got their backs.” Team members feel secure and safe.

These leaders, who aren’t afraid of outcomes are ready to fight for rights the team. They have talent, knows the value of team, understand the problems, have skill, grace and a lot of common sense. They know when and how to pick their battles. Instead of fighting each and every issue, they take a disciplined approach in standing up for what’s important and are more likely to win. They’re also calculated and balanced — these great leaders get the facts before they react to potential or current threats and are skilled in presenting their case in a clear, non-emotional and logical manner. They focus on the “Vital Few,” primarily defending whatever is aligned to those critical measures of a company’s goals and controls. Why? Because these types of leaders truly understand that without their team members’ respect and support, neither the team nor its leader can function, much less win.

Your team is what you are and who you are. Without your team and that can be one lone person or tens of people—you are nothing. Without your team you are an empty page waiting to be written or typed. You must support your team, praise it, fight for it, to the death if need be. The brilliant manager—we don’t need to say who that is by now, do we?—generates loyalty and respect by being the team cheerleader—that’s you, that is.

You have to make people on your team see that you are not only their mentor, leader, guardian, and protector but also their champion, their hero, their defender. If anyone tries to hamper the team or their spirit by criticizing them, you will rise to their defense. If anyone tries to take advantage of them, you will rush to protect them. If your team needs you, you should be there all-time. If your team has seen you defend them once, they will know they can trust you to have their best interests at heart. That if something unfair is being imposed on them, you will stand up for them. This also means that if you accept something, they are likely to accept it, too—which makes for a smoother life all around.

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Posted by on November 22, 2016 in Experiences of Life., Work Place

 

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